im not in a rush to sleep to with u because u r mine forever

Written by ratogal from the blog is it bad luck or bad choice? on 18 Mar 2011
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it all began 2OO8 when my eyes met with this handsome guy,i knew then he was mine.2009 early Jan I met this guy again we talked and we started dating,we dated for almost 2yrs during mojolo brother didnt have sexual intercorse lenna,all he used to say in the begging was I AM NOT IN A RUSH TO SLEEP WITH YOU BCOS U ARE MINEa FOR EVER!!At 1st was happy until afta 20mnths he told me he got sum chick pregnant nagana tlhe afta I waited that long! fine I cried broke up wit him n moved on.2010 dec met anada cute guy iyo ke morata rati! guess what he got sum chick pregnant n im left all alone n crying! I ask myself if Im making bad choices or ke bad luck,should I give ka mojolo or yang bathong??

19 Comments

honey147
19 Mar 2011 01:52

I'm first here...okay
babes,I dnt thnk its bad luck..batho bao baa go thusa..U'll meet a guy..who will love you unconditionally and wont cheat on you..i just hope you were using protection though..ppl out there are prmiscous...anddnt worry it happens to the best of us...

Green.arrow
19 Mar 2011 08:33

Aww, askies for the heartache u endured dear. I dont think i can say it better than honey147 has said it. Ul be alryt...i recommend a song I hope u dance by Gladys night....when in doubt,sing it and dance.

swazzy
19 Mar 2011 20:42

just take time before you get into another relationship. n please dont blame urself o think o na le senyama no no dear its just those bastards who didnt know what they want. unfortunately majority of men cheat , its just those dumb ones who decide to have sex with without a condom.sometimes woman just cry ova men reali even though it hurts but you know the very same guy wil cheat on you ul dump them following day he'l b with da one he's been cheating with. you, heart broken and depressed. you know if only men were that simple to understand. maan its lyk dey cum from da same hole. darlin o tlo ba sharp . hang in der!!!

Weiss
20 Mar 2011 00:47

OMG! swazzy! Its lyk they cum from the same hole!! Interesting choice of words, there...

Toodecent
20 Mar 2011 12:00

Plain simple,you didnt give it up so they got it somewhere else was good and they planted seeds.

Guava4
20 Mar 2011 20:15

Happiness wil come u way b patient,some gals trap men with with kids andthey dont realise

VusiK
20 Mar 2011 22:38

It's your fault ... You made a decision for you ... He made a decision for him. You thought yu were making a a decision for "You both" ... You were wrong ... His needs and yours were not on the same plane. It does not mean your decision was wrong, it just means that your decision was wrong for his needs. No need to feel sorry for yourself, being adult means you must account for YOUr decisions, period ... Not his, :- that is his responsibilty, he'll have to account for his actions. Feeling sorry for this will only help you question your judgement in the future. Think about is as follows:- If you were hot for a man and he refused you sex when you want/need it for two years ... what would you think and what would you do ... If yo are truly honest ... You'd respond that you'd go out and get laid and damn the consequence. Well guess what ...... That's what he did. Life is brutal, deal with it!

VusiK
20 Mar 2011 22:40

I know that I'd be getting laid elsewhere ...

ratogal
21 Mar 2011 03:09

What happened to being faithfull @Vusik,1 cannot go and sleep around,ppl have moral values,if she had gone n got laid somewhere u could have said she is a bitch etc

VusiK
21 Mar 2011 21:54

I found that people misunderstand the difference between being faithful (Believing in a relationship) and fidelity (being true to a relationship). Infidelity is a violation of certain tenets that define the relationship, being unfaithful is the result of the end of belief in the relationship. In reality, One can go about sleeping with whomever they wish, it is a matter of choice. In this particular case, It is my opinion that one party was probably unreasonable in expecting that her expectations regarding her faith in her partner would result in his upholding his fidelity in the union. She miscalculated this because it was HER OPINION that this was the right thing for her, and consequently the right thing for him, projecting that it was the right thing from both of them .... SHE WAS WRONG ... based on the reality that he did not subscribe to her opinion... hence there's Miss B over there and him are going to be parents. Does this make it right? No! He is an Ass and a coward for not honouring his word (if the agreement exists on both parts). If he did not agree ... then he is within his rights to pursue any other fluffy pillow tickles his fancy. It goes down to the simple reality that one cannot project their opinions (subjectively ... beliefs) on any other person and not accept responsibility for any result coming therefrom ... be that result a good one or a bad one. C'MON Let's be adults for a second and admit it to ourselves .... LOVE RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT SURVIVE VERY WELL IN THE ABSENCE OF SEX!!! ,,, believing otherwise is to me absolutely delusional!!!!

VusiK
21 Mar 2011 21:58

But truthfully speaking ... the sista should have known from his ... forever statement that he was getting laid elsewhere .... NO MAN IS GOING TO GO 2 YEARS WITHOUT GETTING SOME SOMEWHERE, PERIOD!!! Your man telling you that ... He's burping because Ms Thing is giving him a double helping with Sprinkles... I refuse to believe that this sister is that naive ... nobody is!!! I am sorry for her because he is a plain liar, a cheat, and a reprobate, but honestly now .... Let's get real .... She should have been out getting laid herself instead of sitting around waiting for Dick to decide!!! As we know from her and incumbent Little Dick ... Dick's Been Busy.

VusiK
21 Mar 2011 22:15

Sis Wami Blackbeauty ... The man you fell in Love with is a CAD, period. There is no point in feeling sorry for yourself It is probably his loss here! Go on and cry until you don't have any more tears ... truth is, it is better that he is out of your life than you go through this after years of marriage and children. We all make mistakes in judging people. Men also get burnt, just like you got burnt, however, there are plenty of very good people with good intentions and I hope you find someone who is going to be perfect for you. In the meantime Sisi LIVE, Love happens when it happens, but life goes on. You will run into liars, cheats, perverts, Jerks, and worse in your journey ... as long as you create some room for a small margin of error and miscalculation in your life, you will be equipped to take the shock should you need it. It is my opinon that you are not a bad judge of character, you made decisions based on the information you were given, the result is flawed information generally renders flawed results. In this case, the fault / flaw is his, not yours. Don't kick yourself in the behind for this Jerk!

Green.arrow
21 Mar 2011 22:48

@VusiK, how ur views were missed in your abscence! I agree with ur first comment,as well as the follow up comments as u blantly break the first down. #ouch btw, but its the truth. PS, I see u r still an insomniac.

VusiK
22 Mar 2011 11:49

Hey Green.Arrow .. Missed you guys also, I just happen to be sharing your time zone, therefore, I am available ... and yes ... still hardly sleep! You know me ... I tell it like it is ... most people don't like hearing what is real. It is nicer to entertain the fantasy ... simply because it is easier on the soul! Love You guys!!!

tumz
22 Mar 2011 12:11

@ VusiK...just had my aha moment thinking of your contrast of faithfulness and fidelity! i cant believe how ignorant i have been! it makes a lot of sense now! thanks for your input!!

VusiK
22 Mar 2011 12:28

You are welcome Tumz

TheLady
05 May 2011 13:31

engathi ngixakwe yisingisi faithful and fidelity *sigh*

MsKim
05 May 2011 14:00

hey VusiK well said, sounds a bit cold but very true.

VusiK
05 May 2011 16:56

Well Ms. Kim ... Hey!

Where have you been hiding?

Good to see you still around! :-)

@Mylady .... Ahhhh Sooorrryy!

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