Now i aint saying she a gold digger
But she aint messing with no broke niggas...
I'm no gold digger but I do feel a man needs to give a little sometimes. Things like going out to eat, movies or any kind of entertainment; if a guy asks he must pay. On the other hand I also don't mind if I'm the one who did the asking. Black men should provide for their women. Even though I've never asked for one to do so for me I strongly feel a man should put himself in a position where he'll be able to properly care (yes, financially too) for his woman.
In this tough economic climate, life is becoming way too expensive for my small pockets and I've decided it's time nami bang betjele. First I need to get a man before that happens but before then I'd like to get training on how I can get what I want without looking/sounding like a gold digger.
I don't want a man buying me clothes and paying for my rent or whatever... ngi funa imali esandleni!
Over the years I've come across all kinds of women that ask their men for money and the men who happily give it to them. Now before I take that route, I'd like to know from these men (those that give and those that don't) if you're in a relationship with a woman and you feel your relationship counts for something (other than sex), would you be okay with your woman asking you for money? What is asking for too much? What asking for a reasonable amount. Being the woman that I am I myself wouldn't mind giving my man money (not lending) if he asks/needs it. My ex was the first guy I ever exchanged cash with - he'd give me sometimes just nje and at times when I needed it (though I never asked, it just came at the right time) and nami I wouldn't mind go mo tlatsa moo le moo and paying for meals when we went out. And it was never a question of one spending more than the other. I think this is okay.
Asking for money is tough, at least for some of us. I have NEVER asked a guy for moola. And I think I would wait till the relationship was solid before taking the leap. But how do I ask without sounding like a gold digger or seeming like money is the only thing I want out of a relationship. And how do I know that I'm getting it with no strings attached ie him thinking just cause he gives me money he owns me.
Ladies, please teach me. And fellas, share your thoughts and experiences and expectations from such an exchange.
PS I do hang out with broke niggas LOL
And nina aba thanda u kulwa please keep it neat or move along!!!