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PAY AS YOU DATE LOBOLA

Written by Venusseed from the blog on 14 Feb 2009
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Hi my fellow Bloggistos. Have you guys heard about the new marital law to be enforced since Vat ‘n Sit’ was regarded as Marriage? Well let me fill you in since I have friends in “high” places and I get to hear things before the general public.
People have complained to the “powers that be” that marriage is out of fashion and divorce rate is beating Zim’s inflation. Men are no longer getting married because things are free now and with so many men batting for the same team there’s single women galore. Bloggeresses how many of you ladies here are over 25 years of age and still single? And how many of you are single parents? When I say single I mean “unmarried”.
I am not saying there’s anything wrong with being a single parent or with Bra Mike in the picture. What I want to touch on is about men not marrying and too many women not being married.

Bloggers and Bloggeresses, I just want to hear your views. I have been pondering on this thought since last year. Firstly I just want to hear from the men: “Why are you not marrying your long term girlfriends?” Those who are not in steady relationships why are you bed hopping every week? When are you going to stop? Don’t you get tired of ducking and diving in public hang outs because you don’t remember the girl you were with two weeks ago? Is it woman independence? Should we blame the constitution? Are women too readily and freely available since they have their own houses and you no longer have to ask for permission from her parents to see her?

Ladies what is going on? Is it because you can “afford” to take care of yourselves? Are your pockets too deep you do not need a man? Do you feel you are men enough to raise a child on your own? Men have turned into donors and no longer fathers. Is it a curse of some sort?

You are probably fed up reading this blog wanting to hear about the new marital law: “THE PAY AS YOU DATE LOBOLA”. Well I am a single almost 30 year old woman. I have no children because I don’t believe in sperm donors. I would rather adopt and raise a child who has no mom or dad than raise my own without a full time dad. I am a CIA/ CSI (CUTE INTELLIGENT ATTRACTIVE/ CUTE SEXY INTELLIGENT). I am a complete package but hey, I am not married. I came up with this “brilliant” idea because I am tired of donating my time, company, intellect, image, respect, understanding, humour, craziness and most of all good sex to men who feel they are either not ready to marry or they are never going to marry.

You all know it is said that not everyone is meant to get married. Blah, blah, marriage is a gift. I never wished to ever get married. Well I thought, “Bullocks!” ke jewa mahala! Any man who wants to date me now must get into a contract with me. A “PAY AS YOU DATE CONTRACT”. I never used to expect or accept money from men so this contract excludes those little top ups from guys. The contracting party can either pay upfront on a monthly, quarterly or annually basis. If the affair ends before the expiry date there is no refund because it could be the contracting party’s fault. Bloggistos please tell me your views, ideas and experiences. Sorry guys I know sugar mommies already pay you to be with you. But hey please fill me in on your feelings about this new law. Is it fair or unreasonable?

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Venusseed
13 Feb 2009 23:08

Sorry for the long article. Happy Valentine' s day!

Floh
15 Feb 2009 18:51

To answer your question Venusseed.

Are still ppl getting married in Mzanzi?
Yes people are still getting married in large numbers in Mzanzi.

GML
16 Feb 2009 08:22


Are still ppl getting married in Mzanzi?
yes, I'm one of them
Not so sure about the new law though. Sounds like being prostituted

Ms. Jay
16 Feb 2009 08:36

It does sound like being prostituted...escort agency type of thing....somethings are just crazy

jazzyree
16 Feb 2009 08:49

Ladies what is going on? Is it because you can “afford” to take care of yourselves? Are your pockets too deep you do not need a man? Do you feel you are men enough to raise a child on your own?

I am almost the same age as you, and yes the above statement says it all about me!! and yes to all that too many dissapointments

myname
16 Feb 2009 08:49

Eish i cant comment coz im young LOL so i will wait 4 other responses...

felfel
16 Feb 2009 08:51

True it does sound like prostitution, its the first defence thing that came to my head, but then i thought daaamn even prostitutes get paid for a lay, why not me?????
Mara at the end of the day ke jewa mahala. A person will want to chow you at any time of day and two months later he's chowing somewhere else and i'm long forgotten maybe it is time we imposed a levy for this shiaat......hahahaha...... dammit they multitask chowing like reading and *bleep!* at the same time.....

I know the conservatives will stil shout PROSTITUTION!!!!!! go ahead udliwa mahala!!!, but lighten up people its a monday besides i dont know anyone who would actually go and demand such.

HAAAAAPPPPYYY MONDAY!!!!!!!

cleve
16 Feb 2009 09:03

Yes Felfel, you can;t be chowed for mahala. But seriously I do understand.  But why are we woman always chasing for marraige. It's just so overated!

felfel
16 Feb 2009 09:17

Cleve is marriage really overrated or is it the single girls defence trump card????

Do married women say marriage is overrated??  I know i like to say something sucks or is just overated when i dont have it, i know plasma TVs are overated cos i dont have one, its my way of getting over it but if i was offered one or had money to purchase one it would cease that status immediately.

So is marriage really overated or you just saying that cos ur Romeo ain't popped the question yet and you trying to put urself at ease and convincing single ladies that marriage is overated???????????? LOL!!!!!!

cleve
16 Feb 2009 09:30

So is marriage really overated or you just saying that cos ur Romeo ain't popped the question yet and you trying to put urself at ease and convincing single ladies that marriage is overated???????????? LOL!!!!!!

@ Felfel,
Girl I am a married woman. just to let the single ladies know that marraige is just nje! Of course it has it's benefits, just like being single has it's benefits. Enjoy your life while single and stop chasing after marraige because life changes drastically after that, and especially if you are a woman.

Kapakapa
16 Feb 2009 09:32

Hello Felfel.....

blueroze
16 Feb 2009 09:48

hi Felfel..please respond to my PM.....

Serenity
16 Feb 2009 10:01

I am tired of donating my time, company, intellect, image, respect, understanding, humour, craziness and most of all good sex to men who feel they are either not ready to marry or they are never going to marry. 

Well said galfriend!!!

I am also CIA/ CSI (CUTE INTELLIGENT ATTRACTIVE/ CUTE SEXY INTELLIGENT) in a long term relationship and a complete package BUT not married. I've figured that the dude aint never gonna marry...he's not the type yokushada. I dont even raised the subject anymore...but what so sad is sidliwa mahhal  

Vida
16 Feb 2009 10:23

" is marriage really overrated or is it the single girls defence trump card???? "

I agree! You always hear single people on about how relationships/marriage/commitment is overated (aside from u cleve)!

Onna
16 Feb 2009 10:23

I do not think marriage is overrated its just that people want to rush into something they are not really ready for. Being married takes a lot of work from both parties. I beileve the devorce rate is so high because people just want to be known as married and they do not realise what goes into making the relatioonship work, before they even think of the final comitment.
We, women think if he does not propose marriage within a certain period then it maens he does not love you or not commited enough.Sometimes even if we see it not going so well but if he promises marriage then we think, he must love me if he is commiting to me. Some even give altimatums, they nagg the poor man into submition.
Yes people still get married but most of them not only for love and commitment, some for financial gain some for the status and some just to say I was mrried once. 

Onna
16 Feb 2009 10:27

Ladies why do you keep mouning about ukudliwa mahhala? Dont you enjoy the act too? So marriage is the form of paying for umdavazo??

Cody
16 Feb 2009 10:28

..........and some just to say I was married once.

LOL Onna!!! you remind me of this friend of mine that said she will get married come hell or high water, even if she had to divorce after 3 months atleast nkile a nyalwa.

Zah000
16 Feb 2009 10:37

LOL @ Cody's friend....... hehehehe









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