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How do you know when it's the IT?

Written by KittyKat from the blog KattyQs on 17 Mar 2008
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We all have this idea that relationships are difficult, the question is, should they be? why must the one thing thats been around for ages, people dealing in, be so hard to maintain?

Like everything, it all starts at the beginning, people don't do the whole "proposal" thing, (ukushela), all that happens nowadays is "u wanna hang out sometime?" and then u start hanging out everyday and things start getting cozy.

My question dear bloggers is:
How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?
Is it after the first kiss, after sex?
When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?
Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex?
I need your experience..........

B.T.W, this is my very first article, so pls be kind.

76 Comments

KittyKat
17 Mar 2008 05:53

Hey, no response, I've been a silent blogger and then when I break my silence, I get no support- ;-( boo hoo

Segololo
17 Mar 2008 05:57

it's coming dear... We are just thinking about how much we can divulge without seeming slutty or virginal... The responses will come fast and furious just now from the brave...

Dintha
17 Mar 2008 06:00

Not really. Thing is this love/ "it" thing is really complicated. Find me a blogger who can get me an answer and I'll be the happiest woman ever. Kitty you just know it.

Best-Achiever
17 Mar 2008 06:12

How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?
- i think it only depends on whether yo grow to love and trust the person you are hanging out with and it has nothing to do with time.

Is it after the first kiss, after sex?
For me hanging out with a person doesnt mean i have to kiss or sleep with them ... it is a kinda help me know you better think ... if we both see the same picture we take it further and if not we go separate ways

When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?
can only come if we decide to take things furtther

Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex?
for me i still prefer to kiss only the person i love and sex after marriage.

Feza
17 Mar 2008 06:14

you know when it is a relationship after both parties have declared so. This will be after you have asked him: What are your intensions regarding "us"? are we a couple or just hanging around?

This comes across a lil pushy, but it is not actually. If he thinks you're too pushy or if he says "its too soon to say cause we've just met", your response would be something like "i'm only wanna know if we're both in the same page, its better if our interests are the same"

and his response to this will let you know if you're just "having fun" or really in a "relationship". and dont just assume that it is "IT", ask him otherwise you'll find out that he has a "steady" girlfriend after 6 weeks of dating and he'll justify this by saying "well, you never asked"

So the only way to know my dear is if you ASK and he ANSWERS and you both AGREE. simple communication huh?

Cande
17 Mar 2008 06:26

Spoken like a true experienced lady Feza

Latifah
17 Mar 2008 06:39

When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?
In my opinion whether you kiss on the first date and have sex 2morrow or wait for 6 month and kiss and have sex for the first time if his intensions are not good then whats the point. Really it depends on a person actually both of you on what you really want, don't get me wrong it's good to wait beleive, I regret not to wait for the right if the is any.Good relationship is worth waiting for.you know when it is a relationship after both parties have declared so @Feza you are telling the truth

slera
17 Mar 2008 06:57

It all deepends on both of you,the kiss & sex can both come in you first date ohhhhhhh no it depend on your intentions.

carino
17 Mar 2008 07:07

There are no do's and dont's with relationships. There isnt any five-step rule. It all depends on the personlaties of the both of yous. And the best thing to do is, go-with-the-flow. Dont think too much about it - whether its the "it" or not.

Give SANLAM a break and give it the NIKE approach - Just do it - and before you know it, you will be doing things the ABSA way - today tomorrow together.

Sometime we spoil a good thing by thinking too much about it, and raising expectations. When the relationship doesnt reach your set expectations, you think its wrong. Every relationship is different and there are no rules to dating.

That's what Carino thinks, and that's how she does it.

azHOT
17 Mar 2008 07:16

carino....you just reminded me why we're friends. you stole the words right from my heart. nike and then absa. one way. it might not last but being all sanlam about it will not help!!

faraimagic
17 Mar 2008 07:28

Carino you are a very wise women!!!

mabhebheza
17 Mar 2008 07:45

Carino....beautiful my dear well said
All i can say u have definetly FNB this article

Porsch
17 Mar 2008 07:49

here is my take why relationships dont work.

people forget that they are both individuals with different dreams, aspirations, intentions, personalities, values etc trying to build something together, they caught up in us and always one party tries too hard...

one guy once said to me "when a guy looks at the girl for the first few months all he sees is a beautiful girl and with us girls when you meet a guy you thinking ahhh is he the father of my children potential" and i thot he is right cause each time i meet a guy my friends will ask if ke potential type....

How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?

i simply dont sit and wonder or ask myself the best reasonable thing to do is to ask him. Nna ke batla ho sheliwa nomakanjani i tell him straight out.

SEX???

I guess it depends on the person?????

carino
17 Mar 2008 08:08

I love you, AzHot...

@Porsch people forget that they are both individuals with different dreams, aspirations, intentions, personalities, values etc trying to build something together,

And sometimes we tend to forget that teamwork requires alot of sacrifice.

I always say to my friends that any kind of relationship is about making the other person happy, not expecting them to make you happy.

pullie
17 Mar 2008 08:27

thnx kittykat, i'v bin a silent blogger guys- i think i last blogged last yr. dnt rememba doing it thz yr.
mare i've got a situation hei, i'v been dating thz guys 4 tha past 3 wkz, he's taken me out 4 lunch & dinner, we'v kissed twice but not shagged... i dnt hv any otha guy besides him & he doesnt hv any1 2, wel atleast thts wat he says.. tha guy is nice, sweet & all tht plus giving me tha attention i want.. mare ppl i dnt knw wetha we'r in a r/shp or wat? i'm afraid 2 ask him wat we'r doing, i dnt even knw how 2 ask him...help tuu!

Beyonce
17 Mar 2008 10:06

Pullie babes.. r u on MXIT? LoL, your post loox like an sms my lil brother would send me... lots of abbreviations.

About your situation... go ahead ask the guy, either way you have to know at some point

KittyKat
18 Mar 2008 00:37

Eish Pullie, Im in kinda the same situation but am scared to ask,one part of me says I should ask, but the other one says I should just go with the flow, u know have fun, that sorta thing.
Relationships kinda scare me so I dont wanna get in too deep, so I decided I'll just let it out.

Cande
18 Mar 2008 00:42

LoL @ Beyonce

monchooza
18 Mar 2008 01:19

Kitty Mychild....iskhathi sokudlala sesiphelile sisi....ask the guy ukuthi uzimiseleni ngawe then...if its a relationship then, work hard at making it work....if athi its just for fun lapho ke ditch him....amantombazane ayashada langaphandle i am sure nawe uyafuna ukuzibona usugqoke lelia lokwe lakho ilimhlophe...and looking like an innocent angel walking down the isle and saying I DO....stop lendaba yemijolo....Ngiyabonga.

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 01:27

Aahhhhh Monchy man, that was touching yazi..........*it really made me think*

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 01:43

How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?
I will talk in relation to my personal experience, and to me when the hanging becomes a relationship u can just see that something mature has developed and that's where u ask the guy where is this going. And once u have clarity u need to grab that opportunity with both hands and just love and trust him and the rest will fall into place as time goes on.

Is it after the first kiss, after sex?
Not neccessarily. Sometimes a relationship gets steady before any intimacy has taken place.

When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?
I don't think I am fit to answer this question. But neway in my scenario, with my boyfriend of five years, I kissed him on the first day that I saw him (he is a close's friend's bother, not a stranger people) and 5 days later he broke my virginity (shame I still feel guilty for the guy who waited 3 years, and he still didn't get none.........LOL), and that has been the greates decision I have ever made in my life. But having said that I certainly would advise u to take ur time, but don't stall too much because often we miss the most cherished moments in our lives due to fear of what the "other" person will think of us.

Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex?
I am sure my previous response, clearly depicts that I don't do rules, I just live by my personal preferences.

azHOT
18 Mar 2008 02:01

Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex?

@ Nonny: am sure my previous response, clearly depicts that I don't do rules, I just live by my personal preferences.

@ Kittykat= whise rules would you follow any way? society's? his? your friends? whom and when you do it rests entirely with you. drawing from other peoples experience is great but this is a personal decision, one only you will have to live with.

belz
18 Mar 2008 02:02

When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?> I'll answer the sex part, i think its safer to do it as early as possible, reason being, some brothers suffer from non existent totolozis (small things), imagine you are in too deep and you love this person already and then bang, you are in bed and there is nothing watsoever, no chemistry, no utensils!!! i think its better to know before you fall for someone.

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 02:10

LOL at Belz's response, so in conlusion Kitty, Belz is saying the sooner the better, so that the level of dissapointed is not too high............LOL..........Belz uthandakabi ucansi...........hehehehe

pullie
18 Mar 2008 02:11

@ Beyonce...lol. gal i wanna ask him, i just dnt knw how to start or wat 2 say...& i rily wanna do it thz wknd coz i'm always crackin my brain 2 figure out wat we'r doing...mayb i shld send him an sms mare i wntd 2 do it face 2 face!

@kittykat, gal i just got outta of a 10yr r/ship wen i hukd up wit thz guy, blv me wen u say ur scared i knw wat u mean, its hard 2 build a r/ship & totally i hv fogot how 2 do it coz i was so comfortable in my previous one. dnt even knw watz rite or wrong, i'm so scared!

@ Nonny days later he broke my virginity (shame I still feel guilty for the guy who waited 3 years, and he still didn't get none.........LOL),
heheheee....!! thnx guys..i think i'l just ask him wher is thz going coz i dnt wanna build sumthing tht aint going anywher!!

but last nite i send him a msg asking him watz goin on btwn us, & his reply was wat do u think is goin on, just b honest wit me! & guys i failed 2 answa tha question & directed it bak 2 him & he says wil talk but not ova fone..i wonda how tha talk wil go! eisshh & i'm so deriously falling 4 him..

azHOT
18 Mar 2008 02:13

Belz has a point!! apart from the dissappointment it helps to get the awkwardness of sex out of the way. you realized how much time we spend wondering and stressing about should we today/tomorrow? just get it out of the way and concentrate on the relationship!

KittyKat
18 Mar 2008 02:14

@ Belz -hehehehe, bad experience?

AzHot, I follow my own, I do my own thing but I gotta admit sometimes I get confused.

pullie
18 Mar 2008 02:16

lol @ Belz.. u knw wat Belz wit us gals wen u sleep wit a guy imediately u get attached 2 him, its different wit men.. i mean if i sleep wit him & then nuthing develops out of it i'm gonna feel so usd..but ur rite gal, wat if i find nuthing ther...heheheeee..!! yhoo..dnt scare me more than i am! i can imagine buildin a r/shp nxt thin wen i get ther therz nuthing...

KittyKat
18 Mar 2008 02:20

@Pullie, but last nite i send him a msg asking him watz goin on btwn us, & his reply was wat do u think is goin on, just b honest wit me! & guys i failed 2 answa tha question & directed it bak 2 him & he says wil talk but not ova fone..i wonda how tha talk wil go! eisshh & i'm so deriously falling 4 him..----yho girl, I dont envy you, these kinda talks are difficult, you never know what to say .....

Miss K
18 Mar 2008 02:22

Funny that u should write this article Kitty. I'm just as confuse, as most tvsa ancestors know i was single for a while now i've started hanging out with this guy so last night i was wondering if we're jolling now since we've been hanging out for a month.

Let me go read the replies maybe i'll get some answers.

azHOT
18 Mar 2008 02:26

Miss K!!! there i was thinking you and I are rocking this lonely boat together!! rhaa! am so hurt.......LOL

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 02:28

"as most tvsa ancestors know i was single for a while now"..............Eish, am I also a TVSA anecestor Miss K...........( Coz if so I will feel like this is Generations, and i am another Karabo & Queen........hehehe)????

Mbake
18 Mar 2008 02:31

wow!!!!!!!!

pullie
18 Mar 2008 02:32

kittykat my luv it aint easy @ all but i think talkin bout it is much betta than me alone wondarin watz goin on... i'l just hv 2 hear wat he has 2 say & gal u gotta do sumthin bout ur situation 2..coz if u go wit tha flow ur bound 2 get hurt wen u think its a r/ship nxt thing he'l b sayin u shld hv askd him...hayi maan i wish r/shps had a formula or rules 2 follow atleast!

Miss K
18 Mar 2008 02:37

Don't be hurt azHot.....im still 'hanging out' with him so maybe nothing will come of it. So practically i'm still rocking the lonely boat with u.my frend.

But i'm seeing him this weekend and thanks to ooSis Dolly base TVSA im gonna ask straight out coz im 2 old for this hanging out shyt.

Buzbee
18 Mar 2008 02:42

This is very interesting..... This is why i dont know when i started dating my Fiance, i know the month but not the day.

KittyKat
18 Mar 2008 02:43

Eish, ja neh, Pullie, Miss K, I think I also gotta ask him this weekend, whoooo,its gonna b an interesting one for us
I also think this hanging out business should at least have direction. yho inzima le business yama relationships.

Dintha
18 Mar 2008 02:44

Kittykat whatever you do just don't let him get you purring like a kitten under the covers if you don't know what he really wants.

bulie
18 Mar 2008 02:46

Guyz u r just gud in giving advise but what happenned to me was that i loved this guy and he was my first luv we hanged out for three days and we didnt kiss and have sex nothing we just hanged so a week later he called and said he wants to c see me and then i said okay meet me at the corner and we'll take it from there i was 18yrs. After three weeks in a relationship then we had sex and let me tell how long did that relationship last yho six months to find out that he had a child and the mother of his daughter wants to come back to him and what he did,he just welcomed her in his home and he didnt even think about me and what we shared and few days later he sent me and sms telling me that he needs a break can we just take a break he needs to sort out some few things and i was like okay but dnt expect me to welcome u back bcoz u didnt give any concrete reason why u need a break and the next thing i heard rumours that he is cohabitating with his child's mother. The worst part is that it did'nt broke my heart to hear those news i just told myself i'm not going to cry bcoz he is not worth my tears and maybe he was not meant for me i'll find sum1 who will luv me and appreciate me unlike him. Eventually he called me last week telling me that he misses me alot and can we start over i said to no it doesnt go on like that u cant just cum and go as u plz no its not going to happen and i'm happy with my current boyfriend he is a honey and we r 1yr and six months now .

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 02:49

"thanks to ooSis Dolly base TVSA" - where the sis Dolly's at mabloggeers.............LOL?????

pullie
18 Mar 2008 02:56

u go Miss K...!!

@ Buzbee...ur rite my dear, thz nonsense of i enjoy ur company & go on dates, nxt thing u dnt evn knw wen u became an item- it neva got official!

belz
18 Mar 2008 02:56

pullie - i mean if i sleep wit him & then nuthing develops out of it i'm gonna feel so usd..but ur rite gal> No you shouldn't love, instead you should feel like you used him for your own good, if he makes you feel used, just express your disgust on how badly he performed in bed!!!

pullie
18 Mar 2008 03:14

lol @ belz...eish gal i betta note tht, u neva knw wen u gonna nid thz advices!
thnx luv...

KittyKat
18 Mar 2008 03:17

I think Belz is right, u sleep with someone just because you want to mos, so what if nothing come of it, at least you got yours, just like he got his. U dont even have to be nasty about it. we all have these basic needs mos.

Zee Babes!
18 Mar 2008 03:25

@Bulie - Askies sanas... its those lil` things dat make us grow. Yo when i just got sad from reading your response...move on and hope you will recover quickly...was the sex good or you just loved the dog? Askies babes!

Next time uvule amehlo it must be a 30/70% ratio dont love too much its pointless.

EISH AMADODA -

pullie
18 Mar 2008 03:30

hayi wena Zee..hv a heart!

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 03:37

"dont love too much its pointless".............hehehehe............LOL at Zee, yazi wena!!!

Zee Babes!
18 Mar 2008 03:52

@pullie - hayi wena Zee..hv a heart! Have a heart for some1 else to break...dont think so, all um saying is dat = prevention is beta dan cure.

@Nonny - Mngani cabanga ke sengithanda ubradas **snore** ayikhona.

Tynt!
18 Mar 2008 03:58

dont love too much its pointless"
Mara how does one control dat heee?

Somebody hurts u ova en ova again deliberately; en yet u still fall in love with hiz ASS!!
What is it that keeps the victim back to the victimizer?
Is it ignorance?
Or the fear of being alone ?
Or maybe Love?
Or just being dump?!…

I need to know !!!!

pullie
18 Mar 2008 04:05

eishh Tynt....lyk i said i wish ther was a formula 4 luv plus r/shp!!

lucia
18 Mar 2008 04:18

i think the sex part does'nt really matter. If i'ts only what the guy is after he will disappear as soon as i'ts done. whether you waited 6 months or 2 days. Remember some guys are good with pretending. So he can pretend for the whole six months and then run away. I slept with the father of my baby one week into the relationship and we were 2gether or 5 years after that. Even though we are not together anymore i don't regret doing it early. So really it depends on what the other person is looking for. I certainly don't believe in waiting.

spice
18 Mar 2008 04:22

DONT YOU GUYZ JUST LUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUV aKON AND THE KING OF POP'S SONG A MASE MASAM MA GUMZA........... ROTFLMFAO

spice
18 Mar 2008 04:25

Sorry KK LOL was just listening to zeeeeeeeeee phly one wwhatz were the questions again ? : )

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 04:28

"@Nonny - Mngani cabanga ke sengithanda ubradas **snore** ayikhona."............ya man Zee, I understand where u are coming from!!!

"What is it that keeps the victim back to the victimizer?"..........@Tynt - it must be love, u know love kinda reminds of the sating that: "A fool for love, is a fool for pain"..........coz somehow when u are with someone, being hurt in the long run is almost inevitable!!!!

Tynt!
18 Mar 2008 04:31

@ Spice

*U mean this:*

side ways and said
I cant help but to ask
I Said You Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'
You Got To Be Startin' Somethin'
I Said You Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'
You Got To Be Startin' Something

We end up going back to her place
Wish I could tell you what I saw
The sexiest women in a neclace shade
We hit off until the mornning
Until you hear her say

ADLIB

(AKON)
Ama ma se,
Ma ma sa, ma ma coo sa
Ma ma se, ma ma sa,
Ma ma coo sa (10)X

azHOT
18 Mar 2008 04:34

Or the fear of being alone ? THIS I A VERY RARE KIND OF FEAR. you aren't aware of the fact that you're allowing this fear to cripple you and keep you in a pointless relationship with a selfish, self serving emotionally abusing ass-wipe.!!!!!

when you do realize this however-RUN! your heart will betray you and want to go back it'll break and you'll honestly feel like you're dying but-it will pass....

bulie
18 Mar 2008 04:35

Thanx ZeeBabes. Do you know what my friends said/ they said i'm 1 little brave gel and they r proud of me for not crying my lungz out for him. Now i'm happy and in a healthy relationship so far and i dont know what the future holds for us. Can u believe he just called me now and said can we meet, there r things he wanted to tell me a long time ago and he was not ready now its time i know what kind of person he really is.

I told him to forget that i ever existed in his life if i did and he can shuv the thingz he wanted to tell me i'm not interested and my world doesnt revolve around him.OH the sex i can say it was gud bcoz i didnt even know when sex was bad then coz it was my first time with him and i wasnt sure if it was gud or bad but i enjoyed it anyway. But now i can say compare to my present guy that there was something missing when we had sex the ex i mean now i feel like i'm on top of everything when i have sex with my present guy not that i'm giving him thumbs up just bcoz he is the present but hey thats all i can say.

Take care mabloggers

Tynt!
18 Mar 2008 04:35

@ Nonny!!
"A fool for love, is a fool for pain".

Then I take it: Love is no gud, Damn, Veri sad...
Now that I've got it: Kitty jst play along...

tshepiso
18 Mar 2008 04:35

LOL! Miss K who is the lucky bas**td? let him cut the cake, is due for a long time now.

Tynt!
18 Mar 2008 04:38

when you do realize this however-RUN! your heart will betray you and want to go back it'll break and you'll honestly feel like you're dying but-it will pass....

I second u there!!

tshepiso
18 Mar 2008 04:46

How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?
The talks u used to say are automatically changing, at that stage u talking about future plans.
Is it after the first kiss, after sex?
kisses and sex are related to each other. but sex will connected or separate u for ever, it depened how u two enjoyed it.
When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex?
No time is limited for the above mensioned.
Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex?

belz
18 Mar 2008 04:52

when you do realize this however-RUN! your heart will betray you and want to go back it'll break and you'll honestly feel like you're dying but-it will pass....

It's very hard indeed!

Zee Babes!
18 Mar 2008 05:00

@Bullie - I get, it and happy dat you are happy too - I must say dat I sense some tension thou..........let it go child - he aint worth it. Mmmmhhh sex is gudo with your current boyfriend - some gals are lucky.

azHot - when you do realize this however-RUN! your heart will betray you and want to go back it'll break and you'll honestly feel like you're dying but-it will pass.... Somethies we just tolerate rubbish for no reasons @all - all in the name of love....I agree mngani - RUNNING is the only way out. **RUN**

Vutmi
18 Mar 2008 05:01

Good afternoon fellow bloggers, hope y'all having a love-ly day!

What is it that keeps the victim back to the victimizer?
@Tynt...i think is the fear of the unknown...the thought of going back to the big bad world of first dates (which is not so bad if you really think about it). personally the reason i go back is the sex period!!!!!

Back to Kitty, here's what i learned from my own experience
How do u know when the hanging out becomes a relationship?
- the only reason i hang-out with a guy is because i want something from him. It can be sex, stimulating conversation, getting poinmters about guys from a fellow guy, or just plain eye candy!!!!!!

Is it after the first kiss, after sex? - that shouldnt matter at all. CONNECTION. if you dont connect he can suck your toes the whole day and you still wont be intrested. atleast that's my opinion.

When should the first kiss come, and what about the sex? i prefer my first kiss on the first date...dont want to waste my valuable date-time with a spitswapper. The kiss is very important people!!!!! Guys, please learn how to kiss.

Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex? I am not a good person to answer that, Kitty honey im afraid i'll scar you for life. I'll rather not answer this one.

hope it helps.

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 05:08

"Do we still conform to three dates before the first kiss and 1 or 2 months before sex? I am not a good person to answer that, Kitty honey im afraid i'll scar you for life. I'll rather not answer this one."..............LOL..........yah man Vutmi, don't even think of telling the child that u have sex b4 u even go on the date, it will freak the hell outta Kitty..........LOL

belz
18 Mar 2008 05:11

personally the reason i go back is the sex period!!!!! > and then, does the realtionship get better when you go back? please answer this Vutmi, it is very important to me.

mabhebheza
18 Mar 2008 05:13

Im addicte..sittin in a meetin and have minised my screen just peep thru the bloggs s oh nt sure if im typin correctly
see yal ;ater i mis bloggin oh they keysare 2loudd

azHOT
18 Mar 2008 05:15

withdrawal symptoms mabhebheza...askies!!!...........LOL friend, you are crazy you know that???? phuma kuleyo meeting sizo blogger waya waya!!!

Nonny=tell her how its done!!!

Vutmi
18 Mar 2008 05:22

LOL...@mabhebheza...you are a serious junkie neh? you even have a way of getting your fix meetings and all...LOL

and then, does the realtionship get better when you go back? please answer this Vutmi, it is very important to me....@belz...like i said luv, i only go back for the sex, not the relationship. the reason i broke up with most of my boyfriends is because we couldnt connect or he was a cheating bustard(excuse my french) or i was a cheating LADY..lol. Having sex doenst mean we have to be in a relationship, i make sure he understands that before we get it on...though i still get stalkers...some guys are way too sensitive..LOL!!!!!!!!

mabhebheza
18 Mar 2008 05:37

All i can see is junkie and withdrawal,,sam sentence wit my namr..hey nearly got caughg,,,ah oops busted got gojdc;;5;tgff

cant find post????

mabhebheza
18 Mar 2008 05:37

All i can see is junkie and withdrawal,,sam sentence wit my namr..hey nearly got caughg,,,ah oops busted got gojdc;;5;tgff

cant find post????

bulie
18 Mar 2008 05:40

@Zee Babes.. I've got nothing against him but it pisses me off the fact that he thinks we still have a chance together 'HELL NO' been there done that. let me tell u sumthing Zee Babes me and my current boyfriend we dnt leave in the same place i'm in da Cape and he is in Mdantsane in EC BUT we communicate almost 5 times a day and i have never encounted any distractions while talking with him on the phone.

He even calls midnight telling me that he loves me and all that. I hope he means everyword he says. Tommorrow he is arriving to spend the Easter with me at my place can u believe that he can cum that far just to be with me. Sumthingz r just gud.

lucia
18 Mar 2008 06:05

Bulie, i'm happy 4 u girl. Guys like that are really hard to find. hang on to him girl...

peaces
18 Mar 2008 06:58

Pullie my dear I know just how you feel.I was inlove with some guy in my teens.When we first met I dressed nice and all but he was living in a shack with a poor family.I luved him to bits and never judged him.Then I became parent less and poor,being taken in by friends and he got a good job here in joburg.When he came back I could see he was ashamed to be seen with me coz I was in rags and had no home.He would talk to some girl on his phone infront of me and even say I love you too.His phone screen had someone else's name and that killed me.He went back to Jozi and never called again.Now I'm engaged to be married in MAY to a handsome loving guy whos'e VERY VERY GOOD IN BED and my ex popped out of the blue saying he wishes things were different bla bla bla.Now that I'm working and looking good he thinks he can come back and evn bringing his friends to check out how beautiful I am.Hope I didn't bore you with my story guys,but I just had to get that out.

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 07:01

@ Bullie, I honour fu for respecting ur long distance relationship, just a matter of interest, how often do u see ur man????

Nonny
18 Mar 2008 07:02

I meant I honour u................

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