A colleague of mine recently had a baby and I turned into one of my worst nightmares, a know-it-all motormouth. I knew it all from ceaserean birth to putting baby to sleep! I felt so ashamed of myself each time I would start but could not help myself, I had to share.
When my boy was born I was determined to do things my way. He is my child and I will do it my way… Reason for this weird selfish decision was I had been scared to birth by all the mothers who just had to tell me – they had to advice and horrify me on the pains and joys of giving birth, the sleepless nights, the cracked boobs and every little thing they could tell. I also vowed to be never like those people. But from the moment my colleague mentioned his wife being peggies; I had to advice on all the stages of pregnancy; what to look out for, what to horrify themselves with and what he needs to do. Poor dude sat patiently thru this monologues and never said a word.
When the baby was born; I was still blabbing away on how to ensure best breastfeeding, how to soothe cracked nipples, how to deal with colic and what to drink to help milk production. I knew it all. I realize now that he avoids being a meter from me because I ask about fatherhood and carry on for life! Sad and tragic!
My little miracles blog is dedicated to Motherhood and wonders of children – I will write my experiences and my advice for those who need it on this blog. I will vow to not be so willing to dish out advice to all those people I talk to but will blog t he advise I would have given. BUT from my recent experience - I will probably break this vow!
For those who have children; what irritated you about people that already had children when you were pregnant and after the birth of your child? What did you find was a blatant lie or helpful advice?
For those who do not have children; what would you like to know; what would be beneficial information and what don't you want to know?
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