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10 Reasons Why I Loooove being single

Written by Miss K from the blog Miss Ks hood on 04 Sep 2007
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So I was out with my friends on Sat and I ran into my ex (haven’t seen him in 6 months) and I was reminded why I chose to be single! Doesn’t it just feel great when u run into your ex and u know ure looking extra fine that day? His drooling mouth and dropped jaw was  enough justice, but him asking for LB (love back) = PRICELESS.

Anyway I love being single, I really do. But every time I say this to my friends they look at me and their faces say “Yes dear keep telling yourself that and eventually you’ll believe it”. So I’m writing this article to highlighting the pros of being single and to refer back to this article every time I envy (once in a while) my not so single friends.

1. Freedom – You get to stay out as late as u want and don’t have to explain to anyone. The only commitment you have is to your hangover!
2. No need for a tracker - Everything is right where you left it. Your keys are still on the counter, your ice cream is still in the freezer (not empty tub), and the remote is still on the end table.
3. Self discovery – being alone after dating a bunch of losers gives you a chance to discover exactly what you want and what you cannot stand for.
4. No Cooking – I can have Nandos for breakfast, lunch and supper. (I was partially vat n sitting with a Xhosa man, who had a phobia for take outs)
5. No middle man - I can buy anything and make impulsive decisions without feeling guilty about not consulting my other half.
6. Male friends - You can have male friends without having to defend yourself and explain that ‘nothing else is going on’.
7. No more Steven Seagal or Jackie Chan, Bruce Lee. You are free to watch Dream Girls and Oprah three times a day if you want.
8. You can eat garlic (Manto must be so proud of me) or onions without a second thought about breath mints.
9. Beautify sleep – Finally you can have that beauty sleep coz ure not kept awake by the snoring!
10. Freebies – expensive restaurants (u know black men luuuuv to impress), free shows, movies, etc so you’re actually saving a lota moola coz there’s no 50/50 on the 1st, or 2nd or even the 3rd date!

Are there any single bloggers who’d like to share what they love or hate about being single? Holla!



120 Comments

Cande
03 Sep 2007 12:16

Yeah i also larv being single but even if im not i still get my freedom mna.
 Eish but who gets to wash my sneakers??

Brown Shuga
03 Sep 2007 12:28

He he he Miss K, fortunately for me, I've never had a vat en sit so I can only identify with No. 3, 6 & 8. 

Nice write up!

Peachy
03 Sep 2007 12:40

I agri, esp whn u don hav to explain abt yo male friends. Yu get to be taken out by any guy that tickles yo fancy (oh i so love bein taken on dates)! Yu get to flirt outregiously , no limited 'girls nyts out. No catering fo the boys when his friends cum fo a game ova yo place. I can glue to my laptop - blogging without being disturbed by sum one claiming to be hungry when in actual fact he's seeking fo some b...dy ATTENTION..!! Thats enough to gv me ol the freedom i deserve...

Bra Bizza
03 Sep 2007 13:15

Self discovery....... No need for a tracker........No more Steven Seagal or Jackie Chan, Bruce Lee....... Miss K,it looks like you've been on the wrong side of town.ungawari sisi being burnt(assuming) is part ye life my sista.

sweetie my baby
03 Sep 2007 13:18

this is a great article, am having issues with my boo and feeling VERY nostalgic for the single days....

mayo
03 Sep 2007 13:46

eish some people forget that being single is nice maar when you get the urge
julle wiet mos ama toys akhona.. hi hi hi i want to be single!!! pls help,, 
maar i do have my freedom shame i guess i bully kancane but im done with explaining sms and male friends dont touch my phone but i want to touch yours!!!

he he he !!! nice one miss k

tizoz
03 Sep 2007 14:15

4. No Cooking – I can have Nandos for breakfast, lunch and supper. (I was partially vat n sitting with a Xhosa man, who had a phobia for take outs) LOL! Nice article Miss K cant say I agree though since I just had a not so nice break up and not say am ova it but anyway ke bathi angilobolanga

anyone dated a Xhosa man? is it true they are not romantic? ( just that my xhosa friends chicks think abotata bakaHintsa abakho romantic at all)

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 01:28

nice article! the single life is great yes but mina i'm starting to date again which is great too!

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 01:34

Hey Tizoz sorry about your break up, believe me it took me a while before i saw the positives of being single. Hang in there, it does get better I promise!

ngwana
04 Sep 2007 01:35

<<Doesn’t it just feel great when u run into your ex and u know ure looking extra fine that day? His drooling mouth>>

I recently bumped into someone who 'hit and run' me. I looked so good, that little S@#* sure wished he hadnt done that. 

Nice one Miss K, i can relate

@Tizoz - Out of the many boyfriends that i have had i must say the best where the Xhosa ones.

lorrelai
04 Sep 2007 01:39

I'll tell u one thing I miss about being single "not having to maintain a stupid, fake smile with mean-mean-mean, judgmental, gossiping in-laws, YESSES!

MamaOmpha
04 Sep 2007 01:49

Mina guys I haven't been single for 8 longs years.  I don't even remember what being single feels like.  But sometimes I wish that I didn't have a 27 year old grown a$$ baby to look after. DAMN

that girl
04 Sep 2007 01:57

Morning people!!!eish,i miss being single too hle!i was single for three years and it was great i have to be honest.Then i met this guy and he was wonderful.U know experiencing love again after a long time without it is amazing,but now he is stressing me like hell and i'm about to give up.jo!guys loving someone can be tricky i tell u but i want out...being single was total bliss...eish guys!!!haai no...

myname
04 Sep 2007 02:04

Thanks MissK im not single bt i have my freedom bcoz im not married just siyajola okey. Im allowed 2 have a date with any male freind bcoz i prefer male freind than women. Its nice 2 be single sana i know. @ tizoz about Xhosa man let mi tel u there are stingy, cheaters & alcoholics. 3% of them r romantic & then the rest yho. The r cute very cute bt sana u wil cry.

belz
04 Sep 2007 02:16

Miss K,great article indeed!!! the best thing about being single is NOT HAVING TO EXPLAIN YOSELF, you can go out until the we hours of the morning and not sit in court the following day!!!

azHOT
04 Sep 2007 02:25

i just gave up on baby sitting the love of my life because he developed a sense of entitlement to my life and space. in the beginning it was cute but lately i felt all claustorphobic.

Xhosa Chick
04 Sep 2007 02:27

"Oota ta baka Hintsa" usile Tizoz!
Ok, guys, Ive dated mostly Xhosa men (not consciously, but in King William's Town, where Im from, there were mostly Xhosa men), and what I can say is, they are moderately romantic.  But its really about the guy, some guys generally arent romantic, regardless of their tribe. 

Cande-girl said yesterday that Tswana men are very romantic, and as much as I hate to admit i, its true. But men of TVSA, women love to be spoilt, and treated like ur the only woman that exists sometimes, so please, pull up your socks and step up your game

Lady D
04 Sep 2007 02:29

Killer article K,!!!guys being single is so fabolous,but women who  have been sinlge for a long time get used to being on their own and they can be quite a challenge to date cause they can be really stubborn.They get used to being men n women in their own houses,so when they get back to the dating business they still don wanna let go of their 'i am my own woman status',hence most of their relationships that follow after that long cooling period dont last..ask me i know..been there done that,bought the Tshirt and ripped it off.

On the other hand,nna i am surrounded by people in steady relationships n some r married but hey..none of them is happy.Which makes me happy to be my own woman...

Happy Tuesday guys!!

Xhosa Chick
04 Sep 2007 02:31

There's nothing like bumping ibnto your ex, and you're looking super-fine, and happy. But damn, if u run into him lookin drab and miserable....embarrasing!

monchooza
04 Sep 2007 02:41

Nice one miss K nami i am enjoying my singlehood so much that i dont think i will ever be ready to be in a relationship ever...eish scary neh?

Lemon_Lite
04 Sep 2007 02:42

Hayi mina - I can't say. I ran into my ex at a club last thursday... and I was very very UNSOBER. It was my first encounter since we broke up and I immediately became sober, went into the toilet and cried my eyes out. I'm still in pain - was thinking about him yesterday, but I believe I'll be fine and will get over it but its super HARD. 
When I'm finally over him and enjoy being single too - maybe I'll do a 10 reasons why I looooooooove being single - RELOADED. as for now I'm licking my wounds.

Nice article though Miss K.

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 02:44

Nice one Miss K.  Being single is just so good, my ex and I are "friends" with benefits. 

spice
04 Sep 2007 02:45

Sometimes you just get horny......................... ooooops No what I meant is lonely forgive me bhutis/sisis ne

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 02:48

"as for now I'm licking my wounds."   @ Lemon Lite, I know this will sound cliche, but it actually gets easier with time, the thing is people don't understand that healing is a proccess, not just instantaneous.

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 02:48

Cande-girl said yesterday that Tswana men are very romantic, and as much as I hate to admit i, its true.

haai it seems women tend to stay away from men of the same mother tongue. i'm tswana and would never date a tswana guy! tswana men are stingy and worse, they'll budget with your money! and i've known alot of tswana women who feel the same...haai!

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 02:49

I agree with u Miss K, but later tend to disagree....It's nice being single nje for sometime...and that's when u get to learn new things about urself....when I was single I used to do such a lot....like being taken out to Expensive restaurants, having VIP access coz of Men trying to impress u etc etc.....but at some stage u need to get the love....u need that person who snores next to u in Bed.....as for living together ...I dont know(coz I have neva Vat 'n Sit b4). U need nje all those things....but Most of all....u have to have time apart ...let him spend time with his frinds and have time with ur's.

I am not yet Married so I will do what I wish b4 I get hitched if I ever will. And the most important of all.....Neva touch Ur Man's fone and he mustnt touch ur's....U may see thingz u dont like. And yes XC - Xhosa Men can be stingy but they need a Very very tough Woman coz deep down they are very interesting Characters!!!!

belz
04 Sep 2007 02:49

LOL @ lemonlite. you'll be fine love, it takes time.

Beyonce
04 Sep 2007 02:50

ha ha ha, Miss K your reasons are hilarious, heart them!

Nonny... friends with benefits? playing with fire there:) wut if he gets hooked(again) ?

Toodecent
04 Sep 2007 02:50

Nna I dont wanna say much mara seems like some people have never been in love fo sho aor maybe uyou have never been in the zone like I am... damn bana ba bang mara!

Mathaz
04 Sep 2007 02:50

Off topic:  guys Gift Leremi is dead.  Sad news indeed

Kakapana
04 Sep 2007 02:55

yho Miss K, this is freaky. it's like u read my mind, nami my friends don't understand how I can be single but I sooo enjoy it, especially when some girl's man tries to get smooth with u knowing very well dat u know his girlfriend. I've bn single 4 over 3 yrs n it will take a super special somebody 2 get a piece of me.

"Life is so much simplier when u ride solo. VIVA IZISHIMANE VIVA!!!!!!

WhiteSockGirl
04 Sep 2007 02:57

LOL @  MamaOmpha  "But sometimes I wish that I didn't have a 27 year old grown a$$ baby to look after. DAMN" 
Can't remember where I heard but I live by the following rule:  If I did not give birth to you, I am not your mother

Nice one MissK
Doesn’t it just feel great when u run into your ex and u know ure looking extra fine that day? His drooling mouth and dropped jaw was enough justice, but him asking for LB (love back) = PRICELESS.  
looking gorgeous is the best revenge ever!

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 02:58

@ Lady D : I feel u, everytime my 'not so single'  friends visit and complain about aboPetrose no Sunday babo i just smile my wicked smile and offer a shoulder to cry on!

Ohhh Lemon_Lite u remind me of myself 6 months ago. I know exactly what u going thru, whenever i was in a club and they play that Revolution house track - Light of my life or something I would cry my eyes out while other people are dancing around me! I laugh about it now but it was bad then, qina sisi va. 

@ Monchooza he he we'll be watching this space. Sooner or later some Moses will come along and charm your socks off.

blk sunshine
04 Sep 2007 02:59

Ya hey, hectically sad news.

Lady D
04 Sep 2007 03:00

Toodecent,we have been in love fo sho and got burned,but  that does not mean we quit the game completely,but we are just enjoying our  free moments,we r also wiser now

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 03:00

"Nonny... friends with benefits? playing with fire there:) wut if he gets hooked(again) ?"  @Bey, I don't mind if I get hooked and as for playing with fire, it's all about safety and precaution.

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 03:06

Off Topic, Mathaz - tis really sad about Gift, now we are gonna hear all this noble talk about his skills that people are suppose to hear when they are alive, what can I say typically SA.

Kakapana
04 Sep 2007 03:07

YA MATHAZ I JUST HEARD ABOUT GIFT, TRAGIC INDEED. I'M A DIE HARD PIRATES FAN AND I USED 2 LOVE DA DUDE. I USED 2 CALL THEM MY BIG 5: GIFT(VUM VUM), BENEDICT(TSO), LEBOHANG,(CHEESE)JOSEPH (DUKU DUKU)AND PHUMUDHO(BOLD N BUTFUL) SHO GIFT WILL BE SORELY MISSED!! SORRY 4 BEING OFF THE TOPIC

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 03:07

My point exactly Lady D, i'm NOT saying i'll be single till 60, just enjoy myself in the mean time. 

What is this i hear about Gift Leremi???

Suzilicious
04 Sep 2007 03:08

I a married woman and have all the freedom in the world, it even get to the point were i dont even know what to do and want to be with him, You just have to choose the right man guys, thats the secret of a happy marriage.
Can't remember where I heard but I live by the following rule: If I did not give birth to you, I am not your mother - I love your rule WSG and its what keeps me going too. LOL


spice
04 Sep 2007 03:10

You singlas how are you by the way? me just asking

belz
04 Sep 2007 03:11

WSG: i live by tht line.

ngwana
04 Sep 2007 03:11

I also think friends with benefits is playing with fire. We have no control of our emotions. 

 @MamaOmpha "But sometimes I wish that I didn't have a 27 year old grown a$$ baby to look after. DAMN" >>  I've heard a lot of ladies complain about these babies.

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 03:15

Hehehe uphumakuphi Whitesockgirl?

spice
04 Sep 2007 03:17

I've heard a lot of ladies complain about these babies So why are they still in our care?

TT
04 Sep 2007 03:19

Hi Guys...sorry to be off the topic ...which Sundows player did in a car xcident?

WhiteSockGirl
04 Sep 2007 03:19

Gucci!  Namibian over here....  no clue what you are saying! 

Foxy gal
04 Sep 2007 03:24

@ TT it is  GIFT LEREMI!!

Suzilicious
04 Sep 2007 03:24

TT read the above replies and thats were your answer is.

presha
04 Sep 2007 03:25

@TT the player is former orlando pirates player Gift Leremi.

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 03:25

guys can u pls not shout! rather make ur words bold cos rona babang have very sensitive eyes.

Gucci, WSG u buya nga lena...uya bazi mos ama kk...lol and she doesn't understand u uma u khuluma.

Foxy gal
04 Sep 2007 03:28

Kwa kwa kwa @ Kele (don't start)

spice
04 Sep 2007 03:29

Wena dikeledi o sharp today ?o ne o jele motekwane maobane ne, or was it that time of the month ?I hope sungone can translate this to WSG

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 03:29

WSG: Was asking where u coming from - missed ya here!!! When's ur next Blog?

Username
04 Sep 2007 03:33

Hate:

Once you’re single it’s like having a desperate sign on your face. Every tom, dick and Harry tries to fancy their luck on you.

Come family gatherings you get asked the irritating questions about babies, marriage and it seems even your cousin who looks like a baboon’s backside has a man in her life.

Love:

Every thing Miss K mentions and more. No more stupid calls and baby I love you even thou you don’t mean it.

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 03:35

Kele: usile >>>LOL
TT: Did u honestly read the whole Blog?

Titanic
04 Sep 2007 03:36

TT,its Gift Leremi. I am so angry right now, i just dont understand why we should cry every year. Why are these people dying like this? Sorry bloggers for coming in without knocking and off topic like that. Im just sad.

Suzilicious
04 Sep 2007 03:36

Bathong username LOL

sedi
04 Sep 2007 03:36

Mina im still new to singledom, it's bn 5months now. I feel u Lemon-Lite when i hear music tht remind me of him, sometimes i cry. I know 1day i'll heal & i've bn invited to a party & he'll b there im not sure i'm ready to see him.

@ Miss K love your article no 3 & not having to explain yourself.

@ Kakapana <<<< "VIVA ZISHIMANE VIVA">>>> VIVA!!!!

TT
04 Sep 2007 03:37

Thnx guys..

Suzilicious
04 Sep 2007 03:39

Titanic - We are all just passing by here, this world is not our home, it was his time and we need to respect that, mine and yours will come. Everthing happens for a reason. May his talent and soul rest in peace.

Dimago
04 Sep 2007 03:40

I used to be single, and i enjoyed it...agree with everything you said about being single Miss K.

But like Gucci said, eventually you want to be in a relationship, and put all the skills you learnt (about yourself) into good use. 

So i am all for being single for a while, but definatley not forever!

Sam2sy
04 Sep 2007 03:42

Guys does being single mean you can get it anywhere any time or.........?
I have always thot of myself as being single, mara ama attachments wami are just always there you know, If I want some I kno where to go, pity for them though they think, I'm the one.......

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 03:52

haaibo nina i'm not starting anything! nge mpela my eyes are sensitive nje and it becomes too much...how about u only use caps when highlighting the main words in your responses??? please guys!

@ Username...the opposite of hwat u say happnes to me...guys hardly ever ask me out...they only make a move when i'm not interested or if i'm with someone!!! idiots!!!

Foxy gal
04 Sep 2007 03:53

it was gr8 being single but it gr8 being married too..... sure every relationship has it  ups & down (be in serious relationship / ukujola nje ) You shud always know in lyf that when u go thru the down side of life there is always gona be a up side of life again!! U shud understand that the person u with is a human being, we are not perfect! Trust & Love goes hand in hand

Lastly the person u married to shud be yo friend but make sho u have other frendz !!!

monchooza
04 Sep 2007 03:57

well mina my mom asked me ukuthi kanti whats happening when am i introducing her to umakoti and i was told her ukuthi i dont intend on getting a makoti, cause ME is too much to handle manje when i add another muntu to stress about... no, i am not ready yet and she said i am a sishimani and that she will organise me a gal. cabanga nje your own mother calling you isishimani. kanti who said we all need to be hooked up to live our lives??????

spice
04 Sep 2007 04:00

foxy I am married too and I would'nt trade my marriage to Petrose for anythung in this world

WhiteSockGirl
04 Sep 2007 04:03

@Gucci:  Thank you for the translation!  To answer your question: Sometimes I have to act like someone who is actually earning her bread and butter...  And TVSA can make one forget your priorities very quickly so I am pacing myself.  Where I am from:  the beautiful city of  Windhoek in Namibia but I am temporarily stationed in a very conservative small town in the south of Namibia hence the name of my blog: SMALLTOWN

@spice: "Wena dikeledi o sharp today ?o ne o jele motekwane maobane ne, or was it that time of the month ?I hope sungone can translate this to WSG"  
LOL  I think I have an idea....  "That time of the month...."

Username
04 Sep 2007 04:04

@Kele.........LOL. Its the opposite with me and it bugs the hell out of me.

Direre
04 Sep 2007 04:07

Miss K, nice article but i wish i knew how it feels cause mina i have never been single since i was in Grade 11, i am still with the same man and in 3 weeks i am committing to this man forever and ever!! Tsho ga ke di tshabe ne!!!!

Magauta
04 Sep 2007 04:08

South african soccer player Gift Leremi has passed on more reason to stay single..

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 04:12

isishimani...monchoo baby, what is this???

presha
04 Sep 2007 04:15

@direre Congrats girl!, enjoy the Honeymoon!

Lahvee
04 Sep 2007 04:19

Yah no being single is the ish... the only part I hate is having hooked up friends who think u'll make a great couple with "my man's friend"... hell noo... that's why I told my friends not to hook me up with their guy friends or their man's friends...

I lahv being able to be woken up by yo male friends asking you to come over 2 sum1's house for a chill session. You can sleep ova or come back in the wee hrs of the morning without worrying about explaining to any1...

If I feel like eating Rice Crispies for supper I can.  
I save a lot of petrol coz I dont have to drive to his place now & then. 
I dont live out of my boot or traveling bag
I can watch Big Brother till 4 in the morning without someone asking to watch soccer games!! I OWN THE REMOTE..heheh
I can call whichever man at anytime.. (an ex used 2 jump 4 my phone to check who I was talkin 2...)huu he eh..
I can have girl time every week...

Gr8 1 miss K.... and u're rite that being single teaches u things that u cant stand as soon as u get a man...!! So some alone time is good girls...

and Yes TDC.. the rizin we're single is we havnt been in the zone like you. So 1 day we'll hopefully find the "zone" candidates & be in lahv 4 gud!!

belz
04 Sep 2007 04:20

KeleFab: isishimani is a bachelor. monchy yu must tell your mom ukuthi omakoti ziproblems.

tizoz
04 Sep 2007 04:23

cabanga nje your own mother calling you isishimani. kanti who said we all need to be hooked up to live our lives?????? LOL My friend if your mutha wants to hook u up it means you sc****d to put it mildy. I cant imagine my mutha huckin me up with some chick dat aint goin to happen

Unik
04 Sep 2007 04:25

I am still hurt and angry with my ex, its been a year now since I'm single after 10 years ...gues what ? he is marrying an old woman with 2 teenage daughters and his only 27 and he paid Lobola by our Business money and bought a BMW and of course he kicked me out of our business that we started together and worked so hard for it...and next month they are doing a huge white wedding....."NDINOMSINDO ...."

rebotile
04 Sep 2007 04:27

Cya
04 Sep 2007 04:38

Mna guys I am no longer single but I can identify with the list, the one thing I miss is not having to fight with anyone and Oh how can I forget not having to put up with pretentious and some full of it inlaws!The nice thing about being single is taking time to know yourself and what you want from a relationship cz then you won't settle for less than you deserve.

Mandlovu
04 Sep 2007 04:39

Everything you are saying Ms K is sooo true. Mna I miss my freedom, i have been married for 2yrs & I dated my hubby for 3yrs and sana I'm sooo tired yi marriage life. I'm Xhosa and so is my hubby........ did I say my hubby I meant 2 say my first born, Xhosa man are really a pain in the a.......... , I don't know who I am anymore because of lo mtshato.

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 04:43

Damn Unik thats some heavy shyt ure going thru. Sorry gal. And I thought i had it rough.... nci nci nci

monchooza
04 Sep 2007 04:43

but ke guys me being the me that i am ngimtshelile (my mother) ukuthi what about her she has been single for as long as i can remember, so i told her ukuthi i have friends who are her age maybe i must hook her up with one of them, and she told me the way to get off telling me ukuthi men are useless and she has no desire for a man in her life.....

belz
04 Sep 2007 04:45

Unik: sorry love, go get tips on how to survirve that sh!t from White Socks Girl.

belz
04 Sep 2007 04:46

Monchy: hahahahahah usile wena!!!!

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 04:48

Ungafi Ndlovukazi, i'm no expert but i'm sure there are things you can do to revive your marriage and ways of being happy within the marriage.

 All happily married ladies plz advice the sista plz!

spice
04 Sep 2007 04:50

Unik you shoudda wrote your reply in caps and bold nogal and holler at me I know someone who can fix your little situation and it will cost you less than hundred bucks what do you say?

Unik
04 Sep 2007 04:50

I can feel ur mom monchs this is exactly how I feel right now,when you think all is well and you working hard for a relationship ,umntu "qgum, ngebomb yomhlaba" personally I don't think men know what they want or shud I say I don't understand them at all and right now I am sooooooooo  - Antimen

myname
04 Sep 2007 04:53

Oh sorry wethu Unik it happens and sis b strong even if he got Miss Right 1 day he wil miss u ngento encinci. I know those long relationship & umntu aku-drop(e) like a hot potato & sana u wil get some1 just take ur time. And plz dont 4get to ask the new guy what he thinks about u, dont waste ur time with some1 whose going 2 find another wife. Ixesha and siyaguga

owethu260
04 Sep 2007 04:59

       did I say my hubby I meant 2 say my first bordid I say my hubby I meant 2 say my first born, Xhosaman are really a pain in the a..........@ Mandlovu we are @ same boat ,,, i'm also married to a big baby ...amadoda ayafana it doesnt matter if his a xhosa or not,,,i miss my single days

Cya
04 Sep 2007 05:03

KeleFab Isishimsni is a bachelor but not by choice. It basically means a man who has a problem of getting a woman, it usually implies that u are scared of women!

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 05:03

"i miss my single days"  Thank u 4 inspiring us single people to get married owethu260

Dimago
04 Sep 2007 05:06

Oh Unik, sorry to hear what you are going thru...this too shall pass, be strong!

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 05:09

Might I add Kelefab, it's actually an insult when a person refers to u as Isishimane becaue it  is actually a derogatory term.

Foxy gal
04 Sep 2007 05:13

Noooooooooo wayz I don't miss my single days I'm happy where i'm at!!!!! Guess  I'm lucky then!

Unik
04 Sep 2007 05:24

Thanx guys for caring and believe me its the only time in my life that I have realise that I am a very strong woman .....mind u he left me with a 5 month old baby.....I just thank GOD for the cute healthy baby after all this ordeal....

Nice1
04 Sep 2007 05:24

Hi every1....
Nice article,,i agree with most of the above mentioned points but u can't be single all ur life....most people including me need i- VAVA voooom,

Zhico
04 Sep 2007 05:30

I'm also single even thou I cant live without some smoooches(kisses)...bt that I can get anywhere...so hold on to ur men tite...

Being single is really a piece of mind bt that does not mean I lost hope or dont blv inlove anymo...

mabhebheza
04 Sep 2007 05:37

Akumndadi ukuba single zihlobo..! i am tired of ukuphilela umuntu :
yazi sometimes we stay in a relationship not 4the sake of love but becoz u so used to that person (usegazini) that u afraid 2explore n phoxeka! kanti when one door closes umonye opens n trust me that miracle happened this weekend n damn its 2good 2be true yazi i wasted my time ne nja yasendle..!(sorry 2b vulgar bt thats exactly what he is)

 @Unik yazi yini ur better off without him and 4get about the "material things" God has a way of pulling us away 4rm Rubbish actualy thank him ukuthi u hav been to that stage9hurtin break-up) and manje u dealing with the situation u definetly u will heal i feel so sorry for those amngazi ukuthi what their partners are capable of ?

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 05:38

Unik: He deserves a BIG PUNCH in the face - Pray hard girl....didnt u have shares in the business?  (Sorry 4 askin, I knw it maybe hard for u)

Ladies and Gents - play ur cards right....love outside there is scarce even from couples, people care abt Money (devil of all).

Mandlovu&Owethu: I vel (sympathise with) u. "MAKE IT WORK" (I give u that phrase for free). There's a reason u married them  - try and bring the spark back!!!

Quick
04 Sep 2007 05:40

I have single for a while and i love it. i agree with 70% of the points you made.

Mandlovu
04 Sep 2007 05:40

Kodwa Foxy gal sana yithi you are happy for now, one day u will feel the same way as we do lets hope for ur sake its later than sooner, I wouldn't like u 2 be dissappointed ngoba ke all man are the same okusalayo.

Unik
04 Sep 2007 05:58

@Gucci - We had some docs that we were to sign incl registering the buz as the money was already comin in real fast as we work from home so it was not that proffessional - the biz was recruting for eskom so u can imagine the calls made there I ended paying up thousands of rands to fone bill at work because of my dedication,the last time we spoke about the business was when the company deposited money from his account ...

He was suppose to take his new ride(1 SERIES BWM) next thing can't reach him from his cellno the whole weekend and the next one...Only here that he took her older other galfrnd overseas and proposed then gave the woman the car and its been personalized by her name ....
 mind u I gave him all my savings to start a business and took a ciontract fone for him when I confront him about this his said "There's a lot happened that you don't know about and nothing that u did for me will amount to the car I bought for her and besides I'm living my life ,please live urs ' "I HATE WITH PASSION,The worst part I'm having his baby"

Foxy gal
04 Sep 2007 06:10

I hear u Mandlovu but I can not live my life with fear of what might happen, otherwise i'm not gona live!!!

Whateva happens good/bad I know that GOD knew it b4 i was born. so if i'm happy i know God planned that 4 me & IF i'm sad i know God has a solution 4 me.

"Never tell God how big is your problem but tell the problem how GREAT is your GOD" That gets me out of situations

DEARTH
04 Sep 2007 06:15

I did not what to reply but due to the this i have read it seems most of you have been hurt emotionally by the people you love the most but it doesn't mean all males are bad some of us have been hurt by the girls of our dreams but we have not gave up on love or sad bad things to other women, it all starts with understanding your self first before trying to love someone else

myname
04 Sep 2007 06:15

I was talking 2 my freind this weekend & she said "plz gil dont get married soon kunzima (its hard)". And i was like u know these days im scared of geting married. Why we always have the painful season more than happiness & really marriage is out of my mind 4 now & i feel sorry 4 those women who have tough time & i believe its going 2 b okey. We al have gud time & bad time & luk after urself & those precious kids.

DEARTH
04 Sep 2007 06:21

F-alse
E-vidance 
A-ppearing
R-eal
the is nothing to fear about the things that hurt you, it is sad that things that does not kill you make you stronger 

belz
04 Sep 2007 06:25

Unik: really gal thats hectic, you need to do something i'll find out from some attorney here at work wat you can do.

Miss K
04 Sep 2007 06:29

Eish mara ppl now u making me feel sad, i was just making fun of my singlehood but now reading how really unhappy other people are makes me feel sad.

Gucci
04 Sep 2007 06:34

@Unik - God is watching over u. "He" gives all the ANSWERS. I am very sorry for what happened to u....it is a LOT but as I said...PRAY HARD!!!

@Mandlovu - It doesnt happen to everyone....there are many people who've been HAPPILY MARRIED for years.  

Nice1
04 Sep 2007 06:43

i've learnt a lot from my previous relationship...and made me the person that i am today...

Unik
04 Sep 2007 07:00

Thanx gal,I feel so much better now....

Username
04 Sep 2007 07:17

I heard this once that human beings are like hot water; you only know what’s inside by putting it in hot water, the hotter the water the stronger the character.

Unik: Maybe he actually did you a favor as much as you may hurt right now but all the pain will subside and you need to focus on you and that little angel coming. Give her/him strength that they know happiness and love s/he so much the universe will conspire in your favor.

To the suckers who hurt women, you don’t know what you doing; the tears of a woman never fall on the ground. Karma is a b****. To the brothers who treat women like angels, the returns will be great.

Being single is a joy.

Username
04 Sep 2007 07:24

heard this once that human beings are like (teabags) not hot water

KeleFabulous
04 Sep 2007 07:27

Unik yes he was a bastard and u and ur baby are better off! but u shud find a lawyer and fight for waht's rightfully yours...the business..look at mandla...u 2 could be sa's next millionaire

Foxy, it's so nice to hear a different tune bathong! nna i want to get married someday and hate having to hear all these horror stories!

maddie
04 Sep 2007 07:41

Unik - that's sad baby gal, be strong.

Men who want money from you, chances are they don't love you and as soon as they're sorted with their money problems they'll leave you.

Never marry in community of property if you have a lot assets before marriage.

presha
04 Sep 2007 07:55

@Username thanks, th@ makes a lot of sense now. True,  Ppl show their true colours when they r in HOT water.

Tshd21
04 Sep 2007 08:02

Miss K: Nice one ausi! Ever since I broke with that good for nothing isht, I have been celebrating. I am also enjoying my freedom and I must say there are a couple of things that I learnt while I was with him, even though o nthubile pelo.
Monchooza: I am also on the same boat bra yaka. My not so single friends are on a mission to revive my feeling for men. Apparently ever since my last relationship, I have no feelings towards the opposite sex,  I need to once again enjoy the feeling of being in love, not forgetting to get some because my "temporary" rush is sign ya gore ke mo tlaleng! Realllly now? What's wrong with letting your hair down a little? My next relationship e tla fitlha ka nako ya yona!

Tinyiko
04 Sep 2007 08:35

In the beginning God created a man. After sometime He realized that the man was lonely and God decided to create another human being.Guess what, God did not create another man but  a woman.

This to me means that being single is not what God intended for His children.

You can be single if you want to but it is not good for your mental and physical well-being.

Single people are boring,dull,lonely, and when they get older they they often want to do things that they missed bcos of living life of singleness.

So don't fool urself, get someone in ur life.

Annonymous
04 Sep 2007 08:50

"Single people are boring,dull,lonely, and when they get older they they often want to do things that they missed bcos of living life of singleness."  @Tinyiko is that the new definition of single?  Coz I am single but I aint boring, dull or lonely.  It's just that if you were in a relationship with someone and u really loved that person, it tends to be difficult to just easily jump in2 the next relationship.  Therefore singlehood is a period where u have the time to evaluate what have u gained from the previous realtionship & to also become a better person and not repeat the same patern of unsuccessful relationships.

mazi
04 Sep 2007 09:18

my heart goes out to UNIK, i am so sorry gal no one desrves to be treated like that, i v bn there blv u me and i hated him with every fibre of my being, untl one day i realised that hatred was eating away at me, so i chose to forgive and move on with my life and gues what today i am married to thee most wonderful man and i wld nt trade my marriage for anything. nw i realise that God was protecting me from that ugly dooff. 

be strong dear, this too shall pass and one day u wl actually life abt this situation. God has greater plans for u. love ur beautiful baby and each time when u like at ur baby know that its a wonderful blessing from God. i am sure this has made u a stronger person even though u r stl hurting and bitter and for that i admire u gal.


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