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What Is A Crush?

Written by Zhico from the blog Crush on 05 Sep 2007
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What is a crush?

A crush involves admiring someone from a safe distance. You feel a hugely powerful emotion, stronger than anything you've felt before. You obsess over this person. You would die for them. You think about them constantly. You are thrilled when you are near them and miserable when you are away from them. You desperately want to tell the person how you feel - but are frightened of it at the same time. 
no words...maybe some men can say something

I always had this thing called icrush and always tell my sister abt it and she would tell me that I have too much love and that I don’t know what to do with it…for a moment I thought she was write coz I always read too much from the crush…I would not differentiate btwn fancying some1 and loving some1..all that I saw was love..and in a few months down the line..the love is gone and I then notice that damn what a waste of time it was not really uthando bt icrush and I would beat myself for being such a fool.
On my first yr at varsity I had a huge crush on this tall, handsome and man of my dreams…the crush lasted for 2 months…I was talking abt the guy 24/7 and I would imagine him also looking at me…my friends thought I was obsessed and and me I thought it was LOVE…oh my God I remember thinking life without him would be meaningless…how foolish of me..and every song that played just had sumthing to say abt us..uyazi ke R&B…
Bt then it got to a point that he noticed…I could go on 4ever ppl bt what hurt me the most was that the guy didn’t love me the way I did…which I could say was pretty scary looking from now…I waaaaas so hurt..I hated him for not loving me

Some ppl even hv crushes on their friends which I think is very painful coz of the impacts it may cause if the other party does not feel the same…some on teachers…some on very old ppl..and some on celebs that they only see on TV..remember the Sphiwe story on Gen..
Some ppl would keep their crush to themselves for years…kanti what are we to do
This love this is really confusing me…
Or do I hv a problem coz some say they don’t usually get icrush…iyho beta them than me… 
this gal rocks hot hot hot...pele-pele

Ever had a crush and didn’t know what to do???
If you had..would you have guts to tell the person???
Is it okay to hv icrush on ur friend??
What are the restrictions???


While I was googling I found some symptoms of this crush disease 
Here are just some of the symptoms:

• You love them yet you don't even know them
• All you can think about is them and what if...
• You've planned your whole future
• You follow them round like a puppy on your lunch break
• You go red whenever you see them
• You lose the power of speech and co-ordination in their presence
• Butterflies in your stomach
• Pounding heart
• You stammer/stutter something like "have you got the time?" at
them
• You imagine hours of conversations with them

Ppl tell me now How to cope ???
My friend is dying of this disease and does not know what to do..i told her to swallow her pride and tell the guy…or stalk him nge e-mail..bt that could be going overboard…you never know the person might be feeling the same bt don’t have enough guts

I confess mine iku Sizwe Dhlomo…mmmmm that boy just kills me 
big crush on you mfana

Confess U guyz..dont be shy





74 Comments

Brown Shuga
05 Sep 2007 12:51

<<I would not differentiate btwn fancying some1 and loving some1..all that I saw was love..and in a few months down the line..the love is gone and I then notice that damn what a waste of time it was not really uthando bt icrush and I would beat myself for being such a fool.>> 
Story of my life!! 

tizoz
05 Sep 2007 14:15

hey shugs

Zhico
05 Sep 2007 14:20

so i take it tizoz ...u never had a crush

tizoz
05 Sep 2007 15:23

i have had a few of them but hey it doezn't help cause it's jus dreams only, (maybe not)

Bra Bizza
05 Sep 2007 15:23

well i had quite a few.....its funny how you could have such strong feelings in one moment and the next is like damn where did all the love go to?i guess that's why they call it a crush....

Xhosa Chick
06 Sep 2007 01:09

Wentworth's gay. So all girls that had a crush on him, give up. And he's taken

Yoyo
06 Sep 2007 01:13

Its like you read my mind Zhico.I have this huge Crush on someone and I don't know how to deal with it,so this other day I decided to sms the guy (I fully regret doing that) and please Blogger's help me out as I can't get this guy out'a my mind.Heeelpp!!!!!!!

Toodecent
06 Sep 2007 01:25

Yoh  okare I havent had one... I turn to admire some of the ladies but never has it hit my mind about having a relationship with them(is it still a crush?). Ke tla gofa attention or even tell you what I think of you compliments I think.

Dimago
06 Sep 2007 01:26

I had a crush on a guy for about 2 years, back in the day...He lived down the road from us. He was one of those guys that thought they were better than every1 else, but i realy liked thim. I got hold of his number and started calling him, chatting to him anonymously on the phone. We had really good chats, then somehow he found out i was the one he'd been chatting to, and he stopped taking my calls :-( 
I was crushed!

But it was good while it lasted, i had a diary all about how much i love him...hmmm i wonder where the diary is better yet, where Mxolisi is....

cnhlanhla
06 Sep 2007 01:47

hey guys talking about crush eish I've got it for sum1 who is my frend and I've had it since the day I met him but then I jst keep on telling myself that no it will never work so rather keep it this way, Zhico those symptoms are true I promise u 

KeleFabulous
06 Sep 2007 01:53

a crush is a feeling htat dissipates as soon as u know who ur crush really is. it's normally for someone u don't know, at least, in my experience it has been. and as soon as i get to know hte person i think WTF was i thinking??? hi hi hi.

but a crush between people of the same sex (if ur straight) is different. it just means u really like the person and for me that feeling doesn't go away.

the only lasting relationships i've had have been with people i didn't have a crush on in the beginning, some i didn't even like....if u can look at a person and say "i like that one" then it has a better chance of going somewhere than a crush.

KeleFabulous
06 Sep 2007 01:54

can someone tell me gore ke mang this sizwe dlomo??????

monchooza
06 Sep 2007 02:06

crushes crushes.....

spice
06 Sep 2007 02:09

Mmmm lets see my life would be dull if I didn't have a crush on almost all my petrose's friends

Toodecent
06 Sep 2007 02:09

Kele reinstall your operating system skeem saka.

Regards
celeb support desk.

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 02:13

sizwe who? Next....

I am currently going through a very painful crush, i even had to move places just so i won't have to bump into him. He's my (previous) neighbour, I see him on my tea, ko batheng, whenever i close my eyes he's here...
i recently learnt that his drinking habits says a lot to be desired, and he smokes(i'v always hated smokers)...amazingly i still like him nevertheless...could this be love???

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 02:14

any1 ever had a crush with his/her boss and know very well it wont go any further bt the crush is still...

Toxic
06 Sep 2007 02:16

Sizwe who? hahahhahahahaha!!

Quick
06 Sep 2007 02:17

i have a crush on a boy i have never even spoken too. at first i was joking about his looks to my friends and how i wish i could have him. now whenever i see him i have butterflies. i think he is younger than me and the fact that he doesn't even know my face makes everything stupid.

Kakapana
06 Sep 2007 02:18

I still get goosebumps when I c my high skool crush, we were in the same maths in grade11 and now I'm working bt I still go nump whenever I c him.

I would neva wanna tell him though coz it's part of de excitment, I look forward 2  "bumping" into him everyday.

My celebrity crushes are: Kaizer Junior, Christiano Ronaldo, Robihno and I still Love u Ntando

Gucci
06 Sep 2007 02:19

Mina when I met this person I didnt have a crush on him there and then, only after I spoke to him and his sense of humor just melted My heart ....since that day 3 years now that same guy I still have a Crush on....and that Guy is none other My.....u know who!!!!

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 02:20

immaculate plz gal dont crush me down on my crush...I really like la mfana

cocktail
06 Sep 2007 02:22

Mna ive got a crush on Sbusiso Leope n it will neva stop its been too long

Kakapana
06 Sep 2007 02:23

Hawu bathong guys ,u seriosly don't know Sizwe Dlomo? He's de first MTV VJ. I don't think he's all dat though. mmmmm guys u Junior is a dish and more, u just wanna eat him up and the way he speaks, yam yam yam!!!!

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 02:25

@ TDC <<I turn to admire some of the ladies but never has it hit my mind about having a relationship with them(is it still a crush?). >>>
are u serious ...u never had a crush...maybe on some1 older than u while growing up...the admiring story sounds different kwi crush

spice
06 Sep 2007 02:26

why is that crushes neva go away .I've had a crush on Omar Epps since I was a teenager and nothing has changed infact it's even worse cause now I google him all the time

andi01
06 Sep 2007 02:28

Hey everyone, hey Tox, Yhoo Zhico what a coo article. I used to suffer from those a lot. And the people i would have a crush on would be those who see me as a friend or some1 with higher standard than them, when i was growing up i was 2 wise and matured for my age i think that scared my crushes away. But the guy i am with now, i had a crush on him 7 yrs ago, but neva said anything, he always treated me as a friend, but 2 yrs ago i got sick and tired of waiting for him, i kissed him and the next day he was chasing after me like a crazy puppy, and we still 2gether, ever since i have neva had a crush on any1 else except some few celebs like (Samuel eto'o, benni mccarthy, Bricks, Ajax aka Pysfo)

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 02:30

haaau Zhico...this Sizwe Dlomo(i still dont know the ef is he) boy doesnt do blaq, unless of course u are white then maybe just maybe...so get over ur crush and help me stalk my crush.

my celeb crush is Tuks...senganga...remember the planet song_i thought it was meant for me...then Carrabean Chic, i was so so convinced, even though i'v never spoken to him, who's got his numbers? i once followed him from sandton, then lost him somewhere in Rosebank...dam(n) !t

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 02:33

hi hi hi @ Ajax...hey Andi01 userious...my friend also has a huge crush for Ajax and I just laugh when I'm watching Gen and He's so immature there

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 02:35

andi01...u had a crush on Ajax aka Pysfo?? heee bannna, ke mohlolo selo seo

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 02:37

@ immaculate his drinking habits says a lot to be desired >>>  I dont understand this line...if you want some stalking tactics holla at me ka PM

Toxic
06 Sep 2007 02:38

I've always had a crush on Denzel Washington. Now THAT is a man i'd stumble over my words for.......

Annonymous
06 Sep 2007 02:39

Nice article there Zhico, I have a crush on this guy who is dating my neighbour & I know the feeling is mutual, but the problem is we can't persue this due to the fact that we both "care" about the neighour so much.  At the moment I get such a kick when I am in the car with the guy that I have a crush on & the girlfriend is sitting in the front seat & she is ignorantly busy painting her nails, playing with her phone or sumthing, then me & her boo are busy giving each other these very seductively naughty stares through the rare view mirror, I get so much fulfilment from it.  I msut say a crush is just the most amazing feeling in the world to have.

Annonymous
06 Sep 2007 02:42

As for ama celeb crushes,  it will always be Vin Diesel.........all I can say is that I wouldn't mind having him for breakfast, lunch & supper........coz damn he's a dish & a half!!!

spice
06 Sep 2007 02:47

Anon you are nasty and where were taking the couple by the way?how old is the boy?and where is your man in this......ish

NTWANA
06 Sep 2007 02:48

Mina i've got a crush on Mushasha akaMunyango I can't stop staring at him xa evela kuTv especially when he speaks English "I love him ol ova" hi hi hi

ngwana
06 Sep 2007 02:49

I am a serial crusher! 
I have a crush on one of my guy friends - who only loves me like a sister, but i know we were made for each other.
I have a crush with one of the guys i work with - i keep hoping that one night we will be working late and .....

My Celeb crush is Thaps he looks like a fun person

Lemon_Lite
06 Sep 2007 02:51

Crushes - Crushes... I've had a crush on this 1 particular guy for about 3 years now - the symptoms... I know exactly what you are talking about. Everytime he came by... my heart would start pounding and I'd feel my hands sweating, mouth would go dry. Ofcourse I'd tell myself not to loose my cool but I would make such an ass of myself - and it doesn't help when you have friends who would just laugh. Shu - I could go on and tell you more idiotic things I've done - but I've learnt to deal with it. The excuse that I tell myself is; "I'm human and can't help who I fall for, just like I can't help but breath and blink"
With time it gets better...

Nice article Zicho.

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 02:56

bwa bwa bwaaaa....NTWANA...do u realise gore u just caused me heart burn net daar_Mina i've got a crush on Mushasha akaMunyango I can't stop staring at him xa evela kuTv especially when he speaks English "I love him ol ova" hi hi hi...everyone in the office thinks i'm losing it

zuluprincess
06 Sep 2007 03:03

Remember Malik Yoba from New York undercover? from the olden days before sabc 1. I still have a crush on that guy...MALIK YOBA!!!! Hmmmm

To refresh your memory, type in his name on google search and it will show his pics.

Lemon_Lite
06 Sep 2007 03:07

@ Zuluprincess - Malik was and still is a DISH.

Annonymous
06 Sep 2007 03:13

"Anon you are nasty and where were taking the couple by the way?how old is the boy?and where is your man in this......ish"  @ Spice, the couple enjoy my company & sadly the chick doesn't know that this friendship is a recipe for disaster, not sure about the age of the boy, but he's ova 21 and as for u asking me where is my man, that's another topic, we're talking about crushes not "Love of our lives"

ngwana
06 Sep 2007 03:15

Malik Yoba was my first love. The way he dressed, the way he moved, and he even made chewing a match look cool

Gucci
06 Sep 2007 03:38

My Celeb crush is Thaps he looks like a fun person @Ngwana
Do u know that Thaps used to go out with someone u told us works with u!!! Rings a bell?

Lady.RO.
06 Sep 2007 03:44

@immaculate i can hook u up with Tuks. (Hes from NW, so jah... maybe i can)
As 4 nna, i had a crush on Steven Piennar. Dis guy really did it for me - but i don know what happened, it was last year. Damn da brada is fyn if you ask me.  Ohh jah, he plays for bafana bafana

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 03:51

Lady.RO>>>>> don't say...shoooo please help me gal all i know is that he drives a 1 series, and yes he's from north west...what else?? please huk me up with his bellaz..

Steven Pienaar...eyooo heee u got guts...isnt he a soccer player? Soccer players are so unhealthy like borotho bo white

2cool EC
06 Sep 2007 04:05

Me my celeb crushes are Hlomla Dandala, Dosto Noge.

My real crush was on this guy and we ended up going out but after a year I dumped him, realised he was not my class. Was asking myself what did I see in him, I still regret it now in fact I dont count him as my ex no ways.

pat
06 Sep 2007 04:14

mmmh interesting!!! mara nna I neva had a serious crush, 1-2 days and waaallllalllla its gone!!!

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 04:23

lucky you Pat

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 04:26

Heeey wena Pat, are we still friends by the way???? Ke kopa ATTENTION tuuu!

pat
06 Sep 2007 04:35

@ Imma ....auuu mnganam how can u say that mara? ( sob sob) ndiyakuthanda kakhulu...... plus ketla go thusa with stalking Tuks !!!!

Miss K
06 Sep 2007 04:43

Sies I don't wanna even think about crushes. At high school i had a HUGE crush for 4 yrs on this guy and everyone knew so i'm sure he knew 2. So the brother ignores me all this time but in his matric yr and i was in STD 9, he decides to ask me out and i'm like "Rha no freaking way, what took you so long? Do u want a fling before u leave school or what?" He was so shocked coz he was sure i'd say yes. Stupid bugger!

Mandlovu
06 Sep 2007 04:51

I had a crush on my aerobics instructor he was sooo cute and oh.... his body was so damn hot, I would often imagine myself touching him and I would always stand in the front row during our aerobics class so that he can notice me, just when I finally told myself ukuthi I'm gonna tell him how I feel then this very fine looking bi##! shows up who I later found out ukuthi she's the girlfriend. I was sooo crushed, I cried almost everyday for a love that never was and you know what's more funny now is that I wanted to hurt the bi##! for taking my man.

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 04:52

Sure Patzen mnganam,OPERATION STALK TUKS IS UNDERWAY.........give me whatever u got on the brother, there's nothing useable on the web

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 04:54

So sorry Mandlovu, i know the feeling_believe me. Lets go beat up this bi##

mabhebheza
06 Sep 2007 04:54

Iesh crush neh..! Especially in High School damn i had a crush on this student teacher and God he hated me Phela bengiyilezi eziphaphayo always had these funny dreams about him n me... n i cudnt wait 2go 2his class n jus stare @him n imagine my dreams but i alwys got kicked b4 the major part of dream ( am i making sense huh) anyway 

MR Sumaru im Exposing u might b blogger i still want u now plus sengikhulile!!

GQ
06 Sep 2007 05:05

what's a crush? 

Here's my example/interpretation of what a crush is: back in Vars I had this major crush on this guy from Bots with a very unbecoming name (Donald). Everytime I'd see this guy it didn't matter where I was going I'd change my route and go in whatever direction he was going. While hot in his pursuit i'd conjure up all the things I'd say to him once I'd caught up with him and even go as far as thinking of the day we'd be together as a couple & I'd share the rediculous things I used to do before we hooked up. Truth is we never hooked and he probably has no idea I had a crush on him and damn looking back i can see what a waste of time & energy it all was but at the time nothing would have stopped me from follow him like a lost puppy in search of it's owner

Lady.RO.
06 Sep 2007 05:40

Bathong wena immaculate, what about soccer players??? Never mind their doings, they tight.  Check Adriano (brazil), christiano (portugal) what more can you ask for. i so hope you these people i mentioned.  Do you that Tuks is from Mafikeng??

Lady.RO.
06 Sep 2007 05:44

Bathong wena immaculate, what about soccer players???  Never mind their doings, they tight.  Check Adriano (brazil), christiano (portugal) what more can you ask for??? I so hope you know these people is mentioned.  Do you know that Tuks is from Mafikeng

Potash
06 Sep 2007 06:06

Guys u wudnt believe my predicament. I have a crush on guy "A" who is my collegue, tuesday I found out he is getting married December. I hate his wife to be already even though I dont know her. U wud also feel de same way if u saw dis guy he is handsome, polite and respectful. Maybe if I convince myself that he is abusive I will get ova him neh. Then dez Guy "B" he told me his in love with me izolo, I dont know how I feel about him but I do feel someting. And lastly Guy "C", I bump into him almost everyday on my way to work, he is one fine brother, I can see he is feelin me coz he usually sneaks a peak at me when I pass him. Tell me guys is it possible to have so many crushes at the same time, And plz Can anyone advise me coz I didnt sleep well with all this confusion going on in my heard.

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 06:19

Potash, cry urself a river, build a bridge and get over crush A. Give crush C a smile he'll never forget, then give him a cold shoulder. Go with crush B becos men dont just say they love ppl...i'm sure he really loves u. So where's ur boyfrind?

Potash
06 Sep 2007 06:23

Dont really have one, although Crush B would like to be, his callin me his makoti. 

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 06:31

settled then. Next...

Potash
06 Sep 2007 06:38

Next wuSdumo, next wuSdumo...

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 07:04

Lady RO soccer players are dump period....oh except for U know whooo

zuluprincess
06 Sep 2007 07:12

Ngwana and Lemon_lite, Now I know that the boat didnt just rock for me only hey...

Pru
06 Sep 2007 08:15

well i suffer from all the symptoms that you have mentioned for this guy bt, the  thing is they have been there for 3 years now.mmmmhhhh could that stil be a crush ,sum1 help plz!!!!

lejazz
06 Sep 2007 08:28

I had a crush on a gal from 2004 until today.She sometimes calls me her husband.But when the time arrives for me to tell her how I feel about her she just burst into laughter.I since left her at home last year 'cos I am at varsity now.When I go home during holidays she will greets me cheerfully so and I sometimes get tongue-tied.It was a big crush 'cos some nites I will dream about she and me making love.

immaculate
06 Sep 2007 08:32

bwa bwaaa bwaaaaaaa...@ Lejazz...ke sono shem

Cande
06 Sep 2007 10:21

who has a crush on me lana?? hi hi hi

Zhico
06 Sep 2007 12:16

immaculate u could be our own sis Dolly ...great advices...

maddie
06 Sep 2007 14:55

Guys please help, i have a crush on this white boy i work with. You know mos lannies and Tender Care (TC) .
He's always going out of his way to do things for me. He offered to teach me how to drive, he makes me coffee, and he told me this other time that  I'm a nice person and most guys would to spend time with me.

we would talk during lunch with other colleaques and as soon as i mention my boyfriend,he leaves.

He didn't have a girlfriend then, now he found a new girlfriend but he's still doing all the above nice things.

Do u think that I might be misinterpreting his friendliness. the black and white thing, does it work. Please advice.

XC - how can i find ur guestbook gal

nomag001
27 Mar 2008 08:08

People I might be way too late replying on this topic but guys SIZWE is it ......

felfel
27 Mar 2008 08:20

I have a serious one right now, feel like a school gal with excitement, smile toooo much when i speak to him......


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