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Written by bulie from the blog Bulie's Insight on 02 Apr 2008
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Hi guyz this is my first article and i'm not expecting a lot of replies but atleast i wud love to see ur comments on this.

I've been dating this guy for a year and a half now and we have never encounted any problems, we dont leave in the same city. He is in East London and i'm in Cape Town we call each other everyday after six hrs and its like he is here but he is not. So a friend of mine suggested that i shud find sum1 else just to keep me occupied and i said to her no. Then a month later after she said that i received a call on my way home from work and its a guy's voice, he introduced himself & telling me that he got my number frm my friend and he called her by her name and they r working together and i was like what the hell is this and he told me that he heard a lot about me and he wants us to meet so that we can talk and i said what about? to cut the story shot .

A week later my boyfriend visited me for a week and he left Friday to attend his friend's funeral on Saturday then on Sunday my so called friend arrived at my house with this a hot cute handsome guy and i was damn ngowaphi? Then it appears that he is thee guy who called me and wants us to so we met and we talked and i kinda liked him but at the same time i had this guilty concious over me that says no u cant do that ur b-friend was here yesterday u cant cheat on him but i didnt mind that so we decided to hook up for a while and i didnt stop calling my boyfriend and telling that i luv him very much and i was not lying i do. So a couple of weeks later i decided to spend the night with him so we kissed & it was a nightmare i never been kissed like that and he was a terrible kisser and then we got to a sex part yhooooooo worst than kissing he is not cracking it.

Guyz i'm soory for such a lot article but i'm giving u the background of the story so after that i wanted to jump out of bed and leave in the middle of the night and never cum back nditsho i didnt feel anything while he was on top of me so i suggested of being on top and while i was busy getting up then he's thing ( P) fell down ayavuka bethuna yho i was sumthing else and i told my so called friend her friend's problem and she was so disapointed okay i told myself maybe its bcoz of its our first time together then the second and the third and the fourth time the same thing happenned and i gave up. I asked him what wa his problem he never answered me so idecided to end things with him now he is harrasing me asking what hapenned i dont know how much he loves me he never met a person like me and i never met sum1 like him. My long last boyfriend now wants to marry me and he called me last night that he never met a gud luving person like me in his life so we decided to get married in 2010 so that 1 is still calling and i told him to leave me alone.

My question is shud i tell my boyfriend that i cheated on him or shud i leave things the way they r now and move forward? My fear is that he'll find out that i cheated but that is the thing of the past so please advise.

Thanks for taking ur time and read this article cum on lets hear ur replies.

150 Comments

sweetie my baby
02 Apr 2008 06:59

iyo, ke mathathata fela! too much for me to deal with right now, luv. will think and come back later... but ja, you have A SITUATION.

sjura
02 Apr 2008 07:18

what he dont knw wont hurt him so if u dnt wnt to loose ur man dnt tel him that u cheated.amadoda awathandi ukutyelwa.So make sure ur friend neva tells ur man wat u did, bt ndiatemba ke ntombazana ukuba nawe u learnt ur lesson.

felfel
02 Apr 2008 07:18

Why would you wanna tell ur man something like that wena are you mad????
Let's analyse ur question: Wat purpose are u trying to achieve by telling him? You trying to hurt him? Revenge? You want him to leave you?? WAT???? Men don't forgive and forget a cheater, you will always have that black mark on you. Usidlile isono, sula umlomo qha wena!!!!!!! Just love that man and act like nothing ever happenned cos nothing happened , remember you didn't get satisfaction so uzofela isono esingekho!!!!

Segololo
02 Apr 2008 07:21

Eish! I wish I could put on my Oprah hat and tell you all will be well but I can't!
So excuse my Dr Phil and judge Judy hat and cme back later with a positive response

LEELUV
02 Apr 2008 07:56

No don't tell him.

Cande
02 Apr 2008 08:01

Don't tell him, its possible he also cheated so you got levelled...he is a man afterall..besides he will never forgive you...!

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:04

Eish, thank you so much Bullie, u just made me realsie that my teacher (years and years ago) was right when she said: "Always appreciate ur own problems and never wish for someone else's coz if all our problems were put in one room and we were all given the option to choose the least difficult problem, u will probablly end up leaving with your own"

Damn gal, u are in a tight situation. I would NOT tell my boyfriend but gal remember this saying *luckily u know Zulu* neway sithi "Akhukho okufihliwe okungenakuvela" - which means in the end the truth always finds a way to come out, so rather be on the safe side so that when the World Cup comes all is in order. I mean when ur 2010 Wedding comes all will be in order..........*now that's if ur boo is as forgiving*!!!! I don't know why men find it hard to forgive a woman for cheating and yet we woman forgive them countlessly when they cheat, so don't be alarmed if the wedding is cancelled after u tell all. But all in all whatever happens will be what's meant to be!!!!

Lex
02 Apr 2008 08:07

U crazy girl,why should u tell him what happened in the past (even tho he was still in the picture when that past occured).Keep your mouth shut,otherwise...

LEELUV
02 Apr 2008 08:07

Don't listen to Nonny, Bullie. Keep that trap closed or you'll lose your man.

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:08

@ Bullie - The question is are u willing to risk loosing him for ur honesty???

LEELUV
02 Apr 2008 08:11

Phela that incident is a non-event-you should be deleting it from your memory bank as it is! forget abt it, don't even think abt telling your Mr 2010!!!!! repeat after me: IT-DIDN'T-HAPPEN!!!

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:11

"Don't listen to Nonny, Bullie. Keep that trap closed or you'll lose your man."
Leeluv - well sorry for for thinking marriage is a big deal and honesty is of the utmost importance, phela this is not umjolo, if she can't tell this to her future husband, then what next will she lie about, don't u think that a marriage bilt on lies will lead to more lies and doom????

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:14

And besides if she has decided to even write a blog about this........*bearing in mind it's even her(Bullie) first blog, therefore this matter is important and she has clearly been spending tremendous time thinking abt it*, then clearly it's bugging her, and it will carry on bugging her!!!

LEELUV
02 Apr 2008 08:16

Not necessarily doom but more lies but who doesn't lie in the 20th century? don't you know that bonyatsi ba tisa motse (mistresses solid a home LOL)

LEELUV
02 Apr 2008 08:19

Bullie, moratiwa think VERY LONG and hard about the possible PERMANENT dent you might be putting on your relationship if you open that mouth abt that non-event!

Dintha
02 Apr 2008 08:22

Zip that cute but wanna-be-big-mouth of yours. By the way, should it come up in future, which I doubt, that's if you zip it, you'll just deny it and sure the other guy won't make a scene because he knows he was a total flop.

Cnglemother
02 Apr 2008 08:23

i didnt feel anything while he was on top of me so i suggested of being on top and while i was busy getting up then he's thing ( P) fell down ayavuka bethuna yho i was sumthing else and i told my so called friend her friend's problem and she was so disapointed okay i told myself maybe its bcoz of its our first time together then the second and the third and the fourth time the same thing happenned and i gave up. LOL! everyone is having inkinga yocansi lately not that i can relate, anenzani la madoda vele?

Interesting blog btw Bullie but i have no comment.

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:29

Clearly majority condones the lie, so lie lie lie Bullie, but at the end of the day, what will ur anser be to Mr 2010 when he says: "Baby u had years to tell me this, but u decided to keep quiet, how can I ever trust u again?"

Desired
02 Apr 2008 08:31

Shhhh......Nothing happened, u r imagining things. Now go to sleep and think/dream about your 2010 wedding:-)

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:34

attention attention - Cngelmom & Leeluv, to ur GB's ASAP plz!!!!!.........*sorry Bullie, this won't happen again*........Ok ok, I might be off topic again in ur blog, so what I lied, it ain't a bad thing to lie now is it Bullie, people lie all the time & get away with it (even though alikho iqili elazikhotha emhlani - loosely tanslated (No matter how clever a person is, u cant lick ur own back......heheh I love eMzini Wezinsizwa's translations!!), so why shouldn't I lie Bullie...........LOL????.........*hint hint*

nokubonga
02 Apr 2008 08:36

i didnt feel anything while he was on top of me so i suggested of being on top and while i was busy getting up then he's thing ( P) fell down ayavuka bethuna yho i was sumthing else and i told my so called friend her friend's problem and she was so disapointed okay i told myself maybe its bcoz of its our first time together then the second and the third and the fourth time the same thing happenned and i gave up.

Thats a problem with cute guys...most of them bathambile . They eat chicken too much!!!!

Ngqesta
02 Apr 2008 08:36

Heyi wena Bulie, ungakhe ulinge ubhatyaze apha......he he he. Thula uthi tu de ubuzwe, trust me amadoda awaxoleli sana lakhe, you will regret ever telling for the rest of your life. Looks like you have a good thing going with lo mfo usemonti....ewe ke ukhe waphatwa yimpene (hayi kabi sisi) nje kancinci, but then you don't know ukuba wenzani pha eMonti yena. Also, it looks like you are completely over Mr Handsome, you major task now is to whine him off. Be smart about it girl, all honest girls will tell you that they have deeped their toes in the river once or twice, but ayonto ungade uzigwebele yona leyo. You sinned, and repented, move on with your life and just love your man. The only pisitive about le experience kaMr Handsome is that you have satisfied your curiosity and now you can be Mrs Nton-Nton without wondering what could have been,

Now I know you're a wise girl and that you DID PLAY IT SAFE!
All am saing girl is that you should not be hard on yourself. That's my 2c worth!

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:39

"Shhhh......Nothing happened, u r imagining things. Now go to sleep and think/dream about your 2010 wedding:-)"
LMAO @ Desired, are u tryna hipnotise the poor child *I obviously don't mean that literally Bullie)*..........u guys are bad,,,,,,,,,but in a good way!!!!!

Segololo
02 Apr 2008 08:40

Ok, Bullie... the majority (so far) agree that you shouldn't tell

Sekhukhuni se bonwa ke sebataladi (nothing stays hidden forever, the hunter is always seen by another hunter) You, my dear, are in a jam. You however cannot live your life with "What ifs" hanging over your mind.

Firstly, non-man needs to let you go! he kepts pursuing you when you insisted you were not interested but what the hell made you go all the way? anyway, he pursued you knowing full well you were just trying to please your friend, now you have to tell your friend how she has walked all over you - she insisted you cheat and see someone else when you were not interested. She propably told non-man what to do do to get you so he used what he knew! so all 3 of you must take responsibility for this mess. She suggested and sent a pursuer who pursued and you accepted. As soon as you sort out all your little responsibilities in this you will know what to do!

Mr Man, He doesn't deserve any of this as he has kept his plate clean (or maybe not) but I feel that you would know him better than any of us and will know what his reaction will be and how he will take this. bear in mind that Most men do not forgive, some will just remind you over and over and over, some will revenge in ways that you will not stand. So knowing your man the way you do, decide what will work for you two.

Pooky
02 Apr 2008 08:42

I know the guilt is eating up at you maar gal dont tell him coz he will most definately never look at you the same way even if he forgives you and you'll both end up being hurt coz of some stupid mistake. Eish but ke sana the truth always has a way of coming out nokuba its after decades and decades. I also dont trust your friend yazi, what kind of a friend is she, setting you up with another guys knowing damn well that you inlove with your boo and that you not looking anywhere else.....becareful dear coz she might even be the one to spill the beans to your boo....some people are very good at orchestrating things.....tell him, dont tell him.....ag i dont know what to say gal.

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:43

"Thats a problem with cute guys...most of them bathambile . They eat chicken too much!!!!"
LMAO @ Nokubonga, but u are so right, these Kazier Jnr look alikes, zingamahlathi when it come to ucansi.........tholake umubiza ozokudla uze umubone engu Morris Chesnut...........LOL

Ngqesta
02 Apr 2008 08:46

Eish Nonsta........for the first time I beg to differ. Bulie one major mistake that you made what to tell lo mhlobokazi wakho coz umntu awumazi ukuba uyakuze akujikele nini, but anyway sekwenzekile. You need to tell her what your plan is, and she shuld come along.
Sisi I know of a dear friend yo decided to go the Ms Goody-Two-Shoes route after edlile emyezweni, she lost the kind, understandably so kuba the man was hurt. So IF (and a big IF) it happens that the matter get known by your man, uyakuyiwela wakufika kuyo lobhlorho, ndithembe xa ndithi awumazi ukuba wenzani yena kuqala eMonti. Ngoku you need to focus on making your relationship work and delete the matter from the archives of your memory.

Mambox
02 Apr 2008 08:47

Mina my advice will be zip those lips! It's not worth it. he will never forgive you never mind forget it.

Atleast it's will be easier for you to forgive him when he does the same kakade Karma is Biatch...he will do it one day

Hey i'm only kidding here....but do Zip them lips!!

awelani
02 Apr 2008 08:48

Sisi, like Nonny sed "in the end the truth always finds a way to come out", I was once in a situation lyk yours and only my frend knew about it, so i decided to keep my cute lil pie-hole shut, few months l8r, my frend opened her big mouth to my B/frend, i tried lying but had to come clean, it took a long tym b4 he cud trust me again, he wuld question my every move, but it got better. We are now married and that incident daznt come up again, and i know that he has learnt to trust me again and blv me I learnt my lesson. I think u shud tell him now coz if u dont some1 else will, who knows maybe ur frend has already told some1 else. But whateva u dcyd, Good luck gal. and dont do it again.

Lol@ Desired,

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 08:49

"You however cannot live your life with "What ifs" hanging over your mind."

Thank u Sego, I couldn't agree with u more, there are people who know how to live with lies with ease, but sadly I can see that uBullie, is not that type, already lento iyamudla and 2010 is not even here yet *Two dam years to go, yet useyapanica.........LOL*, so she needs to be honest not only to have an honest & healthy marriage, but also for herself so that she can loose this burden that she is carrying and who knows maybe uboo will appreciate her honestly and her willingness to take such a "vital" in their lives!!!!!

Tshd21
02 Apr 2008 08:55

@ Bulie: Exactly how sure are you that your friend...the same one who set you up with another man...is not sleeping with your man behind your back?

Do you trust her?

Just asking ausi neh?

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 09:00

Thanks Awelani, ukuthi I know ho wfriends can be and that is why I refuse to agree with majority coz remember three people already know about this. The friend, the pathetic in bed hottie and urself. Now the hottie probablly won't say anything, but it's the friend I don't trust. And let me tell u this, she was not a good friend in the begining when she hooked u up with someone else knowing that u are in a long distance relkationship - so be careful sisi, u might think u have ur situation under control but in reality u dont!!!!

Rather tell ur boo in on ur terms b4 this get out in a manner which might make u not even have the courage to face 2010!!!!

Tshd21
02 Apr 2008 09:02

Oh...forgot to give my 2c worth...

Tell him the truth...He deserves to know because you slept with someone else behind his back. Give him a chance to decide whether knowing or not knowing will hurt him!

I believe the things you should never tell (wonder wether you should) are those that happened when he wasn't in your life......

Lady D
02 Apr 2008 09:06

Bullie just be a fabolous bitch and keep your mouth shut.U know a fabolous bitch never kiss and hey!!!Whta your man dont know wont hurt him,your challenge is to get this other one off your back......

Mambox
02 Apr 2008 09:27

Hhay guys i don't think she should tell him...rather just break if off with him instead ngeke kulunge ukumtshela and still expect him to stay with you...k u wouldn't i'm just terrified....

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 09:31

Hi Bullie, dont you dare tell your man that somebody else raded his place!
He wont understand. Even if he does understand and you guys work things out...everytime you do something wrong he'll ALWAYS remind you about your infedility. Unless you dont mind living like that for the rest of your life...go ahead and tell him. Gud luck love...

andi01
02 Apr 2008 09:53

I hear some of you say and some say dont, well that is not interesting to me (however if i were to advise I would say, dont tell him, keeep it out of ur mind, what he doesnt know wont hurt him, and if he finds out you just deny th ewhole thing, simple !!!! he louves u, he'll beleieve you).

My concern rather is you say you slept with mr Bullet more than once, why??, if you love ur man like u say you do, had mrBullet satisfied you in bed would u have dumpbed him or mr 2010. i think you shouldnt be asking whetehr to tell mr2010 or not but rather, do you really love mr 2010, or do u love him voz he loves you. U need 2 discover this, r u just enjoying him until u get some 1 u love coz clearly if u loved him half as much as u say, u were never gonna repeat a mistake you know will hurt him. You were willing 2 give mr Bullet anatha chance, why???, where u thinking he'll eraise all the memories of mr 2010, be onest with urself girl.

WHat i think is you are not inlove with Mr 2010 anymore, but u just love the idea of being inlove. You love the fact that he loves u and that he satiesfies you in bed.
You loved mr Bullet but wish he was mr Gun, you dont wanna commit 2 him bcoz of of his small business and that you dont know him and you also dont want 2 hurt the person you CARE for.

for truly happiness, dump both of them and start afressh (u'll never be happy with mr 2010 with ur secret, and mr buleet will make ur sex life miserable 4ever), so girl read this repeatedly.

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:11

LOL@Desired... Thula ufe wena Bullie..as cliche is it may sound "What he doesnt know wont hurt Him
1stly how r u going 2 adress the issue :love i slept with this cute boy only 2find outhe sucks in bed n i realised that u better im lucky 2have a wonderful not 4getin gifted menn with no disablity in the totolozi department like u?
Doll dont fool urself ...No man with 32 mazinyo's will 4give u..just try n turn the tables Wud u 4give,,mmh? maybe he confesses 2u b4 u do it 2him ..As much as y'al can b both guitly ut once u find out HEll wil Break loose becoz its hurt when ur "LOVED ONE " cheats on u

Ewethu where r u goin 2find another straight man ( kaloku oHarambe24 babokile they r on a scout) wit a package that functions fuilly +Love & marraige proposal ??these days??
Amadoda encwele ejele sana competition is tight so keep that Fish of urs and erase that disasterous event out ur system,,,,ul loose ur 80% 4 a 20% gal!!

phambili ngoku Thula ufeneqiniso Phambili

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:14

PHAMBILI!!!!!!!!!!...LOL......WELL SAID MABHEBHEZA.....WELL SAID

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:18

well said Andi01 u neva dissapoint
same thing i was thinkin nam...but ke 4now Bullie swiry since it luks like u stil inluv wit the idea of being inluv until u find MR Gun..Zip that trap,,if he finds out phika sana ume ngomlenze omnye..( stand wit 1 leg) uphike uphike kwa chomie leyo yakho!! ( deny even ur friend) Its ur word against theirs Qhaa!! case closed

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:21

LOL @VUTMI uthanda itoyi toyi..just pushin i corruption nje,,!!

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:25

but mabhebh i am toyi toying for a worthy cause...LOL...if Bullie spills the beans and is bye-bye mshado...and hello....bitter old lady with nine cats!!!!!

sjura
02 Apr 2008 10:29

hi Bhebhi n Vutmi. i cu guyz r having fun bloging nodwa nishiyele nabanye ke....ESHE kuni nobabini

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:30

and ubuthakathi( witchcraft) starts right there... bitter lady with nine cats..LOL

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:30

and ubuthakathi( witchcraft) starts right there... bitter lady with nine cats..LOL

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:32

and wena sjura...what are you doing here?...shouldnt you be humping something?...LOL...kidding...you have evry right to be here...you can always hump later...

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:34

Sjura kodwa how can u finish me lyk that sana ..when u cut my name shame LOL Bhebhi..wakwa kwa tlt ltlt

Eshe u remind me of a long lost friend " hmm im suspicious!!
*waving* @the nite riders lets blog bahlali!!

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:39

and ubuthakathi( witchcraft) starts right there... bitter lady with nine cats..LOL...so true bhabhes...she must start with the friend who taught her uku cheater...make sure that when her man sees her, he only sees a babboon.....and then the unappetising guy....his thing (totoloz) must shrink to the size of a peanut....Hubby to be or to have been....she must loya him to be a gay guy, who doesnt get shagged!....LOL

Tshd21
02 Apr 2008 10:41

I still say tell the truth....if he leaves....he was never meant for you shame....maybe he was really meant for me...so you are just playing a role in preparing him for his true love...me that is...

What's up beutiful night riding people??

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:49

cool, what's up 2 u too Tshd21...fellow night rider? this days i am on the blogging night shift...eish...its tough!!!!!!

mabhebheza
02 Apr 2008 10:49

LOL @Tshd21..wena sana u r blogger with benefits .( advice 4ur own gud) ..i suspect ur the friend,,*wink*L...
@Vutmi..haai chomie ..that loyaring bizniss u doin up there ..is serious mloyo 4sure..i suspect ungumthakathi okwakho..( ridin a loaf brown @nite)LOL

But ke dont blame the friend ppl Bulie was not forced 2cheat 2had choice ..so friend is innocent honesty ppl honestly!!

Vutmi
02 Apr 2008 10:55

hayi mani mabhebheza the friend had ulterior motives...what kind of a friend would advice another to cheat on their man heh? why am i still calling her friend?..LOL...that woman, was jealous of her friend's relationship that's all there is to it...friend my arse!!!!!!!!!!!

Lushi
02 Apr 2008 15:59

Shame Bullie wena sowuFILE klaar!, whether you tell him or not sekuphelile gal. Your friend is bad news, first she hooks u up with this guy knowing that you love yo Mr Man. Next she will tell Mr Man that you cheated (before 2010- so no wedding)hence I say ugqibile ngawe.
Wena nje it's up to u ukuthi ukhetha ukufa next week (if u decide to tell him) or next year Dec - when your evil friend tells him.
Mna I say shut up and enjoy your last few months with Mr Man.

Nonny
02 Apr 2008 23:58

Morning everyone, I see ziyawa ebusiku while abanye bethu belele and abanye *hint hint* begovozele amadoda abo...........LOL

"if he finds out phika sana ume ngomlenze omnye..( stand wit 1 leg) uphike uphike kwa chomie leyo yakho!! ( deny even ur friend) Its ur word against theirs Qhaa!! case closed"
LMAO @ Mabhebheza, dear child u are corrupt and worst of all u are a Mrs Mabhebheza & a mommy to be.........ngaze ngamudabukela lomkwenyana ozoshada iqili elinjengawe sana...........LOL

"Mr Man that you cheated (before 2010- so no wedding)hence I say ugqibile ngawe.
Wena nje it's up to u ukuthi ukhetha ukufa next week (if u decide to tell him) or next year Dec - when your evil friend tells him.
Mna I say shut up and enjoy your last few months with Mr Man."
@ Lushi, gal I couldn't agree with u more her life is doomed, coz this friend is certainly not trustworthy and she will spill the beans ngo 2010 just b4 da World Cup Wedding coz jealousy will make her say: "OH hell NO, I am telling MR 2010 the truth (as well as the video clip I made of them when they were doing the deed coz I had installed a web camera in the room) coz Bullie doesn't deserve to live happily ever after while mina ngidlala amadoda emhlabeni and on the other hand Bullie is getting it all, yet she is not the little-Miss-Perfect that Mr 2010 thinks she is!!!"

So Bullie, I still say tell ur man on ur terms, otherwise ur friend will prove to u that she is a friend oyididi (she's an A$$) and not a friend indeed!!!!

pushi
03 Apr 2008 00:44

I hav to agree with Andi01, the question is if Bulie really loves Mr 2010. I don't understand how u can cheat on someone u love, not only once but a number of times.

But then again if she decides not to tell, it's not exactly lying is it?

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 00:52

"But then again if she decides not to tell, it's not exactly lying is it?"
Comeon now Pushi (are u pushing it???.........LOL), it's a lie, and u know it!!!!

Ngqesta
03 Apr 2008 00:53

Mara guys.......where the hell is Bulie? I mean we have said a mouthful.....and yena she has said a thing since she posted her dilemna on this site. Bulie where you girlfriend, or have you decided to give Mr Handsome one last try :-)

Fluffy Head
03 Apr 2008 00:59

Why are people asking such personal questions here mara....shoooo,

Fluffy Head
03 Apr 2008 00:59

Why are people asking such personal questions here mara....shoooo,

aviebabes
03 Apr 2008 01:04

Dear Bulie

Do not make the mistake of telling your boyfriend what happend between you and this guy. Your boyfriend wants to marry you which clearly means that he trusts and loves you with all his heart. By telling him this "old news" thing ,you could endup alone, with no one. Do you know that saying "What you don't know can't hurt you", i think you should really think about it. The only person that should know about you getting married is this guy you were dating, tell him the truth and tell him loud and clear that you are no longer interested, I'm sure he will leave you alone once he finds out that you are getting maried.

Remember telling your man about this relationship that no longer exists could ruin everything and you could endup with NOTHING.. If I was in your shoes I would stay the hell away from this guy, after all awu benefit(i) from this relationship, his bad at everything he does, stick to your man and don't you dare breath a word about what happened...

Kind Regards,
Sis Dolly the third.....

Toxic
03 Apr 2008 01:06

Bulie where you girlfriend, or have you decided to give Mr Handsome one last try :-)

haahahahahahah!!!

Toxic
03 Apr 2008 01:08

Phela that incident is a non-event-you should be deleting it from your memory bank as it is! forget abt it, don't even think abt telling your Mr 2010!!!!! repeat after me: IT-DIDN'T-HAPPEN!!!

Leeluv took the words right out of my mouth!

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 01:17

"Kind Regards,
Sis Dolly the third"
@ Aviebabes, plz try to aim higher in life, Sis Dolly is just too much of a "sqaure" adviser.......rather be an Oprah the third...........LOL......jus kidding!!!

andi01
03 Apr 2008 01:23

@Bullie, just curious to know, how would you want to hurt some 1 you love:
1. You slept with Mr Bullet knowing this will hurt Mr 2010
2.You did the above a couple of times
3. Now you want to tell him that you cheated on him

My conclusion, you dont love mr 2010, maybe u care for him but love nah.

Weiss
03 Apr 2008 01:26

SHAME ON YOU 2 ALL OF U WHO THINK CHEAT STREET IS THE WAY TO GO. Tell the true and you will be set free.

poshspice
03 Apr 2008 01:40

Darling what he doesn't know won't hurt him...men find it hard to forgive and what if he stays and throws it in your face at every opportuinity he gets.

and what if he's cheated on you too and wena uyaphapha and tell him... like it's been said...erase it and if it comes up - say 'IT WASN'T ME'

jazzyree
03 Apr 2008 01:47

Baby girl the truth will always come out. If this guy is harrassing you what will stop him from calling when your man is around and then spoil everything.

I would rather you tell the truth if you were meant to be together your man will always stand by you. I had a friend who was in the same situation as you she cheated on her man, when she decided to end it with the other guy he went crazy harrassing her and even stalking her, She told her BF the truth and he helped her get rid of the squawk.

So bottom line relatinships are about trust and forgiveness when need be so come out in the open and tell him you made a mistake, if he loves you you will get through the phase together and rebuild your trust don't start your future on lies

Sorry abt the long res

KeleFabulous
03 Apr 2008 02:18

Weiss where have you been?

a wise woman once said that in a situation like this, if you do tell, it'll only be so that you get that weight of guilt off your shoulder; it has absolutely nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with you and your guilt!

i say it really depends on what kind of relationship you have...only u know. but mna i'd say what he doesn't knw, won't hurt him so leave it at that. it'll soon be a thing of the past and knowing men, he's probably also cheated so what's the difference? i say the only time you would have to say something is if you had some strong feelings for the dude which could jeorpadize what you feel for your man which in this case, i don't think you do so...

and what is it about men and their machine guns jamming? i've heard too many stories of such in the last few days...???

Honeypot
03 Apr 2008 02:25

I'm with poshspice on this one, if this comes out who will your man believe you or Mr Limp biscuit. Do like I do just say he is stalking you and your man will believe you. Your man will never forgive u that is a fact and even if he does he will never forget....

Pooky
03 Apr 2008 02:30

i still dont trust the "friend" though.......you'll never know sana ingathi kanti she wants your man for herself,. And this other dude, Mr Bullet, why is he all of a sudden stalking you kodwa he knows that he is hopeless in bed coz of his collapsing totolozi???

Makhumo
03 Apr 2008 02:33

Hello everybody, its sooo good to be back. Hillarious as ever I see. Now back to the business of the day.

Firstly I'm worried about people who feel the need to divulge potentially damaging information to clueless people. Firstly, learn from this when you sin don't involve the third person, telling your friend BIG mistake!!! secondly trying to tell your boyfriend: SUICIDE.

You sinned, fine tell your God and repent then move on. Do not share your burden with a person who didn't send you to do the deed.  They don't deserve to hurt for the mistakes (actions) you committed.

Thirdly its hardly worth telling about the guy freeking didn't perfom so save yourself the embarrasment and keep QUITE!!!!!

I feel for you sister, but we are all victims of poor judgment at some point in our lives, some more than others.

Best-Achiever
03 Apr 2008 02:39

Dear beloved Bullie

morning to all bloggers.

Bullie luv, Conscious is one thing that you can not defeat(that's if you have it in the first place) and from what you said you still have it and i promise you you wont delete it. We might tell you what to do but at the end its You and Your Conscious.
It has a habit of eating you slowly until you are finished, you might end up killing yourself just because you cant live with it anymore.

i beg to differ from what other bloggers say ....

1.what i know about lies, like Nonny said, they have their own way of coming out, so truth will always prevail, and if does nobody will like it, not even YOU.

2. True love conqures all, if you are both meant to be together, love will conqure the mistakes(even though i doubt this was a mistake, sleeping with other man 4times ...no gal) that yo might both have done and you will start a new page with clean concious and truth. If it doesnt survive that, then it means it was bound to end in the near future.

3. Althought im not married, i believe marriage is supposed to be built on solid trust, truth, honestly and love, love being the greatest of them all. So if you are gonna tie the knot with the guy, you better tie it based on that.

It is entirely up to you, but if i were in your position(even though i dont think i'll ever be), i will sit down with my man and tell him the whole truth and leave it up to him to decide. Whatever he decide is entirely up to him but you will know that you have cleared you cncious.

whether you like it or not this will come out someday when you thought you have evrything under control.

That's my 2 cent worth

Best-Achiever
03 Apr 2008 02:44

delete it ....meant defeat it (im busy with my code that's why i wrote delete, eish)

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 02:45

I still say, I don't trust the friend, and she will pretend to be a loyal friend and then drop the bomb just when u are about to say I DO in 2010!!!!!

Dabs
03 Apr 2008 02:45

Sisi don't you dare tell. YOu will lose your man both ways, whether it comes from you or another person later in life. If it were meant to come out, it will, that just means you guys were never menat to be. Don't tempt fate, tell yourself you are meant to be together for the rest of your lives. FINISH EN KLAAR. DON"T YOU DARE TELL< unless he tells you he has been doing the same and you are fair nd square!!!!

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 02:50

Best Achiever, sisi u are the best indeed, what u said that's my point exactly!!! I just hope uBullie akadidwa izihlwele and she makes the right decision.

mabhebheza
03 Apr 2008 02:53

Nonny ..!!! ndili qhili le higher grade shlobo...anything choza even kill the bull & die with the truth 2save umshado wam sana ..H24 and crew are on a serious scout so u must keep dat man under ur khwapha!!( only if u truly inluv naye and not 4the wrong reasons pls im not promoting Cheaters neh)

Zee Babes!
03 Apr 2008 03:01

Bullie lovie, sanas, nonoza, babes... Come clean now, if you are to take your current b/friend to an altar and say I DO, with that luggage on your back...your marriage will be a disaster cos it will not be built on trust and besides why are you stressing you did what you did then - he was your b/friend not your husband...

Its not like you did it while married it to him ngoku woyika ukuba your marriage will end. What if your galfriend who hooked you up breaks the news to him, what if sechaba (d whole world) knows and you keep it a secretes....

Luv the truth shall set you (both) FREE....can I get an Ahhmen.

Ok the sad thing thou is dat you are going thru ol of this for s** dat was not even breathtaking....Sho ubomi.

Mathaz
03 Apr 2008 03:01

Bullie, i get the feeling that all along you wanted to cheat on your man. The only bad thing about it is that you cheated with someone who needs sexual education. Your friend is the one who introduced you to this guy BUT she did not force you to go all the way with him numerous times.

Just as Makhumo said ask for God's forgiveness and not your man's for he will not forgive you. 2010 is only two years from now, you have ample time to deal with your guilt without jeopardising your relationship.

sjura
03 Apr 2008 03:03

(((((((((((( Bullie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) haybo iphi kanti lentombazana icetyiswayo apha?? cum out gal n tell us what u v bin thnking o u stil confused ukuba uthathe eyiphi indlela eya e Golgotha..

suzzy82
03 Apr 2008 03:06

Bullie did u watch Bold when Taylor was telling Rich about the affair with James long time ago wt did Rich do ?becareful
Mna even if something is obvious i still go on and LIE
i was too honest and it didn't pay me

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 03:08

"Luv the truth shall set you (both) FREE....can I get an Ahhmen."
Ahhmen Zee Babes sisi, but ke khululeka la kugcwele abahedeni hence we are short of Amens........LOL, so oMabhebheza won't dare and say Amen to dat............LOL

myname
03 Apr 2008 03:12

Before i read ur replies let mi tel u something. If i were u darling i would deny until death. So babes if u still want this man plz dont open that big mouth. Everyone have a secret but urs its not a secret bcoz ur freind knows everything just make sure he doenst know plz sifuna inkomo tu. Even if ur freind decided to divulge everything Phika ume ngomlenze omnye standwa sam. Angekhe kaloku luv zenze the wolf who eat meat then he wipes his mouth PLZ maan. Sometimes it happens my luv so Zip UP. Anyway Congra Mrs Who????????And guys its not a mistake sleeping with someone. She did think about it & finally it happened. They both wanted 2 happen. We call it curiousity & mna sana i believe u u luv this guy just nje no one is perfect & im not here 2 judge u okey thats my 2cent. Just do me a favour U Must Never (in Doris voice)

Cande
03 Apr 2008 03:18

SHAME ON YOU 2 ALL OF U WHO THINK CHEAT STREET IS THE WAY TO GO. Tell the true and you will be set free.

You know the saying behind every bitc#, there is a man who made her that way??
I think it applies to most of us here, LOL

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 03:25

@ Myname u asked Mrs who???
The anwser is Bullie is Mrs might, but might not be 2010............LOL

myname
03 Apr 2008 03:35

The only person u should apologize to is God not ur Man Angekhe mna what is done is done so Move on dear. And i dont like your freind bcoz nguye unozakuzaku walento yonke now u r in deep S*** Alone & yena she Probably smilling ezenza better ngathi yikati etshe icala Nxxxx

Dabs
03 Apr 2008 03:36

Many people cheat it is normal, as long as you don't do it in marraige.

Zee Babes!
03 Apr 2008 03:37

@my name - Before i read ur replies let mi tel u something. If i were u darling i would deny until death. So babes if u still want this man plz dont open that big mouth. Everyone have a secret but urs its not a secret bcoz ur freind knows everything just make sure he doenst know

You see myname her case is different - someone knows hence its no longer a secret.... I think it would have been something else if it was between her and the "man" - now she will be taking a risk of keeping quite kanti uchomza wakhe might be going around telling ppl, if someone else knows - uzobanjwa one way or the other, whether she does the confession herself...someone else will tell.

sjura
03 Apr 2008 03:37

@ Cande that is soooooooo baby gal.......n besides whn men cheat they dont tell us so y bother? naye whn he cheats and cums back to u he wnt tel u kuba he cheated n ddnt get wht he expected to get n u still the best. So Bulz if u knw whts best for wena uzothula u thi DWI use Monti and u r in CT so chances of him eva finding out are slim unless ur friend is friends with ur boyfriend.

Zee Babes!
03 Apr 2008 03:40

@Dabs - Many people cheat it is normal, as long as you don't do it in marraige. I agree with you!

Khuselwa
03 Apr 2008 03:42

If you don't want something to be known, then DO NOT TELL ANYONE!!! Not even your best friend!

Bullie, as someone said Kuphelile Ngawe sana...You seem like one of those people who can't lie to save their skin. Looks like either the GUILT will get to you first or your friend might do the honours for you. I for one would never tell. Deny everything, even if it mean losing the friend.

Phila
03 Apr 2008 03:42

Bulie babes, if you wanna kiss your Mr. 2010 bye-bye then tell ngwana. Its true what they say, what he doesn't know won't hurt him Plus keeping quiet is not lying, its just not telling.

But the million dollor question is : WHY DID YOU GO BACK AGAIN & AGAIN???

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 03:44

"The only person u should apologize to is God not ur Man Angekhe mna what is done is done so Move on dear."............@ Myname - in apologising to God, she has to first be honest with her man, then the Lord will see that her apology is sincere...........yah Myname, leave the Lord outta this, otherwise ngizokushaya ngamaverses ase bhiyibhelini udideka sana............LOL

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 03:53

"But the million dollor question is : WHY DID YOU GO BACK AGAIN & AGAIN???"
@ Phila, she kept thinking Mr Pathetic in bed be better in bed and match his looks with his bedroom moves...........LOL.........*I have decided to be a mini PRO for Bullie, coz she has clearly decided not to check on the sustainability of fer article,!!!!*..........where u at gal????..........I hope awudliwa amanga wherever u at.......LOL

Weiss
03 Apr 2008 03:54

Hey Kele!

Glad 2 c that u r the only one here who noticed that i've been away. I had big problems man. I was away on business trip in November till Jan. When I came back I was unfortunately infected with malaria - have been in a hospital for a month. After my sick leave I was still catching with work at office 2 log in. But now I think I'm sorted.

You know the saying behind every bitc#, there is a man who made her that way?? I think it applies to most of us here, LOL Haai man wena Cande! No man can make a woman act bad - They just act like that on their own accord.

mabhebheza
03 Apr 2008 03:56

Nonny u so looking forward to 2010 buzum ur havin mentioning on every reply apha are hosting nah? or maybe goin 2dance with BAbalwa gals in the stadium phela sexy brazilians azobe abhidlagile sana promote urself skat!!

sjura
03 Apr 2008 04:01

@ PhilaWHY DID YOU GO BACK AGAIN & AGAIN??? kuthwa ithemba alibulali liyadanisa kuphela so m sure poor Bullie thot kozode kulunge but unfortunately indoda ibangavukelwa tu.......sheim Bullie she even suggested on being on top but ayzange ivume yho no wanda u wnt ur BF back maybe eyakhe ithso kuqala.

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 04:12

"Haai man wena Cande! No man can make a woman act bad - They just act like that on their own accord."
I echoe ur words Weiss no man makes a woman a b!tch, that is just an excuse to be the person u already are, and welcome back love!!!!

"Nonny u so looking forward to 2010 buzum ur havin mentioning on every reply apha are hosting nah?"
Yah Mabhebheza, I am looking forward to 2010, coz that's when Bullie's dreams might shatter if she doesn't come clean now!!!!!

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 04:14

"Bullie thot kozode kulunge but unfortunately indoda ibangavukelwa tu.......sheim Bullie she even suggested on being on top but ayzange ivume yho no wanda u wnt ur BF back maybe eyakhe ithso kuqala."
LMAO @ Sjura, nilithanda kabi ucansi people, I've said it once, and I'll say it again the Kazier Jnr look-alikes bayaphoxa shem, thola umubiza wakho shem and uzowuzwa umoya........LOL

Simmone
03 Apr 2008 04:18

No1.

Lose the friend, if she can offer you that crappy advice in the first place then sorry that’s no friendship.

No2. Depending on how much she values your friendship, I think by now either she has opened her mouth to at least everyone you know and your man already knows by now or she is waiting for the perfect time to throw it back to your face.

No3. Whether you tell him or not, he will leave you. A mistake only happens once and you my girl kept going back for more.

Cheating is unacceptable even if you just have been dating for two seconds.

Do what best for you even if it means you wont be a 2010 bride, rest assured the truth WILL come out.

Weiss
03 Apr 2008 04:18

Zee Babes!
03 Apr 2008 04:19

@Kele - and what is it about men and their machine guns jamming? i've heard too many stories of such in the last few days...? LOL

myname
03 Apr 2008 04:20

Thixo nofefe angekhe ndingafa nayo Nonny (yiza nezo verse zakho mzalwane ndini & nam i wil start kwi Testamente endala kwiGenesis ndiyivale ngentsha LOL). @ Bulie Nonoza hopefully you will consider carefully before you do anything just take care and may God bless you

myname
03 Apr 2008 04:29

Someone said "i was too honest and it didn't pay me" so try another option LOL but dont do it again

Cande
03 Apr 2008 04:31

Bullie sweetheart take it from a person who masters cheating..."Do not tell"..!
If he ever finds out of which i doubt he will, deny it..!You must even cry to support your story..
A man doesn't forgive a cheating woman, that is why women are the best cheaters in the world..! they are very good at covering-up their tracks, and that is something i suggest you learn how to do if you don't want your secret out....

sanas
03 Apr 2008 04:32

Bulie ungakhe uyixelele nyani londoda leyo, if ever hi finds out uyiphike wome sisi, iyakunceda lonto coz ababantu abaxoleli abafunutyelwa gal.

mabhebheza
03 Apr 2008 04:33

So true ..Nonny mina im pushing..

Phambili ngokuthula ufeneqiniso Phambili..!!

Weiss
03 Apr 2008 04:36

Hey Nonny! Are my Nonny or u r someone else. But anyway thanks for welcoming me back.

Lose the friend, if she can offer you that crappy advice in the first place then sorry that’s no friendship. Eish!! poor friend has to go thru that Simmon?

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 04:49

Yah Weiss, I am Nonny, ur Nonny it really is great to be back eish it's been months gal and as u can see I'm still here!!!!!

"Thixo nofefe angekhe ndingafa nayo Nonny (yiza nezo verse zakho mzalwane ndini & nam i wil start kwi Testamente endala kwiGenesis ndiyivale ngentsha LOL)."...........ROFLMAO, we Myname, lithi ibhayibheli...........never mind, I'll leave u kanjalo udlala usathane..........LOL!!!!

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 04:50

@ Weiss - I meant it really is great to have you back............

myname
03 Apr 2008 04:59

haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Nonny huuuuuuuuuu luv u r speechless lithini ibhayibhile standwa sam???????(I dont blame u dear nami ngiya-chansa) @ Cande thats the spirit girl

poshspice
03 Apr 2008 05:01

Phambili ngokuthula ufeneqiniso Phambili..!!

phambili Bhebhi phambili with a worthy cause!! you are building a 2010 family here!

Cande
03 Apr 2008 05:02

kante where is Bullie? sisi you can't ask us for our opinions and leave us, what are you planning to do?

Cande
03 Apr 2008 05:05

Cheating is unacceptable even if you just have been dating for two seconds.

I have learned to accept it, cause i also do...!

myname
03 Apr 2008 05:08

Someone told me this A relationship that is based with lies will never work & I told him even if you dont lie dear if it was not meant to be it will never work. So luv in situation like yours you have to swallow a hot stone & give your man the best love & Never Never touch this story even if you are drunk or cloud 20

Simmone
03 Apr 2008 05:13

@ Weiss

Best piece of advice a friend of mine gave me was, “Ungaze uthembe inkazana endala odibene nayo inamazinyo agcwelise umlomo nokuba sowusazi amabibi wayo”.

myname
03 Apr 2008 05:17

Thatha Cande

Segololo
03 Apr 2008 05:18

Cande!! No!

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 05:22

"Never Never touch this story even if you are drunk or cloud 20".............@ Myname, I am sure u meant cloud 2010, just to make it relate to Bullie & her 2010 marriage (maybe not)..............LOL

“Ungaze uthembe inkazana endala odibene nayo inamazinyo agcwelise umlomo nokuba sowusazi amabibi wayo”.
Simmone, waze wangithusa, igamalakho ngendlela eliyisilungu ngalo for one second I thought maybe Cnglmom, Myname or even Mabhebheza are blogging from ur PC sana..........LOL

"haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Nonny huuuuuuuuuu luv u r speechless lithini ibhayibhile standwa sam???"
Plz don't challenge me child, u know that ibhayibheli ngilazi in and out, otherwise ngabe angishadile uMfundisi.........LOL......so ke asivale siyeke lendaba ngoba angifuni kube ngathi ngizenza ungcwelengcwele ngawe mhedeni ndini.........LOL............eheheh.......*wink wink*

myname
03 Apr 2008 05:25

Simmone ka Petros uthini na luv ngoku bt LOL but shame strue truth hurts

Best-Achiever
03 Apr 2008 05:34

Cande! ... you are kidding right?

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 05:43

"Simmone ka Petros uthini na luv ngoku bt LOL but shame strue truth hurts"..........LMAO @ Myname, waze wayiqili, u tryna proove to me that u are a little bit familiar with biblical names njengoba usuthi Simmone ka Petros ne?????

myname
03 Apr 2008 05:43

LO Nonny. U finished me here "otherwise ngabe angishadile uMfundisi" & ndinelucky yabo & i always ask myself "Am i going to be Mamfundisi? nkosi yam sendine picture wearing those sambatho ngishaya uHalleluya kaMaree (Rebbecca Malope) ndi-faker everything

poshspice
03 Apr 2008 05:49

Another reason guilt is eating you up Bulie is because you did not take the decision to cheat on your own....next time take your own decisions and trust your own judgement.

try cheating again on your own, you'll see it's fun and the sin is bearable (joking)

myname
03 Apr 2008 05:50

Yhazi wena Nonny LOL kodwa yhini ngawe ngane ndini

Cnglemother
03 Apr 2008 05:52

myname awukho busy namhlanje neh the way opepeza ngakhona, on days that i really need u kweziblogs uhlala undixelela ngomlungu wakho okushiya nenqwaba yamaphepha nomsebenzi wesikolo.

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 05:54

"Am i going to be Mamfundisi? nkosi yam sendine picture wearing those sambatho ngishaya uHalleluya kaMaree (Rebbecca Malope) ndi-faker everything"
LMAO @ Myname, kodwa yini longitshela yona u be a aMamfundisi *selibhubha shem izwe, uMawillies sebevule indlela yokufa......LOl**, but ke I believe u phela abefundisi they like woman abangasibona abazalwane too much but just normal mhedeni's like u.........LOL

Nonny
03 Apr 2008 05:57

"Yhazi wena Nonny LOL kodwa yhini ngawe ngane ndini"
Eish Myaname, some say I need a cow some say I need a gaot, so I say i need a smoke so I'm off to a smoke break right now while I decide on the goat or the cow that I have to slaughter in order to be sane again!!!.........LOL

myname
03 Apr 2008 06:00

Okey can someone plz tell mi where is Bullie yhini sayiphothula le mbiza engekho, sa-disha hayi awukho ngathi uzikawusi zejean ...........Bullie its your turn dear plz come out tu

Cande
03 Apr 2008 06:05

I am NOT kidding...

myname
03 Apr 2008 06:23

Hey cinglemum sana he went out sihlobo & nami ndazenza impuku zidakasa bcoz ikati ayikho otherwise once he comes back i will vanish anytime

ngwana
03 Apr 2008 06:30

you only tell him if there is a chance he might find out from someone else.
Its better he hear it from you than some one else.

Confessing is overrated, men don't forgive.

Muntuza
03 Apr 2008 06:32

Don't even try galfrend, I did the same 2000. My so-called ex-boyfrend wamithisa 1999 sahlukana, so ngajola mina neSwati lami (amnandi amanye amaswati la phandle).
Uma sesibuyelana 2001 nobabymaker I tried to be honest so we can start on a clean slate I told him everything, guess what? Until today he is still reminding me of how much he can not trust me bcoz of what i did (yena he did it & even has evidence"umntwana"). I had to dump the fool. Don't tell your man please, please,please. My opinion!!!

Simmone
03 Apr 2008 06:45

@ Nonny…….one doesn’t need to be Xhosa to be able to speak or write vernac love. You just have to love and understand the language. And there are euphemisms that sound better said in vernac than the Queens lingo.

bulie
03 Apr 2008 23:52

Okay guyz sorry for not responding sooner i took a day off at work yesterday so i was not near any computer but i've read ur comments and i'll reply later bcoz i have a lot of work to do and i dont even know where to start so thank u very much for ur input, talk to u soon.

mayandie
04 Apr 2008 00:09

Nonny
04 Apr 2008 00:18

"And there are euphemisms that sound better said in vernac than the Queens lingo."
@ Simmone, I know exactly what u mean gal!!!!

@ Bullie, thanks for finally responding we were getting worried that perhaps the not-so-good friend of urs has done something even more dreastic to you........LOL

mayandie
04 Apr 2008 00:21

Vala lo ugqiba umgqusho wena....
Eworse ufuna ukulahlwa nguntu wakho for into eTyokotyoko and it will not be like the relationship is based on lies but at the same time awumazi ukuba uBrathaz wenza ntoni yena apho akhoyo so there is a saying ethi "YIBA UNGABHAQWA"
Bona ke ooBrazo bayayisebenzisa loo nto & get away with it & sana u have needs kaloku u r not a NUN...
Vala loo mlomo ungaze uyithethe noba sowusele utywala beCENT....
Even if uyivile ngendlela yakhe uyiphike ume ngomlenzomye & ukhale so that he can feel Guity for the fact that He accused you of cheating.....
Buyela kuthi ke Maroza utsho ukuba ithini into yakho!!!!!!

Weiss
04 Apr 2008 00:28

Simmone@ Nonny…….one doesn’t need to be Xhosa to be able to speak or write vernac love. You just have to love and understand the language. And there are euphemisms that sound better said in vernac than the Queens lingo.

I totally agree with you sweetie! But the thing is the comment directed @ me just have me ROFWC (Roll on the floor with confusion). But I cool with whatever u say (if I can get my Zulu dictionary sometime). While I'm at it - Bulie, just take my advise and forget about everything else.

bulie
04 Apr 2008 02:19

He once told me that if he ever find me with a guy right handed he will never forgive me and he also said he does'nt mid what other people say about me what he knows is that azange sihlanganiswe ngabantu meaning that what people will say about me to him doesnt matter they didnt brought/bring us together in the first place so he trusts me that i'll do the right thing so i'm thinking of not saying anything at the moment i dnt know what will happen in the future so i'll just have to wait and c.

In that case i just have to keep my mouth shut and forget anything happen after all i'm human i also make mistake and i learnt from them so i'll just have to not repeat what i did. Another thing he said what ever problem we may encounter in future we must try and solve it and never let it drive us apart so even if i tell him maybe he wont hold it against me. But i dont want ot take that chance everyone has his/her skeleton in his/her closet so this is mine and i'm going to the grave with it but i promise mysleft to cheat again i'll remain faithful with my man coz i really love him from the bottom of my heart so that was just a moment thing and guyz one thing i've realised is that if i've loved this guy i would stood by him and patiently asked him his problem and try to solve it so i found out that i was interested in having sex with him talking about luv it was not in the picture. I'm so angry at myself for putting my gud relationship in strain for a silly thing called sex but i've learnt my lesson i wont do it again so THANKKK U GUYZ FOR UR REPLIES U'VE MADE ME A BETTER PERSON TAKE CARE.

Nonny
04 Apr 2008 02:32

Goodluck Bullie, u have clearly taken the decision to keep ur mouth shut. I hope all goes well for the 2010 preperations.................*u are sure gonna need all the luck in the word*.............coz as I said b4: "Akukho okufihliwe okungenakuvela".......The truth always finds a way out!!!!!

bulie
04 Apr 2008 02:36

One other thing i like about him he doesnt want to be close to my friends he always says they r my friends not his so when ever they approach him he tries not to be rude but just to keep the chat going i dont know.

But he jokes with them when we r altogether when i'm not there so will he. ohh sorry guyz i meant not to cheat again u such good friend i knew i will gain something from telling u this and i needed sum1 to remind of my mistakes so well done guyz u know how to put some1's mind into percepective. and plz keep replying i also printed ur replies so that i can carefully read them at home luv u guys.

slera
04 Apr 2008 02:57

Dont tell him and dont youuu ever do the same mistake again

Pooky
04 Apr 2008 03:03

Bullie glad we could help phela we are family mos. But my dear since you've decided to print this out and read it at home, please make sure that you dont leave it lying around ke sana, what if your boo finds it and puts two and two together??? Phela the truth always tries to find a way to come out , and when you least expect it.So destroy all evidence ke vha my dali uqhubekeke ngo life wakho and your boo.

Addictv
04 Apr 2008 03:06

sometimes da truth is jus overrated....so u cheated on him it was a mistake...if u can leave with it... then go right ahead,...but you beta hope by da time he finds out it will be too late for him to care....& yo relationship will survive da deception.

Uyabona esi-skebereshe salo tshomi wakho ukufake entweni sana...but at da end of da day, u will make da decision u alwayz wanted to make...u jus needed someone to echo it for you. Goodluck chick...

Zee Babes!
04 Apr 2008 03:11

@Pook - Molo.

Pooky
04 Apr 2008 03:14

Zee Babes molo nawe my dali....

bulie
04 Apr 2008 03:38

Nonny gel im so sure everything will turn out fine as he said that what people will say about me doesnt matter to him so i still have hope bcoz he wont hear it from me and im a different person now.

The first time i met this guy i told him that i have a boyfriend and i luv him very much and i wont choose him over him so he knew that we were'nt going to last coz i said to him what i'm doing is not right and i dont know why am i doing it anyway so he mustny feel bad when i say no i cant carry on lying to myself so i forgave myself on that a long time ago so i also told him that me and my boyfriend have talked about marriege and we havent made a decsion yet if we ave decided to get married wont he get hurt coz i wont say no to my man for him coz he's new in the scene and i dont know him so well so he just have to leave with the decision i'm going to make. And he said yesterday when he called that he is so greatful that i was open to him in the first place and he knew what he put himself in to so he wishes me all the best in the future and he wont say anything to my man and he wont call me again so i was relieved.

bulie
04 Apr 2008 04:40

Actually i'm done reading all the replies and they r going to the bin as we chat and tank for the warning.

IQ
15 Jan 2009 17:26

Yah neh! I must say, I would also shut my mouth till I die. sho!

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