DESCRIBE UR EX OR CURRENT PARTNER OR YOURSELF USING SONG TITLES AND GIVE A REASON

Written by Kerrie from the blog Life is Good on 13 Jun 2012
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Chix
14 Jun 2012 09:43

Kerrie... there is no article apha... unless it is mwa who can't view it!!!

ayashah
14 Jun 2012 09:54

kerrie there's nothing chix is ryt

caro
14 Jun 2012 10:04

ohk ...kerrie said describe your ex current partner using song titles and give a rason

maybe kerrie ddnt want it to be long and js wantd to cut to the chase...and it makes sense...ohk leeme say

my ex
f***k wat i say...kwaaa...- m taking back everything i said to him( i love you) lmao
why do i love you- he was a jerk

my 1(hahaha gotta laf first)
we belong together...lol
long distance... he lives in the ada town

mbulela
14 Jun 2012 10:19

I don't have an ex. so got nothing to say.

Kerrie
14 Jun 2012 10:30

Guys, i was just playing with this "create a blog" thingy and i ended putting up yesterday's topic just to see what comes out.

you can just put your topics here and chat instead of putting them on the Gen blog, i can see we like like talking a lot and there are some Gen-lovers who don't like taking part in our conversations and we're disturbing them like a few have already voiced that out.........#just saying#

caro
14 Jun 2012 10:36

OHK MADAM ...CAN WE HEAR YOUR STORY? LOL

Deemo
14 Jun 2012 11:41

i think we can nw talk without disturbn athaz.hw a u all. my ex Song cassanova cos he was so into atha women my current bf soul provider coz he can provide hey has any one heard from sis impondokazi of late.

Kerrie
14 Jun 2012 14:07

hey guys, there was no power this side and the internet was down! feel free to come up with any topic, then we'll discuss it and laugh out loud.........

mangqezu
15 Jun 2012 10:30

Its Father's Day on Sunday.

The general perception is that fatherhood is none existent in black communities however we all know there are some good men out there who play their father roles to the fullest. Lets celebrate them by sharing our happy memories of anyone who's played a fatherly role in your life.

My dad was an absent father he's alive and kicking but chose not to be a part of our lives for whatever reason not that I feel robbed by his actions because my mom was the greatest parent ever .......but my brother bless him he's been the best male role figure for my sisters and I.

I wish him a great Father's Day.

ayashah
15 Jun 2012 10:56

My dad was an absent father he's alive and kicking but chose not to be a part of our lives for whatever reason not that I feel robbed by his actions because my mom was the greatest parent ever .......

same here but i wish him a great n a blessed day

VusiK
15 Jun 2012 11:11

@Ayashah ... Look through Makisto's archive ... he wrote a wonderful tribute to his mother last year.

Perhaps you should read that instead of lamenting the absence of a father.

Kerrie
15 Jun 2012 11:22

Most fathers in black communities run away from their responsibilities but our mothers are always there for us, they assume both roles and their children turn out alright!

Let's just celebrate them, after-all they had a hand in bringing us to the world and to those men who stood by our mother in their times of trials and tribulations, we should celebrate more!

VusiK
15 Jun 2012 11:33

I am going to say this about black fathers being absent .... think about it.

The black family has been systematically destroyed through most recordable history.
The emergent black, being a victim and product of this destructive process ... is not capable of building a family because one needs to come from a family in order to understand what is necessary to make one work and remain together

With technology, time, economic improvements, liberalization of ideas, etc., new pressures assault the black family.

We are responsible for ourselves.

If you never had a dad, there is very little you can do about that, but if you are not going to do that little bit more to ensure that you are a present dad for the child you have, or be have the dad present for the child ... you'd only be repeating the mistakes of history.

Lamenting an absent dad (negatively) is possibly one of the biggest causes that ensures that our children also lament our absence negatively... as we do with out "were not present fathers".

If the relationship cannot work out ... negotiate comfortable space for both parents to access the children ,,,

As I always say ... in break-ups and divorces ... the children always suffer and the lawyers always get paid ...

Break the patterns and rebuild society.

ayashah
15 Jun 2012 11:48

back when i was ta child,b4 life prove all innocense, my father will lift mee higher n dance with him my mother n i...........................
if i xuld get anada chance anada walk anada step with him i will play a song dat will never end coz i love love to dance with my father again

@ vusik thax will look on it..
its hard to grow up without your father especially if you know that he's still alive. dnt anna go there...............

mangqezu
15 Jun 2012 11:56

Couldn't have said it better myself VusiK .

I dont hate or resent my father the truth is I'm not sure if I even feel anything for him. He's just my father ends there nothing more nothing less.

What struck me most abt this topic was an article I read earlier about school kids usually having to make Mother's Day and Father's Day cards but sadly most Father's Day cards are also received by mothers as the fathers are absent and the kids wont have any stories to tell at school come Monday becos there were no Father's Day celebrations at home. Tht that was sad.

MsKim
15 Jun 2012 12:20

hey guys..

thats very true Vusi. hw do we break the pattern things get worse by the day, someone here once said men prefer to form stronger bonds outside of their households & relationships n i think this is the major problem. pple keep looking for the next better/entertainment/fun woman out there even after having kids instead of Really settling down. n also this whole culture/tradition men can have as many women as they want... contributes to no fathers in most households..

myname
15 Jun 2012 13:27

OK here is my short poem or whatever you call it for my late father “RIP Maduna, Nokhala, Gubevu, Tiba siyakulandela, Msuthu into eyawela iTugela ngentambe’sgcawu”

I might not been fortunate to spend ample of time with you
But im grateful to have someone like you
Who gave me love that no one can replace.
There is a reason why we call someone a father,
Thank you for being a noble man with a beautiful soul.

Please dont ask me why i want to turn back the clock and
Go back in time and live my life with him again.
He was/is my day, my night and everything.
I have those days where I think of him and
Those thoughts are only about him.

Sometimes i feel so empty that he is no longer with me
Because i believe things will be different if he was alive.
Sometimes i dream of him all night and i wake up with him on my mind.
Im grateful for the love he showed to me and my family.

He might die 16 years ago but his spirit lives with me.
He is the reason for my smile, my inspiration and daily sunshine.
I love him for who he was, my father, husband, son, brother ….
He is everything I’ll ever need or want and words cannot explain his love.
Thank you for the good memories i am going to share with your grandchildren.
I know how it feels to know that someone loves you.

I will always love you DAD.

Your only daughter,

Njoy
15 Jun 2012 13:41

I think there's another important aspect of this piece that seems to be ignored: WOMEN WHO USE THEIR CHILDREN IN THEIR OWN BATTLES WITH THE FATHER. I hate those wars I just hate them because they affect the kids and deny them the opportunity of knowing their fathers.

caro
15 Jun 2012 14:15

@myname may his lovely soul rest in peace

joh.... i wish i cud say the same thing bout my dad who passed away two weeks back.....shoooo... i wil complete later...its painful.....

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