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To cheat or not to cheat

Written by andi01 from the blog To cheat or not to cheat on 30 Jan 2009
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There is a notion that only men cheat, that’s the sh@t right there. I know thousands of women that cheat on their men (partners). My questions are

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner
2. will you ever cheat on your men
3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards
4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating
5. How do men feel when they partners cheat.
6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner

Kom mense, laat ons praat.

119 Comments

andi01
30 Jan 2009 08:47

Ezomdavaso, vroeg in die moore,

felfel
30 Jan 2009 08:54

Women cheat cos they learned from the best.............
They just got tired of being victims and converted to being perpetrators.

Some women cheat because they have a need, be it financial, more attention, better sex...etc, or just because they can get away with it. Some cheat with their ex's whom they never got over. Some cheat cos they just can't say no, they are generally easy & loose, they drop them knickers as quick as you throw away a 5cent coin. Some feel sorry for the dude they with so they don't him they cheat on him, some are looking for greener pastures before pulling the anchor.

Feza
30 Jan 2009 08:57

Eish mina, i dont have the heart to do it, So i try at all means never to cheat. Most of the time it is not even worth it.

If you cheat on me, be clever enough to hide it well, cos if I find out -- you are out.

dali
30 Jan 2009 09:02

i neva cheat. i wonder what its like though mmmmmmm

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:04

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner - Im not sure really.

2. will you ever cheat on your men - I think so.

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - Yes, and i felt i was doing right by myself, as i i always tell myself that i want to do things that make me happy, if being with two pple makes me happy at the time then im cool.

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating - Yes, doing anything in a realtionship that you yourself would not feel comfortable with when he does it on you is cheating according to me.

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat. - i dont know, i think their egos are crushed.

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - Not really.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:04

Well I have always been a cheater most of my life, then I stopped, like really stopped, but lately, i just developed this urge to cheat. i love my man very much, but I dont know whats come to me, I guess old habits die hard. Mna I cheat bcoz i know I can do it, be in control and get away with it.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:08

@ Belz-. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - Not really

Have to agree with you on this one.

Dimago
30 Jan 2009 09:09

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner - when i did it, it was because i was bored with the relationship

2. will you ever cheat on your men - done it once, never again

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - yeah, but karma caught up with me.

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating - hell yeah

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat - it must hurt...they are ego driven hence they dont forgive cheating so easily

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - it must be, why else would you do something to hurt the one you claim to love?

Lessie
30 Jan 2009 09:16

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner - Mostly is seeking attention.

2. will you ever cheat on your men - Not ever again.

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - Yes, and I still feel awful. I just cannot seem to forgive myself. It felt right for those 3 months, but now I know how really wrong it was.

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating - Yes by all means it does

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat. - develop this huge hatred towards ALL women

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - Yes and No

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:21

LOL!! Lessie, you should forgive yourself, actually you should have forgiven yoself the day you stopped cheating.

fabuliz
30 Jan 2009 09:22

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner= some its greed, some r just curious, some are paying revenge

2. will you ever cheat on your men = dont know, but id like not too

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards =yes.twice, in grade 8, didnt really matter to me, then on my was fiance last year, i felt like *bleep!* even tho I knew our relationship was almost over

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating = yes, you in a relationship with him, aint u?

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat= belittled i think

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner = not really, like i said, ppl have diff reasons y

Sana Lwam
30 Jan 2009 09:24

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner
Dissatisfaction - sexually, emotionally and financially

2. will you ever cheat on your men
If the above are not fulfilled

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards
Yes, felt satisfied sexually.

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating
I dont understand the question, translation pls preferably in xhosa maybe ndizokuyivisisa

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat.
I'm a woman, but what someone doesnt know wont kill them (harm maybe)

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner
No, needs have to be satisfied.

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:28

Sana Lwam: uthi uAndi, xa ungatshatanga, if you have a boyfrend and uyijolela leyoboyfrend, ibizwa icheating na nakhona, or is it called cheating only if utshatile??

Cody
30 Jan 2009 09:29

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner - being under appreciated
2. will you ever cheat on your men - Never again. i have learned that cheating is satan's way of destroying a good thing, plus cheating brings all the bad vibes in relationships, hence the fights,arguments because you have brought a third spirit into the relationship that doesnt belong there.
3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - in the past yes, made me feel like a bad a$$ girl!! (in a funky way ofcourse) gone are those days
4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating - hell yeah!!
5. How do men feel when they partners cheat - i dont know, maybe less of a man..
6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - i think so.....

cleve
30 Jan 2009 09:31

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner: I cheated because I felt the guy did not deserve my respect because he didn't respect me. He didn' care how I fel about the relationship. ( and by cheatin I mean kissing another guy nothing more)

2. will you ever cheat on your men: I don't think I will ever do it again I just don't have the balls, and I don't want to hurt him like that.

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards: at first it felt good maybe for 3 days but right now I feel awful but it's what I needed at the time.That's not me. I don't ever want to think about it again. Never talked to the guy again.(one night kiss)

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating: yes of course, If you are commited to someone, especially if you are having sex.

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat: The same way we feel, hurt, but the difference is that we can forgive and most men can't.

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner: I feel you don't love your partner enought to put his feelings first instead of your own. We all have fantasies but it's how you deal with them.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:32

@Sana Lwam- I dont understand the question, translation pls preferably in xhosa maybe ndizokuyivisi- Jonga baby neh ndithi, if bana awutshatanga naloMjita niyajola nje, then udavaza enye indoda, ingabe loway ithetha ba uyakrexezana??,

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 09:34

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner <<<<< I guess it's when you no longer get what you need / want from the relationship (attention, good s*x, etc.). Kodwa abanye just do it nje for the fun of it
2. will you ever cheat on your men<<<< Only when my needs are no longer satisfied, however, if that's the case & umuntu wakhona doesn't change then i usually opt for the exit
3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards<<<< I did, was in a long distance relationship & felt lonely @ times. Yazi i didn't feel even a pinch of guilt but it felt good. Broke up with the long distance oke coz i realized ukuthi it wasn't really working out
4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating<<<< Yes. If you do something with someone else that you wouldn't when your partner's around then i consider it as cheating
5. How do men feel when they partners cheat. <<<< I guess their egos get crushed coz it should insinuate ukuthi he's lacking somewhere
6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner <<<< Not really

cleve
30 Jan 2009 09:34

correction:He didn' t care how I felt about the issues in the relationship. ( and by cheatin I mean kissing another guy nothing more)

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:35

Eish, now you all make me feel like really baddddddddddd

Toodecent
30 Jan 2009 09:36

1. What drives a woman to cheat on her partner
Probably greed ,attention......and it all comes back to one word.Need for satisfaction which is Bull.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:37

Ahhhh Cleve baby, umqabuzo nje kuphela, come now girl, get real.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:38

In ur replies I sense a lot of "people cheat bcoz of disattisfaction"- so does that mean, it is justified.

felfel
30 Jan 2009 09:38

The funny thing about cheating is that you rarely ever settle with the person you are cheating with. Its all about straight up f*cking, satisfying a need. You know that the guy doesn't love you or even care about you enough to take you from your man, because lets face it if things are that bad in ur relationship and you seek fulfilment from someone else surely then thats the person you should be with, but no you return to where you happy at and that person remains a source only....mhmmmm....

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:40

Yazi i didn't feel even a pinch of guilt but it felt good>> i know what you mean Zah.
Cleve, lol, that is hardly cheating girl, one night phofu.
TDC: man, what is bull about a need for satisfaction.

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 09:41

Into ebiwe imnandi kakhulu

felfel
30 Jan 2009 09:45

And you don't dump the person you are cheating on because you know that the guy you cheating with has already seen the bad side of you, to him you are tainted, the bad girl, and no, Bad girls don't go Good, so he won't take you if he does he'll forever be insecure knowing what you're capable of. You don't dump the poor sod who's not satisfying you cos you like the idea of being in a relationship no matter how bad things are, you like the front it creates, cos you are horny but not available. So you string him along pretending untill he catches you or you can't fake it no more or better yet he beats you at your own game......daaaaaaaang!

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:45

Mbalenthle
30 Jan 2009 09:45

Dont know if it really counts but i suppose it does cause i felt guilty i cheated on him emotionally he wasnt there when i needed him hence i confided in somebody else at one point ide be confused who to call first when i was happy or upset my man or the man whose shoulder i ve often used as kleenex.....but i kind of made sure we drifted cause *bleep!* wud have happened

felfel
30 Jan 2009 09:50

Well Andie it was probably nice for him cos ubusadumbile from the other guy so beyivaleke kamnandi kuye.

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:50

Mbali thats not cheating, no need to feel guilty.

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:51

LOL!!! felfel, i was trying hard to ignore andi's repsonse.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:51

And this mafacka (benson), was de first guy I never cheated on, and look how he treated me, he abused de living hell outa me.
LOL @ Felfel.

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 09:51

@ felfel<<< Well, i don't think it's really about needing to pursue a stable relationship with the person you cheat with. Vele how can he ever trust you when you cheating with him on your man?? So i guess it's matter of "stress-relief", depending on what you cheated for in the first place

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:52

@Belz- why ????????????

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:53

Is davazing an ex still considered as cheating ??????????????. isadala mos ayingomanzi omngqusho LOL

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 09:55

I had this guy (sometime ago), he used 2 cheat on me wit. den i got tired and decided 2 cheat as well, Eish sani this orther day he caught me in bed wit dis ada guy, "he didnt c his face",and I told him "it wasnt me, and stuck 2 dat story" even though it was obvious. Whats even worse after we argued about this, I gave him a good shag and he forgave me. and I didnt even feel bad that I had davazed 2 people de same night. yerrrr de sh@t I have been through.
OMW Andi!! I don't think i'd ever continue with a relationship when indoda yakhon had caught me. Banamagqubu labo bastard & one way or the other, he'll make sure ukuthi you pay for izono zakho. There's no trust anymore

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:57

Andi: because my response was going to be udinga umsebenzi wamadlozi, lol. and that guy who davazed yu after he found you davazing someone, i am speechless, lol andi uyiskhebereshenyana my nigger.

Luksta
30 Jan 2009 09:58

will you ever cheat on your men
Bangaphi kanti? Or are you cheating already?
Mhmm let me read....

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 09:58

Angazi why women can easily forgive & take their men back after they've cheated but amadoda engadlulisi. Is it more acceptable when a guy does it & not so when it comes to women??

andi01
30 Jan 2009 10:02

@ Luksta-Bangaphi kanti? Or are you cheating already, nibangakhi nina la eTVSA, wena "uyathanda ukuzenza ijuice noma uyiLemon"

felfel
30 Jan 2009 10:02

Doing another guy other than your man is cheating Andie

andi01
30 Jan 2009 10:04

@Belz-am speechless, lol andi uyiskhebereshenyana my nigger., used 2 be me darling, I am a changed nigger now.
@Za-he'll make sure ukuthi you pay for izono zakho. There's no trust anymore- its strange yazi, coz that bastard is still after my "used to cheat arse" ungilangazelela like a new Jerusalem (with torri-torri) and all.

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 10:04

wena "uyathanda ukuzenza ijuice noma uyiLemon"
LOL

Zah000
30 Jan 2009 10:08

its strange yazi, coz that bastard is still after my "used to cheat arse" ungilangazelela like a new Jerusalem (with torri-torri) and all.
LOL.... Shuthi inkulu lento ayibonayo

cleve
30 Jan 2009 10:08

Ahhhh Cleve baby, umqabuzo nje kuphela, come now girl, get real.

@ Andi, phela nna I'm a married woman. I did not only betray my hubby, but my son the thing I love most in the world and not forgeting my GOD.

That's why my hubby and I should be gratefull that we have each other!

felfel
30 Jan 2009 10:09

Andie Bad girls don't go Good........lol

blackmagee
30 Jan 2009 14:25

maybe its just me people,but i know for a fact that brothas love punani and sista love dick.right? so in answering the 1st question: people cheat mainly 'coz they love getting laid.thats why they play...

felfel
30 Jan 2009 14:35

Iyho, i haven't been able to log in here for the past couple of hours, wat happened, am i the only one?

makgotso
30 Jan 2009 14:43

@Felfel - you are not the only one. I have been trying since yesterday, I even thought that they have blocked the site but I was wondering why it's not referring me to the Administrator

zolx
30 Jan 2009 14:43

no felfel..my response was wiped out and i dont have the krag (sp) to type that essay again. isigulo ska TVSA sibuyile..i'be surprised if this appears.

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 14:53

ppl cheat bcs some ppl put cotton wool in their ears,YES im on the way to cheat........,aslong i see cotton on my hubby 's ears,with a married person.

cheating make family strong,for women it sound sloppy,BUT you cant eat tomato for the rest of your life.

for me if i doit is just for plessure,to BONUS myself.

men cheat under ground,when they do it ,they dont have mercy.is a BIG gamble.

myname
30 Jan 2009 14:53

Hello guys, Andy i was a dog b4 but now im an angel sihlobo. So plz dont say "Bad girls don't go Good ". I miss u guys & am so tired nyhani

myname
30 Jan 2009 14:55

Yhazi nam i thought i was blocked?????

cleve
30 Jan 2009 15:01

Shoo I have been locked out of tvsa the whole day. Such torture!!!!!!!!!!!!

andi01
30 Jan 2009 15:02

@what aka mathata-you are such a darling, thankd for your honesty, LOL @ tomatoe. (i 've neva seen a read dick, inoba zezi zamangamla so, next time I see Paul Rothman/ JVD, I'l be thinking of de tomatoe between his legs)

Ngqesta
30 Jan 2009 15:11

@ Felfel.......The funny thing about cheating is that you rarely ever settle with the person you are cheating with....that's where you're wrong sistaz..

felfel
30 Jan 2009 15:13

True Mathata cheating can be empowering to some, they come back home with renewed vigour for their relationship.....only some.....

felfel
30 Jan 2009 15:16

Qhubeka Ngqesta........

cleve
30 Jan 2009 15:18

True Mathata cheating can be empowering to some, they come back home with renewed vigour for their relationship.....only some.....

Only sometimes........... But guys do you like being cheated on since you are the ones cheating on your partners???

Do you cry foul when you find your partner cheating???

andi01
30 Jan 2009 15:21

@Cleve- when i was cheat-master, i didnt care, infact I liked it when the guy cheats firat, coz that wud give me an excuse to do what I liked, cheating.

Cande
30 Jan 2009 15:22

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner>>>>I cheat when a man cheats 2. will you ever cheat on your men>>>>YES, as soon as i get proof that he is cheating 3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards>>>yes, i felt normal 4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating>>YES 5. How do men feel when they partners cheat. >>>they hate it, they will even kill but they expect a woman to forgive them 6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner>>NO

Ngqesta
30 Jan 2009 15:24

@ Felfel....Qhubeka Ngqesta........
ndimile mtshana andigqithi....but trust me when I say uyaphazama pha :-)

zolx
30 Jan 2009 15:27

@ Felfel.......The funny thing about cheating is that you rarely ever settle with the person you are cheating with....that's where you're wrong sistaz..

i gotta aggree with felfel and please take note of rarely.

MADENZA
30 Jan 2009 15:32

interesting read gals, andi my andi u hav outdone urself gal.

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 15:35

is not a right thing to cheat,BUt you cant say one thing 30 times to a person.

men sometimes they say I cheat bcs she cant do doggi style,i cheat bcs she dont scream,i cheat bcs she doesn't want to loose weight.

The biggest thing is I LOVE MY WIFE,shis not a bitch in bed.

so what confuse me is TO PPL is better if we dump each other OR cheat under ground.

you eat n wash your mouth you go home as ussual.no one will know you ate outside.

this is reality,most hotels they have day service rooms WHY?

i never ask my husband did he cheat on me,is just a rediculous question to ask.

it takes a second to open a zip,but a minutes to take underwear down.

cleve
30 Jan 2009 15:36

@Cleve- when i was cheat-master, i didnt care, infact I liked it when the guy cheats firat, coz that wud give me an excuse to do what I liked, cheating.

@ Andi, Eureka!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I understand, as long as you can stand it when someone else cheats on you. You see nna I can't, maybe that's why it's so hard for me to cheat.

I like that because you have serious BALLS!!!!!!!!!

felfel
30 Jan 2009 15:36

Thank you Zolx thats what Ngqesta missed, i don't speak for everyone at all...............

zolx
30 Jan 2009 15:42

belz
30 Jan 2009 15:43

LOL!!! felfel, cheating is empowering, lol.

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 15:45

@ZOLX,when you cheat,you dont cheat bcs you look for love,(not gerry rantswedi soldom nee)ha ha ha ha

i cheat bcs i cant afford VIBRATOR,

felfel
30 Jan 2009 15:49

Great weekend everyone, i'm out.............

cleve
30 Jan 2009 15:52

i cheated before on my ex boyfriend and got caught so he ended the affair but yena he cheated all the time. Have cheated on my husband before we got married, of course he doesnt know it but since i got married havent had the urge or seen other men in that way. but he's cheated so many times and i forgive him each time. I dont cheat because i chose him...if i still wanted to be player woman, i'd never had married but i believe cheating is for the unmarried people even tho married couples do it all the time. and 2 wrongs dont make a right..

@ Zolx, you are right 2 wrongs don't make ar right but if that person puts their desires before yours then why are you putting him first. I think if my hubby had to cheat on me then I wouldn't even think twice about doing it to him. I also have my desires but I put them on hold for the sake of him and then yena he throws it in my face??????? I will have no second thoughts EVER!!!!!!!!!

Cody
30 Jan 2009 15:54

LOL Mathata!!!!!

andi01
30 Jan 2009 15:54

i cheat bcs i cant afford VIBRATOR, TL TL TL TL, kwa kwa kwa kwa, this is a good one, but hang on though, do you mean ur man is not hung as a vibrator. I mean r u tryin 2 tell us dat ur man has a small-nyana thing. OMG

myname
30 Jan 2009 15:55

LOL Mathatha ne vibrator. ...byeeeeee bloggers

Chix
30 Jan 2009 15:56

Great responses everyone.
@Mbali, thank you girl for bringing up the emotional "cheating" because I also have the same problem with my hubby.

He doesn't understand me the way I would like him to or should I say support me the way I would like him to. I tried so many times to talk to him about the way he reactes when I tell him something. He is great in ALL the other aspects of our marriage but emotional support is ZERO so I have this male friend that I so much enjoy talking to...at work I call him and we talk for an hour on the work phone...at night I mix with him (he is my only mixing contact, I did the whole mixit thing just to chat with him).

When I have good news he is the first person I call and hub is the second after him. We have never talked about having an affair but we enjoy each other's company so badly, when I visit his place on Saturday (when hub is playing sport) we sit until very late...we just hug but we don't kiss or touch in weird ways.

Do you guys think what I am doing with thi sguy behind hubby's back is wrong (cheating)???? Help me people I am scared that if hubby ever found out I have this friend he may think I am cheating and trust will be crushed in out marriage. My marriage's got everything I need besides "understanding"!!!

andi01
30 Jan 2009 15:56

The worst thing about "gettin used to cheatin" is that sometimes i ended up shagging lolly-pops, that i dint even like. But now, I choose to cheat with my ex's. I mean joe, if u know that a nigga used to dig you well, its not easy to resist the temptation.

cleve
30 Jan 2009 15:56

i cheat bcs i cant afford VIBRATOR,

kwa kwa kwa kwa. Tjo, guys lets open a trust fund to stop Mathatha from cheating.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 15:58

@Chix- hell nooooo, tahs far from cheating, hee bathong, cheating means giving ur man's goods to someone else (goods referring to punani)

zolx
30 Jan 2009 15:59

@ mathata..i understand the reasons behind cheating what i dont understand is someone who's married, cos they told themselves mos that they want no-one else but you. why not make things right at home isntead of going ngaphandle? i tried to be understanding to my husband aksing why he does it and he doesnt know. we do all the styles in bed i can think of so it cant be that i dont do doggy lol but i also dont want to believe the saying ethi once a cheater always a cheater cos i havent cheated since i got married and that's a long time.

cleve
30 Jan 2009 16:02

Chix, DON"T, it's not worth it. You can't have everything in a marraige. Please girl if your hubby finds out you might be a gonner. if your marraige means a lot to you, the you you will stop. All I'm saying is that there's a consequence for everything and don't blame your hubby when all goes wrong. because that's what cheaters always do, blame the other person.

Dee
30 Jan 2009 16:09

"2. will you ever cheat on your men - I think so." Yhuuu hayi Belz this made me laugh tshomam.. ....LOL

@ Chix....I think to a point you are cheating even tho u dont do nast things with this guy. I say so because I dont think you would want your partner to know about this guy, and plus the fact that it can ruin your marriage (regardless of what you guys do or dont do).

I think the best way is to open up to your hubby regarding Emotional support that he is not giving you. If he still doesnt do anything about it after you talked to him, then he cant blame you for having a friend who gives that to you even if he can find out.

Dee
30 Jan 2009 16:11

There is absolutely no excuse for cheating when you are married period! For both men and women.....

andi01
30 Jan 2009 16:13

@Dee- so its cool, when u not married.

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 16:13

i never cheat,but i have foundation for cheating,my husband never cheat on me,so do you think im going to make myself STEVE WONDER n say my husband is not a cheater?

im not around him 24hrs,if his not cheating i dont think it will be like that for the rest of ourlives,its a big LIE.

i left a room for that.

ppl are clever nowadays,if a partner cheat they dont tell anyone,they will give you a big picture,like life is good.

@andi,Sex dont control me at this moment.

zolx
30 Jan 2009 16:21

make myself STEVE WONDER - that's andi's future hubby wena mathat...not cheating with him lol

i left a room for that. - hay friend you're way too understanding. i dont understand cheating from a married person at all. i dont do it and will never do it even tho kukho umfanana apha endimbawela uzikhulisela yena. mhh liqumqumana elinentsula ezithe nkqi uqina oku. Eish ..me and him in bed for 1 hr qha nothing more, for once. when we meet in the passage i make sure i turn back so i can see his butt. am i cheating to have these thoughts about a young boy who calls me sisi because i'm married?

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 16:24

men nowadays they cheat with men,they can cheat for 2yrs without you knowing it,

anus is tighter than virgina,this is a big competition.

i dont cheat n dont cheat,but one day you will see f**

zolx
30 Jan 2009 16:31

anus is tighter than virgina,this is a big competition. hahahaha ei thatas you have a way with words my friend...not really worried about other men but the women especially abakwaziyo just for ukukhupha ipeep.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 16:36

anus is tighter than virgina,this is a big competition- baby tightness has gone niks to do wit good sex, in fact de more experience de woman is, de tastier she is. can u imagine some man trying to squize his big dinges in a very tight, punani, thats so not funny

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 16:38

xhosa or not,cheating is ther Xhosa or not,i dont want to shield anyone.

im ging to take a nap.

zolx
30 Jan 2009 16:45

xhosa or not,cheating is ther Xhosa or not,i dont want to shield anyone. - huh? why you always confuse me maan thatas? cant we finish a conversation understanding each other...uwrong!

Dee
30 Jan 2009 16:50

"@Dee- so its cool, when u not married." ,,,,

@Andi01 not that its cool but my take is, do what it feels right for you, because you can never be sure whether the other person is not cheating on you. So as long as you are not married go all out and enjoy yourself (AS LONG AS ITS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO)....If you wana cheat then go ahead and cheat....if you dont wana do it, dont! But do not hold yourself from doing what you want to do because of another person (that you are not married to).....so that you dont regret when you find out he/she has been doing the same thing you wanted to do but didnt because of him.

Its a different case when you married, you made vows infront of God, then you owe it to him to be faithful to your spouse.

what aka mathata
30 Jan 2009 16:57

yes im wrong ,but i left a room for cheating,im not around my husband 24hrs,i cant say his not cheating.who knows.........

but if i have a proof,i will plessure myself too.

Brown Shuga
30 Jan 2009 18:38

So Dee, basically what you are saying is that "It's okay to cheat if you're not married.".
For some reason, you are scared to say it out loud...lol

<<<anus is tighter than virgina,this is a big competition>>> Kwa kwa kwa kwa

cleve
30 Jan 2009 20:30

I agree with Dee. Cheating is more accepatable when you are just dating than when you are married. When you are married it's not just about the two of you, but with God, your kids and the rest of the family. You have told everyone that you want to commit to that person and all of a sudden you are F******* someone else??? Hhayi it just doesn't make sense.(okay cheatin as a whole is just about being selfish)

And stop suspecting your partners about something you don't know about. Don't go fishing for things that are not there becasue it will make your life miserable. Whatever happens the Lord will reveal all somehow, without you lifting a finger.

Lushi
30 Jan 2009 23:29

Eish bathong le a bowa ka melomo yarona jong. Sometimes I wish pulling down my panty for a man was not so difficult as it feels. I still blame my mother for instilling to me that you only do that to a man that you sincerely love and that you believe (if he cheats then he must be an expert in making sure that awuyazi) ukuthi he also love you.

Cnglemother
31 Jan 2009 00:22

Why are badboys so good in bed heh?you meet a well mannered,kindhearted,monied man with a great job but mdavazo doh.u meet a jobless dopehead yoh uzonya ngumdavazo but iphi ifuture apho?why oscroof bemnandi so mara heh?thats why i cheat ke mna.felfel and sanalam ditto gals.i miss Ntara 4 this topic-pls come back bhutiza.

Lushi
31 Jan 2009 04:23

Oops sorry !
le a bowa ka melomo ya lona jong.
Sometimes I wish taking off my panty

Cande
31 Jan 2009 08:31

I feel you Cinglemama

dali
31 Jan 2009 09:01

i cheat bcs i cant afford VIBRATOR,

anus is tighter than virgina,this is a big competition.

ROTFLMAO

Foxxy
31 Jan 2009 09:21

Lol @ Cnglema... The dopeheads are good coz they were perfecting technique while the other guys busy climbing the corporate ladder.

Cnglemother
31 Jan 2009 10:05

Foxxy and cande dopehands are just on their own league mdavazowise,from da recklessly somehow sexy lingo they use to their top of the range technique.they dont have mood killing words like makelove or coress in their vocabs.they hit u with odunusa baby,yidla into yakho baby,sizohlabana strong 2nyt awuspani kusasa(since im the only one ospanayo lol).

Brown Shuga
31 Jan 2009 11:09

Cnglemother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

what aka mathata
31 Jan 2009 15:52

@Cngle,badboys they are always in business i dont know why,they realised that they have talent, is like bitches.

n no one can takeit away from them.

Miracle Child
31 Jan 2009 22:19

I am aa big time flirt. I dnt cheat because i havent mastered the technique of cheating. I always get caught for some reason and it makes me feel so so bad. Oh hi y'all.

Firstdvd
01 Feb 2009 07:34

Yoh! Soo much cheaters here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol

Msoe
01 Feb 2009 12:55

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner -: I think it varies, but it boils down to being unsatisfied.

2. will you ever cheat on your men-: No, not because i've never been tempted but because I bealive that as soon as i know that i'm not satisfied in my relationship and its not getting any better after discussing it that i just leave.

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards-: Ive neva cheated not even once

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating-: Yes it is because you are in a relationship with that person.

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat-: Betrayed just like woman do, also that where people start paying revenge on their next relationships if they really loved the person who cheated.

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner -: Yes, u can never cheat on someone you love, never. Tempted yes, we all do but acting on it, a BIG NO!

cnhlanhla
01 Feb 2009 14:11

single i am.....kodwa the fact is no person is perfect in all areas in a relationship period!...hence elami lithi myeke bhuti/sisi if the lacking part is the one that you can't ok/live with, other than cheating.

Pitilili
01 Feb 2009 15:03

Good topic Andie

I am not an expect but I will share some of the things I have discovered... read on and I stand to be corrected.

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner - Women are different some are greedy. Some women will cheat because they feel like doing it, in fact they will be like I have everything I want and but I am just tired of eating one and the same meal everyday. I want a change. .
While others cheat because they are forced by their men say maybe whom they have respected and trusted for a long time onloy to find that he has other relationships. She will feel betrayed and useless in life after all she has been stabbed at the back by the very person she loved.

2. will you ever cheat on your men - In the past two years I would mainly because I was agrived by then having being cheated by some one I trusted and cheated me with a much older and poor person.
But now I will never.

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - Honestly speaking yes. I cheated my partner of three years when we first met. The reason was that I feared that he was also cheating me yet he was not. I was also from a bad relationship where I was let down.
I did not feel sorry by then but now that I have cn how much he loves me I feel embarrased because if he knew by then he would have ended the relationship.

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating - Yes it is still cheating, you must always make sure that you are involved in one relationship. The mear fact that you have hidden something from him is cheating!!!

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat - They feel very bad yet they are the biggest cheaters on this planet earth. I believe that, with us africans, it is because of the tradions we follow.

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner - No it does not. It may mean a number of things like that you are paying back what he has done to you or even that a certain guy cheated on you in the past remember....Tifa ngamvu yinye.

Tshd21
01 Feb 2009 16:26

LOL @ Cinglema and the lingo!! tl tl tl tl kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa

what drives a woman to cheat on her partner...
A lot of reasons. But on my part, I was tired of being used and abused, and could see that the relationship had passed its sell-by-date but just kept holding on. I also wanted to hurt him, by cheating, he never found out though...

will you ever cheat on your man...
No, will rather leave. Even if they cheat. I have made a choice that I am done with cheating, so I ain't never stooping to some mafacka's level again, I will leave...

have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards...
Yes, it felt good, pity the guy ruined a good thing and fell for me, even though from the onset, we made the rules clear: bonyatsi qha!! Had to run when he started getting all mushy and eventually saying he fell for me, poor fellah...he still calls by the way...

If you not married to the guy, is that still considered as cheating...
Yeah....cheating is cheating ta the end of the day...

How do men feel when they partners cheat...
Don't know, am not a man...

Foxxy
01 Feb 2009 16:44

Ok, Andi, you want to cheat on Steve (your cousin), with Benson (your just out of jail, tik smoking ex) for the last time before you get married.... Nice......

Brown Shuga
01 Feb 2009 16:50

<<<<pity the guy ruined a good thing and fell for me, even though from the onset, we made the rules clear: bonyatsi qha!! Had to run when he started getting all mushy and eventually saying he fell for me, poor fellah...he still calls by the way... >>>

Eish Tshdi, how did you run without sounding or appearing to be cruel???
I have a "friend" who needs help letting a guy down gently....and they say it's women who get all emotionally involved *sigh*.

Squeeza
01 Feb 2009 17:08

LOL!!!!! bunch of crazy people (in a good way) I LOVE IT!

Tshd21
01 Feb 2009 17:15

Brown Shuga.....

I didn't reali care about how I was gonna appear because I was in a messy relationship with EX. And NYATSI and I had agreed on the basis of our thing together.
He broke the rules, so we shifted from naughty-stolen-moments to complications. And with my relationship then, I couldn't afford another complication. Told him, he threatened to tell EX, but I personally knew his galfriend.
That could have been a messy solution to getting out of my relationship but he didn't know that I wanted out. We made a rule never to discuss our relationships with each other.
So for me, getting out was easy, I think it is, in most cases, easy when you didn't involve your feelings in the first place.

Eish mara, I can't believe I did this....and sharing here.....definetely too much info, but all in the past.

Lady D
01 Feb 2009 17:52

People cheat for various reason,but when i'm in a relationship,i dont cheat.I get me some booty calls when i dont have a man in my life.Pdeople dont cheat because they dont love their partners,they cheat because they it feels like the right thing at that moment!

Brown Shuga
01 Feb 2009 19:24

LOL Lady D!

Thanks Tshdi for that and no, it wasn't too much to share....we've read far more "revealing" things on this site lol.

realist
02 Feb 2009 06:34

And yet People were telling that there is such a thing called true love. True love!! My foot.

babetm
02 Feb 2009 12:01

1. what drives a woman to cheat on her partner -not sure

2. will you ever cheat on your men- NO

3. have you ever cheated, and how did you feel afterwards - I havnt cheated but i nearly did cos by that time i was feeling lonely

4. If you not married to the guy, is that still cheating.-yes

5. How do men feel when they partners cheat. . the first thing they think about is maybe he was not good enough in mdavazo

6. Does cheating mean that one doesn’t love her partner .dont know

dali
02 Feb 2009 12:07

LOL

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