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Please leave me and my weaves alone...

Written by immaculate from the blog Freshly squeezed on 12 Sep 2007
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I am not usually one for writing, but I just had to vent. I was in a taxi this morning, minding my own business, well I was actually admiring my well manicured nails, and playing with my ~~FAKE~~ hair.
Two ladies and some guy sitting right at the backseat talking about me(yes me)_gaaad they weren’t even ashamed!
The conversation was like…<<sies black women! look at her, fake nails(my nails are so real guys it hurts), fake hair (my extentions), black suit, high heel shoes, laptop bag, blah blah blah but she is still riding on a taxi (Oooops...that really hurt, but then again why was she in a taxi)>>. The other one went like_<<look at her, she probably spends all her money on clothing_the guy said, <<there’s nothing I hate more than a woman who is embarrassed by her culture. (My Gaaaaaad...me embarassed?? i'm pedi and too proud LOL) Why won’t these women shave their hair, or just relax it, or plait it, or maybe leave it Afro, or dreadlocks?? >>Shoooo Batho ba batsho!!!
I dont like dreads on me(me love me some dreadlocked guy)...must i be victimised? Must i be subject to this kind of prejudice simply because i don't like afro??? hell no!
I slowly turned my head towards their direction and I made them aware that I can hear them, and by that time I was starting to get seriously annoyed. Unfortunately, the minute I got gatvol, jst when I was about to say something_it was the time for me to do the “shot left”, damn!
I refuse to be called fake because I decided to look pretty. I love my weave, and I love my hair extension and u know whay, I aint taking it off just because u say it makes me look unafrican. What’s unafrican? I wear a weave to look good, and I aint trying to be nobody. I aint trying to be white. All i want is to be beautiful!
The Tyra Banks, the Gabrielle Union, the who's who wear all kinds of weaves_and it certainly doensnt take away their
blackness!!
beauty of moriri

How can I forget the late Lebo with her wild hair drama. She was ever looking glamorous with her Red, White, Black, Purple hair! She still kept it real! ever so stylish

I will have my rope thick plaits because I feel comfortable with it, not because it makes me look African. I am so African and i don't need to prove myself to anybody!
straight-back bathong

I will wear my make-up(not that even i know how to apply it) and conceal all that has to be concealed, not because I want to be a model, but simply because I can, and I owe it to myself to look good...at all times.
I will do my manicures and pedicures...because i can afford it.
I will wear my leggings, to conceal my silver stripes(hi hi hi)...~~they can box me if they can!!!~~
In actual fact, this goes to prove a point that blaq women are very open minded, so capable of acclamatizing to anything. We can go all wild and still keep it real!
Have u ever seen an Indian wearing a zulu outfit to a function? How many times have u seen blaq women wearing surreys(spell check please) to the weddings? Thank u.
Would that mean they want to be Indian? Of course not. They are just fabulous...It's not our fault God made us fabulous!

Qick survey
1. What makes us, us?
2. Must we always have to put on our traditional outfits to prove our love for our cultures?
3. This month is declared as a heritage month, what are yalls doing about it?

So, please leave me and my weaves alone!

Source of pics: 2hairstyles.com

160 Comments

pat
12 Sep 2007 04:29

nice 1... still reading thou!!

Dimago
12 Sep 2007 04:29

Thats what i call "black on black violence"

Ke mona fela wena Immaculate....like India Arie says "I am not my hair, I am not this skin, i am a soul that lives within". So don't let them haters get to you, keep rocking your weave...

Package
12 Sep 2007 04:41

Unfortunately, the minute I got gatvol, jst when I was about to say something_it was the time for me to do the “shot left”, damn!

@ Imma.... Ha... i think u chickened out...

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 04:45

Dimago...ammo keep rocking that damn bloody weave thank u for the love.

Package...u mean i was saved by the bell???

Package
12 Sep 2007 04:50

@Imma... yeah........something like that...

pat
12 Sep 2007 04:51

I also think its jelousy...I love make up... does that make me look unafrican? hell no!!! the best thing is to do whatever ur comfortable with, ppl will always have something to say anyway!!!

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 04:52

Personally, I dont like weaves, never wore one. But I relax my own hair, so it can be manageable and easy to manage.

I really like REAL hair, whether its worn as an Afro, or plaited, or relaxed. Some people think my own hair is a weave, and I view that as a diss actually, but whatever...

I really dont like the idea of buying hair (especially HUMAN hair), and attaching it on one's head. Who's hair IS that?

Annonymous
12 Sep 2007 04:55

Nice one Imma, I will comment now now.........

mayo
12 Sep 2007 04:57

well imma u know this happened to me izolo @ shoprite of all places!! there i was standing in the queue with one of my Coloured(oops) colleagues and we are busy chatting,,, like u too i have long hair than most blacks do!! FAKE HAIR!!
but luckily for me i am light skinned so they really could not make if i was black or a person of colour!!! These old ladies went on about the apartheid error and how
some black people changed!!! and thought i was one of them,, remember HOME AFFAIRS!!! i turned around to look at them but no they went on as they thought i could not hear them

I so much wanted to respond but coz they were old I could not!!!

SO I DO FEEL U SISTER!!! AS THIS HAPPENS ALOT TO ME!!! AND LOOKING AT SOME PEOPLE'S FACES WHEN I RESPOND IN XHOSA!!! ITS QUITE FUNNY!!

Suzilicious
12 Sep 2007 04:59

really dont like the idea of buying hair (especially HUMAN hair), and attaching it on one's head. Who's hair IS that? - LOL @ XC, they say its not hair, but a donkey's tale.ROTFL!!!

belz
12 Sep 2007 05:01

Well said Dimags i wanted to sing that song to her as well. Imma, they are just jealous bustards wena chomzah!!! culture is inside you!

presha
12 Sep 2007 05:06

Yeah, fake hair does'nt do it 4 me, especially in colours that are not the same as natural hair colour, no offence but fake hair makes some ppl look like hoochies.
Oh and I HATE Quens hair from gen, its hideous.

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 05:06

Suzi: Donkey's hair? Eeeeuw. But there are some HUMAN HAIR extentions that are sold too. The expensive kind.

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 05:09

As TLC sang : " You can buy your hair if it wont grow..."

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 05:11

XC>>bwaaa bwaa...lol. i dont care who's hair it is...as long as it's combable, stylable, and it goes well with my head...my naturally relaxed hair is bob_and it doesnt grow further than that...so i just improvise!

Mayo>> u must have been so frustrated, especially knowing gore u can't do anythinng about...them big old and all

Belz>>>I think ammo get myself india arie's cd...to calm me down cos i'm still so mad!

mayo
12 Sep 2007 05:11

@YA'LL it depends ukuba how much and how human ur hair is!!!

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 05:12

Imma, we could argue why people are in taxis when they should be wearing amabheshu riding an elephant or whatever animal.

That's just a symptom of people that don't embrace change and they'll say whatever they want to so they feel better about their push back.

We could take this argument as far as saying relaxed hair is not natural black hair cause we know black hair isn't that straight....

What makes you you is what you are all alone in your room when all the make up's off your face, the high heels have been shaken off your legs and you're looking back at yourself with pride. Heritage month means zilch to me, just like women's month, youth month, secretaries month..just names nje.

spice
12 Sep 2007 05:13

Wena ngwanenyana wa mo pedi you listen to too much metro FM is driving you crazy,naway me don't mind what kind of hair a lady is rocking solong as she looks fab and feels comfortable in it .meself is rocking amadreads and luuving it I can tell you about how white chicks stop me to admire and ask if it's me natural hair (cause they are so black.strong and attractive like my men hi hi )But you will faint .and I hope u guys don't rock those cheap staff we witness daily

ngwana
12 Sep 2007 05:15

It's my hair, it belongs to me, I paid good money for it.

I've done every hair do (dreds, afro, relax, braids) and i must say that a weave is my favourite. I have a weave so often that white people actually think its my real hair.

Yes it hurts when i have to pay R700 but hey, I look good,

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 05:17

Relaxed hair is better. A weave is someone/something ELSE's hair

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 05:20

Is NOT your hair Ngwana. It s shop hair. And gosh, do u know what I could do with that cash?
So ya''ll rock weaves for length? Whats length anyway? Mna i dont mind how short/long hair is, as long as its healthy, clean and YOURS

spice
12 Sep 2007 05:21

say whatever they want to so they feel better about their PUSH BACKS. ROTFLMFAO
what ? Toxic girl you are killing me, this...... is blackenism at it's best

presha
12 Sep 2007 05:22

I have a weave so often that white people actually think its my real hair. -Disturbing comment.

Enid Blyton
12 Sep 2007 05:25

XC its synthetic........u sound just like those taxi people n old ladies in the line.

MADENZA
12 Sep 2007 05:27

Even if they dont like your hair they shouldn't have talked right behind you.
you should have told them to mind their own business le gore ba ya phapha.

Enid Blyton
12 Sep 2007 05:28

XC what damage ar those chemicals u seem to swear doing to ur scalp..?

Zhico
12 Sep 2007 05:29

It's my hair, it belongs to me, I paid good money for it. >>> thank u gal...u could not hv said it better..

I wear extensions all the time and if that makes me FAKE..then be it bt what matters is that I feel beautiful and comfatable with the person that I am...

mna I hv very light hair and very big forehead and that I will not change.

Enid Blyton
12 Sep 2007 05:30

XC what damage ar those chemicals (relaxers) u seem to swear by- doing to ure scalp????

presha
12 Sep 2007 05:31

Hayi suka maan, Y do u wear these hats (as Barker Hainnes calls them), especially in summer, don't your heads get/feel hot underneath there?

Zhico
12 Sep 2007 05:33

@XC I hope u are not saying...we womeen with weaves arent proud of our cultures...coz I am....

mayo
12 Sep 2007 05:33

eish things are heating up here nhe!!! @XC we are not all that priviledged ntombi to grow inwele zibende njengezakho so ke sisi we have to go to JABULA!!!

and did u know before they put on ext.. they first relax inwele zethu!!! he he he !!*wink*

belz
12 Sep 2007 05:34

Toxic: thats a powerful reply, same here, i only just love presents on secretary's day!!

ngwana
12 Sep 2007 05:34

My own hair lacks body so a weave makes more full and shoulder length.
Yes i only was it once a weak (mainly cause if smells like a club) but i really dont see what the big deal is.

Dont you guys do braids? whats the difference?

presha
12 Sep 2007 05:37

The relaxers that we use are probably slowly but surely causing all of us(weavers& non-weavers) cancer,since we all relax our hair.

KeleFabulous
12 Sep 2007 05:38

great article imma! and ur first, i believe???

i say do whatever it takes to make urself look beautiful...after all, it's ur money and no one got hurt (except maybe u)for u to look that good and y shud any1 have anything to say about it? nx!

and what is natural anyway? sure that "relaxed" hair is yours but it's not natural! God didn't give u hair like that, mankind provided the chemicals for it!

mina i say if it looks and feels good, go for it!!!

lorrelai
12 Sep 2007 05:44

Most of the time I prefer my relaxed hair, but sometimes one just needs to change the look, so I'll color or plait or weave it.
I never really put much thought into who owned the hair to begin with. But now that u guys mention it, I really don't think I care, cos whatever I buy with my money, belongs to me, so now the hair becomes mine.

Enid Blyton
12 Sep 2007 05:45

but will probably kill you faster since you do it more often than those whorock....."other peoples hair"...hi hi hi !

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 05:46

Tox...belz is right thats very powerful gal...now i wish to bump into those reactionaries so i can tell them exactly where to get off

LOL @ Madenza...ke be ke nyaka go betha ka dimpama...

Enid B <<XC what damage ar those chemicals u seem to swear doing to ur scalp..?>> bwaaa bwaaaa kekkeeeekkeeee...

Presha <<Hayi suka maan, Y do u wear these hats (as Barker Hainnes calls them), especially in summer, don't your heads get/feel hot underneath there?>> That's why there's a treament kit for each season

Direre
12 Sep 2007 05:46

@ Imma....do you care what others are saying ????

Since i have started working, my collegues have never seen my hair (aka ntombi), i have a collection of weaves gal and i don't give a damn what others have to say about them cause i will tell them where to get off ....

It's a pity that you didn't tell them where to get off .... next time just say keep your opinions to yourself cause it's clear that you are jealouse and you can't afford to buy a weave and show them your middle finger!!!!

GQ
12 Sep 2007 05:47

MaWeavers the struggle continues...Thengani nini u can affored to mos

& it's your head vele
it's your time & effort.
It's your house that has all the stray hairs on the floor
It's your heads that start itching (tight tracks ,so it itches all the time)
It's your prerogative to maximise what nature has offered you in minimal quantities.

Keep rocking your weaves bantu niyekele ukuzi defenda kangaka ngathi you're trying to convince yourselves.

PS I believe you guys so enough already u are African & no one can tell u otherwise just coz niRocka Amaweave..PEACE

Mihle!!!
12 Sep 2007 05:49

@ XC couldn't agree more on that ...I mean really what is length..??? I'ts like being back to the old where our grannies applied those whitening creams on their faces so they can have fair skin...Why can't we just embrace being blaque rock what you have naturally you don'y have to be plastic to be beautiful....

Mtwana
12 Sep 2007 05:49

i wear a weave, i used to put on tips but do my own nails and if you can look good and feel good so why not, those ppl in the taxi were just jealous!!!

Toodecent
12 Sep 2007 05:51

Imma damn o ba tlogetse..you have asked when did they last have sex they are frustrated in that way ga se bone sesi letswai selo se botlhoko.

sedi
12 Sep 2007 05:51

>>> Mina i say if it looks and feels good, go for it!!!<<<< Amen kuleyondawo!!!

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 05:54

i don't relax my hair @presha

presha
12 Sep 2007 05:55

@GQ kwakwakwakwa, but u r 100% correct. Bigs ups 2 itchy kops and "stray" hairs. lol

myname
12 Sep 2007 05:55

Guys i do luv other women who wear wigs, extension whatever u call it bt what makes me mad is, sowuza ku commentar nje, did i ask money from u 2 do my hair? NO... so y ubhitya. If u dont like it, just shut up ur big mouth & save 4 ur supper @ home. Mna i do whatever i think i can afford to do in my head. Remember we r not in 1901, this is 2007 & we cant go back 2 Perm, Perm Lotion,( i stil remember the smell OMG) Sheen Care etc. another guy said siyayityabeka i-make-up. God

KeleFabulous
12 Sep 2007 05:57

people get real!!! the same people u adore and idolise and think they are perfect on tv and magazines are "fake" (using ur own words here). and u have the audacity to look down on a real person who does the same...GET REAL!!!

JuJu
12 Sep 2007 05:58

hi all
Gr8 article Imma

spice
12 Sep 2007 06:01

What we need to take into consideration is that not all of us are blessed with healthy,beautiful,strong,black, attractive(like me men) hair like mine damn some of us have fifteen hairs , soo we got no choice but to rock the bought hair pls bare with us

MamaOmpha
12 Sep 2007 06:02

Nami Im not really a weave person because naturally I have long "relaxed" hair. but to say that someone is not embracing their culture by wearing a weave is wrong. We are all different and we are not blessed with the same hair texture or length. So if som1 who does not have long hair feels she needs to have a weave let her. Imagine if all of us were rocking i "kaffirhare" just for the sake of embracing our culture. Noh man

REMEMBER DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS.

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 06:04

Beauty is really relative and has nothing to do with embracing one's culture!!!

lorrelai
12 Sep 2007 06:05

shave your head, weave your hair, do german cut, bob whatever, it doesn't change the person in you. I've grown to love most people here on TVSA and I haven't seen what's on their heads, cos that's not what's interesting about them.

lorrelai
12 Sep 2007 06:07

Hi Admin, please do something for Kamvaj.

GQ
12 Sep 2007 06:08

PAT WHERE R U MY FRIEND BEEN LOOKING ALL OVER FOR YOU...REPORT TO MY GUESTBOOK ASAP

Annonymous
12 Sep 2007 06:14

Whats up with the PHD - (Pull Her Down) Syndrome? I personally believe that we must not judge a person by the way they choose to stlyle their hair. I've never had a weave and I don't have any bad impressions about it. My hair is naturally long even though I am 100% black, but I also know that not evryone has long hair and since we live in times where there are beautiful weaves for women, there is nothing wrong with waering a weave. The other thing is that the texture of ur hair does not make who u are inside, u can be the most natural looking person outside, but inside u could be be different. Times allow us to expore different things, but that does not mean that we are neglecting our cultures. I say be who u want to be and style ur hair whichever way u choose, be it natural or weaved at the end of the day u can't live to satisfy another person it's all about u and ur happiness and if it's what u want then go for it and remember people will always talk, so just life.

babyjoe
12 Sep 2007 06:21

i feel you Imma, yesterday the same ish happened to me. poeple must learn to mind their own businesses.......

Annonymous
12 Sep 2007 06:21

ps, I meant so just live ur own life.

Dimago
12 Sep 2007 06:24

The lyrics:

Little girl with the press and curl
Age eight I got a Jheri curl
Thirteen I got a relaxer
I was a source of so much laughter
At fifteen when it all broke off
Eighteen and went all natural
February two thousand and two
I went and did
What I had to do
Because it was time to change my life
To become the women that I am inside
Ninety-seven dreadlock all gone
I looked in the mirror
For the first time and saw that HEY....

[Chorus]
I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair
I ma not this skin
I am a soul that lives within

[Talking:]
What'd she do to her hair? I don't know it look crazy
I like it. I might do that.
Umm I wouldn't go that far. I know .. ha ha ha ha

[Verse 2]
Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be
You can shave it off
Like a South African beauty
Or get in on lock
Like Bob Marley
You can rock it straight
Like Oprah Winfrey
If its not what's on your head
Its what's underneath and say HEY....

[Chorus]

[Bridge]
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend? Oooh
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
I am expressing my creativity..
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)

[Verse 3]
Breast Cancer and Chemotherapy
Took away her crown and glory
She promised God if she was to survive
She would enjoy everyday of her life ooh
On national television
Her diamond eyes are sparkling
Bald headed like a full moon shining
Singing out to the whole wide world like HEY...

[Chorus 2x]

[Ad lib]
If I wanna shave it close
Or if I wanna rock locks
That don't take a bit away
From the soul that I got
Dat da da dat da [4x]
If I wanna where it braided
All down my back
I don't see what wrong with that
Dat da da dat da [4x]

[Talking:]
Is that India.Arie?
Ooh look she cut her hair!
I like that, its kinda PHAT
I don't know if I could do it.
But it looks sharp, it looks nice on her
She got a nice shaped head
She got an apple head
I know right?
It's perfect.

sponono
12 Sep 2007 06:27

a much as there's nothin wrong with beutifyin y'all's already pretty-selves, sungtimes the weave thing goes too far...
its can be way too long (and usually the beutiful the expensive ones -that you start feeling sorry for some pony that had to die for that weave..

it can be so messy that the wearer looks like a pros/ho that does her business in the bush -
It can be so obvious-ussualy shiny or too curly or bushy that the wearer screams artificiall
it can be so different from the weares hair espesh when not planted correctly and the wearer has different hair-color from it that it gives her a cheap look or says I'm trying too hard to work it.....

and sumtimes girls dont know what to do with them weaves they end up tying them in ponytails, which ends up showing their real hair, or they make this huge ball on the back of their head that you feel sory for her for all that extra weight

It can get all over the place during the shenaynay that you wants to yank it of her head..but you start thinking oh it could be painful pullling ones hair...but you remeber its not real but still you dont yank it off cause you remeber you paid for it...so you just deal with it...LOL

the things y'all do for beauty.....(ARTICLE WITHIN ARTICLE AWARD GOES TO.....DRUM ROLL.....

Enid Blyton
12 Sep 2007 06:30

kard....we are not discussing who is mo african than who........read the blog again dont start with the comments..!!!!

sponono
12 Sep 2007 06:32

that dont mean I dont like them weaves, sometimes some girls pull it off very well

presha
12 Sep 2007 06:38

weaves, shmeaves, funny how culture gets thrown into, any conversation, next sum1 is going 2 throw in religion. Weaves r overdone & r suntyms nasty, and this has nothing 2 do with culture.
Oh and I'm not suffering from PHD syndrome, OR Pull Weaves Out Syndrome 4 that matter.

pat
12 Sep 2007 06:41

"It can get all over the place during the shenaynay that you wants to yank it of her head" LMAO @ sponza u wiiiiii u wrongo sana!!! @ GQ.... ek is hier lovy!!

zaa
12 Sep 2007 06:45

<<<Times allow us to expore different things, but that does not mean that we are neglecting our cultures.>>> U cudn't have said it better Annon.

I personnally don't have a problem with chicks that r rocking weaves/wigs s long s their weave/wigs r clean. BTW, what's the difference btwin wig/weave/hair extensions? My only problem is when the wig/weave become unmanageable & look like a used steelwool/potscraper. Gaaaad!!

Ppl are always 2king, b it a gud thing or bad,ppl will always criticize. Typical example, we dreadlocked people r always associated with paje, being rastafarians etc...I know most ppl hate dreads caz there's a belief that di a nkga. I mean helllooooo, s long s Jabu Letlapa salons r still out there who cares what ppl r saying....

monchooza
12 Sep 2007 06:46

this is the real world where people have different choices, if people buy the hair then it belongs to them its becomes their hair, when you buy a car it becomes your car not the stores car as somebody has already said its the shops hair

sponono
12 Sep 2007 06:51

Ngwana
I have a weave so often that white people actually think its my real hair. .
..the most disturbing comment Award ...

XC....Some people think my own hair is a weave, and I view that as a diss actually,
.. now you should consider it a complement from the way sistaz defend the weave trend....

Dimago...no matter what typa weave India Aries could get..she'll always be.....eeew
so she can go'head and sing her song...at least it puts food on the table...but it dont do nada for her looks...I'm sorry just had to add that.....love her though..hi hi hi cant knock her hustle....

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 06:52

i feel u sponono...i feel u big, but then again...<<that you start feeling sorry for some pony that had to die for that weave.. >> do u often feel sorry for the chicken that had to die for u to have those juicy chicken livers u love too much?

zazalicious
12 Sep 2007 06:54

I dont have a problem with weaves as long as you can afford them why not ? and being african got nothing to do with weaves.............you are african because you are born in africa that's all weave or no weave...

ngwana
12 Sep 2007 06:55

It can get all over the place during the shenaynay that you wants to yank it of her head>>

LMOA - some ebony hair piece i once used would go all over his face. it really pissed him off.

Annonymous
12 Sep 2007 06:55

"My only problem is when the wig/weave become unmanageable & look like a used steelwool/potscraper. Gaaaad!!" LMAO @ zaa's comments, I know what u are talking about girl, elokshini where I come from I've seen it all...........

owethu260
12 Sep 2007 06:56

mina i say different strokes for different folks if you dont love weaves that's your problem if you love them good for you, ....i learnt something about people they dont stop commenting so you have yo get use to that finish & klaar

belz
12 Sep 2007 07:12

Dimags: you are the greatest, ive been looking for those lyrics forever, i cant afford tht cd but i love it.

Annonymous
12 Sep 2007 07:12

"do u often feel sorry for the chicken that had to die for u to have those juicy chicken livers u love too much?" good point there imma

"no matter what typa weave India Aries could get..she'll always be.....eeew" kodwa Sponono wathathwaphi, u never run out of entertainment?

Mina I still say if ufuna virgin hair aka "The natural look" - do it, but don't hate on those that wear weaves.

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 07:13

Whatever Enid Byton. And by the way I was reading those books in standard 3! Why do u call urself that?
Anyway, yeah chemicals are not good for my hair. Thats why I relax only 4 times a year(once every 3 months).
Weave wearers have to relax too so the fake hair lies flat, so please!
And I never said anything about culture here. I said I dont like weaves, and I dont wear them

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 07:15

I mean, Blyton

Gucci
12 Sep 2007 07:18

love make up... does that make me look unafrican? hell no!!! @Pat/ Magogo
So, are u also using the Anti Wrinkle Creams? LOL

do u often feel sorry for the chicken that had to die for u to have those juicy chicken livers u love too much? @Imma - LOL

Mna I have natural long hair and I have tried some other Haistyles like the Elana Afrika kind of short hair look, also had a kinda like Claire Mawisa's Natural Afro....and now I've gone back to My Long relaxed hair....I have long hair like Connie Ferguson (ja ja I know...) and have tried to put Braids in like she does....but hell no....they were too heavy for me. What I'm trying to say is..... LIVE UR LIFE....it's ur Money and if it makes u feel gud: Do it.

Lekese
12 Sep 2007 07:20

hey people, have decided to come out of the closet . yho bathong, have been reading the comments every day and my colleagus think i've gone kukus

sponono
12 Sep 2007 07:21

Good point Imma..b
ut at least y'all dont see the poor chicken's feathers as evidence around my mouth...hi hi hi eish chicken livers are scrumptious espesh the Nandos ones....

amon
12 Sep 2007 07:21

Some people look horrible with weaves and beautiful with just their natural hair but they still stick to the weave.

myname
12 Sep 2007 07:27

Hi Lekese, r u sweet phofu like real lekese

belz
12 Sep 2007 07:29

Lekese: welcome!!! this is the best deceision you've made all year, i promise you.

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 07:34

Welcome home Lekese...
Mcwah!

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 07:35

Lekese, welcome. Every1in our office has given up on me even my boss knows gore i only do my work at home, and blog the whole day at work_pretty scarry i know, but i can't help it!...

Belz mnganam...i'm listening to the song as i type...and reading the lyrics...thank very much Dimago

Lekese
12 Sep 2007 07:36

@ myname : got it in one

thanks belz....i feel like i've been part of this family for ever.

On the weave thing, if it suits you good on you but some people out there have to be shot for subjecting us to the kind of skanky weaves they wear. stru's bob!

zaa
12 Sep 2007 07:39

<<<Some people look horrible with weaves and beautiful with just their natural hair but they still stick to the weave.>>> True that.

I blame that on media (my opinion). What we c on TV is misleading us blaq sistas. Kante this thing with weaves, don't 1 have to look at the shape of her face first? Caz clearly u can't wear eg Queen's weave on a rectangular shaped face, but nna iv sin it ol....

mazi
12 Sep 2007 07:45

@Imma, they spoke abt u cz u have smthing they dont have and u looked wonderful, beautiful and smart than they were. and its a good thing u did not say anything to them cz u r a real lady with class. mna i say if u comfrotable so just go for it gal and by the way who do they think they r to judge u like that but then again they are stupid bimbos

as 4me i dont do weaves cz i am comfortable in my won hair bt i dont have a problem with peple who use hair extensions or weaves cz they also fl comfortable with them.

belz
12 Sep 2007 07:46

some people out there have to be shot for subjecting us to the kind of skanky weaves they wear. stru's bob! Lekese: LOL, im loving you already!!!!! im nominating for best new comer.

KeleFabulous
12 Sep 2007 07:50

welcome Lekese

weaves...nails...makeup...heels...clothes...imma...u really got people talking nhe! he hehe he

belz
12 Sep 2007 07:50

mazi: you are right about the head shape, its just that nathi sithanda izinto sisuke singabheki ukuthi which weave would suit me.otherwise some ladies know how do their thang shem!!!

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 07:55

ut at least y'all dont see the poor chicken's feathers as evidence around my mouth...hi hi hi

bahhaaaaaaahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa....knee slapping funny!!

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 07:56

KeleFab...u can say that again_it all started as a mere vent

Mazi...thanx gal thats very comforting...

ammo cling to my weave and rock it fo sho!

njingalwazi
12 Sep 2007 07:59

Xhosa chick, i might have seen you or someone who looks like you ethetha nagamakhaphetshu nemileqwa between edgars and wimpy on St George's street just after work.

presha
12 Sep 2007 08:00

"i dont do weaves cz i am comfortable in my won hair" lol @ mazi,
Anyway to those that have weaves, what makes u think rocking a weave improves your looks? If u r pretty u will b pretty, with or without the fake hair. Or do u just want 2 do the "agh my hare"?

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 08:05

Njingalwazi: Huh? I dont buy imileqwa.

amon
12 Sep 2007 08:09

[Anyway to those that have weaves, what makes u think rocking a weave improves your looks? If u r pretty u will b pretty, with or without the fake hair. Or do u just want 2 do the "agh my hare"?] You have just made my day Presha!!

Mathaz
12 Sep 2007 08:11

I saw Ntombi (Gen) and her beautiful weave and i relaxed my natural hair just to have that look. It was 100% and people thought it was my real hair. After i took it out i cut my hair do grow it naturaaly again. Weaves are not problem i guess but the fakeness does not have to be too obvious.

mazi
12 Sep 2007 08:12

mna i blv that black people have a problem at times, they dont want to embrace change and they want others to c the world the way they do. people do anything as long as it makes u happy and u r comfortable, dont worry urself abt what pple wil say cz people wil always find somthing to say abt u. so be comfortable in ur own skin, ur own values and principles and most importantly be comfortable in the way u c the world.

Xhosa Chick
12 Sep 2007 08:12

LMAO @ "ag, my hare!"

Lezoty
12 Sep 2007 08:15

@Presha, Hooking up the weave just enhance the prettiness. It does not make you look pretty. There is nothing worse than a non-pretty chikita hooked up a waeve-it is... not so great.

Or do u just want 2 do the "agh my hare"? KWA KWA KWA!

I just love woman who take care of themselves. Be it manicure( not too much of the coat/glue) and the weave as long as you don't keep too long and looks kruuse!

I don't think that we should be stuck in one world where there are so many world to explore. If we were that traditional, we would be walking around naked like aur for-fathers. The world is changing and so do people.

You should have told those people in the taxi where to get off. I tink they were jealous because NAKO ya bona e fitile ya go iprepa up!

presha
12 Sep 2007 08:23

"mna i blv that black people have a problem at times" It's not about blackness mazi, it's about fake hair, even whities sumtyms overdo the hair extensions/colour

Jordan
12 Sep 2007 08:23

I love ladies in a weave!!! Oooohhhh!!!

Personally, I won't wear it! I won't even relax it! I'd rather shave it off completely.

Wigs on the other hand make me LOL!!! They are so bloody scary in a hilarious way! Especially tsa ga Mam Cathy!!

Imma you should have come to Bassline. The lady who was performing with Keith Murray was stunning!!! She had on a weave and tight jeans. I had never seen anything soooo beautiful!!!!

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 08:26

They are so bloody scary in a hilarious way! Especially tsa ga Mam Cathy!!

kwa kwa kwa kwa!!!!

Imma you should have come to Bassline. The lady who was performing with Keith Murray was stunning!!! She had on a weave and tight jeans. I had never seen anything soooo beautiful!!!!

huh? Keith Murray performed???

pat
12 Sep 2007 08:27

LMAO @ Gucii... yebo!!

mazi
12 Sep 2007 08:32

@presha, i mean black people enjoy PHD to anoother black, those peopl in the taxi had no rite totalk abt Imma like that infront her nogan what they did was PHD my dear.

Jordan
12 Sep 2007 08:34

@ Toxic!!! Yep he did!!! I told you mos when I phoned you after o ndochitse!!!! he he he!!!

presha
12 Sep 2007 08:36

is it PHD becoz they were black? But anyway those PEOPLE were mean & insesnitive. (& it's not becoz they were black)

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 08:39

no need to xpose me J...i only asked abt keith murray o jwang mara he?

KittyKat
12 Sep 2007 08:51

Hi everybody!!!!!!!!!
Very interesting topic, thanks Immaculate.
I also rock a weave and I must say its the greatest thing to ever happen 2 my hair. I used to "rock" an afro and it became but it was getting too much for me as I was joining the working force and needed a low maintance hairstyle, I went to the salon to blow my fro out so it was easier to comb, but those fools relaxed my hair!

I stayed for about a year with my relaxed hair and I must say the daily combing did not do anything for my chemically shocked hair, so I had to resort to plaits and braids and then thought y not try the weave, its gr8, it looks gr8 on me, easy to maintain AND I can afford it, so I dont see what the problem is.
A weave is a fashion statement NOT a cultural defiance.

B.T.W, how do I get a GOLD STAR

mazi
12 Sep 2007 08:53

nice blog Imma am out of here now.

libra
12 Sep 2007 08:53

hey there imma,i think its all a personal choice really- i use to relax my hair and have it long like that but have recently decided to go natural and will be doing dreds soon.i had a weave that saved me on those bad hair days when i needed to go to saloon but was broke.at the end it s how u feel ka the hairstyle u have.wearing a weave, putting onmake up and dressing a certain way should be a personal choice as long as u are comfortable.about being african- those who preach africanism should wear amabeshu and other traditional gears all the time - just to show how african they are. choose your own style, be comfortable and ignore the silly the comments.

KittyKat
12 Sep 2007 08:54

Oh I got one, cool.
AND India Arie, said it" I am not my hair"

amon
12 Sep 2007 09:06

Ya be not your hair and start wearing some dead Pocahontas hair.

ngwana
12 Sep 2007 09:28

Especially tsa ga Mam Cathy!!

I just turned to channel 36 for the joburg auditions and WTF is that thing on her hair.

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 09:32

imma, next time don't get off at your short left, give them a piece of your mind!!

Jordan
12 Sep 2007 09:36

<<<I just turned to channel 36 for the joburg auditions and WTF is that thing on her hair.>>> LMAO HUUU ngwana!!! I am just glad I am not the only traumatised soul!! tl tl tl

Thapelo100
12 Sep 2007 09:39

but really,human beings are just hypocrites..they say something today just because it suits them,then they go do the very same thing they were opposing just because it suits them again.I personally have a problem with some horrible weaves but for me to just pull someone down when they are trying their best to look beautiful I find it quite unacceptable.I jave a problem with someone who don't make an effort to beautify themselves,even if you can go for plastic surgery,breast enhancing surgery what's wrong with that.We as men we will tell our women not to wear miniskirts,tight jeans,sexy outfits etc yet we go chase those we run into in the streets dressed exactly how we discourage our women to dress like,is that not plain hypocritical?Come on people,there are women who are not blessed with long hair and they believe that long hair will look great on them so what should they do,just accept that God didn't bless them with that and settle for it,hell no...ladies we want beautiful ladies,make up or not,weaves or not,high heels or not...I want my woman to make an effort to look good,beautiful,attractvive and sexy...the more she looks great the more I feel great....I mma babes keep rocking those manicures and them weaves...we love them babes.....

Toxic
12 Sep 2007 09:46

blog within a blog award nominees: Thapelo100 is giving u a run for ya money he he he!!

andi01
12 Sep 2007 09:57

I dont see any problem with people buying hair, in 1994 we were liberated and free to do whatever we please as long as it doesnt compromise the struggle that our fore-fathers died for. People are arguing that weave its horse's hair, when you take a horse's tail and put it on ur head I say Viva to you, coz u are repossessing what was taken away from the africans by the english by the timeof unongqawuse.of course we cant take back the tail to the horse so what ever we do with it its up to us, what angers me its the fact that we have to pay for what is originally ours. We have beaten,endured and suffered the odds to be where we are today, the money that we earn took years of sacrifice, hunger and toturing. i say lets spend it the best way we wanna. If fake hair, fake nails and whatever its what we want, then be it. Those big mammas in shops and taxis are just jealous coz they were born before the liberation time and they cant enjoy freely the fruits of freedom. Nice article by the, from every angle u look at it

andi01
12 Sep 2007 10:01

People think they have a right to say black people sell their culture to other races, while they are the ones always snoopping around to see how we live. Since Nongqawse they were snoopping and saw our cattle, they became greedy and stole them. Then nowadays u see sangoma's of many colours.To them breast used to be sacred but watch their movies now, I say lets wear those weaves like never before. people like limiting us while they do as they please.

sjura
12 Sep 2007 10:13

Gals i dnt care how much u pay for those hair its still fake.Xa bethi HUMAN HAIR nicinga ukuthi zithwathwe kubani?.Cum now!!!!!!! m sho u dnt really beliv its real human hair.dnt u guyz knw ukuba i human hair ziyazikulela?.Even if u feel comfortable on them u stil have to take them off not by choice in many cases but ziyaguga sana.But ziyabafanela abanye abantu xa bezenze ngendlela efanelekile.M nt saying u guyz r fakes ngikhuluma ngwenwele.n m nt jelas o anythng m jst voicin out ma opinion so plz dnt comment on it.

@NGWANA dear by the sound of thngz nawe u starting to beliv those fake hair in ur hed r urz.Dnt let them Whites ful ur ma darling they not yours n yhoo imali engaka oyikhiphayo i hope ur "hair" ziyayenza lento ufuna ziyenze kuwe.

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 11:04

Yes sjura it's fake, thats why it is sold hellooooo...and so what??? we look fabulous in it...and oh sjura, u can't put a price on one's happiness wa nkwa!

sjura
12 Sep 2007 11:15

jst so ur pics i wanda hw u luk without dem fake hare,LOL!bt wena u r putin a price coz m sure u nt hapi whn u without dem.

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 11:30

Sjura, look at the pic i took with my friend, the one i'm sitting dwon and wearing a denim dungaree...and look at the last picture...i'm wearing a pink top with 3 of my friends...AND TELL ME IF I LOOK UNHAPPY, cos thats me on my natural hair. And my profile picture as well...

sjura
12 Sep 2007 11:34

nop u dnt.bt i stl say wu gal kip dem weaves on.

Beyonce
12 Sep 2007 13:11

Beyonce
12 Sep 2007 13:29

interesting topic Imma... well done my kind

I love my WEAVES... call them fake hair if you like I dont care.

those hooligans in that taxi... Imma you should have given them a little hiding he he he he

Lady.RO.
12 Sep 2007 13:36

Askis am sorry. Fake people dont just do it for me. Especially when it comes to da hair story. Even when it suits you - believe you me, i so dont find you attractive it hurts, it is such a turn off!!!!!!!!!!! I understand it is about making one look/feel beautiful, but go easy...DAMN shoo

GodsGift2Human
12 Sep 2007 14:07

Hey u all beautiful people on TVSA. I LOVE YOUR COMMENTS n Topics.by the way m new here.

Beyonce
12 Sep 2007 16:30

Gods Gift to WHO??? he he he
Welcome to TVSA my kind

immaculate
12 Sep 2007 16:37

dig the name Godsgift2whatwhat...heheee...my kind

Bra Bizza
12 Sep 2007 16:51

mari why abo my sista liking i PhD.as long o le montle,and the fact you're making an effort to look good.

Toxic
13 Sep 2007 01:08

Preach Andi, preach!! lol, love your responses sisi:)

Xhosa Chick
13 Sep 2007 01:17

Hee hee heee Mam Cathy!

myname
13 Sep 2007 01:59

GodsGift2 H. yho i cant even write ur name & im sure u sent by God, Welcome GG2H *Hugs*

Thapelo100
13 Sep 2007 09:56

weave,fake her,fake nails,manicure or whatever tou wanna call them,babes make an effort to look beautiful,whether it's a wigg or whatever,horsentail,human hair...i just don't give a heck,i want my woman to be stunning,u put on heels to look taller,i care less as long as you look great i am your man...but when it's finished babes,when it's starting to look untidy babes,get rid of it,i will even give you money for you to splash-on your looks...i don't have time for a woman who don't make an effortm to look stunning.....

Lulu
13 Sep 2007 15:13

snaps this was very good article raising lotsa contensious things. Thanx Imma

KittyKat
14 Sep 2007 01:48

@ Sjura, its called human hair coz its from humans, they get it from them starving people from Indonesia(or something) who grow and sell their hair for a living, so to fellow weave rockers consider yoselves, humanitarians!

immaculate
14 Sep 2007 01:54

U rock Kitty...VIVA humanitarians VIVA!

belz
14 Sep 2007 02:05

Imma for president!!!! gal awesome topic this dont you think, congrats on more than a hundred replies, keep 'em coming love.

belz
17 Jan 2008 05:27

Oh imma,i am soooo not my hair, i needed to read this coz people dont understand the hairstyle that i have now.

monchooza
17 Jan 2008 05:40

mina at the moment i am my hair....if only all you mabloggers can see my hair right now(the colour and the style) it is drwaing all the attention my way, but i am enjoying it since i am wearing the clothes that go with my wild hairstyle today

Nonny
17 Jan 2008 05:43

What is the colour of ur hair Monchooza???????????

Amazing
17 Jan 2008 05:46

Women can never win. If you wear a weave you're fake. If you go all natural, you don't take care of you rappearance. Which is why I don't subscribe to society's standards. I just do whatever I like with my hair and everyhting else for that matter.

Toodecent
17 Jan 2008 05:48

Still lotsa of weaverholics out there...!

monchooza
17 Jan 2008 05:55

Blue and green but its not a permanent dye..its just spray highligher....my office is too dull these days so i thought i should brighten it up a bit and yes its Bright now thanks to me....i am just not sure which colour to rock on monday and what strange outfit to wear......

monchooza
17 Jan 2008 05:55

witty lady
17 Jan 2008 05:57

hey!! nice one one immaculate, yes, le nna I love my weaves damn!
Your hair and nails don't make you, your personality and soul make you who you are. I was it was me in that taxi, I sure was gonna tune them nxxE PRIMITIVE some people are still living in the dark ages GA!

Don't they know the song ya I AM NOT MY HAIR!

Nonny
17 Jan 2008 05:59

Blue & green................Monchy u take bravery to another level!!!

Nonny
17 Jan 2008 06:00

How about a profile pic with ur current hair colour MOnchy???

Tynt!
17 Jan 2008 06:16

sies black women! look at her, fake nails(my nails are so real guys it hurts), fake hair (my extentions)
We all have diverse taste, who are you to arbitrate?
What matters is ones self -assurance in whatever hair they are wearing or growing!

still riding on a taxi
With the cheap car cummin to SA (R17000), maybe you shud grab urself 1
Jokin LOl: he he he

Two ladies and some guy sitting right at the backseat talking about me
Cowards - somebody regarded as fearful and uncourageous, that’s what they are. Thats what they

lilmama
17 Jan 2008 06:19

Answer:

1. Our fabulousness...african curves, beaty you name it....And the skill (I'ld call it an art) we have to enhance it all, make it look that much better.

And why do people say weave is not your own hair....Damn you paid a good amount of money for it... Do you say the clothes you wear everyday are fake....cause we all know how God created us - and there sure was no pink shirt and black skirt involved (so why not fight for sticking with natural beauty in that regard)... Do you say your bed, your car your house everything you paid to have is fake..... So yah people have double standards...
If I paid cash to have my weave on, its mine darling - its my hair...I paid a loooot of money to have it.

2. My love if we had to put on traditional outfits, it would be TROUBLE...I know for a fact that back in the days girls (well xhosa girls) used to wear inkciyo (which is basically a little leather strap that covers usisi qha....It was not all these african insipired outfits - all those came with civilisation (stoned cherries) and design...So imagine looonudity nje...Mara bebengazukuhleba nokuhleba, they'll just look for a blanket to cover you up.

witty lady
17 Jan 2008 06:28

LMAO LILMAMA!! hahaha!

Nonny
17 Jan 2008 06:31

WOW lilmama...................well said there..............I guess it's a good thing afterall that Monchooza & Toodecent were bored & started taking us on a trip down memory lane!!!!

belz
17 Jan 2008 06:36

Hellooooooooooooooooooooo, i took doen the trip to memory line, sukani nonke!!!

Olivierviona
18 Oct 2011 10:36

Hi Immaculate i admired your article and would love to discuss it further. Please email me to vionaolivier@gmail.com or viona_50@ymail.com thank you.

Ntlewame2
18 Oct 2011 11:38

(will read later- comments)

Immaculate congradulations on loving the things you do and how YOU WANT TO LOOK! Its nobody's business..........

Hence; one wonders......and cant help to wonder!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was sheened;step-oned;revloned etc since i 3 or for yeard old!...........had braids till 2003 i was forever on weaves etc and occational tinted short hair.......

2003.........i experience things in my career.......studies a few memors.....got closer to God......and somehow (i dont know if the mentioned things had anything to do with it)...i refused to put hair straighteners on my hair/head...i felt so strong about it but it did not make me put others off them..........

2011 Sept.............deciding to throw away my weaves etc.....just before I read an article on a late Destiny mag; and realised where this 100% hair come from.......I am growing my hair natural now.........and i think there are so many beautiful hairstyles one can do with natural hair......

U see ......the thing is.......I work in an industry that still need to get to 1994......and when they compliment me on my 100% bonding (how that hair looks better than that)......i cringe........because i read a lot into their minds............i have come to understand a lot of things........in a relaxed enviroment........reason why i think i will be somehow pushed to politics...................small things like that...............makes ppl treat us differently....

Same as a cccringe when I hear an outstanding African leader; calling us black!.......why should we accept to be defined by other people....i am teaching my kids.......about God ;themselves; & the world..........