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Written by Hlehle from the blog Its me Again!!!! on 19 May 2008
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As you all know that i have my own problems to sort out, well yes i have but now this is not about me its about a gud friend of mine.

First i would like to THANK YOU all my fellow bloggers for ur support through all my articles and i also would like to ask you once again to support me on this one.

Here it goes, i have this friend we met at college 2005 & we became gud friends. We told each other everything frm the childhood to the works. Now she met this guy 2006 September & she described him and i happen to know becoz he was dating my neighbour back in the days and he was a player. I told her what kind of person he is & my friend was impressed by him so i could'nt say more. She always advise me of using a condom & so i advised her, then the other day she said that they stopped using a condom & i was like oh if u trust him that much then go on.

Three months later she came into my house crying that she might be pregnant coz her boyfriend spermed on her ( dnt know the appropriate word for that). I was like is'nt that what u wanted and i told her that this boyfriend of urs has THREE kids frm different mothers apart frm one that u might have. She said whatever, then really she was pregnant & gave birth last year August with a baby boy.

Now she lives in Res. at CPUT, he used to visit her there but now he stopped for no appropriate reason. She is the one visiting every after two months, And the Baby lives with her Mother in Eastern Cape. I dnt know if he's is providing or not, So i met a new friend & she has a school friend which happenned to be dating my old college friend's boyfriend. Okay let me name them coz now u'll get confused, Zintle College Friend, Buhle new friend and Zikho new gal friend of Zintle's Boyfriend which happens to be Zikho's school friend. I dnt really know much about her.

Zikho, Zintle & Buhle dont know each other but they r my friends. Zikho told Buhle that her boyfriend is cheating on her let me name the boyfriend ( Chester) dnt ask me why did i cum with dat name. Chester promised Zintle that he'll marry her but he has to take his father's Chieftancy as we all know that if u become a chief then ur elders will choose a wife for u, surely they won't choose Zintle or Zikho they choose sum1 they know & who is still a virgin not them but my friend Zintle keeps on saying she is Mrs Chester.

I've seen Chester several times with ladies & seem very cossy with either of them and i'm certain that he is cheating on Zintle with Zikho. My problem now is whenever i tell Zintle about her man even her ex's i once told her that her ex is cheating on her, and she said i'm jealous now i want to tell her bcoz i luv her she is my friend and friends look out for each other. The worst thing is Chester does not use a condom with Zikho according to Zikho.

My question is how many ladies is he cheating on her with & dnt use a condom, and still they r not using a condom (him & Zintle).

Do i tell Zintle about this or must i let her see him herself that he is cheating on her or must i keep my mouth shut. What must i do???



32 Comments

Hlehle
19 May 2008 03:03

I'm back with another confussion i have. Guy plz dnt wish to be me coz my life is full of drama and to tell you the truth its not always about me having this problem about my life sumtimes its about my friends. Plz dnt wish to be my friend coz it seems like everything that is associated with me has a problem thenif u want to have ingxaki cum with me i'll give u one.

blk sunshine
19 May 2008 03:12

Have idivine intervention. have all the ladies there and ya have them sort they ish out. I think we as women take on so many things, and sumtyms its not even our own problems but we make them ours. Ur frends are grown. give them both the facts and then have them make their own decisions.

Hlehle
19 May 2008 03:26

The thing is blk sunshine i like to take other people's problems & make them mine & that's what makes me a better person coz  i know when i am needed for help that is why i need ur help in order for me to help out.

blk sunshine
19 May 2008 03:34

Hlehle its one thing to help and its another to try live sum1z bad daes for them. Its like if u r a parent, u never wanna see ur children hurt and ya ur gnna advise them on life and the likes, but there is only so much that you can do. thats why ndisithi tell them the facts, and then let them cum up with a solution tht will make them happy. It myt not be wat u want, but they are all grown women and they are responsible for their own happiness. yes u want to be a good frend, but dnt get caught in the crossfire

ocean1
19 May 2008 03:45

@ hlehle, I say tell them what u know and let them make their own decisions I know its difficult as u may seem like u're not happy for them dating this cheating man but at the end of the day they'll thank you for opening their eyes and at the same time they'll be angry if they find out that u knew and kept quiet about the whole thing

Best-Achiever
19 May 2008 04:29

@Hlehle ... tell your friends what you know and let them solve their own problem ...you are only a friend to them not a mother.

Hlehle
19 May 2008 04:53

Okay BA i'll do so, u have made me realise one thing why do i worry about them while they are not worried about themselves? I'll just tell Zintle that her man is cheating on her & what happens after that is not my problem qha mna i told her the truth.

andi01
19 May 2008 05:07

@Hlehle, one thing I have learnt about mendling in friends love life's is you end up being the bad person, you end up being the jealous friend, and the boyfriend hating your guts. i say you have enough drama in urlife, what dont you focus more on your misteries than trying to be Ricki Lake.

peaces
19 May 2008 05:17

I'm so worried about the fact that your friends seem to be care-less about their lives(safe sex wise).I think you should let them know what you know just to ease you guilt and leave it at that coz If maybe something bad happened to any of them because of the guy you'd blame your self for keeping mum.What they do about what you tell them is up to them.

Cande
19 May 2008 05:30

Haiyke, i cannot believe in this day and age there is still people like your friend....Let your friend know what you know, its up to her to decide what she wants to do..at least you would have warned her as a friend even though she might think you jealous of her

Speaking about CPUT, i heard a guy strangled his girlfriend to death at res(Heroes house) on friday??

Toxic
19 May 2008 07:03

Three months later she came into my house crying that she might be pregnant coz her boyfriend spammed on her 

LOL!!

Dimago
19 May 2008 07:14

sorry Hlehle...what do you mean 'he spammed her'?

Toxic
19 May 2008 07:16

hahahahahha Dimago, asking the obvious!!!!!

Hlehle
19 May 2008 07:18

As i said before i dnt know the English word but according to my language wachithela izi sperms zakhe kuye so wapregnant kanti uzube kutheni xa umntu epregnant.

belz
19 May 2008 07:22

LOL Dimags. heheheheh. LOL Hlehle, your explanation is very funny.

Hlehle
19 May 2008 07:27

Yes its very obvious coz everyone understood what i was saying forget my wrong spelling but people understood what i was trying to say. Although George seem to be difficult sumtimes.

andi01
19 May 2008 07:31

@Dimago, there is that belief for peoplelike myself, that cant stand the rubber-smell of a condom, so what they normally do id they have unprotected sex and when the guy ejaculates, he takes his "dinges" out and ejaculates outside the kitchen, so i assume this couple used the same method, but then what happened was that the guy got carried away and ejaculated inside teh kitchen, and boom bambino is coming.

*NB this is the most uncomfortable and most risky for of contraception.

Hlehle
19 May 2008 07:36

Thats the word Andi01 Thank u, u saved my a** frm Dimago.

monchooza
19 May 2008 07:37

ejaculation is the word you are looking for hlehle

Toxic
19 May 2008 07:41

thanks for the explanation Andi....it's really is risky although i can imagine the danger providing the rush/excitement/thrill!

Toxic
19 May 2008 07:43

she's looking for the word spermed!

Hlehle
19 May 2008 07:51

Thanx again guys but Toxic i already edited my article and i have corrected the spelling of spammed into spermed.

Dimago
19 May 2008 07:57

Oh...*shaking my head* 
thats dangerous though...HIV???

Cande
19 May 2008 08:01

@Dimago, there is that belief for peoplelike myself, that cant stand the rubber-smell of a condom,

I can't believe there is still people like those....

Weiss
19 May 2008 08:06

Three months later she came into my house crying that she might be pregnant coz her boyfriend spermed on her ( dnt know the appropriate word for that). Ha! Ha! - just luv the word spermed and how it is highlited in green. No offense just me and my childishness. 

This guy seems too like sperming on other people it seems. Tell your friends to never stop using condoms otherwise Mr. Spermer is gonna sperm and make pregnant or even worse. On a serious note: I'm still trying to finish reading this article - will reply later.

chitty
19 May 2008 08:08

Ha..ha...ha..Osele wena Toxic.

Tshd21
19 May 2008 08:45

Spermed....Ejaculated dudette

Tshd21
19 May 2008 09:12

Sori for posting before reading the replies cos I see a few bloggers already corrected you about the word spermed/ejaculated. Anyway...

I think you should just tell you gals what you know.....they will choose whether they take your advice or not. I hope you still remain gals after you tell because I have realised, many a times,  that boy cheats on girl and  friend knows....Friend tells girl that boy is cheating and girl sees friend as the bad, jealous b***h, stops talking to her, doesn't forgive her, and then goes back to boy and forgives him. sad reali.....

sweetie my baby
19 May 2008 23:05

*shaking my head*....women...will we ever learn? *sigh*

Dimago
20 May 2008 02:15

Hlehle tell your friend to stop the reckless behaviour...she can figure out the rest!

Nonny
20 May 2008 02:25

"Do i tell Zintle about this or must i let her see him herself that he is cheating on her or must i keep my mouth shut. What must i do???"

@ Hlehle - hectic hectic...........*nc nc nc shaking my head*.........ur friend is playing with her life yazi, perhaps u should remnind her that we have ONLY one life and one body, so she NEEDS to cherish that with all she has and stop taking uncalculated risks!!!!!!!!! Please be there for her and advise her wisely, uyakudinga sisi!!!! If u keep ur mouth shut, u will feel very bad when something more drastic happens to her, so tell her now even if it means uzokuzonda kancane, in the end she will understand that ubumubhekelela!!!!

Hlehle
20 May 2008 02:36

Can u believe that i still have my issues to sort out but i had to attend to this one too. My life is happening ndiyakuxelela, there is always sumthing going on not always trouble but sumtimes happiness. Thank u all for ur  words of advise appreciate it a lot.


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