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What to do, what to do

Written by ngwana from the blog help me zoom in on men on 26 Sep 2007
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So I have been in an on/of “situation” with one of my guy friends for the fast five or so months. And I was at the point where I saw us growing into something more than the “booty call”.

And because I am a girl who always expresses herself, I hinted to him (let call him X) that I would like to go beyond the booty call.

So you can imagine my heartache and humiliation when I got an invite from him to join a group called BOOTY CALL RULES on Facebook.

No you know how Facebook will expose you by letting all your friends know what is happening in your world.

For those of you who are not familiar with this group this is what it says:



BOOTY CALL RULES
THIS AGREEMENT SHALL COVER THE FOLLOWING RULES AND PRINCIPLES:

1. No sleeping over - unless it is very good and we need to repeat it
in the morning.
2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events
of the evening.
3. No calls before 9 PM - we don't have s*%t to talk about.
4. None of that "lovemaking" s*%t - only sex allowed.
5. No emotional discussions (i.e. Where are we heading with this? Do
you love me?) The answer is no, so don't ask.
6. No plans made in advance - that is why you are called the‘backup,’
unless you are from
out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.
7. All gifts accepted - money is always good.
8. No baby talk - however, dirty talk is encouraged.
9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers - it's really none of
your damn business.
10. No calling each other "friends with privileges" we are not
friends, just sex buddies.
11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK - don't be offended.
12. No extra clothing - I don't want your ass leaving anything behind
when you leave.
13. No falling asleep right after sex - it's over, so get your ass
up, get dressed and go the f home.
14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it - I don't care.
15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.
16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My
roommate's girlfriend/boyfriend."
17. Doggie style is the preferred position - the reason is less eye
contact the better.
19. No condoms, no shagging. Carry your ass home.
20. Bring your own drink - I am not your liquor store.
21. No phone use, please - don't want anyone calling back looking for
your ass.



Anyway as you can imagine I will never let him near me again. He can kiss my booty goodbye.

Sorry to vent I just had to share my humiliation with People who don’t really know me. I’ve always considered my self a hardcore kinda girl. So it pissed me off that this a*$hole actually hurt me.

For me the worst part of it is that he ruined Buka ya di fatlego for me well for now, that is.

So anyway, I need a comeback ( I have to make him feel small as well ) any suggestions.



30 Comments

ngwana
26 Sep 2007 09:43

Okay, why is this blog under TV when i chose the general option.

Xhosa Chick
26 Sep 2007 09:59

Ouch. LOL. Girl, put this blog  under "general", coz its good.

Anyway, yho, sana.Us girls really dont GET it. We get emotionally attached big time, and get suprised when the man is emotionally unresponsive.

Tshd21
26 Sep 2007 10:33

Hi-hi-hi Ngwana, sori babes. I feel for you even though I can't stop lLMAOin!!! 

My 2c worth, let it go! It's not like u were forced to participate in the booty call thingee mos??? U enjoyed it while it was still going on, that is why you still continued with it right? (I am assuming here).

On the bright side though, advice me on how to find myself a sex buddy. I haven't been in a relationship for a while... 

Charming Angel
26 Sep 2007 10:50

Ngwana's, I feel your pain and as a sister i have to say , next time it must be all or nothing....otherwise these guys will carry on treating us like dirt. you need to go out there and carry on living and ignore him completely, he doesn't even deserve to be your friend. Living well and being successful is the best revenge. Forget about using another man to make him jealous, you will end up being the one hurt in the end...again! And remember one thing, women cannot be players, we were just not built for that ...no matter how tough we appear to be...


Brown Shuga
26 Sep 2007 11:06

Hawu ngwana bathong....I'm so sorry gal, it's always difficult for us women hey....
That boy o sele maan, hesses, I would burst into tears!!!


<<advice me on how to find myself a sex buddy. I haven't been in a relationship for a while... >> Tshidi gal, wa ntshegisa..he he he he but I know exactly where you're coming from!!

<<And remember one thing, women cannot be players, we were just not built for that ...no matter how tough we appear to be...>>  Too true Charming Angel, too true!!

Tashi
26 Sep 2007 19:26

(Hi Ngwana - welcome to blogging on TVSA! In case you're wondering why your blog's in a different place - we've moved out from the TV blogs to General blogs - you can access it via the tabs at the top of the Blogs Homepage by going to General)

ngwana
27 Sep 2007 02:28

Thanks Tashi

Toodecent
27 Sep 2007 02:35

I think I got something like this on email yazi..

zandii!!
27 Sep 2007 02:41

ohhh ngwana that nigga needs to be slaped anyway yu learn different things in life whn yu growin dnt regret  am sure at sum point he wanted yu and wena yu were nt there now hes just treatin yu the way he thinks yu will like had the same bt ngekhe ke kum he would neva do that to me ngoba i'd kill the F**** out of him if he'd think hes cool ok ma problem wt him is that now im inlove and yena hes nt anymore bkoz i used to play that hide and sick ngoku i miss him like craze and he made it clear that i said to him i want us to keep it physical can yu imagine !!!

spice
27 Sep 2007 02:58

Ha Ha Ha @ No 17 On a serious note Ngwana you had a raw deal babes The only thing that's gonna help you sleep @ nite is revenge 100% pure revenge I'll come back with the Recipe and ingredients

sponono
27 Sep 2007 03:04

I tnink the best person to advice you would be WHITESOCKGIRL...she will tell you exactly how to plan the bitchiest of all bitchy revenges..so holler at her pronto..coz you need to get yours back...

..but I still dont understand why you hinted when you knew it was a booty call in the first place ..anyways I supposed the sweet and loving girl inside was screaming  to get out..neh!!!.

(girls you must learn from this, decide whether une-mpene or unothando.....hi hi hi just kidding)

Dimago
27 Sep 2007 09:01

Hai ngwana...clearly you are not the booty call type, so get out now before it gets even harder.

Username
27 Sep 2007 09:10

Only the mother of all revenge is fit for this guy. A dog never forgets where it gets its bones. He will be back and inflict on him the mother of all pain. watch "two can play the game" for ideas


decide whether une-mpene or unothando

@Sponono. YhOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! hayi uwrongo.LOL. hayi umntana wabantu usemathandweni nasezintlungwini

KeleFabulous
27 Sep 2007 09:10

ja that's a big one ne. but ke women always get emotionally attached no matter how things started off. don't feel humiliated by this.  u were honest with your feelings and yena the least he coulda done was put his "lack of feelings" for u in a nicer manner but he had to do it the harsh way. i say don't do anything about it. let him be. continue being the fabulous "booty" that u r and show him u can still have a good time even without him. but, no more booty calls for you!

Xhosa Chick
27 Sep 2007 09:12

Did  you both know outright that this would be strictly physical, or it was just automatic booty call after booty call?

This is what i said to someone: we've crossed the boundaries of a pure friendship now. We cant get it back. And I cant carry on not knowing what the heck to define you as, and what you define ME as

belz
27 Sep 2007 09:31

Gaad ngwana!!! sorry gal, but a booty call is jsut that booty call, like i said on another similar blog, get it on, after the do, get your things and get the f out!!!! but i feel you coz thina abafazi we really get attached.

WhiteSockGirl
27 Sep 2007 09:34

@sponono:  Man, did u not get the news?  I lost my bitchiness because I found LOVE! hehe...

@ngwana:  No girl,  you can let the dog get away with this!  IT IS NOT ON!

You must send the list back to him with your responses.  something like this:

No sleeping over - unless it is very good and we need to repeat it
in the morning.
It was never good enough - that is why you never slept over. And I don't think you will ever be welcome to stay over because you will take a life time improving on your skills.

No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events
of the evening.
I only appear in public with good looking people. And you, baby boy, do not make for good accessorizing

No asking for comparisons with former lovers - it's really none of
your damn business.
None of them can compare to this fabulousness anyway, so why would I want to go through the trouble to ask? 




sponono
27 Sep 2007 09:34

Xhosa Chick, ungwana beka-nempene at first engazi ukuthi uzoba-nothando eventually, so she thought mpene one side mina ndiyayithanda ke le-ou ngoku, only to find ukuthi u-brothers usafuni'gqe..hi hi hi

(I think Ngwana must shag him last time and take a pic of his dick and put it up on Facebook  for all these rulemakers and peeps to see...espesh if its a totoloz....hi hi hi..I'm sure he has a tiny totoloz..that ou....thats why he doesnt want emotional attachment coz he thinks nobody wants to be attached to a tiny-totolozed guy...hi hihi

seriously, I think the guys is full of himself, he could have just told her how he fells ad let her down easy instead of giving her some stupid rules

 (they do make sense though...-rules- now that I think about them....hih ih i..but still..he's the devil)

forgive me bloggers I've had a glass or two...or three...or   I dont remember..so I'm gibberrishh$%@$$%DQ$%$

belz
27 Sep 2007 09:39

ROFLMAO @ Spopo!!!!! you sound like you've had 3 bottles not glasses!!!! hahahahahahahahhahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! ok i agree with you on the pic thing, expose him wena ngwana, he mustn't get away with it, that stupid fu**!!!!!!

sponono
27 Sep 2007 09:39

WHITESOCKGIRL.....I knew you'd have just the response she needs....I hope she takes your advice..coz those would put him in his place for sure....

and congratulations on finding that elusive thing called love...good luck...dont try too hard to nuture it or to keep it or to improve it just let it happen and enjoy the moment..... some of us are still lookin for it....

WhiteSockGirl
27 Sep 2007 09:48

@sponono:
I think Ngwana must shag him last time and take a pic of his dick and put it up on Facebook for all these rulemakers and peeps to see...espesh if its a totoloz....hi hi hi..I'm sure he has a tiny totoloz..that ou....thats why he doesnt want emotional attachment coz he thinks nobody wants to be attached to a tiny-totolozed guy...hi hihi 

That is brilliant!  I swear, you are a fabulous bitch disguised as a man!

Weiss
27 Sep 2007 09:49

Ha! Ha! Ha! LOL! ROFL! Your comments are so hillarious! I've got nothing to comment about on booty call - I've never done such a thing.

Xhosa Chick
27 Sep 2007 09:59

Are u a woman Weiss?

Weiss
28 Sep 2007 02:57

Oh! XC why do ask? Did I say something that makes you think I'm a woman??

Lex
28 Sep 2007 04:48

Eish, ngwana, hadi ne.But i think the dick-picture taking thing will put the flippin bastardo in his place.who the hell does he think he is.yes it started off as a booty call,but u developed real feelings for him,so wena o iketseng coz these feelings are ours but they control us.Sies,wa ntena that man,even tho I dont know him.
LMAOL @ totoloz kwa,kwa,kwa,kwa,kwa!

myname
28 Sep 2007 05:27

Shame ngwana sori. I know its hard bt u dont have 2 stay in some1 u know he is not into u. I think 1stly DESTROY THAT DAMN PAPER.Tel ur mind, ur heart & urself that u dont deserve this. Gil Stop calling him & delete that number bt i know its inside ur head bt just try.Stop visiting him in his house & YEKA UKUBA YI-FREIND YAKHE OR WHATEVER FREINDSHIP U HAD. Everytime u miss him just call mi "just kidding" just call some1 u know she makes u laugh loud. And thats it

KeleFabulous
28 Sep 2007 05:37

guys really i think ngwana shouldn't go the revenge route. trust me if your feelings are involved then playing such games is only gonna make things worse. i trully feel the best thing is for you to just walk away and if he calls or asks u what's changed tell him u have grown and he hasn't because u really have (ur feelings)

KeleFabulous
28 Sep 2007 05:40

guys really i think ngwana shouldn't go the revenge route. trust me if your feelings are involved then playing such games is only gonna make things worse. i trully feel the best thing is for you to just walk away and if he calls or asks u what's changed tell him u have grown and he hasn't because u really have (ur feelings)

Thapelo100
28 Sep 2007 05:53

you want some booty calls with strings/no strings,holla at this guy.....

machinjiri
06 Nov 2009 12:18

keke fabu i so agree with u where emotions r involved u shldnt play this game just let it go ngwana u wl find some1 who wl be so caring  and that person wl help u forget that goat and he daznt deserve u blve me. But why guys r women alwez treated like some dirt


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