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Will you marry me

Written by Sis Dolly from the blog Marriage Proposals on 16 Oct 2007
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Hi you’ all, I’m new. I have just decided to come out of the closet. I’ve been on this site everyday since February this year and today I finally did it. Anyway enough about me. Today I would like to talk about what every girls dream about. Being proposed to and finally knowing all the years you’ve dreamt about your wedding day are finally coming true.

We all know it’s that time of the year, and a lot of people love getting married in summer. For those who have already set the date or just got married:

-How did your man propose –details please
-Did he first ask your parents for your hand
-Who chose the ring –and off course did you check if it was diamond
-Was it something you’ve always imagined – was it your Bold and Beatiful –kinda proposal or did he ask nje?

And for those who are like me, still waiting for that gorgeous, I –wanna-have-your-babies, beautiful, strong man:

-How would you want your man propose to you
-Would you say “Yes” even if you’re not ready yet?

And finally to the guys, help the sisters here –for those who’ve just popped the question or about to

-When do you really know you are ready to pop the question, is it really about the years you’ve been together or something else?
-Why are the guys always nervous?
-Should the woman also propose and how?

And for the FUN of it girls, what are the big NO-NOs when it comes to marriage proposal? My Big NO-NO would definitely be from the movie “The Bachelor” when Jimmie (am not sure about the name) said to his Renee Zwellger “You’ve won” when he proposed.

Please share your stories or stories of people you know. Who knows maybe your boyfriend might just pop that question today

114 Comments

Sis Dolly
16 Oct 2007 03:07

Can someone please help, I want to add pics on my article

Dimago
16 Oct 2007 03:56

Interesting topic, cant wait to hear read the responses....

Toxic
16 Oct 2007 04:00

Interesting topic, cant wait to hear read the responses....

me too!!

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 04:15

I third that Dimago and Toxic(how you been gal)
He just must not think he can just say WILL YOU MARRY ME and live
it at that oh hell no!!!!
He has to use creative words to explain it,
im stil thinkin what those words should be hihihihhi

Weiss
16 Oct 2007 04:15

Interesting topic, cant wait to hear read the responses....

I would like that too...

KeleFabulous
16 Oct 2007 04:21

-How did your man propose –details please
it was last year after i had just been in an accident and was in hospital in a critical condition. i guess my man finally realised life would be empty without me gracing it everyday! i woke up from having been unconscious for 3 days and my baby boo cried his eyes out and got down on his knees and thanked God for having brought me back to him. he then got down on his knees and proposed. my whole family was there! unfortunately i had amnesia so i didn't know who the bas*** was or what the f! he was going on about!
-Did he first ask your parents for your hand
no...it was spontaneous!
-Who chose the ring –and off course did you check if it was diamond
well after i got my memory back he had to make it official ofcos. he first had a talk with my parents and they gave him their blessing and i only got the engagement ring (24 carat with this huge eye popping stone and rubies all around! damn thing's too heavy for my hand!) on the day of our lobola celebrations
-Was it something you’ve always imagined – was it your Bold and Beatiful –kinda proposal or did he ask nje?
no...i have always imagined a horse and a carriage and cindarella slippers and my man being handsome and rich as hell. at least the last 2 of my wishes came true! haaaa...life has been good to me

Cya
16 Oct 2007 04:25

I always had a dream of being proposed where there is an audience. My boyfriend is a musician and I have this drem of him proposing in the middle of a concert or jazz show perfomance.

Nah Nah
16 Oct 2007 04:28

OH............................. Kele pls dont stop we2, u should see my colgate smile as I'm reading this....I always thought things like these happen in the movies qha.....

Oooooooooh myyyyyyyyyyy Huuh..............

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 04:28

Kfab sounds like something i saw in a movie

joy
16 Oct 2007 04:35

Was it something you’ve always imagined – was it your Bold and Beatiful –kinda proposal or did he ask nje?
no...i have always imagined a horse and a carriage and cindarella slippers and my man being handsome and rich as hell. at least the last 2 of my wishes came true! haaaa...life has been good to me
>>>>> That was a touching moment, i think it does qualify as a B&B kinda proposal
I wish mine can be as half dramatic as that...when eventually i do meet my soulmate,hopefully sooooooon

myname
16 Oct 2007 04:36

cya maan thats cute gil. Mna guys i said No last year February bcoz wayedunyelwe his cousin was getting married and my freinds zathi i wl neva proposed again. So ndohlala ndinje like Mabree

Gugs
16 Oct 2007 04:36

Kebfeb I'm a sucker for romance and that story of yours just brought a tear in my face.

Lemme come back I'll tell you my story.....

myname
16 Oct 2007 04:42

mhhhh Kele some other pplz r lucky. Does ur man have other brothers?

Sis Dolly
16 Oct 2007 04:45

Comon guys -are there any romantic guys around here. These questions might have crossed your minds at some stage. Personally, it would definately be about the timing and effort put into it. I'd rather have my man involving close friends and family when surprising me. Good company, good wine and beautiful diamond ring would be enough for me.

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 04:46

Hi Sis Dolly,intersting topic indeed,well i also struggled to upload pics when i started blogging her,i was saved by BS,but i am not good at explaining the procedure so don worry somebody is gonna help you out soon.

Nna i was 21 and in College when he proposed.It was my birthday and i knew he was throwing a mssive party for me ko College that Saturday.But i could sense gore he was taliking to my friends behind my back but no one would agree to it when i confront them,so i decided to let it go.

He went out and bought me clothes for the occassion,and he also bought some for himself.What bothered me was that the clothes were a bit formal,but nevertheless i wore them.

The party was great an all until he asked me to dance with him(Peabo Bryson was playing)after the song,he went down on his knee(boy was i shaking)and he was shaking too....and he popped the question!!!!!!he bought the ring and i loved it.Parents were told later and a year later we were husband and wife,unfortunately he deceide to quit on this world earlier that we thought(MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE)

KeleFabulous
16 Oct 2007 04:54

Lady D askies ma love. mara u know what they say, tis better to have loved and lost than neva to have loved at all...

zaza don't hate the playa gal, hate the game!

unfortuanately ladies my man only has sisters...guess that's what makes him extra special.

Toodecent
16 Oct 2007 05:00

Oh now we learning how to do it..ehehehe! Lady D may his soul rest in Peace indeed. Kelefab wena you recaping a movie babes...u engaged? Nah ! Well I plan to be engaged overseas preferably Australia or the beautiful Las Vegas at a concert or something...! Otherwise if I fail to do that I plan to buy a new house have as many boxes in it as I can with a ring in one of them... take ma lady to the new house as a suprise then ask her to search for a gift that will change our lives to the better inside the house.. every corner.

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 05:04

Kele just read your respons,iyo that is sooooooooooooooooooo romantic.Couldn't have happened at the better time!!!!I Keep it girls guys,sometimes we take each other for granted until one is no more around,by that it will be too late!!!!!

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 05:06

I aint hatin kfab,okay maybe just a bit hihihi.Thats because i would like it 2 be as romantic.And YA kanti where are the GUYS IN TVSA WE NEED YOUR OPINIONS
Sorry Lady D(sounds like he was a gr8 guy)
I know some guys abare: hhe hhe we women forget that this is reality and not the movies,that its all a story line.We cany help it hhawu

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 05:06

joy
16 Oct 2007 05:14

what are the big NO-NOs when it comes to marriage proposal?
>>>>>>>>U know on tv,this main man asks his "main" gal in a fancy french restaurant, and order some dessert or champagne and the rings in there...EEEWW, unhygenic.
imagine,im chewing,then i have to take ring out my mouth...NO thanks,id refuse

myname
16 Oct 2007 05:16

oh sorry sana LadyD. Whow TDC. Some stories are so mmmmhhhhmmm ........i wish i can just sleep & wake up with a ring inside my finger. I dont want 2 hear anything bcoz i think i wil cry

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 05:18

Keke and TDC,thank you very much.Iyo TDC,you really gonna go all out for your engagement neh!!!The girl better be good at comforting if you know what i mean.

Foxy gal
16 Oct 2007 05:18

Wow TDC I love the new house & boxes idea!!!!

Foxy gal
16 Oct 2007 05:23

Lady D askies sisi, he was a gr8 guy indeed by the sounds of it (may his soul rest in peace)

mo fire
16 Oct 2007 05:23

Hi everyone

I'm going to tell you one of the options i had considered but decided against:

I would tell her that i want to throw a party for our anniversary just to get our families and friends together to show them how happy we are. I would book a marquee at the Cradle of Mankind (strictly black tie affair).

On the morning of the day i would make her breakfast as usual and tell her that there'll be a car to pick her up in the afternoon so she should be ready at 2 or whatever so she can get her gift. I would hire an executive car to pick her up (think a limo is cliche) and take her to her favourite designers store where she can pick up her dress of choice to wear that evening. At the event there'd be a live band playing and at some stage of the night i would throw my pride aside and get up and sing her some lines from Stevie Wonder's "My cherrie amour"

"My, cherie amour, pretty little one that I adore
You're the only girl my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine"

Then i'd ask her to marry me... If money was no object i'd have Stevie wonder there to sing the lines himself...

Toodecent
16 Oct 2007 05:29

hi hi hi hi...I get yah Lady D.

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 05:31

YO YO YO hhay TDC and Mo sounds good im liking it,infact i love it
make her breakfast as usual hope u not just sayin that mo

Sis Dolly
16 Oct 2007 05:32

Kele -you have a romantic brother. Good catch! Please invite us to the big day :))

Lady D - sorry to hear about your loss but its looks you met an amazing guy.

Joy -when you finally meet that special one, are you willing to go down on your knees as well?

Cya - Thats sounds romantic

TDC -You're very wise for your age but I like the way you think :))

Myname -dont give up yet

Encore
16 Oct 2007 05:37

@ Lady D
Eish man u left me speechless with ur last line after telling us such a romantic story..... may his soul rest in peace indeed.
I can not comment abt the topic at the moment...........

Trendyone
16 Oct 2007 05:40

Hai, lucky u gal. AS FOR ME, i GET IT ALL THE TIME AND FOR SOME REASON WE DON'T GET TO FINALISE ANYTHING BECOS THE DUDE'S ISSUES COME UP AND ITS NOTHING I WANNA TAKE FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. RECENTLY THIS SO CALLED BOYFRIED DID THE WHOLE NEGOTIATION AND PAID THE LOBOLA 30 GRAND THEN ON THE LONG WEEKEND OF SEPTEMBER, HE SAID HE WAS GOING AWAY TO FETCH HIS SON FO MAFIKENG, HA!!!!!!! TO MY SUPRISE THE DUDE WAS GETTING MARRIED TO THE BABY MAMA. I GUESS, I'VE ALWAYS BEEN A SUCKER FOR ROMANCE AND I KEEP FALLING FOR THESE LOOSERS. BESIDES WHATS 30 GRAND FOR A PROF. DR. ANYWAY.

BUT I MUST SAY THE WHOLE PROCESS WAS A BLISS. WE WERE ON A WEEKEND GETAWAY ON A HOT AIR BALOON JUST BEFOR SUN SET SIPING ON RED WINE AND RIGHT THERE HE ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM. IT WAS A REAL DIAMOND. I WAS OUT OF THIS WORLD FOR THAT MOMENT. BUT i'M BACK NOW AND I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THE RING AND THE 3O GRAND MY GRANNY HAS, AS ITS ALL OVER NOW

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 05:49

@Trendy (my eyes are sore y caps vele)Anyhu Keep the ring(you can cash in on it)and the lobola cash keep it too.its yours you were not at fault.Anyhu sounds like he got cash(why else would he propose 2 you and then decide 2 marry her)he wont miss the moola

joy
16 Oct 2007 05:51

@Lady D, v nice story, was expecting a happy ending, Im sorry 4 ur loss,RIP brotha!
Do u mind if i may ask,did u meet sum1 else,remarry?

@Trendy, he was such a catch neh, im dreaming of sumthing like that except marrying the babymama part

@Sis Dolly., if it did happen that i met the 1, that would make me happy enough, i can live withouth diamond ring.

KeleFabulous
16 Oct 2007 05:54

Trendyone keep the ring and the lobola money! o go tlwaela gampe! nx! some men can be such pigs!

tdc and mo haai u guys really do have fire nyani!

Renegade
16 Oct 2007 05:56

Tsho Mo...if money were not an object? Judging from everything u'd like, it doesnt seem like it will be an object. But hai, if only my man was on TVSA, my man is a very traditional zulu, i'm sure he'll just sit me down and say, "ku ncono si shade yazi", LOL, i swear, but shame, that's y i love him so much...he's just not romantic, buy his ways of showing me he loves me are special in their own right.

Renegade
16 Oct 2007 05:57

Tsho Mo Fire...if money were not an object? Judging from everything u'd like, it doesnt seem like it will be an object. But hai, if only my man was on TVSA, my man is a very traditional zulu, i'm sure he'll just sit me down and say, "ku ncono si shade yazi", LOL, i swear, but shame, that's y i love him so much...he's just not romantic, buy his ways of showing me he loves me are special in their own right.

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 06:06

"kuncono si shade yazi" gal very LOL shame hihihihihihihihi

Toodecent
16 Oct 2007 06:07

hahahahahaa Renegade u killing me ..!

myname
16 Oct 2007 06:09

@ reneg "ku ncono si shade yazi", he he he he he he he hi hi hi hi hi hi

Gugs
16 Oct 2007 06:10

Lady D askies I know how it feels been there ma self.....

The proposal heppenned in Durbs I was still staying with my mom and since he is frm Jozi he was down for the weekend. I was to meet him at musgrave that friday and I was extremely late cos I was doing my nails and hair. So when I got there he was mad but I could see he was more than happy to see me. Then he said to me let's go to that shop I'll get you a working watch cos yours it obvious it not working, while we at the shop I was busy looking at watches while he was looking at rings then he said "baby will you be my wife and move to Jozi so that I won't have to wait for hrs to see you, I can see you every morning" and I said yes thinking that he was joking. then he said to me ok which ring do like? I chose the most expensive off all. And the ring was mine.

Six months later we were married and four months later he passed away

Annonymous
16 Oct 2007 06:12

"ku ncono si shade yazi", @ Renegade FLMAO at this comment, it's so typical!!!

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 06:15

Ouch man sorry Gugs mara im sho ukuthi those were the best 10 months of your life and they shall be with you forever

Annonymous
16 Oct 2007 06:18

@ Gugs...................wow I'm speechless the guy sounds so sweet I'm sorry that u had to go thru such a painful loss.

Tshd21
16 Oct 2007 06:19

Interesting topic Sis Dolly! Hi-hi and Kelefab's response hi-hi-hi Gal, u r blessed!!

No-one has ever proposed to me, so I'll just stick to checking y'all's responses.

TDC: My bra, I am recovering from failing my driver's licence test!!! Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!

Sdakamiswa
16 Oct 2007 06:21

She did not live long enough for me to do it (the proposal)………….in my mind I had always known how I wanted to do it… the plan was to go away for a wknd…….it took me about eight months to save up the money 4 lobola, I was starting to save for the engagement ring and the weekend away…. I had always known what design of ring she wanted and I was going to buy her 1 without consulting/telling her. I wanted to propose with the ring in hand + ilobola ebankini……..

I had known she was the one, being happy + compatible & comfortable with each other + no major issues to deal with, I couldnt see my life without her….

If I could have one wish in my entire life, it would be to have her live again.

myname
16 Oct 2007 06:28

@Gugs eish as i was stil reading, smile on my face en Boom gil im sorry

Renegade
16 Oct 2007 06:28

Oh no Gugs, thats really sad, I hope you ok. Lady D, condolences to you as well. But like Kele said, Its better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all.

Guys, you musnt laugh at my man shem, he's jst traditional like that...hehe

myname
16 Oct 2007 06:31

hayi sdakamiswa maan how sweet of u man.

Pooky
16 Oct 2007 06:32

@Kele Oooooooh bethuna that is so sweet... snif snif sniff .... and he waisted no time in proposing. You are both very blessed. All the best for the rest of your lives.

KeleFabulous
16 Oct 2007 06:33

guys this is so sad bandla...i wasn't expecting to hear stories like yours when i saw this blog. i am trully am sorry for your losses u have no idea. eish!

myname
16 Oct 2007 06:33

sorry nhe

Toodecent
16 Oct 2007 06:35

Shame Tshidi.... gotla loka nnaka. Do u want me to comfort yah..? hi hi hi if you know what i mean ehehehe! Just kidding!

mo fire
16 Oct 2007 06:37

Eish guys these are some painful stories... there's nothing harder than losing a loved one. I'm sorry for your losses...

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 06:39

Thanks everybody,to answer your question Joy:Its been like 3 years now but i cant really say i have somebody serious.I just go out on dates and have fun,maybe its because all the guys i meet do not measure up to my late husband.

Gugs girl,i am so sorry!!!But i and i know that he is forever in your thoughts,every day of your life!!!

Trendyone i see gore you are very upset(Capital letter!!) but i say keep the ring and let your granma spend the money,you dont owe his eish!!!!

Rene hai wa mpolaya,but you know traditional man are romantic in a more traditional way,i kinda like them,they always keep it real!!!!

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 06:39

Thanks everybody,to answer your question Joy:Its been like 3 years now but i cant really say i have somebody serious.I just go out on dates and have fun,maybe its because all the guys i meet do not measure up to my late husband.

Gugs girl,i am so sorry!!!But i and i know that he is forever in your thoughts,every day of your life!!!

Trendyone i see gore you are very upset(Capital letter!!) but i say keep the ring and let your granma spend the money,you dont owe his eish!!!!

Rene hai wa mpolaya,but you know traditional man are romantic in a more traditional way,i kinda like them,they always keep it real!!!!

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 06:39

MY STORY IS *CRYING PAINFULLY* MHHH HE PROPOSED I AGREED HE PAID THE LOBOLA THE NEXT MONTH WHN HE HEARD TO FINISH IT THEY CAME BACK DEMANDED THE LOBOLA AMD EXPLAINED THAT MA MAN FINDED HIS
SOUL MATE SO IT WAS IT HE WAS STILL LOOKIN!!!

anyone of yu guys who needs sm1 like me holla please im gtn old now!!

Miss K
16 Oct 2007 06:40

Ohhh come on you guys, u making me cry with these bitter sweet stories. Life is short hey?

Gugs
16 Oct 2007 06:44

@ Zaza it was the best I promise you....

@Nonny He was an angel god had better plans for him

Nah Nah
16 Oct 2007 06:48

Ha ha ha hah a hahahaha..........................

Zandii..........................I'm sorry Lol for laughin at your story but are you bein serious?

you should'nt have given bak that Lobola my darling.............that was some serious Emotional abuse!! & u needed some councillin for that ish & the lobola mula would have come in Handy.....(Retail Therapy should have been the 1st one) He he hehe he heeeee Amarora ngooo Toki sometimez.....

Sis Dolly
16 Oct 2007 06:49

Lady D, Gugs and Sdakamiswa -Just when you guys find what some of us could only dream of , you loose those gems. Sorrini bethuna. This is really sad

Trendyone -Keep that ring, its rightfully yours

More fire : one of the options i had considered but decided against but would you wanna decide against it?

Renegade : "ku ncono si shade yazi" LOL

Lady D
16 Oct 2007 06:50

In most cases when you are in pain or having problem you turn to think that its only you against the world,its only in moment like this when you realise that its not that God does not love you or that you are alone,there are people who have more problems that you,in fact you then realise that your situation is nothing as compared what other people have undergone.

Zandi are you for real????People can definately be rude and totally inconsiderate!!!IYO

Lerata
16 Oct 2007 06:52

I am starting to have doubts about ya'll endings! If it is true, I apologise, if not, why le dlala so...?

Banna ba bangwe ba romantic waitse! Zandii, If you do find someone, please ask him if he has a brother/uncle or something along those lines!

Zazacious
16 Oct 2007 06:54

Demanded the lobola at Zandi what a cheek yazi,I hope you told him to go fly.

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 06:57

MNXXXXM ive always been intombi yomoya half of ma life i doubt smtyms men they use to look at me nge future faces bkos those who did i dump them early bt
now i really need to gt married anyway im in love wt ma main man mhhh i can smell i lobola being paid cash all of it I TOLD MA DAD IF SM1 DECIDES TO FINALLY CUM IT MUST BE CASH ON DELIVERY bfo he changes his mind!!!

@ lady d sorry gal we learn life ngendlela ehlukile may GOD bless yu wt a good heartd man pray for him and dnt panic yu are very young!!!

Gugs
16 Oct 2007 06:57

Thank you guys,you all so sweet ..... All I can say is time heals..... cos now I can talk about him without messing up my make up....

@Trendyone what you gonna say when he wants to make you the other girl?

Foxy gal
16 Oct 2007 06:59

Lady D, Gugs & Sdakamizwa - Thank u for sharing your stories, U have made me fall in love all over again with my husband & now I'm gona make sure that I don't take life/him for granted starting now (ring ring calling him)!!!

Guys sorini 4 what happened to ya'll , hope it made u strong in a way *group hug*!!!!!

Gucci
16 Oct 2007 07:05

Nice one Sis Dolly...are u the Drum Sis Dolly?(Jokes)...LOL

It's so sad that the nicest ladies and gents leave this World at a stage they are needed most, but I trust that the Lord had a reason and we should never doubt his plans....enuf of that. Sorry to all of you who lost ur loved ones and to those whose loved ones decided otherwise 'Zandi and Trendy" (I'd clap them the minute I see them just for u if I could)

On a serious note, not everyone of us is going to get married, that's a fact and as it is, Women out-number Men...and more and more Men become Gay. It is now survival of the fittest.

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 07:07

he he he he HAMBA durban every after each song guys they had this thing SICELA AMANDLA GUYS*2,SICELA AMANDLA GALS *2 can yu imagine i was laughin they love house too much (sorry am out of topic it crossed ma mind)

TO all of the bloggers out there i think yu guys have got good hearts keep up the good work + no one needs counsellin here we are abo DR PHIL thina kuqala

love yu all peace out
yo's on duty zandii!!

Renegade
16 Oct 2007 07:10

@LadyD - I know wat you mean, i think thats what attracted me to him in the first place, the way he does things, it's just so raw.

@Sdaka - that really is sad. I echo my sentiments to Lady D and Gugs. My condolences

@Zandi - Heee bathong, does stuff like that really happen? Tsho, that man wahlanya. And the sad thing is that you cant really force him to stay when u can see he so clearly doesn't want to! Hai, mara yena he's a loser, and u r better off without him, so its better you found that out earlier that later...Damn...his nerve!

J-Girl
16 Oct 2007 07:27

hayi maan zisad ezizinto ndizivayo, aai, kanti people are how?
if and when J-Man decides to pop the question I hope he does it in style (i like the hot baloon scenario) but i hope for him to be original eish but i'm not sure ngaMashangani ne creativity...a girl can dream...
sis dolly u are the SUPA ST*RR of the day for bringing this to us...
MMCCCWWWAAHH!!!

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 07:35

GUYS ONCE MORE I WAS NEVA DUMPED SORRY I MAINTAIN MA FACE * DOING SURGERIES*I LOOK 17 HONESTLY SO THERES NO WAY SM1 CAN PROPOSE SUCH A CHILD *EVIL LOOK TO ALL*

Dimago
16 Oct 2007 07:40

Eish guys (Gugs, Lady D& Sdakamizwa), i'm sorry to hear of your losses.
Trendy, you are better off without the bugger!
Kfab, i wonder if they still make men like yours....
Mo-fire, i'm gonna send my man for lessons from you

Toodecent
16 Oct 2007 07:54

If only I had Warren Buffets money cause he doesnt know or wanna spend it I would propose to thee lady of mine 1500 feet away from the ground.. re shaya round nje in a jet that is designed to be a house. Wine,Jacuzzi the most expensive underwear for her in the world.... with the most delicious food. Eish I would even train to get a six pack just for the occasion.

Damn....! My Sweet Dreams..indeed!!

Pooky
16 Oct 2007 08:34

Lady D, Gugs, Sdaka - i'm really sorry for your loss guys, keep strong!
Trendyone - remember uLady Karma...she doesn't sleep a wink sisi... what goes around comes back around - u'll find someone who's 110% better with a bigger,beautiful heart and even a bigger ring... you watch

Pooky
16 Oct 2007 08:50

@Sdaka: "If i could have one wish in my entire life, it would be to have her live again" - i just happen to come across that last line again, it really got to me... cant hold in my tears... once again, sorry for ur loss.

mathata
16 Oct 2007 09:22

bathong why cant shuga resonpond,i smell the tweba

Sdakamiswa
16 Oct 2007 09:31

Ndiyanibulela NONKE for the kind words, thanks guys, sharing the loss/pain with people who understand & feel your pain does reduce the pain a tiny little bit ........it is still very painful though.

Segololo
16 Oct 2007 09:48

Ha ha ha ha ! Zandii! Never! ha ha ha ha! Hahah ha! ehe maan Zandii!! Nooo Nooo! Ha ha h aha ha ha!!

Zandii: Are you really serious?

Sis Dolly
17 Oct 2007 00:45

Thanks guys for sharing

chitty
17 Oct 2007 04:30

Interesting topic sis dolly. Wish i could comment but i haven't really thought of it.

sweetie my baby
17 Oct 2007 23:37

this is such a sweet one - thanks man, Sis Dolly - my proposal was simple, but o so sweet, i still get warm when i think about it. i was lying in bed chatting with my guy, who was a friend, turned boyfriend, and we were talking about little hiccups and issues we had in our road from becoming friends to lovers (dating other people, denying the attraction to mutual friends and our significant lovers, etc etc)

anyway - there was always something that didn't sit right with me, but i couldn't quite identify it - but i felt whatever it was was causing a bit of a distance between us - then he opened up and told me something that made everything fall into place, and made it all so clear, and most importantly, cleared up all my doubts.

as i lay there, with an overwhelming feeling of relief and gratitude, thinking 'oh thank you. okay, finally i feel like we can move forward properly' he gave me this strange/sweet loving look, and i was like 'what, why're you looking at me like that?' and he popped the question,..it was so unexpected, i just stared at him for about a minute before i said 'yeeeeaaaah!!!' ....

after a blissful year of engagement, he was killed in a car accident - but i'm forever grateful for knowing him and having him in my life....

it's amazing to me how many of us have gone through this, you feel so alone when it happens, and then you realise, so many people have walked this painful, painful path.... anyway, no more tears - it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, so they say... and i agree. happy thursday!

sweetie my baby
17 Oct 2007 23:43

eish, then just remembered another bullsh!t proposal i got from a recent ex, via SMS in the middle of the night - he was at the bar (drunk) with his friends, and i got woken up, spooked thinking 'iyo, something must be wrong, why's he sms'ing at this hour?' and i get this 'so, sishada nini?' on my phone.... waitse... and at that hour, i had to struggle to properly understand the zulu, as sleepy as i was, i thought i was misreading things...

when i called him back to be like, 'hey? you send such messages ka SMS, monna?' he says he was just joking. FOOLISH!! kinda like the boy in high school who phoned to ask me out on April fools day - when i gave him the 'i like you, but as a friend' response, he's like 'yeah yeah, april fools day.' we both knew he was LYING, he wanted me, and he knows it....to this day, he still looks at me sheepishly when we bump into one another!

Porche
18 Oct 2007 01:08

Happy Thursday everyone, nice one Sis Dolly. Very touched by everyone stories and TDC's fantacies dreamers are heros. I am very sorry for those who loved and lost cherish the memories.

nonzuzo
18 Oct 2007 01:31

guys... such sad stories.it really goes to show that we have to be greatful and appreciate what we have. CAUTION : The story may be too long
My story is a blare to what most people have related .I have been married for three years but to tell you the truth i have no idea where it all started. I am married to a Zulu guy and am also zulu, so some of you will understand me.All i know is i was forever telling him i wanted to leave home cos my alcoholic brother was a pain, I actually wanted us to move in together. He was hell bent on that,"the principled man of mine".He would never use me like that he said.I felt soo loose for suggesting. He then started "talking" about marriage and "asked" whether i was ready for it. (with him of course). i said yes and we went shopping for rings,we bought this five pair ring, he gave me the part with the big stone and kept the other four for "our wedding day".I didn't mind.Then on the day of my "umembeso" he arranged for a priest to come bless us as we exchanged our vows. I had no idea. once the ceremony was over he told me "we were exchanging our vows and he had brought the other rings". I was soo shocked.We then did and he told me after that, that my wishes could now be fulfilled "we could then move in together". We moved in together and i thought we were done and he told me that the next year after that current year we'd be having our "white wedding". We had our white wedding last year AND i got another wedding ring.
So even though i did necessarily have a decent proposal. He made up of it in the end. I am soo blessed to have him.

sponono
18 Oct 2007 02:20

nonzuzo its sounds like wa-jikeleza in a romantic way though

KeleFabulous
18 Oct 2007 02:43

ja ne

Berg
18 Oct 2007 04:09

Hai bathong my man proposed to me @ 12 midnight on 31/12 it was such a shock to me!!!! Here is the stori we went to a friends house for new year's eve and he has neva seen me drinkng but knew i touch a bit then he asked me my fav, told him en yha I was drinkin en ol. I noticed he wasnt drinkin den I stopped so nt to embarrass maself and he kept a close eye on me and da clock. Suddenly wen we were counting down the year @ 2...1 he was lyk " Baby will u b my wife" iyho I cried it was so sweet how he said it. 2 yrs l8r we had a son and lobola negotiations were on bt now 5 yrs l8r we r separeted !!!!

Toodecent
18 Oct 2007 04:25

ish...happens all the time.

gautababes
18 Oct 2007 04:51

-How did your man propose –details please
We've been dating for 3 months after knowing each other for 5 years, he was driving me home after our date, when we got his place to get my car he came to open my door (a gentleman indeed) I was about to get off and saw him on his knees and asked "love will you marry me" I just took the ring put it on my finger and cried my eyes out ( I liked the ring) when i calmed down he took off the ring and said I'm waiting for an answer of course I said yes he put the ring back on my finger. three weeks later lobola negotiations began got married in March.

Did he first ask your parents for your hand
Only after he proposed
He chose the engagement ring and I chose my wedding ring
Not exactly what I magined but who cares.

tshepiso
18 Oct 2007 04:57

He he ehe heeeee! I cant remeber anything about my proposal. it was not romantic, it was straight to the point on a sober mind. he was one of those illeterate Pedis.
he just goes like this: hee maabo o botsise ba heno hore ba ka batla bokae for lobola., and just change the topic.so, i am divorced and simply awaiting for a romatic proposal from someone

Toodecent
18 Oct 2007 05:03

Yah neh...nna am starting to think otherwise..why okare you are all engaged or have been engaged..? Is this the version of the Hollywood's young, rich and famous? An engagement to them is the same as I love you!

Zazacious
18 Oct 2007 05:26

Ya TDC its like evryone' got engaged at some point in their lives.
Makes me feel so bad so lonely here at my home TVSA coz I am yet 2 find DIE EEN

Mambox
18 Oct 2007 06:15

My deepest condolences to everyone who lost their loved ones especially you GUGS being my home girl...i used to go to Musgrave a lot...so when i was busy reading your story i was imagining it vele seeing you walking into musgrave centre...thinking which jewelery shop you might have gone to...it all seems so really to me and kinda like a fairy tale i'd like to experience too...but then what a sad ending hey....

Wena sweetie my baby stop hanging around kids Hhay hhay!! no grown man would do such a thing...the april fools one is sooooooo primary school.

half cent
18 Oct 2007 06:59

i meet the sugar daddy of my dreams while in my teens,she proposed after i turned 21,2 years later we did a white wedding, only for him to be hit by truck on his way from work.may his soul rest in piece.lol

Mama
18 Oct 2007 07:08

What a very sad chapter,"half cent".!!!!

eish, mina i have problem,it seems like i only attract abo "suger Daddy" and am only in my mid-twenties!!!!!!! even tiny for that matter>>>>but men who are like in their late fourties chase after me, left, rite n center!!!!!!!

sjura
18 Oct 2007 07:12

maybe u look old! LOL!

myname
18 Oct 2007 07:18

hayi halfcent

Mama
18 Oct 2007 07:20

"maybe u look old! "
am not even gonna start describing myself. "sjura". i dont and i know i dont.

I just cant understand, what's up with old men, ba di mpa tse di kima,chasing after tiny "chiks"

unathi
18 Oct 2007 07:20

Yazi Sdakamiswa, le username yakho indikhumbuza uReal Goboza ngoku UIsmael wayesithi abantwana bangasebenzisi izidakamizwa if bayazinikwa they should give them to him.

Floh
18 Oct 2007 07:23

Hhayi Zandi uyan'gqiba, so now u want cash on delivery, what was it @ first cause you said they demanded it (Lobolo) back? But you should also tell Daddy to demand o bokfela and sell them quickly , so if they come ( Abalingani) and want them back, he must tell them they died last winter.

sweetie my baby
18 Oct 2007 07:32

@ Mambox, the scary thing is that he was quite a bit older than me!!!!!!! like.... OLDER, okay? but so very immature, which is why we just couldn't hang...

Weiss
18 Oct 2007 07:33

"maybe u look old! "
am not even gonna start describing myself. "sjura". i dont and i know i dont.
You'd be surprised, Mama 'cause to me your name tells another story to me, perhaps if you had a different name like - maybe "Babes" I would be thinking differently

andi01
18 Oct 2007 07:33

@mama no wonder abasugar daddy r chsing after u , u r so matured almost mamish, take ur usename for example "mama" says a lot about u. that u already see u self as a parent

sjura
18 Oct 2007 07:35

xclty Weiss

Mama
18 Oct 2007 07:39

What does a name have to do with everything???????? >>>>>>>>>>>>>>cum on!!!!!!!!!

Sarafina
18 Oct 2007 07:42

This is a nice topic well i want my wedding day to be perfect and pink to be the colure

Floh
18 Oct 2007 07:43

@ Zandiiiiii and Half cent..........................Please people try to put your stories in polite way, cause I'm laughing my ass off @ your stories , and is not that i dont have sympathy, i do sympathise with you guys.

@ Nzuzo you must be gold finger now........ LOL.

sjura
18 Oct 2007 07:49

m sho u can figure that one out for urself.

andi01
18 Oct 2007 07:49

No mama no, yazi ever since u arrived i feel kinda weird, i feel as though i need to watch mu language & be respectful coz "mommy" is around, hay sisi pls.

nonzuzo
18 Oct 2007 07:50

@floh LOL back at ya .....I change the rings depending on my mood on that day. Sometimes I put one on my necklace and have it hand next to my heart.

sjura
18 Oct 2007 07:56

later guyz m outa here.

tshepiso
18 Oct 2007 08:00

@sjura - maybe u look old! ha ha ha
who knows.

Mama
18 Oct 2007 08:05

"No mama no, yazi ever since u arrived i feel kinda weird, i feel as though i need to watch mu language & be respectful coz "mommy" is around, hay sisi pls."

houw bathong>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

zandii!!
18 Oct 2007 08:15

guys ma work load is just too much today + ive gt family issue wish i was married nyhani ngoku dnt need the cash on delivery anymore yu can pay the instalments 24 months to pay!!

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