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I Am Horrified...

Written by Brown Shuga from the blog SHUGAS BLOGIWOOD on 24 Apr 2009
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This has got nothing to do with Television but I'm upset and I need to vent. It's about racism so there'll be a lot of "black" and "white".
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My son is 7 years old and today he experienced one of the most horrible things a person could experience and I'm upset that I could not protect him from such a thing.

Opposite my place, lives a white couple with a boy who is about 7 or 8 who sometimes comes to play here when my son's two friends from another part of the complex are visiting. The boys are white.

Now this boy, let's call him "Mika" is one of those kinda kids who come into your house without greeting or knocking and he will go straight to other rooms without invitation at all.
Anyway, I just observed that about him...It wasn't an issue for me,  certainly not my problem to sort out.

So anyway, when I got back from work today my son told me that he can't play with Mika anymore.
So I asked him "why?"
He said "Coz when I was playing with him and my friends, Mika's father said brown or black people are not allowed at his house."

I"m now shocked....

Apparently the boys were playing outside and Mika's dad called Mika to go inside but Mika wanted his "playmates" to go with him and that's when his father told him that. Now, obviously this was meant at my boy coz he was the lone "brown/black" face there at them time.
(I heard the full version from my helper, who happened to overhear this guy saying this)

I got really upset when I heard this, like how could a grown ass man do that to a child?
I have never experienced such blatant racism in my life and I am so mad that my 7 year old had to be exposed to this.... I thought kids born this late were not supposed to go through this?
I asked my boy how he felt when the guy said that and he told me he felt sad.....
I told him I was sorry & was starting to get emotional and he said "just a little bit sad......".

The worst feeling was seeing the expression on his face when he told me this....such disappointment! What kills me is that I can't even do anything about it instead I was now forced to talk to him about why Mika's dad said that and how wrong it was.....at at time when I wasn't ready to discuss race issues with my son!

I can't believe this guy is teaching his child this racist behaviour in 2009!
Where does he thinks he's living?
Does he think his child will not play with black kids at school when HE's not around to chase them "darkies" away?

I FEEL SO VIOLATED, SO WRONGED, LIKE MY CHILD HAS BEEN STRIPPED OF HIS RIGHTFUL IGNORANCE TO THE DISGUSTING RACISM THAT IS STILL SO MUCH ALIVE IN THIS COUNTRY!!!


The question is "what do I do when "Mika" comes to my house next??"

(he definitely will & I actually wonder where his father thinks he is during all those times that he's at my house!)

Do I allow Mika to play or do I tell him to go home to avoid having his racist dad come pull him out causing another unpleasant experience for my child to witness?



233 Comments

Heartsbreaker
24 Apr 2009 20:41

Eish BS, that's so hectic man......jooooo!!! unpleasent experience for your child indeed.Eish Sorry !!! :-(

Paralyzer
24 Apr 2009 21:23

Eish, saw ur fb status, wil comment and read later! Arent u glad u voted anc!

Vida
24 Apr 2009 21:28

Sorry girl!!*SIGH* Sadly the world removes the innocence from children way before they are redy for it. By letting Mika back into your house you will be teaching your little one that just because other people do bad things does not mean you have to aswell! I wish u streangth courage and wisdom girl!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:46

Sorry, I went overboard..

Paralyzer
24 Apr 2009 21:50

Lol @ silent blogger nt being so silent anymore kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa

Heartsbreaker
24 Apr 2009 21:58

I still don't understand why these evil-minded,the so called south african whites (not all of them ofcoarse) are so in deep denial that now blacks are free to go and live anywhere they want ,that space restrictions are no longer in place.geeeeez  it amazes me and what that guy has done is evident that issues such as racial segregation in this country still needs to be dealt with, i so wish that our gorvenment can do something and the problem is that people don't talk much about these racism issues,we should talk about this on daily basis,i mean on the academic level, in the media,in the streets-so we dont forget that it certainly is a reality that apartheid in south africa is nowhere near end.......


BS i would also feel disgusted if that happened to my child,True,the sad thing is that u cannot confront that idiot bcos u cannot dictate what he can/cannot do @ his house.

Khonani Yone
24 Apr 2009 22:36

Hey BS, Ignore the jerk/idiot.Racism is still rife in this country.we chose to ignore and not intertain it.

The best you can do is teach your child the values you would like him to have.
and also explain what is wrong and what is rite.As long as he's got those things then he will survive all this bad words thrown at him even when you are not around.

Cande
24 Apr 2009 22:42

OMFW, OMW?? Cant believe this guy said this?? for C ya to hear?? he should @ least have said it in Afrikaans or said it behind closed doors. But to say it in front of a 7 year old like that?? What is he teaching his son? SIES!!! I AM DISGUSTED!!!

Lela
24 Apr 2009 23:04

God knows I would have gone to his house and shown him how "green" I can be but ke in the spirit of easter I think you should find a way to let the guy know how you feel about what he said to your son and let him know that you doing that because his brat comes to your house everyday and you are not the ass that he is that you will be mean to his brat so he must tell his brat not to play with brown kids. Jesus my blood just boils when it comes to racism and tribalism. Forgive me Lord for calling his son a brat I allowed anger to overtake me.

HARAMBE24
24 Apr 2009 23:06

VIDA has hit the nail on the head love...you have to teach ure child to raise above such hatred, you cant protect him as much as u wish u can - we live in a cruel world...and Mika should not be punished for his dad's madness..let the kids play together..sorry love...

Vesa
25 Apr 2009 06:13

I agree with Vida and Harambe! As sad as it is, just explain it to your son and teach him not to harbour any bitterness. Wena just kill them with your kindness...no need for confrontations! Unfortunately a lot of white people are still very racist,some hide it well some just can't. These are some of the things that make some of us stay loyal to the ANC...coz like another blogger said it restored our dignity as black people

Vesa
25 Apr 2009 06:24

The other day we had drinks at work, and this white woman started her ish....she asked us blacks 'is it fair that her tax money is gonna look after JZ's 20 wives'. At first we ignored her avoiding the obvious. I just corrected her that they are actually 5...bt she carried on and on bout the issue. I just snapped and told her 'you seem to be paying a lot of tax than the rest of us.Yo tax money looks after JZ's wives,build roads,build schools, looks after the elderly etc'. It got very ugly jong

Onna
25 Apr 2009 08:17

Sorry BS that yo son had to suffer for some twerps stupidity but you know what they say do not argue with fool people might not notice the difference.I would say allow the boy to come play at your house.The only thing I dont like about them brats is they just walk in yo house and not greet just go to their friend. One used to just stat demanding toys as soon as he walked in and proceed to play with them alone, not with my so who he had claimed to visit in the first place.
Yesterday me and my hubbie were driving along loius botha ave and we saw this young man wearing the together we can do more t-shirt I was so happy I could have gone to hug him............that is because it was a white young man and he looked clean and decent not the ones that look like they live on the streets.
And on thursday when we were busy toyi-toying at the thank-u party there was this white dude there dancing with us I even took a picture of  comrade white guy.

Firstdvd
25 Apr 2009 09:08

Eish BS this is reall disturbing...

"what do I do when "Mika" comes to my house next?? "
>>>Show them (Mika & his dad) some love, like H24 said: Mika should not be punished for his dad's madness...

@ Heartsbreaker & Vesa...no need for confrontations!
>>>That thought crossed my mind...but I think confonting this white man politely though, might surprise you of how much he hate us (blacks, obviously).
>>>He must face the FACT ANC ROCKS!!!

mjj
25 Apr 2009 10:56

I'm not good with Kids.....and I'm also a racist.....but as u said last night...Mika is innocent....so i think you should treat him the same way you did b4 the incident.......let him come and play with your son.........Clearly his father misses the National Party or AWB.....or maybe he was angry because Zuma is our new president....who knows......but on a serious note......let Mika come to the house and play with your son.......You son will be more hurt if you tell him Mika is also not welcomed to your home...........

mjj
25 Apr 2009 11:07

Lets say this happened to me? I would go to Tembisa to buy some cow/goat/sheep insides.....cook them, add some laxatives to the mixture and give them to Mika.........so he can tell daddy dearest that i poison him........ or better........i would pour boiling water to their "cat".......most people who stay in complexes love cats (GOD knows why)....remember this is me not you.......we have a certain way dealing with venting our anger guys...mine might be extreme.......

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:06

lmfao at mjj

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:09

A point of correction, zuma actually has two wives, he divorced u nkosazana and the other lady, dudus ma commited suicide...

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:14

@bs, how is your relationship like with mikas parents, do they greet and talk to you?

Paralyzer
25 Apr 2009 13:49

Lol @ mjj (especially cat part) lol

tha - bang
25 Apr 2009 13:58

theres a passage in the bible,i cant remeber where exactly ,that says when we do good deeds towards our own enemies it heaps alot of hot coal on their heads. So be the South African youd like the country to be;who does not let race, tribalism or even racism stand in the way of their values. let the child in to play with you guys, maybe through you and your son one day "Mika" may be able to show his father the right way.For e would have had a different experience to "black'/ "brown" people that his father may never had.

as for the innocences of your son being lost so early,ag it happens and im sorry it had to happen this soon.but at least you were there to manage it and to channel it into the right direction.hope things get better between you and your neighbours.sweet

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 14:12

Thanks guys, I"m feeling much better today :-)

<<<The only thing I dont like about them brats is they just walk in yo house and not greet just go to their friend. One used to just stat demanding toys as soon as he walked in and proceed to play with them alone, not with my so who he had claimed to visit in the first place.>>>
LOL that's Mika right thurr!!!

<<<@bs, how is your relationship like with mikas parents, do they greet and talk to you?>>>
I don't really get to see them...he's more friends with the other two boys,  I know the other two's parents coz the mother brings them here or comes to pick mine up etc.

Ja noh, maybe daddy's given poor Mika strict instructions not to come here again...that would be a relief actually.

Triple LOL @ mjj...

Onkez
25 Apr 2009 14:38

Eish yanzima lento BS.I'm the guardian of a 3 yr old who is my whole world and we also live in these "white suburbs".They have been nothing but welcoming to him and he's always playing around with them,nathi siyahosta apha.But this post makes me suspect,y'know what they say about white peeps i.e. "they'll smile at you while habouring their immense hate for you".But eish those are stereotype and I'm willing to give the other parents benefit of doubt.I dont know how you kept yourself from going all ghetto confrontational on Mika's dad.Lord help anybody that will ever hurt my boy.

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 15:18

Hayi Onkez, you have nothing to worry about coz not everybody is like my "neighbour".
All this time, I thought you were a guy....

Onkez
25 Apr 2009 16:07

I am a guy!kwa kwa kwa.It was a very complex situation and I had the resources to provide for an innocent child.

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 17:06

Wow! You're one in a million!

Bra Bizza
25 Apr 2009 17:25

ROTFLMBAO@Mjj

let Mika play with him,you give your son some political education based on the question he asked you the other day,he passes the education to Mika,Mika becomes a cadre of the movement,he educates other whites and that's the best you can do eradicate racism....even tho i dont think it will go away,but atleast that's the best way of managing it

mjj
25 Apr 2009 18:15

Why is everyone laughing @ me? kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa.....at least i was honest........

mathata
25 Apr 2009 20:03

treat Mika the same way you did before But one of the good days make sure you talk to this guy.

ask him like do you have a problem with my child?do you have a problem with me?

Once he say No..........girl....you cant trust this dude,one day he will molest your child n say NO.

if someone want to hurt you....they  turn to your child.

you can trust this guy IF jesus comes to you n say his a good guy ,for now .............

let the helper do the Job...walk the child.

ms.tebby
26 Apr 2009 07:08

ths is so sad, mxim!!

Floh
26 Apr 2009 11:04

LOLOLO @ MJJ and bennegoetes(sp)...................Mika won't eat that............instead he will run for dear life

mjj
26 Apr 2009 11:26

I'm watching AI the Top 13 show - Michael Jackson special.....Tjo Lil killed that song.....

Paralyzer
26 Apr 2009 14:23

Do u mean kill as in good? Bcoz i though she was awesome

mjj
26 Apr 2009 14:50

Yes kill as gr8.......She and Adam were the best for the nite........eish back to SA Idols.....who's left? PLease tell me Sasha-Lee, Graham, and Lendel are gone?

Heartsbreaker
24 Apr 2009 20:41

Eish BS, that's so hectic man......jooooo!!! unpleasent experience for your child indeed.Eish Sorry !!! :-(

Paralyzer
26 Apr 2009 15:08

Lol, 2nite is gon b interesting. I hope it's sasha and jason. I also thought allison was great!

Paralyzer
24 Apr 2009 21:23

Eish, saw ur fb status, wil comment and read later! Arent u glad u voted anc!

Vida
24 Apr 2009 21:28

Sorry girl!!*SIGH* Sadly the world removes the innocence from children way before they are redy for it. By letting Mika back into your house you will be teaching your little one that just because other people do bad things does not mean you have to aswell! I wish u streangth courage and wisdom girl!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:44

Eish askies BS. Im usually a silent blogger bt this is nonsense. I thought we're living in liberal country!

nesta
24 Apr 2009 21:46

Sorry, I went overboard..

Paralyzer
24 Apr 2009 21:50

Lol @ silent blogger nt being so silent anymore kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa

Heartsbreaker
24 Apr 2009 21:58

I still don't understand why these evil-minded,the so called south african whites (not all of them ofcoarse) are so in deep denial that now blacks are free to go and live anywhere they want ,that space restrictions are no longer in place.geeeeez  it amazes me and what that guy has done is evident that issues such as racial segregation in this country still needs to be dealt with, i so wish that our gorvenment can do something and the problem is that people don't talk much about these racism issues,we should talk about this on daily basis,i mean on the academic level, in the media,in the streets-so we dont forget that it certainly is a reality that apartheid in south africa is nowhere near end.......


BS i would also feel disgusted if that happened to my child,True,the sad thing is that u cannot confront that idiot bcos u cannot dictate what he can/cannot do @ his house.

Khonani Yone
24 Apr 2009 22:36

Hey BS, Ignore the jerk/idiot.Racism is still rife in this country.we chose to ignore and not intertain it.

The best you can do is teach your child the values you would like him to have.
and also explain what is wrong and what is rite.As long as he's got those things then he will survive all this bad words thrown at him even when you are not around.

Cande
24 Apr 2009 22:42

OMFW, OMW?? Cant believe this guy said this?? for C ya to hear?? he should @ least have said it in Afrikaans or said it behind closed doors. But to say it in front of a 7 year old like that?? What is he teaching his son? SIES!!! I AM DISGUSTED!!!

Lela
24 Apr 2009 23:04

God knows I would have gone to his house and shown him how "green" I can be but ke in the spirit of easter I think you should find a way to let the guy know how you feel about what he said to your son and let him know that you doing that because his brat comes to your house everyday and you are not the ass that he is that you will be mean to his brat so he must tell his brat not to play with brown kids. Jesus my blood just boils when it comes to racism and tribalism. Forgive me Lord for calling his son a brat I allowed anger to overtake me.

HARAMBE24
24 Apr 2009 23:06

VIDA has hit the nail on the head love...you have to teach ure child to raise above such hatred, you cant protect him as much as u wish u can - we live in a cruel world...and Mika should not be punished for his dad's madness..let the kids play together..sorry love...

Vesa
25 Apr 2009 06:13

I agree with Vida and Harambe! As sad as it is, just explain it to your son and teach him not to harbour any bitterness. Wena just kill them with your kindness...no need for confrontations! Unfortunately a lot of white people are still very racist,some hide it well some just can't. These are some of the things that make some of us stay loyal to the ANC...coz like another blogger said it restored our dignity as black people

Vesa
25 Apr 2009 06:24

The other day we had drinks at work, and this white woman started her ish....she asked us blacks 'is it fair that her tax money is gonna look after JZ's 20 wives'. At first we ignored her avoiding the obvious. I just corrected her that they are actually 5...bt she carried on and on bout the issue. I just snapped and told her 'you seem to be paying a lot of tax than the rest of us.Yo tax money looks after JZ's wives,build roads,build schools, looks after the elderly etc'. It got very ugly jong

Onna
25 Apr 2009 08:17

Sorry BS that yo son had to suffer for some twerps stupidity but you know what they say do not argue with fool people might not notice the difference.I would say allow the boy to come play at your house.The only thing I dont like about them brats is they just walk in yo house and not greet just go to their friend. One used to just stat demanding toys as soon as he walked in and proceed to play with them alone, not with my so who he had claimed to visit in the first place.
Yesterday me and my hubbie were driving along loius botha ave and we saw this young man wearing the together we can do more t-shirt I was so happy I could have gone to hug him............that is because it was a white young man and he looked clean and decent not the ones that look like they live on the streets.
And on thursday when we were busy toyi-toying at the thank-u party there was this white dude there dancing with us I even took a picture of  comrade white guy.

Firstdvd
25 Apr 2009 09:08

Eish BS this is reall disturbing...

"what do I do when "Mika" comes to my house next?? "
>>>Show them (Mika & his dad) some love, like H24 said: Mika should not be punished for his dad's madness...

@ Heartsbreaker & Vesa...no need for confrontations!
>>>That thought crossed my mind...but I think confonting this white man politely though, might surprise you of how much he hate us (blacks, obviously).
>>>He must face the FACT ANC ROCKS!!!

mjj
25 Apr 2009 10:56

I'm not good with Kids.....and I'm also a racist.....but as u said last night...Mika is innocent....so i think you should treat him the same way you did b4 the incident.......let him come and play with your son.........Clearly his father misses the National Party or AWB.....or maybe he was angry because Zuma is our new president....who knows......but on a serious note......let Mika come to the house and play with your son.......You son will be more hurt if you tell him Mika is also not welcomed to your home...........

mjj
25 Apr 2009 11:07

Lets say this happened to me? I would go to Tembisa to buy some cow/goat/sheep insides.....cook them, add some laxatives to the mixture and give them to Mika.........so he can tell daddy dearest that i poison him........ or better........i would pour boiling water to their "cat".......most people who stay in complexes love cats (GOD knows why)....remember this is me not you.......we have a certain way dealing with venting our anger guys...mine might be extreme.......

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:06

lmfao at mjj

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:09

A point of correction, zuma actually has two wives, he divorced u nkosazana and the other lady, dudus ma commited suicide...

Kakapana
25 Apr 2009 13:14

@bs, how is your relationship like with mikas parents, do they greet and talk to you?

Paralyzer
25 Apr 2009 13:49

Lol @ mjj (especially cat part) lol

tha - bang
25 Apr 2009 13:58

theres a passage in the bible,i cant remeber where exactly ,that says when we do good deeds towards our own enemies it heaps alot of hot coal on their heads. So be the South African youd like the country to be;who does not let race, tribalism or even racism stand in the way of their values. let the child in to play with you guys, maybe through you and your son one day "Mika" may be able to show his father the right way.For e would have had a different experience to "black'/ "brown" people that his father may never had.

as for the innocences of your son being lost so early,ag it happens and im sorry it had to happen this soon.but at least you were there to manage it and to channel it into the right direction.hope things get better between you and your neighbours.sweet

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 14:12

Thanks guys, I"m feeling much better today :-)

<<<The only thing I dont like about them brats is they just walk in yo house and not greet just go to their friend. One used to just stat demanding toys as soon as he walked in and proceed to play with them alone, not with my so who he had claimed to visit in the first place.>>>
LOL that's Mika right thurr!!!

<<<@bs, how is your relationship like with mikas parents, do they greet and talk to you?>>>
I don't really get to see them...he's more friends with the other two boys,  I know the other two's parents coz the mother brings them here or comes to pick mine up etc.

Ja noh, maybe daddy's given poor Mika strict instructions not to come here again...that would be a relief actually.

Triple LOL @ mjj...

Onkez
25 Apr 2009 14:38

Eish yanzima lento BS.I'm the guardian of a 3 yr old who is my whole world and we also live in these "white suburbs".They have been nothing but welcoming to him and he's always playing around with them,nathi siyahosta apha.But this post makes me suspect,y'know what they say about white peeps i.e. "they'll smile at you while habouring their immense hate for you".But eish those are stereotype and I'm willing to give the other parents benefit of doubt.I dont know how you kept yourself from going all ghetto confrontational on Mika's dad.Lord help anybody that will ever hurt my boy.

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 15:18

Hayi Onkez, you have nothing to worry about coz not everybody is like my "neighbour".
All this time, I thought you were a guy....

Onkez
25 Apr 2009 16:07

I am a guy!kwa kwa kwa.It was a very complex situation and I had the resources to provide for an innocent child.

Brown Shuga
25 Apr 2009 17:06

Wow! You're one in a million!

Bra Bizza
25 Apr 2009 17:25

ROTFLMBAO@Mjj

let Mika play with him,you give your son some political education based on the question he asked you the other day,he passes the education to Mika,Mika becomes a cadre of the movement,he educates other whites and that's the best you can do eradicate racism....even tho i dont think it will go away,but atleast that's the best way of managing it

mjj
25 Apr 2009 18:15

Why is everyone laughing @ me? kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa.....at least i was honest........

mathata
25 Apr 2009 20:03

treat Mika the same way you did before But one of the good days make sure you talk to this guy.

ask him like do you have a problem with my child?do you have a problem with me?

Once he say No..........girl....you cant trust this dude,one day he will molest your child n say NO.

if someone want to hurt you....they  turn to your child.

you can trust this guy IF jesus comes to you n say his a good guy ,for now .............

let the helper do the Job...walk the child.

ms.tebby
26 Apr 2009 07:08

ths is so sad, mxim!!

Floh
26 Apr 2009 11:04

LOLOLO @ MJJ and bennegoetes(sp)...................Mika won't eat that............instead he will run for dear life

mjj
26 Apr 2009 11:26

I'm watching AI the Top 13 show - Michael Jackson special.....Tjo Lil killed that song.....

Paralyzer
26 Apr 2009 14:23

Do u mean kill as in good? Bcoz i though she was awesome

mjj
26 Apr 2009 14:50

Yes kill as gr8.......She and Adam were the best for the nite........eish back to SA Idols.....who's left? PLease tell me Sasha-Lee, Graham, and Lendel are gone?

Paralyzer
26 Apr 2009 15:08

Lol, 2nite is gon b interesting. I hope it's sasha and jason. I also thought allison was great!

Green.arrow
27 Apr 2009 12:01

"Now this boy, let's call him "Mika" is one of those kinda kids who come into your house without greeting or knocking and he will go straight to other rooms without invitation at all..."
my sister had Mika the boy and girl at her complex...they head3ed everywere and for everything including the fridge....

Askies hle BS especially for your lil' boy...this issue is byond sad ...particularly bcos it was a child who was exposed to this horrible culture......
In the engineering world u walk and hustle arround this everyday......
the sad thing is that indeed, with some of the cats its hard to do anything about it....all u can do is to do what you do best 

Another sad thing is that when it happens...the line between meekness  and not being a coward is evry very thin....
im depressed now coz 2morrow is yet another day...

odie
27 Apr 2009 15:22

BS you are a mom?

ms.tebby
27 Apr 2009 15:39

LOLOLOL odie...

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:46

OMW!!!!!! Havent read replies but the way i feel now i would not let that Mika into my house, would tell him that my brown child cannot play with white children!!! damn, i know this would not solve anything, but it would hurt him (Mika)and he would go and tell his dad, who would have to explain his racial behaviour to him, mnciim!!! f!!! the fact that he is innocent, Cya was also innocent njena, this erks me up the wrong way, i will post an objective response later when i have calmed down. nxa, i would say i cant believe there is still people who do these things, but i know they are there, have seen it here at work, but its WRONG when done to a child, i mean. jeeeer.

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:49

And before i continue reading replies that state that Mika is innocent, well maybe, but akanamthetho lomtwna!!!!! kutheni engena ezindlini zabantu angabulisi avele aqhume ayekwirooms, jeer, ngendimfundise owami umthetho kweyam indlu!!! its not his fathers house and he shouldn't treat it like one.

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:54

LMAO!!! mjj, even after reading replies, this Mika must still not be allowed into the house, hayi maan, i probably cant deal with such things, but as Onkez has said, i dont kow why you didnt go all ghetto on the dad, i mean you would have thought about it later, but it would have helped me vent so much, not sure about burning the cat though, kwakwakwakwkawkakwakwa mjj. askies kodwa BS, i cant imagine how you felt when your baby told you this.

Beyonce
27 Apr 2009 15:58

Wow... this world of ours! Sorry BS. 
Please send boy to live with Aunty Bouncy, you'll see all them parents will want him to be friends with their sons (White, green, purple parents).

Paralyzer
27 Apr 2009 16:30

No BS, as disgusting as it is, do not take it out on Mika. You could go and talk to that idiot??

Green.arrow
27 Apr 2009 12:01

"Now this boy, let's call him "Mika" is one of those kinda kids who come into your house without greeting or knocking and he will go straight to other rooms without invitation at all..."
my sister had Mika the boy and girl at her complex...they head3ed everywere and for everything including the fridge....

Askies hle BS especially for your lil' boy...this issue is byond sad ...particularly bcos it was a child who was exposed to this horrible culture......
In the engineering world u walk and hustle arround this everyday......
the sad thing is that indeed, with some of the cats its hard to do anything about it....all u can do is to do what you do best 

Another sad thing is that when it happens...the line between meekness  and not being a coward is evry very thin....
im depressed now coz 2morrow is yet another day...

odie
27 Apr 2009 15:22

BS you are a mom?

ms.tebby
27 Apr 2009 15:39

LOLOLOL odie...

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:46

OMW!!!!!! Havent read replies but the way i feel now i would not let that Mika into my house, would tell him that my brown child cannot play with white children!!! damn, i know this would not solve anything, but it would hurt him (Mika)and he would go and tell his dad, who would have to explain his racial behaviour to him, mnciim!!! f!!! the fact that he is innocent, Cya was also innocent njena, this erks me up the wrong way, i will post an objective response later when i have calmed down. nxa, i would say i cant believe there is still people who do these things, but i know they are there, have seen it here at work, but its WRONG when done to a child, i mean. jeeeer.

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:49

And before i continue reading replies that state that Mika is innocent, well maybe, but akanamthetho lomtwna!!!!! kutheni engena ezindlini zabantu angabulisi avele aqhume ayekwirooms, jeer, ngendimfundise owami umthetho kweyam indlu!!! its not his fathers house and he shouldn't treat it like one.

belz
27 Apr 2009 15:54

LMAO!!! mjj, even after reading replies, this Mika must still not be allowed into the house, hayi maan, i probably cant deal with such things, but as Onkez has said, i dont kow why you didnt go all ghetto on the dad, i mean you would have thought about it later, but it would have helped me vent so much, not sure about burning the cat though, kwakwakwakwkawkakwakwa mjj. askies kodwa BS, i cant imagine how you felt when your baby told you this.

Beyonce
27 Apr 2009 15:58

Wow... this world of ours! Sorry BS. 
Please send boy to live with Aunty Bouncy, you'll see all them parents will want him to be friends with their sons (White, green, purple parents).

Brown Shuga
27 Apr 2009 20:01

Shem Belz...it's okay now, thanks guys!! Kanti ni nice so? Lol

Piz...am not talking to that idzioto!

Paralyzer
27 Apr 2009 16:30

No BS, as disgusting as it is, do not take it out on Mika. You could go and talk to that idiot??

Brown Shuga
27 Apr 2009 20:01

Shem Belz...it's okay now, thanks guys!! Kanti ni nice so? Lol

Piz...am not talking to that idzioto!

GML
28 Apr 2009 09:05

@BS: What if your child was an albino? how would your neighbour explain the Black and Brown thing to his son?

Pooky
28 Apr 2009 09:42

its sad that we still have such narrow minded people in SA...sorry BS

Toxic
28 Apr 2009 09:46

you can trust this guy IF jesus comes to you n say his a good guy ,for now .............

let the helper do the Job...walk the child.

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! kwa kwa kwakwa kwa kwa kwa kwa wka wka!!!!

Eish, Mathata, you rule!

I'm still not sure what's right and what's wrong cause i still don't know if it's MY responsibility to be the mature one, the right one, the one who turns the blind eye to racism. I so feel you on how horrible an experience it is for your son to go through, i'd certainly ban Mika from playin with my child after this.

monchooza
28 Apr 2009 10:17

Mjj you can buy all of that meat in Pretoria marabastaad, why buy them in Tembisa usile yong!

mjj
28 Apr 2009 10:26

because Tembisa is not far from where BS stays.......lol

myname
28 Apr 2009 10:55

Hi Guys, askis sana,

Rasicm is one of the things that will NEVER end esp here in SA. Lord knows why. I could swear some is inside their blood. They r good pretenders. But doing that to my son ??????i'll b in his reddish face. 

I will make sure he's weeping when he's leaving my house.

Sana kunganyiwa kum, kaloku akuzalelwana.

Cande
28 Apr 2009 11:00

has Mika been to your house BS?? I was going to moer him everytime he goes to my house. or make your son moer him.

GML
28 Apr 2009 09:05

@BS: What if your child was an albino? how would your neighbour explain the Black and Brown thing to his son?

Pooky
28 Apr 2009 09:42

its sad that we still have such narrow minded people in SA...sorry BS

Toxic
28 Apr 2009 09:46

you can trust this guy IF jesus comes to you n say his a good guy ,for now .............

let the helper do the Job...walk the child.

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! kwa kwa kwakwa kwa kwa kwa kwa wka wka!!!!

Eish, Mathata, you rule!

I'm still not sure what's right and what's wrong cause i still don't know if it's MY responsibility to be the mature one, the right one, the one who turns the blind eye to racism. I so feel you on how horrible an experience it is for your son to go through, i'd certainly ban Mika from playin with my child after this.

mjj
28 Apr 2009 11:44

Cande and myname.....u mustn't be violent........just use my tactics.......you won't strain a muscle......lol

monchooza
28 Apr 2009 10:17

Mjj you can buy all of that meat in Pretoria marabastaad, why buy them in Tembisa usile yong!

mjj
28 Apr 2009 10:26

because Tembisa is not far from where BS stays.......lol

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:02

@ SB, Just confront the father and tell him exactly what you think of him, and make sure that everyone in the complex is fully aware of his derogatory or rather racial remarks!!

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:03

eish my bad....meant BS!

belz
28 Apr 2009 12:05

LOL!!! Punsiher, yes she must type a letter and make copies and put her under the doors for all to see.

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:08

i so wish that our gorvenment can do something and the problem is that people don't talk much about these racism issues,we should talk about this on daily basis,i mean on the academic level, in the media,in the streets-so we dont forget that it certainly is a reality that apartheid in south africa is nowhere near end.......  Thats soo true heartbreaker! 

nna i'd  make sure that I give the idiot a piece of my mind there and then!

myname
28 Apr 2009 10:55

Hi Guys, askis sana,

Rasicm is one of the things that will NEVER end esp here in SA. Lord knows why. I could swear some is inside their blood. They r good pretenders. But doing that to my son ??????i'll b in his reddish face. 

I will make sure he's weeping when he's leaving my house.

Sana kunganyiwa kum, kaloku akuzalelwana.

Cande
28 Apr 2009 11:00

has Mika been to your house BS?? I was going to moer him everytime he goes to my house. or make your son moer him.

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 12:13

So I asked him "why?"
He said "Coz when I was playing with him and my friends, Mika's father said brown or black people are not allowed at his house." 

Thank u BS...i can relate to this:
Mina my neighbour is an Indian family...they so are racists and um sure they still refer to us as "K". My daughter and theirs used to play together (throwing the ball at each other over the fence) until my neighbour put their fence up to avoid the play. When their daughter called my daughter to come out and play the father shouted, i could hear that he was raving mad. 

It's one thing being undermined by Whites, Indians they just pisses me off. 
I mean really now... they not any different from me.

 

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:16

Lets say this happened to me? I would go to Tembisa to buy some cow/goat/sheep insides.....cook them, add some laxatives to the mixture and give them to Mika.........so he can tell daddy dearest that i poison him........ or better........i would pour boiling water to their "cat".......most people who stay in complexes love cats (GOD knows why)....remember this is me not you.......we have a certain way dealing with venting our anger guys...mine might be extreme....... rotflmao! ya MJJ you really cracked me up

Cande
28 Apr 2009 12:18

I still say you must put the 2 in a boxing ring, and let your black/brown son moer the whitie..

belz
28 Apr 2009 12:18

LOL Tazzy, and some are blacker than you.

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 12:21

LMAO...my point exactly...Belzzz

Onkez
28 Apr 2009 12:24

How will talking about racism help?I doubt that you just wake up one morning a racist but rather its from years of influence from your external enviroment.Funny thing is I've yet to meet a black radical racist,maybe our parents had much better things to worry about than trash a certain race.I'd like to encourage the new parents to mimic our own parents in that sense,no point in planting hatred in our kids.

Onkez
28 Apr 2009 12:26

Hayi bo Cande...why the violent remedy?

ms.tebby
28 Apr 2009 12:38

Reply from: Cande 4/28/2009 6:18:12 PM

I still say you must put the 2 in a boxing ring, and let your black/brown son moer the whitie..
>>>>yes & lets see if the white son will take out a gun! tl tl tl tl tl

mjj
28 Apr 2009 11:44

Cande and myname.....u mustn't be violent........just use my tactics.......you won't strain a muscle......lol

Msoe
28 Apr 2009 13:10

Racism is still happening ma bloggers and it makes me sick aspecially when Indians and coloureds are doing it. Mina i just tell the indians that they think they better just because they have relaxed hair and so good at being backstabbers and kissing white's asses that they think they are superior. As for coloured I dont have no words they should just stop putting sta soft in their hair period.

cleve
28 Apr 2009 13:13

Msoe don't even start with (some) Indians.... I can see it at work the ones that are here are impossible to work with.

I

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:02

@ SB, Just confront the father and tell him exactly what you think of him, and make sure that everyone in the complex is fully aware of his derogatory or rather racial remarks!!

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:03

eish my bad....meant BS!

belz
28 Apr 2009 12:05

LOL!!! Punsiher, yes she must type a letter and make copies and put her under the doors for all to see.

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:08

i so wish that our gorvenment can do something and the problem is that people don't talk much about these racism issues,we should talk about this on daily basis,i mean on the academic level, in the media,in the streets-so we dont forget that it certainly is a reality that apartheid in south africa is nowhere near end.......  Thats soo true heartbreaker! 

nna i'd  make sure that I give the idiot a piece of my mind there and then!

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 14:37

As for coloured I dont have no words they should just stop putting sta soft in their hair period.

LMAO
Haai bo Msoe... are u sure u not a racist yourself?? LOL 

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 12:13

So I asked him "why?"
He said "Coz when I was playing with him and my friends, Mika's father said brown or black people are not allowed at his house." 

Thank u BS...i can relate to this:
Mina my neighbour is an Indian family...they so are racists and um sure they still refer to us as "K". My daughter and theirs used to play together (throwing the ball at each other over the fence) until my neighbour put their fence up to avoid the play. When their daughter called my daughter to come out and play the father shouted, i could hear that he was raving mad. 

It's one thing being undermined by Whites, Indians they just pisses me off. 
I mean really now... they not any different from me.

 

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 12:16

Lets say this happened to me? I would go to Tembisa to buy some cow/goat/sheep insides.....cook them, add some laxatives to the mixture and give them to Mika.........so he can tell daddy dearest that i poison him........ or better........i would pour boiling water to their "cat".......most people who stay in complexes love cats (GOD knows why)....remember this is me not you.......we have a certain way dealing with venting our anger guys...mine might be extreme....... rotflmao! ya MJJ you really cracked me up

Cande
28 Apr 2009 12:18

I still say you must put the 2 in a boxing ring, and let your black/brown son moer the whitie..

belz
28 Apr 2009 12:18

LOL Tazzy, and some are blacker than you.

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 14:56

has Mika been to your house BS?? I was going to moer him everytime he goes to my house. or make your son moer him. CTFU @ Cande

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 12:21

LMAO...my point exactly...Belzzz

Onkez
28 Apr 2009 12:24

How will talking about racism help?I doubt that you just wake up one morning a racist but rather its from years of influence from your external enviroment.Funny thing is I've yet to meet a black radical racist,maybe our parents had much better things to worry about than trash a certain race.I'd like to encourage the new parents to mimic our own parents in that sense,no point in planting hatred in our kids.

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 15:01

haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa true dat Belz! I really don't like Kulis and I'd make sure that i moer the ish out of them should they come with their gibberish and they are the biggest cowards on planet

Onkez
28 Apr 2009 12:26

Hayi bo Cande...why the violent remedy?

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 15:05

Msoe don't even start with (some) Indians.... I can see it at work the ones that are here are impossible to work with. .... @ Cleve, give them that "I'll sort you out after work look" trust me they'll never mess with you again

ms.tebby
28 Apr 2009 12:38

Reply from: Cande 4/28/2009 6:18:12 PM

I still say you must put the 2 in a boxing ring, and let your black/brown son moer the whitie..
>>>>yes & lets see if the white son will take out a gun! tl tl tl tl tl

cleve
28 Apr 2009 15:12

@ Cleve, give them that "I'll sort you out after work look" trust me they'll never mess with you again

@ The Punisher
, kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa!!!!!

Msoe
28 Apr 2009 15:13

Tazzy I am racist a little bit towards Indians I live in Durban and that means I bump into them a lot. I went to school with them, at the unirvesity they were there, my previous job they were there. I thank the Lord everyday that now I work where there are no Indians. Im sorry but those people are just too much. Not all of them i presume but I havent met even one that is better than the other.

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 15:22

Hey Msoe...i know exactly what u mean!! 
I for one cant stand them, they are so impossible to work with!!
Be warned: They will always( i mean always) stab u in the back. 

One and Only
28 Apr 2009 15:24

I honestly do not see what's the issue and the fuss is all about here, we live in a democratic country and everybody has the right to say who and who is not allowed in his/her home.

Clearly this father has preferences and he's made it clear that his son can play with yours outside but brown/black kids are not allowed in his house unless if your child is white. The fact that you are allowing his son to come into your house doesn't mean that he should also reciprocate.

Why do we blacks always complain, cry foul and say it's racism when other races reject us? We think that our kids are smart when having white/ coloured or indian friends! We think we have arrived if we live in their neighbourhood. We hold them high up there and they not doing the same.

What happened to your kid is always happening in the townships, parents will not allow their kids to play with so and so kids due to certain reasons and we always accept it without making a hullabaloo and shouting racism.

Msoe
28 Apr 2009 13:10

Racism is still happening ma bloggers and it makes me sick aspecially when Indians and coloureds are doing it. Mina i just tell the indians that they think they better just because they have relaxed hair and so good at being backstabbers and kissing white's asses that they think they are superior. As for coloured I dont have no words they should just stop putting sta soft in their hair period.

cleve
28 Apr 2009 13:13

Msoe don't even start with (some) Indians.... I can see it at work the ones that are here are impossible to work with.

I

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 14:37

As for coloured I dont have no words they should just stop putting sta soft in their hair period.

LMAO
Haai bo Msoe... are u sure u not a racist yourself?? LOL 

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 14:56

has Mika been to your house BS?? I was going to moer him everytime he goes to my house. or make your son moer him. CTFU @ Cande

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 15:01

haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa true dat Belz! I really don't like Kulis and I'd make sure that i moer the ish out of them should they come with their gibberish and they are the biggest cowards on planet

The Punisher
28 Apr 2009 15:05

Msoe don't even start with (some) Indians.... I can see it at work the ones that are here are impossible to work with. .... @ Cleve, give them that "I'll sort you out after work look" trust me they'll never mess with you again

cleve
28 Apr 2009 15:12

@ Cleve, give them that "I'll sort you out after work look" trust me they'll never mess with you again

@ The Punisher
, kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa!!!!!

Msoe
28 Apr 2009 15:13

Tazzy I am racist a little bit towards Indians I live in Durban and that means I bump into them a lot. I went to school with them, at the unirvesity they were there, my previous job they were there. I thank the Lord everyday that now I work where there are no Indians. Im sorry but those people are just too much. Not all of them i presume but I havent met even one that is better than the other.

TerryN
28 Apr 2009 15:22

Hey Msoe...i know exactly what u mean!! 
I for one cant stand them, they are so impossible to work with!!
Be warned: They will always( i mean always) stab u in the back. 

One and Only
28 Apr 2009 15:24

I honestly do not see what's the issue and the fuss is all about here, we live in a democratic country and everybody has the right to say who and who is not allowed in his/her home.

Clearly this father has preferences and he's made it clear that his son can play with yours outside but brown/black kids are not allowed in his house unless if your child is white. The fact that you are allowing his son to come into your house doesn't mean that he should also reciprocate.

Why do we blacks always complain, cry foul and say it's racism when other races reject us? We think that our kids are smart when having white/ coloured or indian friends! We think we have arrived if we live in their neighbourhood. We hold them high up there and they not doing the same.

What happened to your kid is always happening in the townships, parents will not allow their kids to play with so and so kids due to certain reasons and we always accept it without making a hullabaloo and shouting racism.

blueroze
28 Apr 2009 15:31

yena yedwa man
ke go itse o le so.....,..different

Cande
28 Apr 2009 15:33

LOL

Onkez
28 Apr 2009 15:33

One & Only,do you have children?

Zubekho
28 Apr 2009 15:35

Lol  @ yena yedwa

Pooky
28 Apr 2009 15:43

ahahahahahah...i love u 1&O

cleve
28 Apr 2009 15:43

Clearly this father has preferences and he's made it clear that his son can play with yours outside but brown/black kids are not allowed in his house unless if your child is white. The fact that you are allowing his son to come into your house doesn't mean that he should also reciprocate.

Yena yedwa,
I understand we all have preferences. I have preferences and I won't let force them on my child. There is somehting seriously wrong with that preference, a child was hurt. How would he like it if BS did something like that to his child. No one wants their child to be hurt by anything. What is the father teaching his child? It's just wrong and there is no way of justifing it. And he must remember that kids sometimes pay for parents sins................

We hold them high up there and they not doing the same. 
This we do a lot and it hurts me as blacks. We master their languuge and they don't even bother to learn ours. There's so many things that we do to make these people look down on us. BS maybe if this kid was black would you allow them to come in without greeting you in your own house?

Sana Lwam
28 Apr 2009 15:44

ugmm ugmm ***clearing my throat*** @ One and Only?

uTa' ka Mika has every right to say who is allowed or not allowed at his house, but to specifically say black/brown is just blatant racism. How do you explain to explain to a 7 year old? The boy will now think that because he is black/brown he is inferior becoz his other friends are white and they are allowed to play there at Mika's house.

Kids of that age do see beyond racial lines and it is us parents that enforce this bullsh!t on them. It is the same thing as saying your child must not play with an albino. Or telling your child not to play with mam'Sbongile's child becoz she is HIV+.

People we already live in a cruel society let us not poison our children as well.




Vesa
28 Apr 2009 15:48

We think we have arrived if we live in their neighbourhood. 

It's very funny how you see it as their neighbourhood and yet you say we live in a democratic country

Sana Lwam
28 Apr 2009 15:48

meant to say " do not see beyond racial lines..."

Msoe
28 Apr 2009 15:50

1&only what is racism? I think maybe you dont know wat it means. We cry racism when whites and indians are discriminating us because of the colour of our skin. That man called Brown Shuga's kid brown/black skin that is racism. That tells me BS's kid is not allowed in his house because he's black period, not because he is dirty, irritating or his parents dont have money like he has. So please this explanation of yours doesnt make sense to me.

cleve
28 Apr 2009 15:52


It's very funny how you see it as their neighbourhood and yet you say we live in a democratic country

didn't see it that way!

One and Only
28 Apr 2009 15:55

It is difficult to prove racism if not impossible because if you can ask this guy he will tell you valid reasons for not allowing black in his house the same reasons you have for not liking Indians.

The other races don't care and don't even know if we exist but we're always following them around for the reasons unknown only to myself. At work they don't greet even if they find you in the office and who would greet them you black person.

On the lift, corridors they would just put that fake smirk on their face and you would genuinely smile, greet them and even ask how they doing, do they care I don't think so. Do not expect affectionate to everyone that you show affection to.

If you can look all other races have the same attitude towards blacks, you move into their neighbourhood they move to another suburb because you will devalue their property value. The only time that they accept us as human being is when they are beyond poor but still they won't move to the township.

mathata
28 Apr 2009 15:55

@one n only .....i think you have a point there.

o batlang malapeng...........?

cleve
28 Apr 2009 16:01

, @ One and Only....

Why did you come so late?? For once there I agree with you but can still argue your points.

Sana Lwam
28 Apr 2009 16:15

Point is some white people still feel superior aand for them to make black/brown people feel inferior is where the whole racism thing comes up again.

Coming at the workplace, here at work just before elections this white woman went to the cleaning ladies and told them not to vote for "these black parties" becoz they are corrupt. Now what is that parent teaching her child in the house the same thing that you should play with these "black/brown" kids.

During that whole xenophobia spree,another white kid told a fellow black kid that Daddy told him that it is fine becoz "their are killing each other". And the black kid wanted to find out from his Mommy if it is fine for blacks to kill other blacks.

Again who is corrupting these young minds? Ngo- ta' ka Mika!!!

belz
28 Apr 2009 16:23

Ewe this taMika should be solved.

myname
28 Apr 2009 16:27

I think i should write a poem about 1 & Only. You always amaze me with ur replies. Uphuma wedwa bro & u stand 4 what u believe in, no matter what.

mathata
28 Apr 2009 16:32

if someone doesnt like you ...stay away from them period!!!

you cant change how someone feels about you.sometimes it takes time for other people to learn from others.

my neighbours are millioners they have child.n they play with expensive toys,most of the time the used to call my child.

Guess what........even today my child doesnt play outside with them.you know why?i want her to be a leader NOT a follower

But if allow her to go to that family.......i know one day words will come out.

best thing is to stay away.

LM
28 Apr 2009 16:35

he he he he he,thatha Mathata!

myname
28 Apr 2009 16:36

Thats why if i was BS, I would kick his little reddish ass out of my house too like his cruel daddy. The old man abused this kid so i will definately do the same to his son......How nice is that?

Ive heard some scandals about Indians but im still lucky, they dont survive in my department LOL (im joking)....We dont have Indians in my company. We are black & white but boy if they r pretending then they r SUPER good. They dont treat us different. We even share our scaftina & we eat together if some1 is hungry & ukucelile.

Guys bye bye

mathata
28 Apr 2009 16:48

@myname,if you want to be successful in life,surround yourself with people like  One n only

tough love,
you like it or not,

if people say good things about you always...m m m,something is wrong.

but if you have someone who can tell you..girlfriend this is B***s ,honey you wll never never go wrong in life.

i like her opinions,shis not always right but you learn a lot from her,

not  some dom ass will tell you what you want to hear.

infact life is giving taker.

mathata
28 Apr 2009 17:02

i dont think we must write just for Bs to feel good...thats the way it is.

her child need to know that the is some kind of this issues in life,you cant let your child to have faith in Human beings.

they are like animals  sometimes,you cant change them,But you can know how to deal with them.

black ppl we have history of( steals)white ppl for molesting kids,so that means we cant trust each other.

Cande
28 Apr 2009 17:11

hahahhaha Mathat ke go gopotse tu. ke kopa o mfounele. let me go home

Vida
28 Apr 2009 17:12

"As for coloured I dont have no words they should just stop putting sta soft in their hair period."

He madoda...hayibo!! 

mathata
28 Apr 2009 17:14

@cande i will be in Sa on friday,let me eat i will call you.

Green.arrow
28 Apr 2009 17:20

....i was wondering gore were is One and Only.....i knu trhis wud happne...
One and Only...gotta hand it to ya...you good at holding up an argument..,........aaaand u r ryt.......mara mfe2, Mika's dad was being racist preiod.

i'd hate to live in a wolrd were we accpet racism and not speak out about it....
its bcos people spoke out that there is no apartheid and seggregation anymore...rasism may still be here...but atleats...we are free to be...
"freedoom its the abolity to wake up knowing that u can do whatever you like with your life and go weherever"......oprah quoted.

and even in the democratic world we live in....it wouild be very a very cold place 4 those of us wuth conciences to just keep quite about racism.........i dont have the guts nor the heart to just take it...it hurts when done to me and to my people.....

And regarding indians and coloured......i must say i have only heard about theior racism...
At work...blacks, coulerds and indians, we are all the minority so we stick together...they even learn our languages so that we can let off steam about bo Meneer Van der sumthing without them hearing.........its painfull...maybe i'll get used to it with time and i'll be cold about it too.

And the hard thing One and Only is watching our affirmative action placement black people divisiojn managers sucking up to the technicians and plant sups (who are below them by positions).....that makes me ssooo angry omw!

mathata
28 Apr 2009 17:26

sta soft im nearly dead!!!!

Katlegom
28 Apr 2009 17:28

hew! Im late for blogging today!

that was a very unpleasant xperince right there for you ousie! it is so unfortunate that racism will never end in SA. i tell you gore 1 in 10 people you know xpirence racism in their everyday day life.

Im not sure if Im the only person who feel that indians are equally racists like this whites.

Katlegom
28 Apr 2009 17:37

I've xperinced racists commets on 2 occasions in my life and it was from indian co-wokers. when i flipped on the two occasions they just pretend they are joking with me( they say Im over sensetive) quite frankly yes Im very sensitive when coming to anything to do with race.

the other day at work this white guy was telling us of the smash and grab he witnessed that morning, out of the blue this indian chick asked a very stupid question that made me flip, she said "were they black?"

What the f...?????

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 17:46

Thanks for all your comments comrades.

@ One & Only:

You make such interesting comments...too bad they are way off the mark in my case coz you completely misunderstood what I was on about. Thanks for your contribution anyway...

@ Mathata: *sigh*
Hi Mathata, please call me when you get to SA coz I wanna see you too :-)

mathata
28 Apr 2009 17:55

i dont mind if we  meet in pretoria,i dont drive outside pretoria .

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 18:07

Mathata you are such a Diva shem lol. Please ask Cande for my number when you speak to her!

Katlegom
28 Apr 2009 18:11

Off i go now, i hope i wont meet some racist someone when i get to mimmos now for 2 drinks with a friend

Im out!

Mambox
28 Apr 2009 18:30

LOL Mika sounds like a cartoon character! k let me read...

sponono
28 Apr 2009 19:48

Eish Sorry Miss Brown
one blogger says  you cant let your child to have faith in Human beings. ....Now that I dont agree with..you can make your child aware of certain issues in life..once they are older and can grasp such complex subjects, but you cant determine how  they should respond to such issues..if they have faith in human beings  thats God's gift..and its their innocennce and you dont have the right to destory..by instilling hatred..and in their life experiences they will decide whom to trust and whom NOt to trust..all you have to do is teach them whats RIGHT..lets not let our own pasts and anger influence our children...Mika's father is wrong and hopefully Mika will look back as an adult and realise that it was wrong..(just like some white people oftentalk about their parents and how they inlfuenced them duirng apartheid)

And its ironic how an article like this has actually exposed how RACISTS SOME OF US BLACKS REALLY ARE..and we are using this article to diss other races like indians and coloureds and what not, and we always do this and get away with it..coz for some reason  some black people dont see a black person as a racist...anyways thats my two cents

sponono
28 Apr 2009 19:54

Mind you I'm not saying that racist incidents DONT happen -i have experineced them myself...but I just think we should rise above those people who are still stuck in the past...e.g  I belive some Indians still have that mentality that in the scheme of things whites are superior and they (Indians) follow..(some of them would even say it...so they still look down on blacks  however  there are some genuinely GOOD indian people and white people and coloured people   who see a person first beofre their skin colour..and I'm happy to have interacted with such....

(and Msoe  Indian hair is not relaxed its just natural...LOL...just kidin)

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 20:09

<<<And its ironic how an article like this has actually exposed how RACISTS SOME OF US BLACKS REALLY ARE>>>
I cringed at some of the comments

mathata
28 Apr 2009 20:20

yes i said so bcs, motho ga a itsiwe e senaga.

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 20:38

Hawu Mathata you don't trust me???? Kwa kwa kwa kwa

mathata
28 Apr 2009 20:52

i love you girl....but i dont trust you.

i dont want to lie just to make you feel good....aa

paris mbau
28 Apr 2009 21:23

BS I am actually blowing steam now- you know what I mean. Not to sound dump but I think some whites will never change. MORE especially the males! I stay with them at res and they pretend to love us, browns/ blacks, and do everything in their power to make us look bad while they continue to pretend to be holier-than-thou. Sorry again BS, ehlisa moya…

Paralyzer
28 Apr 2009 21:41

I take offence about coloureds and sta soft....

One and onl, while this is a free country, not liking someone because of their colour is racist!!!! Finish and klaar.....

thank God the ANC is in power and hopefully BEE will drive mika's dad out of this country for good!!!

paris mbau
28 Apr 2009 21:43

BEE will drive mika's dad out of this country for good!!!    Couldn’t agree more!! lol

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 22:09

@ Paris...I'm all good girl...I calmed down after writing the piece, thanks!!!



<<<thank God the ANC is in power and hopefully BEE will drive mika's dad out of this country for good!!!>>
So why did you vote for COPE????????

paris mbau
28 Apr 2009 22:18

BS thanks for helping my friend Hastings to contibute into SNAPPA. He is loving every sec of it and actaully workning hard at it.

mjj
28 Apr 2009 22:18

I saw Paris's name and i just wanna wave to her.........Eish Chelsea is playing like Zulu Royals......let me watch the game....

paris mbau
28 Apr 2009 22:22

saw Paris's name and i just wanna wave to her.........Eish Chelsea is playing like Zulu Royals......let me watch the game.... thanks I feel loved.lol

Firstdvd
28 Apr 2009 22:29

Hawu mjj :-( but chelsea is playing better than barcelona...

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 22:32

<<<Hawu mjj :-( but chelsea is playing better than barcelona.>>>
Are you sure you're watching the correct game???

@ Paris: You're welcome love...

Firstdvd
28 Apr 2009 22:39

Yep i am...there are a better team on the field..

Paralyzer
28 Apr 2009 22:40

So why did you vote for COPE????????
Because I din't want ANC to have 2/3 majority (that is not good for any democracy!!)

And I meant instead of the DA who wants to remove BEE.

I hope Chelsea goes through next time, but shame no away goals for them...

Firstdvd
28 Apr 2009 22:42

now dat the game is over...lemme see what made this day...just saw one and only footprints here...lol

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 22:43

<<<Yep i am...there are a better team on the field.. >>> You'll have to excuse me Firstdvd...I might have missed some of the action coz my eyes were fixed on Barca's Jersey No. 9!

@ Piz: If I hear that 2/3 thingy one more time.... i'm gonna ...umm...I'm gonna...umm...quit listening to 5FM!

Paralyzer
28 Apr 2009 22:44

just saw one and only footprints here...lol

kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa  kwa kwa kwa

More like skid marks...lol

Paralyzer
28 Apr 2009 22:46

@ Piz: If I hear that 2/3 thingy one more time.... i'm gonna ...umm...I'm gonna...umm...quit listening to 5FM!

warever!!! Lol......it will be your loss sister. Okay and I couldn't vote for uZuma...
But you must not stop listening to 5fm, neh?

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 22:59

<<<But you must not stop listening to 5fm, neh?>>> Mmmhh...I'll think about it...
Maybe I must visit GC on Friday morning....

Firstdvd
28 Apr 2009 23:07

my eyes were fixed on Barca's Jersey No. 9! 
>>>lol I thought as much

More like skid marks...
>>>hey Piz...I'm praying for you...hope shim won't see your comment lol

Brown Shuga
28 Apr 2009 23:24

Triple LOL @ skid marks!!! tl tl tl tl tl

KK 2008
28 Apr 2009 23:37

B, I know it is a bit too late to comment on article but after reading it I have been trying to put myself in your shoes. I have a 5 month old son and one of the things I feel strongly about is the race issues that he will have to deal with when growing up. I grew up in such neighbourhoods too and I think the mistake my parents made was not to prepare me for the world I lived in, In the minds they "protected" me from talking about racism. Can u imagine the shock I got the day some white business man called me a Kaffir on my first job serving my articles? Imagine the pain I felt the day my very mlungu and Indian girlfriends commented that my relationship with a certain white boy could never work because I am black? Yes u need to discuss with Siya what happened and conscientise him of such racist behaviors but above all, I know u do not want to talk to the idziot but that is how u take your power back and PROTECT your son. Tell the other boys parents your experience the next time they come pick Siya and how it affected u and your son. I am sure they will not like their own son to be friends with a child raised with such beliefs. Then confront u ta'Mika. In a very calm manner tell him what your son told you about the comments he made and how it made him feel. Tell him how it made you feel. Allow him to respond and with a lot of dignity tell him you will not accept such comments from him and if they prefer then rather the boys not play with each other.

Set boundaries for Mika in your house. Sit him down with Siya and lay down the rules. Greet when entering the house, knock and wait for response instead of budging in and respect. Make it clear to hear you are either aunty Lelo or Siya's mom and address u and your helper with respect. Failure to do that will result in him not being welcomed in the house and prevented from playing with Siya. Remember Mika's behaviour does rub off somewhat on your son.  PLEASE do talk to the father...not for you but for your son's sake. You will be teaching him to SPEAK OUT and not be a victim

Enough said

Lady D
29 Apr 2009 00:27

KK2008,you have taken words out of my mouth,ke la me leo!!

belz
29 Apr 2009 07:38

BEE will drive mika's dad out of this country for good!!!>>>>>LOL!!!!!! this BEE nayo makes some whites very bitter.  KK, skhokho!!!!! i could learn a thing or two from you, mina nje kuvele kwaduma iviolence kweyami intloko when i read this, i guess im a black racist as Spo has mentioned,lol.

One and Only
29 Apr 2009 08:40

In every country in this world the black men is always a ridicule of other races not because we are not intelligent, we are not rich but because we allow other races to feel superior when amongst ourselves.

The Indians were at one stage discriminated just like the blacks and they fought for their rights and they are now at the same level as Whites. Why are we the only race that all other races discriminate against? Is it not because that we're the culprits and discriminate against each other?

The word kaffir doesn't mean anything to me, call me that name I don't care I wouldn't be offended but due to political influence the word has been given respect just like the word nigger in USA was until the Black Americans decided to do something about it and now it's used positively.

I really don't see the need of sitting your child down and try to explain why other races will act different around him/her, why other races will call him/her kaffir as this will re-assure the superiority of the other races. Your kid need to know that a black men is the best thing ever happen in this planet as other races teach their kids the same.

If BEE was solely implemented to drive some Whites out of the country, it's clearly not working as most of them have found a loophole in it and are now using BEE to get even more richer and on the other side if it succeed we just gonna be like Zim.

Just shut racism out of your mind or you'll see racism in everything that other races do to you. Can anybody tell me why in the name of the devil's red diary book black people do the so call White wedding? For Pete's sake you are black!

belz
29 Apr 2009 12:02

kwakwakwakwakwa Black Wedding!!! kwaaaaaaaaaaaaa. yhu One and Only, kanti kusuke kungathethwa ngelokhwe nah????? hayi icolour yeskin somuntu, LMAO!!!!

KeleFabulous
29 Apr 2009 12:20

Haayi lo o hamba yedwa you crack me up. thanks so much for the laugh

Vida
29 Apr 2009 15:08

"kanti kusuke kungathethwa ngelokhwe nah????? hayi icolour yeskin somuntu"

LOL

mathata
29 Apr 2009 15:24

Mika's ears they are itching like hell.

haaaaaa.

ms.tebby
29 Apr 2009 15:31

LOLOLOL mathata...lesa go ntshegisa, o buile jaaka motswana tota!

mathata
29 Apr 2009 16:16

ee tlhe nnake...ditsebe tsona...d i a ikutlwela.

ga ba mo inele matsogo ka mo metsing.

xobho
29 Apr 2009 16:30

Unfortunately there are those yellow people that will always treat us as brown people. There is nothing we can do about that. God created us like that. All i can advice is that you can not correct bad with bad. By the way, if you chase mika away what will your child think? Welcome mika in your house and let him play with your child. His father must learn from a brown person that you can correct a wrong behaviour with another wrong.

xobho
29 Apr 2009 16:30

Unfortunately there are those yellow people that will always treat us as brown people. There is nothing we can do about that. God created us like that. All i can advice is that you can not correct bad with bad. By the way, if you chase mika away what will your child think? Welcome mika in your house and let him play with your child. His father must learn from a brown person that you can correct a wrong behaviour with another wrong.

belz
29 Apr 2009 16:38

LOL xobho's yellow persons.

xobho
29 Apr 2009 16:43

If they call us brown then they are yellow, or kanjan??

cleve
29 Apr 2009 16:44

Talking about "yellow" people just having a never ending story with one Indian guy. it's really getting tired. And they are not all like that because one of them even offered me a job in his department as he can see the torture that I'm going throuhg with his peeps.

belz
29 Apr 2009 16:52

shem cleve, some of them are actually nice and hot, like the tellers at FNB.

cleve
29 Apr 2009 17:03

like the tellers at FNB.

@ belz,
I know the hot ones!!!!

Joe
02 May 2009 13:04

Sorry BS about this...for once i'm dumbfounded, i don't know what to say. I always know that some whites are racist, but i never expect them to be this explicit about it, esp. to kids. How can he teach his kid such rubbish?! Nxa!!

Well, if i were you, i'd move out of that complex and stay ekasi, where your son will not be exposed to such ish! LOL, just kidding! I hope I'm not being insensitive!

VusiK
20 Jun 2009 11:38

Mika is innocent also. He had no prejudice prior to this. Have Mika keep coming over to play. Eventually, he'll return to being colour blind. Keep your child away from the adult racists across the road. They will not change.


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