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Generations Teasers - February 2013

Written by TVSA Team from the blog Generations Teasers on 29 Jan 2013
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A heads-up that Generations will remain airing on SABC2 until the end of the AFCON tournament. It returns to SABC1 on Monday, 11 February 2013.

Coming up ...

Friday 1 February 2013
Episode 28 (3790)

Mawande is furious when she finds out what Akhona did. Choppa's delighted when he's put in charge of a project. The newlyweds are at it again. Is there any hope for their marriage?

Monday 4 February 2013
Episode 29 (3791)

A confidential document ends up in the wrong hands. Jason desperately wants to get his hands on some Ezweni shares. Phenyo's lies finally catch up with him.

Tuesday 5 February 2013
Episode 30 (3792)

Dineo finds solace with a gun in her hand. Sofia tells Robert he no longer has a family. Senzo is shocked by Sello's revelation.

Wednesday 6 February 2013
Episode 31 (3793)

Queen isn't ready to forgive and forget yet. Akhona's forced to do something against her will. The wannabe waitress can't seem to do anything right.

Thursday 7 February 2013
Episode 32 (3794)

Just when Phenyo thinks his relationship is back on track things go wrong again. MJ gives the proxy of his shares away. Noluntu finds out her baby was with the Dlomos.

Friday 8 February 2013
Episode 33 (3795)

Choppa talks his way into trouble. Akhona is shocked to hear what Sello is up to. Senzo's devastated when the Ndlangisas leave with Mnqobi.

Monday 11 February 2013
Episode 34 (3796)

Queen and Robert are in a great mood until they receive bad news. Phenyo realises Dineo's lying to him and decides to follow her. Asanda ignores Shaun's warning and pays a visit to a 'friend'.

Tuesday 12 February 2013
Episode 35 (3797)

Ruby makes a promise to Sylvia ... but can she keep it? Isabel is not impressed that Choppa stole her ideas. Mawande is horrified by Noluntu's revelation.

Wednesday 13 February 2013
Episode 36 (3798)

People are growing suspicious of Akhona's strange behaviour. Queen is mortified when Robert has a sinus attack at Ezweni. MJ's eyes almost pop out of his head when he sees Tsalanang's sexy new look.

Thursday 14 February 2013
Episode 37 (3799)

Senzo begs Noluntu not to give his baby away. Ruby goes weak at the knees over an unexpected poem recital. Dineo is blown away by Phenyo's surprise.

Friday 15 February 2013
Episode 38 (3800)

MJ is confused when Isabel gives him the cold shoulder. Asanda is forced to make a difficult choice. Sello throws out the bait to his next hapless victim.

Monday 18 February 2013
Episode 39 (3801)

Queen gets an email which leaves her hopeful. Choppa tries to hustle money out of a friend. Mawande confesses all.

Tuesday 19 February 2013
Episode 40 (3802)

Dineo admits she lied to her loved ones. MJ is shocked by what happens when he pushes someone too far. Akhona goes snooping at the wrong place at the wrong time …

Wednesday 20 February 2013
Episode 41 (3803)

Babalwa wants to give Mnqobi back to Noluntu. Samantha refuses to believe her life is in danger. Nicholas decides it's time to forget about his ex and move on.

Thursday 21 February 2013
Episode 42 (3804)

Phenyo is livid when he finds out he's been lied to. Choppa decides desperate times call for desperate measures. Sello hits his victims where it hurts.

Friday 22 February 2013
Episode 43 (3805)

Akhona is horrified when she finds out what's really going on at the game farm. Ruby is upset when Dineo comes clean to her. Mawande's infatuation with her grandson doesn't sit well with her children.

Monday 25 February 2013
Episode 44 (3806)

Samantha reels when she realises what she will have to do for a 'client'. Nicholas receives a phone call which leaves him shocked and worried. Senzo is floored by Noluntu's proposal.

Tuesday 26 February 2013
Episode 45 (3807)

Detective Pokane pays a visit to Sello's game farm. Isabel isn't impressed when MJ gatecrashes her dance session. Phenyo's misdeeds come back to haunt him.

Wednesday 27 February 2013
Episode 46 (3808)

Mawande's heart breaks as she says her final goodbye to Mnqobi. Noluntu is only getting started with her revenge ... Asanda believes she might be Akhona's last and only hope.

Generations is on SABC1 Mondays to Fridays at 20h00.

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1129 Comments

just_dee
29 Jan 2013 09:26

First to read

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 09:26

Yepeee I'm No.1

Boni11
29 Jan 2013 09:29

no 3!

Muhle10
29 Jan 2013 09:31

So Noluntu is going to give away her son again this tym to strangers. What a blow for Mawande and Senzo.

steffie
29 Jan 2013 09:31

Top 5

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 09:32

Finally yipeeeeeeeee # 4

MsKim
29 Jan 2013 09:32

yippiiii finally

OlothandoD
29 Jan 2013 09:32

Number 6

Vandimerwe
29 Jan 2013 09:33

steffie
29 Jan 2013 09:36

No sign of Sbusiso really?

Manicure
29 Jan 2013 09:37

ao bathong, how come um number 10, **sad face** i wanted to be the first one, aniway let me go and read.

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 09:39

mmmmmm not bad....little Dinny's becoming a liar nw jst like hubby wuuu i wanda wen is S'bu coming back Wandi confesses all i wonder to wu?

lol Ntaksay o number 1 wako kae hahahaa eish u so desparately wanting to be da 1st n u starting to believe it *dead*

Sana Lwam
29 Jan 2013 09:39

So many names....I can never figure out whats gonna happen from these teasers. I guess I just have to wait for 8PM and watch daily

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 09:39

So many new people.
Sounds interesting, Where is Sbuda

Uyalayeka uPhenyo I wish he could be go to jail with Sello

Akhona is still annoying shame.

BigMama
29 Jan 2013 09:39

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 09:41

@Goldi I look at the time I posted at the exact time as Jus_Dee

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 09:43

Has anyone noticed that Dinny is becoming a shopaholic, maybe that is what she lies about to Phenyo. Buying uncessary staff for her flat that she does not even stay at.

Manicure
29 Jan 2013 09:44

nothing exciting this month!!!!!!!!!!!

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 09:48

Top 20 not bad ke tla reng, Manicure i told u to kip ur otha eye open now u c.
lemme read now

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 09:53

hahahahahahah eish lantshegisa maan

Pastry
29 Jan 2013 09:56

They did update us finally

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 09:59

Nongo askies try again next month hihihihihihihi dd you pass by da Dlomos lst 9t?
@Manicure ma thoughts axactly @ Ntaksay ok i see dat lala u can relax now

makanku
29 Jan 2013 10:01

Guys anisasho!!!!

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 10:02

feb is a bit confusing so many pple coming in there's going 2be drama serious, but this things like adoptions, kidney diseases and anyother stuff i bliev they shud be informative kana jang, i no this is a soapy but a kere they shud bring a msg on our daily lives like when a father has the right to contest adoption coz he did not consent or was pushed to agree to it. update me on this one plis i mean in real life.

Btwa
29 Jan 2013 10:03

i have been waiting, now am number 24 heish

makanku
29 Jan 2013 10:11

oh sori guys. thanx Goldi 4 letting us know

Anothando
29 Jan 2013 10:14

will i ever be number one? i've staring and waiting look where i am

Anothando
29 Jan 2013 10:14

will i ever be number one? i've staring and waiting look where i am

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 10:23

U welcome Makanku darling oskawara ngwana next time ne @ Ano askies walala wasala i agree with u Nongo its like ders no ending dey jst paint a picture after wat's vanishes into thin air mxxm

ust
29 Jan 2013 10:30

No 30

CINDY LAPPA
29 Jan 2013 10:32

juss boring cant blive no sign of sbusiso

CINDY LAPPA
29 Jan 2013 10:32

juss boring cant blive no sign of sbusiso

Mimibob
29 Jan 2013 10:53

Joh! You guys! Top 40!

Kimmi
29 Jan 2013 10:54

Interesting month!

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 10:55

lol Mimibob n u wntd 2 be no 1 eiy san

Lollypop143
29 Jan 2013 11:07

i have been glued to my screen since yday waiting for updates, the moment i get into a meeting ba di uploader. this is unfair.

makanku
29 Jan 2013 11:13

lol lol lol Mimi, jho them guys!!!!

ok, does anybody know what happened 2 RainPrincess????

OlothandoD
29 Jan 2013 11:13

The teasers are so confusing I cant make sense out of them.

No Sbusiso, No Khethiwe, Akhona still annoying

BigMamo
29 Jan 2013 11:18

Are South African soapies only there to potray crime & lies at their best? Cos nothing ever comes or go without it having to do with crime & horrible horrible lies. The same goes for their marriages. They never last. Those that take longer have to go thru traumatic experiences of lies, heartbreak and criminal activities. Or is this some kind of revelation or potrayal that South Africa is in serious where crime, lies &marriages collapsing are concerned, cos storyline writers are South Africans, and they just cannot write about sthing they haven't actually come across or heard about... This is so disturbing & I don't think I'm the only one concerned.

BigMamo
29 Jan 2013 11:19

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 11:20

Senzo is floored by Noluntu's proposal
Mawande's heart breaks as she says her final goodbye to Mnqobi
I wonder if these two statements are related.

mangqezu
29 Jan 2013 11:24

Hi peeps........lemme welcome myself back been such a long absence I missed y'all so much

Haven't watched tv much this month so will just have to rely on ur comments to keep up to date

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 11:40

i guess will jst have to see da action b4 we can understand i dnt see anything confusing mina la *waving* hey mangqezu let me help u by welcoming u back lol

MsKim
29 Jan 2013 11:42

lol @ BigMamo there's only one happy couple; Jason n Senzo. cld possibly mean that only gay couples r happy the rest is a no no. marriages are collapsing for real, all the lies n crime:: thats SA for ya!..

Galie
29 Jan 2013 11:42

top 50 *sad face*

good morning family;hope you all gud today

new faces in gen this months ..where is khethi and ngamla..
we still waiting for Khethi's story ngekhe basishiye phakathi nje..kobone must come back
ooh Akhona eish uyadina nje
MJ gives the proxy of his shares away...to whom?????

MaKhuu
29 Jan 2013 11:48

So many people wll that be interesting

Khethiwe and Sbuda disappeared without a trace for sure they are nt even mentioned for the whole of Feb.

vuxy
29 Jan 2013 11:57

where is sbu and khethiwe pls, i want them back

Deemo
29 Jan 2013 12:01

hey you pple were really waiting for the teasers.so many replies,let me read n comment later.where a my manners.hw a u good pple.

Vandimerwe
29 Jan 2013 12:04

by the time Khethi comes back, she will be broke

Xolisalife
29 Jan 2013 12:06

Rhaaa ndiancama i'll neva be #1. Haini bantu! Uphi uKhethiwe? Hai andithandi kaloku ngo Ms buthelezi. I dnt gv a dan bout sbu. Interesting WoW!

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 12:10

Don't worry you'll see Kethi when finishes the wine Dinny gave her, we'll see her when she goes and and asks for more

Dipalzo
29 Jan 2013 12:14

ag why are they taking the baby away i dont like gen like srsly the baby should stay

mahumani
29 Jan 2013 12:14

New faces on generation it's confusing I wish we are not going to be confused.

semtho
29 Jan 2013 12:25

Feb is boring, Akhona yena uyabhora.

yoyozz
29 Jan 2013 12:27

heheheheh ntaksay andakuhleka number 1 ey myb ithathe iskhathi i loader eyakho but isikhathi sinye

boring boring boring isikhetshi lesi habeeeeeeeeeeee safa ngu phenyo nalendoda igulayo, akhona nalentombi izibethisayo rhaaaa whr is the real story no marn

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 12:36

u'll c Khethiwe wen Khuboni comes back 4 his money whc he said he'll be back after 6months so lona le batla go bona di characters tse 1? Camman

ust
29 Jan 2013 12:40

Queen le Rob la bora.Akhona I wish tht u cn find the real killers.noluntu man,ele gore o ixa ngwano kae?I was touched wen mawande gave him the prent the ada day.

Pastry
29 Jan 2013 12:56

I would also be angry if i find out that my mother and the dlomos lied and schemed behind my bk about my baby. I support Luntu in taking the baby away from them

Original
29 Jan 2013 12:56

Noluntu how can you be so cruel leave the baby with the dlomos its not like you love the child mos. Shame on you Mawande.

Bk212303
29 Jan 2013 13:05

I THOUGHT AS MUCH NO61 NO NO NO FAMILY WHAT IS THIS

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 13:08

askies lala @ BK aku lalwa la ekhaya *hug* hahahaha

duckie
29 Jan 2013 13:16

top 100:(

MaKhuu
29 Jan 2013 13:20

l miss Zodwa hope she will come during semester breaks kkkk

moopa
29 Jan 2013 14:11

Sello part must finish re utlwile ke yena shem

Friend
29 Jan 2013 14:26

Good day family, I'm new, pls welcome me. Sello can't act, he gets into my nerves just like that bItch Sophia. Loving Queen and her ancestor Rob...

Woman of God
29 Jan 2013 14:28

no 66 lmao

hi guys its Ayasha, my syssten didn't wanna log me in today , and it couldn't recognise my username ag..... then i was forced to re-register wit a different usrname but you guys can welcome me again lmao

le me go read

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 14:34

Welcome Friend and Aya aka Woman of God

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 14:35

Hey Friend long time u gud? welcome Aya ohhh shoot Woman of God tltltltltltlt tnx 4 letting us knw tho

i also love Queen n her Robby tlhe *deathby ancestor Rob, bathong Kerrie okae dese days?

Friend
29 Jan 2013 14:36

Thx Ntakssy, feeling at home but hungry, you guys don't offer new family members drinks.

Friend
29 Jan 2013 14:41

Goldi dankie, missed your craziness family. any remedy for menstrual pains? Pls Doctors I need a prescription.

Woman of God
29 Jan 2013 14:42

yooo so much drama tjo will just have to wait for 8 oclock sbc2 vele

steffie
29 Jan 2013 14:47

lollling at Aya aka Woman of God nice name. Friend welcome back you are scarce this days what is happening.

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 14:48

Shame Friend try brufen it helps. You can also try drinking hot water and put hot water bottle where you feel the pain. Get better!!

Friend
29 Jan 2013 14:54

Steffie busy trying for a babygal, unfortunately, didn't conceive as planned but will keep doing it untillllllllllllllll, Ntaksay you are a darling, will do.

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 14:55

yho Aya ke gore u love this family that ud rather change ur id to beat the computer hey Woman of God o mpolaya gone foo babes.
Friend ensure that u dont get addict to drinking them evrytym u on periods othawise if it happens evry mth c a GP. i no how u are feeling @tyms o tsewa le ke sone sedidi tota (felin dizzy) and irregular heartbeat thts hw i used to feel but now im ok how it stopped cant tell coz ga nke ke nwa any medication.
malome VusiK shud we come 4 a get together @ ur hse 2nite kana u still on AFCON? o didimetse bua tlhe rra please * sulking*

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 14:55

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 14:57

sorry 4 double entry free drinks on the hse @ muRuby 2nite, really i mean it, dont say a word

Galie
29 Jan 2013 14:57

Loving Queen and her ancestor Rob...God forbid kwwaakk im finished*

@ woman of God /Aya You are welcome my sista

Bk212303
29 Jan 2013 14:57

Senzo could not fight iadoption due to the fact that Luntu threatened to kill the baby.

Woman of God
29 Jan 2013 14:58

thax guys hahhahah
@friend nna use periper kikiki but am serious i use peri-peri since my body is allergic to medicane(pain killers)

Woman of God
29 Jan 2013 14:58

thax guys hahhahah
@friend nna use periperi kikiki but am serious i use peri-peri since my body is allergic to medicane(pain killers)

only
29 Jan 2013 15:00

hie gys! I m plsd to join u. shame queen and roby i liked their relationship.

Nongo
29 Jan 2013 15:05

Bk212303 no what i meant was in real life cant men fight in court adoption if they did not consent it moreso here Noluntu wanted to abort the baby and Senzo did not want that. kana the things happening in soapy can be an eye opener 2 some pple if the send the real mseg u get wat i mean. u no well that our brothers are oppressed by the laws here en there they dont hv much say in some things esp if they are not married, like me in my country do u no that a man can be sent to court by his wife for rape if she did not feel like "dusting" and he forces himself on coz ene o oa batla. so sum of these things @tyms they hv 2 send a posive msg to the nation, its my opinion just thinking aloud.

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 15:07

Ruby makes a promise to Sylvia ... but can she keep it?
Ruby goes weak at the knees over an unexpected poem recital (14 Feb)
Does this mean Xolani will be released in Feb

Friend
29 Jan 2013 15:09

That's my lovely, you are all the best remedy, feeling better already. Nongo wow, you 1 lucky gal, no more pains, eagerly waiting for my turn, W.O.G aka Aya lol, chilliessssss!! do I take it raw or cooked? with or without water?BK I hope it was just a threat, you never know with Luntu, capable of murder.

steffie
29 Jan 2013 15:31

Friend good lucky with trying may God grant your wish and more. Can't comment on periods' pains I don't have such things, na I can even run Comrade marathon during my periods lucky me i guess

Friend
29 Jan 2013 15:39

Thx Steffie, exactly what I wanted to hear, funny enough these pains started as soon as I had my 2nd baby. Hoping they will go away for good once we conceive a gal, that's according to hubby.

Ntaksay
29 Jan 2013 15:42

I'm making coffee, who wold like a cup? I'm generous today.

Friend
29 Jan 2013 15:48

Ntaksie make mine black and strong please, thank you.

MsKim
29 Jan 2013 15:50

*Senzo could not fight iadoption due to the fact that Luntu threatened to kill the baby.* so now he can contest there's no way she can possibly kill the baby.

Deemo
29 Jan 2013 15:52

@freind you can try that herb rosemary we use for seasoning,it works for a freind of mine.

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 16:00

@Bk da baby is born now he can fight it bcos it's not yet 3months she's jst being spiteful cos Senzo neva gave in into her craziness of marriage.......@ Friend coke n despring always work wonders drl yes Ntaksay Xolani's coming back to dust off da DUST in mam Ruru lol @ Nongo ke mo ka taba 8pm ga Ruby aweeeeee

Woman of God
29 Jan 2013 16:03

hahahahha yep am not kidding FRIEND you buy cayenne pepper thn you eat it as if lyk you testing food then drink water you will tell me the results. i do have one in ma office if you were around the corner was just gonna give it to you

Bk212303
29 Jan 2013 16:10

Hayibo is xolani comming back?
Family can i ask something and please dont judge me.

makanku
29 Jan 2013 16:18

@Bk, shoot!!

Goldi
29 Jan 2013 16:24

we listening @ BK FYI: We dont Judge only God can judge not us

Mimibob
29 Jan 2013 20:16

Hey, le rata ditaba! Lol..

Manelcious
29 Jan 2013 22:23

Hey guys I'm new here...so we won't be seeing sbusiso dis month mmmh dats not ayoba

Mimibob
29 Jan 2013 23:18

Welcome Manelcious. Let me live up to my reputation of being a late night blogger and log in the 100th comment of day 1 of Feb teasers. Sleep tight fam.

Kerrie
29 Jan 2013 23:37

my people, long time, hau, missed you dearly!
i'm here Goldi my darling.
Mangqezu and Friend, where have you been hiding? W.O.G, kunjani sthandwa sam?

Sello looks very malnourished, he needs ukuya esibhedlela,he looks really unwell! why is Luntu contesting the will, it literally took two minutes to be read like she anticipated! is Dineo intending on opening an antique shop once all that stuff she's bought is scarce and the most sought after goods!!?

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 00:51

Hi everyone... Need your views on this one. In community of property VS out of.. in marriage. Quote the bible if you have to..

NoMdazB
30 Jan 2013 01:35

Hi all. Awake at this time like a certain girl called Mimibob. 4 year old coughed until he vomited. He's fast asleep now and I'm not. @Kandy, I am married out of community of property. Our decision had nothing to do with greed or divorce. Neither of us is rich- not even well off. I own a small business so I decided that should it go under I don't want my husband affected or my babies' financial well-being. I needed to know that he would still be able to take care of us. Secondly, he can buy whatever he likes, open whatever account he wants without having to drag me to co-sign. That works for us because he tells me when he's planning to buy something but he doesn't feel like he has to ask for my permission. We live in the rural areas so it would be a impractical to travel to wherever he is just so I can sign in some application form. But then we both came to that decision together and we are good with it. You sign a prenuptial contract with a lawyer, he charged us about R500 about 5 years ago. It's a one page document, not like those ones in the USA- maybe because they own things of value. It just says that each person gets whatever they came with. And then we share whatever we had during the marriage. We haven't kept any receipts for anything because we aren't planning to get divorced. The house is in both our names and we took equal loans so each person is responsible for their debt.

Pulchritude
30 Jan 2013 04:18

hey am new

Pulchritude
30 Jan 2013 04:21

ok hi ladies u are inspiration enjoy yor day luv u all

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 08:21

morning Family Pulch n Manel welcome feel free

Ohh Kerrie darl i miss u i'm sure ubusy le dusting akere lol @ Kandy i'm not married i dnt even have a bf bt shud it happen dat i marry 1 day it will be out of like Nomd said not becos of greed or divorce @ Nomd hws da baby now?

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 08:22

Good morning

@Kandyfloss I don't know much about In/out of community of property marriage. But I learnt about it at school.
In community of property is very complex, everthing you do/buy you need consent of your husband. Let me give you and example of Dineo and her flat. If they are married in communty of property with Phenyo and Dinny wants to sell the flat (assuming that she bought it and not renting it) and Phenyo does not want her to sell, then she cannot sell even though she had t he flat before they got married. Now it belongs to both of them.
Another example if one spouse dies and he/she had debts and did not have money, the living spouse pays the debts even if it means selling immovable property you both owned e.g house

Out of community of property can be divided into two:
1. Out of community of property where what's yours is yours and what's mine is mine. If one spouse dies and he/she had debts, it is not your problem
2. Out of community of property with Accrual. here you draw up your own contract (with the lawyer involved) and decide what you want to jointly own. In case of divorce and you had less property/money and your husband has more money/assets than you. You can claim the difference btwn his assets and yours.

stixola
30 Jan 2013 08:22

new characters...cant wait!

sthemby
30 Jan 2013 08:30

ubuya nini uSbusiso?

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 08:46

Morning all.
gale robale le lala mo!!!!!!!!!!!. well said Ntaks thats how it shud be, but going frther can u tell me what is prenup, i do not want to assume i no maybe i dont hv the rite info. Bk we are waitin since maabane maybe what u want to ask will benefit us, gud pple what u ask here and the inputs, advices are always beneficial so i may hv a prblem not nowing hw to tackle it out.
Welcome all new members we love you, are there any men in this hsehold?

Galie
30 Jan 2013 08:47

morning guys hope you all gud today..

i give up on Luntu and MJ ..bayadika suka i feel sorry for wandi shame

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 09:05

can some! help a sister with n update ddnt watch yest pretty plssssssssssss

Nongo i think Prenup etshwana le out of bt nt sure @ Ntaksay well put mama...ee nesekelebetse Bk we still waiting *tick tock tick tock* kante Caro o kae na?

Deemo
30 Jan 2013 09:08

morning to yu all.a warm welcome to our new bloggers ,enjoy the day so as the blogging.love u all.

makanku
30 Jan 2013 09:27

@Bk, aybo don't do this 2 me, i hardly slept last night waiting 4 news , ngiyazithandela ukukhuluma shame, nixole nje bakithi!! lol

on a serious note, i like the way u all support & advice each other without judging..like a real family does

steffie
30 Jan 2013 09:34

@Goldi

Queen & Robert were both trying to contact each other without luck because Sofia has changed their contacts on his daddy's cellphone. Akhona phoned Sello to cut the deal that he release Asanda and she won't expose him. The PI hired by Wandi to tail Sello was spotted with Sello tellling Akhona to back off before burnt.
While Akhona went with Nic to see Sello in his hotel apartment Nic's apartment aws trashed posssibly by Sello's dogs.

Luntu and MJ wsa caught up in a radio catfight, DJ X provoked Luntu with the inheritance saga and put MJ on the line, not knowing it was a trap to boost his show MJ went on his erratic behavoir that no one will get his share of inheritance.
Brother and sister aired their dirty laundry on national radio until Luntu walks out hurt by X's manipulation. Wandi gave then a word afterwards at home.

Khethiwe dragged Queen to Three towers to find Rob only to be scared and turned off by Sofia saying Robert has left the country. Dineo bumped into Sello at Tsalanang and she froze. Phenyo promise dto that Sello would never hurt her again.
It is in headline fashion I did not see much especially the first part, anyone can add what i missed.

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 09:44

ohhh mhwaaaaa Steffie thank you u such a darling

hw ddnt knw da Wandi hired a PI to follow Sello tjooo eish Akhona mara mxxxxm,

Poor Queen haai kante wats is Sofia's prob myb she's no getting dusted dat's y hahahahah

Friend
30 Jan 2013 09:46

A lovely cloudy, cool morning to you all ,new family members, i welcome you and hopeyou will behave and follow this house rules, lol. thanks for a variety of prescriptions,mwaaaah, feeling a lot better today.

We are married in Community Of Property even though i did not contribute a penny towards our paid up house it's in my name and his, have a few accounts in my name despite his dissapproval. If i die first (which is highly unlikely) he will carry the burden of paying them up. Whatever we have belongs to us, incase of a divorce will sell especially the house and share equally. I pray that our marriage lasts forever despite its imperfections.

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 09:48

A prenup agreement is similar to out with accrual, it is an agreement btwn u an ur partner, in case of divorce (I'll give you a practical example) you may agree that should you divorce a mother will take the kidz and the house (with the furniture inside) and the husband can have the car(s) and you are going to share ur savings equally.

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 10:01

Sofia is really irritating, she keeps feeding his father sleeping pills to keep him as far away from Queen as possible.
Queen should have shouted when Sofia did not let them in, Rob would have heard but a soapie will always be a soapie.

MsKim
30 Jan 2013 10:03

Queen does really like Rob after all. Eish MJ & Luntu yooo! i feel for Wandi. wonder wat Caleb was thinking u don't do that to yo kids really. they myt end up not talking to eachother ever becoz of his stupid decision. and Akhona that Sello guy will rape u he's sick stay away from him n stop this stupid story isn't going anywer. good morning Ladies and Gents. is Sbuda ok in real life? dd he get the kidney?

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 10:18

i have to disagree with u der MsKim i think Queen really like Rob why wud she go s far s she's doing jst to be with him n ddnt she take da money wen dat lil bitch Sofia offered her?

Woman of God
30 Jan 2013 10:26

hey Kandy will come back soon an explainit bibically am still busy with something

am Good kerrie
will comment later

Friend
30 Jan 2013 10:27

Jackson must dust Sophia to keep her away from Queen and Rob, her dad can take care of himself especially with Queen on his side, she will kill him with those sleeping pills and claim Queen did it.

makanku
30 Jan 2013 10:32

@Bk, ufuna ukubonani kanti??????????

Vandimerwe
30 Jan 2013 10:40

queen of dusting is in the house now we will see the dusting word time and again

morning friends

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 10:43

Jackson must dust Sophia to keep her away from Queen and Rob.. cudnt agree with u mo on dat 1 Friend

hahahahahahahah Makanku u killing me hey relax BK will comment wen she's ready myb she's busy ao

Galie
30 Jan 2013 10:52

C.V
I is SiviweNdudane.I am apply to my job of security guard to you boss in you company shoprite.I complete to std8 examination certificate in 1997.
my skool malikhanye high school very good.I am 27 ears to be born of age and no mallied and no childish.my father is dead long time ago,and my mother marry in KZN country there 10 years now.no see she so nobody know to help me.
my certificate is just sitting home for itself.but passes in maths,geography,science and all subject fail in english because of mkhize teacher teaching me is jelas of myself.me wear expenses cloth than mkhize teacher.

i here people you want security guard to you company and tell you i am one of that job.Expirience for 2years.i shot thief dead i want to join the company with my AK47.
Please consider my application careful and call me anytime,because me have cellphone.I am very honest and can speak english free of charge..please remember english is not our mother land ..

Friend
30 Jan 2013 11:04

queen of dusting is in the house now we will see the dusting word time and again

Who is she?

Galie. lol and please grit your wife and childrens.......,

Ma2ly
30 Jan 2013 11:22

makanku
30 Jan 2013 11:26

@Goldi lol, ngiyamdlalisa uBk but ngyazithanda vele izindaba hahahaha

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 11:28

lol Queen of Dusting ke Kerrie *shhhhhhh dnt tell any1* lmao
since 1 Galie

MsKim
30 Jan 2013 11:33

lol Goldie thats wat i said. she does like Robert after all. there was a time i thot mayb she was after his mula but after seeing her yesterday she does like him.

Friend
30 Jan 2013 11:41

Goldi, my mouth is sealed, lol I don't think she is the only 1, we all love it, lets be honest aowa.

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 11:47

Thanx sweet-cheeks, i love u. Thanx for your explanation.. At least i got to hear something positive about Out Of Community. Some People are so jammed up, they think Out of.. spells divorce. AYA i'l be waiting gal

Friend
30 Jan 2013 11:50

You right guys, Queens love for Rob is genuine, shez gonna pose as a maid tonight, in your face B**tch Sofi.

Friend
30 Jan 2013 11:53

Some People are so jammed up, they think Out of.. spells divorce.

True Kandy, whatever arrangements a couple agrees on is ok.

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 11:57

@Friend leave me out it. I don't like it..*serious face*

shuu
30 Jan 2013 11:57

we are told that caleb is late, I just saw him in a Windhoek advert. Mawande go get your man from the bar! Lol

Friend
30 Jan 2013 12:07

My apologies Kandy..

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 12:20

Is Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know.

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 12:22

ohhh ma bad MsK... You are so ryt Friend i love dusting shem n thats no secret *serious face* hahahah tjoooo Kandy

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 12:24

Shuu u crazy man hahahahaha

Ntaksay i dnt believe in such ppl like yada yada too much

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 12:29

my real life story regarding boswa - shares fighting for Mj en Noluntu.
1976 - my mom meets dad while i was born from prevous relationship - still a toddler then.dad works in a mining giant company - rember it takes a man to make a child but a "real man" to raise one, i still consider him my dad due to fact he made me the woman i am tdy, that i still value coz he called a spade a spade, he used 2say that bua mafatlha a gago lefa yo mongwe aka kgopega mme fela o buile nnete.
-80 traditional wedding, ree tsaya le namane( married into the family), he resigns frm mining giant and joins gov dept on force(military).
86 - complets my primary level still on mom's maiden name coz they'r not legal ke traditional fela, 2 more bros were also born btwn that tym, they tied the knot legal, my siblings change names, i dont on condition of not wanting to hv certif with many surnames on, it goes ok with the family. dad is still able to claim money on my name using my maiden surname @work all is ok.
btwn 2001 - 06 craks were begining 2 show gore my dad does not want me, i was made to pay rent in our yard thogh they were staying far in another town bout 1000km away, but i paid aniway and bought grocers for the famaily.
2006 - disaster struk - he passes on after the funeral according 2 procedure his employers wants the names of all children en his parents whom both were still alive by then , we give out our names, now story sa qala here: my siblings all 4 boys were in his name, my mom en his parents, i was not using the same 2nd name. he also did not write me in his beneficial forms @ work only his 4boys , mom en his parents. now the fighting started btwn mom's inlaws that i was not suppossed 2be written coz "now" at that coz money was involved i am not his child, all along they were fine i was kid.being the humble person that i am i told them it's ok i will not take ur money but since all contacts were made undere me by my mom all transactions had to go thru me, u can imagine having to deal with otha pples money when u hv nothing. my bros they gave me nothing, in gact 2 of them were still below age21 so their monie were left in the high court till age reach so the one who come after me said sisi i will give 3grang out of 23 g isaid ok- did he give me the money -NO, en we had abit of friction coz evrytm he thought i mat ask gore a kae madi but i didnt until a feal the very same year coz what u did not sweat for u use carelesly, the othe 1 gve me 3g he also had 23g but i did not ask 4 it, my mom i4got to tell u she gave me 1g she had close to hundred G she did even want me 2c hw much she had. i was sort of left out no one was interested in me by then they were all happy they had money. u no what it did 2me i was so hurt, but after regaining my strenth i told myslf i am going 2 work hard. now all my sibling they dont hv money iam the one who has it thru hard work en deter they find it very diff even my mom 2 ask 4 help frm me even when tyms are tough on them coz they still rember hw they treated me. what i learnt frm this was: as a single mom i will not allow any man to claim he loves me, yes he will but he will never be a fateher 2 my kids 100%.
i am telling u coz of wat MJ le Noluntu are doing. twas sad at1st but now im ok coz i gave it all to God i managed to hv 2 plots under my name the otha is built, en will be starting on the othe 1 soon. i am healed but u no the scar is always there to remind u coz no matter hw u try to 4give u dont 4get. i love my family if u can c us all laughing u woont bliev it only my bro who cums after me has aprblm that i dont hv.
sorry for the composition ladies. just wanted u 2 no what sum of us go thru in life.

Galie
30 Jan 2013 12:39

@ Nongo im really touched by your story..but atleast through all that you managed to build a life for your self and your kids..

Friend
30 Jan 2013 12:50

Ntaksay, I wonder why rich people are associated with satanism, it boggles me. I've also head and read that she sold her soul to. The devil, I don't think. It's true though, Goldi lol. Nongo you brave and strong gal, your Mom! Tjoo. God sew your suffering and rewarded you but help your family and show them real love. Has Mom apologised?

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 12:58

@Friend bagolo do they ever apologise in our culture,no, but u will c gore they are remorse, as 4 my granny she is also remorse and even pushing me to finish all my yards en leave my siblings coz are they put all the burden mo go nna. i love them im ok withem like isaid we laugh en do allsorts 2gether like a family shud.

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 13:01

Be strong Nongo people who inherit money always miuse it because they know ukuthi they did not work for it. It is better to work hard and buy your own assets. I'm sure ur sibling do not have anything valuable they bought with that money kodwa wena unako okudingayo even though ungathonga a cent. Well done sisi I salute you.

Friend
30 Jan 2013 13:05

Nongo, yeah they don't say it but show it. they will leave with a guilty conscious forever. It really hurts them to see that you have put the past behind and happily, successfully moved on. You go gal, that's life.

Friend
30 Jan 2013 13:06

Friend
30 Jan 2013 13:08

Friend
30 Jan 2013 13:13

Sorry guys for posting thrice, blame this phone.

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 13:14

Wow! Nongo n i thot CINDERALLA is only on Tv tjoooo eish touching indeed i'm also glad that everything worked out hey n u happy through hard work God is great all da time remember dat after darkness comes brightness so yeh eish ppl n da love of moni ne now satan ryt der!! Are u married? hw many kids du u have if u dnt mind me asking?

i hope they apologiesed for their treatment i'm glad u have 4givin dem , cos dey were blinded by money

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 13:17

Happy you'v prospered@ Nongo. Let us not be blinded by love especially where step-parentin is involved kids suffer when we are no longer there.. BLOOD IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE THICKER THAN WATER.

Woman of God
30 Jan 2013 14:46

hey Nongo am touched by your story,but i respect your heart may God continue to bless you more eix i declare blessing in your life and may you continue to be prosperus, may God give you your heart disires so that your joy may be fulflled may he bless you shame

@Kandyfloss For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

the Bible do not say exactly about this thing of incommunity, and outcommunity, but when i read this vearse. i pic some points
-u see the bible says a man shall leave his family and he will become one with his wyf
-when pople are one it means they do the same thing i as a wyf owns my husband and he the husby owns me
- when people are married there is no me,me my money, my car nooo its our car , our what. coz you guys are one

-i dnt mean to offend people who are married out of community no its your choice n u do hav reasons but this is what i picked up from this verse sorry if i offended sm1

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 14:48

@Goldi im not married but i do hv a partner. i hv 2boys age 13 le 8 they'r mine not his ene he does not hv any kids at all.
Ntaks - my siblings hv nothing 2 show but i dont remind them their failures i encourge them always, the 1st he has his own business but can show u nothing for it mare o dira madi, the otha a cop 3rd is strugling but full of love last 1 still in schl.
u rite Kandy, blood is thicker i ensure that my partner nows how i love my boys and i've instilled in them the dicipline that u wont bliev gore these 2 are single parented, they no when mom cannot afford en when she can i've taught them gore things hv 2be in pipeline, funny how they can book 2be bought pizza by mthend at a certain mall they hvnt gone to in a long tym.

Bk212303
30 Jan 2013 14:58

@Nongo wow im so proud of you. May God Be with u all the way. Imali ........ it makes people show their true colours.
@Makanku lol. Im sorry to keep you awake i dont know what is happening is this office all of sudden its crowded with ppl so i could not chat

I have a best friend and we have been friends for 7yrs now. I know her she knows me. She did not have a man in her life but just a man who comes once or twice for dusting nd thats it so they were not permanent she was emakhwapeni. While on the other hand had my boyfriend(my son's father who is now my husband) and we were staying together me,son,bf. We also had other friends so one of the friends became close to me or i was fond of him. So i would go to my best friends house and speak about him, telling her how good he is with his hands(technician,plumbing as i used to use him smtimes at my house. So my b friend each time i go to her she would ask about him and i had an idea since she did not have a man and i was fond of him i did a match making but myf did not seem interested and i did not like that at all cause i wanted him to date her cause i could c that he is a kind, caring man and my f is also soft spoted person and they would make a perfect match. He also did not have a person in his life(unlucky). I think i had some feelings for him but did not want to act on them cause i had my man and that is why i did not mind that myf have him and i know she will make him happy.
So this other day i told myf we must have a sit in at my house and i knew the guy likes to come by my house weekends. So we were drinking hunters dry and then ..... i ask the guy to walk with me so that we take my f back to her house and we did and we were 5 ppl and i wispered to the guy that she must walk with myfriend while i was walking with the others and thats when things started i saw my f taking numbers and we left her. she phoned again and said we must come back to fetch her and we did. cut short

They stared with the test the next day and she called me the morning and we started chatting about other thingz and she told me that the guy did not pass the test and she is moving on with someone who has 3 kids and i said she must give him another chance she said no but will c. She sms me at night telling me that he is with her and i was so happy for both. The next day got a call and i went but he was not there and she told me that while they were lying on the bed, they were talking and confessing the guy said there is only 1 woman for him and that woman is BK212303 .....and he will wait for me until maybe im free cause he is so inlove with me and he cant c himself with anyone else but he never told me he felt that way. Now while myf is telling me this i could c the anger and hatred but i told her that he is stupid to think that i will ever break up with my man even though i also felt the same way but did not say to my f. I supported her and tried to comfort her. But ppl I was also so shocked and didnt know what to do or to say. At that moment i knew things will never be the same between me and myf cause of lendonda. Anyways i decided since my man is been wanting to tie the knot for 11yrs we must do it
asap and here iam married. I also went to speak to the guy and he said to me im sorry but i cant help it and i told him u will go and sort this thing out now and i never want to hear anything about me from u.So now they are happily married and im still friends with myf. Do u think i was wise or what? Speak to me

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 14:59

Ok Aya... ThanX! If people walked their talk. And if life didnt have certain challenges it'l b easier..

caro
30 Jan 2013 15:22

good day

i cnt belive after i waited so bad for the teasers i am d last to post...u guys le "DITSOTSI" Ntaksay in my office now!!!!

by the way lemme go read, hv been busy..its pay day and its so hectic.

TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODLES!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 15:23

yho msadi i was shocked when he said the only woman for him is Bk yho!!!!!!!!!madoda.But GOOD u stood ur ground and played it well coz @tyms infatuation pass and we are left in the lurch after leaving the one . u created that relatiship with ur hubby, 11yrs is no joke my love, and im happy coz ur friend is now hapily maried to him. Pliz ensure that u fight all those feelings u hv 4him and restore the trust btwn u le chomi yago coz 1day u'll be left in 1rm en i dont want to hear of any heatness going on. Please nna i really value marriage i bilive by the tym i do get married i will be the best wife and makoti to my hubby.
Read Proverbs 31 A VIRTIOUS WOMAN and be that woman. best wishes to you and chomza.
Gen. family i dont no what i will do without u guys u a an inspiration u bring out the best in me, the urge to carry on in life if all families were like this the wrld will be a betta place to live in , but it still is.

Bk212303
30 Jan 2013 15:25

@Woman of God yes that is what marriage is about living family behind and giving yrself to yr husband. But im not saying that it is also wrong to go out of community it is something you both decide cause these things have advantage and disadvantage like NomdazB stated. I think it is yr choice and this whole thing is about giving yrselves to each other and both deciding what will both work out for the 2 of u. Can i ask if u have signed a contract what does yr marriage certificate right does it say civil or what?

caro
30 Jan 2013 15:30

Things that made me go "TJO"

Just when Phenyo thinks his relationship is back on track things go wrong again. MJ gives the proxy of his shares away. Noluntu finds out her baby was with the Dlomos

Babalwa wants to give Mnqobi back to Noluntu. Samantha refuses to believe her life is in danger. Nicholas decides it's time to forget about his ex and move on.

Phenyo's misdeeds come back to haunt him.

Bk212303
30 Jan 2013 15:33

@Nongo i am fighting them with everything i have cc cause i dont want to hurt either of them. But i think sometimes the guy acts funny like sometimes he would side by me so i dont know if i must just maybe dissapear and leave them both cause this thing will always come up no matter i can hide my feelings. I know i can doit but can he.

Woman of God
30 Jan 2013 15:43

Can i ask if u have signed a contract what does yr marriage certificate right does it say civil or what?

are you directing ths question to me BK ??
If so nna am not married

Nongo u said it all dear BK what you did its extemely amazing, not all woman can do that you know what am impressed

caro
30 Jan 2013 15:50

m impressed.. but on he ada hand dnt u sometyms feel gore the guys is with your friend because he has no choice or maybe for him its a way of being closer to you..

the guy loves you, you love your hubby, who loves him? your friend??????? i dnt think so... the situation is tough and while ur still around and in their lives it will always be difficult for the lady knowing her hubby loves you( since u said he told her) and for the hubby knowing you know he loves you but you love somebody else who doesnt know the whole scenario..

MsKim
30 Jan 2013 16:05

"only 1 woman for him and that woman is BK212303 "" coz of this sentence i don't think if i were yo friend i'd have ended up with that man. eachtime we hang out together it wld make me uncomfortable..

Ntaksay
30 Jan 2013 16:06

Why am I being summoned to Caro's office, did I do anything wrong.

Bk try to avoid gatherings (distance urself from him) with your friend and her husby coz this guy might do something that will put your marriage and ur relationship with ur friend in jeopardy. You might be able to control ur feelings but yena ngathi uyohluleka

Galie
30 Jan 2013 16:07

BK when coming to relationships and marriage im not an axpect..but i think you've done a good thing cc..
ngu tshayile manje see you guys 2morrow..toodles

makanku
30 Jan 2013 16:09

@Bk bese ngikudubile lol...sisi u r a umfazi oqotho, i wish benginjengawe.may God bless u 4 being so loyal 2 ur man and giving the other 2 a chance to be happy, ay angazi ngthini kuwe but bancane abantu abanjengawe.

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 16:19

tell me Bk is this thing happening now or it happened cos i dnt follow nna shem *please excuse ma blonde moment* cos u tlk abt 7yrs n 11yrs i'm so confused wen dd dis happen him n ur 4rnd getting married n hw long is da marriage?? n hw long is urs pls ma darling den i'll tell u want i think *tongue out*

maud
30 Jan 2013 16:21

Hi all
I am married in community of property with Accrual - and lots of clause .
I promise you one thing ,if i divorce( not that i think about it) no one will take my home,that department i made sure that its covered.

can i ask you guys a question

If you are married to a man who have 3 childrens from outside the marriage and you are married in community of property, then ypur husband happens to loose his job or maybe became paralised, WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 16:31

@Ntaks dont question the boss u re summoned to the office madam.

@maud - this 1 is difficult coming from u aunty, we nid answers frm u en u throw back at us. but lemme think - do those kids stay with u?, where are the mothers?. my opinion is if their mom is around she shud step in to assist by taking them unless she passed on or irrespble then out of pity as a woman if they are still young u have to take over the support.

Bk212303
30 Jan 2013 16:35

@Goldi now and will be seeing y all tomorrow

Nongo
30 Jan 2013 16:39

2011 nov - my cousin got married, very nice wedding.
1. she has 2 kids 1 is grown up the other was 2 yrs ( both hers only).when she got married she agreed with the hubby and her family that she leaves her grown child, the younger 1 his dad paid for "tshenyo"(thats wat we cal it here) and she joined the marriage childless.
2. the bf now hubby said he does not hv any kids. ok what hurt her most was that the hubbys family knew he had a child thogh the mother was no more, mind u not just a child but grown man in tertiary.
3. 2012 dec - story comes out from where we dont no, she was devastated she even wanted out, my adv to her was stay in the marriage though he lied tell him next tym ___ they sorted out for how long dont no.
if u were her wat were u going to do?

MsKim
30 Jan 2013 16:42

am with Nongo... i think if the mom is arnd she cn assist if not its yo responsibility.

Kandyfloss
30 Jan 2013 17:46

Maud its u, remember whats yours is his.. Nna i'l HELP the kids

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 19:01

Yhoo! Nongo dats a though 1 hey bt all I can say is their marriage, love etc its was based on lies f he cud lie abt he's flash n blood wat else is he lying abt mmmm? BK pls re read ma Qs n ansa me

VusiK
30 Jan 2013 20:55

@Kandyfloss ...
It is not as simple as either/ or ...
Question:
Do you wish to apply an accrual rule or not, ... because an accrual rule is probably more important regarding an informed answer versus an emotional one.

My general suggestion to anyone considering either option is ... Go home & think it over again ... until you know you and your thoughts regarding you and your spouse's positions regarding everything you need to know.

If it purely a protective move because of the risks & contingencies you should consider in marriage/ civil partnership (((but the law is as diverse as the doors open to you for consideration) ... especially South African law), ... but since Botswana law is a more generic form of brittish common law ... one should consider the vagaries and interpretation of that zone ... since you actually live there ... ZA law is actually irellevant) ... then ANC , however, if both parties are contributors to the risk/ reward model ... then an accrual basis is probably on the cards... the problem is always the pre-nup disclosure of estate(s) and surrounding issues.

If I lost you after you have researched the options / paths, you may PM me, I don't really read the Gen blog much anymore, so it could be June before I return to check on this again.

Goldi
30 Jan 2013 21:47

Haaibo Vusik kante wats rong with. Dis blog? Dnt u love da Gen fam anymo? B2G: I cudnt stop lafing wen Luntu ws poured with flour on her face kikiki serves her rytn eish Akhona haai soka maan ok gud 9t see u @ Yona Yethu 2 morro

NoMdazB
30 Jan 2013 22:02

Hi all. I'm only reading the blog now, took the babies to the doctor and came back late. @ Goldi they are alright sisi, it wasn't very serious, just chest problems. Thanks for asking. @BK, it says Civil Union on your certificate. My husband and I decided that since my work was risky financially and he works in Govt ie safe, we needed to be sure that our kids would always be provided for. That any debts I ended up having would not affect them negatively. Cos now if I go under the banks can only take my stuff and not everything.

Mimibob
30 Jan 2013 22:07

@BK, I think I'm having a blonde moment on this one like Goldi. Will wait for your answers to her questions. It sounds like you love your friend's hubby and think you might have made a mistake choosing your baby daddy over the man who loved you, whom you loved back. Does your friend love her hubby? How did they end up together after the guy's confession? Does he love her? Joh! This sounds like something out of Generations. Bad choice or not, responsibility over the situation lies on all parties involved. You owe it to your selves and spouses to make your marriages work and not think about what shoulda, coulda, or woulda happened. You are a strong woman to have come thus far. I didn't grasp the crux of the situation much, maybe my advice would be misplaced.

Mimibob
31 Jan 2013 01:21

Nongo, was touched by your story. May God continue to bless and increase you greatly.

B2G, I came home late from church and only found Nick holding something over his face. What happened to him? Who poured flour on Noluntu and why? Update please...

NoMdazB
31 Jan 2013 05:22

Hey @Mimibob, do you work inight shift or what. You are so right about @BK. The grass isn't always green on the other side. Morning everyone.

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 07:43

Morning Family @Mimibob glad I ws nt da only 1 Question @ Bk y dd u try so hard 2 hook up ur 4rnd with da guy u love so bad? Was it guilt or u wntd 2 kip him closer?

Ntaksay
31 Jan 2013 08:10

Morning
I kinda felt sorry for Luntu when they threw flour at her. And MJ can see all the damage he has caused and he feels sorry, pitty it is too late.

I love Queen and Rob, why do I get the feeling that Jackson is lying about what Sofia likes, I think he wants her to hate Queen even more.

Dinny is slowly becoming a shopaholic, how can you pay for a gun course for other people and buying Khethi and Queen two gifts umuntu eyedwa. That looks like addiction to me.

The clap Akhona gave Nick, this nonsense of hers is making her a nervous person,

Have a good day everyone
Mimibob, I hope my comments will help you

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 08:30

i also love Queen n Rob i think hes lying to jst to get Queen in trouble again mxxm

well nna ddnt feel pity for Luntu instead was rolling on da floor wat happened yest had nothing to du with MJ da way i see it....it was all abt single mom's n yet she gave da baby away she knows nothing abt being a mom n all if she ws neva preg it ws something else bt she had da baby n gave it away as if it ws a price or something haai nna dnt feel nada 4 her

Friend
31 Jan 2013 08:39

morning family, NomD glad the kids are ok, Maude I would take care of the kids, what if it's vice versa. BK what a tricky situation, does your friend trust you 100% when this guy does some handy work at your house? I wouldn't plus their love might be based on a lie Coz he might hv married her to fulfil your wish since he loves you and wanna see you happy. If I were u I would stay away from the them as much as I could to avoid finding yourself in a compromising position with him and putting your marriage in jeopardy. Poor Luntu, I hate her for hating MJ, it wasn't his fault that Daddy left her nothing. I have a crush on Rob.

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 09:04

morning gud pple,@mimibob can u try hv sum spli u nid it babe kana o bereka niteshif like NomD said.
Yho Friend wena u hv crush on Rob nna i feel the Zambian coach dear hei he' hot now that they are out i wont be watching games, man o tshwanelwa ke those white shirts i wonder hw many he has, oa tshesa serious but o out of limits ooohhhh shame poor me* sulking*
dont say that Goldi i hear u im a woman ke na le maikutlo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

makanku
31 Jan 2013 09:14

Morning peps!
relationships/marriages are complicated in most times bt R Kelly sang "prayer changes things" it gets better with God's intervention.im married also and the first few months in were tough, mother in law became monster in law but i prayed and prayed, now all is better.so if its not this its that......the stori neva ends.
B2G, Queen & Rob bayaratana shame, i hope they will shada soon.
@friend i also had a crush on Rob while he was on 7de laan!!
Hi Mimi !!

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 09:16

hahahahahah ao bathong Nongo nna kerileng yananong *side eyeing u* @ Nomd i'm glad da kids r ok phela ma son's got a very week chest so wen it comes to chest i dnt play with fire papa cos i knw wat it can do my boy spend some days 4 2yrs in hosi cos of chest probs

Bk212303
31 Jan 2013 09:28

@Goldi the seven yrs is my friendship with myf and the i have 11yrs with my boyfriend who is now my husband. This whole thing with me doing matchmaking is from Jan 2012.My frnds got married Oct2012 which is they were 10months together. Me 12 years together and we got married sept2012 so im 4months in this marriage.

I was hooking him up, thinking that atleast i know he wil be well with my f and they both single.
@Mimibob good questions that is what i want. I made a right choice for me and my son and as i said i did not know how he felt until that day and i took a decision that, i wil not act on what i felt and remember no one new about my feelings.
My frnd loves her husband or atleast that is what i c and she confirmed that. So they are living normally like me. Hey i dont know how they ended up mna all i did was to comfort my f as she was devastated and crying and i told her that they must sort it out as i am with my man and i dont want this guy.and i said they either sort it out or they must stay single. I also went to him i told him to stop messing something that would be beautful and he must never say what he said to my frnd again.He went to c her and i guess they spoke about it. But we all 3 of us never spoke about it again. When i look at him he loves her but i wont know what happens when im not there. As for me iam sorting out my family as you all know my problem(father in law) other than that me my husband and son we are well.More questions if not answered properly

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 09:52

hey BK o kae tatamkhulu o boile kana le ntse le mmogo, if asa tsamae ka April o ikele Motloloolo bana ba gagwe ba tla atla go motsaya. just kidding but seriously o tsogile sentle ena.

Woman of God
31 Jan 2013 09:55

morning guys

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 09:56

I understand now BK du u still have feelings for dis man? *ur 4rnds hubby* so in ada words ur 4rnds hubby is settling for 2cond best since he cnt have u well i'm sure he loves her in his own way bt i doubt dat he's heart is der with his wife du dey have a child together?

konje wen is Mkhulu leaving?

MsKim
31 Jan 2013 10:19

Good morning All

makanku
31 Jan 2013 10:38

@Bk i agree with Goldi, the frends huby settled 4 da 2nd best since he cant hev u, i just feel sori 4 ur friend 4 agreeing 2 marry him coz at one point he told her that there is no woman 4 him but u.shooo, ngeke ayaqunga mamanye amaladies la ngaphandle. another thing, u said they were 2getha for 10mnths and then get married...too soon 4 me, they should have given their relationship time to develop and strengthen (since there was u somewhere in the picture) before rushing to get married. on ur side, u did nothing wrong
but that's my opinion nje fela, i might b out of line

Friend
31 Jan 2013 10:41

BK as long as the 3 of you are happy, nothing else matters, life goes on. Tjoo usekhona uTatazala? Lol Nongo, catch him on soccer africa soon after Afcon.

Deemo
31 Jan 2013 11:10

morning to you all.

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 11:33

@Woman of God can u go bak to dept. of Home Affairs en change ur name bak to Aya. hey Friend cant do that or else i'll get hooked betta i c him once in a while will c him again ka wrld cup in Brazil.
VusiK are bak @skl fa ore o tla re bona ka June so? wats up buti.

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 11:44

@Nongo
I'm on work Sabbatical,
...
I'm engaged in research & study for my 6th Doctorate.

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 12:09

@VusiK
u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women

Friend
31 Jan 2013 12:10

Kikikiki Nongo, it's better that way.

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 12:14

@friend no madam 'tis not ok, money cant but u happiness at tyms u nid a companion to rub ur bak u get wat i mean, gape when u hv all ur social life enna so_________ dont no how to explain it, kana o rre ne Friend?

Nongo
31 Jan 2013 12:17

askies Friend o MMe i 4got will bring madombolo from MamRubs for lunch babes.

caro
31 Jan 2013 12:21

Why am I being summoned to Caro's office, did I do anything wrong. @ ntaksay

u & i have been thru a lot together bt the minute u see that theres finally light you dont HALLA back..lol

yoyozz
31 Jan 2013 12:30

BK aaa tatazala is still around tjoo

im a silent bloger these days i read all your comments big up

my contract is ending soon so im bussy searching for a job and they are bussy training us for the new system that means they gonna renew it ndiyaxhoba nje GENERATIONs BLOGERZ BIG UP ur comments are mncwaa i like the way esithandana ngayo siyile fimaly. cup of coffee for everyone

Friend
31 Jan 2013 12:56

Nongo ke Mme o nyetswi, crushing on Rob but it ends on TV fela. Will hold you to that, ausi we ke kopa dombolo nou, lol.

Woman of God
31 Jan 2013 12:57

lol Nongo i tried Aya.ayashahh,ayah but nothing is working bt you can still can still call me aya hey ....

uhuuuuuuu.uhhhuuuuuu
we've been 2geda 4 a while now growing stronger everyday now,it feels good n there's no doubt, i will stay with you.as each morning brings sunrise and the flowers bloom in springtym on my love rely and i will stay with you

eix this song remind me of ......................................................................

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 13:18

mmmmmmm some1 is inlove *looking @ Aya's direction* etswa ka taba eo gopotsa maan nna enkgopotsa my baby daddy wu falls under my EXes *sigh* beautiful song ohhhhh

caro
31 Jan 2013 13:37

If you are married to a man who have 3 childrens from outside the marriage and you are married in community of property, then ypur husband happens to loose his job or maybe became paralised, WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?
@maud

i am not quiet sure on this one but i heard that if you husband passes on while paying maitenance to the kids from a previous marriage or relationshipwatsoever u will be responsible for such and that alone guarantees them a certain percentage to ur hubby's estate....

caro
31 Jan 2013 13:38

@Ntaks dont question the boss u re summoned to the office madam. #DEAD#

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 13:55

u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women
..
I would not really care.

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 13:58

WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?

The Two are unrelated and have nothing to do do with one another, except that they're his children ... therefore, his obligation.
Your joint estate is irellevant regarding his obligation to his children.

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:11

WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?

The other contributor of an RNA strand

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:16

(in other words .. the mother to the 3 children).

Galie
31 Jan 2013 14:19

hey guys..
i did not watch gen yesterday,a friend of mine invited me to her church..i got back after 9..any good summaritan who's willing to help a sista plzz update guys..

Manicure
31 Jan 2013 14:20

u've gone my dear , oska rutega thata basadi ba tla go tshaba, as much as men ba tshaba well off women
..
I would not really care.

mmmmhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Woman of God
31 Jan 2013 14:20

ahhh sorry Goldi

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:24

@Manicure

???

steffie
31 Jan 2013 14:25

Afternoon peeps
WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING HIS 3 KIDS?
Caro thais exactly what I have heard, that if a man is maintaining children outside if he does the kids are entitled to have ashare of his estates. Not sure about it though as i have never seen it in practice.

maud
31 Jan 2013 14:26

@Nongo, this is not about me my dear, mina i will never stay with someone 's kids, I was getting to the point of being married in community of property.

This is the reason for my marriage with accrual.

steffie
31 Jan 2013 14:29

The other contributor of an RNA strand

what if she does not work, while the kid's daddy left money bags?

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:30

@Steffie ... Maud ...

They are entitled to a portion of his estate (unless otherwise stated in testament) ... but that is not the question that was asked.

Ntaksay
31 Jan 2013 14:30

Knock knock Caro can I come in *knocking in Caro's office*

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:33

what if she does not work, while the kid's daddy left money bags
Is he crippled / unable to work (for some reason), etc ... or dead?

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:36

You keep changing the subject matter & its content ...

The law addresses different matters differently, and specifically, depending on situation, circumstance or happenstance.

If you want a precise answer that is 99% accurate, ask a question that is 99% specific / accurate.
Concepts do not always have place and interpretation in reality.

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 14:45

look ... regarding accruals ...

the greatest failing of an accrual is the lack of honesty in the particiants ... most people will absolutely fail to fully disclose their assets / liabilities / net worth to their spouses ... the system fails some because of the human's desire to protect themselves from "abuse"/ lack of trust/ faith in the other person.

Some of us work in/ with contracts, and I would never ut myself in the position to disclose my estate to anyone ... regardless of how ready I am to be married to that person.
It is (in my case) easier to agree on a settlement / parachute clause or structure before entering into anything. Therefore ... anything that hapens thereafter is subject to the terms of a preceding agreement ... fully applicable unless amended with the agreement of all the participants.

I deal with the children separately ... same as my family ... it seems more complex to a passerby ... but it is actually simpler in application.

Goldi
31 Jan 2013 14:45

Tjooo Caro wathaba maan

VusiK
31 Jan 2013 18:26

It is VERY IPMORTANT for people to understand that the interpretation of law is not absolute and its application is generally relative/ situational, ... except where and when it is absolute.

Mimibob
01 Feb 2013 01:45

NomD and Nongo, I dont work night shift, lol.. Im just always very busy at work and dont have time to blog during the day. I just have this bad habit of sleeping late, for no partucular reason really. Sometimes I carry work home though and work late. Will try sleep early from next week, or use the time to study for my 1st doctrate.

Thanks Ntaksay for the heads up.

Hi Makanku.

Cmaneo
01 Feb 2013 04:38

Morning mabloggers a matle

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 07:26

Morning Family happy friday 2 y'all on ma way 2 work n not in da mood haai dis day mst jst end *serious face*

Galie
01 Feb 2013 07:53

morning ma bloggers....its friday today hope you all wearing your S.A T-shirts today,to show your support..
Rob finally proposed to queen

Ntaksay
01 Feb 2013 08:02

Yho Rob and Queen are getting married. Sofia almost had a heart attach when Rob proposed to Queen.

We've seen enough of Memela drama, Noluntu and MJ must kiss and make up now.
Akhona you are digging your own grave. Uploading that video clip was the biggest mistake of ur life. you are so stubborn shame

steffie
01 Feb 2013 08:17

Morning bloggers

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 08:32

ohhh i ddnt wtch pls guyz cn u help a sista out with n up date?

Friend
01 Feb 2013 09:36

Morning peeps, Rob, Rob, Rob, love you more, happy for Queen, hope it'll work this time around. Luntu you are a witch, forgive MJ and move on. Akhona and Sello are boring.

Deemo
01 Feb 2013 09:39

hi guys,ive this terrible headache since yestaday.ive tried taking fluids n pills bt not helping at all.

Deemo
01 Feb 2013 09:40

hi guys,ive this terrible headache since yestaday.ive tried taking fluids n pills bt not helping at all.

Friend
01 Feb 2013 09:51

Deemo, you need to take it easy, get enough rest, I guess you stressed a bit, get well soon.

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 09:52

drink lots of water Deemo bt if it continues u need to go n consult lala hope it gets beta......

Bk212303
01 Feb 2013 09:53

@Yoyos tatazala is still in da house he says the dr said he must stay till 15/02/2013. So i decided to go to work and call hospital and i found out he was lying to us and i didnt bother arguing i just prayed to God to give strength till 15th come and he is saying smthing about another 6 months for the treatment and no 1 at my house is responding to that. He also said the dr said family must take him to clinic on that date so that they can tell the dr that he must take his treatment here in cape town and i told him i wont be available he must ask his 2sons or daughters and he kept quiet. So yah everyday i dont feel like going home but now my trategy is i get home cook what ever not oil no veges i just cook what is there, cause im tired now of pleasing them when they dont return the favour. and when i got paid i did my savings, stamps etc and i kept my money in the bank.No more 100%fruit juis, fruit etc. What ever is needed i ask my husband and he is struggling and i say it is because he did not know that i was supporting this man the whole time and now my hands are folded and he is not happy at all and i heard him say utata must go after 15th.

People i did not tell u this my friend wanted someone to settle with and she asked him to marry her. He refused at 1st and she asked him why and if he does not do that then its ok he can leave her alone. She asked me to also speak to him and i did and later on he took the idea and paid lobola.

Bk212303
01 Feb 2013 09:54

Sorry could not blog yersterday telkom is busy with an upgrade so internet interruptions.Missed u though so much.

Btwa
01 Feb 2013 09:55

Hi Friends,

pliz pliz update, we had no power

Manicure
01 Feb 2013 10:01

morning and have a lovely friday family, mna these days generations ya mbora waitse.

sisila
01 Feb 2013 10:14

Morning friends just been reading your comments its very interesting the things we go through in life just been very depressed this whole week but now know its the devil who was trying to bring me down. I had a friend whom im very close with infact i call him my brother we happen to spend a lot of time together he has a girlfriend but that was not a problem until sunday, He transferred some photos of me to his phone and invited me on facebook which i accepted then he posted an updated and i commented but after i commented i realised the girlfriend commented first and he came over my house while we were sitting and talking he realises that all my pictures have been deleted on his phone and we checked the comment i posted it did not appear i was blocked and removed as a friend then the lady sent sms to me telling me to stop sleeping with her man. I was so angry that i cried so much since i couldnt say what was in my heart the guy fell so bad that she confronted her about the whole thing, at the end of it all they broke up now the lady is threatening to kill herself I still have not responded to any of this because I dont know what to say and why i should answer.

Friend
01 Feb 2013 10:16

BK just hang in there, is your friend that desperate to kinda force her man into marriage. Hope hez not gonna rub it into her face 1 day when the going gets tough. Blaming her for everything, brave gal, wishing them all the best. Btwa needs an update pls. Family

Friend
01 Feb 2013 10:16

Nongo
01 Feb 2013 10:38

morning pple.
@sisila feeling sorry for u gal at tyms we do things innocently not knowing sum1 will get hurt, u are innocent thats all but i no hw u re feeling very bad, but really im sorry for you.
wont be in the next few mths but my love always.
bye
b2g: Queenie will always be herself , lets wait until she walks down the aisle maybe she will find anotha 1 whom she will run after, she has a problem ena ka nnete.

Vandimerwe
01 Feb 2013 10:45

Sisila just tel that gal to go on and kill herself....................

morning family

moopa
01 Feb 2013 10:46

Queen does she really have to go extra mile for that man from nurse to maid p.a I just see desperation not love

Ntaksay
01 Feb 2013 10:55

Sisila just tell her you are not sleeping with her b/f and tell her to speak to her b/f (ex) about all the staff she's telling you.

Ntaksay
01 Feb 2013 11:08

Let me try to update:

Queen pursuaded Sofia to go out with her and Rob and have dinner, she agreed. Queen and Rob were so in love kissing and touching & Sofia was so irritated spent most of the time in the bathroom and Queen kept on giving her wine, Rob got sick Sofia was worried but Queenny had everthing under control, she took som pills out of her purse and gave him. Rob said you see that''s why I love her so much she can look after me and I'm glad you agreed to come to dinner with us so that you can witness this, then he proposed.

Dinny bought some magazine abt guns while she was reading Phenyo came in and she closed the book and Phenyo was complaining abt being tired and Dinny advised him to go and take a shower, he asked her to join him she said she is wainting for important call. that call was that magazine.

Akhona told officer Phokane about the Sello's video clip (the one on the phone she got from that girl) and showed it toher she wants Sello to be charged for rhino poaching. But Officer P said that clip does not sello a rhino poacher it is not evedent enough Akhona also went to Wandi told abt the clip and the girl being suffocated. but she advised her to leave this story and forget about the girl. Akhona wants to upload the video on yona yethu web but Wandi refused and Officer P advised her against it. But Akhona and her thick head uploaded the clip.

Sello's girl does not want to play this game anymore she wants to tell Akhona about what théy've been up to. but her friend said no.
That's all I remember for now.

Bk212303
01 Feb 2013 11:10

@Sisila no no no this girl is playing with your feelings dont let her do that to you. You tell her you are not involved with her man and she must speak to him. If she wants to kill herself it is up to her and it wont be your fault cause you did not do anything wrong girl. And somma tell her to do it and c if shell do it. She wont cause when someone wants to kill themselves they doooooont do iiiit so she must get over herself. Your best friend tell him he must next time beware of people like his girlfrnd which means he must not post his best frnd's pics cause some grl are not right upstairs they are like Zodwa and they are dangerous.

BIG UP FAMILY!!!!!LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH.

Ntaksay
01 Feb 2013 11:13

MJ told his mom that he want to finish school. his mom said he can do with some business courses. She is organising an internship for him. She asked Noluntu to be civili with him coz he wants him to be working in all the departments. But MJ does not know that his mom wants him to be an intern. MJ wants his mom to have a proxy on the shares but he said she is weak when it comes to Sbuda, when MJ said that Wandi kicked him out of her office.

Friend
01 Feb 2013 11:17

Sisila tell her to go hang....,

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 11:26

@ BK i'm glad u stood ur ground now hubby can see dat mkhulu is a pro...s for ur 4rnd asking a man to marry her tjoooo tlk abt desperation mxxxxm she's gona regret it 1 day cos dis man daznt LOVE her wuuuuuu *clap once* @ Sisila i agree with Vandi jst tell her to kill herself shame on her it's not ur pro dat she daznt trust her man n has a low self esteem i'm dat u feeling bad specially dat nothing is happening btwin u n da guy

B2G: Update pls guyz i think Queen will make a gud wife to Rob cos she's herself not pretending to be some1 else n Robs dat

makanku
01 Feb 2013 11:31

@Bk, "no more 100% fruit juic.."hahahahahaha! as 4 your folding hands & letting your hubby feel what u were feeling, good 4 u msadi
@Sisila, tell her 2 go ahead & kill herself, aw awasekho yini amanye amadoda la ngaphandle

Galie
01 Feb 2013 11:38

Sisila the gal is playing with your feeling CC ,and umntu xa efuna ukuzibulala akaxeleli wonke umntu .uyakothusa nje ..she just want you to feel guilt .

Btwa
01 Feb 2013 11:53

@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap

Btwa
01 Feb 2013 11:54

@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap

Btwa
01 Feb 2013 11:54

@Nkatsay thanx a lot u filled the gap

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 12:03

ohhh tnx Ntaksay

Bk212303
01 Feb 2013 12:21

@Btwa ok, ok, ok

Bk212303
01 Feb 2013 12:35

@All of you thank you very much vir alles you the best. Remember you the only once i told you about this secret.But on my side iam happy where i am and it turns out my frnd had a long time crush on the guy. Its just that she did not tell me about it and she led me advertise him to her and she kept quiet and she confessed to that and he also told her that i pushed him to her but anyways thank you for your comments and advises.Did i tell you you are amazing and you are OFFICIAALY my best friends ever. I smtimes wonder if i could meet some of you how would life be and im sure i will be blessed from that moment.

Cmaneo
01 Feb 2013 12:39

@ sisila tell to go on n commit suicide.anyway sorry gal.u ,ll get over this

Friend
01 Feb 2013 12:44

Dildo this is not a dating site, you won't find any luck here, are you that desperate?

Dildo01
01 Feb 2013 12:46

Reading at everyone's stories, I'm touched and it gives me hope and strength to know that I'm not the only going through pain.

Some people want to play God in a person's life, by intentionally leading that person on not realising what effects it would have on that person. They lead you to trust them, to love them knowing very well that their only intention is having no intentions with you.

I've been in a dark place over this past month and still are but I'm slowly coming out of it with learning that you cannot control people's behaviour and what they think of you is none of your business. No one is in charge of your happiness except and remember that you're great, no matter what and no one needs to tell you otherwise.

Dildo01
01 Feb 2013 12:53

@Friend, why do people always want to call it desperation? So if I was on a dating site it's not desperation just because it's meant for that?

No I'm not desperate but I don't think there's nothing wrong with trying different avenues....you never know where prince charming is at.

Don't judge me please, what's good for the geese doesn't have to be good for the gender.

Ntaksay
01 Feb 2013 12:53

Yho Dildo01 andiyazi kengoku le uyenzayo, cyber boyfriend, hayi sisi don't advertise yourself like this. Go to the mall or something. I'm sure a handsome hunk sent from heaven is waiting for you. Good luck. If the time to meet him has not come don't rush, he will come eventually.

Pleasure is all mine Goldi an Btwa

Friend
01 Feb 2013 12:55

Dildo, it shall be well with you, In no time you will be entirely out of the dark, it's life we all have been to hell and back

Dildo01
01 Feb 2013 13:01

Ja as hard as it might be, it is life, even though it's unbeilevable that a friend can put one through what my "so called friend" put me through.

Bathi don't trust amadoda, kodwa if you can't trust your friends as well who can you trust?

And I'm sorry I don't believe in loving them all but trusting no one because then what the's point of any relationship if there's no trust?

sisila
01 Feb 2013 13:01

Thank you ladies I think what made me so mad is I knew how much the guy loved her and even when she did wrong ill be the one who calm the guy down and tell him to work things out, unfortunately that went to her head and thought she can do whatever the guy will take it . But i told her to leave me out of everything she just needs to speak to her man whatever he says i am to him must believe it and if he doesnt want her back that is her fault not mine.

Friend
01 Feb 2013 13:07

Some friends are bad news, can kill you gotta be careful who you confide in, Dildo people are different you will soon find a real friend, don't give up and leave her/him to God.Some friends are happy to see you suffering so dont give them ammunition to talk about you. Concetrate on picking yourself up and forget about people who hurt you.

Friend
01 Feb 2013 13:12

Dildo01
01 Feb 2013 13:30

Thanks. :)

I think that's why a lot of ladies are single because we're too judgemental without even knowing the background or situation. I've got a friend who's happily married and met her man on mxit and she only joined it for the sole purpose of hooking up with a man as advised by her other friend. lol

Njengo Ntaksay saying got to a mall or something....Don't you think I do that, that lots of other women do that? Do you guys know that 80% of all the women you see in malls all dressed up looking gorgeous are not there to shop but to scout men out. Women go clubbing, churching, malling, sporting, babysitting, weddings, funerals, etc cause they're always on the lookout.

Can't date a man who doesn't work, who's a security, who sends pls calls, onga bheji.....or I only want ama ben 10 noma older men....

All I'm saying is that we all have our preferences and however way you look at it , any way that a woman goes the extra mile for to find that man, is desperation. But I won't call it that....cause it's not my place to judge, we all have our beliefs.

And for as long as we hold ourselves back and keep on judging we never know what doors we're closing.

Kandyfloss
01 Feb 2013 13:32

And what is wrong with being Disperate?? Jus asking?

Kandyfloss
01 Feb 2013 13:42

Isnt goin to the mall to hunt same as those sites??

Friend
01 Feb 2013 13:44

And what is wrong with being Disperate?? Jus asking?

I have apologised and was not being judgemental, all the best Dildo01.

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 13:46

my friend wanted someone to settle with and she asked him to marry her
Good for her ... about time women took the initiative ... The woman I'm in love with regrets not proposing all of last year .. when "society" thought it proper. ... Her loss of opportunity not mine.

Do you guys know that 80% of all the women you see in malls all dressed up looking gorgeous are not there to shop but to scout men out
Yes ... I know this for a fact,

Women go clubbing, churching, malling, sporting, babysitting, weddings, funerals, etc cause they're always on the lookout.
They're called Shoppers.

that a woman goes the extra mile for to find that man, is desperation.
Never the case ... only another woman could call it desperate.

And for as long as we hold ourselves back and keep on judging we never know what doors we're closing.
Suits me just fine ... they can keep closing those doors ... they're not closing them on me ... but on themselves.

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 13:53

Isnt goin to the mall to hunt same as those sites??

i don't know...
I don't care.

If I like someone ... I let her know ...
If her list of expectations exceeds my comfort ... I stop ... The reverse applies as easily.

My opinion is : EVERYONE can be married/ have someone in their lives permanently ... all they have to do is lower their standards and/or expectations and/or demands.

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:00

@Sisila
I was so angry that i cried so much since i couldnt say what was in my heart the guy fell so bad that she confronted her about the whole thing, at the end of it all they broke up now the lady is threatening to kill herself I still have not responded to any of this because I dont know what to say and why i should answer.

We don't know what was in your heart either ... it would be good to have enlightened people regarding this.

THAT SHE IS THREATENING TO KILL HERSELF ... Has nothing to do with you. THAT is none of your business ... DO NOT EXPLAIN yourself to someone who did not bother asking questions / getting the facts from you in the 1st place.

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:01

You don't owe anyone any explanation/ justification for your friendships.

Wiseman nkosi
01 Feb 2013 14:04

guys really where is ngamla

Wiseman nkosi
01 Feb 2013 14:07

guys really where is ngamla

Wiseman nkosi
01 Feb 2013 14:08

guys really where is ngamla

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:14

@Sisila ...

Did He ... or Did she delete your Pictures & Facebook entries?

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 14:34

@ Dildo darling most of da family is da femailes darling tell me hw old r u n whr u from if u dnt mind me asking?

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:38

Is Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know.

Does it matter ?

Will the information change anything in the lives of 7 billion people globally?

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 14:42

lol excuse my engrish i'm tired n its friday Vusik o grand?

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:43

I'm fine/ alright Goldi ... just between meetings

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 14:49

Ok so hw's da wedding planning coming along?

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:51

Haaibo Vusik kante wats rong with. Dis blog? Dnt u love da Gen fam anymo?

I was chased off this blog Goldi ...
also ...
We launched our Africa investments initiative ...
I don't have much time anymore for anything beyond supervising the setups(I want everything done right 1st time, so I spend most of the time with divisional heads, before we go operational ...etc.)
..
plus I am researching for a degree
..
so ... my time is very thin.

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 14:52

@Goldi ...

Ok so hw's da wedding planning coming along?

There was never a wedding on the cards .. just getting married ..
however ...

I put a sudden stop to that

MsKim
01 Feb 2013 15:28

s Operah Winfrey really a Satanist?? Does anyone know. Does it matter ? Will the information change anything in the lives of 7 billion people globally? thanks VusiK

MsKim
01 Feb 2013 15:33

i mean great answer!!!

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 15:47

'Ello MzKim !!!

MaKhuu
01 Feb 2013 16:29

A married man went to to his small house (umkwapheni) and was given a a nice prepared meal, so he said Honey is this pork???

Honey: yes

Man: no l dont eat pork

Honey: why?????

Man: we not allowed to eat pork at church

Honey: you stupid so you are allowed to do prosititution at church..... just shut up and eat that pork.

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 17:50

Lol Makhuu @ Vusik wu chased u off 4rm dis blog? Ohh I thot u were sorry ma bad :)

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 17:58

@ Vusik wu chased u off 4rm dis blog?

Old tired story ... not worth regurgitating.

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 19:21

Ohh sorry nekesare ke tsosa diletseng its cool den no worries yeh!!

VusiK
01 Feb 2013 19:28

@Goldi...
No harm done.

LeboMo7
01 Feb 2013 19:55

So... Still no word of Sibusiso's where-abouts?? Tisk tisk... Thanks a lot *straight face*

Goldi
01 Feb 2013 20:37

Evening Family eish waitsi Akhona ontena nnang *yawns* Luntu's gona make sure MJ pays 4 all he put her thru aai family politics...Kerrie okae bathong I miss her sooooo much n maqenase ena onyamalletse kae? Haai no anyways gud 9t!!

Kandyfloss
01 Feb 2013 22:18

Worst part ka Akhona ke gore she's not Caleb's blood relative. People who should be concernd arent bothered at all. O tena nna

cyny
01 Feb 2013 23:51

Akhona is so stubbon,l hate her.lol@MJ

Dildo01
02 Feb 2013 08:57

@Goldi, 29 JHB West Rand

Dildo01
02 Feb 2013 08:59

@KLandyfloss akere they all bothered by other things....Luntu wanting the shares, Mawande now feeling the freedom of being with her long lost love, the only person who seems to be bothered with carrying on with his father's legacy is MJ.

Dildo01
02 Feb 2013 09:00

Morning everyone *smile*

And today is my daughters bday, she's turning 5years old.

And I'm @ work but knocking off now, now @ 12:00

Mpho Patricia nkwinika
02 Feb 2013 16:22

Sounds interesting cnt wa8 as 4 Akhona fil sory 4 her!!

Goldi
02 Feb 2013 19:58

Hey Guys whr abt Dildo? Ohhh Happy birthday 2 lil princess hope u spoiled her mommy :) will hook up le wena ko bbm den *winks* by da way m nt a man lol

Mimibob
03 Feb 2013 22:44

My opinion is : EVERYONE can be married/ have someone in their lives permanently ... all they have to do is lower their standards and/or expectations and/or demands.

Sad truth. I've been single for the longest time. Want/need someone in my life, but unwilling to lower my standards. I'm one of those good girls people thought would marry early..
Advice I get is that I should stop being "independent" and lower my living standards, e.g. get a simple car - Which are a no-no for me.
Also that I lower my expectations/demands, and I just don't see which one to lower or forgo.. Lol.. Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for..

I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

On the flip VusiK, dont you think we can have someone no one just wants to marry or be with permanently, not because of their standards, expectations and/or demands, or anything like?

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 08:22

Lol.. Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for..

Never lower your standards ... People will ride You & take you for granted once you do because you will have altered all the power dynamics surrounding you.

Once you compromise for any reason ... you will probably live the rest of your life in compromity to accommodate your happiness ... never worth it.

I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

You are welcome ... I enjoy our banter also.

On the flip VusiK, dont you think we can have someone no one just wants to marry or be with permanently, not because of their standards, expectations and/or demands, or anything like?

NO!
Not a good idea ...
There is generally / always a reason why nobody wants or desires that person. 99% it si a social/ mental / psychotic problem / issue.

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 08:25

I'm greatful for the Gens family. Reading the blogs helps ease the loneliness, especially since I live alone.

You are not alone ... I also live alone.

steffie
04 Feb 2013 08:30

Morning all
Or maybe I havent met a single somebody im willing to lower standards for

that maybe the case, if you met someone that fits the bill to be your ideal man surely you are going to compromisesome things in other to be with him.

Ntaksay
04 Feb 2013 08:31

Good Morning

I hate Phenyo, trying to take his frastruation out on Dinny.

As for Akhona, I feel sorry for you may dear.

Goldi
04 Feb 2013 08:41

Morning Family have a wonderful week ahead mchwaaaaaa

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 08:42

that maybe the case, if you met someone that fits the bill to be your ideal man surely you are going to compromise some things in other to be with him.

You are contradicting yourself steffie ...
The ideal man will fit the standards one has for themselves ...
no compromise there

NB:
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING SINGLE
THERE IS NO PAIN IN LIVING ALONE
I have been doing it for quite a while ...
and refused to get married for much longer regardless of all pressures,
I am thankful for it.

Manicure
04 Feb 2013 08:47

a beautiful morning to u all.

steffie
04 Feb 2013 08:52

You are contradicting yourself steffie ...

If the man has qualities that defines my ideal man (provided they surpass the ones I dislike in him) I can compromise some of my expectations or/and demands to accomondate him in my space.

steffie
04 Feb 2013 08:55

I'm with you there no harm in being single sometimes is even best to fly solo. I find myself being much happier when I'm alone compared to when I'm around people, is not everyday that I want to be crowded.

makanku
04 Feb 2013 09:01

Gud morning beautiful ppl !!!!
what i wanna tell u all this morning is GOD IS GOOD. i know u know though.
love u all.

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 09:10

If the man has qualities that defines my ideal man (provided they surpass the ones I dislike in him)

You will never find anyone who is 100% what you desire ... if you do .. something is wrong either with him ... or you.

Friend
04 Feb 2013 09:15

Morning family, struggling to come to terms with our Afcon exit.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 09:22

You don't owe anyone any explanation/ justification for your friendships.

Thank you we all don't. Morning mablogers missed you.

steffie
04 Feb 2013 09:27

I know

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 09:35

Never lower your standards ... People will ride You & take you for granted once you do because you will have altered all the power dynamics surrounding you.

Once you compromise for any reason ... you will probably live the rest of your life in compromity to accommodate your happiness ... never worth it.

Say that again, heee ppl i have a problem with my hubby he does not want me to mix with my frnd cause he says the standard is too high for him and he wont mix with them what would you do in that situation.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 09:37

You will never find anyone who is 100% what you desire ... if you do .. something is wrong either with him ... or you.

So true, my frnd usually says love does not balance.

sisila
04 Feb 2013 09:55

Morning Family

@VusiK

Did He ... or Did she delete your Pictures & Facebook entries?
She deleted my pictures on his phone she asked for the phone to play a game turned out the game was delete my photo's which led to me asking why only mine and the answer was" just'' then later because she had his facebook password she went and deleted my Facebook entries,even with that the answer is 'just''.

I thank God thou that now i am ok and have manage to accept that not all people will return your good deeds some will repay your good deeds by throwing it back in your face.

Thank you aswell family for your words of encouragement, I love you all so so much.

Manicure
04 Feb 2013 10:02

comment loading...........

Goldi
04 Feb 2013 10:04

@ Bk wat is high standard wat dd dey du?

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 10:25

@Goldi my hubby wants to keep himself low cause he is being told by family members that he is a no body and does not have money. So now he is living the way they want him to. I have tried to tell him otherwise but no he refuse to listen. So now he wants me to be like him and not be friends with people who is not the same level as us. I tell him i refuse to do that cause with my friends i get advises, support etc. So if i visit like one of my frnds is a dr yhoo when i come back i know its a lecture.

Cmaneo
04 Feb 2013 10:59

Hey family

Ntaksay
04 Feb 2013 11:01

I wonder if Asanda is going to tell Akhona what has been happening
Asanda ignores Shaun's warning and pays a visit to a 'friend'

I think the friend A is going to visit is Akhona, she (A) is also looking for trouble just like Akhona.

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 11:11

She deleted my pictures on his phone she asked for the phone to play a game turned out the game was delete my photo's which led to me asking why only mine and the answer was" just''

People ... Leave your partner's communications instruments alone!!!
Make no calls, check no messages, do nothing ... leave their crap alone !!!
Whatever you find in there is YOUR FAULT !!!

then later because she had his facebook password she went and deleted my Facebook entries,even with that the answer is 'just''.
That's his fault also ... he may have been considering it trustful ...
HIS Fault

BK ... You don't owe either of them anything .. Live & Move on past their drama ... it is not your drama!

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 11:12

... sorry Meant for Sisila...

MaKhuu
04 Feb 2013 11:13

February the month we celebrate love so happy Valentine everybody!!!!!

if you don hev a valentine don worry because its not like everyone has Aids on Aids Day.....

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 11:15

@BK ... It is called an inferiority complex.

It has been hammered into him for so long that he believes that he is less than adequate ...
You could be in trouble if ever he makes a lot of money (be it through his efforts .. or pure luck) ... those with inferiority complexes over-compensate when the pendulum swings to the opposite.

yoyozz
04 Feb 2013 11:17

shaim sisila now your friend is single im worried about ur friendship nojongana njani i think ur friendship will no longer be the same and its hard to find a caring friend. i dnt want to lie if ndingabona i pix zenye intombi fownini yomntu wam nam andinothanda kunzima uthemba umntu the only way your friend must introduce you to his girlfriend if niyaphuma niyotya somewhr nihambe nonke dnt be angry just try to understand and take you into that girl shoes if ibinguwe ubuzothini not everyone is kind like you. ezinye i friendship ziphela sekuthandwana.

BK shaim this is too much you need the privacy just you and your husby only. nyamezela iyafika i 15 but i like that u are not buying ama 100% umyeni makathenge

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 11:17

@BK .. He lectures at you because he has some power (however little) in your relationship ...
Sorry ... It's just the facts , per the little information I can glean from you.

Goldi
04 Feb 2013 11:25

@ BK hahahahah haai Hubby is over reacting hao he jst leave life maan n pay no attention gore batho or rada family bareng ka ena tjoooo YOLO

spanchi
04 Feb 2013 11:30

Bachelors think that married men are lucky. . Married men think that Bachelors are lucky. . The point is that Bachelors think at night... & Married think at day time.

Deemo
04 Feb 2013 11:31

hello gud pple ,thank you for caring,im nw feeling better,as u can see im blogging again.above all its the lord's mercy that im well.have a gud day and be blessed abundantly.

steffie
04 Feb 2013 11:39

@BK you hubby sufers from low self esteem, he wanna drag you along in his hole. His sub-concious mind always tells him that he is not good enough that why he behaves in this way, psychological help maybe good if not desirable.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:03

You could be in trouble if ever he makes a lot of money .

@VusiK hey you are so right about this one and for now he does not have power.
He just lectures and i ignore and tell him to get over it. This man used to cheat and i always forgave him over and over again and i dont know my love for him is still stronger. But im always supportive and make him look good to other and even his family but in the end i get nothing"but i still love him why is that?" yhoo sometimes i tell him that he was sent to destroy me. But he will never succeed cause i wont let him. To be honest its just that im blinded by love and i cant imagine my son with another father. I have always been the good grlfriend who is honest and support both of them but in return i always cry. Love yes still love him and i dont know if im ok or not cause he has done alot and would cry if i would list it.
Now we married he still wants to choose frnds for me not rich cause he never went to school and i did now my question is must i sufer for that.

Its not like i had it easy no it was not easy for me. I also grew up without parents(still alive) but i was adopted and i suffered but told myself i will bare because i wanted education. I got through ukunyamezela and knew what i wanted but now i get this. Look ppl we are being judged nakwi friendship ppl we mix with. What will you gain if you mix with ppl who is not interested in the same (more or less) things you want. If my goal is to be a somebody why would i mix with a group that wants nothing to do with my goal.

@VusiK just because he was like hammered with it why cant he c that it is not true and i tried showing him otherwise no.... I was also told that i would be a no one and u know moss u grow up and uget to meet meet ppl withdifferent views. I could c i was living a lie and i prayed and made a life for myself.

One of my frnds bought a car and i could c my man did not like this. I would gloot and go on about this car but i get negative response. He wont even take a ride in the car, he prefers to walk. Isnt this jelousy ppl or am i being parenoid. I think he does not want me to mix with this frnd cause he knows i have been planning to by my own.and if i buy it i would be digging a hole for him.

Advises family come throw at me ppplees i dont know mna i want to keep my frnds cause i know they are good ppls.They have been with me when he was cheating on me they were supporting me and never judged me. The advises i got from them was "grl i cannot tell you what to do with your life it is your choice and i can just support you'in the end it is you who will take the steps when iemele igcwele and when that happpens you wont ask for advise u wil do actions" Family that is my best frend's words to me.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:06

He lectures at you because he has some power (however little) in your relationship ...
Sorry ... It's just the facts , per the little information I can glean from you.

@Vusik thanx for being honest and i hate to say you right cause u are. The only power he has over me is he knows i love him too much and thats it nothing else. Not money cause im a hard worker. I dont sleep if im not working i make a plan like business etc.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:23

I always pray to God, to please change the way he thinks cause he wont go anywhere with a negative mind.

We were planning me and myf to take both our man to an outing end of year.
We went 01/01/213 to Robertson,Montagu Springs valley and it was lovely there so we were planning to go there again but with only hubbs no kids.Cause my one was working that day so he did not go with us but he could c the pics we took there it was good and relaxing.

So i tell him this idea and he freaked out and said he is not going he does not fit.
Soorry for the language i told him to go to helllll im taking my son there to keep me company. I told him its fine i will sweem with my son till night comes and its nice there, the water is warm and my son enjoys swimming.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:25

@FAMILY hayi where is everyone im i the only one chatting.
Yhoo i speak to myself here

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:40

U must stop with this whatups i dont like it..........varararararvara "my hubby words"
He thinks he is my father ppl this is not on at all its just that i always stand up to imagine.

Woman stand up who ever is going through what im going through dont ever let him walk over you stand up and fight cause i am. Same with man but its "rare"hahh i have to deal with his family and then its him yhoo they wont suceed cause i have a "SHEILD" MY God he always takes a cover for me.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 12:41

Still alleen waar is di mense vandag?

Kandyfloss
04 Feb 2013 12:58

Hayi Bk.. your hubby got real issues. Sorry to say it but Nawe Futhi you do have issues otherwise you would have not married him in the first place.

NoMdazB
04 Feb 2013 13:05

Not alone nana, just trying to find the right words of encouragement. Will PM you later.

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 13:09

@Kandy its love that is why i said he does things and i still love him.
I also asked if there is maybe something rong with me caus i dont understand this.

Goldi
04 Feb 2013 13:20

@BK u need to tell ur hubby hw u feel he mst nt treat u like u 2 but anywuu u teach a prsn hw to treat u myb he's been doing it for da past yrs n u used to obey him so he daznt c anything rong cos u let him ova da yrs so it's time u make him stop gal dis is not healthy dodo

Deemo glad to hear dat

Friend
04 Feb 2013 13:44

BK Tjoo, your hubby and his control issues. maybe you guys should go for counselling, he is selfish instead of appreciating an intelligent,hard working wife he has hez busy bitching around Mxm, he failed himself and must pick himself and be a somebody if he feels worthless.

Ntaksay
04 Feb 2013 13:48

Soooooooo busy today, I haven't read everthing but I can see Bk is alone in the house today. Keep the house warm Bk. We'll join u now and then.

Bye for now.

zdwesha
04 Feb 2013 14:03

hala nothing much to say im so buzy just wanna say i miss u

MaKhuu
04 Feb 2013 14:13

Noluntu hardly forgives she said she hates Senzo and doesnt want anything to do with the baby and she iz sticking to her words

now she said she hates MJ, l will just wait to see how it ends...

Ntaksay
04 Feb 2013 14:24

I think she will forgive MJ even if it takes 30 years, hatred runs in Memela veins. It is in their blood forgiving takes time bt they do forgive at the end. Take Wandi and Motha as an example.

Riyat
04 Feb 2013 14:29

Hie family gud to see u r keeping the fire burning. I've been so busy to blog. I always read ur comments especially when I can't sleep at night.

makanku
04 Feb 2013 14:43

@Bk, i didnt want 2 comment/advice on ur problem cause im too emotional when it comes to these things but since the house is so quiet i'll say sumthing.
ok. its love, i've bn in love too, swallowing whatever junk he-whoever im dating at that moment-shoves down my throat, all in the name of love....!!!

i'm in a situation thats almost the same as yours but the diff is i stoped loving my hubby @ 1 point & he knew it.we tried 2 patch things up but it neva went back 2 normal.with that he stopped walking all over me like he used 2 when i was madly in love with him.like u, i have better education than him so there is a low self esteem issue somewhere in him but i refuse refuse refused 4 being punished just bcos ngifundile (sori 2 put it this way), no. at the beginning of the relationship i did my best 2 make him not feel threatened by my qualifications but unfortunately i cant build his self confidence 4 him & i refused 2 b the victim of his low self esteem.

makanku
04 Feb 2013 14:55

BK, one of the things that helped me to deal with his emotional abuse was 2 stop being emotionaly dependent upon him, i also stopped expecting anything from him, compliments, hugs, kisses, 'i love u's'..anything.i just stopped. 2 me he became just a roommate i didnt care about...yes it was a wrong approach but i was looking out for myself and it helped. istoped nagging him and i tried to find myself, the woman i am and i healed but became a fighter....so he sensed that he lost me somehow and got scared cuase he neva thought i could stop loving him.

2day we r ok, happy in fact but im trying my best 2 make my happiness my responsibility not his.
anyway im just sharing sisi, nothing else, i hope u will find a solution/good advice soon.

Goldi
04 Feb 2013 15:10

Miss u 2 sdwesha pls come back it's been long

Bk212303
04 Feb 2013 15:54

@Makanku thanx for sharing. Yeyi yr situation is exactly like mine and i feel much better to know that someone else knows how i feel. The roommate part same here at the moment cause i dont have that ..... for him but i think deep down he can see that.

That is why i go out and enjoy myself with my son. What he hates about me is the fact that im independent, i dont ask him for his money he has to force me to take cause i told him that if he wants out he must just say im just so tired of fighting his battles and i get nothing in return only heart ache.

@Ntaksay yes i c im all alone today.
@Goldi talking does not help for him at the moment im doing actions.

Hee forgot to say tata decided to call both his daughters without telling me or hubby.He just phone me to say he is going to the bus stop to get them, and the time was 18:30 so they come and i wasnt aware moss so i told them that next time you decide to come to my house you phone me so that i make arrangements for you. I mean how can you just bugge like that and so 1 of them said she was not sure if she is coming i said its fine but you will just eat what i have now. I moss cooked samp and beans and tata does not like it at all and i like what he does not like.hahahah. The sunday i woke up 6 an made porridge for tata and went to his room told them(daughters) iam very busy as it is the beginning of the year so im 1st going to the office, stockfela, masingcwaba i made a list and i told i wont be available for the whole day, my cell will be off too and i bought 2loaves of bread and 7oclock i left them and i said to tata im living you with cc and i could c he is pissed off. I left and came back at night 19:45 and everyone were gone and tata just looks at me and i smiled HEY when is this 15th coming it taking for ever im a fake now cause this is not me........

makanku
04 Feb 2013 16:21

u welcome BK.im so happy that u've stopped being too nice on your in-laws. they sumtimes take advantage of our kindness.

semtho
04 Feb 2013 16:23

Hey mabloggers love u all to bits, glad i joined this group. @BK ur situation is difficult, dont where to start but BE URSELF GAL, DONT LET ANYONE CHANGE U OR CHANGE WHAT U BELIEVE IN. Engikushoyo lesicathulo sakho siyashisa.

But mine i wouldnt agree on staying with lo tata lo, but the things we do for love sometimes cc. Mine i have two boys(6yrs and the other is 3yrs), my inlaws brought hubbys brother ukutsi he must come stay with us whilst attending skul arnd coz they thot there is no education in the bundus. Uyabo i didnot like it and i was so angry coz i knew that they wont contribute a cent to skul fees once he comes stay with us which even today they dont pay a cent. We fork out the money and do everyting for him. But now i have accepted it not that i didn't want him to come along but its just that its costly ukuhlala nomuntu. We do all this in the name of LOVE..............

NonkyNonky
04 Feb 2013 16:28

Looks like we ladies have similar problems. Kante what's the problem with our husbands. We need to pray harder ladies.

Ntaksay
04 Feb 2013 16:32

Be strong BK

Tomorrow I promise you won't be lonely I'll help you and read all the comments that I've missed today.

Love you all. Bye

Riyat
04 Feb 2013 16:37

BK I remember the 1st time you posted your problem here. When you talk of February it seems as if it was far away but look now its already here. In Malawi we have a say (nguluwe inalila msampha utaning'a) its about a fox that was caught in a trap. It cried just before it got itself out. What am trying to say is that you've been patience for a long time and soon it will be over. May God reward you accordingly for the good job you have done. He is the only one who knows the good job you have done.

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 18:52

@VusiK hey you are so right about this one and for now he does not have power.
He just lectures and i ignore and tell him to get over it. This man used to cheat and i always forgave him over and over again and i dont know my love for him is still stronger. But im always supportive and make him look good to other and even his family but in the end i get nothing"but i still love him why is that?"

Because Love is a complication, it is almost impossible to undertand it. It has as many effects on eople as there are who are affected by it.

yhoo sometimes i tell him that he was sent to destroy me.

You might be right ... Ever heard of the Oposites attract paradigm ... the same paradigm sometimes is called a nullification paradigm.

But he will never succeed cause i wont let him. To be honest its just that im blinded by love and i cant imagine my son with another father.

That is where the source of your frustration really is ... it is not with the choices you are in control of .. but in those you feel you have no control over.

I have always been the good grlfriend who is honest and support both of them but in return i always cry. Love yes still love him and i dont know if im ok or not cause he has done alot and would cry if i would list it.

I suggest ... Don't keep lists ... they imprison you.

Now we married he still wants to choose frnds for me not rich cause he never went to school and i did now my question is must i sufer for that.

Well .. Marriage creates the illusion of possession ... possession is sometimes considered to be power.

Its not like i had it easy no it was not easy for me. I also grew up without parents(still alive) but i was adopted and i suffered but told myself i will bare because i wanted education. I got through ukunyamezela and knew what i wanted but now i get this.

Those who raised you are your arents ... biology is often not everything.

Look ppl we are being judged nakwi friendship ppl we mix with. What will you gain if you mix with ppl who is not interested in the same (more or less) things you want. If my goal is to be a somebody why would i mix with a group that wants nothing to do with my goal.

True .. but Love nullifies and contradicts this in your case ... also imrisons you.

@VusiK just because he was like hammered with it why cant he c that it is not true and i tried showing him otherwise no.... I was also told that i would be a no one and u know moss u grow up and uget to meet meet ppl withdifferent views. I could c i was living a lie and i prayed and made a life for myself.

This happens everywhere ... there are still many brown people who believe themselves inferior to pink and grey people by default. Genetic knowledge also comes into lay depending on the inherited fundamental IQ, the various threshholds 7 waypoints that were critical in develoing him into who he is today. (Believe it or not, if he had a mentor/ intervenor at a critical point in his develoment who could have helped him alter his development & opinion about himself & his environment ... he would be radically different from the person you know ... In his case, i think he developed not only oppressed, but highly repressed).

One of my frnds bought a car and i could c my man did not like this. I would gloot and go on about this car but i get negative response. He wont even take a ride in the car, he prefers to walk. Isnt this jelousy ppl or am i being parenoid. I think he does not want me to mix with this frnd cause he knows i have been planning to by my own.and if i buy it i would be digging a hole for him.

See comment above, you are simply speaking of the manifestation of what is defined herein above.

Advises family come throw at me ppplees i dont know mna i want to keep my frnds cause i know they are good ppls.They have been with me when he was cheating on me they were supporting me and never judged me. The advises i got from them was "grl i cannot tell you what to do with your life it is your choice and i can just support you'in the end it is you who will take the steps when iemele igcwele and when that happpens you wont ask for advise u wil do actions" Family that is my best frend's words to me.
That's what friends and family are all about ... to be your support structure

Riyat
04 Feb 2013 19:42

Some people(Vusik) can type yho! (((Hides)))

NoMdazB
04 Feb 2013 21:17

Amen to that@Riyat (((typing this while hiding in the jungles of Brazil))). I used to think I knew the secret to a happy marriage and it turned out I was wrong. All I know is we chose our husbands for a reason, they were the ones who fulfilled our needs the best. How do we know that what is out there is better?

Mimibob
04 Feb 2013 22:27

Lol.. @ Riyat and NomD, I actually hadn't noticed the post was that long until u mentioned and had to go back n check.. Was just enyoying the read.

BK, I'm at loss for words. If u were not married to that guy, I'd say walk! That's no healthy relationship. I think you both need councelling.
Haven't been in love for a very long time, maybe I've forgotten how crazy we get when in love. At present and for some time now, I think with my head and not my heart, and take no non-sense from anyone. I'm not rude or anything, just firm and will not tolerate any form of abuse - emotional or otherwise.

All the best in your marriage dear.

VusiK
04 Feb 2013 22:56

I did not type all of the response ... only my responses ...
but what point is there in incomplete answers ...
Goodnight
I'll type less in the future.

Mimibob
04 Feb 2013 23:51

Lol Malome Vusi.. I don't think the ladies were complaining, just observations. No need to type less. :) Goodnight.

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 07:46

Good Morning mmmm I can't wait 2 hear hw Phenyo's gona defend himsel ku Dinny after Sello's visit haai Akhona irritates me shame I wonder wat ws in dat doc dat MJ 4gt @ tsalanang dat landed in Sello's hands....

sisila
05 Feb 2013 08:07

Morning people @VusiK i like the fact when you advice a person you really go into detail you put yourself in it keep it up. People like you are people I have grown to love used to be the hide all inside person and that has destroyed me big time attempted suicide twice but since i learned to speak out i never go that far. @ Bk my dad was exactly like your husband and mom stayed 26years with him but because a leopard never changes its spots she got tired today she has a very beautiful house she built for herself she goes to cpt,durban wherever her hearts wants to go she only visits him when she feels like yes she never got another father for us he is still our father she just moved and left him with everything they had together and to tell you even today after 15years we left the house is still exactly as mama left it because he wants people to feel pity for him unfortunately i never danced to his tune the minute he starts with his sob stories i take my bag and leave.

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 08:08

A very good Morning to you all!!!!

MJ, business is no game for children, look what's you've done now.

Hayi uSello kanti unjani even Phenyo did not see that one coming, shame Dinny I feel for you.

Sofia is a witch, why is she doing this to Queen and Rob, now she made the old man choose Btwn his family and his lovely Queen, never a good idea.

Akhona never learns, why is she still after Sello. I thought she had learnt her lesson but she just wants more trouble, mxm

steffie
05 Feb 2013 08:38

A very good morning peeps
I must admit I enjoy the advices in this blog, keep up the good work all of you and be blessed.

B2G: Sello knows how to destroy, that man is bad news period. MJ really see now that business is not pap and vleis but is good to start at the bottom.
Rob is in love hey to choose Queen over his family quite impressive.

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 08:40

@Family thank you very much for all your advises. I am feeling much better because i spoke and i got responses. It heals when you put your problem on the table and be heard. It is out now and yes i have been keeping it for a long time inside. I wont let the devil take control of me.

VUSIK , VUSIK VUSIK. I dont have words for you all i can say is keep it up.
The way you respond wow!! No one is complaining about the way you respond it is just so interesting it makes me want to read on and on. You make it so clear and understandable. You good i must say.

It is official my hubby said last night hayi utata is only living 24th of feb and i just looked at him and i said why not month end. God is with me all the way and He will guide me and hide. Most of all i ask Him to give me patience.

Thank you to all of you family, i dont even have a chance to watch gen cause im always busy. God bless you all with your families including Gen family. May he keep us all and guide us and give us the right words to comfort each other.

BIG UP MABLOGER!!!!!!!!!

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 08:42

@Sisila, BK, Stef, et al.,
Shucks!!!!
Thanks... you just made it worth my effort.

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 08:53

You are in a party with yo friends, airtimeless, you want to tel yo partner that u will be late, then u borrow your friends phone, when u dial a number it shows "love", when he/she answers the phone "hi love you can come akeko" Be honest ungenzanjani? Responses plz!!!

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 08:59

@BK ...
LMAO ...
Run !!!

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 09:00

... unless you're into the "sharing is caring" genre

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 09:03

... but run gracefully ...
when it is like that ...
there is no point in being ugly
there is no way you could possibly win ...
so exit with a smile

duckie
05 Feb 2013 09:04

i ll ask maf ukuth angukhaphe endlini , pretendin siyolanda smethn , thn snd a msg usin ma frnd's phn sayin m outsyd......thn action

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 09:17

@ BK i'll say i'm on ma way....then ((((BOOM)))) wen he opens da door guess wu :) den da games begin hiihihihihi

caro
05 Feb 2013 09:41

morning generations family , your stories,(dont have the correct word) advices, you guys are friends worth keeping, i feel so lucky to have all fo ya in ma life ,may the good Lord keep you safe.
....MALUME VUSIK thank you for realising we are nothing without your comforting nature, your presence is much appreciated , wish you can stay longer.

@ BK eish tough one hey... ... but honestly i will just admit defeat and safe myself from misery, i mean even if they breakup chances that he will get someone else are sky high..
Its not easy for a woman knowing that wen ur out there is forever AFCON on your BED ...yelle!!!!!!!!!!! What a waste

steffie
05 Feb 2013 09:42

@BK the chickens can come to roast

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 10:03

@caro we are also lucky to have you as part of this lovely family.

Ppl im looking for Chinx where is she?
@Goldi hee
@duckie what action

BK to be honest my intestine will start boiling and then take the phone with me to my house and then make a call again make sure that he knows i know and after that i walk out and have funn somma till next day and come back no talking nothing............ u can compare to ice cause i will be very cold.

HAHAHH ive that for years and it never helps but i did that anyway.
I remember when i cought him doing the did and he was busy on top and i just walked in and i looked at him and i grabed a stailess steel pan and i was about to smash them and i just threw the pan on the floor and i said you deserve each other and you not even worth it, i wont waste my energy on crap like the 2 of you and i walked out. You some men!!!!

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 10:09

Hey Caro
:-)
My time is almost non-existent hey ...
I only drop by when it allows,
I only comment & attend to something that captures my attention.

steffie
05 Feb 2013 10:10

You seem to have gone through alot with this man @BK

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 10:23

I remember when i cought him doing the did and he was busy on top and i just walked in and i looked at him and i grabed a stailess steel pan and i was about to smash them and i just threw the pan on the floor and i said you deserve each other and you not even worth it, i wont waste my energy on crap like the 2 of you and i walked out. You some men!!!!

I suppose I'd do the same.

I prefer to let cheats have each other and walk ...
I am often happiest when I am not involved ...

I can't stomach liars, and I fall for liars a little too often

The sex is often awesome, but a liar is always going to be a liar.

... so I tend to remain and trust until the patterns begin to change ...
Thereafter ...
it is a matter of time before they expose themselves ...
In the interim ...
i enjoy the awesome sex and invest less of me by the day.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 10:28

In the interim ...
i enjoy the awesome sex

...
selfishly ...
for me & my pleasure & exclusive satisfaction (intimacy will have stopped & died the instant I discover I'm being violated)

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 10:49

My only suggestion for anyone contemplating cheating on their spouse /Partner ...
...
Don't start, it is not worth it.
(Most cheated on partners know they are being cheated on... at some point)
...
it is 2013 ...
You are guaranteed to lose if you are a cheat.

caro
05 Feb 2013 10:50

@BK eish joe uv been thru a lot.. so where is the guy????? ke ra HIM who cheated on you????

Friend
05 Feb 2013 11:03

Morning family, loving the advises and all, great job. Queen better not dissappoint Rob bathong.

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 11:19

Hayi BK in this case I really don't know what I would do.

'MJ gives the proxy of his shares away' I hope it's not Sello

NoMdazB
05 Feb 2013 11:23

Morning all.Morning Bhut' Vusi. Besidlala nje kuphela.
When you have a detailed problem like Bk does you need someone who will make sense of all your madness and really advise you. Oo Ag shame bethu just aren't enough sometimes. Keep up trhe good work guys. It seems we all have more problems than solutions.

Friend
05 Feb 2013 11:23

BK i would dump the bastard and move on with my dignity intact.

Manicure
05 Feb 2013 11:25

BK bathong (claps once) o nale sebete waitse, this is tooooooooooo much.

Riyat
05 Feb 2013 11:34

Its not yet 12 so good morning will do no harm.

makanku
05 Feb 2013 11:35

@BK , sisi ay u've been thru hell ngamadoda and u don't deserve all this but they say bad things happen to good people, maybe its true....bad things used to happen to me while i was good but now that i can be baaaad if needs be, i dont get anymore nonsense.

pray sisi cos uyalimala ngaphakathi.may God help u
we love u, always

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 11:36

@VusiK u always have the right words for me i must say.

The cheater ppl is my one and only HUSBAND.
and i know once a cheater and always........

@VusiK
selfishly ...
for me & my pleasure & exclusive satisfaction (intimacy will have stopped & died the instant I discover I'm being violated)

God has made me this person i am. Hey at 1st i used to get flashes of the up and down and i would get angry and push him away and he never understood why i did that and i always tell him you managed to change me in to this i dont know what to call it. I mean ladies if you look at my situation hayi its arbnomal some of the grls would have different views. But i dont wish to anyone to go through what i went through yhoo its difficult and its destroyed everything i believed in.

Now its 2013, hayke for me it is the begining of new things cause i dont take *bleep!* from no one. If i want to go somewhere i just tell and i leave i dont ask ppl anymore and when he ask i tell him i learned from the best i learned from u(w.houston if u stil remember) and he keeps quiet cause he knows he is guilt.

Nongo
05 Feb 2013 11:40

morning family, big sisters, auntizos, cousins le balekane baka.
yho Canadians mathat kamoka, 2day they say do this u do if u fail kamso ke ntho ena a kesa tseba ke bona gole botoka go nna fela mo hae ke ja white star le my family.
Bk u've seen it all my dear but u managed, big hats 2 u as 4 me ga ke tsebe ka nnete, aooooo basadi

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 11:48

@NomdazB Agreed, yes we need ppl like VUSIK hey he gives like it is like or not thats what i like. Not that im saying that others arent good every comment counts we are not the same and ke that makes it interesting.

@Friend i have thought about that several times but the bucket is not full yet for me mna i forgive but i know i dont forget and im very good at pretending even my friends know me they sometimes say Bongi we know this is yr thing then im just myself. When ligcwele ibucket i promise you there wont be talking only actions but dont know when is that time cause im gonna be 13 years with this man.

Even my 8year old son knows me and he can c alles but i keep on pretending im ok but i can c uba he knows his mommy is not ok. Even when he would cheat and when i confrant he would beat the hell out of me and this particular day i saw my son coming towards me and he was screaming for his mommy i stood up and i made as if nothing was happening and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u....................................................................................................................................

Friend
05 Feb 2013 11:54

BK you know some men take us for granted and dont respect us, your man! Tjeer, not saying mine is a saint, the thing is I have never suspected of cheating. and has never done anything along those lines I know of. Maybe it's because he is mature and has done and seen it all before settling down. some cheats do change for the best, talking from experience. Hope your hubby grows up and start respecting himself.

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 11:57

I must say BK you have a lot of experience in life and mor on relatioship. Is the person you caught on top of someone your hubby or was it a previous b/f.
You have been through a lot sisi. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But wena you are STRONGEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 12:08

Yho BK kanti uyakubetha nokubetha, if it's love that makes you stay in that relationship. Then love really is blind. You are being abused by him and his family, where are you going to find happines. I can take emotional abuse but physical infront of a child. This is not only going to destroy you but your child as well. He needs to appreciate you now, he has put you through enough. He has to stop, sereously

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 12:12

BK maybe you should hook your husband with malume VusiK so that he can show him how to treat a woman. I don't mean this in a bad way. But if he talk to somene who can make him see the light at the end of the tunne, that may help him.

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 12:13

@Ntaksay I caught my hubby but were still grfrnd and boyf in 2011 on top of grl or should i say another cheater. Guys my hubby and my boyfriend is the same men im with now. Forgiven and moving on to the next hit but i must say i dont know for how long, but im sure u wont be shocked when i say im single when the time comes, u will all be relieved.

I am stronger that ever guys.@Friend i sometimes speak to my hubby i tell him buti sort yourself cause when im done i will be done and he says iam his and i will never leave him i just glims at himm ppl i know that time will come and i know i said til death do us apart but not in this marriage cause i dont think i can handle it if i would again c or hear anything about him and grls.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 12:15

Now its 2013, hayke for me it is the begining of new things cause i dont take *bleep!* from no one. If i want to go somewhere i just tell and i leave i dont ask ppl anymore and when he ask i tell him i learned from the best i learned from u(w.houston if u stil remember) and he keeps quiet cause he knows he is guilt.

Yes, It is 2013.

... and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u

Isn't that simply precious !?!
Children can be sooooo incredibly giving !!!

Also ... it is also very possible that a fair amount of your husband's maltreatment of you is guilt ... now that more details are emerging ...

It is possible that he wishes to treat you in such a bad light to entice an ugly reaction ... for some people, an ugly response to their ugly way is something only they can understand and use to reconcile with their not being good people in the 1st place.

It would make him feel good if you lashed out in anger or resentment, you only make him feel terrible inside by being gracious.

sisila
05 Feb 2013 12:20

@Bk you really need to put an end to this you act exactly as my mom she would be beaten and i would be rubbing her with tears in my eyes until i told her enough now i cant take it anymore i dont want to be motherless eventhou my dad still blames me for making mom leave him im glad cos now i stay in another province but im always at peace knowing she is safe. Their relationship made me miss out of my teen years i always wanted to be at home incase he start hitting so that i can open a door for her to excape but i have learned to accept it for your kid please consider what it does its not easy and it only creates future problems. I grew up hating men and wanted nothing to do with them, even my first boyfriend suffered cos i use to abuse him emotionally,until a friend who was close to us suggested for me to seek help.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 12:21

Guilt is an extremely toxic space to have living inside a person.
It desires more toxicity to survive.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 12:25

I grew up hating men

Many people walking around like that Sisila ... (the opposite applies)
Only though realising the problem can one seek to improve oneself, and move past the damage ..
and only then can one heal ...
and only then can one live...
and only then can one even start trying to be happy.

Nongo
05 Feb 2013 12:33

BK wat u going thru is 2much cc. i respect my kids that much i don want them 2c any fights btwn us i always ensure they are out when i hv 2 confrot him. my mom had the same situation until 1 day when my bros en i he was drunk en we knew all hell will break loose, we beat him that day black en blue with watever we could lay our hands on en being in the army compound the younger one blew a whistle immediately he was whisked into the van en spent a nite in police cell. the following day we had a family gatehering that his kids beat him ga bana maitseo 1ques was asked hw can all ur kids beat u madala en he had no ans en from that day he will just shout at mom that u want to send ur kids 2 beat me akere.
so cc Bk keep praying 4 this 2013 a year of Restoration he will find his way end treat u like a husband shud, giving u all the LOVE.

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 12:35

When you decided that enough is enough, make sure he is not around when you leave, ndiyamoyika he might even kill if he keeps saying you are HIS

Friend
05 Feb 2013 12:38

As much as I want BK to leave her abusive hubby, they say it's easier said than done, especially when you are not in that situation. I pray that he doesn't beat her to death, my friends Sis was beaten to death by her hubby, the man who once loved her, the mother of his kids ,the woman who bought them a home and car, the woman who loved and continued to respect him, she loved him to death, it's sad....

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 12:41

Wow Vusik Vusik hey where are a u? Wow hayi hayi i clap hands what do u do.

You are so right cause when i do good with that man, yhoooooooo i think im sitting with a big problem in my hands.

The last time he hit me was 2011 and that day im sure he was planning to kill us both me and my son. Cause he hit me at night and i ran with my boy and we hid in my frnd's house and the next day at about 13:00 during the day i walked of my frnd's house thinking maybe he is at the house and turned out he was sitting behind the yard so we could not c him and he just dragged us from behind taking us back to our house and he closed the doors an he took a knife out and we sat and waited and ppl i had to be nice all times if i c its not walking i change tone yeyi i was praying tinking of my son all time and he just stopped and open the door for my son and he apologied as he could c i was praying but didnt cry cause if i cry yhooo he starts to shout and i was scared of the action part but anyway. The physical abuse passed that day and he never again did any of those things(I THINK GOD TOOK OVER THERE) about the cheating i still never saw,heard, suspicion or anything like that, but we are working on the trust cause i dont trust him at all.

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. VusiK u have something good wena and if you would open your maybe... to counsel or something wow i

Anyways enough about me and my ....... life I need something possitive now anyone!!!!

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 12:41

@ BK i'm sure if dis is LOVE or it's LOW SELFESTEEM

Yhoo!! you've been thru a lot with ur hubby i must say i wud have left hes ass long ago specially after seeing him doing da dance with anada cheater mmmm i guess it's true wen dey say love is blind kannete

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 12:44

@Ntaksay im not scared anymore ive passed that stage and he knows it.
Im like a bull now im stronger and i tell straight in the eye. I cant say when is enough i dont know time will tell and im not the cheating type cause mybe if i was i would have left long time.

zdwesha
05 Feb 2013 12:45

no comments im living in dark city

to all of u guys u r all awesome may god bless you n stay strong

bk leave that man for your sons sake or else he will grow up thinking abusing women is ok

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 12:51

im not the cheating type cause mybe if i was i would have left long time Not that im saying only cheaters wont take this *bleep!* even normal ppl but its just that we are different. Some of us take this nonsense.

Nongo
05 Feb 2013 12:54

Not that im saying only cheaters wont take this *bleep!* even normal ppl but its just that we are different. Some of us take this nonsense.
-------------
u are rite neh.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 12:54

@BK
Wow Vusik Vusik hey where are a u? Wow hayi hayi i clap hands what do u do.

I'm in Mzantsi
(I have a house in North JHB & Pretoria & Durban ... but I am a Pretoria native) ... until winter, then I'm off to sunnier warmer climes.
I prefer my place in Malta and Singapore to any other place other than here.

I work hardly / hardly work :-)...
I run a multinational investment firm.
Most of the time ...
I build organizations and provide solutions to my organizations & some very old clients/ friends.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 12:55

u have something good wena and if you would open your maybe... to counsel or something wow i

No thank you ... I'll pass on your suggestion.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:00

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.

You are very welcome!
You are sincere about your pain.
It merits all the help we can suggest.
...
But the decision regarding what to do belongs to you.

Cmaneo
05 Feb 2013 13:00

You are a strongest family ever.lov u all

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:01

... please eliminate the But in my last comment

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 13:03

@Zdwesha true but i ask God each and every day when i pray with my son i tell him to pray for his father cause i know he loves his father. I tell him to ask GOD to change him and since we have been doing that my son believes that GOD has changed his father. I remember when the last we were locked my son said mama when is this GOD going to answer we have been praying but utata usakubetha so
his father heard all of this i dont know if that also changed the abuse.

My son is a very loving and caring boy and im so lucky that God gave me him.
He has actually sent an angel straight to me and for that im thankfull.
A boy who understands if his mom says no i dont have money now but when i have u will get if its appropriate. A boy who says mama thank even if i buy him something small but he smiles and says Enkosi wow. Its a book ppl

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 13:05

@Bk u not a cheating type kannete cos if u were u wud have done ur revenge with ur 4rnds hubby hihihihihi agg u r tough shem.....u r ryt we r not da same u have a Golden Heart wat doesnt kill u makes u stronger i believe it daz s u jst said u r stronger nw

makanku
05 Feb 2013 13:07

@BK, sisi ayi kabi but this is too much, kanti yini bantu ngalomuntu wakho? 1 question i have 4 u, is it worth the wait ukuthi kugcwale ibucket b4 u give him whatever is coming his way? this is affecting your kids 4 gudnes sake. dont take me wrong but the sooner u do sumthing...whatever it is...the better 4 u & ur kids.put a stop on this, only u can. we can advise, comfort, support u but at the end of the day ur future is in your hands, decide and take action. where did u get ur thick blood from?aw.

malume Vusi siyabonga for your wise words, u seem capable of making sence in our complicated situation even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:08

i was praying but didnt cry
..
You nullified his power by not crying, or doing anything that would extend the reach of that power over you.

Bullies, physical abusers, rapists, and ALL criminals (sadly .. also organized religion) rely on one thing and only one thing to influence events in their favour / as they wish .. FEAR

Once the fear is eliminated ... they have absolutely no power over anyone ... ever !!

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 13:09

@VusiK ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?
then we are so lucky to have you in this family. Its like you are a busy man neh.
what kind of organisation do you build?

Yes it all comes back to to me. Thank you all

Positive stuff come on ppl

makanku
05 Feb 2013 13:11

BK,dont take my scolding u the wrong way, u r my sister & i hate it if 1 of us is being ill-treated njengawe..like i said izolo i've been there once but i fought like a mad person, fight fight fight and dont stop fighting until he treats u like a princess u r

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:12

even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol

Ungesabi Mntakwethu ... asifundanga ngokulingana , nangokufana ...
Ngiyaxolisa uma ngikudukisa ngesinye isikhathi ngalesingisi, kodwa, yiso esaziwa yizo izizwe ezifunda nathi la' !

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:23

@VusiK ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?

I don't think I could survive hearing people's traumas daily.
... especially when they are in clear and present danger, and ignore the signs, and the inevitable happens.
People are very difficult ... they often know what is possibly better for them but seldom take the leap to grab it ... I would love faith.

Its like you are a busy man neh
I take it all in good stride .. I work 20 hours a day ... so ... a few hours is no harm

what kind of organisation do you build?
Mainly international business organizations
...mainly investment firms &
...Private Equity firms &
.. banks & finance firms
Mainly for our group of companies.
Mainly for my clients and my family

even though isingisi sakho sibuye singishiye...lol
.. my sister will probably low you away if this is the case,

***
You could write a book you know.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:26

(I'm the quiet one in my family)

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:30

...my sister ... low- blow
(I have dead B & P keys evidently ... will have the key-boad replaced)

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 13:33

@Makanku no my sister i like cause u say it like it is and that is what i admire about vusik like it or not here it comes. where did u get ur thick blood from?aw.
i dont know grl thats why i smtimes say im from mars

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 13:35

@VusiK ahahahahah so u say u will pass why?

I also turned down educating for the same reason.
(Every year .. I get requests from some awesome schools to come teach ...
Thanks ...
I'll pass)

NoMdazB
05 Feb 2013 13:56

@Bk. Please forget everything I've told you so far and read this. My dad died when I was 5 so the only father figure I had was my uncle. He used to beat my aunt infront of us and we couldn't do anything and he knew that. I will never forget the feeling of helpless that I felt. For a long time I would watch and cry, because I felt I should have done something. He bullied us all and dared us to try something when he knew we couldn't. The deep, deep hurt you feel by watching someone you love be terrorized like that, you never forget or get over. I carry it with me to this day. I even get scared when I see people shouting because I know what happens afterwards. While being beaten she would be all strong like you and not cry but that sight destroyed us. Imagine me and my teeanage brothers quietly weeping and silently begging him to stop- begging her to just run away or cry or something so he would stop. I am crying as I am typing this because it took me back to a place I ad forgotten.Even when my uncle wasn't being violent we were always scared, all the time. We were scared to talk, to laugh to joke around, anything. Because anything would change that mood. That pain sisi you see as a child you live with forever.i will never forget her black eyes the following day. I swore that no man would ever do that to me and no man has ever tried. Please do not do that to your baby. Put him first because he is helpless and defenceless. Do not protect a grown man's feelings over his. Your son needs you to fight for his happiness. My cousin, my uncle's daughter suffers from migraines as a result. For him to stop she told him she'd rather be a street kid than suffer any longer. Please do not put your child through that.

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 13:59

@I can imagine you school im sure you were one of the best student.
But i understand why you dont want to cause seriously we know where the problem is, but no we still need help here and there and still stay in that problem.

I for one know that this is not a health marriage, but i still went on with. I mean i would be irritated if i keep on consulting a person for 10 years and they still continue with their own beliefs.

But anyway it was a thought and looking at yr comments ever since u started blogging.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 14:02

anyway it was a thought and looking at yr comments ever since u started blogging.

When ... This Year?

CINDY LAPPA
05 Feb 2013 14:04

its so sweet to have pple like you Vusik in our world may God bless you i love you and your wise advises im answered before asking

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 14:05

I've been rocking to TK, KB, and Malaika for the last hour or so ...
The whole building is shaking, lol

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 14:13

@Vusik this year buti.

Nice you rocking while im stuck with a lot of filing in front of me.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 14:15

lol,
Yah hey !!!!
That happens ...
It could be worse ...
You could be working in my building !!!

Nastygal1
05 Feb 2013 14:16

I wonder imaphi lamanga kaDinnyyyyyyyyyyy,Noluntu uselfish poor Babalwa

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 14:28

its so sweet to have pple like you Vusik in our world may God bless you i love you and your wise advises im answered before asking

Thank you Sisi
:-)

sisila
05 Feb 2013 14:32

@ Nomdaz i understand you perfectly i sometimes also cry when i think back and when i see people fight i literally run away like a child its like the person is bitting me.

Manicure
05 Feb 2013 14:34

i saw my son coming towards me and he was screaming for his mommy i stood up and i made as if nothing was happening and he started to bite his father and i grabbed my son and we took a walk and he says mama let me rub u.

@ BK do u know how much pain u are causing to this little boy my dear friend, do u know what u planting in ur litle boy's mind/life?do u know that the pain that ur litle boy is going through will live in him forever and ever, Please dont do that to the innocent boy for the sake of love, ur son comes first in ur life, dont protect than man ova ur son, that is the bigest mistake that u doing my dear BK. ur son needs hapiness and protection from u as her mother.

to all those who have been prasing u telling u how strong u are to bear those things that ur husband is doing to u i think they are not being honest with u my dear sister, u dont deserve that, no true love will make u suffer like that, i think u made a big mistake by marrying this man, u dont desrve him, after all u are well eduacated, u have a job and a son, what more do u want from him. he is nothin but a pain to ur life.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 14:43

setting my objectivity aside;-

The only subjective piece of advice I can provide BK is ...

Should you ever decide to leave ...

Do not talk about it.. (be it To us , your friends, family .. anyone) ...
Do not warn him ...
Just do it ...

Go to the lawyers, file papers, know the date they will be serving him ...
Buy your new house, furnish it etc... all before you exit his space, and never return home one day,
however ...
allow him his access / visitation to his child ... (meet & drop off / collect baby in a public place ) ...
but once you leave ...
never set foot in your old home again ... for any reason, once you make the decision to leave ...
be certain it is the right thing for you and make it final.

Manicure
05 Feb 2013 15:07

sumbody is in a very good mood since friday, mmmhhhh.

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 15:09

@Mani it's not yet dat time lala she will leave wen she's gatvol like Vusi said wen u gatvol u dnt warn nobody u jst leave so dat time is still to come

WHEN A WOMAN IS FED UP IT AINT NOTHING U CAN DU ABT IT R Kelly knew wat he ws tlkng abt wen her wrote dat song n wen dat time comes she's gona put on her walking or running shoes n she wont even look back *my sixth sense*

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 15:24

she's gona put on her walking or running shoes n she wont even look back *my sixth sense*

No Doubt about that, lol

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 15:26

steffie
05 Feb 2013 15:35

I'm feeling sleepy today

Maqinase
05 Feb 2013 15:37

Hello family

I've been silently blogging

@ VusiK..You are really a good advisor I must tell

That's exactly what I did...
I didnt talk about it,I just did it
Went to the lawyers...the divorce was through without him being there cause he ddnt pitch thinking that it wont happen without him
Didnt buy a house though just rent a place cause he still stays on that one, he just agreed recently to sell it cause he cant afford to pay
I'm giving him access to his child in a public place
I never went to my house again although I left lot of my stuff there
I'm starting from scratch slowly but surely &happy to stay with my boy

@ Bk....You can do it girl only if you are ready

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 15:41

how nice of u to shower us with ur presence Maqinase,,,steffie wee ake o nwe metsi tlhe n o eme mostulong onke walk u tla ba shart * taking a walk*

steffie
05 Feb 2013 15:56

just did it @Goldi

NoMdazB
05 Feb 2013 15:57

@ BK LISTEN TO WHAT @VUSIK IS SAYING. PLEASE SISI. IT'S NEVER TOO LATE. DO YOU SEE THAT I AM USING SHOUTY LETTERS?

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 16:11

lol Nomd du u really have to SHOUT? that's ma gal @ Steffie :)

steffie
05 Feb 2013 16:25

Bye everyone till tomorrow

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 16:27

@Maqinase ...
Ngiyaxolisa .... ungaRenta wena Sis BK

Bk212303
05 Feb 2013 16:28

@Vusik and Nomdaz and everyone i hear you but why do i stil love this guy when he has done these things to me. Maybe there is something wrong with me.

Wil talk tomorrow got to go now.

Ntaksay
05 Feb 2013 16:30

Bk you have big decisions to make sisi think very carefully. Make a decision that will make you and your child happy. Uyicingisise sisi lento, you might feel that you are attached to your hubby because of what you've been through and the years you've spent with him, bt plz consider your happiness as well. I am not saying leave him but you have to be careful. Good luck

I'm knocking off people. Chat to you tomorrow. Bye

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 16:38

@Vusik and Nomdaz and everyone i hear you but why do i stil love this guy when he has done these things to me

We respect whatever decision you make on the matter Sisi.

Nongo
05 Feb 2013 16:56

ee gakena kgang jaanong, marato yho, i thought so too until after leaving and realised that i've been leaving a lie. i did go to acounsellor who said exact waht VusiK said, i thought he was mad that day (counsellor) after a while i asked myself im not the 1st nor the last im out. rite now i enjoy myself en my boys are @ peace with mom, being a divorcee is not a failure as pple think, no tried but in vain. bye cu 2moro good pple lalang sentle.

VusiK
05 Feb 2013 17:56

DO YOU SEE THAT I AM USING SHOUTY LETTERS?

ROFLMBAO !!!

NoMdazB
05 Feb 2013 19:05

Hey all. What Bk said about being beaten took me back to a place of terror so I ended up yelling at her. I don't think any of us are standing from a place of judgement saying @Bk you are being stupid. None of us are in her shoes so our aim is to look out for her wellbeing as well as that of her son's and do it without being judgemental . @Bk when you ask why you still love him, well it's because you do. When you truly love someone you don't stop because they are treating you badly. Love keeps the flames of hope alive, hope that he will change and see how badly he is hurting you. I think most people who leave their spouses leave with their hearts still filled with love. But they choose to love themselves and maybe their kids more. Have you ever let him know that abusing you is not okay? You see some people justify it and say it's part and parcel of the realationship so he might be fooling himself into thinking it's okay. What does your son say about it. Maybe you could ask him a roundabout question about daddy being angry and hear what he says. Are things mostly okay between the two of you? Do you think things will change? Does he want to change? Do you think your marriage is worth saving? What would it take to save it ? If you had to do it again would you still marry him? I'm hoping that some of these questions will help you find a solution. Like everyone said only you can decide what to do. We are just trying to offer different points of view ukuze ubone ukukhanya kule ntsunguzi ukuyo (so you can find light at the end of this tunnel)

Goldi
05 Feb 2013 19:49

Well da decision its HERS n all we can du s a loving FAMILY give her SUPPORT and RESPECT wat eva decision she makes yeh!! Remember gal ur happiness comes 1st

Mimibob
05 Feb 2013 22:23

Hae.. Bosso ke BK.
I always say I'm one in 7 billion.. Hey,wena KB o tswa Mars ka nnete.. Have u and hubby considered counselling? You have such a big heart. You deserve to be loved. I'm pained for your son. I wish I could take him for a bit to save from the abuse and pain while u guys sort things out. *hugs to him*. I have memories for as far back as I was 3 or 4 years old (nothing terrible though). Children don't forget. Build lovely memories for your child Bongi. He might be a sweet boy now, but might grow up to be a bitter person, abusive even. He might resent you one day for not protecting him and yourself when you could have.
I will pray specially for your family tonight. This needs divine intervetion.

(I have dead B & P keys evidently ... will have the key-boad replaced)
Lol, ya, I noticed your keyboard had dead P.
You are quite a busy man.. 20 hours a day! Yoh!
Just remebered Pastry - she thought you were Vusi Kunene.. Lol... I wonder where she is.

Ntaksay
06 Feb 2013 08:11

Good morning

Hayi uSello wants to be involved in every business, nawe MJ you should've let Wandi go to that meeting. Serves Phenyo right for getting Sello out of jail,

Dinny plz don't take your frastruation out on other people

Khethiwe and drinking, hayi shame

Friend
06 Feb 2013 08:17

Morning peeps, loving the weather. Update pls, missed gen last night due to bad weather.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 08:29

Just remebered Pastry - she thought you were Vusi Kunene.. Lol... I wonder where she is.

She is around ... almost had it out with her the other day ... she accused me of being sexist

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 08:34

He might be a sweet boy now, but might grow up to be a bitter person, abusive even. He might resent you one day for not protecting him and yourself when you could have.

This is real risk , but useless/ pointless counsel if she remains in the marriage.
I can pretty much guarantee he will be imbalanced if he develops in the environment she is subjecting him to.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 08:45

Yah ...

BK ke Bosso fo Sho !!!
no doubt in my mind.
Ausi ke-letlapa!!!

Cmaneo
06 Feb 2013 08:54

Morning good people

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 09:03

Morning guyz hope every1 slept well me i'm all gud tnx for asking in advanced lol

steffie
06 Feb 2013 09:13

Such a good morning people!

makanku
06 Feb 2013 09:21

morning good peeps!
BK should stop being ibosso now, for your son's sake.your hubby must stop treating you like peace of dirt or he must suffer for his actions, u make sure of that.we r not saying u shud leave him but we,your family, r pressurising u 2 do sumthing, dont just roll over and die, u r stronger than that.

Queen ukhuluma njalo, sum1 must shut her big mouth 4 her!
Phenyo must tell Ruby the truth khona ezothola impama!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 09:35

... yes ...

Everyone is applying undue pressure on BK

I admire her strength and resolve,
I wish there were more people of strong conviction
.. like her

She is aware of most of the info she needs to make decisions.
the rest is up to her.
...
...
Let her make her decision
... for herself and her family
... by herself.

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 09:46

Dinny mst jst deal with her issues yooo wat dd Queen do cos she ws giving her opinion or is she not aloud iyooooo, i feel sorry 4 Rob i understand were Sofia's coming from bt y cnt she give Queen a chance u know Basadi a se ORGANISATION bathong eish!!

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 09:51

sisila
06 Feb 2013 10:16

.
I can pretty much guarantee he will be imbalanced if he develops in the environment she is subjecting him to. I grew up in that environment everyday is a struggle its so hard to love, to trust even just to be happy in a relationship there is always that thing that says what if he turns out to be like my dad. Even when he makes a honest mistake im always ready to tell him i expected it. Infact i always expect less in everthing.

Pastry
06 Feb 2013 10:25

Heheheeee Mims...i am around, just too lazy lately to read everything or even type a comment.

One thing for sure comments from people like yourself and Vusi i never skip reading...it makes it hard for me though to say anything as I dont read the whole story and without all facts what can I say

LOL...I didnt think he was Vusi Kunene, I asked if he was. I was a new blogger and intrigued by his intellectual power.

Accused you Malome Vusi (lol), never...you provoked me, hahahaaa

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 11:55

@Sisila ...

Just invest in & surround him with Love and respect for all that lives, even ants and other insects ... He will adot it as natural to respect and acknowledge all living things as having the right to be here.

@Pastry , lol

Maqinase
06 Feb 2013 13:42

Hi MaBloggers

I love you guys wish we can all meet one day.....

Where is Kerrie ?

Thibi
06 Feb 2013 14:16

Tjo! BK

Now I know and appreciate the love that I get from my man. No marriage is 100% but reading from above I am currently in a good loving and healthy marriage and family.

BK...did a friend that said you are his only woman, don't you miss him sometimes?

CINDY LAPPA
06 Feb 2013 15:06

hey loving family im down and asking 4 your prayers some family member dreamt badly abt my 1 and only daughter.What makes me feel bad is that she always dream the truth ,i juss can't imagine smthing hapenning to her bcoz she means everything to me Im knocking of enjoy the rest of your day and good9ty

goldie
06 Feb 2013 15:08

Hello Family

@BK aikhona sisi o strong hle! Nna I told myself I will never go thru what my mom went with her in-laws, she respected them n my father to the end n still suffered to d extend that after 30yrs with 3 children our father left her with NOTHING, not even R10,00 from his estate u know.

I put my foot down from d word go. B4 my wedding my husband's father told me that if i am going to wear 2 dresses (white wedding n traditional at his place), i can wear that traditional at my place cos at his house i will leave the house in awhite dress, I told him straight up this is my wedding not yours, ur son is marrying me not d other way round and if that is how he feels they can find a wife 4 their son cos the wedding is off! He never ever crossed that line with me to this day he wud rather speak with hubby n he is always the man in the middle cos he can put it lightly and reason with his parents! I made it clear i married him not the family, they came as d extra package with him n cud be offloaded that easily or we can just go our separate ways, he asked me to spend our lives together(me n him n our kids) not with all of them, so if they want to b part of this it is up to them.

We visited them n i went to visit some of my old varsity friends from around ther and came back late, mamazala n daughter-in-law went to a wedding n the poor tatazala hadn't eaten when we arrived with hubby at about 8pm and the other 2 were watchin TV, tatazala asked for food and I just lost it right there n then, I told them even though i am married, tatazala paid lobola for mamazala n he is still her responsibilty not mine, they sit watch TV waiting for Makoti to come and cook yet they claim ur our daughter dont feel like makoti here n i asked what is this n for the mother to sit with a 25yr old grown-up woman n do this? i told her she is a woman like me n she will fall in love n will get married to a family that will mistreat her you'll wish her to leave him she will tell u i luv him, just remember what u do to another woman can easily happen to u too, it stopped! And since then they know I dont take kak from anybody, sis-in-law stays with us now n was complaing my help(dont like to call her maid) doesnt clean her room,wash her clothes or her dishes i must speak to her, i went to her room n asked if it was true she said d girl sleeps till late n yena she wud b finished, i told her i am not angry actually proud she must keep doing it cos a 29yr old must b havin her own place not stayin with brother n his family ,she is leavin now going back home to mommy!

So, to cut long story short @BK, we deal with things differently but compromisin too much with all this ungrateful people around u, think long and hard. Me they respect my space i respect them back, anything they want us to do or help with, goes thru the madam of the house (ME) END OF D STORY!
I AM GRATEFUL TO GOD COS HUBBY'S ALWAYS ON MY SIDE COS HE SAYS HE MARRIED ME N WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN!

Mrs Chix
06 Feb 2013 15:09

Hi All BK marriage is difficult and hard work. Right now I am not speaking to my husband. We are sleeping on he same bed but different blankets. when mu hubby get drunk bad things happen to us, I have tried to accept what he does but everytime its a different story. On Saturday he had a problem with his car while coming from a drinking spree with his friends. He called me to come and try to jump start. When I get there he was putting the cables the wrong ways and I could see he was going to damage my battery. so I decided to call his friend who stays next door to us. Now he gets angry, saying why I called his friend. Then he decide to walk home and left m in Primrose at 8 in the evening, alone with 2 cars. Likely his friend came within 20mins with the wife. Right now I am still angry and disappointed. Since Sunday he has been apologizing and right now I am not ready to forgive him. But I know by Saturday we will be back to normal ( laughing and all) Thats marriage.

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 15:34

Ya ne ke mathata we all handle such situations diffrentely so I STILL SAY WEN U FED UP U'LL PACK UP N LEAVE AND NEVA LOOK BACK

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:52

@Goldie ... What will happen the day your hubby is NOT on your side of an argument?

I could write a lot about what you have written
... I'd rather not!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:58

sorry ... Goldie = Goldi

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 16:04

@Goldi ...
Are you certain they respect you ... & do not FEAR you?
...
I'm willing to put some money on the possibility that they fear you.

makanku
06 Feb 2013 16:06

@Goldie u r a woman & a half, damn gal!!! if only we all have guts like u our in-laws wouldn't be walking all over us like they do. and also, u lucky because your hubby is on your side, mina nje my hubby is a mama's boy, he doesnt have balls to tell his mommy when she's wrong and that made me love him less lost respect on him because when im wrong he yap yap yap at me infront of his mom.mxxx! but other than that i think he's a gud guy, concidering what other ppl r going thru in their marriages.

@Goldi, yes sisi, when a woman is fed up..but until then she can b a fool for love bo.

MsKim
06 Feb 2013 16:20

@Goldi.. u go girl.. i don't have the guts honestly.... BK i have to give it to u.. u are strong hun, the fact that you cot him in the act in bed w another woman & forgave him n still married him is the reason ** why you still love him*** even after all he's done. u r very forgiving, u have the biggest heart..

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 16:21

Yes Makanku u will be dat's da saddest part of it

@ Vusi i think dat q is directed to Goldie with n e not Goldi

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 16:23

... Yes ... It is Goldie ...

Ntaksay
06 Feb 2013 16:27

Time for me to knock off people.

Love you all bye.

Cindy not sure what the dream says, but God will protect your daughter.

BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 16:27

@Goldi ...
Are you certain they respect you ... & do not FEAR you?
...
I'm willing to put some money on the possibility that they fear you.

see what i'm tlkng about Vusi

Bk212303
06 Feb 2013 16:27

Molweni mabloggers wow thank you all for advises. At the moment i cannot say what im gonna do as i want to think and figure out what to do. Yhoo it is so obvious what i must do but it is sooo difficult. Last night i spoke to him and i was really hard on him cause im tired of being soft first of all i told him that he will never abuse me and he wont choose friends for me. I will decide who do i choose as my frnds not the other way around. He kept quiet and then said, he told me in 2011 he will never lay a hand on me or do anything that would hurt me.(if he does then i think...... no excuses) Then i told him about his family and he said hayi dont mention my family and i said tata must leave my house or i leave. He started to cry and he said why dont i want his tamnci so i said its not that i dont want him but the way he behaves in my house is not suitable for me. So i said he abused me when i was a girl and now he wont do that *bleep!* to me again. He said i must leave him in the car cause he is not going back to our house so i said it suits me and my son well and i went inside. After 10min he knocks and said he still wants to speak to me and he said he cannot turn back the clock and undo what he did to me and my son. But he said i must give him another chance and tata will leave on the 16th as he is going for the checkup the 15th.

So i dont know ppl but my mind says i mind says i must dissapear and the other one give another chance???

@Chinx hi cc how a u. Cant we as ladies stay single and just enjoy life.
These man are giving us too much stress.
@Goldi yhoo u straight forward wish i could swap tatazala
@Cindy stop thinking negative just pray as iam also praying that nothing will happen. God does His thingz in his own time

@Thibi keep up the good work with your family.Thank God for it.

@Maqinase same hear

@Mimibob Hey,wena KB o tswa Mars ka nnete
hahah lol the funny part is im xhosa i ont understand sotho/tswana but i just figure out some words as i also watch sotho films etc.
You said in this sentence im really coming from mars didnt u mimi?
Well i would nt be shocked though under circumstances yey.

I know its not too late for me but i dont know i cant move on yhoooo

speak more

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 16:28

Very confusing these identities that are very similar

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 16:29

@Goldi
see what i'm tlkng about Vusi

Yes .. I Do.
I apologise

Goldi
06 Feb 2013 16:31

take your time BK n do think long n hard b4 making any drastic decisions

adios c u l8r @ Ezweni guys

cheers

MsKim
06 Feb 2013 16:33

lol ma bad they'r 2 goldiz?? kiki Goldi and goldie.

MsKim
06 Feb 2013 16:36

the function that Queen keeps talking abt for Mr. P. wch Mr. P. is she talking abt?

goldie
06 Feb 2013 18:14

@Goldi, whether it's respect or fear I really don't care cos it works 4 me. I once said to my mother in law: there are 3 types of them, 1 o seleng n control freak, 1 o lokileng n not pretending to b n 1 o iketsang ekare o lokile but deep down e le noga! We left it there n am sure o ne a tseba keep bua ka eng! I blive monna le mosadi must live their lives n when necessary ask guidance when needed. They lived their lives if they let people interfere with it n they want me to live the live they wanted their problem not mine! U don't come n tell me my in-laws treated me badly n u want to treat me better by doing what u wished they did to u, I am not her n she needs to find out what I'm like cos I am certainly not her n we definitely r into different things n different era so treat me as an individual! As for hubby changing I wud leave that to God n I am sure he will never change unless if I make him by behavin otherwise. He is d only person I can be .myself n never have to anything else, he was my best frie nd b4 we got married so I believe it is y we can tolerate each other n I am d same with my family no special treatment either actually worse with them!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:22

@Goldie ...

The upside is that it works for you
The downside could be that you forfeit the opportunity of knowing those around you, who you might care for, or find yourself reliant on someday ...
perhaps in a moment of weakness when you need them & they perceive that need as weakness ...
In this case; the risk of not caring is regret at not caring when you could have.
...
When animals are afraid of a dominant one ...
The day that the dominance fizzles, or fails,
is never attractive. (Rule of nature)

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:27

... by inference ...
It is possible that you could have absolutely no idea about the fidelity of anyone in your life.
... but as you say
... you don't care..
'because it works for you!

I'm simply going through a permutation.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:29

U don't come n tell me my in-laws treated me badly n u want to treat me better by doing what u wished they did to u

Personally, ... I couldn't care ... not my life & not my in laws
you live by your rules ,... same as everyone else

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:34

I'm one of those who are never liked by my in-laws

I generally marry women from well-to-do families & they generally have issues that my asset base (personally) is greater than their entire clan's asset base ... and I don't care

I live on and never allow externals to effect me...
if my spouse decides to invite their drama into my home ...
we have options ...
if she does not exercise hers regarding her people ...
I exercise mine

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:36

i never allow anyone such power over me as to effect my happiness and well being.

goldie
06 Feb 2013 18:38

@BK tatazala is like me in a way so I think he gets me. Butii Vusi I really pray he doesn't n he always tells me look at how my life is, none of my peers have what I have n even my relatives n family y wud I throw it away? His words not mine, at d moment he owns 3 business n we have started investing n I am a hardworker n push him to the limit when it comes to our business. Married in COP n I told him there is no way we r going to loose anything we r in this together n it shud remain so. I try to talk about everything but we do have our ups n downs n mainly when that happens it tears us apart we don't want that feeling ever, I once took my 2 yr old n went home after a fight about 200km away, he didn't know where I was n when he cudnt had to call my mom n she calmly told him I was at home, after knocking off he came after me n just left me d car keys, bank cards n money n said he will move out cos he was wrong n said he is leaving now with what at 12am said he wud hike back or wait for train n x look in his eyes I went back with him. From then he realized d importAnce of talking to avoid misunderstand

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:39

In terms of relationships for me ...

a person is either adding value to my life-space
...
or they are removing value...

I have threshholds & controls in place to obviate the reduction of value in my life

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:42

@Goldie .. I understand where you come from ...

I asked because I used tp have the opinion that people respected me and my space
...
until I found out they feared me.
...
and got to see the real them when i.) I went broke; ii) I got ill, and iii) I needed them.
...
HUGE SUPRISE !!!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:45

I was at home, after knocking off he came after me n just left me d car keys, bank cards n money n said he will move out cos he was wrong n said he is leaving now with what at 12am said he wud hike back or wait for train

I have lived this
I have done this

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:46

I will never marry iCOP
...If I marry again ...
ever !!!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:52

@Goldie ...

BTW ...
I don't take crap either
:-)
lol

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 18:56

My most used phrase in life & in my relationship(s) is;

"Don't suppose anything with me ;
Ask me; ... and remove the ignorance/ know the facts"

cyny
06 Feb 2013 19:25

Hie guys.plz can some1 update me of yesterday episode,plz plz.luv u guys

goldie
06 Feb 2013 19:26

@Vusi when I said u don't come n tell what ur in-laws did or didn't do was referring to when I was telling mother in law cos she wanted to b too involved n I foresee a problem there cos sometimes its way of testing u or c ur reaction n I really love my personal space practically grew without friends n I don't open up easy, she has a doctorate in psychology n likes to analyse people according to d books, nna ke dumela hore at some point Lesotho ore kwala buka o ithute motho. I do talk to to her occasionally n visit with d kids but they have to there me here. I am very casual n feel depressed around them cos they expect u to be formAl n all n nna I hate it. They also wAnted to take over with a lot of things cos my father left my mom so they kind of saw me as someone from a broken family n what does that mean 4 their son. I don't care 4 their feeling scared of me if that is d case n I made it clear to hubby the minute ur fed up with me tell same way u asked to go out with u n marry u and I wud go peacefully cos Its lIfe thIz thIngs happen cos if I ever catch him making a fool of me, he wud wish he was dead n never met me n he will hate women for as long as he lives. I am not so into material things personally I just want to be at peace n be loved

goldie
06 Feb 2013 19:34

Thanx Vusi, I do luv them and like u say don't suppose instead ask, those that know me I always say assumption is d mother of all fuckups! I think I close myself like these cos letting people in only leaves heartache for many n have seen it happening n I won't let myself go thru that.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 19:40

To Everyone ...

Sometimes ...
I do play devil's advocate.

At least Sis Goldie had the wisdom to realise it without getting all pent up and personal.
There was a point to be made that many people DO misunderstand the manifestation of fear, as Power and/ or respect.

Thank You Sisi.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 19:41

@Goldie ... We are of a very similar nature on many fronts.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 20:10

Thanks to you also Sisi Goldie.

cyny
06 Feb 2013 20:12

Please update me guys.

Riyat
06 Feb 2013 20:22

Khethiwe I can't believe it. Giving advice like that. Yho I don't know.

Mimibob
06 Feb 2013 21:35

Hehee, was wondering what had happened to my Goldi, kante ke goldie..

I generally marry women from well-to-do families
Thought you've never been married. Women? Married more than once?

...& they generally have issues that my asset base (personally) is greater than their entire clan's asset base ...
Mmmhh... I will definitely not have issues.. I'm looking for a tycoon husband who can finance my expensive taste that I dont afford. I am an honest lady who will not lie to you nor cheat on you. I will love you. If you ever got broke, we will share my modest income and work ourselves up again.

I'm one of those who are never liked by my in-laws
My parents are sweet and would respect our space. Even if you are a terrible person, you'd just like them.

I generally marry women from well-to-do families
I'm not from a well to do family (rich). Schooled, ate, dressed and lived well though.

So darling "Malome" Vusi, if you need a sweet, loving, honest woman...

I will bring u a new keyboard.

If you dont want to marry me but dont mind donating a little something, I'd be a lil' sad, but would accept.

I'm not exactly a gold digger, just want to live well, even if its helping out someone on their fortune.

Ok, lol... That's just boredom right there. Don't start lecturing me..

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 22:06

Thought you've never been married. Women? Married more than once?
Yes ... I've been married.
Yes ... More than once.

If you ever got broke, we will share my modest income and work ourselves up again.
This happens more often than most people imagine.
I am a risk taker .. I love the risk .. I love the chase. I am not attached to the money, I like life on the razor's edge. I have given many fortunes away ,,, just for the heck of it. Money does not define me.

So darling "Malome" Vusi, if you need a sweet, loving, honest woman...
I'll definitely give you a ring Mims .. If ever ... and I'll expect that keyboard as part of the woman's dowry

If you dont want to marry me but dont mind donating a little something, I'd be a lil' sad, but would accept.
You never know Mims ...

I'm not exactly a gold digger, just want to live well, even if its helping out someone on their fortune.
Everybody loves to live well ...
Money is not a destination for me (in life) ...
If anything ... money is a result.

Ok, lol... That's just boredom right there. Don't start lecturing me..
LOL, no lectures tonight ... none at all !!!

Goodnight !!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 22:10

Yes ... More than once.
My work is a marriage killer ...
I have divorce decrees to prove it ! (Never being home & all) ...
plus all sorts of insecurities that come with people, etc...

I'll expect that keyboard as part of the woman's dowry
Tech did change the replacement keyboards ...
I think Apple has problems with their wired keyboards ...
All of the ones they brought in for me all had the same dead keys, plus some with more

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 22:10

Goodnight !!!
:-)

Mimibob
06 Feb 2013 23:47

Goodnight Uncle Vusi
:)

Mimibob
06 Feb 2013 23:54

I have given many fortunes away ,,, just for the heck of it. Money does not define me.
If u ever get one of these moments. Just holla! :)

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 06:46

Hi Pastry *waving*. Good to know you still around.

Goldi
07 Feb 2013 08:44

Morning guyz

i wonder wu is MJ gona give he's proxy 2 i think its gona be Wandi? Dinny's becoming a problem now haai she must jst chill ohh Robert wa Queeni bathong ke sono waitsi....gud advice der 4rm Khethi Khethi, s for Ruby to ask Queen wat she said to Dinny dat made her so upset Ruby ke di type tsa bomme wen u come home n tell her dat hubby onchapile den she's gona say it's ur fault saying things like wat dd u du to make him dis upset n wat not haai soka maan

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 09:02

If u ever get one of these moments. Just holla! :)
...
I never give to people ... I give to causes

sisila
07 Feb 2013 09:23

Molweni zihlobo ze Nkosi I just went to the messages just realised just by reading what other people go thru aswell somehow brings healing to me too. @Goldie your character i love it i call a spade a spade yes sometimes people fear you but those who matter really do not mind and they love you as you are, for me people who are always nice worry me cos they tend to agree with evrything even if they see its not right. My family used to walk over my mother until i grew up i promise everyone knows everything goes through me. And truly family love taking advantage.

Btwa
07 Feb 2013 09:23

Hello Friends
@Gen i think MJ will give his proxy to Jason, i smell more drama if Jason represent MJ while working for competition

Riyat
07 Feb 2013 09:26

@mimi wow wow wow. I loled all the way to work. Hubby won't drop me again to work cos am laughing a lot in the car.

Cmaneo
07 Feb 2013 09:30

Morning gen fam.am not asking for ur symphathy bt just wnna share ma story with u. Um a high school teacher(in lesotho) has degree in education n a hardworker.my principal wants to promote mi to the post of head of department yet there is someone who has honours degree in education n has more than twelve years working exprience while i have only five.the problem is um afraid that that may spoil our working relationships.good people this woman is lazy n doges clases bt i know she is going to make ma life hell.what shud i do?

Cmaneo
07 Feb 2013 09:32

Ntaksay
07 Feb 2013 09:37

Good Morning

I thought Sbusiso gave Sabelo money to run his own business, why did he ask Senzo for money yesterday?? *confused*

Jason is really desperate for those shares.

What is really cooking with the girl who wants a job at Tsalanang.

Ntaksay
07 Feb 2013 09:43

@ Cmaneo I say take the job, your principal chose you because you are good at what you do, if this other person sucks at her job. It is her doing. Wena Grab the opportunity with both hands you might never get another one.

makanku
07 Feb 2013 09:47

morning guyz,
@Goldie & malome vusi, ya neh, niyefana ngempela, u both blow my mind....!
@ Mimi, uyahlekisa wena yazi.
B2G, Akhona is the most stuborn person ever existd, ay i give up ngaye.

Goldi
07 Feb 2013 09:58

@ Cmaneo take da job darling obvious da principal saw something in you dat's y s/he gave u dat position TAKE IT

makanku
07 Feb 2013 09:59

@Cmaneo, the woman is lazy & dodges classes...so whats ur problem..take the position, u deserve it, 4get about that lazy bones, she wont do anything 2 u.God is blessing u for your hard work & he will protect u.

Bk212303
07 Feb 2013 10:29

Hey everyone @Goldie you go girl wish i could have the courage to tell my in laws to back off.

semtho
07 Feb 2013 10:48

Morning lovely people, @ Cmaneo take the job, dats ur reward for working hard. @ Goldie i like ur courage lady wish i could do that too. Sometimes this inlaws they treat us like gold diggers who came to chow their sons moolah.

Deemo
07 Feb 2013 10:56

hw are bloggers ,where is aya aka woman ok god?@pastry its nyc to hear from you again?mskim i c u a stll there live n kicking.gud day to you all

Bk212303
07 Feb 2013 12:01

@Semtho they always think like, dont know why though cause it does not matter if the woman is the provide or not they will always think like that. I think they are the gold diggers klk, cause if they not looking at the makotis money they want the hubby's money so i really admire uGoldie yhoo hayi cc.

To prove to my hubby what his tamnci is like when he is not there i recorded every little word he said to me when hubby was not in the house. Which is i know it is not like me but i did it anyway so yha.

My hubby phoned me today to say he is suffering, cause i dont help in the house anymore(financially) so he wants to know why i said it is because im giving him his space so that he can thank his tamnci for raising him all these years and i for one is saving towards also paying the woman who raised me. He said im i doing this cause im punishing him i said how i punish umntu endimthandayo so he said wil talk later and i said ok.

what is it na ngomtshato? The changing of family members etc.

Cmaneo
07 Feb 2013 12:06

Thamx guys for ur words of encoragements.they mean a lot to mi

goldie
07 Feb 2013 12:21

Hi all, @BK courage from inside cc n there comes a time a time in life when you have to get ur priorities right and that is what i try to do with my life, I told myself if I say it's love n i keep crying and finding excuses for other people to boss me around exactly what is this love?Corinthians explain what love is and there is no way I will compromise my happines for another person who feeds in my heartbreaks and sorrows that he inflicated on me, I am responsible for my own happiness and no one else.

I once watched Ps Chris Hill preaching cant remember what it was about but i will find out what he said made me think long and hard about my life, I quote: "Women complain about their partners, he is not supporting me, he is abusive and cheats, he sits on the sofa playing PS 3 that i bought for my son the whole day and tells me it is hard to find a job and expects me to support the family and still be a good wife to him i.e fulfill my marital duties, i look after him and the household, we went for counselling and it doesnt help, friends and family members tried as well n still nothing! Well, he said, you just said u've let urself to b a doormat to this man, it is upto u to decide cos u have all the facts and if u decide to stay, SHUT UP and swallow eveything he dishes cos we can advice but u have to decide n if u stay with him why are you complaining! when u have to make a choice no matter how small n u dont, it will be made for u either way and u will live with the consequences for the rest of ur life! unquote.

So it is tough but i believe you need to know when to put ur foot down.

Have a lovely day everyone love u lots!

@Cm take that job what r u stil waiting for girl??

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 12:57

I never give to people ... I give to causes. ... OK.

Goldi
07 Feb 2013 13:00

Amen to dat Goldie

makanku
07 Feb 2013 13:05

@BK, we just want u 2 b happy sisi.like i said yesterday, u have to do sumthing, anything, to stop all this nonsense ur hubby shoves at u.....& i for one is saving also towards paying the woman raised me, i loved that

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 13:11

@ Riyat and Makanku, glad I could make u laugh. :)

CINDY LAPPA
07 Feb 2013 13:11

Good day gen family
@BK remember that when circumstances cannot be changed, change your thinking,learn to be genuine everymoment of your life and remember its not how you look to the world tha matters,but how you act life is lived once hence try to enjoy every moment of it.I hope everything would be fine love pray hard God will answer your prayers for he loves us all .enjoy the rest of your day pple i love you all.
@ Vusik you rock malume

Bk212303
07 Feb 2013 13:11

@Goldie cc, I am not complaining or anything I spoke about my situation and i got all the advises and i am thankfull for them. Do not take this the wrong way i am not complaining just sharing the changes that is happening at the moment. Please dont be angry at me for not divorcing my hubby. I know that it was not right to marry him in the 1st place but i married him anyway. I know that to each and every choice you make there is consequences, so yes i am baring my consequences unfortunately my son is staying with me and i dont wannt him to stay with someone else. I trust that you will not judge me.

But all in all i understand where u coming from. So yes i know that a lot of you is tired of hearing me "complaining" which i am not maybe someone else is in the same situation as me which is i ve put myself to but some of the advises they can use. Let us look at other people's situation, u c i was looking at the way u handle yr in laws i have taken a thing or two from there.

to continue

Kerrie
07 Feb 2013 13:12

hi guys, i'm new here please welcome<<<<hides>>>>>>.....Maqinase, i'm around love, just have no internet access at the moment but i miss you guys so much!

Bk212303
07 Feb 2013 13:15

@Cmaneo cc take it,

goldie
07 Feb 2013 13:55

@BK i am not angry at all cc, was just shairing what Ps Chris said that is y i quoted nad unquoted, was telling hore he made me think a lot n look at my situations in every work of life not just marriage dear, I wud never encourage anybody to divorce cos myself i pray it i never get to that point in life. DONT feel bad BK not saying you are complaing please hle dont get me wrong. We r not d same at all n u said earlier u need gud news was just sharing how i dealt with my inlaw problem. I can only imagine what u go thru and i will never judge or point a finger at you, u have ur reasons to hang in there that only u n God can understand so i understand. Like @ Vusi said what u do or decide u dont have to tell anybody just what u have to do. Have u watched the movie FIREPROOF? IF NOT PLEASE DO!

goldie
07 Feb 2013 14:00

SORRY meant to say just do what u have to do!

Pastry
07 Feb 2013 14:08

Hauwa mara am I the only one seeing this or what....

Question - Do we have a couple in a successful relationship who met from this blog?

To my two fav bloggers of the moment:
Mims...I think wena no Malume Vusi should just hook up already.
I am sure other that visiting this blog everynite to check if the other is here...you would both agree that you are seeing and feeling what I am seeing hawu #hides

....and ohhh in case you decide (just in case) to get married one day, I will be your flower girl for FREE

Nongo
07 Feb 2013 14:33

@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol

Goldi
07 Feb 2013 14:33

Is Mims n Vusi dating?? 0_0 ddnt know dat we have COUPLES here

makanku
07 Feb 2013 14:45

@Bk, we support u sisi & will neva get tired of u, & let me tell u something, this too shall pass.one way or the or the other.
keep updating us, maybe we'll shout at u, all bcos we care, but we wont get tired of advising u.

CINDY LAPPA
07 Feb 2013 14:56

Mims and Vusi try it .you never know maybe its gonner work .Only if you are singles dont dare if you are in relationships

goldie
07 Feb 2013 15:25

@Nongo had to so that we are clear, I even offerd to pay a maid for her to have someone to help out in the house cos i work monday to monday throughout the yr, when i have a locum then i can rest, we only close on new years day and xmas, so u can imagine when i visit and they expect me to do all the chores!!!

I have a 9yr old son so ur right i will be mmatswale oneday, can only pray for God's guidance in his upbringin and let him b a man not mama's boy cos then it is difficult to let go n poor boy might end up looking to me for approval of every girl which is what is going to destroy all his relationships cos there is only one Goldie n can never b another. So teaching him good values and how to treat a woman etc, is all i can do and pray he turns out to b responsible n for me to accept his future wife n get involved when they come to me or if i need to advice them on anything. Will always have a helper at home cos sayin the girl is makoti, when she comes to visit i ma not expecting her to spring-clean, she probably will have a job n i know how tiring it can be. So when she takes leave it has to b about bondin n resting not slaving around! LOL, This is my wish and pray for my daughter-in-law if i live to c d day!

B2G-Chops o worse shem!

Riyat
07 Feb 2013 15:43

Kerrie nice to know you are around. Missing ur dusting comments.

steffie
07 Feb 2013 16:14

I'm missing out in the house.

Goldi
07 Feb 2013 16:25

OHHHHHH KERRIE BATHONG I SO MISS U COME MAAN I MISS CHATTING ABOUT DUSTING LOL

Bk212303
07 Feb 2013 16:25

@Nongo

@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol

Can u plz translate or some1

@Goldie im sorrryy cc i did take it the wrong way. Its that i sometimes feel that people are judging me. But i ready again yr response it is clear. My frnd is more like you she does not take *bleep!* at all, she sort you out now. Especially in laws and she said she wish to swap with me so that she can sort all of this at once.

Oh yes i do need good news tired of this negative and in laws. Some one who is happy in their marriages plss it gives me hope.
@Makanku Thank for the support.

Goldie i must say again again i admire you keep the good work. It helps and Vusik hey u quiet whats up.

@Cindy L ... change yr thinking i have noted thanx

Family you are so loved cause at the moment im seeing change when it comes to handling things at home. You would be supprised if u compare the old me and now. I sometimes pinch myself and i even spoke to my frnd she said to me whats with the change cause i tell her whats been changed and she was shocked. It is all thanx to u guys All of you who spent time reading the books ive been writting. Fireproof which channel?

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik?

Welcome Kerrie.

Thanx again Goldie.....straight forward just like Vusik. But i like it.

I thank the day God made me join this gen blogger cause that is they day i met you guys.
I thank Him for the way He has made each and every one of you.
May He bless all of us and strengthen us even more. We thank Him for the Love He has given us. Amen im out.

Nongo
07 Feb 2013 16:37

@goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe.

sorry@BK: that is, goldie's mother in law shud remember that she was once a daughter in law, so goldie will also becom a mother in law 1day. (that's why goldie's response was :I have a 9yr old son so ur right i will be mmatswale oneday.
thank u cc, very sory for that.

Cmaneo
07 Feb 2013 19:52

Evening family.um gonna give an answer to ma principal 2mrw

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 19:54

@Cmaneo ... this woman is lazy n doges clases
...
Which is why you are offered the promotion ... stop being silly woman!!!
You earned the right to hop right past her lazy Ass !
Take the promotion and sto being afraid of being successful because someone might not like it!

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 20:03

@ Pastry, u really made me lol today.. U r now causing smoke.. Rumours start like this.. Lol...

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 20:17

@Semtho ... Sometimes this inlaws they treat us like gold diggers who came to chow their sons moolah.
They are not very smart then ... who should chow their son's moolah except his wife ...
... then you should make more money than he does
if he has issues ... and don't ever make your success a troubblesome burden

i was looking at the way u handle yr in laws
I ignore them ... presently, I am venturing into an area where the "Genius Rock" of the an in-law's industry ... and he is about to lose everything because he is going to endd u rnning a race all by himself ...
I've done my research, it is a great industry to invest in ... I know my risks & I know what to do to maximize my yields ... I will prosper while he breaks himself & eventually sells his soul to the devil to get ahead ... I'll just keep going like the turtle and coin it a penny at a time.

Have u watched the movie FIREPROOF? IF NOT PLEASE DO!
I'll also look it u and watch it.

Mims...I think wena no Malume Vusi should just hook up already.
I'm working when most of you are being loved all over by your favourite people.
I have six monitors in front of me ... one is always on TVSA lately ... and I refresh it occassionally ... so .. there !!! ... there is no appointment or rendezvous to come date on your blog dear!
I'm not ready for a relationship ... I just came from a rather difficult one before the one I just stopped (because I realized I need to sort me out first)
...
and Mims is Good people ...
I like her in her sandles and the earth between the toes feel she has about her ...
I'm not into airs ... she's never been elevated in dealing with people
I'm cool ... Not dating, not planning to for now
Got me to sort out
I refuse to punish the next woman / women for the scars of past women.
I'll be good ... & I'm doing OK for now.

@ goldie ke a bona o bolletse mmatswale hore a seka a lebala hore le ena o kile a nna makoti , so le wena o tla nna matswale ka tsatsi lengwe, that will put the last nail on her lol

@Goldie ... I can imagine you explaining/ telling your mother in law that she also was a makoti some time back, and that you (goldie) will be a mother in law someday, ...
That's the Sotho part translated for BK.

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik?
Ninomona !!!!

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 20:22

Just got in ..

I had a rough day crapping some mine managers out ... they would not let my engineers on-site to do a sampling
(I cancelled the contract their mine probably needs desperately)
now to work on making sure they lose their out-take agreements ...
sons of ...!!!
...I feel sorry for the miners who will be out of work there
but I am a vindictive person when confronted by someone who deems themselves superior on the basis of the colour of their skin!

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 21:00

and Mims is Good people ...
I like her in her sandles and the earth between the toes feel she has about her ...
Mmmhh.. I could ge used to this kinda charm.. *blushes*

she's never been elevated in dealing with people
Hehee... Whatever this means. (O seka wa ntlontlolla pele ga bana, ao!)

What is it i hear about Mimi and Vusik?
.
Ninomona !!!!
And I'm loving the attention from the girls.. *smiles*

I'm not ready for a relationship ... I just came from a rather difficult one before the one I just stopped (because I realized I need to sort me out first)
Ao, you broke up with that woman in your life? You need me waitse.

I had a rough day crapping some mine managers out ...
sons of ...!!!
Hehee.. Better them than me. The more reason to come home to a sweet me.

(Ok, I'm not campaining)..

Update on Gens anyone? I missed because of loadshedding. I need to get myself this power backup thingy.

Mimibob
07 Feb 2013 21:06

(Ok, I'm not campaining)..
Campaigning.. I was never good with spelling..

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 21:34

Mmmhh.. I could ge used to this kinda charm.. *blushes*
lol

Ao, you broke up with that woman in your life? You need me waitse.
lol
Ahhh ... Yaaaaahhhh
Yes .. I stopped the relationship
Awesome woman I must say!!!

Nothing wrong with canvassing / campaigning
Ngwana Osalleng ...
(Umntwana ongakhaliyo ...)
(A Baby that does not cry ...)
You know the deal !

Besides, I think it is high time women spoke u about what they feel when they feel it ... this business of insisting on being always being chaste ... bakhona o'Mbau nezingane ezinesibindi la' ngaphandle
... uzolala wedwa ; ehambile ubhuti !

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 21:35

I got a mountain of work from being on the mines today
...
(I detest mining because even the smallest task takes all day
...
and they are ALWAYS sooooo very far away from anywhere !!!)

VusiK
07 Feb 2013 21:36

Good night !!!

See you tomorrow guys !

goldie
07 Feb 2013 22:36

Gud nite bhuti!

goldie
07 Feb 2013 22:46

Mimi o worse hle, still smiling alone like a naughty little girl when I read ur comments iyoh wa mpolaya! Let me sleep now! @BK am glad u understand cc I will sleep better knowing u know dat I don't wish u bad it was just misunderstanding u will b fine girl n thank you!

Kandyfloss
07 Feb 2013 23:50

Hi... Everyone * waving*. Silent bloggin for sometimes. I loved yesterday. Itjo. Night.

Goldi
08 Feb 2013 07:35

Morning Guys happy friday touch let's goooooooo

Dhee
08 Feb 2013 08:27

Good morning Gen family, its been a while and I can see you are still the very awesome family i became to know and love. I've missed you so much.

I miss The woman og God Aka "Ayah", please give me a shout sister.

makanku
08 Feb 2013 08:46

good morning beutiful peeps.
@Mimi, gaaaal do u ever give up????ay unaughty shame,

what happened to RainPrincess bantu???

CINDY LAPPA
08 Feb 2013 09:00

Morning mabloggers its friday today yeeeeeepeeeeeeeee lets juss do it but not over do it. Good pple please answer me this
What makes you young?

steffie
08 Feb 2013 09:12

Morning bloggers

steffie
08 Feb 2013 09:14

@Cindy laughter and being at peace with myself.

makanku
08 Feb 2013 09:14

@CINDY L, they say happiness

makanku
08 Feb 2013 09:16

....oh and also, healthy body wait, meaning taking care of urself

makanku
08 Feb 2013 09:17

sori i meant weight

VusiK
08 Feb 2013 09:22

@CindiLapa
@ Vusik you rock malume

Thank you Sisi

Keratile
08 Feb 2013 10:17

Good morning good people. How I've missed you. Hope all is well in your world.

CINDY LAPPA
08 Feb 2013 10:57

here is an inspirational story of my life so always be positive in life. I had an interview to attend at 10am in Jhb. That day I woke up early and booked a vehicle at 5am.The vehicle didnt delay,and i liked the speed too.With my estimation we were going to get to Jhb at 9am.Juss past Krugersdorp the traffic cops,stopped the vehicle and suprisingly the driver and the fellow in the front seat had not fastened their safety belts.The vehicle was summoned to side of the road and it took a long time to sort the tickets

I really got so sad,and icouldnt switch the vehicle for i had no extra cashand i was 4cd to wait.Itried 2 call the interviewers at first to reschedule my interview time but i was unfortunate the call never went thru. By the time we left it was already 8:30am. Ijuss hoped i will be well but at Florida the vehicled developed a faulty which delayed my journey for 2 hours.By the time i got to JHB it was already 12:am Irushed to the venue of interview, but to wait till2pm since it was abt to be lunchtime At 2:15pm i went 2 the recepptionist who told i had to wait till 3:30pm since he management were in a meeting.
At 3:30pm I was called in and the director apologised for keeping me waiting since morning and there were heldwithcompany suppliers ,howerever the had sat since 2oclock to deliberate on my job specification and my salary.Iwas baffled and said "Sir i havent been interviwed yet", The MD answered me and said"we decided not 2 conduct the interview at least to save time and also to save interviewees money on transport so we looked the papers 4 most appropriate person we wantand we opted 4 u You wont be dissappointed you will be shown your office andPA you wil be on probation 4 2yrs
Note*** Umight b held by issuesin yo life and hope might b diminishingand u think the chance is gone.But u know whatGod is waiting 4 u 2 release his favour so dontgo back along the way,dont quit,dont b upset by wht u face along the way in fact God has alreadydeliberated on your specifications and you dont have 2 go thru interview since u have all qualifications God wants....You are in 4 divine a announcement announcement b4 the end of this year if you ministered and encouraged say AMEN.............. Enjoy the rest of your day ppple

VusiK
08 Feb 2013 11:05

@Cindy ... Awesome !!!

Goldi
08 Feb 2013 11:18

Wow! Cindy Amen sistas

semtho
08 Feb 2013 11:40

Note*** Umight b held by issuesin yo life and hope might b diminishingand u think the chance is gone.But u know whatGod is waiting 4 u 2 release his favour so dontgo back along the way,dont quit,dont b upset by wht u face along the way in fact God has alreadydeliberated on your specifications and you dont have 2 go thru interview since u have all qualifications God wants....You are in 4 divine a announcement announcement b4 the end of this year if you ministered and encouraged say AMEN.. Wow @ Cindy, you just made my day am ..inspired.

steffie
08 Feb 2013 11:44

Wow glory indeed My God shall supply all of my needs according to his riches in Glory by Christ Jesus. Amen congratulation @Cindy

CINDY LAPPA
08 Feb 2013 11:45

what makes you young is NG. YOU+NG=YOUNG

caro
08 Feb 2013 11:58

mara cindy....#dead#

afternoon bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Deemo
08 Feb 2013 12:12

(cindy thanks for the encouragement hey,im so depressed bt i hope i wll be fyn.yu have bn sent from heaven

Goldi
08 Feb 2013 12:34

*waving* hey Caro lol Cindy @ Deemo wat's drepressing u darling?

Stonie
08 Feb 2013 12:37

Hello Gen family. I am new here but have been reading this blog for a while. I must say I am glad Akhona was put in her place by Mawande coz she was really getting big headed. I feel sorry for dinny, who has never enjoyed her marriage and hate Phenyo for his obsession with Sbudlas business. I was so chuffed when MJ gave his proxy to his mum . The look on Jason's face was priceless. Serves him right for betraying Senzo.

goldie
08 Feb 2013 12:47

Amen Cindy n afternoon all!

makanku
08 Feb 2013 12:55

@CINDY, u just made me cry. afta witing for my job for 10yrs, i need such miracles

Ntaksay
08 Feb 2013 13:23

Hello people

Cindy can you give me some of your luck please!! That is the most inpiring story I've ever had.

Makanku your time will come sisi, I can sense something big coming your way. *hides under the table*

What a busy friday

steffie
08 Feb 2013 13:23

@Makanku hang in there, God is not a man that He will lie.

Bk212303
08 Feb 2013 13:34

@Cindy AMEN!! wow that is what im talking about positive.
Makanku be patient cc use listin.Yr turn is on the way.

Nomdaz, Chinx where a u kanti?

Ntaksay
08 Feb 2013 13:54

I did not watch the whole episode yesterday, but I'm glad MJ gave the proxy to his mother.

Riyat
08 Feb 2013 14:21

The look on Jasons face when he heard the proxy was going to Mawande. He is really desperate.

Goldi
08 Feb 2013 14:41

Welcome Stonie pls du feel @ home..

eish Luntu can be a bitch sometimes hey pouring water to Senzo like dat haai soka man she's bitter mxxxxm

NoMdazB
08 Feb 2013 15:00

Hi all. I'm here @BK

caro
08 Feb 2013 15:41

afternoon guys..

i am so busy lately but believe u me i always get a chance to read your comments and advices....keep them coming,

keep the advices coming, some of us can very well relate to the stories you put out there.. i am kinda busy and i will dish my heart out to you guys wen i have tym.

you gyys are a real family, u neva judge, critisize nor weigh the problems people seek advise on. I must say on behalfof everyone u assisted with your kind words 'A VERY BIG THANK YOU" Thanks for making @BK realise how precoius her life is, how beautiful she is inside out, how her life's wellbeing is important for adding value to her life when the hope was gone. I am so thankfull to ever joining this blogg....

MALUME VUSIK thank you for being such an inspiration to some of us, i enjoy reading your comments that whenever i see your name i go to the kitchen, make a cup of rooibos and cum bac to enjoy the well-put words that always makes me wonna question whether you exist or not ( GOD-SENT)

CINDY LAPPA
08 Feb 2013 15:41

have a nice weekend i'm knocking off . chat monday again gun9ty love you all

Ntaksay
08 Feb 2013 15:53

Happy you Cindy I am so tired, wish I could see myself in bed. I still have to cook when I get home, being an adult is tiring.

steffie
08 Feb 2013 15:59

chat on Monday, have a good weekend.

Bk212303
08 Feb 2013 16:21

@Cindy L bye and enjoy yr weekend.
@Ntaksay say that again yhoo yadika the cooking while you feel the feet is raising
@Caro hey thanx and yes i also wonder sometimes about Vusik???
Maybe God saw this group and sent us him, u never know when it comes to GOD's things anything is possible

Hey Nomdaz did u check messages............and thanx cc

semtho
08 Feb 2013 16:33

Lovely weekend to you all.

Bk212303
08 Feb 2013 16:47

ENJOY YR WEEKEND FAMILY

NoMdazB
09 Feb 2013 14:53

Happy Saturday everyone.

Cmaneo
09 Feb 2013 19:08

Evening family.the house is so quite

destroyer
10 Feb 2013 07:48

Hi every1, my name is destroyer and M addicted to TVSA! Gimme more about this sello character, whats his real name, how long will he stay on our screens etc.

VusiK
10 Feb 2013 11:02

i enjoy reading your comments that whenever i see your name i go to the kitchen, make a cup of rooibos and cum bac to enjoy the well-put words that always makes me wonna question whether you exist or no

Thank You Sisi.
You Are Welcome
I do exists ...
some people here have my phone number
... & know my full name.

Riyat
10 Feb 2013 15:46

Hello family

NoMdazB
11 Feb 2013 05:27

Happy Monday all. I'm dog tired because we're preparing for a funeral, and you know how us Xhosa people feed and feed and feed until the funeral. I'm just wondering if it's like this with Zulus, Sothos Vendas etc.

steffie
11 Feb 2013 08:31

Morning, what an exciting weekend a had.

Goldi
11 Feb 2013 09:09

Morning Family

Nomd wus funeral n wen is it? mmmmm @ Steffie pls du share da details *matitaba tendencies*

steffie
11 Feb 2013 09:19

@Goldi on the football front, nothing personal.

caro
11 Feb 2013 09:27

morning guys....

i am sorry bt i just have to this...

what were you thinking when you came up with your TVSA username??? did u cut and paste as some of us did????????? is it your boyfriend's name? ur child, spouse... "how did you come up with ur username?????????

Bk212303
11 Feb 2013 09:44

Morning all had a fruitful but tiring weekend. @Nomdaz yhoo i know what u mean when u say u tired of preparing coffee, muffins, lunch tea in between supper yhoo its hard no time to sit. Who's funeral cc. @caro lol.... mmmh i know what u thinking.

NoMdazB
11 Feb 2013 09:54

@Goldi and BK, my husband's best friend lost his only sibling, a brother. So us wives help each other out cos you can't always depend on the community or your family makotis. @ Caro, one of my aunts calls me NoMdakazana, well because I am dark skinned. When she's feeling particularly fond of me she shortens it to NoMdaz-B. The B is pronounced alone, as in letter B. Tvsa got rid of the dash when I signed in.

NoMdazB
11 Feb 2013 09:55

And by the way the funeral is on Saturday, so a whole week of scone, muffins etc....

Kandyfloss
11 Feb 2013 09:58

mornin.. @Caro i didnt think much about it. It has no signficance and doesnt relate to anythn in my life. Not even sure i got it from a movie or cartoons..

makanku
11 Feb 2013 10:06

Morning good peeps.
@NoMdaz, same story nakumaZulu cc! there's nothing we do better than to feed feed ngamafunerals
@Caro, my baby's name is nkululeko, so makanku.....

Goldi
11 Feb 2013 10:53

@ Steffie ok doll thot myb is prsnl any it's cool @ Caro my 4rnds use to call me Goldi Locks way back @ school i use dat username almst every whre even ma BBM name is Goldi bt with a y cos wen i tried 1 with n y it told me dat da name already exist

Bk212303
11 Feb 2013 10:54

@caro mine its my initials my son's, myhubby's and my birth dates.
If i may ask why u asking what triggered that thought ...lol

Manicure
11 Feb 2013 11:28

hahahhhhhhh Cindy and her story??????????? cant stop lolling....

Goldi
11 Feb 2013 11:48

Y r u lolling darling which story is it? Manicure

VusiK
11 Feb 2013 11:50

My username is my name
...
Obvious !!!

steffie
11 Feb 2013 11:52

@Caro mine is my late paternal grandfather's name Stephen whom I was very fond of so I shortened to steffie.

Btwa
11 Feb 2013 12:25

Hello all

No gen talk today? anyway @Caro mine is a nickname formed from original name. My Aunt started it.

Nongo
11 Feb 2013 12:42

@Caro mine i got it from my mom's sister, when she uses i fil very young and love it.

OlothandoD
11 Feb 2013 12:43

My username is my son's name and second name Initial D.

Where are my manners, how are you good people :)

CINDY LAPPA
11 Feb 2013 13:21

Good morning pple
my user name came after my name SINDISWA . so they couldnt pronounse my name properly at the office so they decided to call Cindy lappa

Kerrie
11 Feb 2013 13:25

hey guys, just have free 5 minutes, thought i should say hello to my beautiful people! i can see my partner in crime, Mangqezu, is also scarce in the house nowadays...will be coming back to the house full time soon!

sisila
11 Feb 2013 13:29

Hi
Mine is the name my late favorite grandfather used to call me with.

Friend
11 Feb 2013 13:56

Morning family,

I call every person i talk to" Friend" can't master names, bad memory.

Friend
11 Feb 2013 14:05

Abanye bathi imnandi uma ingena, abanye bathi imnandi uma isiphakathi, mina ngithi it depends kumntu oyifakaya, uma ungamthandi ngeke uyizwe kahle, kodwa iqiniso lithi ishisa kamnandi uma isizophuma, tell me wena uyithanda uma isikuphi inkonzo yepasika?

Ntaksay
11 Feb 2013 14:13

Hello good people

My username is my nickname.

CINDY LAPPA
11 Feb 2013 14:27

@friend you got me you know i thought you meant something P***S but u proved me wrong it shows how evil minded iam

Friend
11 Feb 2013 14:36

CindyL, lol, 'thandi zinto

Friend
11 Feb 2013 14:39

You're in the toilet, just finished ......., you realise there is no toilet paper, you have R200 note and a Bible, what would you use. Be honest please!!

Vandimerwe
11 Feb 2013 14:42

my username is my surname but i decided to tswanalise it as i am a motswana and thats how ppl call it.

VusiK
11 Feb 2013 14:43

@Friend
...
Angiyena Umkrestu ...
so ....
Angazi, lol

Dhee
11 Feb 2013 14:48

Mine is my nickname

CINDY LAPPA
11 Feb 2013 14:52

@friend i will juss put my under on go grab toilet paper come back use it; wash my under i will never use a bible either money

Friend
11 Feb 2013 14:52

Lool, Vusi, point taken. Afcon has come and gone, back to PSL can't wait.

Friend
11 Feb 2013 14:57

CindyL ohk, lol. I would use my undies or socks, even the index pages of the Bible. i'm being honest.

Ntaksay
11 Feb 2013 14:58

@ freind I would take the first page of the bilble, there is nothing important on it.

Friend
11 Feb 2013 15:07

Ntaksay, year right. lol.

Ntaksay
11 Feb 2013 15:23

Your quiz Friend reminds what my grandfather told us years ago.
He used to work in a firm (dont know the name) in Jhb, he says his boss use to give them toilet paper when they go to the toilet, he used to roll 10 sheet each and everytime a person has to go to the toile that person has to go and ask for a toilet paper from the boss.

My grandfather says one of his coleagues had a runny tummy he went to the boss for t/p and got 10 sheets. He went to the loo helped himself with number 2 and when he wiped no.2 the tissue got wet and he ended up with no.2 on his hand and when he tried to shake it off he hit the wall so bad that his fingers were painful, he sucked his finger (forgetting that he has number 2 on his hand). He only remembered after he had swallowed.

Friend
11 Feb 2013 15:37

He went to the loo helped himself with number 2 and when he wiped no.2 the tissue got wet and he ended up with no.2 on his hand and when he tried to shake it off he hit the wall so bad that his fingers were painful, he sucked his finger (forgetting that he has number 2 on his hand). He only remembered after he had swallowed

DEAAAAAAD for years Ntaksay mara, laughing my way home.

OlothandoD
11 Feb 2013 15:46

I will use any page from the Bible to wipe my a*****hole clean then go to buy a new bible with the R200, can't walk around with an unclean a*****hole. I am trying to be honest guys.

VusiK
11 Feb 2013 15:50

I will use neither
...
I will rinse with water (most toilets have water)
then use part of the 200 to buy toilet paper (however little it costs)
and save the book from mutilation

Friend
11 Feb 2013 15:58

Olothando, nothing wrong with that, as long as you're comfortable and not stinking, lol.

Bk212303
11 Feb 2013 16:18

Sis Ntaksay rhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i cant stop thinking about this ssiss maan Olot lol

NoMdazB
11 Feb 2013 20:33

@Friend I haven't laughed like that in a long long time. I was even imagining ukuphuma nokungena kwayo! @ Ntaksay, No Words sisi- none. Night everyone.

Ntaksay
12 Feb 2013 08:05

Good Morning

Noluntu is really heartless.

Rob's children are very cruel.

OlothandoD
12 Feb 2013 08:23

Good Morning!!!!

An update please, failed to watch last night's episode. Thanks in advance!!!!!

steffie
12 Feb 2013 08:24

Morning
Choppa ha sto hire the poor girl, why do most black people think that whites are all loaded?

Manicure
12 Feb 2013 08:26

morning, sumbody please update a sister, didnt watch Gen lastnyt...power cut.

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 08:33

Morning every1

Luntu's heartless hey she doesnt want that child n yet she daznt want Senzo to care for him haai soka s for hiring a PI

Rob's kids mmmm no comment...

@ Steffie i think he's gona do jst dat, i think we blacks think that cos of da apparthied era *mind my spelling* so wen eva we c white u stinking rich

Kera
12 Feb 2013 08:39

Good morning family

i missed u guys a lot and your advices am speechless, hopefully this time i will not have a problem with my password i hahet it to just read yourcomments and not be able to login and comment

Ntaksay
12 Feb 2013 08:39

Hayi noChoppa, his heart is like a brick. I thought he was going to hire that girl after the sad story she told him about her family. As for stealing her ideas for valentine's day *that is Choppa for you*

Friend
12 Feb 2013 08:42

Morning family, wish I could go back home for a nap, tired and can't concentrate. Need a good laugh, please help a sister.

OlothandoD
12 Feb 2013 08:46

Still waiting, anyone, please just curious about what happeneed last nyt!!!

semtho
12 Feb 2013 09:07

Morning mabloggers amahle, hope u all fine. I once wrote a story here abt hubby sharing dirty jokes with a female collegue which i found out when he gave me his phone one day to look at some joke he found amusing. Then after that incident i no longer trust him 100%. Last nyt just before we went to sleep he was on his phone again nonstop yet we had made a rule that no social networks after hours. Then this morning i was tempted to check his phone whilst he was bathing, i checked his phone and this lady is asking him for advice on wat she should do coz he has found out her hubby is cheating on her, she goes on to say she cant afford to sleep with hubby coz the thot of hubbys thing inserted somewhere else feels dirty. I dont like where this is leading to any advice will be appreciated.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 09:11

why do most black people think that whites are all loaded?

because they were loaded when compared o the blacks.

Woman of God
12 Feb 2013 09:16

morning guys
missing you all but will be back for full tym soon

Kera
12 Feb 2013 09:20

Women are like fruits , every one has their unique colour, shape, aroma and taste............ the problem with some men is .......... they want a FRUIT SALAD.........=)))

destroyer
12 Feb 2013 10:08

do u knw tht on facebook there 5 akhona griffiths accounts?

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 10:25

@Kera
nothing wrong with a fruit salad
...
just declare it before adding more fruit into it.

makanku
12 Feb 2013 10:26

@semtho, amadoda!!!! ngathi mina if what he is doing is rite, then kuzoba rite if sewukwenza nawe. mnike amazwi ambalwa ahlabayo bese uzithulele ngoba akafuni ukuzwa, and also make him aware that u deserve better than this, if he still continues then....!

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 10:41

I used to date a few women I thought were into fruit salad.
It turned out that the ones who spoke clean of themselves where the dirtiest/ worst behaved, whilst the ones I thought were dirty were actually good women.

The exceptional one being the one I thought the worst of.
now that she is older and of better expression ...
She is a one man at a time woman, who happens to love women (and admits to having plenty at any given time).
her expression is ...
"it's calming to be f*ed by a man ... but a woman refreshes me"..

I am seldom stumped ...
but she stumped me.

... so, she figures that since I am single, that infers I am available, (and with a clear vision on getting married)
and
since I actually enjoy being shared (honestly) ...
this is a great time for her to suggest getting back together,
and she will come & cum with her girlfriend.

Yahhh ...
2013 is going to be very very interesting.
and I thought nothing could top 2011
...
Why are women obsessed with being / getting married?
in our conversation ... her proposed return is premised on her and me getting married fairly soon.
...
I'm not sure of marriage
marriage is a great uncertainty in the puzzle.
..
It would probably be an easy decision if marriage was not part of the conversation.

Bk212303
12 Feb 2013 10:42

Morning mablogers@ Destroyer???? the usename info please.
Is it yr nick name or what ? Interesting.

Ntaksay
12 Feb 2013 10:49

@Semtho block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that. Your hubby seems like he won't stop talking to this chick. And talking to the chick might also help make her see that what she is doing with your hubby is making you feel how she feels right now even though she is not sleeping with hubby but the fact that he is sleeping next to you and chatting to another women is also as bad as what her hubby did.

She know how it feels like to be cheated on, maybe she will stop if you explain to her what they are doing is wrong.

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 10:55

@ Semtho wat is da connection btwin the 2? *patiently waiting for Destroyer to answer BK's question*

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 10:58

do u knw tht on facebook there 5 akhona griffiths accounts?

Not a clue
but then ...
I'd need a facebook account to even access this fact

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:07

@Ntaksay
@Semtho block her number from your hubby's phone and tell hubby you did that.
@Semtho
I suggest ..
Don't touch your husband's phone.
It is not your phone, respect that he is responsible for his actions, and has a right to his privacy, and he will probably do so himself.

I've been married and I respected my wive's privacy so much that it is impossible for them to adjust to people who violate their privacy / take their privacy for granted. ...

If you are in any form of relationshi, and are still into other people's business, you probably in the wrong life space.
Adults know how to behave, and as an adult, you need to be certain that the person you choose to be in marriage with is an adult, ready for marriage, and accepting of the responsibilities that go with marriage.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:14

Then this morning i was tempted to check his phone whilst he was bathing, i checked his phone and this lady is asking him for advice on wat she should do coz he has found out her hubby is cheating on her, she goes on to say she cant afford to sleep with hubby coz the thot of hubbys thing inserted somewhere else feels dirty. I dont like where this is leading to any advice will be appreciated.

The first thing you need to sort out is to accept that you are the one violating your husband's privacy.
and possibly all his honesty and sensibilities.
If things go wrong from this ... blame yourself first.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:20

@Semtho...
You can still tell your husband you are not comfortable with his breaking the agreements on the social networks rule
and that you are not comfortable with his female friend and her dirty jokes
...
that is now public domain between the two of you.
...
You chose not to trust his fortitude ... that is your fault, and your problem.
I suggest you never mention that you went through his phone while he has in the bathroom.
thereafter ... I suggest you trust him to always do what is right.

...
also
She asked for his advice ...
Does your husband know ever single conversation you have with every single person you have some relation with ... including me and all Gen-bloggers? including the silent bloggers?
If not ..
what could ossibly possess you to be of the opinion that you have any right to every part of his privacy/ phone conversations....

Think !!

You already know the answers ...
no need for a response.

CINDY LAPPA
12 Feb 2013 11:22

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:24

Being married to someone by no means suggests that the person is your property on any level beyond what is reasonable in the perpetuation, and protection of your joint / common agenda.

Trust is often first broken by those who claim to be the victims of betrayal.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:39

I had someone decide that I was a dishonest person, so they googled my name.

I was arrested several times in my life .

Mostly for struggle related events
and once for writing a bad check ... in other words , a check bounced.

this person then decided that everything that they had decided about me were the absolute truth and condemned me because I fitted his idea of whatever he was looking for.
Without even bothering to ask me for the facts behind his discoveries.
Fact is ... if you know my name, and google it ...
you will find several articles about someone with an identical name who happens to have been arrested for whatever reason, and the truly remarkable story surrounding how that person turned his life around.
There would also be several aticles about a Dr >>>>>
and several trade references to >>>>
and so forth,

The result is that this particular person lost me as an investor in a minimum 250 million rand project I had already decided to engage ... a project he really wants to happen, simly because I will never know who I am in business with.

i was particularly disapointed because he could have picked up the telephone and said "I googled your name and found this ... can you please explain it to me" .
Now ... i am spending 500 million in a project in the same industry that he drew my attention towards ... an industry I would have ignored (I veto-ed my CEOs decision to not enter this industry prior to his stepping all over my face), or enjoyed with him ...
but now, I am the competition in his very front yard ...
and I am operating without debt.
he is still hunting for funds, which when found, create a hole he might never be able to dig himself out of.
I can be vicious should I choose (in my business practices ) and wie his entire enterprizes out simply because he violated me and my sensibilities ....

i do not know if I will yet...

and people

Google is not the authority on the facts of life.
Google is a company in Palo Alto California ... just like Apple, Twitter, Facebook, and a host of other companies that actually add zero value to the quality of person you could be.

ASK proper questions and expect proper answers is something I always say.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:47

the other day ... in a different article ...
I said ...

The ANC is NOT THE GOVERNMENT
the ANC is NOT THE STATE
the ANC DOES NOT RULE OVER SOUTH AFRICA
and the ANC DOES NOT RULE ME

the ANC is a political party ...
just like the DA and the IFP and the ACDP

the other day .. in the business times ...
there was giant hubbub about the ANC cutting banking ties with First Rand group
what was probably not as relevant to the headline reader was that a few weeks prior business day also published that the ANC is almost broke (see Mangaung footnotes on the ANC treasurer's report on the state of the party's finances)
..
To some people ... the headline could suggest that the government is severing ties with the bank as a client ... which would be wonderful ... but stupid.

all I am trying to point out is that perceptions and reality are not necessarily identical.

If one asks the proper question, or addresses the proper matter
One often reaches the proper result.

caro
12 Feb 2013 11:48

If i may ask why u asking what triggered that thought ...lol

im sorry to sya this but i saw "DESTROYER" and i fricked... eish joe

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:51

What would have been AWESOME would have been for FirstRand to have the balls to stand by their YouTube Ad skits and dare anyone to challenge their right to free and honest expression/ speech.

So what if the government and consequently the country stinks?
and so what if First Rand is right / wrong ...

every argument often has a counter-point to any single position.

caro
12 Feb 2013 11:54

Angiyena Umkrestu ... @vusi hai angazi #dead#

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 11:59

@semtho take her number and 4n her explain how you feel abt her 4ning after hours .if she is not to smthing with your man she will understand try 2 put her on your position as a woman. if she is true frand to your hubby she will respect you and wouldnt like you 2 fight bcoz of her

The other person has actually nothing to do with Semtho's marriage .... it is Semtho's husband who needs to be addressed by Semtho about what is appropriate.
Leave the other woman alone, she has no idea of the effect Semtho's husband (and Semtho) is allowing to effect her household badly.

Why go engage / fight a person who has no bearing on the problem.
The other woman's existence is incidental and subject to happenstance.
The problem is between Semtho and her husband .

Bk212303
12 Feb 2013 12:00

Wow !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yhooo lesson learnt.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:01

@Semtho ...

Do as the women suggest ...
and
you are quite possibly / probably starting on a trip to divorce court.

It could be short trip (if you were my wife ... it would be),
or a long one.

Semtho violated trust here ... not the husband.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:02

@Caro ... were you of the opinion that everyone is Christian?

Bk212303
12 Feb 2013 12:04

@caro cause i saw a user name of Destroyer and i wondered if u also saw that.
upi Destroyer

caro
12 Feb 2013 12:10

no VUSIK , i m just amused by the way u put it hey... i know we have different beliefs

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:12

.. about FNB & First Rand.

what had me lolling in my incredulity is that the ANC is severing ties with FNB in favour of Postbank, on the roviso that Postbank is granted full banking license.

postbank ... which over the christmas holidays suffered a 42 million rand cyber-heist
which case dockets are missing
which the stolen money is not recovered
which the funds have disappeared
which suffered the greatest losses per annum relative to reserves of any bank in the country.
postbank once suffered over 250 million rand plus theft from its employees (cadre deployment) in a scandal some five-seven years ago?

If I was the registrar of banks ...
That is the one bank I would not allow full retail banking license.
But I am not the registrar of banks!

If I was Posbank, I would post a sign by the reception ... as exists at UBS HQ ...
..
it reads
"Union Bank of Switzerland
Your money is not safe with us"
I should know ... I bank there!

caro
12 Feb 2013 12:12

my username is my name.... which i love very much

i know you guys hv been wondering as to why am i not diclosing mine , anyway thans for sharing

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:13

@Caro ...
'Tis true ... I am NOT Christian by any measure.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:19

Lord ... This keyboard is worse than the one tech replaced !
lol

Btwa
12 Feb 2013 12:22

Hello Everyone,

Please update me on last episode, i wont comment on anything without Gen update first....please

steffie
12 Feb 2013 12:42

I asked myself as to why ANC had to be vindictive about the FNB vidoe becuase no mention of any political party or name and also why be brushed off by sentimental comments if you (ANC) are good as you claim.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:53

I never got to see the videos, so I have no clue.
My researchers said it was a commentary on how bad a state the country was in.

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 12:56

@ Steffie bt i saw da add is back on n u ryt der's no where dey mention any political parties name

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 12:57

methinks
The ANC is of the opinion that it is the government
...
hence
...
criticism of the government is criticism of the ANC
(in my opinion .. as per their lofty opinions of themselves)

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 13:16

i agree with u Vusi

MsKim
12 Feb 2013 14:04

@Semtho, pliz take it up with your hubby ONLY. tell him the truth how you feel. tricks in marriage most times they back fire. deal with yo man..

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 14:05

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.

Semtho has not said that her husband is cheating on her.
She is uncomfortable about the intimacy, or perceived intimacy of their relationship ... which is quite simply a platonic friendship.

it is Semtho who needs a wake up call !

She could be married to someone with a personality like mine ...
who will send her packing for violating his privacy
or for supposing that I could violate the marriage by being stupid enough to Jol around behind my wife's back.

My phones, emails, mail, personal items are MINE, not for whoever I may be married to or sleeping with to do with/ on as they wish.
Many of my relationships have ended because the woman did not understand a simple rule ...
I am not property!
I share life, time, and space, generally on my terms, with some modest compromise to accommodate another person's existence in that life, time and space.
Whatever they expect of me, I expect of them, however,
they should never forget that they are in that space because I choose, wish and want them in that space.

Semtho ... I suggest you think hard about your next move regarding this matter.

You can open a dialogue with your husband, however, be cautious because you have already broken the two singular most imortant rule of any relationship ...
viz...
Trust and Faith.

Kera
12 Feb 2013 14:12

@ Semtho phoning the other woman is not an answer, some woman are downrite rude dont go that route speak to your man and believe u me he is not gonna be happy that you went thru his phone. i know what im talking about being there and its not good

steffie
12 Feb 2013 14:15

@Semtho I think your husbie is just a supportive friend and nothing more.
Be confident in your relationship with him and give him credit where is due or else you may end up losing hin because of your insecurities.

Most men doesn't want nagging wives who question every move and details of their lives.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 14:16

viz...
Trust and Faith
...
and respect

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 14:24

I know I say this so much that it is diminished in impact ...

BROWN SKINNED WOMEN !!!
You know almost nothing about men,
yet ...
the answer to everything you need to know is right there in your beds every night.
ASK us brown skinned men, especially the one you sleep with about who, and what he is.
Chances are great he will tell you exactly who and how he is, even if you do not wish to hear it.
If you are of the type of person who asks question desiring a specific answer that favours your desire, you are probably on the wrong planet !

Lastly !!!
The worst person to ask about a brown skinned man
... especially your brown skinned man;
is a another brown skinned woman!

She probably knows less about us than you do!

Chix
12 Feb 2013 14:24

@Semtho... I think you really need to start trusting your husband... Yes you can talk to him about his behaviour with reference to social networks when he is supposed to be spending time with his family!

But as for confronting him about something you saw on his phone whilst you were snooping without his permission (not that he would have given you permission) as he was bathing is a NO NO!!! If your hubby is in any way cheating on you with this woman it will definately surface on its own without you having to go out of your way trying to dig dirt!!!

As a married woman I suggest you stay as far away as possible from confronting other women whom you suspect to be having something with your hubby. That will leave a very bitter taste about you to your hubby!!! It is very small things that we do without even realising that make MEN see us differently!!! I will reiterate what VusiK said... talk to your hubby and him alone and leave the other person alone... They are not a part of your marriage so do not make them a part!!!

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 14:51

@Semtho

There's a Teddy Pendergrass song you need to listen to.
...
It is called "You and I"

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 15:01

But your husband needs a wake up call he needs to put your feeling first not ezale ntombazane. Yena she must deal with her cheating husband.

Where daz this statement come 4rm Vusi?

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 15:23

One of the most cliche' statements about the fundamental building block of a relationship is that any relationship is a zero without communication.

my twist on it ...
and possibly the most difficult for most people (I know because it was soooo very hard for me to make the mind shift, albeit many many years ago) ...
is...
HONEST COMMUNICATION is the most fundamental building block of any relationship.
Not what I think of , Wish for, desire, want to hear,
but unapologetic honest communication ... and damn the consequence...
On Saturday, the woman I am in love with came to visit with her daughter,
we were watching a movie,
previously, I had invited her to be my companion to the soccer games Sunday.
the problem was I was waiting on the confirmation of a series of meetings,
so ...
when she asked about the soccer (the same meetings were supposed to have taken place during soccer in them that suites)... but the suite was double booked or some crap, so I was also waiting on that confirmation also.
regardless ...My response was "I am waiting on the confirmation of a meeting, and only then will I decide regarding the soccer" ...
to which she said "She's pissed at being dissed on her planned soccer date being ossibly held ransom & bumped by a meeting & business"
... My response was .. "Be pissed, I don't care"; which is exactly how I felt because I know absolutely ZERO about soccer ... it happens to be that the person I wanted to meet is a soccer nut, hence the compromise to go to the soccer.
Naturally, the air in the room changed, I thought about it, and said "That is not what you would have liked me say ... to which she replied ... Yes, that is not what I would have like to hear"
but truth is ... I don't care about soccer, or any spectator sports (I can't afford the time ... I'd rather work or spend free time with my children and family ).
I don't have very good people skills ...
I'm the proverbial 600 lb gorilla ,
I sleep wherever I like!

However ... the moral of the story is ...
I have evolved to where I will communicate ME from the core of my soul with scant regard for how the message is received, or perceived.
If a person does not like what they hear, or read because I do not use filters, nor do I really need anyone / anything ... Too darn Bad !!!
However, whatever comes from me will be the truth ...

PS.
I did meet with the person, had our agreement, and personally (beyond my company's earnings) stood to make at least a million a day from our relationship.... That was sunday at five pm.
On monday at five pm. I cancelled the business with the person I wanted to meet because he has NO REGARD for his own word.

I can never trust a person who is not true to his word.
He did not do as he said he would when he said he would do it.

There are people who are upset ... too bad for them ...
when they have their own shops, they can run them as they see fit.

He was not honest .
He was stalling, and he had all the pieces he had being searching for the last twelve years in his hand.

Btwa
12 Feb 2013 15:26

This is nolonger Gen Blog, i know we shud support each other as friends but not totally foget the core reason of blogging...just a thot
@Semtho Chix put it more better than i would. I share same sentiments.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 15:26

Goldie ... it comes from here ...
Ntakashi wrote ...

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 15:28

sorry ... from here

Reply from:

Ntaksay

Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:49 AM

Bk212303
12 Feb 2013 15:29

Where is ..Destroyer????

steffie
12 Feb 2013 15:33

@Vusik you seem like a ruthless and arrogant businessman hey, who is too difficult to please *hides*

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 15:52

@Steffie ...

You are probably right ...
I have been called everything you say.
...
my father used to say ...
if the whole world says something about you
...
it is probably the truth

I do not live for the pleasure of other people (in my business life)

Ntaksay
12 Feb 2013 15:53

Shame Btwa wish I could update you but I'm blank.

If you dont watch today, let me know at 8:00 tomorrow I promise by 8:15 you will have the update.

Sorry!!!!

MsKim
12 Feb 2013 16:00

ya neh @ steffie he really does.

semtho
12 Feb 2013 16:01

Thanks for the advises people, talked this out with my husband and from now one NO SNOOPING ARND ON HIS PHONE. Hey i couldn't ask dat woman abt this, its was my problem not hers anywaiz. Once again sorry to dos who feel we have turned this to Sis Dolly helpline. Nginithanda nonke.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:05

After all these years MsKim is still not used to me being me, lol

steffie
12 Feb 2013 16:08

Your carapace of confidence does it stems from you knowing that you are smart at hat you do (business-wise and intellectual) or you were like this always. Mpela you are more than hat people could handle @Vusik but you are intellectual refreshing and you don't beat around the bush I like that: being honest about yourself.

Kandyfloss
12 Feb 2013 16:09

lol @Steffie.. I don't wish to see the response from Vusik. Very busy lately jus a silent blogger.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:11

@Steffie ...
I'm the quiet one who thinks, plots and schemes and carries out what I intend to,regardless of the consequence to me. ...
no-one really knows what I'm going to do next.
I like, and prefer it that way.

If that is being ruthless, arrogant, and difficult to please ..
the results that speak for my modality.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:12

... and I do prefer to be alone over having female companionship in my life-space.
no complications = more time for work.

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 16:15

ok jst saw dat nw Vusi thanks @ Semtho we are family darling were everything n anything is discussed we love to help were we can *hug* i'm glad its sorted nw

Goldi
12 Feb 2013 16:22

Bye guyz i'm out of here izobona ngo 8pm

Bk212303
12 Feb 2013 16:24

@Semtho goodluck with future cc we love you.
Haveto love and leave all of you. CYA

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:31

@Steffie ... don't you think it is about time that brown skinned people stopped behaving like followers / 2nd rate citizens?

I don't know about the stuff you speak of much ... however,
I have sufficient experience to know that lying costs more energy than telling the truth.
I am me ...
I have lived, I have highly intense experience in many sectors
I have always lived as though it is my last day ... just not the way many other people would. (was a soldier, jumped out of perfectly working airplanes, fought other people's wars, was an adrenaline junkie most of my life)
I could read by the time I was 3 or 4, spoke at least 5/6 languages by that time (read all the books & encyclopedias in my home by the time I was seven) ... insatiable hunger for knowledge, equal curiosity, (I still approach knowledge with the vision of a five year old) ...
suffered enough to know that the next person does not give a damn about me, etc.
i have lived.
I live until I no longer live....
and i love business and the pursuit of profit, regardless of risk.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:32

@Semtho ...
Good luck Sisi ... and all the best moving forward.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:32

Bye BK ...
Hey there Kandi !

steffie
12 Feb 2013 16:40

@Steffie ... don't you think it is about time that brown skinned people stopped behaving like followers / 2nd rate citizens?

Ofcourse it is, there is nothing more fulfilling than being true to yourself, I have liberated myself of feeling guilt about how I choose live my life regardless of what people say including my immediate family.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:43

I was first in many things,
you think it ...
I was probably among the first there
so ...

steffie
12 Feb 2013 16:50

I do understand the originality of this aloofness of yours, okay bye for today chit chat tomorrow. Love you all bloggers.

VusiK
12 Feb 2013 16:59

Bye Stef

koks
12 Feb 2013 21:04

Evening bloggers I'm new here and I'm loving this already....Have a lovely evening ya'll :) x

Manicure
13 Feb 2013 08:05

is this stil my Gen family or i'm lost?

steffie
13 Feb 2013 08:14

Morning all

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 08:23

A very good Morning to you all

Btwa, I'll take the silence as you watched Generations last night.

Manicure, you are in the right place. You are not lost at all my dear

Welcome Koks

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 08:25

Morning all, @koks welcome to the family.

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 08:41

Morning!

You arent lost Manincure, this is still Gen family.

Its just that when a sis or bro has a problem, the family makes sure they iron it out. after all that what family is for.

Soon you will be seeing comments about the soapie since it seems like Semtho's issue has been resolved.

Before I forget, can someone help a sista, my TV is not working so I failed to watch last night's episode.

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 09:03

@ Olo I'll try to update you.

The white chick saw the Tsalanang's flyers and Choppa stole her theme for Valentines. She confronted him and said she is tired of berging him she is going to the new bar and ask for the job, she told Choppa to decide whether she wants her or not.

The PI Noluntu hired did not find any connection btwn the Ndlangisas and the Dlomos, no money transfers nothing. MJ saw the PI in Luntu's office and said it's the freelance photographer but when MJ aske abt him she could not give a straight answer then MJ suspected she was up to something and she told him that she is inverstigating the Ndlangisas so she hire that guy to investigate.

MJ went to his mom's office and Wandi had a pic of Mnqobi but she hid it MJ did nt notice but the guilt was playing her. When MJ asked her what's wrong she said she is worried abt Luntu, she is up to something MJ also showed that he knows something but did not tell.

Wandi and Luntu were preparing Super, the Piet phoned but Luntu said she cannot talk she will call him in the morning. Wand aske who was on the phone and Luntu said no one. But she ended up telling her that she hired the PI to envestigate the Ndlangisas. Wand was defending them saying they are the good parents.....................

Queen wrote a poem for Rob and Rob liked it said it's nicest thing anyone has ever wrote for him. He said he is so happy to be with Queen and he would be happy to die in Queens arms. Queen was upset the whole day bcoz of that.

Dineo and Phenyo need a break from the soapie

Sylvia went to Ruby asked her what are her plans now that Xolani will be out jail soon, she said nothing she just wants him to be happy. Sylvia said yes, he will be with a younger women who will give him children and marry him

makanku
13 Feb 2013 09:12

morning zithandwa zenhliziyo
@koks, welcome sthandwa
@olothando..."its jusu that when a sis or bro have a problem, the family makes sure they iron it out. after all that what family is for." amen on that one, we r 4eva there for one another and we neva get tired of listening & supporting one of our own.
@semtho, hope u ok sisi, ungasabi ukuxoxa nathi.sinawe thru it all

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 09:27

Morning Family

Koks Welcome to r loving n crazy family...Manicure darling it's still da same house n da same family @ Olo Amen to dat sistas

i ws loling yest wen Queen ws telling Khethiwe wat Rob said abt him dying in her arms hahahaha

finally Ruby's gona dust of dat dust wen Xolani comes back hihihihih Sylvia mst JBS....n Ruby mst stop 4cing Dinny to have a baby pls asseblief tog

Kera
13 Feb 2013 09:31

Morning family

Queen just made me laugh when she said to Khethiwe what if him dying in my hands is a curse

sisila
13 Feb 2013 09:44

@Ntaksay thank u for the update these days watching tv is a pain for me. I am feeling very lonenly the best thing i do is sleep my lonenlyness away.

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 10:14

wat's seems to be da matter nw Sisila?

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 10:21

thanks @Ntaksay, I hope today I will manage to watch

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 10:42

@Sisila hayi thats not ok whats up?

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 10:45

Queen is such a drama queen. Did you see the way she looked at Rob when he was taking his medication, she is carrying on as if Rob said he is going to die right now. Shame Queenny take a chill pill Rob is not going anywhere.

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 10:48

u can say dat again Ntaksay wuuuuu haai soka maan

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 10:59

@Olo if you do not watch feel free to ask again. I'll alone in the office tomorrow, so I'll update you, not only on generations. Which other soapie do you watch.

I'm asking all of you, do you watch other soapies or just generations.
I watch most the soapies. starting from Rhythm City, Scandal, Generations and Muvhanga then I watch the omnibus of Isidingo and 7de laan on Sunday.

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 11:01

I'll alone in the office tomorrow - I'll be alone (forgot to type "be")

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 11:22

@Ntaksay an update for Muvhango will be appreciated! , thanks

makanku
13 Feb 2013 11:29

@Ntaksay, i watch all soapies except scandal, its timing is bad and no omnibus for it, too bad coz i like that soapie

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 11:45

Makanku It is quite interesting these days, you might want to try and watch.

I like your spirit olo you grab opportunity with both hands, that is good.

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 11:59

I love my soapies i watch 4rm days to Muvhango so ya *gigles*

break down i get home 16:45 Days after days i switch to 1 da Bold @ 18:30 RC dnt @ 7 i take a break 7:30 Scandal @ 8 Gen den @ 9 Muvhango den on sunday i watch da Isidingo Omnibus yeah baby dats me

Btwa
13 Feb 2013 12:09

Hello lovely family

@Nkatsay thanx a lot for thinking about my yestaday's request, wok is keeping me very busy that is y m checking in now
Ooh i watch only 2 soaps, ie Gen and Isidingo

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 12:13

Yho Goldi you like your screen, I usually get home after 6pm. I haven't watched days for months. Awupheki Goldi or you cook while watching TV.

When I get home I cook while watching, I peel vegies infront of the TV sometimes I even forget and burn the food. *women and soapies*

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 12:14

@Ntaksay yho i wish i could be you im so busy i dont even have time to watch the gen soapy but i used to watch bold,gen,muvhango,isidingo everyday kodwa now the woman is all over and that frustrate me more cause i used to cool down my stresses with soapies. Hi Makanku how a u cc?

@Ntaksay im also alone in the office but with loads of work. I m so angry with my boss he has this guy who does his finances but now they using me to fix his mess like sorting invoices of last Jan up to now and i dont get paid for that and on the other hand i have my own work piling now. and this i have 2 days to finish in between i must follow up on my files(multi-task) so am actually practising what i preached when i came for an interview. You know moss when u a in an interview you sell yourself or advertise yourself but when it comes to action its another story for some people.But anyway im multi tasking now and yes am enjoying it except for the fact that this time its mahala.

Yhe this Noluntu character injani nina she does not want to raise the child but now she is also blocking usenzo from raising the child. Is it me or what is Dinny ignoring/running away from her hubby when he wants to dust. Im happy that Xolani is coming back. Uyabona u Akona i dont have words for her.

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 12:19

i'm a woman darling i multi task hahahahaha wen i gt home kids r already der i swich on da tv switch on da stove den watch n cook @ da same time by da time Scandal comes on we having supper :) ohh women n soapies hahahaha s for burning dem food

i sumtimes wonder wen i have a boyfriend gore how am i gona cope eish ya ne sacrifices and compromizing haai will c kikikikikikiki

steffie
13 Feb 2013 12:27

My all favourite soapy is Scandal, the rest I watch nje, but I don't enjoy Isidingo doesn't have that wow factor for me.

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 12:28

Bk give me 12 hours I'm coming to help you *hiding under the desk*

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 12:37

Akona i dont have words for her
Both her and Asanda, they are playing with fire. They know Sello can kill them both. But baqinisa amakhanda, I just hope they save Sammantha from Sello

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 12:39

@ Bk Dinny daznt want to get preg dat's y she's running away 4rm hubby wen its dusing time

MsKim
13 Feb 2013 12:48

Isidingo is my fav, then The Wild then Generations, RC, Scandal, Days & The Bold...

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 12:50

I get home at 1730hrs, watch B&B, then Isidingo, Generations and then Muvhango

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 12:57

My favourite is Muvhango, then Gens, then Isidingo, then B&B

Friend
13 Feb 2013 13:03

Good-day Family, now you"ll get back to work.

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 13:06

@Ntaksay please help im drowning here. Ok who is samantha ntaksay.
Ppl i stil did not get a reply from destroyer upi na? 2Goldi ooh u single, how i wish to be cause there is no stres there. When u have a man in yr life yhoo they want to know where u a with whom, u must cook, iron clothing which i smtimes duck, yhoo yadika mani. To be honest i think if i stayed single and just get someone for dusting no strings attached then wouldve been grand obviously with my son.

Its a count down im not counting this week tata is leaving hooraara my dreadlock yhoo they need some air but hey i must they grew they are so long thanx to tata for that hahahha atleast something good came form this nightmare

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 13:09

@hey Friend how it.. did u say back to work.... yey i must get back u right ive been chatting long enough back to work now cya 10min

sisila
13 Feb 2013 13:15

was cought up in meetings all day, its one of those days that person feel like having someone to go home to a child to welcome you home. I stay alone,drive alone infact i do everything alone stay far from my immediate family and basically im an island.

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 13:15

@Bk i live with ma 2 boys so it's stressful shame i do laundry, iron n cook it's also tiring da only thing nje is dusting lol so wen i gt a man i think my pro will be my soapies lol @ Hey Friend no work today darling we r galavanting kikiikikiki u can join in if u dnt mind u know wat dey say mos if u cant beat dem joing dem kwaaaaaa, i wonder is s/he (destroyer)

MaKhuu
13 Feb 2013 13:17

Noluntu' s character is not funny anymore particularly wen it cums to Mqobi

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 13:19

Samantha is one of the girls who entered the beauty pegeant that Akhona is busy with at Yona Yethu. Sello saw the clip last week and liked the girl. Guess what Sello is the judge and also sponsoring

makanku
13 Feb 2013 13:28

@BK, hi sweetie,unjani kodwa? i hope things r lighting up for u.
ladies & soapies..!!! if it wasn't 4 my hubby i would b watching all the soapies on tv bt as Goldi said, compromises & sacrifices..

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 13:35

She's jst being bitchy *Noluntu* she daznt want Mqobi fine bt y deprive Senzo cos he loves he's son mxxxm spiteful n bitchy i tell u

MsKim
13 Feb 2013 13:42

Noluntu is being unreasonable. i think Senzo has rights as the father, he shld consult a lawyer

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 13:44

Where is everyone my eyes are killing me.
Forgot to say i went to book for my learners licence ppl anyone with questions and answers fax me plz anyone .........hallow!!!........ bapabantu................. yhoo im so bored and im tired of counting these numbers ....

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 13:54

@Goldi hey im also wondering about that too and also the username hahah.
yhooo sisila how i wish to have my own space.

I used to be a shebeen queen when i wasnt working 2011 but yhoo the thought of that yhoo ....the was no quiet time, wake up early to clean 6 oclok already someone wants to sit and drink and i decided hayi i must look again for work cause i could not take it anymore too tiring cause again u the last person to sleepand 1st to be awake.

Me im that person sometimes who wants to stay in closed doors, 1st thing in the morning clean quickly and wash myself, make something to eat watch tv whole day under blankets. No interruptions somma take the key out at the door so that no one knocks.

steffie
13 Feb 2013 14:15

I'm so lazy today but have too many things to complete.

caro
13 Feb 2013 14:24

I GOT A NEW JOB............HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPYYYYYYYYYYY

WHERE IA MY MANNERS???????? GOOD AFTERNOON BANGAN BAM?

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 14:40

Congrats Caro on your new job, Hurrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 14:54

WHOOOOPPPPPPP WHOOOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP CONGRATS CARO OHHHHH PRAISE DA LORD

@Goldi hey im also wondering about that too and also the username hahah.

i'm confused Bk??????

steffie
13 Feb 2013 14:58

Congrats Caro, happy for you.

CINDY LAPPA
13 Feb 2013 14:58

@caro im happy 4 u sisi ,it shows how great God is n-way good daypple

here is a quiz 4 the day
I am the first on earth,second in heaven, i appear twice a week but can only be seen once ayear and im also found in the middle of the sea.WHO AM I?

OlothandoD
13 Feb 2013 15:08

@Cindy Lappa, its the letter "E"

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 15:12

HAYIBO NIPI NGOKU!!!!!!!!!!!

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 15:32

It is E Cindy
E is the first letter on the word earth, second on heaven, doubled on week, one on Year and it is in middle on the word sea.

We are happy for you Caro

sikhona Bk

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 15:32

Cindi i'm lost Dodo si lapha nje BK

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 15:33

What makes an Ice to Nice?????????????????

Bk212303
13 Feb 2013 15:35

@ Goldi u confused about what my response or what?

i wonder is s/he (destroyer)

Congrattttts caro heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cindy ngu E

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 15:41

How do you get pies to work for the government?????????????

Why are A, E,and U the prettiest vowels?

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 15:57

lol @ BK i wanted to say i wonder whre is s/he typo error darl.

Ntaksay
13 Feb 2013 16:22

Home time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 16:27

ok guyz let meet @ Ruby's i'm out of here

CHEERS

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 16:28

Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 16:28

Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 16:29

Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 16:29

Congrats Caro!! Is there anyone who have/had a child born with clubfoot?

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 16:46

Forget my multiple posts... Am so worried about my son.

koks
13 Feb 2013 17:20

Thanks for a warm welcome guys.I already feel like I'm home.

I can't wait to hear the plan that Luntu has for Senzo and the shock she"ll get when she realises that Wandi knew all long.As for Queen I think she's gonna back down on the wedding,the way she's acting up Nkosi yam!

Eish Akhona is just another case ke loyo.....

Sorry @Kandyfloss but try to find an Orthopeadic surgen or Occupational therapist...Check out this woman"s blog Linda Hansen she might help as she knows how to cure clubfoot...Good luck doll.

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 17:37

Thanx Koks.. he started correction when he was 4wks old. And its 95%corrected. Now he's 20mnths old and walkin and he needs the cast, the thought of that and how he's goin to be affected is whats kilin me

Kandyfloss
13 Feb 2013 17:37

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 20:39

Evening guys so Kandy wat is dat exactly? Xcus ma blondeness

Goldi
13 Feb 2013 21:42

I'm sorry 2 hear I dd google it no nid 2 xplain Koks is ryt Orthopedic surgeon dnt worry @list he's still young otlaba sharp God is der 4 us all *hug*

Goldi
14 Feb 2013 08:35

Morning Family Happy Valentine's Day

Ntaksay
14 Feb 2013 08:35

Good morning

Another SUNNY day, I love WINTER I hate ilanga shame. But what can I do

Ntaksay
14 Feb 2013 08:45

I loled at Khethiwe's look when Rob had a sinus attack at Ezweni. I don't understand why Queen is avoiding Rob.

If that PI continues to investigate he will find out that Wandi also knew abt the baby, maybe that's what she is going to confess on Monday.

mahumani
14 Feb 2013 08:56

Good morning

Happy Valentine's Day 2 U all people
Noluntu a nga right why a nga tshiki n'wana akurisiwa hi va Ndlangisa shame wa penga.

mahumani
14 Feb 2013 09:16

One day a guy tell his wife that 2day I'm going to teach you a foreplay but first cum and suck my DICK so the girl tell her husband that stop interviewing me and put you DICK and do what you do everyday.

caro
14 Feb 2013 09:17

@kandyfloss CURE's clubfoot program utilizes a non-surgical treatment procedure known as the Ponseti method, a specific method of manipulation to stretch contracted ligaments, tenotomy (under local anesthesia), bracing, and follow-up visits.
This 6-8 week long process casts the foot gradually into the correct position. During treatment each week, the cast is removed and replaced with a new cast that incrementally moves the foot into the correct position. In the majority of clubfoot cases, children under two can have a clubfoot corrected with no surgical intervention. There is minimal scarring and bone development is not hindered, and the result is mobile, pain-free, flexible feet.

Get help quickly myfriend... your bunddle will be just fyn

By the way thank you so much guys..much appreciated!!!! will start the training on march the forth

caro
14 Feb 2013 09:19

Peter: A wa nwa?
Joe : Ee
Peter : Tse kae ka letsatsi?
Joe: 6 Pack ya "Savannah"
Peter: E ja bokae?
Joe : R90
Peter:O na le nako e kae o nwa?
Joe : Dingwaga tse 11
Peter : R90x365 ( malatsi ) x11 (digwaga) = R361350.00 . O ka be o rekile Audi Q7 !
Joe : A wena wa nwa?
Peter : Nnyaa
Joe : Jaanong e kae Audi Q7 ya gago?
Peter: Wa phapha , Mind your business

Goldi
14 Feb 2013 09:25

Noluntu wapenga straight :) @ Ntaksay i ws cracking myself yoooo I think Queen is having second thots abt Rob haai, Dineo and Phenyo's marraige is doomed haai soka it's not evern a month bt having such probs tjoooo

Manicure
14 Feb 2013 09:31

a beautiful morning to u all and happy valentine's day!!!!!!!!!!!!

Muhle10
14 Feb 2013 09:41

Ntaksay
14 Feb 2013 09:54

@ kandy we are with you sister all the way. Your son will be fine

Kandyfloss
14 Feb 2013 10:01

Thanx guys..

Kera
14 Feb 2013 10:21

Gud morning family

@ Kandy with God all is possible i will pray for your son in our prayer meeting today

I did not see Gen yesterday anyone please update

@ Muhle in reality Senso can fight for his son and he can win da case but its soapie land so anything is possible

makanku
14 Feb 2013 10:45

HAPPY VALENTINES ZITHANDWA.
ey im not ok 2day and i need umkhuleko. i told u last month ukuthi my Ma was in an accident (she fell asleep while driving, lost control & the car rolled but she survived) on her way back from her fathers funeral, now yesterday my grandma passed on.so what stresses me so horribly is that i cant help my Ma, financially, in all these challenges she's facing, God knows i want to help her but due to itoho engilenzayo i cant contribute with even a cent and she doesnt even know how she's gonna bury granny coz yonke into ibheke yena and she doent earn much herself.

Ey guys, i know i've bn nagging a lot about not getting a job for 10yrs and u supported mea lot but today i feel completely useless.ungifundisile lomuntu, hoping that i would help her in times of need but i cant.thats why i cant stop crying.all i need is prayer, even if u dont say anything 2 me.

steffie
14 Feb 2013 10:57

@Makanku I'm lost for words on how to comfort you. Will pray for your breakthrough and hope that you do get the job that you studied for and be paid what is equivalen to your qualifications.*hug*

Kera
14 Feb 2013 11:11

@Mankaku sorry about your granny,all that i can say to you is that only Gods knows why all of this is happening to your family we the people of the earth can not give you all the answers, fix your eyes unto Him no matter what and He will answer all in good time. We will pray for you and your mom to get thru this as well dear

Goldi
14 Feb 2013 11:25

@ Makanku i'm sorry for ur loss i'm also not sure how to comfort you darling but will keep u n ur family in ma prayers *big hug* God is with you gal

Bk212303
14 Feb 2013 11:54

Haaappyyy valaza to all. Enjoy it

Chix
14 Feb 2013 13:55

Congrats Caro!!!

Makanku my dearest Sweetheart... Do not despair... the darkest hour is just before dawn!!!

Proverbs 3:5-6
5. Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6. in all your ways submit to him,
and he shall lead your ways.

There is NOTHING we can say that will take away your pain Girl... but just trust Him, believe in His abilities, make that infinite abilities!! He knows what is going on in your life. The Bible says "He does not sleep, nor slumber, he watches over His OWN"!!! I know when it's painfull and people are encouraging you it seems like they are just speaking because they do not feel your pain, He is there, watching over you and preparing you to receive your blessing!!

Open your hands, lift them up to heaven and prepare to receive your BLESSING!!! It is about to fall over you!!!!

Have faith and stay STRONG!!!! *big, fat, warm hug*

Chix
14 Feb 2013 14:02

Been quite a while... Welcome to all the NEW BLOGGERS!!!

Bk I am still alive sweet thang... thanks for checking on me that day by phone. I do come around here, read the comments and leave again!!! Things are a bit hectic at work and I registered this year!!! So being an employee is hectic on its own but when you are studying as well it gets worse with two kids that also need you to be a MOM!!! But hey I still LOVE y'all guys!!!

*kissing every blogger on the CHIX with red lipstick*

Cmaneo
14 Feb 2013 14:09

Happy valetine,s day mabloggers

Cmaneo
14 Feb 2013 14:10

Happy valetine,s day mabloggers

makanku
14 Feb 2013 14:15

@STEFFIE,KERA,GOLDI,CHIX &ALL THE BLOGGERS, thanks for your support guys.u r amazing & may God bless u all.

Bk212303
14 Feb 2013 14:51

@Makanku cc i dont have words to say to you, all i can say im praying for u now and i will keep on praying for u cc. All i ask of you is to have faith in Him and He will take away the pain and will also give you the job deserve. Im so sorry about yr gran. Now yr gran is gone, it was time for her to depart so cry cc it helps a lot. If u feel like talking about her u can talk about her but just dont keep it inside cry or say something. It helped me when i lost my son, i talked, cried and the support i got helped. I know how painfully it must be cause a gran is someone else, I lost my gran in 2006 and i took so long to let go cause when it was time she called for me and they called me and they could not get hold of me that night and she past on at 23:10 that night and was told not to bother cause kulu was already gone. So i kept on asking myself what did she want to say to me and i sometimes wonder but what can a person do. God will give u umsebenzi cc just bare yr turn is coming and when it does yr mom will know but she knows uba u want to be there for her. But kuthwa inzima lendlela. Before u c the light kuqala kubemnyama.

Bk212303
14 Feb 2013 14:57

Hey Chinx wow unqabile cc. Ooh u studying yhoo i can imagine cc which means uyadinwa shem. Hey this ingathi its just hectic qha.
We love u too cc.

Bk212303
14 Feb 2013 15:03

Im listen to music spiritual songs

"Draw me close to u"
Never let me go
.................................................
...............................................
....................................

U all i want
u all ive ever needed
u all i want
mmh yhoo i love this song

Stil alone at the office

Goldi
14 Feb 2013 15:22

Love u 2 Chix jst do wat u have to do gal we still here @ BK alone untill wen? whrs Nkatsay ddnt she say she's gona come chill with u?

makanku
14 Feb 2013 15:38

@BK, thanks cc.

Bk212303
14 Feb 2013 15:48

@makanku it is always a pleasure when it comes from my family.Love u guys u are angels sent from above. Be strong cc. @Goldi they coming back ngomso. Colegue gone to eastern cape and boss off sick and he said ngomso but i dont know cause he came in today to sign docs but i could c he is stil not well.

Whoo ntaksay whoow that one lied to me i waited and waited nothing undixhasise itable mountain lowo.

Goldi
14 Feb 2013 16:18

lol shame on Ntaksay for not fulfiling her promise dont worry @list dey r coming back tomorrow so u wont be alone ne now smile :) it's almost home time

steffie
14 Feb 2013 16:21

Enough for today

NoMdazB
14 Feb 2013 18:06

Oh @Makanku. I feel for you sisi. Pray and pray hard that someone in your family will have a change of heart and help. Ask the Lord to help open their hearts, you never know even a stranger might help. Maybe people at your mom's job. All of us will keep your in our thoughts and prayers. Sending you love and light.

RainPrincess
15 Feb 2013 03:41

The lost child...hehehee I hope I won't get booted for being away for so long. Studies are just depriving me of spending time with my beloved family maar y'all must always know gore your royal highness loves you to bits! I. Miss you guys.

Bk212303
15 Feb 2013 08:14

Morning mabloggers, hayi the investigator yhoo yadika.
Mawande must just come clean suka this man is gonna find out anyway.
yhoooooo Xolani is back what a suprise for Rubza......sugar Rubzana....

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 08:37

Morning Family

Hey RainP as long as u still good no worries lala we still have mad love for u :)

ohhh i really enjoyed Gen lst 9t only on da romance side not Luntu n her bitchiness, Ohh Xolani wowwwww wat a come eish Ruby finally bye bye to da spider web lol it showes hw well Nick n Akhona know each dey jst perfect camaan Akhona jst give Nicky anada chance tlheee ohhh Rob really loves Queen hey he believe in her sweet

Ntaksay
15 Feb 2013 09:30

lol shame on Ntaksay for not fulfiling her promise

I am ashamed already Goldi, I had to go to a solidarity to fight against Rape. I took more than I expected.

Does anyone need an update today, feel free to ask and I will help (Generations, Muvhango, Scandal or Rhythm City). If there is not request after 10 minutes. Then I will take as everyone watched their favourite soapies.
Akhona and Nicky are a cute couple. I love them, they have been hungry for each other yho I'm sure nase ndleleni bekungathi abafiki in Nicky's flat

Kandyfloss
15 Feb 2013 09:32

Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.

Kandyfloss
15 Feb 2013 09:33

Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.

Kandyfloss
15 Feb 2013 09:33

Good morning.. Thanx for you support. Did take my nana to the hospital, he doesnt need a cast anymore. Only a splint shoe-like thing. He 'l be puttin it on til he's corrected.

Kera
15 Feb 2013 09:39

Morning family

@Kandy God is goodooo( Nigerian accent)

Tjo Robert really loves Queen the way he looks at her says it all, as for Luntu how can a person be so bitter?

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 09:40

@ Ntaksay u r forgiven cos u dd wat u dd for a gud cos proud of u lala ok update on RC pls @Kandy i'm happy for u darl n lil man

Ntaksay
15 Feb 2013 09:49

We are happy for you Kandy *singing UJESU uphakeme
Igama leNKOSI sinamandla.......................*

makanku
15 Feb 2013 09:50

Morning family.
im feeling better 2day, thanks 4 your support.
Xolani, Xolani, Xolani. kodwa ungenzani. Ruby unenhlanhla yazi,
Nick & Akhona, match made in heaven.
whats up with Choppa kanti, why is he so up-tight lately?

Ntaksay
15 Feb 2013 10:21

Maybe Choppa likes the white chick. why did he give MJ that look when he was kissing the girl.

I wonder uzothini u Sylvia abt Rubs and Xolani going to Cape Town.

Hayi uRob akamazi uQueen, a book and Queen in a desert. They both do not know each other that well. as for Nick and Akhona, they need to get back together now.

Bk212303
15 Feb 2013 10:47

@Ntaksay forgiven and Kandy im happy for u cc.
@Makanku happy that u feeling better hey grl say that againg la Xolani uyandi bulala his mother must just back off.
as for uNicky boy i like the new one yhoo when i look back i dont wanna think all things he did at ezweni. So Akhona got some dustin maybe she will be able to think now and stop with the noncence ka sello. Did u hear when she said its a once nick ..... hahahah lol

Bk212303
15 Feb 2013 11:07

meant to say its a once off

mahumani
15 Feb 2013 11:22

I'm touched by xolani's poem that is what we call a suprise. As 4 Nicholas and Akhona is long without dusting may now Akhona she will think Straigt.

Kandyfloss
15 Feb 2013 11:34

Missed generations izolo. Load shedding. MaKanku all that shall pass. Problems are jus like VISITORS they come and go..

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 11:36

Ohh i loved Xolani's poem hey eish ya tlk abt True Love Sylvia mst jst be strong ppc cement @Ntaksay Rob n Queen jst started dated unlike Akhona n Nick dey even lived togeda phela i also think Choppa likes da gal y gt jealous of her n MJ

Ntaksay whr is my RC update kante?

Ankonisaho
15 Feb 2013 11:45

Hi Mablogegers m new,i have been a silent blogger for almost 4 years now,but this year i wnt to change that,..i luv gen

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 12:10

Ankonisaho welcome to r crazy n loving family pls feel free Nkatsay i got it tnx again pumkin ;)

Ntaksay
15 Feb 2013 13:00

Update

Senzo tried to reason with Noluntu, telling her that Ndlangisa are good parents and they love Mnqobi like their own child and berged her not to take Mnqobi. Luntu seemed like she understood

The PI went to the Memela household with more infor on the investigation but Wandi said it's fine they do not need it but the PI insisted and he told them that Mnqobi is not registered as Ndlangisa but a Dlomo. Luntu was so furious.

At the valentine's party at Tsalanang Rob asked Chopa if he could put Queen on top of the list so that she can be the first one to do a poem. Queen did not even want to do a poem, anyway Choppa called out her name first. While she still mumbling while ppl are waiting Xolani came in and took the mike and said he has a poem for Ruby. Then he expresse his feeling for. Rubby was so impressed.

Then it was "How do well do you know you partner' two couples had to voulonteer. Rob said he's in with Queen and Nick was talking to Akhona he was pointing something and Chopa thought he was raising his hand to be the second couple. Then he asked Akhona to go with him.

The first question was to the ladies (Akhona & Queen) what is you partner's favourite sport Queen got it wrong and Akhona right. The second was to the guys and Nick got it right. And they won. After that they were all over each other kissing and kissing, the left the party and went to Nick's flat to dust Akhona sait it is a once off thing, Nick said he likes that, no strings attached.

MJ was flirting with the white girl all evening and Chopa would give them a scary look, finally the kissed and Chopa was not impressed at all.

Kandyfloss
15 Feb 2013 13:48

Thanx @Ntaks. Wanted an update but was scared kana i neva update ..

koks
15 Feb 2013 13:49

Thanks be to God Kandy....

Finaly Nicky and Akho got it all last night thanx to V-day lol
Choppa must just stop stressing and leave the young love birds be..
Eish Luntu is really gonna hurt when she realises that her mom is part of all the shady dealing zakwa Dlomo and MJ yena andazi uyophambana nyani considering what he knows...Im scared for Wandi #phwee

Good afternoon family

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 14:39

Ya hey dat's gona hurt eish mara naye uLuntu uyadika y cudndt she let da kid be mxxxm

Goldi
15 Feb 2013 15:18

ok guyz it's time for me to bounce pls enjoy da rest of ur friday will catch u later @ Tsalang were things r happening @ da moment ;)

Ntaksay
15 Feb 2013 16:33

Bye

lekker w/end everyone

Keratile
15 Feb 2013 20:44

Jeerrr! Noluntu is a pain. She's so selfish and thinks the world revolves around her or it owes her something. As for Akhona and Asanda - I smell trouble. Generations is turning into Muvhango/Scandal now. I couldn't stop laughing when Dinny was panicking about doing jail time.

NoMdazB
16 Feb 2013 06:30

Morning to anyone who's around. Today is the funeral and it's raining.i feel like running away but I will wake up and go there and smile and serve. See you on Monday.

Riyat
16 Feb 2013 10:29

Hie anybody around?

VusiK
17 Feb 2013 18:12

Guys is anyone familiar with the law on what Senzos rights as a father are according to the south African laws. I think now that the baby has been born it is within his rights to get first preference before any adoptive parents can be considered. Of course Noluntu doesn't want the baby but the fatherwants to raise the baby. Am sure the only reason why Senzo agreed to give away the baby was to stop Niluntu from aborting. M sure we are headed for the courts now. She can't punish senzo for not falling in love with her. Can gay couples adopt a baby in south Africa

According to South African family law ... no child can/ may be put up for adoption without notice & consent of BOTH parents . and sufficient time and proof must be provided for such notice to be served, and such consent to be granted, or refused.

But Generations is a Soap opera, someone's creation for your dramatic entertainment. very little in the script is under any compulsion to comply with any applicable law.

Goldi
17 Feb 2013 22:49

Wat a long day it thot I'd pop in n c if ders any1 in da house bt s usual its empty ok peep gud 9t will c/chat 2 u 2moro *yawning*

RainPrincess
17 Feb 2013 23:07

Vusi I think u are right. They should have reaserched their topic well, they need to inform people through these soap operas.

Riyat
18 Feb 2013 07:40

Morning family I sprained my wrist so typing has been a problem. I really miss blogging. Am better off now atleast. Missed everyone but how are you all.

05415
18 Feb 2013 08:27

Vusi - you missed it my friend. When Noluntu was still pregnant, Senzo did sign the consent under duress because she said if you don't I will do abortion. Remember the time that Senzo had to rush and stop her at the airport when she was on the way to Canada. Phela in Canada abortion is legal even when you are six months pregnant and some states in America - Google it friends before criticising Generations. They did do their research. Senzo is in this because of himself, he signed off, but at the time theycame with the plan of getting the Ndlangisas, his cousins - that's where the idea came from because he realised he had no other options. Then now, by law, a mother can change her mind even when they given up the child as long as it's within the first three months (Google this too), so that is why Noluntu can still take the child from them if she wants to. They've mentioned this over and over in character dialogue - I don't know how you guys missed it. Sometimes we listen to jump up and criticise when we should exercise our listening skills. Pay attention people before criticising

05415
18 Feb 2013 08:29

Just to remind you - Noluntu's child was born in January, so it's still within the firts three months. Noluntu can still change her mind - the law allows her (not soapie law only, even real life law - Google that too or ask a lawyer)

Goldi
18 Feb 2013 08:42

Morning Fami yeh 05415 Senzo dd sign dose paper bt i think he also as a parent of da child cn change he's mind abt the adobtion cos its still within 3 months...Hey Riyat i'm glad u beta nw so dat u cn shower us with ur blogging hihihihihi

steffie
18 Feb 2013 08:44

Happy monday

05415
18 Feb 2013 08:51

Goldi - he signed the consent letter, that gives Noluntu the rights. Is it unfair? Yes, it is, but that is the law. Also right now he can go to jail for lying to adoption authorities, so if he fights Noluntu he can go to jail. This is a case of fixing a wrong with a wrong, that's what happens, you suffer

Goldi
18 Feb 2013 08:56

i hear u bt i still say he's got the rights 2 fight for he's Child he can tell them dat he 4s him to du dat cos he ddnt want to marry her i mean really it's so not fair she's jst let Senzo raise dat Child it's his after all she's jst bitter n angry nge she's doing this to punish Senzo haai soka

Ntaksay
18 Feb 2013 09:46

Good Morning

@05415 Senzo did sign the consent under duress That contract is not valid (it is void). I also think Senzo has every right to fight for his child.

Ntaksay
18 Feb 2013 09:53

Oh shame Queen and Rob are over. I was so sad. Queen was happy and she ruined all her happiness by calling that Sofia girl.

Where is Choppa going to get the money for sending Rubs and Xolani to Cape Town. Shame I feel sorry for him, kodwa naye what was he thinking?

05415
18 Feb 2013 09:57

Guys the law is law, it doesn't matter that you did wrong for the good. What you are saying that he has rights, he can say this and this. Truth is, he will go to jail for giving false information, fooling officials by getting his cousin to lie and they even paid that cousin with a take-away joint. We can get emotional as people as human beings but the law is not emotional, he did wrong. But is Generations saying he didn't do it from a good place - no, of course he did, but he broke the law, he knows that. That's why he had that scene with Phenyo saying there must be something we can do and Phenyo as a lawyer said 'talk to Noluntu, reason with her' because he knows they could be in trouble for doing illegal things. That is a fact. Many people do wrong for the good or from good intentions but it is still breaking the law. You've had of fathers kidnapping their children because their mothers are refusing them to see the chold, it happens all the time but that person gets arrested - period! Why because the law is not emotional.

Mrs Chix
18 Feb 2013 10:07

Honestly I do not think Senzo deserves that child. Yes he loves his son but what he and Mawande did was wrong. Noluntu can be a bitch but I am with her on this one.

Riyat
18 Feb 2013 12:03

I wonder what Noluntu will be thinking 10 yrs down the line. Its good its just a soapie. Me I would never give away my child. From the look Luntu is planning to make Senzo suffer really bad. That's what you get for not marrying her.

05415
18 Feb 2013 12:14

Riyat-watch Khumbul'Ekhaya - what do people who leave their kids do or say? It might not be through adoption but they have abandoned their children just like Noluntu is doing. They just come back and say I'm sorry - it doesn't matter how angry those children get or want explanation they get only a 'sorry'. Don't we all get that one way or another in any situation? I'm sure Oscar Pristorious is also gonna say sorry to Reeva's family because what else can he say... Like I said we do get emotional but these are the realities of the world, of human behaviour.

Goldi
18 Feb 2013 12:43

Haai Queen is ending things with Rob cos she's scared dat wen Rob dies she's gona have to close he's eyes soka maan

@ Riyat i guess she's got a heart of a stone lol @ 05415 dat is so true we get sorry bt those kids bako Khumbu they r da once dat looking 4 deir parents not da ada way round if i were Noluntu's son i would neva 4gv her mada of nie....

VusiK
18 Feb 2013 13:24

@05415

Vusi - you missed it my friend. When Noluntu was still pregnant, Senzo did sign the consent under duress because she said if you don't I will do abortion ...

I do not watch Television at all
I enjoy the comments and the blog tells me all I need to know about thhe storyline.
...
I was responding to what seemed to be a legal question

VusiK
18 Feb 2013 13:34

@RainPrincess
Vusi I think u are right. They should have reaserched their topic well, they need to inform people through these soap operas.

In life, one is only as strong as the weakest tool one can use ...
Perhaps they did research it properly, but that would create a weak story, so they chose the opposite.
It is called Applying Artistic License for theatrical purpose.
Only Mfundi and his researchers can truly answer the question regarding the quality and depth of their research.
Your participation, and their obligation, is to entertainment, ... not education.

Riyat
18 Feb 2013 13:45

@vusik you don't want tv? I used to think all the people who blog here love/like & watch generations. I guess I was wrong.

VusiK
18 Feb 2013 13:58

@Riyat ...
@vusik you don't want tv? I used to think all the people who blog here love/like & watch generations. I guess I was wrong.

You are correct ... You are wrong!

I blog here because there are fabulous people here

I'm an avid reader and near psychotic workaholic, and I love the radio over television for me and my family because it stimulates the imagination versus simply throwing information at one and denying one the opportunity to digest, or work the information over in thought...

I do not watch any television whatsoever ...

I only have television at certain places (the office, and the farm),
and those are permanently tuned to news and documentaries.

Bk212303
18 Feb 2013 14:47

Molweni mablogers welcome new comers/bloggers.

sisila
18 Feb 2013 15:05

Afternoon family today i am so thankful to God for saving my life we had 2tyre burst on the free way and by Gods grace the guy who was driving managed to control it,We got stranded in a foreing town for 12 hours with no food but somehow i managed to spend the whole day without eating. Now i need a lawyer the insurances we pay they just don't do what they say they will do when you have an emergency.

yoyozz
18 Feb 2013 15:58

sisila thnx god u r safe, welc new blogers

i was reading sunday sun yersterday and i saw zodwa nicholas gf. she is coming back to generations a ccording to the paper thy said we want zodwa back. i didnt knw that you guys mic zodwa so much and you also want zodwa back. anyway they already working on zodwas lines and zodwa was very happy i job yi job im also happy for.

Deemo
18 Feb 2013 16:00

hello mabloggers amahle.i missed you all,i can see everyone is ok,@goldi i was dipressed bcoz i was having a financial problem ,an aunt of myn was in hospital coz of high blood pressure ,then her son commited suicide.tht was really unbearable,bt nw im ok.help me pray for my aunt cos she stll not taking it in tht her only son is nomore,need devine comfort.

VusiK
18 Feb 2013 16:31

Now i need a lawyer the insurances we pay they just don't do what they say they will do when you have an emergency.

Believe it or not ... the best and most efficient & best cost efficient insurance your money can buy is the AA short term insurance basket... even at the basic level.

Deemo
18 Feb 2013 21:31

im so sad again,a freind of mine just lost her mother,i dont even have the right words to say to her,this is so painful,@ayasha wy does umkulunkulu allow pple to rest whilst they havent enjoyed the fruits of educating their children????????

Goldi
18 Feb 2013 21:45

@Sisala thank God 4 ur safe return gal ohhhh Deemo *warm hug* I'm sorry 4 ur loss eish dats hectic specially all dez tragedic things happen all @ once bt u mst knw dat everythng happens 4 a reason n onli God knws wat dat reason is will kip u in r prayers God promised dat he will never leave nor 4 sake us so Prayer gal all shall be well take care ok gud 9t guys

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 08:04

Good Morning

Another sunny day............ I wish it was winter already

duckie
19 Feb 2013 08:10

Deemo......sori bout ur frnd s lost,jus be ere fo her sisi
@,@ayasha wy does umkulunkulu allow pple to rest whilst they havent enjoyed the fruits of educating their children????????- Uthixo usuke bona ukuth sebeyidlalileindima yabo nd kwamele simbonge ukuthi usuke emgcinile loyo muntu upto tht point

condolences

Mrng fam,

Eix kushubie kwamawande-

Riyat
19 Feb 2013 08:13

Morning family

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 08:33

Morning Family

i ddnt like da way Luntu spoke to Babalwa hw cn she be so heartless telling a woman wu cant have kids gore dat's y she cant have kids cos of she's greedy dat ws plain rude n uncalled for dat Luntu she's bitter and angry mxxxxxm i wish S'bu can come back i feel sorry 4 Wandi as for Akhona no comment

Riyat
19 Feb 2013 08:46

I also feel what Noluntu said was bad. When I got married I stayed for a whole year without a child and people started talking. One of the people was my friend and she said it to my husband. She said its not my fault that your wife can't have children. Its because you people are bad people that's why God will never give children. A year later we were blessed with a son. We met in the village (she is my husbands relative) later at a funeral and she was acting as if nothing happened. I did nothing but to be honest she will never be a friend again. We talk but every time I remember those words they still hurt. People can't have children for different reasons I think its unfair for others to make conclusions.

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 08:50

What i Luntu going to do now that she know her mom was involved in the adoption consipiracy?????????????????? The look on MJ & Luntu's face..........more drama is yet to come in that house of unhappiness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish Akhona can find what she's looking or else we'll be seeing her obsession over Sello for months. Seskhathele uyena. we need something else

Kodwa noSammantha, how she believe a scam like that . A million in your account in just six month. I would be very suspicious. She is stupid and uthanda imali. She has to work hard if she needs something.

Oooooooooooh Robby, plz sort you children out. I liked you and Queenny

Mrs Chix
19 Feb 2013 08:56

Yoh I was on Luntu's side but izolo she was really mean to uBabalwa....that was cruel

NoMdazB
19 Feb 2013 09:11

Morning all. UNoluntu is just annoying. She likes being the center of attention.

Manicure
19 Feb 2013 09:17

ke kopa update i ddnt watch yesterday, power cut

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 09:39

N we thot dat myb da pregnancy changed her (Luntu) tjoooo kante moleko fela wa motho i wonder whether she'll continue with dis nonsense after her mom's confesion

Slondy
19 Feb 2013 11:28

Hi family!! I think Akhona will find Mzwanele (her dad) in Sello's farm

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 12:17

That would be very interesting @Slo

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 12:27

wuuuuu okare keabona mmm dat wud interesting indeed

zdwesha
19 Feb 2013 12:29

Halo Gen family long tym i c the house is still standing keep it that way.

yho i wonder whats next on the memela house

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 14:34

Heloooooooooooooooooooooooooo

People why are you so quite????????????????????????????????????????

caro
19 Feb 2013 14:43

sello o EVIL hle bathong...the lady le yena is so soft she agrees to anything...if thats the things poverty makes you do then..the world is heading for the end...

guys in june we will have all new Generations...all the actors are either gonna die, elope, leave the sopie for greener pastures etc..

what do you think generations will be like without the Dlomo family? Ruby Dikobe, the Memela's ...

shoo..!!! Can't wait...

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 14:51

Are you serious Caro? They cannot let all the acters/actresses go. Maybe one at a time. But why, I do not understand

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 14:58

Nah Caro u bluffing dey cant du dat tjoooo imagine Gen will be boring mxxxxm

caro
19 Feb 2013 15:10

Hi family!! I think Akhona will find Mzwanele (her dad) in Sello's farm

yep.. the rhino horns delivery boy...

i have also had these feeling that he (mzwanele) is out there and alive. Even if not on the farm bt he keeps contact with Sello but question still is.... Why doesnt he contact his family...( sello holding something agaist him)

drama is till to unfold ko GEN
lets just watch the space

caro
19 Feb 2013 15:12

Glad i got two people's attention

now the big announcement

THE GEN BLOG 'S MOST CURIOUS PEOPLE AWARD GOES TO............ MRS GOLDI AND NTAKSAY....

ROUND OF APPLAUSE

Bk212303
19 Feb 2013 15:33

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiii everyone missed u. Too much work but im glad there is ppl in the house. Big up Caro, Goldi and Ntaksay

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 15:34

Mxxxxmmmm it's Ms Goldi for u Caro *evil look*

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 15:46

Thanks for the AWARD Caro We have to keep this house warm.

Ntaksay
19 Feb 2013 15:51

I like the idea of Mzwanele being alive!!!!!!!!!!!

A husband was very ill:
Dr to WIFE: Give him healthy breakfas, be pleasant and good to him, do not discuss your problems, no TV serial, do not demand new clothes and gold jewels. Do this for one year and he will be ok.

Husband to Wife: What did the Dr say?

WIFE: No chance for you to survive

Riyat
19 Feb 2013 16:56

Ntaksay lol at that one. I would guess the husband called the doctor before going with the wife. Nice try mr husband. But guys I really miss jokes here where are they?

NomthyM
19 Feb 2013 17:26

The Memela brats are ungrateful, Sibusiso saved Luntu from Swazi and the sex tape, he also did the same for MJ when he sent him to the ICU. Also not forgetting MJ's steriods problem, suddenly the Memelas are so holy with no shady deals. The Dlomos are now being punished just because Senzo didnt marry Princess Luntu. The girl is plain rude and bitter, the way she talks bout her son, makes me wonder if there are mothers like her in real life.

Goldi
19 Feb 2013 21:16

Evening guyz yhooo I mst say Wandi's dangerous ha a ratile haai MJ le ena watena olaegile hahahaha da look on he's face hihihihi s 4 Luntu 2 ask her mom 2 fire Jason jst like dat nt cool s 4 Akhona serves her ryt she daznt wnt 2 listen so ya let her B ohh guyz bt dat Xolani is a DISH wuuuuu he can come @ ma bedroom door @ anytime lol

Riyat
19 Feb 2013 22:23

Even before telling MJ to go out am sure he would have run for his life after that encounter. Jason is unfair "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health" not for court for jail. That's being unfair how can those words be in the vows lol

Riyat
19 Feb 2013 22:28

Goldi what will happen if he comes at ur bedroom door? Are u going to let him in?

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 08:02

MJ just kept on and on..... he had that one coming. he did not blv that his mother did that to him, but he asked for it.

Did Phenyo have to tell Sello that Akhona is carrying on with the investigation. As irritating as this investition is. But I'm curious, I want to see what Akhona is going to fing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 09:02

Morning family

@ Riyat i will most deff let him in n in ma bed too *hiding face*

Dose Memela brats bateng nje they think deir mom's life revolve around dem mxxxm Akhona waphapha dat's for sure y cnt she let da police handle it??

NomthyM
20 Feb 2013 09:22

Jason does not love Senzo the way he should, he is greedy and using Senzo to spite Sibusiso, all he is after is the Dlomo name and Ezweni. His latest stunt was MJ's shares, wonder what is next. Akhona doesnt listen, Wandi has enough problems as it is, now she has to worry bout Akhona. Dineo is not ready to be mom, there is nothing wrong with that. Please help, what is the meaning of Dabs, if it means aunt, what language is it?

sisila
20 Feb 2013 09:55

@ NomthyM yes its aunty but in full its Dabawo or Dadobawo its Xhosa

steffie
20 Feb 2013 09:59

Late morning peeps. Please update a sista seems I'm missing alot pretty please.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 10:13

usezosebenzaphi uJason now that he is going to be fired, (if Wandi fires him).
Wandi must not let Luntu tell her what to do with her business. Jason is good nat what he does.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 10:45

Someone plz tell us a joke, or ask a quiz.
Something to attract bloggers. Let's keep the house busy people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Btwa
20 Feb 2013 10:56

Morning Good Friends,

I am sad these days, i rarely see my favourate soaps coz of load shedding. More sadder for Generations, can someone atleast update on yesterday's episode

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 11:01

He who kills her gal4rnd on Valentines deserves an OSCAR!! der Nkasay

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 11:11

Huh huh Goldi I'm with you on that one, they deserve an OSCAR in orange overalls for life.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 11:14

Goldi let's update the sisters.

You choose which household you want to update on Dlomo/Memela. Choose one I'll take the remaining one.

Woman of God
20 Feb 2013 11:30

hi guys LOVE n missing you just dnt have tym to blog am busy with something but will be back soon

is there anyone who is staying in pretoria or joburg?? please inbox me URGENT

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 11:31

lol Ntaksay y put me on da spot like dat i dnt knw hw to update

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 11:39

Hi Aya

steffie
20 Feb 2013 11:42

@Goldi you being selfish with update not on dear.

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 11:44

this is not FB we dnt inbox but PM *tongue out* pls let me knw if u got ma PM

Ntaksay update on wat u can den nna i'll add were need please darling u know u good @ dis *wink*

titidi
20 Feb 2013 11:50

@NomthyM Please help, what is the meaning of Dabs, if it means aunt, what language is it?

Dabs is my father's sister

caro
20 Feb 2013 13:21

Please help, what is the meaning of Dabs, if it means aunt, what language is it?

when Akhona was introduced to her gran and gradad... the name ws mentioned somewhere in the topic, i think thats wat Mzwanele used to call Wandi...i cnt remember the full story but someone in the family was calling her dt and Akhona said " i l call u Dabs then, sounds cool"
Someone wil giv u clarity of the origin..

@AYA i am sotuated in Pretoria...halla when you come hey....#hides#

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 13:22

Let's start with the Dlomos (I don't remember much though)

Sibusiso phoned and Phenyo assured him that everthing is fine including Mnqobi.
Senzo thanked him for not telling his father abt Mnqobi. Jason said they cannot hide it forever, and he asked them to keep him out of this whole thing. He asked Senzo to say he (Jason) did not know about the manipulative adoption saga. Senzo was not happy about that, asked him what happened to their marriage vows (to bad and to worse...........) Jason said he did not ask her to sleep with Noluntu. Senzo was furious asked Pheny to get the best lawyer to represent them and he stormed out of the room, Jason tried to justify what he said but Senzo was not interested.

Phenyo raised the issue of starting a family with Dinny but Dinny is obviously not ready to have a baby. She tried to convince Phenyo that they are not ready to start a family he must not take her mom serious. But Phenyo said they are ready, he took the birth control pills from Dinny and threw them on the bin. Then went to the shower, asked Dinny to join him bt she said she has a document to finish for a b/fast meeting. When Phenyo went to take a shower Dinny took her pills out of the bin and she is going to continue to take them. Khethiwe tried to advise her (Dinny) to talk to Dr Xavier abt not wanting a baby, maybe she is still not over Moengele. But Dinny said she is over his death they are just not ready to start a family and Phenyo will see that in time and thank her.

Now let's go to the Memelas
After Wandi's confession, Luntu locked herself in her room, tried to avoid her mother, but she went to Luntu's office tried to explain but luntu was not interested, she wants nothing to do with her mom. She asked her to fire Jason.
MJ stormed into his mom's office went on about the kiss with Sbusiso and how he made a mistake abt giving her proxy of the shares, his mom tried to stop him before she does something she will regret but MJ did not stop he just went on and on. Whand grabbed him and phushed him into the chair and MJ was so shocked (the look on his face, you'd swear he saw a ghost) when Wandi let go of him he did not look back, just ran out of the office.

Sello visited Akhona at YY and demanded her to do a follow up article on him (sponsoring the beauty peagant).
Akhona is planning to go on Sello's farm, she took the afternoon off to go there. I guess we'll see today what happens next.

Goldi add what I left out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

caro
20 Feb 2013 13:26

The Horse and the Chicken

A horse and a chicken are playing in a meadow. The horse falls into a
mud hole and is sinking. He calls to the chicken to go and get the
farmer to help pull him out to safety. The chicken runs to the farm
but the farmer can't be found. So he drives the farmer's Porsche back
to the mud hole and ties some rope around the bumper. He then throws
the other end of the rope to his friend, the horse, and drives the car
forward saving him from sinking!
A few days later, the chicken and horse were playing in the meadow
again and the chicken fell into the mud hole. The chicken yelled to
the horse to go and get some help from the farmer. The horse said, 'I
think I can stand over the hole!' So he stretched over the width of
the hole and said, 'Grab for my 'thingy' and pull yourself up.' And
the chicken did and pulled himself to safety.
The moral of the story:
If you are hung like a horse, you don't need a Porsche to pick up
chicks!

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 13:33

Well Nkatsay u said it all doll but @ the end

Akhona went to the farm it ws the safe house b4 Sello transformed it to a game farmshe got the it ws dark she had a torch with her inside the building she cud see her father's name and s'busiso's n adas written in da wall jst after she ws der Sello n some guy walked inand he (sello) told her abt da sign outside about trasnpassing wat wat n den he hit her with he's gun den Akhona fell on da floor

*sits down*

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 13:33

How deep was the mud hole Caro The horse must have a very long "thingy"

caro
20 Feb 2013 13:35

1.Q:why are black peoples nostrils so big?
A:because thats what GOD held them by when he was painting them.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 13:36

Thanks Goldi I did not see that part. See I also got something for updating.
Thanks Btwa & Steffie for asking

steffie
20 Feb 2013 13:37

Thanks Ntaksay. I won't be able to see Gen the whole of this week. I got a glimpse of what is happening, thanks again.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 13:47

NomthyM yes its aunty but in full its Dabawo or Dadobawo its Xhosa
Dabs is my father's sister
Someone wil giv u clarity of the origin..

Dabs (Dadobawo) is an aunt in English and is your father's sister like my sisters explained.
for more explanation:
My sister in Xhosa is uDADE wam Utata/male in Xhosa is uBAWO
So the two words are combined to form Dadobawo. Hope this helps, It is the only clarity of the origin I understand.

caro
20 Feb 2013 13:55

a woman gets on a bus with her baby on the back. the bus driver says " ugh,.. thats the ugliest baby iv ever seen"
the woman walks to the rear of the bus and sits down.., Fuming..she says to the man sitting next to her.."the driver just insulted me!! The man said to her " You go up ther and tell him where to get off.. go on.. Let me hold your monkey for you"

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 14:20

Yho Steffie updating everyday for the whole week is a full time job. Give me your email/address/fax no. so that I can send you the invoice.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 14:31

Here's a quiz to keep your minds busy. Where is Bongi (BK) today?

If you had to take three things across the river (one at a time): a Goat, a Lion and a Cabbage. Which one would you take across first?
Remember: a goat eats cabbage so these two cannot be on the same side
and a lion eats a goat again these two cannot be on the same side.

Good Luck!

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 14:59

how bathong, where are you?

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 15:01

you are welcome Ntaksay myb she's busy (BK) ok ima go n crack ma head abt this quick coming back now now

steffie
20 Feb 2013 15:01

Will wash your hands end of month, worry not I compensate adequately those who make my life easier @Ntaksay

steffie
20 Feb 2013 15:03

Cant answer the quiz, not good with mind teaser sorry.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 15:12

@Steffie plz try and fail, who knows you might crack it. You'll never know if you don't try. I'll wait for your answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!

makanku
20 Feb 2013 15:25

@Ntaksay.
a goat first, come back and take the cabbage across and come back with the goat, leave the goat this side and take the lion across.leave the lion & cabbage and come back for a goat.

hahahaha, im gud neh??

gud aftanun ppl

Btwa
20 Feb 2013 15:29

Thanx a lot Ntaksay and Goldi, u are darlings.
@Ntaksay that quiz is too easy, You 1st take goat and cross it, go back and take lion. After crossing the lion, u do not leave it with Goat but return with Goat to go take Cabbage. Then you only pick Cabbage and leave Goat back to original side. Finally you leave Lion and Cabbage together and go pick Goat and cross it.

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 15:34

@ Makanku my thoughts exactly eish u were jst too quick for me mxxxxxxm

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 15:53

Come to my office for your rewards Btwa & Makanku. I'll have to think about Goldi's reward because she was too slowly to answer.

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 15:58

Mr. Black, Mr. Gray, and Mr. White are fighting in a truel. They each get a gun and take turns shooting at each other until only one person is left. Mr. Black, who hits his shot 1/3 of the time, gets to shoot first. Mr. Gray, who hits his shot 2/3 of the time, gets to shoot next, assuming he is still alive. Mr. White, who hits his shot all the time, shoots next, assuming he is also alive. The cycle repeats. If you are Mr. Black, where should you shoot first for the highest chance of survival?

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 16:06

G T Y O R J O T E O U I A B G T

Hint : Count the letters and try splitting the letters up into groups.

Kera
20 Feb 2013 16:13

G T Y O
R J O T
E O U I
A B G T

Great Job you goi it

all thanks to my daughter she says they do all this @ school when they are bored

Kera
20 Feb 2013 16:16

mean you got it grade 8 activities

Ntaksay
20 Feb 2013 16:23

GREAT JOB YOU GOT IT ( you mis spelled got Kera) but you answer is correct!!!!!! Well done to you daughter. Tell a big slice of cake will be outside the door in 15 minutes.

I'm knocking off in 6 minutes

Bk212303
20 Feb 2013 16:23

Hey everyone im here was just a little busy at the office today still sorting out invoices for the whole of last year, tomorrow im finishing off tyhini ive had it ngoku.
Hey Ntaksay im here im glad that u noticed that i was not avail.... Molweni Goldi and Makanku will chat ngomso got to go home now.

Did u c Akona?
Hee Jason ...jail part

Do u think uAkona wil be rescued ...

Where is Vusik?

Chinx.... shame a u stil busy at work...

Kera
20 Feb 2013 16:26

I will tell her Ntaksay it should be black forest neh dats her fav

VusiK
20 Feb 2013 21:07

Where is Vusik?

Off concentrated in his work.

Goldi
20 Feb 2013 21:53

Good night guys!! I jst love MJ wen he charms dat white chick cnt remember her I think dats cute shem he's falling 4 her s 4 Chopstar shem haai mara Senzo le enna tjooo ok ke bua thata robalang sentla bana beso

NomthyM
20 Feb 2013 23:16

Thank u guys for the clarification of DABS. Poor Dlangisas, they really loved baby Caleb, its a pity that they got involved with the Dlomos. Good for Luntu, she gets to spend a night with the baby she doesnt want.

Mimibob
21 Feb 2013 00:08

Been away for 2 weeks and no one misses me.. I feel so unloved. :( And I could do with a bit of loving right now.. *Hugging ma pillow*. Thnx Ntaksay and Goldi for the update.

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 08:09

Mimibob every single person in this house is loved equally like the others. If we do not mention your name it does not mean we do not miss you, ngoba we do. It gets so lonely when you guys disapear without a trace. On behalf of GenLovers we apologise. We LOVE you, now drop that pillow and join the *GENHUG*

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 08:11

I hope Wandi does not take the baby so that Luntu can sleep with her little boy. She is heartless, babies are so cute and loveable. Maybe after spending a night with him she will change her mind about the adoption.

I wonder uzothini uMJ when he sees little Caleb.

Sammantha really believes Sello, uyayithanda imali shame.

makanku
21 Feb 2013 08:25

@BK, we miss u gal, glad u ok.
@Mimi, yini manje? why hugging a pillow awnasthandwa yini? if so dont worry coz this family loves u.

Morning everyone.

Akhona must leave Sammy alone and try to escape, uyislima kodwa, what was she thinking in the first place? aysooka

why is Rainp so scarce lately?

careymart
21 Feb 2013 08:37

Akhona haanzwe. She was warned but she was jus too pig-headed to listen. manje atori pama 1.

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 08:38

Mawande's infatuation with her grandson doesn't sit well with her children.
Senzo is floored by Noluntu's proposal.

Maybe Luntu will decide to give the baby to the Ndlangisa again or to Senzo himself.

Bk212303
21 Feb 2013 08:48

Happpy birthday to me, happy birthday to me!! happy birthday dear makaliyema
happy birthday to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Morning all on this beautiful day when my mama gave birth to me. It is official i am 32 years old like or not. Hooraaaaah

@NtlaguN
21 Feb 2013 08:54

@Ntaksay thats what I was hoping for as well since she could not even touch him that day but Mawande is too smitten with that boy to keep away from him.

Nna guys ha ne ke le Mawande, I would have told Luntu to go ahead with the charge and include me as well since I was part of it from the beginning. But to first leave my house, my company and everything thats mine that very minute. What is irritating is that WHEN her plan backfires she will be running to Mawande to clean it up. Hai man bana ba Mawande ke di meleko sies bo selfish bo so!

My dissappointment was when Jason meekly accepted the condition about his career without any fight. Unless he is hoping this is what will finally get him back to Ezweni but yho I wanted him to give Noluntu hell.

@NtlaguN
21 Feb 2013 08:54

Nongo
21 Feb 2013 08:56

Morning all big family. *big hug*
@BK hippiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee lady , have a wonderful stressfree and very lovely day *mxwaa baby* i love you from big sis.
@mimibob where d u live, considering ur time diff?

Goldi
21 Feb 2013 09:02

ohhhh Happy Born day 2 you BK may u have a blessed 1 n pls dnt be stingy ka KUKU ne phela ketsatsi la yone gore e jewe lol

Mimi we love u darling neva feel like dat ok nana come let me *hug u and a kiss on ur 4 head*

Ntaksay i wish she can give him to Senzo yazi mmmm shem Wandi really loves dat baby hey

i dont think Jason going back to Ezweni is a gud idea S'bu will freak wen he gets back mxxxxm

Bk212303
21 Feb 2013 09:13

Akona Akona did u now really think u Sello is stupid. You forgot about yr daughter and now.
Luntu give that child back to Ndlangisas cause u dont deserve him or even to grandma.

Whoow Chopa yadika maan when u have money you waste and forget that there is something called saving. Some ppl hayi maan and now he is begging.

Yho akhona is ugly maan yho unomsizi ebusweni bamenzembi mani

Consequences!!!

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 09:28

Happy B-Day Bk tonight we'll meet at Ruby's, plz bring us the cake to celebrate usuku lakho lokuzalwa. Ulonwabele Mcwa.

My dissappointment was when Jason meekly accepted the condition about his career without any fight. Unless he is hoping this is what will finally get him back to Ezweni but yho I wanted him to give Noluntu hell.

What else could he have done, coz when Jason said she'd never press charges coz her mom was aslo involved and Luntu said she will coz every action has consequences and her mom taught her that.

Bk212303
21 Feb 2013 09:30

ohhhh Happy Born day 2 you BK may u have a blessed 1 n pls dnt be stingy ka KUKU ne phela ketsatsi la yone gore e jewe lol

Thanx Goldi mara i dont understand the language can u translate pls sorry man i will learn these lang but it takes time cause i understand here and there. Like im learning afrikaans and i can speak a little of it.

makanku
21 Feb 2013 09:33

BK. HAPPy BiRThDay sweetie, may u have many more 2 come,
only 32yrs but u've been married 4 so long...ay sana sewuyihambile lendlela.

i dont like it when ppl say Akhona is ugly but izolo nami ungihlulile, ubemubi bo

makanku
21 Feb 2013 09:38

Ok guys, can sum1 give us a topic to discuss. the house is a little quiet and maybe its bcos we have nothing interesting to talk about. does any1 agree with me on that 1 ?

gettie
21 Feb 2013 09:43

Mawande's children are useless, Nolutu is too self centered and MJ is too proud, i dont like them including the niece is too nosy, what a family. Let Nolutu be with the child for a night, Mawande should just leave the house for tonite, and see how she is going to react, these guys piss me off. Akhona shoud learn that this is not 24 it is africa, we dont act like that it is artificial. Let Senzo be happy with his child pls. Dinny! what can i say, you dont behave like that, what are scared of, thats why Phenyo's ex will take advange, she is even looking ugly the way she is acting, sorry pls change the story line, i cant bear it.

Mimibob
21 Feb 2013 10:06

@ Nongo, Lol... No time difference. I usually blog before I sleep and I sleep late. My days are ususally quite hectic. I have a bit of time now since I'm sitting on a Doc's waiting room. Haven't watched Gens in days.. Sounds interesting.

caro
21 Feb 2013 10:10

@BK Morning all on this beautiful day when my mama gave birth to me. It is official i am 32 years old like or not. Hooraaaaah

hip hip hurraaaaaaaaay.... happy bon day BK....may you see many more years to come...hope your hubby remembers dis day ...soo... happy dusting day

Kera
21 Feb 2013 10:15

Good morning all

BK happy birthday

Noluntu is such a spoilt brat how can she demand that Jason be fired

Wandi shud just kick the brat out of her house and company, put a hold on her credit card then tell her to go open a case agaisnt her and the Dlomos so that they can all go to jail and she can go live at the dump and become a hobo coz her dad did not leave her a cent so she will be broke, only then will she realise just how much her mom sacrificed for her to have such a good life

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 10:17

ohhhh Happy Born day 2 you BK may u have a blessed 1 n pls dnt be stingy ka KUKU ne phela ketsatsi la yone gore e jewe lol

ungabiligqolo ne keyiki/kuku/khekhe kaloku lusuku lokuba ityiwe namhlanje.

caro
21 Feb 2013 10:20

LETS SEE HOE THE BRAT IS GONNA DO WITH THE BOY IN THE straller.. KWAAAAAAAAAAA...I MUST SAY GEN MADE MA NIGHT( when i saw the baby)

as for Akhona....sesotho se re " MOIPOLAI GA A LLELWE, SELLO SA GAGWE KE MOROPA GE O LLA RE A BINA..

I LIKED THE PART WHERE SHE WAS ASKING FOR A SHARP OBJECT AND TELLING THAT LADY ( WHO THINKS DREAMS CAN BE FULLFILLED OVERNIGHT) TO TEAM UP WITH HER TO ESCAPE....

Noluntu must get a life, thinking getting back at Jason with something workrelated ...she must just sort herself out...
I have always HAD HUGE respect for MAWANDE but not lately... she thinks with her emotions( firing Jason) Noluntu is not Holly.. nxla... she cnt even look at the baby... SIES MAAN...

caro
21 Feb 2013 10:22

#deadbCakeday# @ Ntaksay

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 10:26

Wandi is simillar to Sbuda when it come to thier families. They would do anything for thier families. Wandi's weakest point is her children, no matter how bad they hurt her, she will do anything for them.

NoMdazB
21 Feb 2013 10:26

Morning family. Happy Birthday @BK!!!!!! Ugugile ntombi. That stupid Samantha child! She's going to be turned into a prostitute uzobona. Nicholas can be immature. Why is it that when guys have relationship troubles they jump into someone else's pants?

Goldi
21 Feb 2013 10:27

@ BK

ohhhh Happy Born day 2 you BK may u have a blessed 1 n pls dnt be stingy ka KUKU ne phela ketsatsi la yone gore e jewe lol

2day is yo bday n dnt be stingy with the cake (kuku) cos today is da day were it must be eaten *tongue out*

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 10:29

@ Caro #deadbCakeday# @ Ntaksay
It's not me it's Goldi I was just translating for the Birthday Girl

Donoh
21 Feb 2013 10:43

happy birthday Bk, enjoy ur day to the maximum and may God keep on adding to ur life.

Goldi
21 Feb 2013 10:55

Guys tell me hw du u tell a 4rnd dat she's got a funny smell?

eg: u both go to da loo and wen she's done u come in n obviously u can smell dat something is not ryt down der?

or breath, armpits etc

hope dis will keep us going for da day s per ur request makanku

makanku
21 Feb 2013 11:18

thanks Goldi.

ok i was in the same situation once. my friend had a problem with smelly armpits and it was horrible. so firstly i googled the causes and solutions of smelly armpits, with that i sat my friend down & started " mngani wami u & i r like sisters now so i think honesty & loyalty should be the foundation of our relationship. i want 2 tell u something, out of love so plz dont be mad.....r u aware that u have sososo problem?" she stared at me as if i slapped her, i almost cried, i hold her hand and said im with u on this one girl not against u, ppl r gossiping about u but mina im being honest & want to help. she calmed down. i told her (lied) that i once had the same nkinga and how i solved it ( the info i googled) .she thanked me and we hugged & cried. within two weeks the problem was solved
we havent seen each other in 6 years but we still good frends

Ntaksay
21 Feb 2013 11:20

Goldi I wish I could answer you, I have a friend (friend A) her breath does not smell good. My other friend (friend B) (whom they do not get along) comes to me and asks if I ever smell anything when my friend A speaks. and I said no, coz I don't know how to tell someone that they smell. Sometimes I would give her a chapies but she does not like it.

Kandyfloss
21 Feb 2013 11:58

I'l send a text message if i rily dont have guts. Wil say sory but u need to c a Dentist/dr about such such..

Goldi
21 Feb 2013 12:10

Eish!! it's not easy i know bt like Makanku dd with her 4rnd is much beta cos u also explain da corse of it not because she daznt bath gantle or something u knw i guess also it depends on da kind of relationship u guyz have

Ntaksay friend B is gossiping maan instead of coming with a solution yena waseba i think u need to find a way to tell Friend A b4 Friend B aibua which myb wont come out nicely MANNER OF APPROACH is needed in such situations

Kandy i'm nt sure if da sms thingy is da way to go bt i guess it will work hey

Maqinase
21 Feb 2013 13:05

Hello family*waving*
I missed you guys

@ BK, ukhule sisi ulonwabele usuku lwakho

I think the best way to tell your friend is to write her an anonymous letter, type it dont write it if you cant face her....abanye abantu can be very sensitive they wont take it in a friendly way like Makanku's friend. She'll be angry but she'll get the message and deal with her problem........"my opinion"

BTG Xolani loooves Ruby guys....we are getting used to them so we must just forget about ther age difference *hides*

Goldi
21 Feb 2013 14:38

Hey maqinase long time indeed tnx for da visit lol

well u r ryt bt abt ada's not being 4rndly bt nw hw r u going to deliver dat letter and wat if it lands to da rong hands? anywu ders no easy way bt has to be done eish mathata

B2G: yooo i love Xolani and Rubs even da way he told her mom gore he'll date whom eve he likes sylvia mst jbs maan

RainPrincess
21 Feb 2013 15:45

Makanku hello mababy, I'm here love. Internet connectivity is a bit of a problem. Ga ke na network my love. Still got mad love for y'all though.

RainPrincess
21 Feb 2013 16:24

BK happy birthday darling, may God continue to bless you in ways you never imagined possible xxx

Deemo
21 Feb 2013 21:11

hw a u all gud pple.thank you for the words of comfort,im bek nw. Sis bk hepi bethdae hey hope u enjoyed the day to the fullest,ukhle uzeukhokhobe,hope ive said it correctly.if you were in my country u cld get to share a moment an the presidents cake coz u share the same born day.god bless u sis.

Mimibob
22 Feb 2013 00:30

Nicholas can be immature. Why is it that when guys have relationship troubles they jump into someone else's pants?

Whose pants did Nick jump into?

Happy belated birthday BK. Hope you enjoyed the day.

VusiK
22 Feb 2013 07:56

Why is it that when guys have relationship troubles they jump into someone else's pants?

Actually ... Men would like to know why women always do this!

VusiK
22 Feb 2013 08:01

Guys tell me hw du u tell a 4rnd dat she's got a funny smell?

I'd just tell them matter of factly that they dont smell right, I have nothing to lose by being frank and straightforward...

If they don't like what I have to say from observations ... they can move on!

Goldi
22 Feb 2013 08:19

Morning Family Happy friday to u all

and she/he will thank you later ne Vusik?

Ntaksay
22 Feb 2013 08:28

Good morning

What did Sello do to Sammantha? Hayi naye, blaming Akhona for what Sello's doing. She has to wake up from dreamland. So uMzwanele was really a spy. Maybe Sello was involved in his murder, if he is dead.

Luntu is heartless, she does not even want to look at the baby, uMJ yena uzodlala nini nimtshana wakhe.

Choppa alomost had a heart attack when he saw the guy owing the loan shark with blood. At least he ran away. I thought he was going to risk and take the money

makanku
22 Feb 2013 08:53

Morning family.
Hi Mimi !!

VusiK
22 Feb 2013 08:54

and she/he will thank you later ne Vusik?

They should ... lol

Goldi
22 Feb 2013 09:00

Luntu bathong a re her mom cant 4s her to be a mom nchoooo Wandi's so inlove with Mqobi hey eish i wonder wats gona happen to him

i think Sello's playing with Akhona's mind and Samantha's playing along,

MsKim
22 Feb 2013 09:39

@Goldi thats wat i think as well. Sello is just a psycho, he loves playing mind games.. wonder wat really happens in that game farm. guess will find out tonight.

Ntaksay
22 Feb 2013 09:51

Maybe Sello is running a brothel in that farm. I think there's more than one girl there (Sammantha) I think there are other innocent girls.

sexy d
22 Feb 2013 09:52

Hau bathong Noluntu ''u cant force me to be a mom'' hello sweetheart wake up n smell de coffee whether u live with the child or gives him away u will always remain his mother shame....

Bk212303
22 Feb 2013 10:02

I would like to take this moment to say thank u to all those who made/had time to say happy birthday to me. May God Bless each and everyone of you. You are the best and I don't know how to explain the way i felt yesterday after seeing all the response from mabloggers, whatsup and fb yhoo i did not worry about anything else i was so excited and guess what i somma finished my invoices all of them.

Most of all the big present was that DADDY IS LIVING TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HORAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I think that GOD said enough my child.

@Deemo yhooo im sharing with MUGABE and i dont even like the guy yhuu or the way he does things mybe he has his reasons but hayi shem.... sorry to those who likes him.

@Goldi the KUKU part i did not understand cause my mind ran wild thinking....hahahah

and ppl there was NO!!!! dusting i told hubby to go and sleep with daddy kulu cause i did not want to spoil how i felt izolo.

Hee this akona grl mmmh
Choppa yazi yadika sometimes did u hear when he was carring on and on at matshonisa yhooo dont read a book by its cover.

Have a fab Friday mabloggers and thanx again

Goldi
22 Feb 2013 10:37

@Sexy myb she needs a reminder she thinks cos she's not staying with da baby she doesnt fall under category of mothers mxxxxm

HORRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY u tamkhulu uya hamba ksasa siyabonga...so BK if hubby came n dust u it wud have spoiled ur mood how? i dnt follow? none the less i'm glad u enjoyed ur day

Ntksay it's mo dan 1 cos u heard lst 9t wen he said to Akhona she mst clean herself up so dat ada gals mst no be suspicious wen dey c her

Ntaksay
22 Feb 2013 11:14

Ntksay it's mo dan 1 cos u heard lst 9t wen he said to Akhona she mst clean herself up so dat ada gals mst no be suspicious wen dey c her

Yes i heard him, maybe he is exporting these girls to other countries.

VusiK
22 Feb 2013 11:15

Happy Birthday BK !!!

caro
22 Feb 2013 11:35

wonder wat really happens in that game farm. guess will find out tonight.

My opinion... that game farm is an ambrella for Sello...he keeps his victims in there, only the lucky ones get out and be to tell a tale..

like you my freind sometimes i wonder if there really are things like Animals, employees, ..stuff like that..i mean the place loks creepy, Akhona is gonna learn to use her ugly ears...i wish Sello cud go take Kyla at school ((((hides))))) then she will learn the biggest lesson

Dinny and Phenyo's wedding was doomed from start, they cn as well part ways..wateva it is they are trying to built doesnt have a foundation...

caro
22 Feb 2013 11:40

@Bk.. i dnt follow mafrnd not wanting to dust because you did not want to spoil the mood..hao ...nna i dust till i drop... i can even call in sick (((hides))

yoyozz
22 Feb 2013 11:52

bk happy belated

akhona i want sello to cut ur ear uyadika marn nicholas moveon this ex of urs is bussy with something else uthanda ulala nawe qha mxm

Goldi
22 Feb 2013 12:00

eish Caro i wish i cud dust till i drop bt wen i get a chance i du jst dat *not hiding*
hihihihihi i once called in sick jst for dat hahahahahaha eish ya ne monate wa go dusta

Ncebisa
22 Feb 2013 12:11

Hi i great you all, i am new and i just wanna say i love you all. Ag shame poor Akhona she is stuck in that basement with no hope, i wonder whats gonna happen to them now. Who is gonna help them? mara naye she does not listen who ever is trying to warning her

Nongo
22 Feb 2013 12:49

Bk u dont no gore KUKU ke eng dust u wil no gore ke eng, akere it's that " thing" that's eaten by the couple first u no wat i mean* hiding*
love u you all guys.
setho sa ka se kae good afternoon and c u on monday. im out of here.
hv a nice weekend mxwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maqinase
22 Feb 2013 12:57

Hello Mabloggers...

Kerrie & Friend come back guys it's long overdue now

Welcome Ncebisa, we love you too.

Family what's your take on polygamous marriages esp if one is gonna be the 2nd wife....what are the advantages & disadvantages esp if it's done in a guy's side(culture wise) and not done in a girl's side...what advice would you give da gal?
I know some of you are against it but the reasons will be appreciated

I would appreciate VusiK's input on this please

Bk212303
22 Feb 2013 13:18

Ppl im out my boss and colegue are going out to Primi in century for my birthday.
So will chat monday have a fab weekend cause i will. Thank u THANK U FOR THE SUPPORT ON MADALA IT IS OVER. God said enough is enough thanx guys i remember when it was 3 weeks to go haa u the best i must say makanku, chinx and everyone big up!!!!!!!!!

maud
22 Feb 2013 13:31

@maqinase, i will tell you one thing (I WILL RATHER DIVORCE AND DIE SINGLE THAN BE IN A POLYGAMY MARRIAGE)

Ntaksay
22 Feb 2013 14:53

@Maqinase I don't know what to advise you, but I'm 100% against poligamy.

Chix
22 Feb 2013 16:22

@Maqinase... be sure to get the BEST INPUT from uVusiK... he is a straight talker and he will give it to you in the best manner he knows HOW!!! Haven't had time to blog people but I am still alive and kicking!!! Have yourselves a SUPA DUPA weekend!!!

NomthyM
22 Feb 2013 17:37

I think Sbuda will save Akhona, after all he is the only gangster or Gen other than Sello. And finally Akhona will write the story and get her old job back. A very happy weekend lovies

Mimibob
23 Feb 2013 00:04

Looking forward to the ominibus..

Hi Makanku :)

Dumela Malome Vusi

Have a beautiful weekend fam.

Riyat
23 Feb 2013 16:26

Happy belated born day BK. Very angry I wasn't around these day. Useless 4n of mine had no internet.

NoMdazB
23 Feb 2013 19:56

Happy weekend everyone. @Mimibob uzo bloga neziporho one of these days.

VusiK
24 Feb 2013 21:27

Hey Mimibob !!!
:-)

VusiK
24 Feb 2013 21:45

Family what's your take on polygamous marriages esp if one is gonna be the 2nd wife....what are the advantages & disadvantages esp if it's done in a guy's side(culture wise) and not done in a girl's side...what advice would you give da gal?
I know some of you are against it but the reasons will be appreciated

I would appreciate VusiK's input on this please

Can I write on this sometime during the week please ... or you an re-ask on the March blog early.
I'm truly swamped with my Invest Africa Initiative.
...
and I have a lot to say on the subject.
...
Perhaps it would help for you to provide some orientation material ...
Willingness / attitudes of all 3 participants.
Economic matters & sources & matters of attraction
Ethics vs morals positions, etc
interactive data (on the already married couple), and with regard to the possible 2nd wife ....
Power dynamic analyses if any are possible, etc., etc., etc.,

simple narrative form would do awesome ...
say it as you feel it, without any need to structure whatever input you decide.

makanku
25 Feb 2013 08:22

Morning zithandwa zam, i hope ni-ok nonke
@BK, unjani ntombi?

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 08:34

The best present GOD gave me HOOOOOOORRRRAAAAAAR !!!!!!!!!!!!!! morning pps and Thank you all for the bday wishes im so haapppppyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy MOLWENI

Goldi
25 Feb 2013 08:37

Morning Family hope ya'll good i'm good tnx @ Ncebi welcome Noluntu's a witch playing her moms emotion like dat mxxxxxm kanti it's all part of her plan

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 08:48

If hubby came n dust u it wud have spoiled ur mood how?

It would have cause after dusting he would have to again and that my dear would have made me angry cause when i start with the dusting i dont usually stop quickly .....hides.. especially if im in the mood

Ntaksay
25 Feb 2013 09:02

Morning

I thought Noluntu was really getting used to the idea of having a baby around. Kanti she is playing silly games. Sies you make me sick.

Goldi
25 Feb 2013 10:13

U n me both Ntaksay o nale pelo ya jean sies maan, @ Bk so is tamkhulu officially gone nw? if so da dusting cn begin hihihiihihihi

Riyat
25 Feb 2013 10:57

Morning family

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 11:16

Tamkulu is in Xhora(mtata) i just called him to make sure and yes it is OFFICIAL he is gone. Today i start with my spring cleaning and take out all beds from the spare room cause i dont want anyone thinking there is space.

Riyat
25 Feb 2013 11:33

Bk am happy for you. Use every minute to enjoy ur family. Be the best wife possible. Its good to do ur best so that u won't be the one to be blamed if things go wrong(not that they would). Do ur best and leave the rest in the hands of god.

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 11:42

@Riyat thank you and that is what im planing to do. Now this is the beginning of my marriage. My hubby took me and son out yesterday and made some funny story to the boss and he said to me yhoooo how i have missed to go out with my family. I was like hee i thought u did not want tata to leave.

He says he regrets bringing tata and i said to myself i will not comment on that and i said we must just forget and move on cause i dont want to open old wounds. So im back now and God ungumalusi wam and i trust in him.

VusiK
25 Feb 2013 12:10

@BK

Awesome!!
Happy for you BK !!!

goldie
25 Feb 2013 12:19

Happy belated Born-Day @BK, happy for u cc and i hope it was a one-way ticket!!!
Enjoy the d******ng!lol

NoMdazB
25 Feb 2013 12:23

Good day all. @Bk it seems things are going well for you, keep it up. @ Makanku I hope things are looking up sisis. I think about your job situation all the time. If I knew of a way to help I would. My husband graduated in 1999 and found a job in 2007, I know what it's like. I will keep you in my prayers mama. To the rest of the family, all my best and sincerest greetings and prayers.

Ntaksay
25 Feb 2013 12:28

Oh! time is flying today, and umsebenzi usemninzi.

Goldi
25 Feb 2013 12:38

Enjoy every minute with ur Family Bk cc it's about time it's been long since u dusted lol

VusiK
25 Feb 2013 12:48

@BK ...
I think about your job situation all the time.
...
I missed this one ...
What is the Job situation?

Kandyfloss
25 Feb 2013 13:05

Hi all! @VusiK she's unemployed.

Kandyfloss
25 Feb 2013 13:05

Hi all! @VusiK she's unemployed.

Kandyfloss
25 Feb 2013 13:06

Hi all! @VusiK she's unemployed.

VusiK
25 Feb 2013 13:16

@Kandy

Hi all! @VusiK she's unemployed

Where does she live? (no point in finding employment only to have the paycheck go to feeding the transport/ commute machine)

What are her skills & competencies?

If she's from the Pretoria area ... there might be one or two places we can direct her.

{The other day, we were calculating that; for my girlfriend to accept this really awesome work offer from a JHB business, and maintain her lifestyle and obligations, she'd need a 2,5 million rand per year job (minimum) (she presently works as a high-up government official ... slowly drowning in debt and lifestyle choices)
...

What was terrifying about these calculations was that not many people earn anywhere near million rand per year in this country) ...

therefore ... the probability is extremely high that the bulk of the people who commute between Johaneesburg and Pretoria are in fact working for transport, banks (debt), and are still progressively going broke (regardless of being ignorant of this reality ... while blissfully caught in that five hour per day commute to nowhere in their very shiny nice looking cars.} It is quite terrifying really !!!

caro
25 Feb 2013 14:05

@BK God ungumalusi wam and i trust in him. there is an IPC song with these lyrics..i am not a member of the church but i love it ...something like.." umeli ungumalusi wam'...uya ngi hola...somethin...something... anyone knows it????? e mfodisa moya

VusiK
25 Feb 2013 14:11

@Caro
...
anyone knows it?????
...
not a clue , lol

steffie
25 Feb 2013 14:35

Afternoon peeps

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 14:37

@caro i want to think but i cant stop thinking about Hlengiwe Ziyamazi umelusi ..... ziyamazi umelusi.......nguyenoziholayo...ziyamazubaba wazo hahahah im trying here someone help

steffie
25 Feb 2013 14:46

There are friends I know who are miserable than ever now that they do have jobs compare to when they were unemployed always drowning in debts and trying to keep but fail miserably. It is all about pushing swag as my brother fondly calls it.

MaKhuu
25 Feb 2013 14:49

Guys to those who managed to watch the Metro FM Awards.

the last award, Song of the year did you see that lady who was with Osikdo on stage receiving the award they called her Candy l think she was drunk or she is not okay upstairs!!!!!

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 14:52

Welcome Ncebisa @Ntaksay hahahah tshotsho u promised to help me with mine but .... and today im free at the office i go fb,whatsup ,mabloggers hey it is so nice.
Nongo, Nongo... hey Vusik hows it butiza.
Molo Nomdaz unqabile cc and Makanku im praying for you cc.

Now back to me umzi umzi umzi , khaya khaya khaya the quotes is coming in yhoo somethings never change im already starting esinye istress. I want to build a home for my son and then i must also do the same ekhaya but its not a lot there yhooo. Just need prayers cause i have a plan i just need prayers for my plan to work.

steffie
25 Feb 2013 15:03

@Makhuu is very much okay person with a hell lot of self confidence. It Candy N'wa-Yingwani from the 1990s Disco fame. It one of those people who don't really care what others say about them not that it matters what people say about oneself.

makanku
25 Feb 2013 15:37

@NoMdaz, thanks a lot sisi,im ok lately, i do hope that i will get my job 1 day, especialy if i hear that im not the first one to go this long before getting a job i studied for.
@BK, thanks 4 ur support sis, im happy that things r going well 4 u, God is great.
@Vusi, too emotional to talk about it okwamanje bhuti, ngine NDiploma, Electrical Engineering, finished 10yrs ago, i also obtained Electrical Trade test Certificate in 2009 but umsebenzi angiwtholi, only temps that dont last a year. at the moment im a receptionist and would like to further my studies but my situation discourages me. anyway thats what u missed. the gen family supports me and give me hope as u can c.

makanku
25 Feb 2013 15:39

@Vusik, oh i live in Durban

VusiK
25 Feb 2013 15:48

@Makanku ...

We are busy investing in some businesses,
...
however,
...
they are located in the North West Province, Gauteng, and Mpumalanga
Go ahead and PM me your email address, and I will pass it on to HR when they recruit people in your field.

Goldi
25 Feb 2013 16:07

Hey guyz it's been a boring day here @ work so decided to watch a movie it's finished now n its almost time for me to go home cheers lets meet @ da memelas n c wat dat witch Luntu is up 2

Bk212303
25 Feb 2013 16:14

Byeeeeeeeeee everyone yhoo makanku im so sorry cc. Everything will work out for u just give it time.Got to go chat ngomso.

Riyat
25 Feb 2013 20:31

I thought Luntu was a she devil so there was heart somewhere. So Senzo will be the bad guy. Shame

Goldi
25 Feb 2013 21:43

Given Senzo da baby is onli part of her revenge cos its nw dat its starting yhooo haaikhona she's so heartless shem akekgathale..Poor Sammy breaking ur virginity so iyhoo with n old men u dnt knw n love nogal wuuuu ok 9t guys

Mimibob
25 Feb 2013 22:41

...Go ahead and PM me your email address, and I will pass it on to HR when they recruit people in your field.

This really touched me. I pray that the best comes out of it sisi.

I was touched to tears when you said you couldnt financially assist your mom after granny passed on.. More so because i so wished I could assist but couldnt..

All the best Makanku. You deserve the break.

Ntaksay
26 Feb 2013 08:17

Noluntu how can you make your mom berg like that.
Sammantha is really stupid, she is so scared of Sello.

Kayla is very clever, it was so nice of her to call Nicolas when she couldn't reach her mother. At least now we'll see some action and maybe the girls will be rescued.

Finally no more sulking in the Dlomo family (Dinny&Phenyo).

Shame Choppa is trying so hard, maybe if he bergs the white chick to audition at Ezweni, it could be her big break for her as well.

Goldi
26 Feb 2013 08:19

Morning Family

wishing u all da best Makanku

makanku
26 Feb 2013 09:00

@Bk, Momdaz, Goldi, Mimi, VusiK and the rest of the Gen Family...thank u guys. your support makes me cry but strong knowing that some people care about me. its so amazing that i dont even know u but u guys neva get tired of hearing about my problems and give me support time and again. people that r close to me, except for my Ma, have grown tired of me & my never ending problems and i've learnt to keep my hurting & all 2 myself until i joined this family.thats where i off-load & get to feel beta. may God bless u all.ngizowthola umsebenzi, soon.
@Vusi: khanyisilesosibo@yahoo.co.uk

Bk212303
26 Feb 2013 09:44

March is on guys i wonder who is going to be 1st this time.
@Makanku we will never get tired of you cc. We will keep on supporting you but you must just stay strong and have faith. This is only the beginning of God's plan for you just trust in Him and he will do wonders for you.Yes umsebenzi is on the way.

Morning maboglers

Goldi
26 Feb 2013 09:55

lol its only Scandal and 7de lann BK will jst have to wait n c hahahahaha

Bk212303
26 Feb 2013 10:09

@Goldi im watching u

Goldi
26 Feb 2013 10:40

LOL kante wat have i done now BK???

@NtlaguN
26 Feb 2013 10:44

The look on Mawande's face as officer Pokane said"I have seen women who give up their children without a second thought was really breaking.

Huu ee Noluntu o selfish shame. Seeing the love on your mothers face, hearing her joy and her pleas with you to rather adopt the child, after all she has done for you and you still deny her the one thing she ask of you? Nje because you want to punish her for not doing as you wanted?

Nna shame a ka tswa ko ntlong ya me le company ya me, go ka mpa ga twe ke mme o kgopo.

@NtlaguN
26 Feb 2013 10:44

Ntaksay
26 Feb 2013 10:46

Goli & BK plz give me a buzz when the teasers are out. I'm not on my computer. But I will pop in every 15 minutes to check. I trust you girls.

Goldi
26 Feb 2013 11:05

@Ntla u ryt gal i would do da same lenna she's selfish n ungreatful lil brat

@Ntaksay dont worry gal will du dat

VusiK
26 Feb 2013 12:13

@Makanku ...

When you get the opportunity, drop it into my Message box ... it will be lost here.

We are also doing some exploratory work in Northern EC (Between Umthatha & the KZN border (Part of trying to return economic activities to that area of presently extremely high demand)) ...

that is Agricultural, Forestry & Energy and infrastructure related. (We will be creating many employment opportunities there ...
nothing to do with the government, just my family, investors, and me)

I will let you know when the reports come in.

Ntaksay
26 Feb 2013 12:20

Isidingo is out if there is anyone interested

Btwa
26 Feb 2013 12:22

Hello Friends, I wonder what Noluntu is trying to achieve by banning her mother from Mqonbi. She is heartless and selfish.
Isidingo blog is never active, i became number 1 ther and my post is stil lone

caro
26 Feb 2013 12:22

morning guys

i love you all so much... will be back later..

Goldi
26 Feb 2013 12:49

Eish Ntaks was busy ddnt c n nw i'm # lst *said4days* we love u too Caro Isidingo's onli active wen da teasers comes out after dat dead

Bk212303
26 Feb 2013 13:06

Love u caro Ntaks will only after i made it to no1 hahahaha

makanku
26 Feb 2013 13:27

@Vusi, thanks buti.and your message inbox, how do i go about getting there?

Ntaksay
26 Feb 2013 14:32

Muvhango teasers are out

Sphy
26 Feb 2013 16:39

Sphy
26 Feb 2013 16:40

Can we get March teasers already! *Impatient*

VusiK
26 Feb 2013 18:52

@Vusi, thanks buti.and your message inbox, how do i go about getting there?

Click Private messages,
Click send message
Type in the username to whom you are sending a message
Subject, message, send.

VusiK
26 Feb 2013 18:53

@Vusi, thanks buti.and your message inbox, how do i go about getting there?

Click Private messages,
Click send message
Type in the username to whom you are sending a message
Subject, message, send.

Ntaksay
27 Feb 2013 08:07

Good Morning
Luntu is going out of her way to punish her mother. Unenhliziyo embi uNoluntu shame. uSammantha now is going to take drugs.

Hayi bo did anyone know that people are saying they no longer watchGenerations because Akhona is ugly, she does not fit into the soapy and worse she is dating Nicholas.
Some people are crazy out there, maybe they no longer have intrerest in Generations. Akhona is a good actress. So what if she is ugly.

VusiK
27 Feb 2013 08:10

Click Private messages, = that thing in the right pane on your page that says you have 0 messages.

Kandyfloss
27 Feb 2013 08:22

lol @Ntaks. People are funny. I no longer watch SOAPIES like i used to. Gues i'v jus lost touch.

Bk212303
27 Feb 2013 08:31

Still nothing for March yhoo yadika molweni mablogers

Goldi
27 Feb 2013 09:00

Morning Family still nothing BK lol @ Ntaksay eish ya ne

Ntaksay
27 Feb 2013 09:11

TVSA we are waiting, please hurry

Ntaksay
27 Feb 2013 09:16

is only getting started with her revenge
Does this mean she wants to continue punishing her mother. Or she will pass on to panish the Dlomos. The March teasers might help answer my question.

Riyat
27 Feb 2013 09:16

Morning family I've missed you guys

Riyat
27 Feb 2013 09:28