I received a number of emails with scenarios that questioned honesty. The first scenario, below, dealt with honesty about sex and the second dealt with honesty about friendship.
Scenario 1
I received the below email from a friend who got it from a friend who got it from a friend… I still wonder who the original author of the email is and if s/he found an answer and how s/he dealt with this.
Subject: what would you do?
Read below and tell me what you would do?
If your wife/husband gets ready to go shopping/for drinks. Whilst s/he is bathing, you decide to check in her/his purse how much s/he has taken for the shopping.
Upon checking the amount, in another compartment of the purse, you find four unused condoms.
You decide not to ask her/him about the condoms and let her/him go for her/his super shopping/drinks. On her/his return, s/he goes straight for bathing and you check again in her/his purse while s/he is bathing. You then find that there are two condoms remaining.
What would you do? Would you ask her/him where the two have gone? If s/he says s/he hadn't had any, will you blame yourself for not asking her/him the first time you found them before leaving for the shopping/drinks? If s/he says s/he has given them to her/his friend, would you be satisfied with the answer? Any answer given would you accept and rest the matter?
What will you do?
Scenario 2 As an avid fan and listener of Jenny Crwys-Williams on 702, on 23/03/2009 she dealt with a friendship scenario that made me question how honest my friends are to me and what they would be willing to risk to be honest with me. Apart from Solele and Toxic, I really doubt my friends would be honestly honest with me. I wonder why.
Anyway, Jenny opened the lines to her audience to discuss a situation which she heard at a wedding. The situation is about (let me make up names because it will be easier to explain/write)
Max, Zoe and Brenda. Max is engaged to Zoe. Zoe and Brenda are best friends. Max is sleeping with Brenda. Now, a third person, Holly, who is Zoe’s other friend knows about the affair. Holly is now stuck with the question of how honest she should be to Zoe, what should she do?
As people called in and insisted all sorts of solutions for Holly, I was left questioning what I would do and what my friends would do if I was Zoe. I know for sure Solele would tell me and it would not shake our friendship.
I have over time been in scenarios that made me question how honest I need to be, how the recipient of my honesty will react and what will the outcome of honesty be.
Often people choose the less destructive version of it. Not a bright move but like someone said "There's always 3 sides to a story; your version, my version and the truth"