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AGE AIN'T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER IN RELATIONSHIPS

Written by Venusseed from the blog Age Ain't Nothing on 18 Dec 2009
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Echoing the late Aaliyah’s song in my head I think of all these relationships with an age gap huge enough for the couples to become parent and child: Demi Moore and Ashton Kucher; Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake; Madonna and Jesus Luz; Khanyi and Mandla to name a few. Oh R Kelly and Aaliyah



I personally think sex between people who are so far older or younger than each other is perverted. The gap I am talking about is if it is over 20 year’s difference. It depends at what ages are the couples. Like for instance, if they are both adults it sort of works out.

Have you dated someone who is another generation or decade older or younger than you? What do you get to talk about? My opinion about anyone who dates a very younger person is that their mental and emotional capacity is somewhat stunted or they like control over their partners. Like for real (may I not be charged), what did Mandla and Khanyi talk about? Parties; shopping and petrol? I do not mean to use this example but it is just perfect for my illustration. The apparent abuse on the young woman highlights my point of control over the other.

I am old enough now to have been a mother to a 15 year old boy. Ok it is not too bad if he is 20 and I am 35 years old because we would both be adults but hey my younger brother is 8 years younger than me and I do not see myself doing anyone his age. I would be disturbed if a friend or uncle of mine who is over 40 introduces a 20 year old as his girlfriend.

Do you think there is nothing wrong? Does the relationship go on forever or the older one grows even older? I have been with someone 18 years older than me before. He looked hot especially in casual clothes but it was weird to find him at a club though I met him at hang out. Well do not ask me about the sex all I can say is he was a freak with hunger of a 21 year old.

Please share your age difference relationship stories……



11 Comments

machinjiri
18 Dec 2009 19:05

Me I have never been in that kind of situation but am a mother of two boys , the only problem I have is dating a boy who daznt have kids, in that kind of relationship am alwez not comfortable, cos I dnt knw what kind of convos we r gonna have or if I see him wth a gal who daznt have a kid, how am I going to ask him about such things am so insecure when it comes to dating boys that I cant even bring myself to fight with about his involvement with a gal

Venusseed
18 Dec 2009 20:44

Well Machinjiri, I suppose it boils down to why do you get into a relationship. Is it to belong, to be love, security, companionship or in your case, are you looking for a father for your two boys. I personally feel relationships are selfish and as long as you are happy(not forgetting your sons) then all is good. Just like machines, we need to be serviced.

machinjiri
18 Dec 2009 21:54

No am not looking for the father of my boys cos I made peace along time ago withthe fact that am a single mother but like u said I need to be serviced and my friends alwez tell me that I need that but like I said insecurities swts or low self esteem or not suer about myself LMBAO

Venusseed
18 Dec 2009 22:43

I just realized I posted this article twice. LOL!!! Anyway, its good you made peace. My advice: Do it for fun(sex, sex,sex and other things), the rest will follow. If you will be nursing making an intellectual or emotional connection with a guy, he will be that and you will see him with a younger or childless girl. Having kids makes you more woman to a young girl. Not that I am saying not having a child makes one less a woman. I don't have any kids and believe I did I would have meaningful relationships. I have a meaningful relationship but I believe having a human being depending on you makes you dependable. Just do not forget that you are still a separate being from your kids. There are other things to talk about in relationships. Career, dreams, aspirations? You have fulfilled what God has ordained you to do. You brought into this world two precious beings. Being a mother should never be the end of good sex and orgasms. Oh and chatting on the phone all night. You should not feel guilty. You love your kids, that matters. Have fun girl. You are a woman and that is what makes you beautiful. You have boobs, curves, soft skin and all the things that men don't have and can't resist. The second woman looks at you and wishes: "I wish I had her eyes, her bum shape, her smile, etc. You are who you think you are. So change your thinking about yourself and listen to Tony Braxton's song: FIND ME A MAN. There's a line in the song : "Cos I'm too beautiful, Got find me that special one!"

Venusseed
18 Dec 2009 22:43

Geez, that was long.

machinjiri
18 Dec 2009 22:59

@ venusseed

thanx a million times gal, this guy also told me that bng a mother made me a woman butt he's a father also and he is so so so sweeet, caring and we do chart the whole nite on the phone (smses) he is just gr8 thanx again gal, and just this sunday he tol dme to be happy about my body cos am a big gal av got that african trade mark (ATM). i'll look for that song and hopefully will enjoy listening to it. Once again thanx gal am a changed person from today

Venusseed
18 Dec 2009 23:43

Stay beautiful, inside and out

machinjiri
18 Dec 2009 23:47

Hallellujah (in Madeas tone)

Toodecent
02 Feb 2010 13:06

Update tu? LOL

honey147
04 Feb 2010 18:50

sorry to bring it back ..into emnandi eyaphindwa....
@Papa Ch.... wa ho rata neh..........LOL...

bu I've done one older he was 15 years older and he was very boring..he tried to catch up though..and he was so smittin..he gave me whatever i wanted ..and I exploited him..vele..but sex..was so boring i felt like jumping over the balcony afterwards..and it didnt last...he used sensodyne"u know that toothpaste for sensetive teeth",it irritated the *bleep!* outta me ...left him too soon for that ..

and i dated one who was 19 years old..my gosh..he was too cute..I used to make himbooty-hop for me...but was so clingyyyyy..I literally had to to be tipsy to tolerate him//he was so excited by everything I did.."i was his former trainer ..and i got him a job..so he was living his fantacy..u kno..teacher's lover..shame but i have to break it off and he was starting to complain..about how "i only sleep with him when I'm drunk"..LOL

Lollymolly
04 Feb 2010 20:46

"Just like machines, we need to be serviced." Too TRUE!I have girlfriends who preach they can go without sex(that is the biggest load of shit)untill u hav gotten it gud enuf,u'll NEVER understand how essential it is. Back to the topic:I'v never dated anyone horifically older than me,but frnds of mine have and I'v heard the benefits are great,u just hav 2endure a mediocre sex life&a a possesiveness from the partner that eventually makes the benefits nothing in comparison with what you have to put up with in return!


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