I need to offload…
How many of you have friends/relatives/sisters in relationships with men who are married or in relationships with someone else? How many of you have been in situations where you’ve been out with your boyfriend and his friends and one of his friends has brought along “the other woman”? This phenomenon is really getting out of hand and all too often we turn a blind eye, we’ve turned a blind eye so often that this has now become so “normal”. No one dares to ask the most pertinent of questions: Why are these men cheating on their wives/girlfriends and why is it that it’s happening so often? Why take vows and proclaim you’re in a committed and exclusive relationship when in fact you know fully well that you’re not done sampling and test driving? Even more critical why do women knowingly choose to be the other woman?
Some have argued that the ratio of woman to men is not conducive to having normal relationships anymore. But this isn’t new though is it? Women have always outnumbered the number of men there are in the world yet promiscuity and infidelity wasn’t as rife in our parents’ time as it is now. HIV and AIDS should be the biggest deterrent to this behaviour yet the more we witness our friends and relatives dying of the disease the more we hear of people having reckless and unsafe sexual relations. Don’t get me wrong here I’m not advocating that people stop indulging in sex but rather that we be more cautious about how we engage in sex and with whom we’re involved with.
Lust has its place and we all experience it sometime in our lives (some of us are in a constant state of lust:-) but should we be allowing these primal instincts to rule as supreme as they are now?
This issue of infidelity has really been bothering me lately, especially since I had a conversion with my manicurist and she so aptly pointed out that the difference with girls and women today is that “they are too available”. We readily avail ourselves to men and have given away so much of our power that we’ve rendered ourselves disposable. It’s as if what You won’t give up someone who’s only a phone call/text or PCM away is more than happy to replace you.
Something else that’s got me thinking is the increasing number of young couples (the 20 to 30yr age group) who’re divorcing. The biggest revelation that’s come to me in most these cases is that one or both parties were usually unsure of their partner yet they still went ahead and said “I do”. There are always stories of women or men saying I should have seen this coming when she/he did A B and C. Even with all this, people continue to pursue these doomed relationships-for what? It can’t possibly be for love now can it? I’ve witnessed some who’ve stuck it through for reasons as shallow as “we look good together and therefore we’ll make beautiful babies”. Is that truly a reason enough to marry someone? What happens if that person gets disfigured? Will you still be with them?
Your thoughts?