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Looking Back

Written by billyb from the blog Looking back on 19 Mar 2009
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I have seen and done many things in my life, some I am proud of and some not so proud but I refuse to have regrets. I believe everything happens according to GOD's plan.
Although we are obviously given choices- now my question is where is the line? When is it GOD's plan and when is it our choice? If you could go back to when you were a teenager, say 16yrs old. If you could write yourself a letter what would you say?
Here is mine...

DUDE! WTF!!!
What do you think you are doing sitting thinking about (insert name of boyfriend at the time) when you should be concentrating on what Mr Magongo is saying. I am only saying this because I know how your life will turn out if you don't start listening in class. You have so much potential, don't waste it maan!
Life isn't just about clothes, shoes and boys ( although they are delicious), there is so much more. Promise me you will go out there and explore your world, experience all that you can, don't accept explanations without evidence, read everything you can, as often as you can and most importantly...LOVE YOU!
It doesn't matter who says what about you, you are beautiful..inside and out. You are exactly the way GOD meant for you to be. Stand tall and be proud of your uniqueness..there is no one out there like you so make the most of it.
Please promise me you will not let anyone force you to have sex with them just to prove your love for them, thats BULL!!
Sex is great, but don't rush into it, there is more than enough time and I promise you, you will be brilliant when the time comes HAH!!
Also keep your mother's shoes safe, they will so make a comback later and I would'nt want you to regret your misuse of them.
Follow your dreams, no matter what, follow your dreams girl.
I love you very much.
PS you turn out fine don't worry.

27 Comments

billyb
19 Mar 2009 12:52

oh no i left so much out. what would you put in your letter?

ms.tebby
19 Mar 2009 13:01

eish, i want to read this, but im lazy to...i will get it from other's responses....later!

Toxic
19 Mar 2009 13:07

beautiful....... too lazy to type out what my letter to myself would say but i'll steal extracts from yours.

Promise me you will go out there and explore your world, experience all that you can, don't accept explanations without evidence

Please promise me you will not let anyone force you to have sex with them just to prove your love for them, thats BULL!!

Sex is great, but don't rush into it, there is more than enough time and I promise you, you will be brilliant when the time comes HAH!!

Follow your dreams, no matter what, follow your dreams girl.

So wish there'd been someone to tell me this!

mana melita
19 Mar 2009 13:37

Hi mabloggers just joined today, hope i will enjoy being here.

billyb, nice article it is just that it is bringing so many memories i would rather forget. you as teenagers we do some stupid things. that is why i always make sure that i explain everything to my kids at their early age (11&12) hopefull they will listen and do the right thing.

sjura
19 Mar 2009 13:43

i neva thot of writing a letter to myself.Infact m lazy to write letters. My friends used to complain to me that i dn reply to their letters......anyway this is a very nice article rather letter...lemme go think what i'd write to myself if i were to.

ms.tebby
19 Mar 2009 13:45

these replies are forcing me to read ...m still getting a zero after resding them

Tynt!
19 Mar 2009 13:45

Also keep your mother's shoes safe, they will so make a comback later and I would'nt want you to regret your misuse of them.

Eish!! guilty as charged...... nxl life!

Renegade
19 Mar 2009 13:47

I used to write myself a letter on each birthday, but I've since stopped, I should start again.

It doesn't matter who says what about you, you are beautiful..inside and out. You are exactly the way GOD meant for you to be. Stand tall and be proud of your uniqueness..there is no one out there like you so make the most of it.
I think this is what every young girl needs to understand, thier growin gup would be so much easier. Hau bantu.

billyb
19 Mar 2009 13:47

welcome mana melita, i also try and teachmy kid and my nieces all that i can to help them through.
@ sjura.. i am patiently waiting

Cande
19 Mar 2009 13:48

welcome mana melita

Renegade
19 Mar 2009 13:49

Also keep your mother's shoes safe, they will so make a comback later and I would'nt want you to regret your misuse of them.
I don't understand this, maybe it's too abstract for me.

Anyway, I'll write what I'd write in my letter as it comes to me...for now:

You can! You really can. Whatever it is, you can do it. Where you need help, ask for it. But you can. Your really can.

sjura
19 Mar 2009 13:51

tomorrow billyb.....i take about 3 days to finish writting a one page letter, i m very lazy to think.ngomso il drop my first paragraph vha.

TheLady
19 Mar 2009 13:53

Nice one billyb

Letter to myself would have camein handy at 17/18-when I passed matric and went to study in a city by myself. See in high school (from grade 10)I was a born-again Christian-the no nonsense type,no bf etc.

I went to tech and all changed (well I was really dissapointed about my results and felt God had let me down) I started dating, sex..drinking and smoking only came in later...Now I can't even go to a church where they'll tell me that uNkulunkulu uyasindisa-i just prefer amazwi ayisikhombisa nje once a year...With eerything that I know now-i can't even draft a letter to myself.

Toxic
19 Mar 2009 13:53

Rene, old clothes and shoes have come back re-invented so if u'd kept your mom's old wardrobe, you'd be rocking it now. i think that's what she means.

sjura
19 Mar 2009 13:58

Thanx Toxic nge explanation nam i was a bit un understanding ngale ndaba yezicathulo zik mha.

billyb
19 Mar 2009 14:01

thanx Toxic.
@ TheLady.. I think we all came out of school thinking we can conquer the world and do whatever we felt like without even thinking of the consequences.

Tynt!
19 Mar 2009 14:06

Also keep your mother's shoes safe, they will so make a comback later and I would'nt want you to regret your misuse of them.

Billyb, cum thru en explain disline, i think it is misapprehended by some of us...

billyb
19 Mar 2009 14:15

what i meant was my mother had the most beautiful shoes and i would wear them all the time (from 6yrs) all over, in the garden, running whereva. they got so messed up and when i see the shoes that are in shops i think damn my mother had a pair just like that and they didn't cost R5000. i could be rockin dem now

Mafresh
19 Mar 2009 16:51

When is it GOD's plan and when is it our choice?

My belief:
1. Our choice is to identify oppotunities/resources and make use of them to become better person, and make history. It is our choice to make it or brake it.
2.God's plan: He gave us a chance to live and ours to utilize this opportunity.

nice
19 Mar 2009 17:15

Dear nice

There is more to life than being Miss little perfect all the time. What are you doing always studying and thinking about how to solve for x, go out there and play with other kids and stop watching so much TV.

Now that you are about to start university I want to set aside time for having fun, and stop it with the chatrooms, go out and meet people......I mean real people.

Yours truly,
Nice

he hee, and I would not be so single now and shy. I did not have many friends because I was the serious nerd type, and dont take any nonsense from men. Only if I could let things go and not have tried to be a perfect kid I would tolerate some mistakes. But then again I would not be me, my unique self.

No regrets

nice
19 Mar 2009 17:17

When is it GOD's plan and when is it our choice?

billyb, God has given humans the best thing ever free will. You choose what you want but when he did not plan something for you and yo choose, it will turn out to be a disaster and you will have to take a step back and see where you went wrong and start all over

billyb2
19 Mar 2009 17:31

can you believe i forgot my password eish mara sometimes i wonder why my parents bothered paying school fees.
@nice..i was also a nerd until i discoverd boys at 17.
God has given us free will i agree, but when does he step in and say..phela soyabedza nyalo, let me take over?

Best-Achiever
20 Mar 2009 08:19

Hey BA

Always remember that you will never be clever than your parents, pay attention to every advise they give you, you might not understand some of the things now but it will come handy one day and you'll be thankful. Cherish every gift they give you, one day it will be the only reminder of how hard they tried to give you all they could afford. Understand that, if they dont agree with you, it is because they know better not because they dont want you to get what you think you need.

Be true to yourself always. Be concerned about what God thinks of you than what people think or will think of you.

Keep Well
BA

Renegade
20 Mar 2009 08:22

Thanks Tox, I think i was looking too deep into it, it's actually quite literal.

Toxic
20 Mar 2009 08:50

can you believe i forgot my password eish mara sometimes i wonder why my parents bothered paying school fees.

Kwa kwa kwa!!!!!!! i sometimes forget my pin number just after i've put in the card in the ATM slot so i understand :)

Best-Achiever
20 Mar 2009 09:04

Kwa kwa kwa!!!!!!! i sometimes forget my pin number just after i've put in the card in the ATM slot so i understand :)

Me too Tox and this othertime i felt real bad because my younger brother thought i didnt wanna give him money.

Toxic
20 Mar 2009 09:13

LMAO Best. Mina i pressed the cancel button, then walk around a bit and eventually it comes back. Dont know why this happens. The harder tu try to remember the more difficult it becomes. *sigh*

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