Is he so strong or am i just weak?

Orie
07 Aug 2008 04:59

Good people, please HELP

Orie
07 Aug 2008 04:59

Good people, please HELP

Orie
07 Aug 2008 04:59

Good people, please HELP

LM
07 Aug 2008 05:15

Should I cancel everything or is the Nyatsi (the JHB Galfriend) trying to make me angry since she knows we are getting married: How so? Are trying to say that she is jealous of you? would you rather have not known that she is banging him and went ahead with the marriage peacefully (even though she exists)?

Orie, what does your fiance' say about this whole nyatsi thing?

Should I cancel everything? You can go ahead with everything if you are content with knowingly sharing your man for years to come!

I will the fellow blockers to say the rest (if they want to)

blakrose
07 Aug 2008 05:15

Just remember marriage is a lifetime commitment, are you ready for the rest of life to be like the past five years

tha - bang
07 Aug 2008 05:22

im with blakrose ,if he is like thisduring your engagement.do you think you can live a lifetime in the same sitaution?its your choice.

cleve
07 Aug 2008 05:22

Please girl you have a smooth way out. Leave this it's not worth it. Maybe if you are looking to be HIV positive just stay. You have already showed him that it's okay to cheat on you and why would he stop because he's got it all you and the others. Save yourself before it's too late. Not all men cheat just find him he is waitng for you. That nyatsi is doing you a huge favour don't look at it as a negative. She is just telling you the truth.

magica
07 Aug 2008 05:26

i agree with blakrose, be wise love that hurst is not love u better leave the cheating barsterd b4 u u say i do, u still have time. un less u are ready to be treated like second best and to cheated for the rest of ur life, save urself from the heartbreak, u know u deserve much better, this is womans months u have to stand up for urself and do not let any men walk all over u

Thesh
07 Aug 2008 05:26

My question would be, what does he say about this, did you find out accidentaly or was carelessly left so that you can see it?

The Nyatsi, I think, she was told that he is marrying someone else and she wants you to lose you focus.

I always thought I would never fight for a boyfriend, but for my husband yes I would to a certain point.

I'm not a good advicer as I'm not even in a relationship with someone.

But on the other hand, how do you feel about this whole thing. Are you going to join him anytime soon or it will be a distance relationship? if its the latter, I think you should be worried.

Cnglemother
07 Aug 2008 05:28

For the past 3 weeks he had his phone off over the weekend and she said its because they were banging the whole time. Damn!Joe, the nerve of that woman to even tell u that – women are brave fosho. I don’t know what u should do but this aint no good start at all.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:28

I think the guy told the nyatsi (gave her your numbers) so that she can phone you, i think teh guy is just looking for a way out. If he cheats on you, its obvious he is just not that into you, but doesnt have the courage to dump you. he does all these things hoping that you will dump him. My advice run while you still can. You say 15 times in 5 years, what about the times you dont know about, give the guy a break, he is crying out for help, he doesnt love you, let alone care for you. And you desreve soo much better

belz
07 Aug 2008 05:30

15 times????????????orie ngempela, do you still need advice?

Orie
07 Aug 2008 05:32

He said he broke up with her, Well, i did my self a favour, I dumpe4d his A$$ ugly dog.

@ TESH I am going to him this weekedn and moving back to JHB end of September. I dont even think I should any more.

FIY, We bought a house together scheduled to move in Beginning of OCtober

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:33

His family is due to pay lobola on Saturday and GUESSS WHATTT, the bastard is cheating - I think he is holding on to you bcoz he doesnt wanna disappoint his family, this guy fell out of love with you four years ago. You refer to teh nyatsi as teh " JHB girlfriend", guess that makes you the "Durban Girlfriend", why must the person who loves you, label you. Did he move from Durban to JHB, coz if he did its obvious he ran away from you to be with the woman he prefers. i aint trying to be harsh, but I am just being realistic.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:35

He moved on saturday and teh first person he shares his new place with is teh Nyatsi, isnt it obvious "who comes first???"

Orie
07 Aug 2008 05:37

Cleve: Ouch, The truth hurts hey...

Tesh: My question would be, what does he say about this, did you find out accidentaly or was carelessly left so that you can see it? She phoned me asking who I was 'cos my EX asked her to leave so she said she suspected that I am his galfriend. Biatchhh

Orie
07 Aug 2008 05:44

andi: I get u very well. He is not from Durbam, We are both 4rm estern cape and I am working in DBN, and him JHB,

I just spoke to him, Cancelled everything.....I hate him , the lady smsed me again now telling me that I must not worry (AGAIN) she's not taking him, the broke up and they njoyed banging each other just for fun.
Well, I told her that she can explain 2 some1, as for the guy, Good Riddence I knw 4 Sure

felfel
07 Aug 2008 05:44

I'm not making final decisions for you but giving perspective. He will not stop cheating when you are married especially since you are far apart. This is not about him now but about you. You have all the info. he doesn't need to comment further cos obviously it will be a lie. This is now a question of are you willing to live in further confussion, disrespect, betrayal, humiliation, lies...etc...??
Are you willing to stand in church with him and pretend like nothing ever happened??
Are you prepared to allow your family be fooled into accepting lobolo that is not sincere, that will allow him to further humiliate you and disrespect you???
If you are, then marry him, God knows there are few men out there but plenty dogs and you got one of those. If you are willing to give him the benefit of the doubt cos like you said the girl is just "jealous" of your marriage, then marry him, there will be another girl "jealous" of your baby, and another "jealous" of your second baby, and another "jealous" of your third baby...you get me... all in the hope that he will change.....he won't. He's a cheater it's not your fault, it's in his genes. But it's your fault if you continue to make excuses for him.

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 05:44

@ orie gal, please walk away from this relationship and never look back, u are worth much better than this, and if he is treating u like this b4 u guys are even married I don't even wanna immagine how he will treat u if u tie the knot!!!!

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 05:51

" just spoke to him, Cancelled everything.....I hate him , the lady smsed me again now telling me that I must not worry (AGAIN) she's not taking him, the broke up and they njoyed banging each other just for fun. "
Orie, I would advise u not to hate him, coz hatred is a very heavy burden to carry, wena u just have to know that there was life b4 him and there certainly will be life after him. Starting over is not the end of thee world, more and more women have to understand that a man doesn't complete u, we are all complete individuals. So please do not fear being alone, because I sense that u will be happier alone than u are in this relationship. And please remember not all men are the same, there are a few Tha - bangs & Sponono's out there.......*ink wink*..........LOL

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:51

Its one thing if your man cheats, but to have her Nyatsi's calling and insulting you, thats too much, of course its not the nyatsi's fault. its ur fault for not dumping the arse whole a long time ago.

Cody
07 Aug 2008 05:53

@ Orie: I really am confused now! you said:

I am going to him this weekedn and moving back to JHB end of September. I dont even think I should any more.

AND

i did my self a favour, I dumpe4d his A$$ ugly dog????????????

which one is it, my skat?? or are you like me you dont know whether he is still your man or not? if you dumped him, why do you still need advise? Elaborate for mwa girl, i want to add my 2c worth.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:54

sweetheart, I agree with Nonny, u shouldnt hate him, coz hating him simple means you still feel something for him, which is not good. You shouldnt be feeling anything for this mafacka. His face should be wiped away from ur heart. Its for teh best. Remember he isnt a dog, but he just doesnt love you anymore and he cant tell you coz he doesnt wanna hurt your feelings and also he doesnt wanna be the bad guy,but what he doesnt know is that he is hurting u more by not telling you the truth. of course its not easy for him, coz he has wasted 5 years of your life. but ke sisi Qina, thats teh way it is.

felfel
07 Aug 2008 05:54

I just spoke to him, Cancelled everything.....I hate him , the lady smsed me again now telling me that I must not worry (AGAIN) she's not taking him, the broke up and they njoyed banging each other just for fun.

Somehow, i think you will change your mind again. You called him and "cancelled everything" but not in a strategic manner, you reacted in anger. Things like this need to be thought through.......i know what i'm talking about.
Remember you still have a move that is pending for end of September, that means new job in Jozi right? You co-own a house together, right? Who's salary does the bond come out of? Are you both paying or you just signed to boost the home loan?
When you are dealing with a player, you dump him inside yourself first (grieve and mourn the relationship internally first), deal with whatever loose-ends before telling him so that when its over with him, its over with everything else.

mstick
07 Aug 2008 05:55

Here comes the pain again.......

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:57

You girls need to understand, some of us believe that to dump a girl will bring one, years of bad luck. we also know that women are the most brilliant specie on earth (followed by pigs, not men), so we reckon it is easy to detect when you no longer feel for her, and being the smart specie that she is, she will dump me first.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 05:58

Then after pigs is the monkeys, .... I think men are number 37 or something LOL

Orie
07 Aug 2008 05:59

Thanks andi , Nonny, Felfel::: Wow, what can i say, U r rite, I have wasted bloody 5 yrs hoping he will change, I have learned the hard way, The Nyatsi is a blessing, At least now I know.
Just broke the news to my family, they are disapointed but they support me,

Let me just take a break from all this before i decide to become a lesbian

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 06:01

BTW Orie, gal u are lucky that amablockers were so welcoming to ur man issues blok, phela abanya bavele badliwa bafelwe when they metion men, iyakusebenzela into yakho sisi, kuyokwakha ukuxhumana nami.........LOL

sthasam
07 Aug 2008 06:02

girl even if you were the ugliest most worthless girl on earth, no one deserves what you're exposing yourself to. dont even hate him, you'de be wasting your emotions. im sorry to say this, but from the 1st few times you forgave him for cheating, you made it ok for him to do it again and again and again

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:03

I have wasted bloody 5 yrs hoping he will change: you never loose by loving, but you always loose by holding back, the greatest risk in life is not taking one. This expereince was here so tha you can learn and become wiser. If it didnt kill you, it surely made you stronger.

hoping he will change: now you know that men dont change unless they are still in nappies.

The Nyatsi is a blessing: she opened your eyes, saved your life, blessings come in all shapes and sizes and they arent labelled. What you consider ur enemy today, will be ur maid of honour tomorrow.

Onna
07 Aug 2008 06:04

@ Orie my dear a leopard never changes its sports so if you marry him you will be telling him that its ok whatever he does because you will always be there waiting for him.Once you say I DO its not easy to turn back.
Fifteen times!!! girl you make me think you do not like yourself. The man will marry you and leave you at home and expect you to understand and take it since you have tought him that he can do whatever to you and you will always forgive.
Decide for yourself no one can tell you how to live your life.

mstick
07 Aug 2008 06:04

Let me just take a break from all this before i decide to become a lesbian..........u r on de ryt track now

tha - bang
07 Aug 2008 06:07

@Orie good for you for kicking him to the curb,life might get slightly lonely now but this too will pass with time
@nonny well thank you for the compliment,sweet

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 06:07

"Just broke the news to my family, they are disapointed but they support me,"
@ Orie - Somehow I am not excited about the way u are suddenly so quick to do it all at once, dump him, let the family know and ready top move on kanjalo nje?, gal u better not be in denial, coz u must make sure that u are going to stick to the decision of walking away that u just did. Sekwanele sisi, u have watsed enough of ur time, love and beautiful body on this man. And besides, we have more than enought HIV+ people in So, we don't need anymore volunteers in increasing the stats!!!!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:08

If you were with some1 for 5 years, realistical dumping him wont be easy. What I suggest you do as Felfel, said, u must dump him internally, let ur feelings for him dissolve inside of you slowly but surely, without dumping him. Get urself used to not being around him. Then dump him, dont take too long, but just make exist worth your while. You need closure.

Cnglemother
07 Aug 2008 06:08

BTW Orie, gal u are lucky that amablockers were so welcoming to ur man issues blok, phela abanya bavele badliwa bafelwe when they metion men, iyakusebenzela into yakho sisi, kuyokwakha ukuxhumana nami.........LOL - to be honest mna i was kinda missing these typa-blogs kancinci.

Orie
07 Aug 2008 06:08

felfel: Remember you still have a move that is pending for end of September, that means new job in Jozi right? You co-own a house together, right? Who's salary does the bond come out of? Are you both paying or you just signed to boost the home loan?

Luckly the house is in my house,

@cody: I am referring to my EX, he is no longer my man sice i broke up with him. I need to vry hihihi, but i just cant,

Suddenly I feel is the best thing that could happen in 2008>

Cnglemother
07 Aug 2008 06:10

Orie told ya peeps already - uyashesha?

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 06:10

"The Nyatsi is a blessing: she opened your eyes, saved your life, blessings come in all shapes and sizes and they arent labelled. What you consider ur enemy today, will be ur maid of honour tomorrow."
Amen Andi01, I couldn't have said it better!!!

@nonny well thank you for the compliment,sweet
@ Tha - bang, it's my pelasure hey and BTW I hope u responded to my question at ur "joy of reading" blog, coz I sseriously wanna know what's ur beef with Tyler Perry.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:12

just spoke to him, Cancelled everything.....I hate him , the lady smsed me again now telling me that I must not worry (AGAIN) she's not taking him, the broke up and they njoyed banging each other just for fun.
and
Just broke the news to my family, they are disapointed but they support me,"

So quick, Sweetheart, come back from Honolulu, you are in dream world manje, imagining things and playing us. U really are indenial.

FK
07 Aug 2008 06:13

Orie, 15 times in 5 years, tjo unomusa kakhulu babes. As Nonny and Andi01 points it out, there is no point in hating the mafacka. He does not deserve you and anyone for that matter. Expose the mafacka - As Lupi puts it "Name & Shame".

Oh BTW, take his lousy sorry as%% mafacka to Jozi FM Cheaters, they are now on DSTV Audi channel 178. Tune in tonight (Thursday) just after 10pm and maybe you can learn from others with the same problem: Cheating

Nah Nah
07 Aug 2008 06:13

Orie! my luv pls for ur own health ke ngoku think seriously about marrying this guy. I know when u r in a stable relationship especially if its a fiance thing ppl tend to be comfortable with each other & not use protection,(not to say u dont) but this is an example neh! now if this guy cheats on you & has been for the past 5yrs what would stop him when u are married to him? How will you know that he uses protection with his Nyatsi's?

My man said to me Nah nah baby! (using my real of course) If i beat you up when we fight & u forgive me, just know it will happen again, If i cheat on you & u find out but still take me back just know I will cheat again.. I think he was bein honest with me & I believe what he said cos its true..

Obviously u love the guy & mna personally I'm not at liberty to say Dump him, its ur choice & its ur life but think of the concequences you will live with once you marry him be they are good or bad just think about that...

I think in this situation YOU should be selfish & start to think about YOU not him... Clearly this does'nt make YOU happy, YOUR happiness should come first more than anythin ma daling.. Pls not at this day & age of our's guys we cant let these things to still happen to us..I refuse!!!

Good luck sthandwa vhaaa... remember U'r fabulous & ur fabulousity should not be compromised...

carino
07 Aug 2008 06:16

you never loose by loving, but you always loose by holding back, the greatest risk in life is not taking one

im taking notes...

edgards
07 Aug 2008 06:16

HLALA MPSHA !SUSTER

Orie
07 Aug 2008 06:17

carino
07 Aug 2008 06:18

good for you for kicking him to the curb,life might get slightly lonely now but this too will pass with time

SLIGHTLY??? are you sure Nonnzz?

///taking notes///

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:20

Ubomi bunzima

Orie
07 Aug 2008 06:24

Thanks all. I have taken notes, M going for a break now, I'' ll try not to think 2 much about the mafcker

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 06:25

Blockers, hats off mani, ya'll know how to dish out good advise.

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 06:26

I meant - advice!!!!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:26

@Orie, yazi the guy I am dating now had a girlfriend before me for (4 years), but they were staying in differnt provinces. So wen I started jollying with this guy I asked him about this other girl and he told me that he no longer feels anything for her and that he wont be able to tell her (hence the bad luck thing). I wasnt gonna let dis mafacka play both of us, so I phoned the girl, of course I wasnt gonna say ( hey yazi yintoni sing K), I was rude to her, simple bcoz I wanted her 2 b aware of my existence and sort it out with the man. So that if the man loves her, he can leave me or something. But to cut the long story short, the woman knows about me, and she confronted the man, and he didnt deny it, and so went their relationship. Her problem now is that she blames me. My point is you situation is similar to this Orie and at the end of teh day, teh man is now with me.

andi01
07 Aug 2008 06:28

Oh before you bite ma head off, i phoned the girl and apologised for being rude and she is fine.

pariri
07 Aug 2008 06:47

BTW Orie, gal u are lucky that amablockers were so welcoming to ur man issues blok,
I was about to say that Nonny LOL

what aka mathata
07 Aug 2008 06:54

@Orie,this dude is a cheater?Ok let them come n pay lobola,for five years this dude his been playing you,No i think it will be the first n last time in his life to treat women bad.

That sms Nyatsi send you save it,if he cheat make sure you have a proof,five years is not something you can forget easy,my love let them pay Lobola ,if he cheat again,(Mom has money in the bank),dump the Zero n get hero.

If they come n say wara wara with lobola,give them proof,n tell his mother if she was you can she handle it.n say to in laws this body is not a play ground.

Cody
07 Aug 2008 06:56

okay now i understand you just dumped him now now as we were blocking. i think everyone said what needs to be said. I guess every pain contains a valuable lesson, in this case, you have learned that if you forgive a man for cheating he will do it again because he thinks you love him too much to let him go, so never allow that to happen again, unless you are okay with sharing your man.things might seem tough now, and you will be going back and forth to him because you still love him, just be A STRONG WOMAN and dont go back, asomblief , because love alone is not enough to handle any relationship. believe me i know, i bless the day my dad refused that mafackers lobola!!!! i just realised that i wasnt in love, but in love with the idea of being Mrs so and so, that is the mistake we girls make, thinking how wonderful it will be if we are playing the perfect family with my child. but hell no i aint gonna spend my life feeding that mafacka!

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:03

felfel
07 Aug 2008 07:05

I like ur advice mathata cos the lobola money is his mos, he must pay back....hehehehehe............mhmm....very strategic........take that money and buy urself a new heart cos he done played with yours.............

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:09

@Mathata: Ok let them come n pay lobola,for five years this dude his been playing you:
R u saying I should beat him at his own game. But i told them its over already, He didnt cancel with his family, maybe they should come and my granny should chase them away with the help of my DAD's super BIG 5 dogs LOL

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 07:12

Mathata, ur advice is classic sana, I like the part where u say: "This body is not a playhground".........hay'suka madoda uyo'sholo wena eTVSA............LOL

Cody
07 Aug 2008 07:14

Tjhesa mathata, best advise ever!!! let them pay!!! LOL! god knows i cud use a little bit of cash right now!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 07:16

I hear you mathata, but I think letting go menas forgeting about him, his lobola and cheating arse. If you accept lobola, that means in some kinda way Orie will always be connected to teh mafacka. And besides 2 wrongs dont make a right. Dont be a sore looser, leave while you still have ur pride.

Cody
07 Aug 2008 07:20

nna i was just joking, i dont agree with mathata, walk away gracefully, revenge never solves anything, it just makes you bitter! plus it wont take your pain away

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 07:22

"And besides 2 wrongs dont make a right. Dont be a sore looser, leave while you still have ur pride.
nna i was just joking, i dont agree with mathata, walk away gracefully, revenge never solves anything, it just makes you bitter! plus it wont take your pain away"
Good gals.........

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:23

@andi: I agree with mathata, He played me, i invested in /on (I dun no)him. and now he things I'll make it easier for him since i was the "OKAY" gal, I think its time my family becomes R40000 richer this weekened, It for wasting my time, giving me hopes, sleeping with me, coming to my family before paying lobala, and the change is for all the money i spent on condoms

what aka mathata
07 Aug 2008 07:24

@nonny,wa bora atleast i said something,why always people look for a fight,if is a mistake what i wrote, good for me ,n im proud of that.

@orie,noway ,imali e phonyoke so easy,no no no,this dude must pay for what he done.

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 07:27

@ Orie - for someone who has just made a HUGE decision you are handling it quite well i must say. I think you should do what is best for you now. Stop thinking about what he wants and focus on you. You will be fine. There are more man out there.

Can I please go OFF TOPIC for a second. Since we are on the men subject. I need urgent advice. I met this really great guy and it seemed like we clicked and hit it off. I am really, really attracted to him but he hasnt phoned in 6 days. I thought something was there. My friend says I should call him but I just cant bring myself to. Blockers please be kind.

Thesh
07 Aug 2008 07:27

@Orie-uckly the house is in my house, so sisi, now that you say you dumped him, did you get a job in JHb or not yet, also are you still moving to JHb.

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:28

Eish, Mara Y....I feel like I am walking on space. I can feel my brains

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 07:34

"I thought something was there. My friend says I should call him but I just cant bring myself to. Blockers please be kind."
@ CB, I have six words for: He's Just Not That Into You!!!!!

"@nonny,wa bora atleast i said something,why always people look for a fight,if is a mistake what i wrote, good for me ,n im proud of that."
I wan't looking for a fight, I loved ur reply *like everyother reply from u*, aplogies if I offended u Mathata.

felfel
07 Aug 2008 07:36

Mara Orie you worry me yazi, you are generally very quick to take advice from people, we said dump the dude and you were on the fone and jumped him, now mathata suggests you punish him by taking his lobola and you are quick to nod.....???? What if someone esle convinces you otherwise that you must give him a chance, will you do that ?

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:37

@Thesh: Yes I have a Job in JHB, I will be staying in my house ALONE, he can stay in his beautiful flat with dirty carpet....
@Charlie: Call him and make things clear with him

what aka mathata
07 Aug 2008 07:39

@orie,do what is best for you,But me Mathata im tired with dude who treat women like cheap retired prostitute.

cleve
07 Aug 2008 07:41

@Mathatha I think Nonny was really being genuine. You just come with memorable lines and trust me it's not about your mistakes or your grammer. You are just one person we can learn a lot from.

Am I right or am I right Nonny??

Orie you are not going anywhere, somehow I don't believe you. Please girl get your head straight and get him out of your life ASAP. Don't lie to yourself. Please if you fgeel like being with him go ahead as long as you know the consequences.

cleve
07 Aug 2008 07:41

@Mathatha I think Nonny was really being genuine. You just come with memorable lines and trust me it's not about your mistakes or your grammer. You are just one person we can learn a lot from.

Am I right or am I right Nonny??

Orie you are not going anywhere, somehow I don't believe you. Please girl get your head straight and get him out of your life ASAP. Don't lie to yourself. Please if you feel like being with him go ahead as long as you know the consequences.

cleve
07 Aug 2008 07:41

@Mathatha I think Nonny was really being genuine. You just come with memorable lines and trust me it's not about your mistakes or your grammer. You are just one person we can learn a lot from.

Am I right or am I right Nonny??

Orie you are not going anywhere, somehow I don't believe you. Please girl get your head straight and get him out of your life ASAP. Don't lie to yourself. Please if you feel like being with him go ahead as long as you know the consequences.

Orie
07 Aug 2008 07:43

@felfel: I can take any advice but not the "go back to him type" I deserve much better than him

cleve
07 Aug 2008 07:44

Oops Sorry!!!!!!

belz
07 Aug 2008 07:46

iqalile into, LOL!!!!!!

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 07:47

Am I right or am I right Nonny??
@ Cleve - u're on point dear!!!

mstick
07 Aug 2008 07:52

@CB............jst 2gt abt him.......his nt into u .............

mstick
07 Aug 2008 07:53

I meant 4gt abt hm....

Thesh
07 Aug 2008 07:53

I'm glad to hear that. Hope JHb will treat you well.

Enjoy your stay here, if you need any more advises, you know exactly where to get us.

what aka mathata
07 Aug 2008 07:55

@C brown,thata amachanse uzo thata ama million,always if you want something pls dont fail to try,

if things go well,make sure your handbag has your BFF condom.

Cody
07 Aug 2008 07:55

@nonny,wa bora atleast i said something,why always people look for a fight,if is a mistake what i wrote, good for me ,n im proud of that.

No man thata's dont take it that way, it was your opinion and it is respected, we were not fighting, it is just like a debate, not everyone will agree with you. like you said"good for you", so now, take your canadian a*s and sit down, no one is fighting with you gal! infact i think the blog owner agrees with you 100%. so you should be proud.

Orie my skat >>i invested in /on (I dun no)him: that will teach you to never invest on a human being my skat, rather go to old Mutual, absa, fnb, vodacom shares, etc
It for wasting my time: i am sorry but you wasted your own time on this mafacka! by letting him cheat on you bloody 15 times, hai hai hai!
giving me hopes: errr! will get back on that
sleeping with me: R40000 wont make him "unsleep" you, its like saying "nkotolle he", now that you are cheating (translated:unf@#k me), it wont happen what's been done has been done, now move on!!!
all the money i spent on condoms: you shouldnt have bought those condoms yourself, but hee, you reached the big OO nonetheless( i hope you did otherwise im going to cyber slap you!!), that should make up for the money you spent.

anyway, the decision is yours, but remember no amount of money will buy, your humiliation, dissapointment and hurt back~!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 07:56

"I thought something was there. My friend says I should call him but I just cant bring myself to. Blockers please be kind."
@ CB, I have six words for: He's Just Not That Into You!!!!!
you tOok the words outa my mouth. You phone him, the next thing he does is give you excuses why he didnt phone, you fall for them, and that will be the rest of ur relationship, next year we will have an article like this, written by you Charlie Brown, he isnt phoning coz he doenst wanna speak 2 u, u r not that important to him, period. NEXT.

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 07:56

@ Orie - yes girl - you deserve SO MUCH better. Its his loss and not yours!

@Charlie: Call him and make things clear with him - Really? You think? I really have a tendency of giving on things too early and too quickly. I dont even like to try - I just think things should just happened - it should be effortless - right??

@ CB, I have six words for: He's Just Not That Into You!!!!! - Nonny - how did I know you were going to say that?! Huh?! Maybe you are right - but take what i have said to Orie above into consideration....

Orie - sorry to ride on your blog - but this is eating me! Maybe I should just delete his number and forget about it.

ratogal
07 Aug 2008 07:58

If he hasn't stopped now, i don't think he will ever stop!! The dawg doesn't even respect you,he just let his nyatsi to call you and tell you the kak she is telling you, i think you should run because it seems like there is more to come...

what aka mathata
07 Aug 2008 08:01

@nonny n cleve,i am very very very sorry,the problem is im used gore someone in a blog must say something negative abt MATHATA,pls im sorry(with FANA MOKOENA"S FACE)

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:04

@Orie, yazi this guy has dug a whole inside your heart. A hole that no money in teh world can fill, not revenge, not anger, not alcohol and not one night stands. teh only thing that can fill that hole is time and acceptance. Accept that it wasnt meant to be, and in time you will be fine. This man has humiliated you, dont let him humiliate ur family by paying them for "someone" he doesnt love, respect. Yazi when that lobola is in ur family's hands, that man will turn from a jerk to a monster. He will hate himself for paying soo much for you, when he feels nothing for you and that anger he will take it out on you. "people often hate one another, but there is no man as dangerous as the man that hates himself", so sisi phuma kulomfo.

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 08:06

I meant giving up on things!

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 08:08

"@ CB, I have six words for: He's Just Not That Into You!!!!! - Nonny - how did I know you were going to say that?! Huh?! Maybe you are right - but take what i have said to Orie above into consideration...."
@ CB, if u come and present the kuku to the man, there ain't no way he is gonna resist, if u do call him and he says he is interested, the only reason u must go with flow if is if he says that his mom passed away the day he saw u and he was still recovering from that ordeal & that' why he's been quiet, otherwise, khohlwa uyena!!!!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:08

@Charlie brown I really have a tendency of giving on things too early and too quickly. I dont even like to try, Nigga pleazeeee, why isnt he trying to contact you. He is the man, man do the chasing and we do the hard to get. It makes them feel superior and accomplishers. But if you follow him, it wont work, he will see you as a stalker (trust me I know). if you mean a thing to him, we wont rest until he finds you.

Dino
07 Aug 2008 08:11

LEAVE!!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:11

LOL @ Nonny, but Nonny even if isalukazi sakhe sishonile, surely he would like the "most important girl" in his life to comfort him. Dont u think??, if he doesnt need you in his most lonely and sad moments, then he doesnt feel for you.

cleve
07 Aug 2008 08:12

@nonny n cleve,i am very very very sorry,the problem is im used gore someone in a blog must say something negative abt MATHATA,pls im sorry(with FANA MOKOENA"S FACE)

@Mathatha nna I don't need an apology because you didn't harm me in anyway.I really enjoy reading your comments like the one you just made now. You always know how to bring humour in serious issues. Anyways nna I'm always on your side *silently*

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:14

@ Nonny he says that his mom passed away the day he saw u and he was still recovering from that ordeal, my friend kade bak-shaya-shaya neh, ROTFLMAOL, If the mafacka doesnt phone me for 6 days, I woud forgive him if he says "he was dead for six days", not another excuse coz there is nothing that can keep away a man that wants to be with you, and there is nothing that can make him stay if he doesnt wanna, even if you co-own Isiqalo Court

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 08:16

Mathata - @C brown,thata amachanse uzo thata ama million,always if you want something pls dont fail to try, That's exactly how I feel sometimes but i am so afraid to put myself out there...

@And01 & Nonny I have read the book "He's just not that into you" and I have watched the show on Oprah. Sometimes its easier said than done. Are you telling me you havent gone through something like this? Post the HJNTIY Book? I mean C'MON CUT ME SOME SLACK HERE!

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 08:17

"@nonny n cleve,i am very very very sorry,the problem is im used gore someone in a blog must say something negative abt MATHATA,pls im sorry(with FANA MOKOENA"S FACE)"
@ Mathata - I understand gal, that's why even though I like joking, when it comes to u i chose my jokes, coz I don't wanna offend u. Peace gal, ur originality rocks!!!!

"LOL @ Nonny, but Nonny even if isalukazi sakhe sishonile, surely he would like the "most important girl" in his life to comfort him. Dont u think??, if he doesnt need you in his most lonely and sad moments, then he doesnt feel for you."
I feel u Andi01, this man is seriously not worth it CB!!!!

pariri
07 Aug 2008 08:21

@ Orie, I can't help but wonder what this guy had to say when u dumped his a$$, coz I don't think he was really expecting it as u forgave him 15 tyms be4
I just hope that u mean it this tym for ur sake and family.

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 08:21

And01 & Nonny - you kill me! You guys are really funny! But more than that thank you for your straight talk. Sometimes Best Friends cant tell you the truth only what you want to hear. I guess I didnt want to face it myself. So I will move on and forget about it. You guys are right. If he wants me he will find me and shouldnt stalk him! Thanx guys I owe you!

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:26

@Charlie Brown, C'MON CUT ME SOME SLACK HERE! , by being honest with you we are actually giving you the whole pie/ cake. Deep down you know the guy isnt interested but you dont wanna accept it, coz u thinking there is nothing wrong with me, of course there is nothing wrong with you, and neither with him. But the poor guy just doesnt liek you in that way OK. Now before you start hating teh Dude, take a look at urself are you that desperate, that you would remind someone, (who clearly doesnt wanna remember you), about ur existence. Are you that naive to think that he lost ur number. Are u such a doormat that even if the guy doesnt give u the respect u deserve (keeping his promise), that you will bend down for him and be a sucker for his lousy excuses. Girl please you are way smarter than that.

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 08:33

@Andi01 - I hope you read my response to you and Nonny. But dont worry, you have made your point and you are right. Like I said I just needed someone else to tell me. Sometimes a person needs a little nudge... someone to confirm thier sentiments.

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 08:33

"my friend kade bak-shaya-shaya neh, ROTFLMAOL"
@ And01, I've seen & heard it all gal.

"And01 & Nonny - you kill me! You guys are really funny! But more than that thank you for your straight talk."
I know what u mean Charlie, my day is never complete without Andi01, she's funny and gives the best advice.

Orie
07 Aug 2008 08:35

@pariri,
U wont beleive this but he said " I will marry you wether you like it or not" And I told him, Cum'on, Do u think I was a fool to sit around while u were cheating, I have a new BF this side, Of cos I was lying, Just dont want him 2 think my life is incomplete without him, Cant repeat the same mistake for the 16th time

mstick
07 Aug 2008 08:37

U wont Blv ds bt he saud 'i will marry u weda u lyk it or not'.............tl tl tl tl tl tl tl.......kwa kwa kwa.............Orie u man hav control issues

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 08:37

"Thanx guys I owe you!"
A 100 boxes of Dunhil Methol 20 packs would do, damn cigarettes have gone up again............mximmmm!!!!

mstick
07 Aug 2008 08:39

I meant he said........

Orie
07 Aug 2008 08:39

Blockers:::::
Thank you for your honesty, I never expected this kind of response on my first day.. (I am very new) I will take ur advice into consideration; Due to Keeping it Green thing I will not print this, but I'll definately save it. LUv u all

Mcwaaahhh

Charlie Brown
07 Aug 2008 08:45

A 100 boxes of Dunhil Methol 20 packs would do, damn cigarettes have gone up again............mximmmm!!!! @Nonny - I love you too much girl to let you smoke so a box of chocolate will do. And quit smoking!

@ Orie - I am glad you are standing your ground. He will probably regret it and you will probably be thankful for this moment. You are now a better and stronger person because of this! Now go on girl and enjoy your new found self!

Tshd21
07 Aug 2008 08:46

Orie, you put up with a lot sh*t...

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:49

I have a new BF this side, Of cos I was lying, Just dont want him 2 think my life is incomplete without him, should have told him, you dont want him, because you cant take his cheating anymore. yes you are heartbroken coz u loved him, but in time you will get over him. You are in no rush for another relationship. People out there are naive, so I think honesty is the only way. If you want him to believe you, he might as well believe the truth. dont you think LOL.

pariri
07 Aug 2008 08:49

U wont beleive this but he said " I will marry you wether you like it or not"
OMW !!!! damn the guy is unbelievable he's got one hell of a nerve , so clearly he needs someone who'll cook and clean for him while he's busy shagging other ppl
its a good thing u told him where to get off yazi

ginger
07 Aug 2008 08:52

bloggers, I am in the middle of Amazon surrounded by huge trees and weird flowers (basically am lost). Why abanye benu la (no name dropping) use the word BLOCKERS?

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:53

My story was similar to yours http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=TrueStory&ArticleID=7920, but i moved on, it was hard but I did, so all my advises are from experience. I have been with steve for 4 months, we are so inlove, he isnt perfect and we also do fight once in a while. But my life is a whole lot better, and has meaning. If umntu doesnt treat u right, u cant make them. the only thing you can do for urself is love urself enough to leave (trust me girl, I know). If i could do it so can you, i was obsessed

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:55

My story was similar to yours http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=TrueStory&ArticleID=7920, but i moved on, it was hard but I did, so all my advises are from experience. I have been with steve for 4 months, we are so inlove, he isnt perfect and we also do fight once in a while. But my life is a whole lot better, and has meaning. If umntu doesnt treat u right, u cant make them. the only thing you can do for urself is love urself enough to leave (trust me girl, I know). If i could do it so can you, i was obsessed with

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:55

My story was similar to yours http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=TrueStory&ArticleID=7920, but i moved on, it was hard but I did, so all my advises are from experience. I have been with steve for 4 months, we are so inlove, he isnt perfect and we also do fight once in a while. But my life is a whole lot better, and has meaning. If umntu doesnt treat u right, u cant make them. the only thing you can do for urself is love urself enough to leave (trust me girl, I know). If i could do it so can you, i was obsessed with this

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:55

My story was similar to yours http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=TrueStory&ArticleID=7920, but i moved on, it was hard but I did, so all my advises are from experience. I have been with steve for 4 months, we are so inlove, he isnt perfect and we also do fight once in a while. But my life is a whole lot better, and has meaning. If umntu doesnt treat u right, u cant make them. the only thing you can do for urself is love urself enough to leave (trust me girl, I know). If i could do it so can you, i was obsessed with this mafacka

andi01
07 Aug 2008 08:57

My story was similar to yours http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=TrueStory&ArticleID=7920, but i moved on, it was hard but I did, so all my advises are from experience. I have been with steve for 4 months, we are so inlove, he isnt perfect and we also do fight once in a while. But my life is a whole lot better, and has meaning. If umntu doesnt treat u right, u cant make them. the only thing you can do for urself is love urself enough to leave (trust me girl, I know). If i could do it so can you, i was obsessed with this mafacka

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 08:59

"Nonny - I love you too much girl to let you smoke so a box of chocolate will do. And quit smoking!"
CB - Cassandra scared the hell outta me izolo, so I'd rather have cancer than obesity, so please, stop being stubborn and corrier the dam ciggies.........LOL

"Bloggers, I am in the middle of Amazon surrounded by huge trees and weird flowers (basically am lost). Why abanye benu la (no name dropping) use the word BLOCKERS?"
U should really try to blog more khona ungeke ushiywe isitimela. We know the correct term is bloggers, kodwa ke esinye isibhayizane by the name of Molibelis sathi blockers and now we prefer to use it as well. So ke it's blockers (bloggers) and blocks (blogs), I hope u are nolonger lost Ginger????

boogy-babe
07 Aug 2008 09:02

Dump the bastard.

myname
07 Aug 2008 09:23

Hayi bafethu yu can talk & shame who needs psychologist whereas we have beautiful blockers like you...........Hats off guys!!........My dear i will b spoiling ur bloc if i type something so Kugqityiwe yasho neBlible. And Myname is leaving & all i can say 2 u, Good Luck nonoza just chose the best 4 urself Bye.

mstick
07 Aug 2008 09:37

Kodwa ke esinye isibhayizane by the name of Molibelis sathi blockers.........Nonny mannnnn y u name droping yeh???? LMAO..........glad my gal Moli is not here 2 c ds........

cobiefun
07 Aug 2008 09:47

Seriously amaBlockers killed it so just dump this looser and i promise you theres a gentlmen out there who will treat you like a Queen that you are goodluck gal!

sbu001
07 Aug 2008 10:08

i think the guy though deserved a seventeenth chance....people change but with time...

sbu001
07 Aug 2008 10:14

really ladies have just to accept that we cant this one woman thing...the guy loved u Orie otherwise he cannot think about marrying u if he doesnt but I think our fathers or ancestors gave us genes which makes us not 2 be satified with one lady.....there is no guy I know who does not cheat(especially black guys)

ladies just accept it,but one thing that is wrong about this guy is the fact that Orie always has to know that he cheated....everyone does it but we hide from our main chicks.

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 10:23

LMAO @ seventeeth chance, that is ridiculou to hear, imagine doing it. Hayi mani Sbu001at was a classic!!!

"Kodwa ke esinye isibhayizane by the name of Molibelis sathi blockers.........Nonny mannnnn y u name droping yeh???? LMAO..........glad my gal Moli is not here 2 c ds........"
Mstick - If I was scared, I wouldn't have mentioned names dear!!!!

Beyonce
07 Aug 2008 10:34

Sbu001--- classic indeed, uhamba wedwa(you are walking alone):)

andi01
07 Aug 2008 10:38

@Sbu001, what you said is true mfethu, most men (black, pink, dreen) cheat, but that doesnt mean we must accept it NEVER, if we stand against men cheating on us, we can fight it and win. if we dont win then i guess (in malema"s voice), we will eliminate teh cheaters. LOL

Nonny
07 Aug 2008 10:45

"ladies just accept it,but one thing that is wrong about this guy is the fact that Orie always has to know that he cheated....everyone does it but we hide from our main chicks."
hahahahah I gotta say I appreciate ur honesty Sbu001!!!!

cleve
07 Aug 2008 10:59

@ Sbu there is no such thing. Not all men cheat!! Hhayi ngiyala. We just need to wait and we shall find. That is the mindset we have and it's a lie. We are only fed that Sh*t so we can accept it when it happens. Girls you have a choice accept sh*t and you will be treated like sh*t.

And these days there is Aids condom or not. Please let me have a choice and don't make it for me.

Onna
07 Aug 2008 11:31

@ Sbu001 its mafakas like you who think they are entitled to hurt other poeple and treat them like *bleep!* who make other men look bad. Not every man out there is like you.You have the gall to say we should accept it as if its the right thing to do.Sis man,you are a sorry excuse for a man.
I really feel for the unfortunate sister that calls you her boyfriend.A real man respects his girl and his totolozi.
Sisters there are still MEN out there and not the sub-humans that cheat and abuse you.

love-ness
07 Aug 2008 14:20

il just keep quite n read on,all has been said.
@mathata cant stop imaginig the apologetic fana mokoena face tl...tl....tl....tl...tl....

Firstdvd
07 Aug 2008 16:00

As Belz mentioned earlier...Do you really need there advices? Cheated 15times within 5yrs? Something about u, Orie. U Published this today, within an hour you've already made your decision and drew the line...Kuyasheshwa la neh!

Sbosh
07 Aug 2008 17:30

Most men who cheat seem to think all other men do too. . . NOT !!!
Such weaklings lack personal power & self esteem, they are dependent & a disgrace to real men. A mistake can happen but it shouldn't if you have sound moral values. A REAL man loves & respects his mother, sister(s), wife or girlfriend. Being a REAL man is about purpose, achievement, respect, accountability, nurturing, loving & protecting the ones closest to you.

Segololo
07 Aug 2008 17:52

<<If they come n say wara wara with lobola,give them proof,n tell his mother if she was you can she handle it.n say to in laws this body is not a play ground.>> MaT, hai! When can we get the sneak preview of the E! True Mzansi show... You rock! I laughed so hard at this comment... It's just unreal...

Beyonce Knowles Bee
07 Aug 2008 19:03

Sbu, Sbu, Sbu- uyabora yong sis mann NTL!!! In Phumzile frm Cit Sesla'sela' Face!!!!!

eish-bo
07 Aug 2008 21:00

sisi for what its worth I think you should have fought for your man, women have this strength that no one understands...bekumele UQOQE umuntu wakho and not just let some fluzzy make u throw away 5 years with this guy...but there is no turning back now since u called the whole lobola thing off. next time never EVER let the other woman win coz she will always try to find a way to cause trouble between you and your man so be strong.

Orie
08 Aug 2008 00:32

FirstDvd: I am fed up, the thing is men dont realise that we are also capable of cheating, BUT we dont do that because we value our selves and our Vi J J, and should I decide to cheat I will make sure he doesnt find out, even if I sleep with his brother/ best friend, Women are very secretive unlike men

The are men out there who dont cheat and I will find one in time...

Eish-bo: Not giving the other women the satisfaction pleases my EX, bcos he will start to believe that I njoy his style and HE WONT CHANGE... They deserve each other, I can get better, when i move to JHB maybe

Madam Dee
08 Aug 2008 00:52

hi y'all, as much as you wanna knock Sbu, ppl *bleep!* happens and thats life its in their nature . cmon men cheat period (if you dont believe me ask your grandfather how many times he cheated on your granny you gonna have a heart attach if he's honest) truth is they respected their families more than anything. i'm all for the revolution of "no way in hell will i let him get away with it" Keep him occupied with worry about you dont let it be the other way round.

Nonny
08 Aug 2008 01:01

"..bekumele UQOQE umuntu wakho and not just let some fluzzy make u throw away 5 years with this guy..."
can't believe my ears?? Eish-bo, u said "bekumele UQOQE umuntu wakho".......how in the Lords name can Orie change her man coz it's beeen 5 years and he has cheated repeatly? It's obvious that he ain't gonna change. Yazi, it's the same mentality that u have that makes women stay in unsatisfied relationships just becoz they have invested a lot of time in it. Mina I say Orie is worth much more and she doesn't deserve to be with a man that doesn't even have the decency to cheat secretly *BTW which is also unacceotable!!!!* U cannot stay in an unhappy relationship, just becoz of history, there are still more men out there and many more years to be in a healthier relationship.

Nonny
08 Aug 2008 01:06

(if you dont believe me ask your grandfather how many times he cheated on your granny you gonna have a heart attackif he's honest)
hahahahahh @ Madam Dee, gal u reminded me of what my late uncle used to say he would say: "If men could cheat while they had no cellphones, what's gonna preventing them from doing it when technolgy has made cheating so much easier for them"........then he would go on and say: "It's fine for a man to cheat as long as the end of the day he is gonna make that woman his 2nd or 3rd wife and not play with her body and waste her time".........I would just roll my eyes, coz mina I refuse to be second best.

Tynt!
08 Aug 2008 01:27

@ Orie: No beta words can alleviate all this, and no matter how much of advices we share with, if u not ready to give it up, it won’t make a difference. I have been through the same isht, and as sightless as I was I went on with the Lobola phase though my friends advised not to…All that I am saying is when u worn-out with all his *bleep!*, u will eventually walk out, in spite of whether its 2 seconds before lobola or after.

andi01
08 Aug 2008 02:36

@Eish -Bo, "..bekumele UQOQE umuntu wakho and not just let some fluzzy make u throw away 5 years with this guy..." but its the guy who threw away 5 years, by cheating, dont you think. And you calling the other woman a "fluzzy", you are worrying me Eish, cause according to research women that call other women bad names, they have issues within themselves.

Savage
08 Aug 2008 02:43

Is he RICH? If yes, then marry him and then when you catch him cheating again divorce him and take 75% of his belongings!! Be a savage!

Nonny
08 Aug 2008 02:47

"Is he RICH? If yes, then marry him and then when you catch him cheating again divorce him and take 75% of his belongings!! Be a savage!"
LMAO @ Savage, ur name and responses says it all...........LOL

belz
08 Aug 2008 02:52

How in hell do you QOQA someone, kanti wena uqoqwe ngubani.

cleve
08 Aug 2008 03:07

Savage that is just crazy. (LOL)

There are good men out there it's just that as women we settle for second best, people have fed us that men cheat and it's okay.
Imagine if I had stayed in an abusive marraige thinking that all men are abusive and they have a right to be like that. Just like it hurts to be abused, being cheated on over and over again scars you deep within because you start asking yourself if you are the problem. It undermines your self worth and you end up with no self-esteem. I know good men out there. Don't settle because he is the only choice you have at that point.

Women are so desperate to get married that they will marry any man that we set our eyes on. We want the perfect family dream. Women in society are measured by which car you drive, the triple storey house, the husband and kids. We must sit down and think about who we are and measure ourselves to that.

Orie
08 Aug 2008 03:09

@Savage: Is he RICH? Maybe for the other lady, he's definately not rich for me.
I want nothing to do with him, he can keep his beautifull flat with a dirty carpet

Madam Dee
08 Aug 2008 03:19

its so funny how yall give this "if he cheats on you then dump him "advice, now be honest with us guys can anyone of you honestly tell us that their man has never cheated on you before and then you forgave them- pls cast them stones

sthasam
08 Aug 2008 03:26

"...NEVER let the other woman win ..." did Eish read the blog properly? win what, a cheating looser with no morals and self respect. please, thats no victory. the Nyatsi can have him, Orie has just won her freedom back.

sthasam
08 Aug 2008 03:31

@Madam Dee, not 15 times!!??!! you break up with him internaly from the first time. by the 3rd time he tries such sh*t, you'd be ready to kick his *ss to the curb!

boogy-babe
08 Aug 2008 03:43

Hewethu mdampe lamntu coz u allowing him to do this cheating business kuwe

Savage
08 Aug 2008 03:43

Most MEN cheat! I'm one of them!! But I respect my woman (the real one) enough not let her catch me cheating! Do you know why we cheat? Most of us cheat becoz it feels good to WANT SOMETHING THATS NOT YOURS AND GET IT!!!

cleve
08 Aug 2008 03:45

Madam dee yes you are right. My x cheated on me when we were dating but I didn't care because I wasn't the main girlfriend and we were not exclusive. I had my man and he had his girl. We were just living our lives. When he decided that he wanted to be with me, I stopped what I was doing and he stopped aswell.

This guy has decided to marry this woman and he has done it 15 times not once, not twice. We are all human and we make stupid decisions sometimes but not the same mistake 15 times, it is so unnacceptable. that is just crazy.

HARAMBE24
08 Aug 2008 03:51

Do not marry with a heavey heart...it cost much less to cancel this thing than a devorce coz thats where you are heading..i say, get out while you still can...15 times in 5 years, what are you waiting for...fairy god mother?

u4me
08 Aug 2008 03:52

Orie, i think you dont need any advise, you know what to do. the man is an open book to you, if you cant read him then you are blind.
what else are you waiting for to happen before you run for your life, do you owe him.
Are you that desparate to hang around for that excuse of a man. Rise up from the dead and start living.

sbu001
08 Aug 2008 03:54

believe what u like but most men cheat(90%) those who dont are what we call izishumane who cant possible get another chick,it requires a skill 2 make ur gal to think that u not doing anything....in Orie's case the guy is just stupid...ma chick will never catch me doing anything she can go only as far as suspecting

andi01
08 Aug 2008 03:58

@Savage, But I respect my woman (the real one) enough not let her catch me cheating! Do you know why we cheat? Most of us cheat becoz it feels good to WANT SOMETHING THATS NOT YOURS AND GET IT!!!, I am disappointed at how you label woman, you refer to them as "the real one" and "something", to me it seems you see women as objects and not human beings.

sbu001
08 Aug 2008 04:06

Savage-thats what Im saying dude....

pariri
08 Aug 2008 04:10

WANT SOMETHING THATS NOT YOURS AND GET IT!!!
unyanisile Savage, amadoda awoneli period !!!!! and soze onele
so at the end of the day we are the ones who choose to take that crap

pariri
08 Aug 2008 04:19

ma chick will never catch me doing anything she can go only as far as suspecting
@ Sbu, that's bull !!! even if she can't see what u're doing, she can still feel it and blv me that feeling doesn't go away easily, and thats when u start falling out of love with someone

Nonny
08 Aug 2008 04:20

"WANT SOMETHING THATS NOT YOURS AND GET IT!!!
unyanisile Savage, amadoda awoneli period !!!!! and soze onele
so at the end of the day we are the ones who choose to take that crap"

This reminds me of BS's friend, who says: "There are two types of women, the one that is being cheated on, and the one he is cheating with"..........damn kunzima ukuba umfazi emnyango!!!!

molibelis
08 Aug 2008 04:29

@ Nonny.........technolgy (Technology)
@ Nonny..........unacceotable!!!!* (Unacceptable)
@ Nonny.........immagine (Imagine)
@ Nonny.........thee (the)
@ Nonny......... Advise= I meant - advice!!!!

kodwa ke esinye isibhayizane by the name of Molibelis sathi blockers

@ mstick Dont mind them my love, tshwene ha e ipone MAKOPO mare e bona MAKOPO a tshwene e nngwe.

@ Nonny make sure that u double check your MISTAKES b4 u underline mine,dont be a FOOL

welcome to the Real World,where u never ??????????

pariri
08 Aug 2008 04:29

what are you waiting for...fairy god mother?
LOL H24

sbu001
08 Aug 2008 04:30

the thing is ladies like to be told lies even now my honesty is perceived as some sort of craziness...u all know what Im talking about...dont fool urself just be grateful that ur guy is not lyk Orie's fiancee and u still believe that he does not cheat

Savage
08 Aug 2008 04:32

This reminds me of BS's friend, who says: "There are two types of women, the one that is being cheated on, and the one he is cheating with"..........damn kunzima ukuba umfazi emnyango!!!!

And the one that HE is cheating with is also CHEATING ON HER real man and her real man is somwher cheating ANOTHER GIRL who is also CHEATING on her REAL MAN who is also somewher cheating with..... NJALO-NJALO!!

sbu001
08 Aug 2008 04:34

Savage-its a never ending cycle

andi01
08 Aug 2008 04:44

Ohhh Molibelis, get a hobby, pleazeeeeeeeeeeee, uNonny was just explaining gore where the name "Blocker" originated from. Arent you glad to be the proud inventor of the name and given the recognition you desreve for it.

pariri
08 Aug 2008 04:48

""And the one that HE is cheating with is also CHEATING ON HER real man and her real man is somwher cheating ANOTHER GIRL who is also CHEATING on her REAL MAN who is also somewher cheating with..... NJALO-NJALO""

hahahhaahahahah @ NJALO-NJALO yhooooo andinongayihleki Savage LOL

Savage
08 Aug 2008 04:48

U know why our fore-fathers made such perfect husbands? Coz they could marry as many wives as they could afford!!

Orie
12 Sep 2008 01:48

I am the happiest women on earth right now.... I think I will have to post my ex picture and these story on www.donotdatehim.co.za so that even you (sisters) can not be fooled by his charm. I am happly single but have a good shagging mate (friend)

Cande
12 Sep 2008 01:58

I heard of the site, one week and its already the most talked about thing amongst women..some men maara..

You did a good thing Orie, you deserve better

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