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Ish Scared

Written by EAP from the blog Ish Scared on 22 Oct 2008
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Almost met my creator yesterday. I was standing waiting for the robot to open when some maniac decided to skip the robot at some crazy speed, lost control and headed straight for me. Didn't see him till he was within a meter of me and by then there was nowhere to run. He managed to swerve in time to avoid hitting me straight on, instead I hit his rearview mirror by the driver's side. Apart from a few scrapes and being sore, I'm feeling irie. I was a wreck after that, doing the whole self-pity thing, the what if's. I'm okay now and soooooooo grateful God spared my life, nana can't be an orphan, not anytime soon

Boyfriend had an HIV test yesterday, results are due on Friday. Today's my turn, in fact as soon as am done posting this blog am having my date with destiny. I've been putting off going for tests since husband died, didn't think I'd be able to handle any nasty surprises while having to grieve at the same time. The last time I had any tests was when he was still alive, I made it a point to know my status since finding out about his infidelities (with all due respect to the dead). Issues we were still dealing with when he met his untimely death. I was do for a follow up test around the time of his death and I just simply didn't go coz I was scared of what I'd find out. With him gone, where would I vent? Whom would I cross reference with? So ja, that was my excuse

I didn't sleep much last night,  I think it was around 2am when I finally managed to shut my eyes. I stress too much and I was trying to think of the outcome and the reactions thereof. For one, it got me and boyfriend talking for once. We spoke about the fights we always have and how they are pushing me away and making me take a step back, we spoke about my fear of dad dying and him drinking again (I hadn't told anyone that he's back on the bottle except for y'all bloggers), we also spoke about the results of our tests and our reactions towards them. He's just so candid about everything, where does this man come from? He says he'll rejoice if the results are negative and he'll accept it if they are positive. Tunes he's not gonna point fingers nor be hard on himself or me coz *bleep!* happens. Instead he'll find a way of coping with the devastating news and be there for me coz I stress too much and he can't afford stirring up my heart condition

The thing is, boyfriend and I had an "incident" with the condom a couple of weeks ago which has been at the back of our minds since but no one mentioned anything about it. I guess we were in denial. Now, I am ish scared. Once I lift my tush from this chair and go to VCT, there's no turning back. Am not sure if I want the rapid one or the one that'll delay the inevitable. I'll be honest though, had he not initiated it, I would've kept brushing off that nagging thought at the back of my mind. I'm one of those ignorant cowards that keep saying I only wanna know my status when am on my deathbed. I guess am blessed to have a man who cares so much about his health and mine. I don't know how am gonna take it should I find out am positive, I can't afford a relapse - I've worked so hard.

Gotta go maBloggers




19 Comments

carino
22 Oct 2008 07:20

OMG

tha - bang
22 Oct 2008 07:26

well best of luck and Godsbe.

Cande
22 Oct 2008 07:26

I dont like it when someone suggests that i have an HIV test, i will do it when i am ready and willing..
Good luck with your Test EAP

LM
22 Oct 2008 07:30

All the best EAP!

Pooky
22 Oct 2008 07:32

all the best gal

carino
22 Oct 2008 07:35

ohh... only read the bit about the accident.... now i was wondering what cande is on about....I agree with you candzzz....

Hlehle
22 Oct 2008 07:45

I've done it several times and gal its scary. Even though you knew that last three months u were negative and u did use a condom but still u keep on waiting for the worst news. Good luck gal and be blessed.

JadaPinkett
22 Oct 2008 07:52

Congra! to ur first article!

Mina I was not scared coz my boyfriend showed me his result and he negetive and he was the first I slept with so when I went for my HIV Test I knew it will be negetive even though they were trying to threatning me.

witty lady
22 Oct 2008 07:54

had that last month.... shu.... the waiting alone nje can kill u, so many things go through your mind. GOOD LUCK NE!

what aka mathata
22 Oct 2008 07:57

Girl,good luck,be strong n takeit as a women,sometimes bad things happen to good ppl bcs God knows they can handle it.

if bad thing happen is not a SIN.just say phambili is where im going.

Cande
22 Oct 2008 07:59

hello MAthata *wave*

witty lady
22 Oct 2008 08:01

@Mathata, very wise words.

what aka mathata
22 Oct 2008 08:25

@cande,current boova(dr mageu VC.

@witty,in life if you want good things you must pass bad bad challenges,you will realise your problem is not a problem ,is how you yourself  you challenge it.
dankie my skatte bonkies.

witty lady
22 Oct 2008 08:32

@Mathata, I've been thru so much stuff some of it u wont believe, even I cant believe I managed to cope, but you know what once u r thru it, it doesnt look as bad as it was. God is always watching.

what aka mathata
22 Oct 2008 08:44

Now tell yourrself you pass your graduation,what left ,is work hard like a slave one day you are going to be proud n thank d  devil for all harrasement.

bad situation make you a better person in life,if you dont want problems,you will never learn.

witty lady
22 Oct 2008 08:46

yep.

EAP
22 Oct 2008 09:25

I'M BACK!!

Yo, yo, yo - You never get used to these things. My whole body was shaking, I didn't hear a word the counsellor said to me. My whole life was just flashing in front of me. I wanted to do the lab one to buy me some time mara I decided to stop being a coward and did a rapid one. I'm negative, am not gonna be so scared to go for the next one in 3 months even if the result changes. Am motivated now

@ Cande, he didn't suggest that I go for one. He'd gone to the doctor to have his BP checked yesterday when the doctor suggested an HIV test. As I said, it had been at the back of our minds but I guess we were too cowardly about it. I thought about it and decided to do mine today for my own peace of mind and to stop being so ignorant and dismissive

@ Jada - this is not my first article, I've posted quite a few. I hope y'all don't mind me using this forum as my "venting-machine"

Firstdvd
27 Oct 2008 23:46

Good ;-)

PY
28 Oct 2008 09:09

Good luck for the window period...i often dont go for it....but some1 i know just told me that she got tested for the first time and they found her negative.....she got tested after 3 months (window period)....and was positive....and did the third test.....positive again...now she just started to live positively...she talks about it....she is so brave....


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