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On 3rd Degree: The Bullying Show

Written by TVSA Team from the blog 3rd Degree on 04 Feb 2013
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Coming up on 3rd Degree:

Episode title: The Bullying Show

Broadcast date: Tuesday, 5 February 2013

Teaser ....

Last November, Nkululeko Ndlovu, a student at Phineas Xulu Secondary School in the East Rand, was shot dead allegedly by fellow pupil Tsundzukani Mthombeni.

The story made headlines, revealing that Tsundzukani had been bullied by Nkululeko and his friends.

In an attempt to stop his tormentors Tsundzukani allegedly stole his mother’s pistol and used it at school resulting in the tragedy. He now faces charges of murder, theft and possession of an unlicensed firearm.

Shockingly, more than half of learners say they have been bullied and don’t feel safe at school. In South Africa bullying is now the number one concern for learners and their families.

Prior to the death of alleged bully Nkululeko Ndlovu, teachers only had a circular to help them deal with bullying. Now, the Department of Education says educators will be trained to prevent any more bloodshed.

But the rise of technology has made the situation even more difficult as cyberbullying is on a steady increase. Experts say we need to nip bullying in the bud to prevent bigger societal problems like gangsterism, and if we don’t change a child’s behaviour before 18, we have lost the battle.

3rd Degree investigates.



3rd Degree is on e.tv, the eNews channel and SKY Digitial Platform in the UK - on Tuesdays at 21h30.



9 Comments

steedde
05 Feb 2013 22:44

My son was a victim of bullying at a new school he attended during 3rd and 4th term last year. During the 4th tern, when the bullying started, I met with the principal,discussed the situation and he said he would address the matter. I sent him documentation regarding bullying to assist dealing with the problem. We heard nothing further from the principal. The bullying continued. On the last day of school,my son was accosted by one of the bullies and his friends (learners at the same school) and even though he refused to fight, he was taunted and then assaulted by the bully and laughed at by the other learners. I reported the matter to the principal and he said it had nothing to do with him as the assault took place outside the school grounds. No counselling was offered by the school. Department of Education said their hands were tied, as it was an independent school. We went to the police station to lay a charge of assault but they were reluctant to take a statement and sent us home. When I complained to station commander, he sent out detective to take statement. No counselling nor advising us that we should see district doctor for injuries. We had the worst Christmas and New Year. The bully admitted to the charge of assault but the police in turn arrested my son for assault on the bully based on the bully's testimony. My son did not assault the bully, nor any learner at the school. He was the victim of continuous abuse and bullying. Police did not properly investigate the matter, no feedback, nor did they contact witnesses. Instead police were adamant my son was guilty of assault, yet they had no proof. We had to appear in court, which was very humiliating and traumatising for both my son and I. The case was withdrawn after mediation. My son was so traumatised, he refused to go back to the school as he was warned by the other learners that the bullying would continue as he refused to fight and the kids see him as a wimp.. No contact from the school on addressing the matter either. Strange, but a few days after my son laid charge against bully, the principal called to say my son had failed his grade. We were shocked as my son had studied hard for exams. He is now at a school where he is treated with respect and kindness by both teachers and learners. The Department of Education must insist that ALL schools whether independent or not, adhere to the bullying policy and take every measure to ensure that our children are safe at school with zero tolerance for bullies. It is not enough for a principal to state to a parent that it happened outside the school grounds, as bullying starts within the school grounds and ends tragically outside. How can a school be allowed to operate without taking disciplinary steps against bullies? Please keep our children safe at schools.

myname
06 Feb 2013 15:02

I'm so sorry to hear about your son Steede but please next time create some paragraphs. I couldn't finish reading your story but i managed to catch the grips. I hope your boy has finally find closure and put this behind. One day those bastards will pay for what they did to him. I promise u if i hear that some little scavenger bullied my son i would personally deal with them.  

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:11

if we don’t change a child’s behaviour before 18

thetipping point / threshhold age is 9-12, not 18
an 18 year old is not a child, an 18 year old is an adult
an 18 year is legally emancipated.
an 18 year old can sign contracts without the consent of a parent
An 18 year old can buy alcohol & tobacco
An 18 year old can get a job
and
an 18 year old can die for his country.
...
an 18 year old IS NOT A CHILD !!!!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:19

One cannot teach an 18 year old any new behavioral trendds ... Trust me.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:28

One of my sons (the I who is disowned, disinherited, and disavowed myself of legally ... because of his actions) is a bully
His mother is a bully
...
However ... to his mother ... he is probably an angel.
I personally don't care what he is to anyone else ...
In my life's space ...
He is a bully and a danger to all my other children & I raise ALL my younger children never to associate with him ...
All my older children children are older than him, and fortunately ... they disengaged him before I disengaged him.
he probably began to be a bully at about 5
(read my articles ... there is a narrative on him somewhere there)
We were patient with him ... built & invested the right stuff into him
That was always reversed by his mother
...
Presently .. He is persona non-Grate with my entire family (at least those who have affirmative aspirations in life)

Do I care that he is cast to the wildreness???
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I have no regrets.

I have children to protect.

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:33

I have a 15 year old cousin (who we raised) who is also a bully, and runs with a troo that is headed toward gangsterism.
...
When he is 18, and had his matriculation ...
and has not come back to where his behavior should be in life

He is also out.
I do not prolong my agony at perpetuating bad investments.
Some people are incorrigible ...

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:37

I raise ALL my children by a simple set of rules, all of which they know by the age of 5

The most important one is so simple , it defines life.

It is as follows:

Wherever, and whenever Your rights are violated;
Call me ...
I will be there to be your champion
...
Wherever, and whenever You violate someone else's rights;
DO NOT BOTHER CALLING ME ...
I will NEVER come to your aid, or champion you!

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:38

And that's my bit on any permutation this subject can open and/ or reach

VusiK
06 Feb 2013 15:39

non-Grate = non-Grata


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