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Misadventures...of office parties

Written by joy from the blog Misadventures... on 13 Jan 2008
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2008: out with the old, in with the new. 2weeks into the year, what New Year’s resolutions have you broken so far, if you made any? 2weeks into the year, the holiday and the festive season still fresh on our minds, I hope y’all enjoyed every moment!

Let’s look back…It’s the end of the year schools and work closed, time to celebrate! Matric balls for matriculants, end of year bash ko varsity and… the office Christmas party! Magazines always come up with the list of things to do and to avoid during an office party.
Like a good babe, I followed these last year :- ) This was not the case for mna in December 2006 :- (

DO’S
Commandment one: Thou shall attend the office party (whether you like it or not)
This is a networking opportunity to schmooze with the big bosses (your boss’ boss), use it to your advantage. Not pitching up will bring the spotlight on you, for the wrong reasons.

Commandment two: Thou shall keep your hands to yourself and dress appropriately.
This was an easy one 4me last year, as there’s a S-E-R-I-O-U-S lack of handsome brothas in this company!

Commandment three: Thou shall thank the organiser and the bosses (for at least pretending to appreciate you). This may improve your chances of getting a raise, a promotion and all the perks, maybe not; I don’t know you tell me.

DONT’S
The BIGGEST commandment: thou shall not get drunk!
Rather arrive there drunk already to avoid this.

The staff party began, the decorations, the food, drinks – mainly cooldrinks, there was a serious lack of alcoholic drinks. The closest thing to alcohol was Brutal Fruit. To pass time, I started sipping on them, it tasted like juice so I downed quite a few. We sat down, the wine started flowing, then the conversation and it became louder and louder. My hips started to flow as well as I “danced” (the song: Ridin Dirty, Chamillionaire), mingled and yes, flirted!

Second Commandment: thou shall not pig-out on the food buffet
Don’t arrive on an empty stomach, because the alcohol will go straight to your head (see commandment one), rather eat something before you get there.

Bahlali, this is a tough one 4me, I spent my money on Xmas prezzies 4myself, and my kitchen cupboard is empty. If there is free food (ndiyawuvula umqala kwicala lezi) then I am there!!

Commandment three: thou shall not flirt
Andile, from the Accounts department may look attractive under bar light, but not so under unflattering office lighting. So, ignore your inner predator. Workplace romances or even worse, one night stands can be disastrous!!!

There was a guy who had apparently been telling other people that he likes me, but never mentioned that to me. When we talked it was just things in general nje, but people assumed otherwise. He went after another girl there and used commandment one against me, saying “people are no longer attractive when drunk”. Ha! I was like: “Well you chubby little pig how dare you, you’re not so attractive even when you’re sober!”

I never drank just for the sake of getting drunk after that, LOL. Not for his sake I want to state!!!

1. Have you followed all the do’s and are on your way to the top?
2. Have ever gotten drunk at an office party and did or say something you regret? Or did you break the rules and survived? Anyone danced on the table?? :- )
3. Have you ever been caught up in an office romance? Did it work, proving that it’s not really such a disastrous thing to do?
4. Have you had an office affair and it blew up in your face? (Don’t worry you can share, you’re not the only that it happened to)
5. Have you ever had a one night stand with a colleague, could you look them in the eye after it? Or did it blossom into a love relationship?



 

Or you done ALL of the above, or know some1 who did!? Please share!!



49 Comments

joy
13 Jan 2008 01:23

The beauty of growing older is the gift of hindsight, now I can look back at my past mistakes and know I never shall repeat those again!

mabhebheza
13 Jan 2008 09:39

haha ha yah neh ...office parties..mabebheza tries 2avoid these coz the are too many temptations!

Tashi
13 Jan 2008 10:07

Hi Too Curious - a headsup that we've moved your blogs to under General Blogs.

libra
13 Jan 2008 15:48

The only place u get 2c the other side(at times unappealing) of ur colleagues that u never thought existed.i attend them but leave asap meaning b4 men start flirting bcos they have had a few.they can turn out ugly-ask that robert mcbride

sjura
13 Jan 2008 16:01

nice article 2c....bt no comment frm me.

Lex
14 Jan 2008 00:39

Iyoo,office parties.People were kissing and flirting and because I'm always sober,I took a lot of photos for the next day so everyone could see what they were up to LOL!

Toodecent
14 Jan 2008 00:42

Aahahahhaha! Now I wish i was working for a big company..!

Cnglemother
14 Jan 2008 00:44

I kissed (sloppy kissing with tongue and all that) one of our clients that attended our  Xmas party and when i saw his photo the following monday i got so flabbagersted, he was the most unattractive white man ever. I still cant cant get over it, its almost three years since it happened, it was my first time kissing a white  guy and it had to be the him. I still come accross his photo when browsing for old photos and i still say what was i thinking? Thank goodness he never attended any other parties after that, i have become very conservative & shy at parties since that incident.

Msoe
14 Jan 2008 00:59

Hey ours was so boring and the worst thing of all it was in our offices, ubasi wethu ave ewungoqo (stinch). Anyway i didnt drink because i wasnt into it, there were playing white music and everyone was just sitting down chatting and all. It was that boring.

tender tee
14 Jan 2008 01:23

our's was a total bore as well , there was no booze and the dj was some boring white dude who played classical music throughout, working for government really sucks, 
@tdc i wish i could work for a big company Amen to dat!!!!

monchooza
14 Jan 2008 01:29

i use to work for a very big well known Company and then came the year end bash where all the big boss's bosses attend and then monchooza got too flippin drunk and then i told my boss the way to get off, and then they other guys i work with tried ukungikhuza but i told each and every one of them crap until i left *by the way i planned the whole thing of telling each and every one of them i skrep, i knew i would blame it all on the booze* and then came monday i had to apologise to each and every one of them i told them i indulged too much in in the intoxicants bangixolela *even though mina i knew ukuthi ngibatshelile okusalayo...........now at my present company siyi 7 so you can imagine how our year end parties can be boring

Pooky
14 Jan 2008 01:36

blaming  it all on the booze hey  Monchoo...hi hi hi

Toodecent
14 Jan 2008 01:44

now at my present company siyi 7 so you can imagine how our year end parties can be boring>>>> Skeem saka same here we are 7 so we have dinner or braai maybe with partners.

Monchooza you and I should go look for a job ko 999 just for the year end functions my outhi LOL

Only 9 new members to register before TVSA officially have 10 000 members .. Hard Work does pay off..!

Pooky
14 Jan 2008 01:53

Only 9 new members to register before TVSA officially have 10 000 members.. Hard Work does pay off..!

.. and i'm sure you'll reach 10 000 before the end of tomorrow.... and by the way, how old is TVSA ????

monchooza
14 Jan 2008 01:53

999 might not be such a bad one especially for the year end functions.....cause i will be sikaring the cake with dudu their fat dancer

joy
14 Jan 2008 01:55

1. Have you followed all the do’s and are on your way to the top?
Yes, last year i did and i wil wait until june 2c if it paid off
On office affairs, YEP, disaster! it was my "first job" (i was still a student doing practicals) i was shagging a guy, he fell in love and every1 was feeling sorry 4him. I dnt kno y, coz he was having his cake and we both enjoyed, but i came out the bad guy, hawu = Double standards,mnxxxxxm! never made that mistake ever, never will, learned 4rm experience!

Toodecent
14 Jan 2008 01:56

999 might not be such a bad one especially for the year end functions.....cause i will be sikaring the cake with dudu their fat dancer>>> Ahahahahahahaha... not a bad choice especially wih those stetch skills she has..LOL

joy
14 Jan 2008 01:59

Only 9 new members to register before TVSA officially have 10 000 members.. Hard Work does pay off..! who and where r they, can u imagine having all 9991 members replying all at once?
>>>cause i will be sikaring the cake with dudu their fat dancer<<< LOL!

myname
14 Jan 2008 02:16

Our christmas party was so boring bcoz i didnt enjoy the food & shame our man are not so attractive so we just chat then i went home early. About the booze no one ordered alcohol every1 wanted i-juice. Thina sasiyi 8

myname
14 Jan 2008 02:24

About umjolo e-ofisini hayi ke leyo its a big NO NO & i never tried it but ke u never know

carino
14 Jan 2008 02:25

At my previous job, I was always the one taking people's pics coz i was doing the newsletter and updating intranet.. so i got my big boss to do some funny poses. 

The bad - Nov '06 - i got so intoxicated i told my supervisor i dont understand how she's been doing her job for 11 yrs. I told her her job is so boring i could do it with my eyes closed. You can imagine her attitude in Jan.. I was so embarrassed. 

But now we only 9, and i didnt go to the "xmas lunch" last year.

joy
14 Jan 2008 02:42

Not pitching up will bring the spotlight on you, for the wrong reasons i dnt go 2 a party of the boss, yho i was in die k*k 4that, so i had 2show up kwi xmas party, they r boring! but ke if its gd 4 ur career, y not.

Office mjolo, atleast i can say i was young and stupid then, if i knew then what i know now...

Cnglemother
14 Jan 2008 02:43

Umjolo in my office is very common, there's like 6-7 couples already, and they all met in this company and two couples are engaged (how nice). Carino uworse, no wonder you lost yr job.

Pooky
14 Jan 2008 02:57

... and i'm sure you'll reach 10 000 before the end of tomorrow

guess i should have said before 11am this morning ne,9998.... a big WOW

monchooza
14 Jan 2008 02:59

LOL carino

awelani
14 Jan 2008 03:01

Hi Guys,  People @ work always look 4ward to our xmas party (free booze and food).  But last year one guy had too much to drink, he was mixing all kinds of booze, he was falling all over the place, dancing and ended up kaking on himself. Few days after the party, he was so ashamed he spent most of his tym in the boardroom and now he is on leave.  

Oh ya, and the guy is my nephew (33yrs old), so u can just imagine the embarrasement on my face.

And some of the ladies I work with stole some of the meat, we had a spit-braai and lotsa meat.

Toodecent
14 Jan 2008 03:05

Only 1 moore now Pooky...I hope you guys arent having thouand usernames just to make the number big.

Pooky
14 Jan 2008 03:13

awelani...LOL your nephew kaking in his broek is a masterpiece shu... they'll neva stop talking about him. he sure gives a new meaning to the word party-pooper.

... and some of the ladies i work with stole some of the meat...
i''m sure they went there bephethe izikhaftina, those big ice cream ones... sounds so like (abo my sista), you know how we sistas like to come prepared sometimes mos.

joy
14 Jan 2008 03:16

omnye umama omdala we work with was embarassing me, hawu, she was downing bottles of alcohol, she says she cant drink them when  home, so this is her opportunity, im the 1 who was embarrased

hope you guys arent having thouand usernames 
taht is too much and energy! anyway baphi man?

awelani
14 Jan 2008 03:18

@Pooky :i''m sure they went there bephethe izikhaftina, those big ice cream ones... sounds so like (abo my sista), you know how we sistas like to come prepared sometimes mos........they had izikhafuthina, and the snacks what were left, they also did a disappearing act.

Toodecent
14 Jan 2008 03:22

There we go Ten Thousand and One Members of TVSA.

Lex
14 Jan 2008 03:24

Then there was this cute boy here at work,he was the drunkest person at the party,and everyone was complaining what a waste of beauty (or rather handsomeness)that was.He was poep dronk and he pissed himself and shame he didnt care.He was talking to everybody,he even went to the circle of directors and sat down with them,took a glass and poured himself their booze,just like that.

Preshiii
14 Jan 2008 03:31

Hayi suka man, mna ndidikiwe zezipati ze office ngo December....we had lots of them & they chowed my money...from begining November, if it wasn't a baby shower, it was a kitchen party, then a pre-pre-end year function party, then the pre-one, then the one before the one.....you get my drift...mna ziyangi khinya eziparty..the less said about them, the better! 

I think they were just looking for a reason to plough our hard-earned bonuses back into the company, cause you always had to pitch with a pressie for this & that person...and this was EVERY WEEK FROM NOVEMBER TILL MY LAST DAY AT WORK: 14 DECEMBER 2007! Tjeerrrrrrrr..................

Anyway......I know it's the 14th, mara nizakundixolela I have to pay my dues, so here goes........HAPPY 2008 TVSA's Dude's & Dudettes! So glad to be back!

myname
14 Jan 2008 03:38

lol @ cariono & awelani

joy
14 Jan 2008 03:43

he sure gives a new meaning to the word party-pooper. LOL!!!!!!!!! a 33yr old man, how is he ur nephew, if i may ask Awelani??

Hayi theres always that 1 person who cant draw the line with alcohol, why besenza nje? this guy fell on the steps and had 2b carried 2bed

Happy 2008 2u2!!!!!!!!!!

am i the only 1 who cant c these non-existant 10000 members?

Segololo
14 Jan 2008 04:04

oh! Why remind me?

last year there was no party so we got vouchers to spend as we liked... I was pissed off because I wanted a party! My company throws mega parties with all kinds of music peeps that you feel you are at a concert - How I loved and missed that party last year!! Damn!

A couple of years back, 6 years to be exact, this white dude and I had a major crush on each other but I think we were really uncertain how peeps would react to us dating - mixed couple syndrome! Damn apartheid! So at that year's year end do we kinda danced a lot together, downed a lot of booze and smoked hubbly bubbly right in the party together... needless to say we ended up smooching so much even as we left the party, we kept stopping every 2 km's for a moonlight smooch  (shhuuu!) - we parted well on the offramps to our differnt homes..

the next morning, I got to work and he was waiting by my parking spot with a huge grin on his face and grabbbed me to give me a huge kiss.... I was very uncomfy about the public affection and all and still worried about the mixed couple syndrome, so I confessed and he was so pissed off that he resigned! He left exactly 30 days after that incident and sent me a couple of nice emails from London, I replied to some and he kinda stopped sending and wouldn't reply to mine!

joy
14 Jan 2008 04:29

>>>>Damn apartheid! <<<6 years ago?? lol
he was so pissed off that he resigned!<<< i hope he dnt hang himself, wow u must hav given him smthng  angazange ayive! sounds romantic, love it, sad ending tho, aaaaaaaawwwwww!

awelani
14 Jan 2008 04:41

@joy: a 33yr old man, how is he ur nephew, if i may ask Awelani?? .........His mother is my sister,,

Segololo
14 Jan 2008 05:11

Joy: Apartheid messed us up! The effects will still be felt on some of us for a long time! I still stare when I see mixed race couples. I ask myself, "How do they get it right?" when people are so mean!! I am most welcomimg of mixed race couples but I am still sacred of the staunch racists!

he is alive - came back to SA and is dating an indian chick that works here, she kinda always throws his name around when I am there  and I just think "Gal! I am married with a 2 year old son. Ryan was a long time ago and I am happy for him and ecstatic that he STILL remembers me. BUT I am no threat!"

joy
14 Jan 2008 05:23

when people are so mean!! I am most welcomimg of mixed race couples but I am still sacred of the staunch racists!  Awu dear, u know u cant leave in fear of wat other ppl wil say, they always say smthng, coz 1. they are bored 2. envious and jealous and 3. need 2getta life!!!!

I love the mixed couple thng 2, its v. rare 2! i thnk bcoz of the different backgrounds growing up.

he is alive im breathing a sigh of relief, than gdness! dating an indian chick hes so into dark chocolate neh, mo power, i wish every1 was as free and liberated like that in mzantsi , its refreshing and gd2c!

she kinda always throws his name around when I am there what is up wit dat? she knows abt u?? she must b feeling real insecure!!!

U GO GIRL!

Dino
14 Jan 2008 05:43

My office party was a bore till the booze started flowing. Yes I got naughty and kissed a colleague who'd been tailing me forever. It was just supposed to be for that day but we managed to forge a romance and we are still going strong today, 5 weeks on. I did have an office romance once when I worked in an open plan office, it was good while it lasted but we got a bit too emotionally involved and sarted falling for each other yet were too proud to admit it. What was worse is that I fell pregnant,  he wanted me to keep it but I didn't want to. It got so intense that our parents ended up involved. To cut a long story short, we didn't speak to each other for months but we are the best of friends now

joy
14 Jan 2008 06:11

office party was a bore till the booze started flowing y does alcohol has 2 always play a role 4 ppl 2hav "fun"? ja its an inhibitor maar if u gonna depend on it 2hav fun,then its smthng else. just like i stil dnt get it with smoking, in my station if u not holding a ciggie its like uyi alien.

gd luck on ur new relationship, hope it works out! bizniz ne pleasure dnt mix, wen u get an argument in the bedroom then it wil also show in boardroom, throwing staplers, its ugly

Mawandi
14 Jan 2008 12:35

Eesh the only thing I dont like at these year end parties is the music they play it is not nice, if they can accormodate us nathi ngom music esiwuthandayo it would be nice, and please enough playing Nkalakatha "Mandoza'',Brenda fassie Vulindlela,they've got other songs ask us if nifuna ukwazi what kwaito music to play hawucha!!.

yahh some people ubabona bethule during the year hayi come year end function ubona elinye i side iyoooooh!!

At our year end funtions there's no limit as far as booze is concerned you drink what you like, black lable,chivas regal,moet etc and we get gifts.  



2. Have ever gotten drunk at an office party and did or say something you? regret? Or did you break the rules and survived? Anyone danced on the table?? :- )  I do get drunk at year functions it is allowed hawu we are all humans but a long as I will not step on any bosses toes it's cool.

3. Have you ever been caught up in an office romance? Did it work, proving that it’s not really such a disastrous thing to do? That is a no go zone.

4. Have you had an office affair and it blew up in your face? (Don’t worry you can share, you’re not the only that it happened to)  Nope huge risk

5. Have you ever had a one night stand with a colleague, could you look them in the eye after it? Or did it blossom into a love relationship? Nope but it would be nice if  I can drop one of the manegers panties kakakakakaka!!! and hit it from behind no eye contact and hell yeah I will look her in the eye.

Mawandi
14 Jan 2008 12:40

TVSA we definately reach that 10,000 by Friday or even before friday.

WhiteSockGirl
14 Jan 2008 14:03

1. Have you followed all the do’s and are on your way to the top? 
Of course.  Career bitch to the core.

2. Have ever gotten drunk at an office party and did or say something you regret?
No, I am taking my career way too serious.  Office parties are networking opportunities.

 3. Have you ever been caught up in an office romance? Did it work, proving that it’s not really such a disastrous thing to do? 
I don't do sexual harrasment..
I flirted with a consultant who did some work for my organisation.  We are involved now.

5. Have you ever had a one night stand with a colleague, could you look them in the eye after it? Or did it blossom into a love relationship? 
One night stand the fabulous bitch way means a  passionate relation with a stranger.... not to be repeated again.  No expectations.  Colleagues are not strangers.  Nothing blossoms from one night stand. 

J-Girl
15 Jan 2008 00:45

Have ever gotten drunk at an office party and did or say something you regret? 
No, i work for a very huge co. so these instead of the whole co. getting together, its teams that get together. i work for an all girl's team. 

Have you ever been caught up in an office romance? No


5. Have you ever had a one night stand with a colleague, could you look them in the eye after it? Or did it blossom into a love relationship?
In my days of being naughty I shagged this man and last spoke to him when he was dropping me off on sunday morning, tuesday morning i get in the lift going to the canteen - THERE HE WAS IN THE FLESH, i nearly dropped dead bt i just greeted politely and smiled; turned out we work on the same floor in the same BU and he had been there for just over a week. Now we just laugh abt - we're good email buddies. One night stands dont normally blossom into love relationships; only in Mills and Boon.

Cnglemother
15 Jan 2008 01:00

Dino what was worse is that I fell pregnant, he wanted me to keep it but I didn't want to.what happened to the pregnancy? was it his child? is he involved in the child's life? your story has depth but you cut it short and it does not make sense somehow.

zazalicious
16 Jan 2008 06:30

@ Segololo I think we are working for the same company

Dino
26 Jan 2008 12:18

Sorry cnglmom, cut it short coz it's too painful. Yes it was his. Changed my mind and decided 2 keep it but it wasn't meant to be. Miscarried, they blamed it on the cone biopsy I had 5 months before. Alas, didn't get much support from anyone and I'm still a bit traumatised but I'll be aight, fire doesn't burn gold. I don't condone office romances, they are complicated and challenging. I should know. Look elsewhere for fun and romance


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