It's a world not many are aware of. It is called living double lives. Sex therapists try to make sense of how punani addicts just simply can't get enough. Debora Patta is on the matter and documents sex addicts' confessions and acts of their sexual escapades. Nothing gets past Debora Patta, sex addicts have nowhere to hide and Makisto scrutinises the matter.
Debora Patta takes a journey in the minds of sex addicts
Wikipedia defines sexual addiction as the phenomenon in which individuals report being unable to manage their sexual behaviour. Medicinet.com says the term "sexual addiction" is used to describe the behaviour of a person who has an unusually intense sex drive or an obsession with sex. Sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addict's thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships.
When I tuned in, the show had just started. There was a man called Frank* and he detailed how he would go out and sleep with women and even go as far as sleeping with prostitutes simply because he couldn't get enough. Watching porn sites at work was an integral part of his sexual activities. His wife described the shock she was in after learning of what her "loving" husband has been up to when he leaves the house and turns into his alter ego - the one who loves sex so much! For her, nothing could compare to the shock and perhaps even doubted herself worth as a woman. After engaging in his sexual escapdes, Frank would over-compensate by playing the role of a loving, caring and romantic husband. He would help her clean the house, buy her flowers, cards, surprise candle-lit romantic dinners and all the works. They were the envy of most couples who knew them and every woman who knew the couple would make a mention of Frank when their husbands aren't being romantic enough. Frank is now is a sexual therapy and for is "trying to limit his use of porn sites".
Debora Patta wins awards for exploring topics that many shy away from
In another sex addict's confession, Douglas*, he would sleep with over 1 000 women a year and he would never use any protection. He didn't care that his wife was carrying their child. He knew he was putting his life, wife and child's lives at high risk of contracting HIV but he couldn't help himself because he wanted it as it is and not covered in rubber. The wife saw sexting (sex sms'es) on his cell phone, confronted him, he denied it but she wanted to hear nothing but the truth as he at least owed her that much. Nothing could have prepared her for the shocking truth that was to follow. He revealed all and the poor wife was left flabbergasted. She was utterly furious that he risked her life and that of their child and now she wants out.
Despite the government's messages on condoms, Douglas wants it bare
Sex therapists were interviewed and each gave us a look at what's going on inside the mind of a sex addict. Sex addicts engage in distorted thinking, often rationalising and justifying their behaviour and blaming others for problems. They generally deny they have a problem and make excuses for their actions.
Sexual addiction also is associated with risk-taking. Medicenet.com says a person with a sex addiction engages in various forms of sexual activity, despite the potential for negative and/or dangerous consequences. In addition to damaging the addict's relationships and interfering with his or her work and social life, a sexual addiction also puts the person at risk for emotional and physical injury.
Now sex addicts have nowhere to hide
Behaviours associated with sexual addiction include:
•Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
•Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
•Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
•Consistent use of pornography
•Unsafe sex
•Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
•Prostitution or use of prostitutes
•Exhibitionism
•Obsessive dating through personal ads
•Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking
•Sexual harassment
No sex addict gets past Debora Patta
Sex therapists interviewed on 3rd Degree said: Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame.
Bloggers also do know of people who are sex addicts.
Tizoz says:
I know people who do these sorts of things but the sad thing is they are in denial and its sad that this sh*t is destroying them slowly.....
Tididi shares with fellow-bloggers about her (or his) situation:
Tell me guys, if u addicted to sex are you having a problem??? Cause I can't get enough.....lol
Zah000 offers empathy:
This is a sad reality, coz sexploiters feel like cr*p afterwards. You find that omunye has real underlying issues that they think they can cover up nge-s*x. So we can joke about it and even go as far as judging and labelling them, but at the end of the day, they and God are the only ones that really know the actual truth
*Not their real names