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I'm in love with a stranger from chatting

Written by JadaPinkett from the blog on 06 Mar 2009
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Ladies and Gentlemen !!!

Here’s my article for today as it’s Friday.

Guys I know all of us are used in these chatting games because we wouldn’t be here in this blog if we not, anyway I have story to tell u and I’m also expecting a feedback from you my bloggers.

Okey here it goes: I have this guy on my mind I have developed his feeling. The thing is I don’t want to rule my relationship with my man coz I believe that I love him, and the worst thing is I gave this guy my number and he like… phoning me now and then and I really enjoy talking to him but I don’t believe in these relationship from chatting games like mxit, person.com, thunderbolty, facebook, but I do chat even though it giving me problems but chatting is something that keep me busy if I’m alone. He even wants us to meet but I’m scared because I know it’s not the right thing. The most embarrassing thing is that I have 3 months old. But I’m trying very to avoid this feeling even though it’s not easy as I think it is.

So guys, is there anyone have experienced this huge feeling about a guy you never meet before?
How do you deal with this problem?
Do you believe in these chatting relationship games?
If you are in a relationship, which has started by chatting… how is it?
I know there are some people who are photogenic, the camera loves them so much like me…LOL. But when it come to reality the person doesn’t look the same way that you saw him/her while she/he was on the picture…So how you handle that situation? Do you keep on dating him/her or you just change your mind about him /her

Come on, I know there are some people who are in this relation while I’m talking to you even the married women and men.

Let here your views


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JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:04

Ngisenkingeni bakwethu please help!

GML
06 Mar 2009 12:15

These chatting games are supposed to be something to keep you busy not to control your life and your actions.

y even consider such a thing having heard so many bad stories about these kinds of things????
Haai man.

dali
06 Mar 2009 12:20

dont do it JP dont do it 

my experience: friend of mine gave this guy my number we started talking and i fell in love with his voice. we started jolling over the phone. when we met i was shocked the guy was ugly joh. i broke up with him there and then. dont do it JP!!!!!!!!!

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 12:20

where's everybody????????////////

TerryN
06 Mar 2009 12:24

im here JP...but um still reading ur article...so dont panic...:-)

awelani
06 Mar 2009 12:26

DONT DO IT!!!!!

Tynt!
06 Mar 2009 12:27

lol!!!

Tynt!
06 Mar 2009 12:30

Why risk ruining your current relationship over a stranger?!?!?!?!?1?
Is it really worth it, like REALLY?!??!?!?!

belz
06 Mar 2009 12:36

Sorry JP, you say you have a 3mth old what??? baby, relationship, boyfrend.?

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 12:37

All you need is a hot clap, you must stop dreaming gal. Doesn´t Will satisfy you? How could you even think about that when you have a 3month old bungle of joy. The guy is just a stranger to you, what if he is married, a murderer or anything along those lines.

Don´t do it love, its too risk and not worthy it....

maud
06 Mar 2009 12:39

@JadaPinkett - dont panic we are here just trying to think straight. maybe you felt in love with his voice , maybe when you see that person you will be disappointed. i  am not saying the looks count, but babes, one day you will have to share the bed with that person and if he looks like he is from the zoo, ama nightmares odwa.

please keep the chatting friendship going, enjoy  but please dont date him.

Pooky
06 Mar 2009 12:42

i have the same problem, like me having what i think is a crush on someone here on TVSA, ........i'm inlike with his personality lol

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 12:48

@maud..........the looks are a bonus..........

@Pooky.............hehehehe, bring it on sifunukwazi who is he?

maja83
06 Mar 2009 12:48

I also fell inlove with a guy from chatting and after 6 months we meet and I was very verrrrrrrrrrry dissapointed , He was ugly , shy and everything was different from what I expected. so please don't even try and your baby is still young also.

CK

Firstdvd
06 Mar 2009 12:50

Meet this dude~as long as you know where you stand! Falling for him....Nee!

Molilo
06 Mar 2009 12:54

@JP I have a best friend guy I discovered thru e mails, I used to reply to all mails and he liked my responses so we communicated daily from 2005.
We kept contact till today we never met but he knows everything about me, my pains and joys.
I love chatting to him as he gives me the male perspective on things when my relations are not working.
In short I am not in a romantic relation with him but he is my "shrink" so to say.
I do not mind sharing things with him.
Rather u shift the relation to friendship that works for me.

Kakapana
06 Mar 2009 12:55

kwa kwa kwa

belz
06 Mar 2009 12:57

JP, people are different on cyber world than they are in real life love. Hi First!!!!!!

belz
06 Mar 2009 12:58

lol @ molilo's shrink.

Pooky
06 Mar 2009 12:58

BigMama...........................NOPE angeke!!!!!!

Toodecent
06 Mar 2009 13:05

Pooky...till now? hawu I thought its over now.

cleve
06 Mar 2009 13:07

have the same problem, like me having what i think is a crush on someone here on TVSA, ........i'm inlike with his personality lol

@ Pooky I hope it's not Supa.

Sana Lwam
06 Mar 2009 13:12

Dont even think about it, you will be very disapointed. Its like these blind date things.
 I once chatted to this guy on the phone and he said he looked like Taye Diggs when I asked him to describe himself. Tjoo! Nanko ke u Sana Lwam esiya eEastgate to meet uTaye Diggs!!! I was greeted by a short man with nasty, thick, untidy dreadlocks. I was so disspointed. 

Zazacious
06 Mar 2009 13:13

Yoh I dont know about cyber love,but I know some1 who is now in a relationship that started in a chatroom and he is totally smitten by the lady. Gal if you feel you have to then meet him In a very public place and he must not know what you will be wearing so you can make a duck for it if he looks dodgy. But be careful 
Im in a similar predicament,only I have seen my guy but have never talked to him. From the 1st day I saw him I felt this huge gap in my heart and Im completely in love with him. Is there such a thing as love at 1st sight,I know its been askd way too much.
Eish mara the heart  is a complex organ.

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:16

But guyz his voice is turning me and I can feel something on my body.
@ Cheesa u always have problems with my article, i'm niticing you my dear so plz just do me a favour... if u feel bored about my article just ignore it....Ay kabi.

Firstdvd
06 Mar 2009 13:19

hi choma ;-)

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:20

BigMama I knew you will shout at me but hey look my frnd this is the i feel about especially his voice.

maud
06 Mar 2009 13:21

@Sana Lwam - did you really go to meet him, awusabi no Ananias Mathe? ubrave

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 13:22

@JP.........Ask TDC how easy it is to delete, all unwanted replies. Instead of replying to cheesa, simply delete her reply. And you have to know that we must not always give our bodies what they want. Sometimes you have to control & starve yourself on certain matters. for now just think about Prince´s future and stop stressing about this guy. We can tell you not to date him but at the end of the day, you are the one to make the final call. Be wise dear, don´t let your body feelings control you and destroy what you have with Prince´s dad.

belz
06 Mar 2009 13:23

If its jsut his voice, i had a bad esperience with voices, fell in love witha  voice, made a date, yho, lets jsut say, ngeke ngiphinde!!!!

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 13:24

@Pooky..........can l take a guess?

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:26

he said he looked like Taye Diggs when I asked him to describe himself. Tjoo! Nanko ke u Sana Lwam esiya eEastgate to meet uTaye Diggs!!! I was greeted by a short man with nasty, thick, untidy dreadlocks....Taye Diggs Ha ha SanaLwami!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:28

LOL

TerryN
06 Mar 2009 13:28

If its jsut his voice, i had a bad esperience with voices, fell in love witha voice, made a date, yho, lets jsut say, ngeke ngiphinde!!!!

ROFLOL @ Belzz...
Sorry gal didnt mean to laff...thnxs for the warning though...:-)

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:28

LMAO @ SL.. kwakwakwakwakwa, Taye Diggs, LOL LOL

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:30

One thing I'v realized is that most of the guys with beautiful sexy voices ke dekobo fela...i gues the voice compensates for the looks,lol

TheLady
06 Mar 2009 13:30

You might have found yourself your soulmate, a friend or he might turn out to be a weirdo nje.

I've met a lot of men through  the net, some are friends now (like my mfundisi, 'ssup Presh?), some I'd rather forget-some I've only managed to shake by changing my numbers and jobs and one that I fell head over heel in love with. So ya anything can happen, meet him and decide.

TheLady
06 Mar 2009 13:31

yho SL-mine had a missing front tooth...

monchooza
06 Mar 2009 13:33

I only went on date with somebody I met on the net kayi 1...and we connected so much that we did not want to ruin it by joling, till today we are friends

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:33

LOL

tulani
06 Mar 2009 13:34

I got a bad experience about my sister who get involved with this kind of relationshp, when they met but not seing each other where's they were in the same place, bcz the guy got single eye, rural barkies. so i suggest u guys make special arrangement. THEY GOT SWEET VOICES

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:34

are you talking about me monchoo, lol

Zothile
06 Mar 2009 13:34

Jada you are in love with a picture you have formed in your mind. Meet him ASAP so you can get over him (as you are most likely to be dissapointed) and move on.

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:36

TDC can u teach  how to delete unwanted replies
PLZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

belz
06 Mar 2009 13:37

LOL!!!! Zothile,lol. yah you are right, you do get over him if you  meet him.

belz
06 Mar 2009 13:38

JadaPinkett: click the X on the reply, voila the response is gone, you dont need a moderator love for some things.

monchooza
06 Mar 2009 13:38

hey awe i dont want people knowing my buzinis...no name dropping here...lol

TheLady
06 Mar 2009 13:40

true that Zothi...I wished i hadn't met him

Toodecent
06 Mar 2009 13:40

Reply from: JadaPinkett 3/6/2009 7:36:19 PM 

On the grey block where words above in old are there is an
X just click..

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:43

ohkay monchoo **wink wink**.. :)

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:44

Hey Guys I don't know how u get this  coz really....... i voice yakhe engichaza too much, well for a sake of my son i think i must be a lady and for the father of my baby will go mad once he found out about this.

I got a bad experience about my sister who get involved with this kind of relationshp, when they met but not seing each other where's they were in the same place, bcz the guy got single eye, rural barkies.......Awe Mah Tulani ingcifi

You might have found yourself your soulmate, a friend or he might turn out to be a weirdo nje........Do u really think so TheLady?

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:48

Awe Mah Tulani ingcifi ...Uthini JP??? I did my zulu nge lower grade,lol

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:48

@Cheesa does this mean uyaxolisa or what?

@ TDC & Belz I can't that  X, i DON'T WHY I AM SO STUPID FOR NOT FINDING IT.

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 13:50

@Cheesa.......ungazonginyela wena. What´s there to ngena, what is it thus between you and JP. Nxaaaaaaaaaaaaa

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:50

@Awelani ingcifi is someone who have one eye.

putsununuh
06 Mar 2009 13:51

whuz nlove with a stranger from chattin?

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:53

BigMama u alwayz tell me to come so pls just give urself a peace ungamnaki uCheesa so my frnd plz! I know u can control ur self.

awelani
06 Mar 2009 13:53

ohhhhhhh...thanx JP..

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 13:54

meant u alwayz tell me to behave my self @ BigMama

felfel
06 Mar 2009 13:57

I've met two guys online and i'm still with both of them for over a year now., guess i was just lucky to have met decent people.

Another guy i met last year turned out to be Chicken Licken, i didn't notice on the pic (must have been photoshop) ukuthi his mouth is burnt and has 3 missing front teeth.........hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha, i just said never again!!!!!!!!!!!! 

awelani
06 Mar 2009 14:00

not 2day guys,,,please!!!

myname
06 Mar 2009 14:02

I also have my "shrink' as Molilo said. He listens when i need some1 2 talk 2 & he gives advise & shame he is a good listener ...(nx let me cal him now)

We also neva see eye-to-eye but we talk almost everyday as if siyazana. We r best buddies.

So nonoza if u really want 2 destroy what u have, try & ujole na this guy. We will b here to dry your pretty face kuba sinothanda lapha ekhaya e TVSA...

Amza
06 Mar 2009 14:03

Are you sure is not infatuation?

TheLady
06 Mar 2009 14:08

Meet him and get over it, I think he is super ugly too...

But my mfundisi is HOT, I only stopped chasing him coz he was celibate, uxolo i can't go without umdavazo mina sorry kabi.

Pinkpoodle
06 Mar 2009 14:09

Just meet him and make plans with a friend like if he is not nice you Pc her and calls back  pretending she's been in accident.
 promise to  the dude and thats the last you talk to him.

BigMama
06 Mar 2009 14:14

@Cheesa...........This does not have any effect in my life or health at all. l don´t get worked up over people that l don´t know.

he he he he hayi Bigmamma you are even sweating darling about lendaba hayi sisi calm down tu uzonyuka ipressure hawu.LOL..........Ngumsuzo lo.

Sorry JP & Awelisto......this is my last reply to Cheesa.

Zah000
06 Mar 2009 14:15

LOL @ TL & the celibate "almost victim" mfundisi

babetm
06 Mar 2009 14:16

@DALI - - we started jolling over the phone. when we met i was shocked the guy was ugly joh. i broke up with him there and then. dont do it JP!!!!!!!!!
LMAO kwakwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa!

There is a colleague of mine whom we communicate a lot through the phone but work related, from there we started chatting he is so interested in me but we are not staying in the same place so we havnt met  yet but he is dying  to see me. he even sent me his photos one for him and another one with  his girlfriend and i did the same.we chat a lot but i dont think that i will end up falling for him.how do i know if its hom or not.
i dont date strangers and i dont risk with my life.  

 so jp i advice you not to fall for him. stop it before it goes further. those people are not as sweet, kind, caring and charming as u think. 

u must know what you want in life  and stick to it. dont just get tempted.



  





  

JadaPinkett
06 Mar 2009 14:24

Wow! i just love ur reply babetm it makes me realise that I have someone who loves and cares me.
And i'm very happy to share this with you guys coz u giving me very good advice....Thanx  again my bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

babetm
06 Mar 2009 14:48

@JP- I love my boyfriend too much and as far as i know i dont want to risk my relationship bcos of someone i dont know.
but dont worry its normal to get tempted. if u do love your man then there is nothing to worry about just concerntrate on raising the little one, im sure u dont want to be a single mother.

thats all from me.fabulous weekend to u

Cape Hustlaz
06 Mar 2009 14:57

Um you just need to be careful,i once agreed to meet someone i met in the cyber world and the next thing was,i was in the hand of a psychopath.She was a white woman,going through trying times and apparently shewas liar and on heavy drugs.She almost fucked up my credentials because she thought i belonged to her by virtue of meeting her.And what followed was more than hell.She started sending death threats.She even emailed my boss,asking where i was,claiming that i seemed to be in great troubl(Just sfter a day of meeting her)

It was at a shopping mall and all was solely for discussing about her charity work(sharing ideas)And the next thing i was her lover!Imagine receiving 13 massages in ten minutes.Some even came whilst we were reporting the case to the police.

Funnily the intelligence followed up on her and discovered that all the names she used even on her papers were non existant,and was someone very dangerous.She is still under surveillance because this happened in January 2009!

So be careful in the Cyber World!

TerryN
06 Mar 2009 15:06

And the next thing i was her lover!Imagine receiving 13 massages in ten minutes.Some even came whilst we were reporting the case to the police. 

ROFLOL
SJOE? What an ordeal...Cape Hustlaz

So be careful in the Cyber World!

Will do...:-)

myname
06 Mar 2009 15:18

Shame CH, U met a psycho LOL @ 13 sms'es

Mafresh
06 Mar 2009 15:43

My 5c worth advice:

If u r in a stable relationship and happy about it, don't ruin it by bringing a stranger.
But if you are unsure of yo current relationship and still looking 4 a potential Mr right/friend, then u can arrange a meeting. (b careful of what u wish 4, cause u just might get it)

Pooky
06 Mar 2009 16:37

Pooky...till now? hawu I thought its over now.
CTFU...no no no its not you anymore, dont get it twisted my chocolate ,its someone else now.

Pooky
06 Mar 2009 16:39

Pooky I hope it's not Supa.

LOL no its not  my sweety pie...yehlisa umoya LOL....

Pooky
06 Mar 2009 16:41

Pooky..........can l take a guess?

yes go ahead my love...and no, his initials are not NB

Onna
06 Mar 2009 17:03

JP, Are you not happy in your current relationship? It sounds like you are still with babypapa. I would say deal with the issues you have in  your current relationship. Keep cyber guy as your friend and end it there.
I also have a good friend that I met online, we talk on the phone and email.

Zah000
06 Mar 2009 17:09

@ Onna<<< Hey chom chom!!!








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