I am growing increasingly concerned with a certain storyline on Rhythm City. I thought I was alone until a group of friends started discussing the subject in reference to regular society. I was shocked to say the least. Stone's Rhythm In The City is very concerning and troubling but an obvious reflection of what is happening in our societies across the world
Apparently a significant number of husbands and boyfriends are dating or hooking up with men. I find this to be disgusting! With that, I don’t mean to imply that homosexuality is disgusting I am just pointing out that putting your wife or girlfriend at risk because you find it too taxing on your life to face reality is sick.
What happens next…. You give your wife or girlfriend a slew of diseases in your quest to quench you sexual thirst?
By the way his face reads:
"I'm in the company of confusion but I dont care as long as I get some confusion to go home with me tonight"The day Stone tried to pick up that confused looking guy was both funny to watch but alarming when in thought. I just could not help but laugh when Fats asked them how they know each other.
A psychologist friend who I asked a couple of questions told me something confusing. She said…”certain very heterosexual men can have a once off intense sexual and emotional connection which is compounded by experiencing true love with a same sexed person and it becomes very difficult for them to make sense of what they are going through. They will then act it out once and never go there again. They will even go to the grave with the secret”.
She continues to explain that very few men will act on those emotions and they will end up thinking that they are gay but in fact they are not. Hence some of these men can claim to have been cured, whereas there was nothing to be cured of.”
I asked...."what happens to those men who continue to be married and live double lives for the sake of family, church and society?". She said….”it becomes easier for them to live that lie because no one is going to question a happily married man if they see him in a restaurant on a date with another man. They will think anything but DATE”.
She then said “Certain men but not all homosexual men, are able to excite themselves to a point of arousal and they can sustain a sexual relationship with their wives. Although they don’t derive as much pleasure as when they are with men, they will fake it for the sake of the lie. They then run a chance of finding that guy they can’t resist which brings with it new complications and demands.”
When Stone had that gun and wanted to kill himself because he could not deal with the fact that he had feelings for another guy. It was very touching and I expected him to just be gay or bisexual. Also I just think he threw that fit because he did not want Thula dating that shuga daddy. But right now he seems too gay than bi. For me bisexuality is presented well by Len over at Isidingo but the bisexuals I’ve seen are too intense and very seductive…wait that is like the old, old old… Len.
Oh did you see how Swai grabbed Stone's hand and went off to dance the tango. Who knew they did it in Swazi's car! Anyway moving on....
On the other hand (LOL), I wonder if the viewers of this show in rural and township areas are having opinions on the case of Stone. Or do they just throw it to TV and hope he will disappear from their screen? Or do they just ignore it and get excited when the family talks marriage and lobola?
To my knowledge Stone has had three guys and possibly slept with two and had one close encounter. We all know that he is in love with Thula who is now dating his sister. My goodness this is more convoluted than Wisteria Lane. The bottom line is that he is painfully in love with Thula and the fact that Thula is free with his sexuality drives him insane. Good acting on the part of the actors.
In reality, the storyline rings true to many people’s lives. I find it very disturbing that a poor soul such as the character of Charlotte, who thinks she has found her dream man. Is about to have a rude reality check. How many girls, ladies or married females are involved with a gay guy who is playing straight? How many guys are so confused that they prefer to go straight just to keep up appearances?
Where are REAL HETROSEXUAL MEN?.... I guess ladies must stock up on Currie Cup tickets to find love?
Can you imagine being married to your husband and 20 years into the relationship with three kids to your belly, you discover that he is in fact homosexual, not bisexual but down right GAY! Who is to blame…could it be YOU for not realizing it sooner; or he was good at pretending and you never even had a reason to doubt him?
Stone can be confused by himself without involving his poor family in this mess of a marriage, relationship with Charlotte and his experiences with Sizwe. I should also note that the show’s attempt to bring to light the issue of “HEALING GAYNESS” was a stroke of excellence as most people “who are not gay” believe that gay people can be turned straight.
Denial is a very deadly state of affairs and Stone is swimming is jumbo sized pool of it.
Case #1I have been married for over 40 years with two grown up children who still live at home. I am know my husband is gay. He secretly sees a man younger than our son. He talks to him several times a day and is always on the computer in chat rooms. He also clears the computer data every time he logs off. What can I do? I am very hurt at all this lies.Case #2I think my husband is gay. I am married 19 yrs, when i met my husband i was taken back because he was and still is very feminine. But I overlooked it because of I felt that just because he was femine it doens't always mean he is gay. Sometimes I was very embarrassed to bring him around to my friends because they all thought that he was gay. But now 19 years and 3 kids later we are still together. We are more like friends than husband and wife. We don't have sex at all, maybe once a of months sometimes more. he buys me cloths jewlery etc... even a bedspread for my bed. . but that is not what bothers me.. Sometimes i catch him on the Internet in gay chat rooms but I never say a word about it. But last night was the straw that broke the camels back. A very good friend of ours came out to us last night. And during our discussions I mentioned that I have a gay relative i would like to fix him up with. At that point my husband took out the photo album and showed him a picture of him. Then our friend was looking through the album and commented on how my husband looks so young and my husband asked him if he thought that he was hot.. I wanted to die..
There is nothing feminine about Stone and I know a lot of gay guys who are very straight looking and sounding, but the question is …..
What would you do if you found out that your husband is gay? Do you keep lobola as compensation for pain and suffering?
Now to make matters interesting….
If you have children with Mr. Man, do you continue with the marriage for the sake of children or do you just cut your loses and find Mr. Right who is straight?
Whilst digesting those questions, read this
Case #3I'm a straight female living with a man who I think is in denial about being gay. I want to talk to him without a confrontation. I don't understand his feelings, but I don't want to hurt him like I'm hurting. I'm angry because of the deceit, but if he can't tell me, then he is living in his own hell on the inside. I have been with him for 5 years and I have seen some signs, but I don't know where to begin. I honestly don't want to ask him about his sexuality. I just know that I can't live this lie with him anymore and maybe he doesn't want me sexually, but he needs me for more than a cover. How can I talk to him about this without making him feel like dirt.Case #4My boyfriend Larry who i met last year in Stockport, has been acting really strange recently. I've noticed he's been spending a lot of time with a friend of his, he met watching football in Hamburg. But his behaviour is not like he's just friends with him, he talks about him as someone would do about their partner. I find it dead creepy, he spends a few nights a week at his place watching dvd's and doesn't come home. Plus i've been told by a friend, they've been seen togeather in the gay village in Manchester, when he's said he been watching City. Should i just come out with it? or am i just being stupid?cosmopolitan.co.uk
I want you to also tell me if you think it's fare for Stone to marry Charlotte even thou he may very well be gay?
And
If you were Charlotte what would you do if you found your boyfriend/husband had sex with your male friend and other men whilst you were together?
Rhythm CIty airs on etv at 18h30 monday to friday.
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