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Black on white moment

Written by Vutmi from the blog MY DIARIES on 04 Mar 2008
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BEFORE u go on, this is not to prejudice any race or whatever, it is just my opinion. and if you cant take the heat get out of the Kitchen!! dont you just love democracy and freedom of speech?

Bin dating this white guy 4 over two weeks now and everyday since then we went out on super dates, but had never done it until last weekend. here's a recap of what happened. 

He picked me up on friday @ exactly on time and he took me to this luxurious game lodge I’ve never been to. The whole way he was holding my hand when he was not changing the gears and we were stealing naughty looks at each other. When we got there, we checked in and went straight to our room (a suite nogal). BTW, the receptionist was black and she actually winked at me!!!! (4 a second there, I thought maybe she could be one of the bloggers! Hahaha, anybody works @ a game lodge?). 

Any-who we got to our room and being the gentlemen Jaco (not his real name, you’ll never know who is reading this) is, he asked me if I was okay, or if I needed something to drink or if I wanted my feet massaged (really!); he later told me he was just nervous. I told him I'd rather have a bath. He offered to prepare the bath for me and he put all those exotic bath salts that they had in there, the bath was so inviting and very big. Being the generous person I am and wanting to save water and Eishkom I invited him to join me, being the sweet guy he is, he agreed. I won’t get into details about what happened afterwards, but we emerged from that room the next day, after having breakfast in bed!!! 

Later in the afternoon we went for a game drive, and he was showing me all this animals and plants, telling me their names and their habits. Of course being the nature freak I am, I knew most of them but I didn’t want to spoil his mood. He was so excited to teach me all those things(hayi valungu!), meanwhile I couldn’t wait to get back to our room (there’s so much a girl can take you know).

 All in all the weekend was lovely and romantic. We went through a countless packs of Rough Riders, at one point on Sunday morning we had to stock another two more boxes (tsk)!!!!!!!

Did I enjoy the weekend? Yep, I enjoyed it.
Will I do it again? Don’t think so
Why?
As sweet and gentle Jaco was, I really missed the touch of a black man (call me crazy).
When we were in that Jeep, I kept thinking if he was black his skin would've been dark chocolatish and shiny when kissed by the sun. I missed the feel of strong hands (not that Jaco’s hands were no strong), it was just not the same.
I missed running my hands over a bald, dreadlocked or even coarse hair.
I missed the tight buttocks and strong thighs of a black man.
I missed the fullness of a strong black man inside me (don’t get me wrong, Jaco is gifted in that department).
I missed them biceps man! Those strong, dark and shiny biceps only a back brother can posses.
I missed sharing a bill (believe it or not) in a restaurant or wherever (ja, aarme Jaco insisted on paying for everything).
I missed the sound of my name pronounced the way is supposed to be pronounced!!!
I am not Vhuu-tu---me, my name is Vutomi.
I missed the sound of a black man whispering sweet nothings in a nguni language (mmmm).
I missed the smell of a black man.
Like what one poet said “there is nothing more beautiful than a black man”. In a way I don’t regret my experience with Jaco, because I learned to appreciate my black brothers.

Has any of you ever been with a man/women of a different race?
How did you feel after that?
Share any qualities of a black/white/Indian/coloured man/women you just can’t trade for anything.

 



81 Comments

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 07:24

come peeps, humour me

J-Girl
03 Mar 2008 07:32

heee hay  Vutmi you're on another level altogetherm
sms the Jaco's contact details ndamfuna mna...my no. is 082...lol 
it seems like he's hay okay nje, nothing lacking except that he is legowa - it shouldnt matter iskin colour sakhe but rather what type of a person they are.

I missed the smell of a black man.  - he he he he eh

Nonny
03 Mar 2008 07:37

WOW Vutmi, I just got back online after days of starvation and damn what a wonderful blog for me to get back in action with..............mmmmmmmmmmhhhhhhh now where do I start with my response????

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 07:38

@ J-Girl...he is okay, he's actually one of the sweetest guys i know, but its just not me!! i dont know how to expalin the feeling.

joy
03 Mar 2008 07:40

Hi Vutmi!! VHUU-TU-MEE lol!
Glad ur enjoyed ur wknd of passion! treasure what u hav mahn, he sounds sweet bantu, and generous, i dnt havin dat combination in any colour available! wats next 4 wkend? Mauritius?? hahaha U Go Girl!

sponono
03 Mar 2008 07:42

interesting very interesting.....Vutmi...you're one adventurous sungbodi...i hope bloggers will share....and they must be chicken!!!!!(including white bloggers who did it with non-white...now THAT perspective would be interesting!!!!!

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 07:42

@ Nonny...oh boy, cant wait for ur response. (im lol already). do hurrry

J-Girl
03 Mar 2008 07:42

dont worry girl, i feel you and i feel you, i've never been inna biracial relationship and to be honest i donno if i could eva do it bcoz i'm in the comfort zone with dem darkies, just makes the situation less complicated in all special angles,

Toxic
03 Mar 2008 07:46

I missed running my hands over a bold, dreadlocked or even coarse hair. 

*bald

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 07:46

treasure what u hav mahn,...i could treasure him, but then i think 'll end up cheating on him with a balck brother and i dont think that will be fair to him.

mseu
03 Mar 2008 07:47

Hey J-Girl you scaring me even worse now. You I have this thing yokushelwa abelungu, and I have always been scared of trying but sometimes then i want to give them a chance bese ngiyasaba. mara after this i really feel that they are a no go area. you know there is this other one we used to work together in another company he even introduced me to his 21yrs old daughter but yooooooo!!!!! mina ngiyasaba. And he still phones me even now he wants us to meet go away for a weekend or so.

felfel
03 Mar 2008 07:54

Had me a white boy from Tenessee back in high school, we actually met at a black club back in CT called Gijima. He was here on holiday and ended up staying longer, we did alot of four play and all but i just reaally couldn't give it to a white man. I didn't really enjoying kissing his bod, it just didn't have that black taste, you know that natural saltish flava...hiihihihihii (not sweat), he was too vanilla for me and the dingaling was just a serious pink flava....noooooo....but i reaally liked him and he was super sweet, used to buy me and my friends lunch like everyday plus Marcels ice-cream, that was a big deal...lol. we kept in-touch for a while via email after he'd left, i was always looking foward to checking my mail at school everyday.

Renegade
03 Mar 2008 07:55

Mina truth be said, i've always had my reservations about dating across the colour line. I'm sure its an experience. I have two friends who once dated white guys, and i found that they had to compromise a lot coz they couldn't really be themselves. But then again, in any relationship, there are compromises to be made. 

For me, it's just a matter of being comfortable, coz i'm comfortable with white people as friends, but i cant imagine being comfortable with my love handles when i'm with a white guy, whereas with a black guy, i know he embraces them, if you know what I mean.

But Vutmi your guy seems really great,abo Darkie abana TC, so hold on, you'll get flowers on your bday atleast, not a "hawu, its your befday babee?" Lol, i'm kidding...but on a serious note, he does seem like a nice guy, and if u are comfy around him, thats great, hold on. But seems like u've made up your mind about him.
So is it true wat they say about white guys and their packages?

Toxic
03 Mar 2008 07:55

You write really well Vutomi......

Titanic
03 Mar 2008 07:58

Vutmi, my dear you rock!!!  This very interesting. Thumbs up for aboo darkie!!!!

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 08:02

it just didn't have that black taste, you know that natural saltish flava....oh yeah, my point exactly.

cant imagine being comfortable with my love handles when i'm with a white guy...I know what you mean, i am sooo feeling you sista

abo Darkie abana TC, so hold on, you'll get flowers on your bday atleast, not a "hawu, its your befday babee?"...I know, most of my exs couldnt remember my birthday, but then again i once went out with this guy (darkie), who remembered everything from my birthday to the first time we kissed. i believe there are also white guys who dont have TC. Its win-loose situation. whichever way you look at it. 

Nonny
03 Mar 2008 08:03

"But Vutmi your guy seems really great,abo Darkie abana TC, so hold on, you'll get flowers on your bday atleast, not a "hawu, its your befday babee?" ..........@ Rene, angithi that's the part we enjoy ke when they say: "hawu it's ur befday babe"...........LOL

"I missed the smell of a black man.".............@ Vutmi now which smell are u referring are u talking about the Status smell on them lokshin kulcha darkies or the mjuluko wo taxi driver smell or the BEE JeanPaul smell ??? ...........LOL..........just kidding I know that smell u are talking about!!!!

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 08:04

You write really well Vutomi......wow (**sniff**), im really flattered (**blush**), it means a lot. Thanx Toxic

Honeypot
03 Mar 2008 08:12

I like black guys but kodwa unlike u Vutmi, I like white guys,I don't know whether it's their nature to be xtra cautious or does it only happen when they are dating black girls. They are very sweet, well manered and treat women with the utmost respect. I have dated both black and white men. But I personally prefer white guys

Renegade
03 Mar 2008 08:13

Lol@ felfel...hai, the saltish flavour(not sweat), heeh, i think i can only ever understand that if i do a whit guy. 

But the thing is, altho i think aboDarkie(most, not all) dont have TC, i find that its those things that makes them endearing. Like with my ex, eish, that guy, no hint of romance, extremely rural, mara i digged that about him, u know? And I'm sure some white guys dont have TC, but when i was in varsity, i lived in a mixed res, majority white, but significant non-white to compare, and i was a receptionist in 2nd and 3rd year at res, so everything would go past us, and let me tell you, those white dudes, they know how to make a girl squirm(in a good way). If its not dozens of flowers, its little messages left at reception, chocolates, suprises on the bday...and valentines was the worst, they always outshined abo darkie. But still, i wudnt go that way,(maybe just for fun)

Another thing that i find is that in a mixed relationship, u find that if its a white dude, he's the less attractive of the race, or older, with the hot black chick. But the white girl will go for the hot black guy. I might be wrong here, coz i'm jst thinking back to my varsity days, and thats how it was.

Renegade
03 Mar 2008 08:16

@Nonny, ya, u are right, its wat keeps us going back, eish, mara these things are funny u know?

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 08:21

Another thing that i find is that in a mixed relationship, u find that if its a white dude, he's the less attractive of the race, or older, with the hot black chick. But the white girl will go for the hot black guy. I might be wrong here, coz i'm jst thinking back to my varsity days, and thats how it was...u r sooo right. In my case however we are both hot yay!!!! (lol).  

Username
03 Mar 2008 08:23

dingaling was just a serious pink flava.

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LMAO

spice
03 Mar 2008 08:24

haaaaaaaaaaaaaa wa ka hina u nga ni dlayisi ku hleka LMAO whatz that saying again ohooo "the better the devil you know " there's nothing better than a strong black hott sungthing to keep you warm LOL

TheLady
03 Mar 2008 08:29

I tried dating some white guy when I was still in DBN, but just couldn't give it up after seeing his VERY pink thingie...goodness I couldn't eat for a day. I felt guilty for weeks thinking that am racist. 

I love my Zulu especially in bed so it would be very boring (for lack of a better word) to be 'making love'...WTF??? Say it in Nguni sizozwana...

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 08:34

I love my Zulu especially in bed so it would be very boring (for lack of a better word) to be 'making love'...WTF??? Say it in Nguni sizozwana...LMAO. I truly missed the language bits.

sponono
03 Mar 2008 08:41

in a mixed relationship, u find that if its a white dude, he's the less attractive of the race, or older, with the hot black chick. But the white girl will go for the hot black guy. I might be wrong here, coz i'm jst thinking back to my varsity days, and thats how it was. 


tru dat...maybe the less attractive dudes are more daring in approaching girls  and they think black girls will be curious no matta what they look like so long they get treated well (which seems to lack from abo-brothers)
wheras the Brad Pitts perhaps think they deserve the blonde Jesicca..or they cant handle the strong black woman's ttitide..i donno (but personnally i always say if I were to date outside my race  it will have to be the finest from that race....I'wouldnt go for Amy Winehouse jus cause she white...eh eh Scarlet Johannson or Mischa..or one of those MelrosePlace type....

as for fine black brothers and ordinery white chicks...i've read most interacial stories testify that its the thrill of shagging a white person..."overpowering the race"  or that it makes the brother seem more powerfull with the eyecandy..even if she's nje!!  somehow the past steriotypes makes them think they have "conquered" the world..in fact you'll hear guys saying eish la-outti so &so uya'zferstaana ujola nongamla.....whereas with black women..you're suposedly a slut who's getting it form a white person even..and you're a loose woman who can sleep with any race.....These interpretations I've heared and I've seen girls going thru that humiliation..and it takes a nerve and open-mindedness and surrounding yourself with peopl who think like you..to go thru an interacial relationship.....

and there are schmucks AND good guys  with every race...

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 08:49

@ sponono...you are soooooo right!

Fluffy Head
03 Mar 2008 09:05

Vutmi...interesting as usual.

Well I guess it depends on what you are used to. I have dated to guys in my life, an ex black and I was still in varsity...Currently white.
Well the first time I ever gave 'it' away was with the white boy. He's not the  ugly type described above - he is hot like super hot and 2 years older than I am, I sometimes wonder why moi cause he could get any petite blond thing like this... But we're good together. 

I'm sooo used to the way things are upto a point where I doubt I'ld do a black dude, the thought just scares me cause apparently black guys are on average bigger than white dude. 
So Vutmi, I understand where you're coming from.

Vutmi
03 Mar 2008 09:23

he is hot like super hot and 2 years older than I am, I sometimes wonder why moi cause he could get any petite blond thing like this... it was probably your bootylicious blackness self that did it, that not even a petite blond could beat that.

Khuselwa
04 Mar 2008 02:42

I missed the sound of a black man whispering sweet nothings in a nguni language (mmmm).  hehehehehehe

Khuselwa
04 Mar 2008 02:53

felfel: and the dingaling was just a serious pink flava...eeeeeeuuuuuwwwww!

Another thing that i find is that in a mixed relationship, u find that if its a white dude, he's the less attractive of the race, or older, with the hot black chick...Yes, why is that???My friend went out with a white truck/van driver, and i know for a fact she'd never go out with a black truck/van driver! What's up with that?

Renegade
04 Mar 2008 02:58

@Sponono, I feel u. But while writing that I realised that I wasnt sure what black guys go for, is it the hot white chick? Or does the hot white chick go for the hot black dude...yeah, i think thats it, hot black chick goes for hot black dude, and vice versa. 

@Fluffy Head: U've never given it to a black guy ne? I'm just interested in the differences in terms of the way he treats you compared to the black guy. Are they the same, or is the white guy more "Caring", (for lack of a better word)?

mabhebheza
04 Mar 2008 13:13

Beautiful Vutmi..u so cool..really u sound like an amazing person dear
Anyway i cant LMAO @the comments and u missing the smell and more of a black man
I have dated a white mlungu and yes dear its different ..their Problem( nt as susch a problem) bt they just 2sweet n as sum or most black sista we used 2this rough or standard black boys ...manjhe bona it seems as idf they trying 2hard 2satisfy u and all u can do they whole time u with them is say THANK YOU..AND HAVEA BIG SMILE THAT DOESNT FADE!! becoz u amazed as such romance ..catch my drift

Sweet Pie ..as much as u confused it might take sum diggin 2find a black buti 2spoil u like him..but if u feel its gud2b true ..enjoy dear xmas cums once a year!!

I think u have  ur answer already ...stick around but when Taye Diggs cums grab him with both hands of Hunger!!

Addictv
05 Mar 2008 00:07

Sponono: and there are schmucks AND good guys with every race...

Have to agree with you there sponono, as much as there dis perception dat white boys are more caring u also find dat some of them are really schmuks as well....jus like u can find absolutely gentle & sweet darkies.

Hats off to u Vutmi for da experience, to be honest I would like to try me a some vanilla , but I have dis embedded distrust of da white race ...which means my encounters with da them never go beyond smooching...cal me racist...but I cant help it.....or maybe I havent found one worth shagging.

Cande
05 Mar 2008 00:37

Hey sweetie, gr8 article...
I have never had a man from a different race as me, although i have i find it hard to do a man from a different tribe as well.

Fluffy Head
05 Mar 2008 01:05

@Renegade...He shows a whole lot more affection than the black guy even me at times. I don't think thought that we as blacks are not caring enough but its they way we are raised. As a black guy when you are young if you love your mom and hug her all the time or even cuddle with her - you are a mama's boy and you might be accused of being gay. But for whites - that is ok, that's how you are supposed to act...you are taught from a very young age how to love people and show affection.

I don't find them different emotionally to be honest with you. You just have to be mature about it and understand where both people come from. You know a black dude will call you on ur birthday (that's a big step for him considering how he was raised and there was really no fuss about birthdays. ) But a white dude who has been exposed to all that fuss every christmas and birthday or valentines...offcourse he's gonna make a fuss of it.

I had to learn a lot from my boy and it used to be a bit of a problem at times__but now I'm getting there. You knwo he demands me making a fuss about every and anything. I mean if you go to a dentist for a cleaning - you are not sick, but he wants to see me just to see that the dentist did'nt miss a spot. That's a lot of work to do. But its kinda cool when someone fusses that much about you.

So: are they more caring...I doubt it. They just have a more defined way of showing affection.

felfel
05 Mar 2008 01:18

Thank you Fluffy head, you couldn't have put it any better, lets remember background. Sometimes when i look at the lack of affection my brother has for me, i just wonder how he must be with his own girlfriend, even on the fone its just "Ek'se ugrand, mamela...blah blah.." even i speak like that with my gals now (they call me to order though)...lol...mhmmm...

Vutmi
05 Mar 2008 02:54

think u have ur answer already ...stick around but when Taye Diggs cums grab him with both hands of Hunger!! .....but then again mabhebheza dont you think it will be unfair to use the vanilla boy for TLC until a gorgeous chunk of black beef shows up? He's too sweet for that, i think he needs someone who will appreciate him for who he is. His whiteness and all. unfortunatley I love me some black. 

azHOT
05 Mar 2008 03:30

*sigh*

Pooky
05 Mar 2008 04:54

i wouldnt mind some vanilla myself.......infact he's on the 18th floor of our building....if only  i werent taken by my black yet very fair skinned brother already....

Tynt!
05 Mar 2008 05:58

Oh my! What a gentle man....

Vutomi afta a veri gud luvin wknd, u wnt 2 call it off coz of lack of coarseness on his heart en handz?
Regardless of shade/colour a good man is just a good man period…. En jaco happens to be one of them.....
Vutomi give it an endeavour, maybe u might find sumthin that u really lyk out of his pinkness…..
Mara ya ntima ntima dwzi(Sp) u nga yi kondelela yona mara?
Ek se article ya wema ya rocka!! 


He he he: *se u ye a ngomeni naah ?( ya xilungu)*

Vutmi
05 Mar 2008 07:17

@ Tynt! ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. yep its official, i am initiated. 

Vutomi afta a veri gud luvin wknd, u wnt 2 call it off coz of lack of coarseness on his heart en handz? Ayi girl that's deep!

Mara ya ntima ntima dwzi(Sp) u nga yi kondelela yona mara? That's how i lyk 'em! hihihihihi

Vutomi give it an endeavour, maybe u might find sumthin that u really lyk out of his pinkness….. there's something i lyk about dear Jaco, its just not enough!! I wish u culd feel what i am feeling, coz i really cant explain it. I cant stand not having a black man period. its either i do him(jaco) and a fine brother on the side!LOL.
 what's it gonna be?

joy
06 Mar 2008 06:18

Another thing that i find is that in a mixed relationship, u find that if its a white dude, he's the less attractive of the race, or older, with the hot black chick.

Xcatly,
mostly u get sm old madala, wrinkly, ugobe umqolo, with a walking stick! e.g. Pauline Molefane star of carmen ekhayelitsha fame, she went and married that mkhulu who produced/directed it, i guess she was just grateful 4da role, shem and wanted 2show sm gratitude nkosi yam, cos im sceptical ukuba its love, but who am i 2 judge???

sponono
06 Mar 2008 06:24

i'd like to go out with a pretty muslim girl...(one of those fine light  skinned ones you see in colleges)  but they wont even look twice my side...what a man to do  bathong!!!! HEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLP  I'm prepared to convert....I'll even wear that robe on Friday's ..honest

joy
06 Mar 2008 06:33

lol, haybo, dnt convert just yet, get the girl first, u dnt hv 2 wait 4 her 2 luk in ur direction, make da move brada!!!

sponono
06 Mar 2008 06:39

joy...they dont look my way   HOW DO I GET THE MUSLIM GIRL TO EVEN TALK TO ME   Maybe i should wear the robe tommorow  to impress one of them..-they wear them friday's  God knows where's I'll get them...phew!!!

Tynt!
06 Mar 2008 06:41


I wish u culd feel what i am feeling, 

 Ja! na ku twa V .

what's it gonna be?

Beta do blck then, 

Cherio!!

joy
06 Mar 2008 06:45

hawu, uyathetha umntu mos kuqala, thetha, thats all, and uzombulala ngentsini im sure! yho, hayi abt the robe yona andiyazi, azitshisi ezanto, rha its HOT apha ekapa namhlanje, i can imagine wat hell is like. if u stick ko darkie then u dnt hv 2 buy a robe, u c???

azHOT
06 Mar 2008 06:46

sponon...can you make it to Krugersdorp today?? i have a muslim friend there who can borrow you a robe AND take you to Mosque. he is very beautiful by the way and were it not for my strong conviction in my persona(nameless) faith i'd convert. at least his ting-a-ling knows no religious bounds

azHOT
06 Mar 2008 06:55

Has any of you ever been with a man/women of a different race? -man of asian origin
How did you feel after that? -he and i are both staunch believers in the karma sutra so we had lotsa fun............!

Vutmi
06 Mar 2008 07:03

he and i are both staunch believers in the karma sutra so we had lotsa fun............!

@ azHOT

Hope u didndt get stuck on each other, cause that would be really traumatic.

sponono
06 Mar 2008 07:19

azHOT..too bad i cant...but mara why vele babe bahle kanje labantu...in fact i've heard that in most of their families..its important to have a light-sinned pretty/handsome partner..and if you bring back i-zumba (the ugly one)  you'll be chasitisied by your whole Soolman family...in fact one of my collegues who looks more of an Indian(dark long hair and dark uneven skin)  couldnt get a b-friend and she expressed that its one of the reasons and she'd meet one handsome guy but the minute he takes her home...poof he's gone

BTW..this aint no racist point but just an obervation of different cultures/faiths

azHOT
06 Mar 2008 07:23

true...thats why they tend to marry from their blood line. friend is marrying a second cousin twice removed and dayuuum she's gorgeous!!!!

azHOT
06 Mar 2008 07:24

@ Vutmi...LOL. first time was a little odd but thereafter  i tell you..........

Vutmi
06 Mar 2008 07:37

first time was a little odd but thereafter i tell you..........

@ azHOT...
dont leave me hanging do tell. what happened thereafter?

Feza
06 Mar 2008 07:48

aaaa Vutmi, you are such a black girl lol

I dont wanna sound cheesy or anything, please dont get me wrong, we all have our preferences, and I respect yours, but quite frankly, I personally prefer white men to darkies...(Any white guy reading this post a message on my GB)

Science and experience has proven that if not ALL, Most men are the same. one thing they have in common is CHEATING. but I do know a few men who would not cheat on their loved ones. Another thing they have in common is their big EGOS and a need to be Providers or Protectors and to be Hercules or Spiderman.

But still, i prefer White guys because they are just so romantic. they are just! they are just being! they are so simple and dont believe in Culture or tradition. they simply believe in God or Scrience, thats it! 

I am black and all and I know there are bomahlozi and all that but i was never really well equiped in that department from childhood. my grandparents were so Westernised, yet black. So....I'm not a big fan of culture or tradition, and i love that in white men.

Two: white men are generous, i'm notgold digger or anything (i'm so independent) but I wanna be spoilt on a regular basis. Not everyday, but also not once in a long while. 

My dad passed away when i was 5, so for a long time my mom was single, and when she decided to try her hands (and maybe feet) at romance again, she went out with a White Doctor,  and for my sister's birthday, he drove us all the way from Kuruman to Haartebeespoort Dam for mountain Climbing and all that jazz after lunch we drove back. that was awesome, i was a bit younger, and after that i told my mom "I want a white boyfriend too, they go all out for simple things"

Black guys can do that too, ok, dont get me wrong, but  it does not come easily to some of them. My current flat mate went out with this zulu guy for almost a year, and not even once did he take her out on date. He had money, drove a nice car and was really capable of spoiling a sister but he never did. He said being romantic was Expensive. I rest my case.

Vutmi, you had not went out with that guy for long, most black guys would only take you on a trip like that after more than a year in the relationship, or never, or on a honey moon.

Three: White guys "aim to please" this is actually what i have heared not once, not twice, from several white guys. whereas in blacks "a woman have to serve the man"!  haai soka.

Four: White guys love adventure, while most black guys spend their weekends smoking, watching soccer and drinking, white guys and black cheese boys would be playing with the snakes or racing cars or fishing or skating, catch my drift?

Listen, dont crucify me, I'm not saying i hate black guys, i love them, ke fela gore some black brothers dissappoint me at times. I know white men arent perfect too. In fact the guy that i recently broke up with was a darkie and was quite romantic. So it just depends. 

So Vutmi, as per your question, well, nna i like both black and white, but i prefer white, but if a decent black come along , great, they are all mean after all, isnt it?

Ooh, one last thing, most black guys have big machine guys, and nna i prefer average sized. And not a lot of white guys have huge guys, ke ole le ole fela. I know most black girls love their meat big and well-done, but strangely nna i prefer it medium-rare.

Vutmi
06 Mar 2008 09:14

@ Feza...wow girl u sure can type. too long will read it ALL tommorow. looks intresting.

Tshd21
06 Mar 2008 09:42

@ Feza: while most black guys spend their weekends smoking, watching soccer and drinking.....

Hi-hi-hi-kwa-kwa-kwa-kwaaaaaaaa LMAO Iyhoooooo Feza........

Brown Shuga
06 Mar 2008 15:26

Ncoh, poor Jaco!!

La Dolce Vita
06 Mar 2008 15:50

this past wkend I was @  a friends 21st & she's lesbian well I was feeling pretty cut up abt the ex (& on my way thru 2 the after tears his ppl wr havin 4 him) wen alcohol gt in2 my mind & I snogged nt only a lesbian chick I'd known 4 10 mins bt also my bestfriend who's bisexual...HECTIC ISH bt i love my man that I have now he's adorable and he's GIFTED *gasping for air*  & 4sho I love my mens esp tht smell nd that brush cut..yhoo!!

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 01:06

@ La Dolce Vita...how was the snogging? just curious!!!!


white men are generous,...there are black man who are generous and white guys who are stingy. I suppose it depends on a particular human being not race.

Vutmi, you had not went out with that guy for long, most black guys would only take you on a trip like that after more than a year in the relationship, or never, or on a honey moon...I just cant pretend, if im not feeling something luxiouriuos trips or not; i just dont do it!

White guys "aim to please" this is actually what i have heared not once, not twice, from several white guys. whereas in blacks "a woman have to serve the man"!...mmmm, i dont know what to say, really(i am shaking my head though).

Four: White guys love adventure, while most black guys spend their weekends smoking, watching soccer and drinking, white guys and black cheese boys would be playing with the snakes or racing cars or fishing or skating, catch my drift?.

@ Feza, I understand where u r coming from, but we shouldnt forget that we were not raised the same way as whites (well most blacks). It will take time for us catch on. but then again do we really want to live lyk them? catching snakes and all?  

Personally, i'd rather have me a stingy black man who watches soccer than a generous white man who catches snakes for fun. LOL

Thanx Feza, that was enlighting.

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 01:11

BTW lets not forget the peeing incident, caused by Generous, Gentle, Soft, Romantic and lovely whites!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

azHOT
07 Mar 2008 01:55

@Vutmi...lets just say i couldn't end it as much as i wanted to. that man was a god and he was loving, nurturing and made me orgasm in tongues. now let me get back to work b4 my mind wanders off into the gutter...........

joy
07 Mar 2008 04:02

you had not went out with that guy for long, most black guys would only take you on a trip like that after more than a year in the relationship, or never, or on a honey moon. @ Feza, xcatly!, u r lucky if he takes u at all on a trip, mostly its NEVER!

I encourage this black chick with white dude thing, go 4 it Vutmi, its less competition anyway 4 da black brada! and the pickings are few and far in between! and now kukho oosomizi abasixuthelayo on top, girl GO for that baas and fight with the madams!

But this rule does not apply to the black bradas, dnt experiment and dnt fight with baas 4 madams! :)

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 04:07

But this rule does not apply to the black bradas, dnt experiment and dnt fight with baas 4 madams! :)....LOL oh dear joy, you just know how to bring joy in my heart. ha ha ha ha

joy
07 Mar 2008 04:13

ha, my frend, b careful for baas, lest he piss on thy food, lol! wena u rock!

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 04:18

ha, my frend, b careful for baas, lest he piss on thy food, lol! wena u rock!
@ joy...LMAO......stop it....u r killing me here. kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa

MADENZA
07 Mar 2008 04:26

White guys "aim to please" this is actually what i have heared not once, not twice, from several white guys. whereas in blacks "a woman have to serve the man"!...>> this is totally wrong.

joy
07 Mar 2008 04:29

hehehehe, my frend now u hav an excuse not 2 sit home for dinner if he cooks, and 4 u not to cook, u can eat out on a daily basis, i would so use this 2 my own advantage!lol

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 04:31

@ MADENZA...You've hit the nail in the head or is it head in the nail or nail head? huh!!!  nyway you are soo right!!!!!!!!

Nanana
07 Mar 2008 04:36

Mna I have been across the colour line and I just think ur weekend with Jaco was perfect,why would you miss the touch of another man when there was a perfect one right there,I wonder yazi eish

MADENZA
07 Mar 2008 04:46

what i know is that we guys are nto the same especially different races.
- So yes if you prefer the roses almost every month, going to the spa, being given foot massage, been taken around SA you must definatly bank on a white boyfriend.
But what i can tell you is that we Blacks have our own unique way of showing our love to our girlfriends.

sponono
07 Mar 2008 04:47

whereas in blacks "a woman have to serve the man"!...>> this is a steriotype......just like saying black men have big d**ks....well I can even see my own dick and i'm black, sometimes especially when its cold..it just dissappeares and when i get excited its like a snail that came out of some hiding...and dont get me started on using it..LOL..i tell you dont believe evrithing you hear or read even.....in fact i know a coupla zulu illeterate guys who are so good to their woman i find meself saying...arghh me neva do that...but they go all the way....adn also there are some "enlightned brothers who know that a woman is also a human being capable of thinking and deciding.....as I said there are schmucks and there are gentlemen in EVERYRACE

candy luv
07 Mar 2008 04:49

this guy i did had the softest lips and a he would hold my hand whilst driving.and would come see me at any ungodly hour cause he missed me that was 2 sweet but suffocating so i ended it missed the fights evreything was to perfect........

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 04:56

well I can even see my own dick and i'm black, sometimes especially when its cold..it just dissappeares and when i get excited its like a snail that came out of some hiding...and dont get me started on using it......ha ha ha ha ha hihihihihihihih kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa..snail....ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

sponono
07 Mar 2008 05:50

candy luv>>would come see me at any ungodly hour cause he missed me 

you obviously stay in the surbubrs.........would he go to soshanguve or hillbrow or Alex township at an ungodly hour.....THAT IS THE QUESTION about this unsurpassed love an affection that white men are supposed to have

sponono
07 Mar 2008 06:21

oh here's my question to those black sista's who dont think the'd date a white dude...what abotu those white guys with "soul"    e.g John B(r&B singer) Robin Thicke, Justin, that Lekgoa kwaito guy, Christos, Admiral, etc....would you STILL think twice.....

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 06:35

oh here's my question to those black sista's who dont think the'd date a white dude...what abotu those white guys with "soul" e.g John B(r&B singer) Robin Thicke, Justin, that Lekgoa kwaito guy, Christos, Admiral, etc....would you STILL think twice.....maybe with Mr Timberlake (just for the eye candy). As far as Lekgoa is concerned, i'd rather play in traffic!!!!!!!

azHOT
07 Mar 2008 06:40

i do love the Admiral

Roibin awe ma!

well vele mina i'm game for anything. ngithanda abafana qha. colour, creed religion aren't issues for this chikita!!!

Vutmi
07 Mar 2008 06:45

@ azHOT...U go girl, as long as it rises u r game neh!!! ha ha ha ha ha ha


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