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I DONT Get It

Written by Segololo from the blog Oh Moments on 26 May 2008
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I realized a long time ago that certain things that people do, and my reaction or my rationale of these are not similar to anyone I know. Am I different? Am I stubborn? I remember when I was in Standard 9 a girl by the name of Liesl at a winter weekend Veldschool told me I was “as obstinate as a horse”. Mind you, this person had only met me a couple of hours; she was from a school in Portch and I was from a Rustenburg school. I decided on that day to name any girl child of mine after her! LMBAO!

Anyways, I am willing to understand and learn something from anyone that can help…

TOILET SEAT
I just don’t get a wo/man’s reaction to a man leaving the toilet seat up. Don’t try the biology route because you will lose me. Just try to explain to me why the wo/man’s blood pressure and temper has to flare when s/he finds the seat up? Why make a fuss about it? Why not just put it down, do your business (if that was the plan), close it (as you like it) and forget about it? Why scream, holler, give lessons on hygiene and be stressed about it?

CHANNEL FLIPPING
I don’t get people who get angry at people who channel hop. Why watch the Frisco advert, wrestling preview or Steven Seagall movie preview 70 times when you can check if another channel has something interesting for that 30 seconds (sometimes 3 minutes)? Why subject yourself to such torture? You may even find another even more interesting ad break on another channel.

THINGS MEN DO
Men forget! They are often not as sentimental as women are. SO why women get worked up when a man forgets a day or moment she regards as important and he doesn’t. To be fair, we (as women) have a lot of those important days or moments eg the first day you met, your birthday, the first day you kissed, the first time you left a toothbrush at his place, the first day he watched your favorite movie with you. It IS a lot! Why not remind the dude a couple of weeks before of this date and hint at what would make you feel special? It doesn’t lose the “sentiments”, does it? Why get upset at him for 3 weeks and torment him on his “lack of caring” and “not loving you enough to remember”?

GUYS NITE OUT
Wo/men tend to get upset when a partner has a guys nite out. Why? I mean you DO need to spend some time apart, to have separate interests and be with your friends. Why make a big deal about it when a partner wants to have a guy’s nite out? I know of colleagues who can’t go out on the Friday with their friends because the partner calls just before Friday knock-off time (around 4:15pm) to say “Sweetheart, please bring us some nice take-away after work. I am too tired to cook today” knowing full well that this is a way of saying “Get home in time for the kids to have their usual supper at 6:30pm and forget those friends!” Why? Why can’t s/he order Mr Delivery or take the kids out for supper for a change! The partner just needs to call 45 minutes before her/his usual get home time to say “Lovey, I am just having a drink with Tumi and Tshepiso. I will be home later than normal”.

THAT is my list! It is longer than this, of course, but this is my critical list. Enlighten me, bloggers, what am I not getting? Why am I not getting it? I did say I am a willing student. Tell me your list so that I could enlighten you, if I can.



38 Comments

Sdakamiswa
26 May 2008 02:51

sego: will you marry me.....?

Best-Achiever
26 May 2008 02:54

eish Sego ... im sure man will love you for standing up for them like this ...LOL

well mina i dont get it when a Man forgets   what i consider a special day to us ... ie My Birthaday ... how can he forget the day the love of his life was born ... that's a Big NO, why can he save it in his heart so that even if his cellphone get lost, he will still have it. I wont get it when he forgets the day i said Yes ...hha that day is supposed to be his happiest memory of them all, he finally find the love of his life mos ...and he is Not supposed  to forget that ...if he does mina i'll dump him because one day he might even forget that i exist ...He cant real forget those two day Rene

i can do with the other thigs but not those two

Renegade
26 May 2008 02:57

Haha Sego, what do they call the opposite of a feminist? Lol! 
Anyway, I agree with the toilet seat thing, like Chris Rock said,"Who said the toilet seat must be down?". Maybe it was meant to stay up...lol.

But seriously, really entertaining article...Respect

Best-Achiever
26 May 2008 02:59

I meant Sego Not Rene(dunno y i said Rene). and Sego i also wont get those two days ... His birthday and the day i said Yes ..... i can forget all the other things but not those two ....i wont accept belated birthdays either from HIM, Never!!!! 

Renegade
26 May 2008 02:59

I'll be back with my personal list a bit later...still thinking about it.

Cnglemother
26 May 2008 03:06

Sego just move the hell away from me coz nje we come from 2 different planets, will be back for more. How can you be ok with the things you just listed above oh my Gaad! Are you a shim or what? or uyaguga (getting old)?

carino
26 May 2008 03:12

The Toilet seat one kills me..
I once shared a flat with a guy that said to me... he needs the seat up, im the one that needs it down, so why is he the one that has to struggle with lifting it up when he needs to do his business, that is not fair. 

And since that day, i've tried to look at it from their point of view, and i just put it back down, when i find it up, without calling for a hygiene lesson.

Nonny
26 May 2008 03:19

Nice one Sego!!!!

Fluffy Head
26 May 2008 03:21

I agree with you especially on the toilet seat...I mean no guy ever compains that he finds it down, why do you complain when u find it up!!!
LOL anyway at ur blog

Weiss
26 May 2008 03:39

“Sweetheart, please bring us some nice take-away after work. I am too tired to cook today” knowing full well that this is a way of saying “Get home in time for the kids to have their usual supper at 6:30pm and forget those friends!” Ha! Ha! Ha! I just luv this - I can also quote you, can I?

belz
26 May 2008 03:40

the first time you left a toothbrush at his place> ROFL, what???? I also dont get all of the above, just put the seat down, how difficult can it be, maybe the guy also dowsn't like it when you leave the seat down. I really dont get it, there's nothing wrong with all of these things honestly, people just need to chill.

Simmone
26 May 2008 04:46

There are things women just exaggerate and the media plays a major role in creating those expectations, watch any soapie or drama.

Sorry Sego but I have to add these to the “I Don’t get it list”

1. Obsessing about your man opening chairs and doors for you.
2. Valentines Day, do not know what’s the obsession women have with this day??
3. Searching for compliments, when you know you look ugly in the dress.
4. Romance, surely you can pick up within the first few days that your man is not a romantic person, he wont send you a bouquet of roses at work just because you had an argument last night
5. The pet name “baby”. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
6. I am a woman and can’t replace a light bulb syndrome.

Cnglemother
26 May 2008 04:57

LOL @ belz, i am offended BTW.

monchooza
26 May 2008 05:09

nice one Sego.........nice one indeed. Wo/Men must stop stressing about stupid things. FINISH

Mmakwena
26 May 2008 05:33

“Sweetheart, please bring us some nice take-away after work. I am too tired to cook today” knowing full well that this is a way of saying “Get home in time for the kids to have their usual supper at 6:30pm and forget those friends!” Sego  you have a point - i don't get it also

nna  i just don't get it with other women when they don't allow their hsb/bf's to go for a boys nyt out - wena as a woman you will go out 99% of the time living your man at home with your kids with an excuse yagore i'm going to visit a friend i haven't seen in 12 years or keya ko stokfelleng or societ  - the "toilet seat" issue, people must just get used to the idea yagore ok i'm currently sharing the bathroom with someone of the same sex or opposite. 

channel flipping - it all depends on who switched the tv on first!!!!!!! 

ngwana
26 May 2008 05:38

@ Simmone - i hate being called 'baby', think its cause men like calling you baby when they cant remember your name. I always freak out when my friend's Nigerian boyfriend calls me baby.

@ Sego - i get you list. (but not the toilet seat one, i hate having to put it down so i can sit.

Addictv
26 May 2008 05:44

nice one Sego...really dont get why other women stress about da small stuff either.....

am very forgetful myself so i can understand when someone 4gets my bday coz am prone to 4get theirs too...its been known to happen.....

as 4 da toilet seat..hav neva understood wat da bid wah wah was abt dat...if its up..put it down or vs versa....

Cnglemother
26 May 2008 05:53

Eish the toilet seat is my biggest (i stay alone), i dread peeing at my neighbour's toilet as she stays with her man fulltime so the toilet seat is always up.

-Channel flipping is not a biggie i just hate sports especially soccer. 
-Eating ngezandla and a guy licking his fingers afterwards, yes i am from eastern cape and eating with hands is not very common down there. There is just something very wrong about eating ngezandla.Yikes!  
- Hugs, a man who does not hug me randomly nje out of the blue.

Simmone
26 May 2008 05:55

@Ngwana, That’s so true but more irritating is when a woman calls a grown ass man baby.

I was at Woolworths this weekend paying bills and in front of me was this couple, black about mid 30’s to 40’s and judging by the bling on the woman’s finger, they were married, she kept on saying, “baby, you didn’t forget this, baby you didn’t forget that, baby we almost out of this at home”. And the husband was clearly uncomfortable with this.

Miss K
26 May 2008 05:57

Sego u just made me realise that sometimes really we (women) are the ones making our lives difficult. BUT the birthday part will be hard to forgive, he can forget the toothbrush and first movie mara ibefday? No, no, no! 

Everyman in this site is probably praying for a wife like Sego. 

And if the boy's nite is an every Friday thing then what? Can i scream then Sego??

belz
26 May 2008 06:01

And if the boy's nite is an every Friday thing then what? Can i scream then Sego??> No Miss K, go out with the gals nawe. Really guys, this relationship thing is not that hard, people make it hard on themselves, just live.

Miss K
26 May 2008 06:05

Haibo belz andivumi tu sisi! There are weekends that i'll like to spend at home with Mr Man so if yena ngu majaivane every Friday ingxaki ikhona.

belz
26 May 2008 06:13

Miss K:lol,eish wena, the weekend ends on Sunday, go out with the gals and him with the guys on Friday night (mina i know i dont want my man anywhere near me when i go jiving), you can always hang out with Mr Man on Saturday and Sunday. another thing you dont wnat him in your space all the time, so let him go and jive, its good for the relationship if he's happy and you are happy, well in this case wena you wont be happy, lol, but jah man. Besides you gals bother men by asking them silly things wehn you run out conversations, things like what Sego mentioned earlier "Baby, do you remember the day i first spent the night in your house?"  then you start fighting coz he cant remember, see.

Molilo
26 May 2008 06:14

My brothers wife (5 months in marriage) had a child in March. This woman I hate with passion. She leaves her child at my mom's everyday and she will tell her she is going to town to do some shopping while my mom is not well. She will go at my mom and just sit when my mom is busy cleaning and expect to be dished  while she is busy looking at the ceiling. Y cant she just stay at her place than to make my mom her slave. To top it all she will call my brother all the time if he is not next to her. She is so insecure it is not funny. Woman like her r the ones that make us woman look bad. U must let ur partner live their lives there r time for couples and time 4 one to be by themselves. My sister had a child the same time as her but she does not leave her child my our mother she looks after the child knowing our mother is not well unlike this woman

Addictv
26 May 2008 06:18

OK i  gotta agree with Miss K ...hangin out with the guys every Friday nite is pushing it....

thinLine
26 May 2008 06:24

I don't y women don't want guys(their Ex's) to date their friends... or if u were once attracted to her then u can't be attracted to some1 in her pool of friends, hayi its just not fair.

thinLine
26 May 2008 06:27

I meant I don't get y women don't want guys(their Ex's) to date their friends... or if u were once attracted to her then u can't be attracted to some1 in her pool of friends, hayi its just not fair.

thinLine
26 May 2008 06:30

I meant I don't get y women don't want guys(their Ex's) to date their friends... or if u were once attracted to her then u can't be attracted to some1 in her pool of friends, hayi its just not fair.

belz
26 May 2008 06:30

heheheh thinline.

Addictv
26 May 2008 06:32

lol @ Mnakwena

channel flipping - it all depends on who switched the tv on first!!!!!!


dat cud spell trouble.....

Miss K
26 May 2008 06:34

@thinLine...that is one of the unspoken rules btwn us women.

Dabs
26 May 2008 06:34

nna i just don't get it with other women when they don't allow their hsb/bf's to go for a boys nyt out - wena as a woman you will go out 99% of the time living your man at home with your kids with an excuse yagore i'm going to visit a friend i haven't seen in 12 years or keya ko stokfelleng or societ - the "toilet seat" issue, people must just get used to the idea yagore ok i'm currently sharing the bathroom with someone of the same sex or opposite

@ Mmakwena,
if a man goes out to many times he starts getiing too tempted that is how they start cheating. But when we got out we know really that we are going out as women and don't care about the sexy men always parading around. 

Some men want to have their cake and eat it. They call 350 times when a woman is out/ or do not allow the woman to go out because who will take care of the kids while she is out with her friends. So we must both stay at home and not go otu if that is the case.

Molilo
26 May 2008 06:37

Miss K tell me if I know 5 different groups and it happen the guy who is interested in me once went out with a friend of any of my friend what then?

I leave in a place where all ppl know each other and lots of groiups have common ppl. Do I have to think of all the extras if i am charmed?

Firstdvd
26 May 2008 06:41

Great One SEGO!!! I'm printing this one ;-)

Dabs
26 May 2008 06:42

I meant I don't get y women don't want guys(their Ex's) to date their friends... or if u were once attracted to her then u can't be attracted to some1 in her pool of friends, hayi its just not fair.

@ ThinLine. I
t feel as if you were eyeing my friened even before we had broken up. That really hurts a woman/ or we might still have feelings for you so seeing you with my frind the whole time just hurts even more. Al least if you are dating someone far away from me, it is easier for me to get over it than you always in my face.

mathata
26 May 2008 06:59

SEGO,i love you bcz if you dont like something you dont pretend,i like you bbcz you are just you,n ilike company like that,

you must know for me you are just motivating,n pls dont change.

Segololo
26 May 2008 10:22

BA: <<hha that day is supposed to be his happiest memory of them all, he finally find the love of his life mos >> wa bona! (You see!) Because it is important to YOU, he has you forever now and celebrates each day being with you in his own way... Take my advice, remind him 3 days before in a suttle way like "Eish! In exactly 3 days 6 months ago we met! Sho! time flies neh? we finally met the love of our livess..." 

mathata: Thank you, dear! I am honored...  

Dabs:<<if a man goes out to many times he starts getiing too tempted that is how they start cheating>> This is a trust and insecurity issue. I believe that most times people use their insecurities on others to say "Aha! I knew you were not what I thought you said you are" whilst the person never said they were something else, you built them up in your mind and now blame them for being human... Whose fault is this? AND anyway, men are not children who need to be gaurded and monitored... They are grown men, treat them as such... If the person doesn't treat you right, make the decision if they still deserve a spot in your life but don't blame friends and going out... No no no Senor! Haibo! Not every man is a liar and a cheat! Some just like the company of their friends and like I said relationships need not be pisons, have separate interests...

thinline:<<I don't get y women don't want guys(their Ex's) to date their friends>> I know it hurts, dear! For almal involved. Especially if it is a recent break-up and you are still hopeful that you and ex will get back together... Just respect the friends opinion. they may also be trying to protect you from the pain they went through or they regret messing up the relationship and are hopeful the ex still thinks of them and you will erase the memories.... 

belz<<lol,eish wena, the weekend ends on Sunday, go out with the gals and him with the guys on Friday night (mina i know i dont want my man anywhere near me when i go jiving), you can always hang out with Mr Man on Saturday and Sunday. another thing you dont wnat him in your space all the time, so let him go and jive, its good for the relationship if he's happy and you are happy >> Thanks, dear! I am so happy I found someone that sees the same view...AND to add what you said - you can share your experiences later when you hook up. AND you can say to dude that you want to spend a particular friday with him so he knows that it is important to you...

Miss K<<Everyman in this site is probably praying for a wife like Sego.>> Ha ha ha! I don't know hey! Like someone said to me about my HOT chocolate - he may look and sound perfect but some woman out there is gatvol of him... So everyone is full of ish! I am not so perfect too, I make mistakes like everyone... I just think my health is very important especially when I can choose the reaction I have to a situation and the stress I can allow my body to take on. 

Cmom: <<Eating ngezandla and a guy licking his fingers afterwards>> Considering most men don't wash their hands after doing some loo bizness and they have handled themselves! Uuurgh!

KeleFabulous
17 Jun 2008 07:38

Sego why are you getting all worked up about people/women who get worked up about the above?


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