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Just perfect...Crying Moments.

Written by Toodecent from the blog The U Turn on 10 Feb 2009
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Ok this is it neh…I haven’t really been much of a writer lately except when of course doing a TV thing …I mean articles. Well this dude hasn’t been in a good state at all lately that he even had to ditch some cool parties nje..but lucky as I am I am surrounded by caring beautiful people. Tjeer I love all those people, well as I was saying the last time I wrote it was when I had to confess…on some notebook confessing not meaning that I was telling people what I had done but actually letting the inner soul tell me what exactly it is that I am, think and do even though in most cases I would find myself not willing to agree that yes I do that. And believe me I just found myself typing this and thinking ok lets see how far it gets…
There were days I would ask myself why I haven’t cried all these years? Damn I have been through thick and thin…on a rollercoaster so as to say and when looking back am thinking I never recall myself crying. I lost 2 very important people in my life and still I never cried, I have been screwed so many times and still I never cried if ever there is something called internal tears then yeah I was probably on those…

Then it hit me hard and asked the ever complaining friend of mine what he think will make a guy cry and this was his response.
....Guys will cry if girls screw them over, they got hit in the balls or they are about to die or even because they are true men. ....
All this ish got me thinking of what exactly my friend meant, ok I was screwed over 1nce and hey I nearly cried,have been hit on them balls before but never cried or maybe I wasn’t hit hard enough heaven knows. Does silence kill? Then am dead man walking…

Fast forward a gal- friend was heart broken recently and she spent most time crying than celebrating the end of yet another journey which was good while it lasted. No…she cried cause she thought was screwed… I had to ask again what really would make a girl to cry....This is what I got :.....
She is sad….Scared…missing someone….pregnat……PMSing….Heart broken…in love…..souls have been torn…..met a boy they can’t have or just because they feel like crying…..
Now that’s a lot of crying right there…and oh my word we approaching a day I think people overreact over nje..the V day. I just hope there won’t be too much crying…

I was thinking what exactly makes me cry and after a while I figured it out gore I only cry when I am HAPPY…unless am faking it.Damn..

People when do you ever cry? Actually what makes guys and gals to cry? .... Just for fun I have head that there are moments....

Eish poor dude is right next to heaven and he missed....I just hope he aint crying..........

80 Comments

Dimago
10 Feb 2009 12:21

I cry when i am sad. My last cry was last year when i broke up with my then BF for good. Fortunately have not cried this year and i hope to keep it that way.

ms.tebby
10 Feb 2009 12:29

i cry when im realy really upset & when im sad...i dont remember crying for losing someone due to death..not even my sister who died i never cried..i see people at funerals crying, no matter how hard I try to force myself to cry, it just doesnt come.

Dimago
10 Feb 2009 12:31

Great article tdc. I also cry when i'm angry, just to release the emotions.

KeleFabulous
10 Feb 2009 12:34

tdc you should let those tears flow, it's an incredible release i promise you.
the last time i cried was a few weeks back after i broke up with an ex. i was feeling wretched and couldn't even get out of bed. i called a friend over and just cried on her shoulder all day. cryind DOES make you feel better.

do you really cry when you're happy, tdc?

Toodecent
10 Feb 2009 12:40

Thanks Dimago...
do you really cry when you're happy, tdc?>>> Yeah..I know it may sound stupuid but it happens.. ehehehe

TheLady
10 Feb 2009 12:43

I cried on Friday-when I realised that I really have lost my baby-ok I was a couple of weeks preggies and didn't know-but when I learnt that I was actually pregnant and no longer I cried like a baby.

I also cry when I am really angry or just sad.

Best-Achiever
10 Feb 2009 12:44

back in the day...i was concidered the strongest amongst my sibblings because i was the least to cry, when i cry everybody would get worried. But things changed, i dont know how and why but now..i cry for just about anything .... when im hurt, emotional, saluted/praised for good deed, when i feel helpless, lost someone and when i get something i didnt expect whether good/bad. .... if there was any medal for tears i'll be the proud gold medal owner, now.

awelani
10 Feb 2009 12:55

I cry when um hurt - last week i cried coz sum woman named her child after me, um still alive and she didnt even ask for my permission, but um getting over it now,lol..I cry when um REALLY happy. and after reaching mount kili(sometimes),lol

Serenity
10 Feb 2009 12:57

People when do you ever cry? Actually what makes guys and gals to cry?

Eish mina im very sensitive kind of person, I cry very easily especially when really really furious/mad/angry/emotional and sad. I agree with you KeleFab, it does give an incredible release...alwayz feel betta afterwhat ;-)

Do guys really cry? Never seen one!!!

myname
10 Feb 2009 12:58

I cry a lot especially when im watching movies or TV precisely. It doesnt matter whether its romantic or what but i always cry. But some1 told me that Leo's are almost like that

Toodecent
10 Feb 2009 13:21

LOL myname......

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 13:30

Eish mina im very sensitive kind of person, I cry very easily especially when really really furious/mad/angry/emotional and sad.

Mee too.
Apparently all Taurus are amost like that.

Mabuu
10 Feb 2009 13:32

I cry when i'm sad and lost a beloved. Last year i was crying like everytime i'm alone, my ex was hurting me over and over again and i couldn't get over him. Tjeer i felt so helpless mann!

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 13:32

Apparently all Taurus are almost like that.

ms.tebby
10 Feb 2009 13:33

.....last week i cried coz sum woman named her child after me, um still alive and she didnt even ask for my permission, but um getting over it now >>>>> kwa kwa kwa kwaaaa! hayi, e-e!

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 13:39

last week i cried coz sum woman named her child after me, um still alive and she didnt even ask for my permission, but um getting over it now,lol..

Yah right...!!!
Awelani is that you???

Dimago
10 Feb 2009 13:39

I cry when um REALLY happy. and after reaching mount kili(sometimes),lol
LMAO Awe...so if u don't cry your man gets worried...

awelani
10 Feb 2009 13:49

Yes Tazzy, its me, LOL

@ dima, he wud ask me if um happy non-stop, so when i cry, he loves it, LOL,,,,

GML
10 Feb 2009 13:51

I never used to cry until I med my man. He is so good to me and he just does things that I thought black men dont do. He softened me up and now I cry when he looks at me in that special way and when he tells me he loves me. EH soaked me in sta'soft

i never cry when I'm angry. I normally take off my heels and throw it at the person. But more often than I yell at the top of my voice and make that person feel like they shouldnt have.

GML
10 Feb 2009 13:53

Awe: Same here. I start crying immediately when I reach peak moment and he just holds me adn squeezes tight. Then we cuddle while i sob on his shoulder...

sjura
10 Feb 2009 13:53

i used to be a "taf kokie" as my friends wud col me...but after i had my baby gal, i jst cry over stupid things,,,,or jst for the fun of it sumtyms.....jst lyk now m crying and i dnt knw why.

and iv seen a guy cry ma ex bf used to cry almost evry night, id wake up in the middle of the night ekhala..........you knw why? bcz ethi uyandithanda and he doesnt ever wana loose me, but asisajoli manje...shame poor guy i wanda ukhalela bani ke ngoku..

Dimago
10 Feb 2009 13:55

Awe: Same here. I start crying immediately when I reach peak moment and he just holds me adn squeezes tight. Then we cuddle while i sob on his shoulder...
you gals bathong...is it intentional or does it just happen?

Segololo
10 Feb 2009 13:58

I want to know too, Dimago

ms.tebby
10 Feb 2009 13:59

kwa kwa kwaaa! hey, e-e!

I mean check these...

<<<EH soaked me in sta'soft >>>
<<<........jst lyk now m crying and i dnt knw why....shame poor guy i wanda ukhalela bani ke ngoku >>>
<<<Apparently all Taurus are almost like that>>>> hayi hayi, e-e! thank God im Arien!!

Cande
10 Feb 2009 13:59

I belive crying heals, i cry when i am hurt, in pain, see poverty e.t.c..last time i did was sunday.. I NEVER cry when am happy so i do not understnad tears of joy

myname
10 Feb 2009 14:05

LOL Sjura shame poor guy i wanda ukhalela bani ke ngoku..probably his gf futhi

awelani
10 Feb 2009 14:05

you gals bathong...is it intentional or does it just happen? with me it just happens, if i had a GOOD journey getting to mount kili, if it was just a short walk to freedom, then i dont cry, will get there, but wont cry..,,

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 14:06

<<<Apparently all Taurus are almost like that>>>> hayi hayi, e-e! thank God im Arien!!

@Ms T
Its a thruth galfriend. BTW please check ur PMs

awelani
10 Feb 2009 14:07

LMAOb @ sjura's softy bf

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 14:07

if i had a GOOD journey getting to mount kili

mount kili???

cleve
10 Feb 2009 14:09

I only cried tears of joy once when my hubby gave me a prezzy for our first anniversary.

Other than that I used to cry a lot. I cried for everything, being hurt and sad. But now I don't cry no more, I just keep to myself and take it like a WOMAN. Anything and everything used to make me cry, especially if my hubby hurts me. I really felt weak everytime I cried.

Toodecent
10 Feb 2009 14:10

Tazzy she means an orgasm.... matepe fela.

Cody
10 Feb 2009 14:13

ROTF Awe kwa kwa kwa!!!!!!! you strange woman! i can just imagine you sobbing after the climax and going haaaa.........haaa.......haaa.... nna if i were your man, i would be thinking hore maybe i've hurt you or something!!!!

nice
10 Feb 2009 14:14

I never cry when am happy so i do not understnad tears of joy

I hated it when my friends would just cry for "nothing" as wheneve I cry I feel tired afterwards and I did not get the soothing effect, unless being tired was a desired effect to be able to sleep it off.

But off lately things have changed and I cry a lot for no reason, but one thing I dont see myself crying for is a man, hell if the dude wants to go let him be and I wont waste my salts and water.

and men should also learn to cry, it keeps one's eyes clean!!

babetm
10 Feb 2009 14:17

@tdc,thanx this is a good one

People when do you ever cry?
i cry when im hurt, angry,when i archieve something excellent, when i get answers for my prayers, when im too excited, when i lose someone i love,when anybody cry, this is the reason i dont want to go to the funerals bcos i used to cry at each and every funeral, even now i feel like crying

but after crying i feel much better

.
@Thelady- Im so sorry for ur loss

awelani
10 Feb 2009 14:18

LOL @ cody,,,

Cody
10 Feb 2009 14:19

Tears of joy are a bit hard on me shame, but yes i can fake them quite well, my ex once bought me a watch for my birthday, when i asked him what it was, he said, you will just have to wait and see it, but just know that you are going to cry the way o tla be o thabileng ka teng, after opening the prezzie,i thot cummon cody you cant dissapoint the guy i just had to cry and fake the shaking. lol

DJ Why why
10 Feb 2009 14:23

I cry a lot especially when im watching movies or TV precisely. It doesnt matter whether its romantic or what but i always cry. But some1 told me that Leo's are almost like that....

Now, that explains my never ending flood, cartoon movies, sad dramas, romantic comedies..mhm ,.... i will surely cry!

Last year after a break up wif X, i cried after work for sraight two weeks ... I used to cry myself to sleep, phones off and door locked!

I cried until my pillows were really wet....nc nc nc... I did nt even realise the work people noticed the puffy eyes. nx laa mfana.....

ms.tebby
10 Feb 2009 14:24

<<<....and I wont waste my salts and water>>>kwa kwa kwaaa! nice, e-e! today im just laughing, TDC ha mmereko wame o ka senyega, o tla mpha something international

Toodecent
10 Feb 2009 14:32

ms.tebby its only takes a tdc original to get you in trouble Lol... otlo maketa mo tvsa there is a new sister side coming plus.

blueroze
10 Feb 2009 14:33

i cry all the time, when i'm watching tv, movie, when someone says something hurtful, when i love someone, when i part with my BF when he returns Germany, when i miss him....
i just cry nje....
it is good to let it all out...
yesterday i cried when mamokete fell cause i understood why......
i'm wi[ping a tear off my face because i'm going through so many emotions

i even have a silen cry and internal tear but it never last...tears just roll.......

TheLady
10 Feb 2009 14:34

triple kwa's Cody for faking tears of joy-I can just imagine "eish I have to cry for a darn watch now, here goes nothing" *sob, sob* 'baby you are the best'

Me and my man cry together-usually when he apologises..well it happened twice and I thought it was special, until x gf said he does that when he's wronged...damn if he does it again I won't even offer him a shoulder-nx.

what aka mathata
10 Feb 2009 14:42

Mabuu
10 Feb 2009 14:42

@ TL Me and my man cry together-usually when he apologises, until x gf said he does that when he's wronged. hahaha you thought it was special

babetm
10 Feb 2009 14:44

you gals bathong...is it intentional or does it just happen? with me it just happens, if i had a GOOD journey getting to mount kili, if it was just a short walk to freedom, then i dont cry, will get there, but wont cry..,,

@AWELANI ROFLMAO, KWA KWA KWA..........................U just killed me .yho that moment is like, i dont know how to describe it

blueroze
10 Feb 2009 14:46

i want a man who can cry and we cry together but mine is a softie who i have never seen cry.

Tshd21
10 Feb 2009 14:54

So, all you ladies who cry when you reach Mount Kili, do you also cry when faking it??

Lady.....am I 'reading' you incorrectly or did you just have a miscarriage?? If you did, gal I'm so sori! :(

Tshd21
10 Feb 2009 14:58

I cry when I'm angry or sad.

TerryN
10 Feb 2009 15:09

>>if i had a GOOD journey getting to mount kili
mount kili???
>>Tazzy she means an orgasm.... matepe fela>>

>>ROTF Awe kwa kwa kwa!!!!!!! you strange woman! i can just imagine you sobbing after the climax and going haaaa.........haaa.......haaa.... nna>>

ROFLOL...Awelani ma luv...u r so funny!!

Foxy gal
10 Feb 2009 15:09

I cry when i'm sad but i cry mostly when i'm watching tv, Oprah (it cud be happy /sad moments), Dramas ,Movies anything I just cry......and i love it sometimes

But i cannot forget how i cried when i had a miscarriage.....
@Lady sori for your loss......cry it all out gal u'll be fine.....just give it tym.

blueroze
10 Feb 2009 15:19

TL im sorry for your loss....God will see you through :(

TheLady
10 Feb 2009 15:37

Thanx guys-am a tough cookie, I'll be ok.

"in jesus name im crying" hayi mathata-

Dimago
10 Feb 2009 15:46

in jesus name im crying
LOL

Beyonce
10 Feb 2009 15:48

I cried last night when I watched Jhud's perfomance (grammy's). twas too emotional man!

Renegade
10 Feb 2009 15:59

Tsho, you guys really have tears latseba...hehe.

Nna I cry at funerals,which is why i avoid them as much as i can. I cry when I'm really hurting, and that's not too often, so on average, I probably cry 3 or 4 times a year.

Mara I feel abnormal, tjerr, people cry jong!

ms.tebby
10 Feb 2009 16:16

ok,ok! im sorry TDC, this is a bit off...it made me laugh until I cried, im still crying now ,well maybe im laughing at the air & crying over nothing :

this guy im sitting next to right now is trying to charm a girl he just met & they are talking on the phone. he goes on & on whispering on the mouth piece and then suddenly i hear him say, "ke motho wa rubber, i believe on the rubber 100% , even right now i am playing with the rubber band as I speak to you"... ..kwa kwa kwa kwa kwaaaaaaazzzzz!!!

I mean to look at him & see he is actually playing with a rubber band in his hand, add that to the fact that he is trying to charm a girl by telling her he is addicted to rubber(condoms!) hayi hayi, e-e!

Lessie
10 Feb 2009 17:07

Askies TL

I cried most of the weekend because the baby I am carrying is in danger. This brought memories of how I got miscarriage on the 31st of Dec 07. My HIV brother was extremely sick on Sat. Generally I do not like crying bcoz it gives me a hell of a head ache. I still am treating it and can't even take a panado for it

Cande
10 Feb 2009 17:38

i cry when im happy or see someone i love(give that person big hug) or if i see someone in pain.

the main thing that makes me cry my NEPHEW,i love him like my son,but guess what?im fighting a loosing battle,he doesn't get it.

i love him,i want to protect him,but they always says blood is thicker than water,im just a water.

this just kills me inside,i cant accept that im not his mother,but one day this will come to an end,but is not easy for me.

in jesus name im crying

Mathata are you still not sorted? i realised how much you love that child but what they doing to you is NOT on, i think you need to let go off him and let his parents take responsibility..
am crying with you gal

FLYINGBIRD
10 Feb 2009 21:00

I'm also not a cry baby. But I usually cry when I'm very angry, and I always advice pple not push me to that far coz the decision I would take after my tears would be very nasty

Sam2say
10 Feb 2009 21:20

Well with me I dont know what happened neh!! I grew up a tom boy and nver really cried for anything, now that I am 20 something, I don't know what happened, but I just find myself crying a LOT, ha ke le happy teng, ke ba worse....

I also cry when I am missing my late sister or remenising about my high school days, friend, yep, they are that special, funny and all so when I miss all of them I cry.

I no longer cry at funerals, I dont know what happened there, mara good for me.

AND my other special cry, was when my EX and I would making love, i would find tears rolling down my face non stop, I t was so special you know, he would ask me why I am crying and I would tell him (getting all scientific) that I just feel as though his love is being transmitted inside me whenever we make love, almost like 2 water drops coming together, being ONE and cant really separate one from the other. YEP that deep neh mmhhh, mara he has since been my EX

sjura
11 Feb 2009 10:29

AND my other special cry, was when my EX and I would making love, i would find tears rolling down my face non stop, I t was so special you know, he would ask me why I am crying and I would tell him (getting all scientific) that I just feel as though his love is being transmitted inside me whenever we make love, almost like 2 water drops coming together, being ONE and cant really separate one from the other. YEP that deep neh mmhhh, mara he has since been my

ncoooo!! this is shweet S2S........ukhalisa mna ke ngoku......

Pooky
11 Feb 2009 10:38

i'm crying coz my man is going overseas friday for a year, maybe more....

Sam2say
11 Feb 2009 10:45

SSSSSSSSHo Pooky, Im crying for you now, shame man...

ms.tebby
11 Feb 2009 10:49

aaaa, Pooky, im crying for you now, hi hi hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, why did u have to write it here?

GML
11 Feb 2009 10:50

@Dimago: I sometimes dont cry. Awe is right it sometimes feels like the peak was a waste when it's short. But when it's long and very strong I cry like a baby.

I prefer reaching mount Kili when the journey is long

Pooky
11 Feb 2009 10:57

Tebby i havent read the article but i know its more or less got to do with crying....and i'm very emotional and crying my foundation off at the moment.....so it relates in a way lol

Best-Achiever
11 Feb 2009 11:30

Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime and falling in at night , since you left my heart is a ceaseless sermon of loneliness.. I miss you so much it hurts. yeah that's my crying moment there .... oh i miss this dude

andi01
11 Feb 2009 11:57

The last time I cried was 5 years ago when I went to the bush (circumssion school) and they cut my shombolozi.

Zazacious
11 Feb 2009 12:01

Nna Im a cry baby,I am way too sensitive.If I see someone cry I cry with. Its so embarrassing sometimes: Like one time I went to a funeral of sum1 i had neva met(the person used to go to the same church as me but stopd)Point is I ddnt know her and was I crying as if I had known her all my life?? Im sure the family was like who is this chick okhala kangaka lol. But I cry when things are not going my way.Or I jst cry jst cz I feel like it. Khethiwe must come to me for tips

andi01
11 Feb 2009 12:26

@Lady- I am sorry girl, u dont need to be strong girl, just trust in the Lord, he will strengthen you. ("Isaiah 41:10 Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.) Talk to him and say (Psalms 119:28 My soul is weary with sorrow: strengthen me according to your word) He loves u man, and will never forsake you.

I have 2 kinds of cry, the good one and the bad one

The Good one
I cry when TDC writes gr8 articles, which is all the time.
The joy I have inside when the blockers block peacefully, makes me cry
When I get something nice, like a pay raise, kanje

The bad one
When some1 hurts me, and i hate this cry, coz that person, always end up crying more than I have cried.

tshepiso
11 Feb 2009 13:07

I cry only when I urgue with one of my sisters and my mom take sides. actually I hate it and I don't have the gurts to tell her.

As BigMama said I am as hard as a railway iron I never cried when someone is dead or when I have to break up with my boyfriends.

Toodecent
11 Feb 2009 13:25

Batho bame....Good Day.

ms.tebby
11 Feb 2009 13:35

Morena....(bowing heads @ seeing TDC)

Toodecent
11 Feb 2009 13:40

LMAO...u remind me of Carino.

ms.tebby
11 Feb 2009 16:13

tell me more TDC...I bake you pliz

Toodecent
11 Feb 2009 16:20

The Morena wame....kgosi yame thing used to come from the user.

ms.tebby
11 Feb 2009 16:28

ha ha ha!! ooh, ok!

Msoe
13 Feb 2009 15:55

I cry when im hurt and when i feel the world is not being fair to me. I cry when i lose something that I thought was there but find out it was all in my imagination. I dont cry when I'm happy i dont know why. I cry when I i miss my late dad or when Im watching tylre perry's movies which have massages that brings tears to one's eyes.

zozoe
22 May 2009 10:57

i cry whe happy
I cry when watching Khumbule'khaya or if somebody is also crying of if someone is telling me their family situations

i have realised gore most of FAMILY ISSUES makes me cry

one thing i dont cry for a guy no matter what he done i just let them fotsek hantle

Katlegom
19 Aug 2009 08:39

i only cry when a family member(siblings/ parents) pass away

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