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Written by Hlehle from the blog Lets do This on 16 May 2008
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I've been thinking about this a lot lately as you all know that in 2010 it will be my Wedding with Mr 2010. A lot of u knows that he lives in the Eastern Cape and i'm in the Kaap.

My problem now is when i say I DO i'll be his wife and i know a wife shud stand by his Hubby so i'm confused coz to me when i'm his wife i want to be next to him, when i mean next to him i mean live with him wake up everyday next to him. I want to be the last person he sees when he goes to sleep be the first he sees when he wakes up. So when i want that to happen that will mean i have to leave my JOB,my friends, my house my everything that is in the Cape.

He said to me its fine i can continue living here in the Cape we'll visit each other, u may ask me why has'nt he cum and live with me, ur answer will be he earns twice my salary so he cant leave his JOB for a half of his salary. I know he'll find a new job here but he cant just give it all up like it will take him a long time to find another Job.

So its up to me now i know i'll find another Job there and i know it will take a long time.I'm an independent women i dnt wantt to be a house wife waiting for my man's salary doing the cooking and cleaning everyday. I know i'll do that even if i'll be working.

So plz help me understand that in a marriage u give up everything u have worked hard for and start afresh and make me believe that everything will be fine and everything will be even better than before. I love him to Death and i want to spend the rest of my life with him, tell me those things are not more important than being with him everyday.

76 Comments

Hlehle
16 May 2008 03:49

Guys help to put my mind at ease coz i'm confused really. Cum one cum all let me hear your replies.

Nonny
16 May 2008 03:57

Hlehle - Ohe kushuthi there is more than one TVSA 2010 Wedding here.
Neway u were really serious when u said u have allot of time on ur hands, neway lemme read and contibute!!!!

P.S - does anyone remember a blogger called Lilmama, somehow Hlehle's reminds me of her.......*shem kodwa umtanabantu wahamba kabuhlungu eTVSA.........*shaking my head*

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 03:58

yoh-yoh! , Hlehle uhamba wedwa man (loosely translated u walk alone)!
BA help lana, you should know. You write an article every day of the week. Girls help omunye umntwana

Hlehle
16 May 2008 04:03

Plz BA as Cnglemom said i need to hear sum1 telling that.

Mambox
16 May 2008 04:04

Yes Hlehle, my bible says you must submit to your husband.

we Nonny, wat happened to Lilmama?

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:07

I've read and it's hectic..........*still thinking of what to say*

Porsch
16 May 2008 04:08

@ Nonny, please do tell what happend ka Lilmama??? re batla ho tseba?????

Strolicious
16 May 2008 04:10

Hle2>>>.still reading.............Nonny share umgosi what happened to her.

Linomtha
16 May 2008 04:11

Okay Hlehle i think you 've wrtten a nice article.1stly let me tell u abt nyself.I am a married women.And sisi i see no reason to leave your friend your job.And pls the firsrt thing b4 marriage is to go to counsilling b4 married.The Rev will tell u everything that you want hear.Its not tht expensive its only R220 per hour its abt 1-4 sessions.
If you really love him plz marry him.Another thing mina never ndibengu house wife
ndicleaner ngeweekends only xandi off.So go ahead gal but counsilling first.

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:11

"we Nonny, wat happened to Lilmama?"
I don't wanna be off-topic *I know how Hle feels abt that* so Mambox ur reply will be in ur GB!!!

felfel
16 May 2008 04:14

Kanti why don't you both prepare urselves for the wedding now, like each look for a better job in each other's provinces now. If you find a better job in his province now, it will be easier to intergrate urself into his space than to wake up married and you don't even know how you got there....The whole thing does feel drastic when you in different provinces cos of all the uprooting that has to happen, thats when you probably end up feeling like you giving urself up......I don't know, i ain't married.

Dabs
16 May 2008 04:15

@Hlehle you are moving to a city aswell and you can find another job, make friends, start a new life. The Eastern Cape is beautiful. But you can't get married to someone and live apart that's just a recipe for disaster. You still have a choice if you are not comfortable with moving don't get married. Hle be greatful that he is thinking about you aswell.

Strolicious
16 May 2008 04:15

So plz help me understand that in a marriage u give up everything u have worked hard for and start afresh and make me believe that everything will be fine and everything will be even better than before. I love him to Death and i want to spend the rest of my life with him, tell me those things are not more important than being with him everyday. it's called compromising my luv,...............guys off topic............is there a rule ethi new bloggers aba bloge kwi generation only just wanna knw coz nami ngisanuka ubisi..

Hlehle
16 May 2008 04:17

U have a point there Felfel. Thank u

eish-bo
16 May 2008 04:19

if this relationship is as good as u say it is and he wants to marry you then u have to compromise and make sacrificies, u will still be independent, your life will be with him, your friends and family will understand, that's how life is...u have agreed to share your life with him so friends and family have to take the back seat, why don't u move to CA? surely u'll find a job there...

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:22

"is there a rule ethi new bloggers aba bloge kwi generation only just wanna knw coz nami ngisanuka ubisi.."
@ Stroh - Nami I am always puzzled at how the newbees love Generubbish, kwala noma sengzigaxa kubona & welcoming them and brown nozing to make sure they are comfortable lana, they still blog at the Gen Teasers only *or other soapies, but mostly Geneations*. No gal, u don't have to do the same, it's a question of choice, if u only wanna explore one part o TVSA, it's ur loss but ke if u wanna be ungqesta njengathi, even better!!!!

Pinkpoodle
16 May 2008 04:25

Dont want to sound rude but hey the point is when you decide to get married you have already given up a lot of things, you wont be making your own decisions any more you have to consult hubby, he might agree that you will visit each other but girl he is marrying you for your pussy so if he aint getting it every day then whats the point. The first few years of marriage are the important ones, get a job close to him

Porsch
16 May 2008 04:29

@Nonny, why ong valela nga phandle(HOPE THE SP IS MOJA), nami ngifuna kwazi kuthi ku enza ke leni ngo Lilmama, weee????

felfel
16 May 2008 04:30

More than anything though Hlehle, i think this is something you rather need to discuss with him mostly, there's no better advice we can give you here. You need to be build the kind of relationship with your partner in which you can also see him as your rock and someone who can ease your fears. Tell him all that you have said here. We don't know you we are strangers here and if you can (cyber) talk to us with this then you should share it with him too. Don't take everything you are told here as the best becos some people talk about their own life stories about things which work for their own husbands.

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:31

he might agree that you will visit each other but girl he is marrying you for your pussy so if he aint getting it every day then whats the point.
Really Pinkpoodle, I thought it went beyond that........but ke *ufunda uze ufe* u learn until u die!!!!

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 04:33

Stroh nguAndi01 noNonny abantu endike ndibabone phakwiGenrubbish endibaziyo, bavele babengathi balahlekile. mina i am bit cluless ngegenerations.

Hlehle & Linomtha are guys friends?

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:34

"@Nonny, why ong valela nga phandle(HOPE THE SP IS MOJA), nami ngifuna kwazi kuthi ku enza ke leni ngo Lilmama, weee????"
Porsch - Hey you, little Mamgobhozi, if u REALLY wanna know my response is in Mambox's GB, this is Hle's article yazi, angifuni ukuthi overtake like that.........LOL

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:35

"Hlehle & Linomtha are guys friends?"
Yes they are Cnglemom, khipha sisi, I know u have some equation that u wanna tell???........LOL

Hlehle
16 May 2008 04:43

Cnglemother Linomtha & I r Cyber friends we met here on TVSA she guessed that i'm one of the clever students frm Cathcart High School & i appeared to be frm Cathcart just a small township nothing WOW about it though not a student there so that is when we connected u know.

Felfel that is what i was going to do but i had to tell u too my fellow bloggers about what i'm going through as u all know that it feels better sumtimes to tell strangers ur problems than umuntu okwaziyo. Not that i was'nt going to talk to him about this. Speak of the devil and he'll call.

Gucci
16 May 2008 04:44

I think you guys (some, not all - before ningifake isibhamu!) are being one sided here. Marriage is a two way thing, YOU and 2010 HUBBY must both make sacrifices (not you alone). He must also look for a job as much as you should, so whoever finds it first is gotta sacrifice. After all a move from the EC to CPT will not be a bad one either (its not like from SunCity to kuQumbu - no offence intended). All I'm sayin there's a job for him anywhere besides him earning double of what u do. One other thing, dont be scared of moving out of ur comfort zone, people have made even bigger sacrifices for their men (emphasis), not even future husbands!! Staying away from each other is a BIG NO!!!

PS - Are u sure u dont wonna move the wedding to at least 2009? Forgive me Sisi for askin but sana bread will be R20 in June 2008, will u be able to afford that dream wedding cake in 2008? Some food for thought.

Hayi indaba yothando hands down ndiyothulela umnqwazi, asikhe sidanse its Friday toe!!! Jokes Hlehle..

Pinkpoodle
16 May 2008 04:45

@Nonny .... Really Pinkpoodle, I thought it went beyond that........but ke *ufunda uze ufe* u learn until u die!!!!
It does go beyond that but lets face it , if he wants someone to cook is mother can,
If he wants someone to listen, his friends can the only thing that the two cant do is give some to him so basically thats the reason why marriage is there so people can mutliply hehehehe just kidding

Marriage is a lot more, but sex is the major issue that bonds two people together.

youngtodie
16 May 2008 04:45

i honestly don't think it will be a good idea for you to get married then live separately, i'm not married but as far asi know u need2 b close in the first years of marriage to explore most things together. I would say why don't you start now looking for that job so you can be close . The scripture (bible) they . will both live their parents so that they become one.

So girl you will be starting a new chapter of your life with your hubby, u will have to leave everything to be with him.

ps: don't live the bloggers thou hehehe

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 04:46

Nonny can u stop being off the topic and grilling me with questions that dont need answers. Phendula imibuzo ka 2010 and help Hlehle. U know that i am useless when it comes giving advice on marital related stuff. I will only help ngecooking classes after she ties the knot. Hlehle i will help u ngamakhekhe nedeserts for your loverly husband.

Porsch
16 May 2008 04:46

yeah yeah yeah i'm gone................................lol

andi01
16 May 2008 04:49

Hlehle, i dont want 2 sound negative or jealous. but sisi umtshato is a two way street, it needs compromise, respect, trust, care and the whole shebang (from both sides. I sense that you feel that u have to be the one to compromise, why??, why cant he move to thsi side. if he gets double his salary in the EC, imagine how much he could earn in the WC (des more opportuniy here dan EC). secondly if u compromise a lot for him, u'll make no room for him to do the same for you, at the end you'll end up being a doormat, sayin yes baas to everything he says. he loves you right, tell me "is money more important to him than being with you", if so then girl, i am sorry but "he is just not that into you". I might be a little harsh here, but dont blame me, blame de mafacka's dat abused me and made me learn to make men treat me as fair as possible".

Gucci
16 May 2008 04:51

Mearnt - will u be able to afford that dream wedding cake in 2010.

Nonny
16 May 2008 04:52

"Nonny can u stop being off the topic and grilling me with questions that dont need answers."
@ Cnglemom - I wasn't grilling u mngani, yini ngathi u have sumting to hide???.........*OK OK u don't answer i'll let it rest!!*

Hlehle
16 May 2008 04:56

What i'm certain about is i wont leave my bloggers. U are all saying what i wanted to hear sumtimes i also think about what u all said but i needed sum1 else to say it. U r in great track now so dnt loose it keep on advising me.

andi01
16 May 2008 05:03

I want to be the last person he sees when he goes to sleep be the first he sees when he wakes up, doesnt he want the same thing.
He said to me its fine i can continue living here in the Cape we'll visit each other: why isnt he excited with the idea of finally living together with you after years of doing the long distance relationship.
he earns twice my salary so he cant leave his JOB for a half of his salary, sweetheart its shouldnt bet about him leaving his job for half his salary, it shud be about him leaving everything for you.

I know he'll find a new job here but he cant just give it all up like it will take him a long time to find another Job. & So its up to me now i know i'll find another Job there and i know it will take a long time: so you are willing to do for him, what he isnt willing to do for you, girl be realistic here.

Sweetheart, i am glad that you want to move and be with your man, but i think you should do so because you want to not because he doesnt want to.

The reason your are confussed, its bcoz you know that deep down, you not getting as much as you give, but you love him so much you choose to supress those feelings, you choose to be indenial. My fear is that they will catch up with you sooner or later. ten years down the line when he comes home at 2am in teh morning and when you complain he says "i told you to stay in Cape Town why did you move down here, i was doing just fine when you were in teh Kaap"

Of course girl not all men are the same, but before you tie teh knot, before you leave everything, consider teh above

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 05:06

Hlehle pls dont leave us babygirl, you have made this week at TVSA very interesting and fun, so you guys are engaged right?

Nonny ulahlekwele yini yakho, le ela kimi heh? LOL! ndibona iborder sasecanada kancinci.

Hlehle
16 May 2008 05:12

Now u are making me sweat Andi01.The bottom line is i'll make a decision and we'll disuss it together and cum up with a solution.

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 05:23

Andi01 why are you confusing uHlehle manje?Hlehle u did not answer my question? seni-engaged na?

Miss K
16 May 2008 05:28

He he he we women are so gullible hey! We are always the ones soooo inlove and willing to make the sacrifice. I shud know coz i packed my bags and came to Jozi all for love! Love my f$^&^ng black ass!!!!

But im sure your man is different Hlehle....

carino
16 May 2008 05:32

carino
16 May 2008 05:33

heei... Miss K, unesibindi, sisi.. u've got a liver...

Hlehle
16 May 2008 05:38

Yes we are officially engaged Cnglemom as for Andi01 she is entitled to her opinion so what i know is my decision wont be based to what she said or what u guys saying, as i said before i needed sum1 else to tell me these things coz i've been thinking about all of them and just wanted sum1 else to saying it.

No no no no in Phumzile Mlambo Ngcuka's voice. Ndizo hlala la in Biza's voice in ( Stokfel)

Nonny
16 May 2008 05:41

"The reason your are confussed, its bcoz you know that deep down, you not getting as much as you give, but you love him so much you choose to supress those feelings, you choose to be indenial. My fear is that they will catch up with you sooner or later. ten years down the line when he comes home at 2am in teh morning and when you complain he says "i told you to stay in Cape Town why did you move down here, i was doing just fine when you were in teh Kaap"

Hayike, just when I was about to give a detailed response I had to delete it *ngiyadlala that's a lie........LOL*.........Andi01 u have said it all.

Hlehle, u need to be as open with ur man as u are with us. It's all good to say that it's better to talk to strangers than people that know and judge u, but at the end of the day, the communication levels need to be higher with ur man, than with us, coz at the end of the day he is the one u plan to spend the rest of ur life with. And another thing, I am not married, but I would like to believe that when u really love someone u are willing to loose it all just to be with them, so money shouldn't be a such a big factor in ur decision making.

Off Topic - Clap clap to Cnglemom, I notice the usage of my teachings..........hint hint (there u go)......LOL

Porsch
16 May 2008 05:43

I might be a little harsh here, but dont blame me, blame de mafacka's dat abused me and made me learn to make men treat me as fair as possible".

@Andi, this is just hilarious

Hlehle
16 May 2008 05:53

Its not that i'm not open with him. Its just that i know ndizothetha naye about how i feel and tell him everything its jsut that when he was here we did'nt talk about that we just enjoyed ourselves

Porsch
16 May 2008 05:53

as for Andi01 she is entitled to her opinion so what i know is my decision wont be based to what she said or what u guys saying, as i said before i needed sum1 else to tell me these things coz i've been thinking about all of them and just wanted sum1 else to saying it.

Hlehle, if i were you i'd listen to Andy she's got a point, like you said above you have thought of these things you just needed a confirmation, and now THERE IT IS!!!!!!!!!!! Believe u me, you dont want to be one of those women who looses themselves in the process of making their men happy, it wont be worth it..

Now, i suggest you re-read the responses they must just guide you to the right direction, we know at the end of the day its your decision to make BUT do it wisely PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Pinkpoodle
16 May 2008 06:06

@ Andi01 I understand your pain and i agree with your advice, she has to make sure she wants to make the sacrifices for her man so that one day she shouldnt look back and say if only,

I know this girl who dated a guy for six long years , she paid for his everything when he was broke even got him a job where he is working now, On the day he was supposed to pay lobola and everyone was weaiting for his Family to pitch, they didnt he phoned the girl and told her he is on love with somebody else and he cant marry her.

After all the girl had done for him, she snapped went to medicine people got some muti and the girl he left her for died and everyone he dates to this day dies ahe is not even sorry this is happening to him.

Nway my point is make the neccesary changes to your life that you wont regret or feel pain over if things dont work out the way you want sit down with your man reach a compromise that wont hurt either one of you.

Pinkpoodle
16 May 2008 06:09

Before the spell checkers get me i meant in love

KITCO
16 May 2008 06:09

HAAI HLEHLE .I'M TOUCHED BY UR ARTICLE,IN THESE DAYS DIVORCE RATES ARE SO HIGH BCOZ PEOPLE STOP THINKING ABOUT THEMSELVES B4 MARRIAGE.IMPENDULO ILAPHA KUWE DEAR, JUST ASK URSELF WHAT DO U WANT,NDIYANGQINELANA NOMNYE OBETHETHE NGE COUNCILING,HLALA PHANTSI NE HUSBAND 2 B YAKHO NITHETHE IZINTO NGOKUKHULULEKILEYO, ANYWAY GUD LUCK GAL,WISH U ALL THE BEST.

Strolicious
16 May 2008 06:21

KITCO>>>>>>>>>>>>..YOU R IN LOVE WITH THE CAPS...........LOL...........*hi*

KITCO
16 May 2008 06:30

@Strolicious, sorry if that is bothering u.

Hlehle
16 May 2008 06:33

U r such wonderful friends( as the lady of redbull said) u just gave me wings now i just have to fly my decision and cum up with a nest. I f u all catch my drift.

Best-Achiever
16 May 2008 06:34

@Cnglemom ... just had an hour meeting with a client But im back ngoku, read the article and response.

@Hlehle ... Note that what im going to tell you might have worked for me and maybe it wont work for you, you know mos One men's meat could be another men's poison

fisrtly ... nawe you have a 2010 World Cup Wedding with Mr2010 .... LOL

Well ... in my case he is in the manageral position and his company has branches around SA, Africa and overseas ... he works mostly in DBN, JHB,CT and Overseas but based in DBN, but after he proposed to me he started looking for positions around JHB last month he decided to resign from his company because he chose to be in a position that will not involve lots of travelling especial overseas, the company declined his resignation, they talked to him trying to understand why he is leaving and he told them that he doesnt wanna be in a position that include lots of travelling now, he wanna spend most of his time with his fiance'(at least that's what he told me), and they agreed that he wont be travelling overseas starting from next year and ifrom March next year he will be based in JHB offices. Vele yena he wanted to move here before we even discussed it, so talk to him and you both need to be prepared to compromise, that is what we were going to do anyway.

Nonny
16 May 2008 06:34

@ KITCO - It's not just Stroh that is bothered by the Caps, at TVSA we (most of us) assume that Caps are to either shout or stress a point coz they honbstly strain our eyes!!!! And besides things are much easier to read in lowecase. Thank u anyway for ur understanding.

KITCO
16 May 2008 06:39

@Nonny, u r so gud at explaining, take it like u r a teacher?(joking)

Hlehle
16 May 2008 06:47

I'm saying this again we still have a lot to talk about this was just my concern but i know for sure we'll sort if out finely believe me Gud luck BA. Ur man is such a sweetheart.

Nonny
16 May 2008 06:48

"@Nonny, u r so gud at explaining, take it like u r a teacher?" - @ KITCO - "charmer; charmer I see, I'm already enjoying ur addition in2 our BIG Cyber family!!!!

Msoe
16 May 2008 06:52

Hlehle- I also think the unswers you are looking for are within yourself. But in order for this to work one of you needs to compromise ukuthi ngubani ke ozokwenza lokho i dont know.

Strolicious
16 May 2008 06:56

Nonny bengingabuye ngibonwe ubani ngaphandle kwakho,,,,,,,,,,,,KITCO>>>>swity my name used to be CAPS,been there done that.

Hlehle
16 May 2008 06:57

I meant we'll sort it out

andi01
16 May 2008 07:03

Hlehle: they say my darling confussion and doubt are synonims (spell check one, two, one two,- in twasa's voice) for fear. if you confussed my darling that means you are scared. the question is what are you scared of. You are inlove you shouldnt be scared, infact you should be stupid, coz they say love blinds us, why are you so cautious my dear. I wont know what you deepest fears are, but my advice before you marry this man, do some self-introspection, try medittating it helps. Find out what it is that you have and that you lack, and remember your husband will never complete you. You will try change him but he will never, you have to be 100% complete before you can safely love any1. And when u find that he doesnt compltete you you'll get so bored that you wont know what 2 do with urself and u'll look at him with disgust simple bcoz u expected so much from him. One thing you must have learnt already is that this man, expects you to make all the compromises for him not teh other way round. (thats 1, there is more) the question is can you live with that. If so go ahead marry him,give him 10 kids if you must, as long as you'll be willing to stay home and raise them, even if you dont want to, just bcoz he wants you to do it.

"Dr Guerrero" in the house, viva la raza.

carino
16 May 2008 07:16

@andi01 synonyms

Hlehle I've read this article and I've been following the replies. But I only have one thing to say to you...

"Love is many things. But the one thing that it is not, is UNSURE"

Ke phetho ke tu!

andi01
16 May 2008 07:25

@carino- jy is baie slim, i have been trying to explain myself, but u said it in one sentence, well done "come all lets give carion around of appluase)

Nonny
16 May 2008 07:30

"synonims (spell check one, two, one two,- in twasa's voice)"
ahhahaahah this is a good one Andi01, and there goes the spell checker telling u it's synonyms.........eish man Carino, u really want the bloggers to end up going the Microsoft route b4 they reply ne???.............LOL

"Love is many things. But the one thing that it is not, is UNSURE"
Eish haven't i heard this somewhere B4.........just kidding Carino, no need for a source we know it's from Madea's Reunion..........(spell check one two one two.........LOL)

Nonny
16 May 2008 07:35

"@carino- jy is baie slim, i have been trying to explain myself, but u said it in one sentence, well done "come all lets give carion around of appluase)"
This credit actually goes to Tyler Perry..........LOL........(just kidding).......it's Carino's words and Tyler copid her right Carino???......hehehehe

andi01
16 May 2008 07:42

Eish Nonny, trust you to burst one's buble, usuthini ke manje, phela mina bengamazi no Tyler Perry nje ntlobo. bengsacabangu kuthi haycha, la e TVSA sinongqondongqondo maan, oongqesta ngesixhosa sasekhaya.

Nonny
16 May 2008 07:52

"Eish Nonny, trust you to burst one's buble, usuthini ke manje, phela mina bengamazi no Tyler Perry nje ntlobo. bengsacabangu kuthi haycha, la e TVSA sinongqondongqondo maan, oongqesta ngesixhosa sasekhaya."
hahahahahaha Andi01, u really know how to make one's day yazi..........heheheh

And What do u mean u don't know Tyler Perry, kushuthi even iDiary of a Mad Black Woman awuyazi?? *in that case uyaphuthelwa shem*

KITCO
16 May 2008 07:57

@andi01, I like the way u advice uHLEHLE , u know what I think? obviously not. U R THE BEST.

Simmone
16 May 2008 07:57

u really want the bloggers to end up going the Microsoft route b4 they reply ne???.............LOL

He!!!!!! Nonny........uzakujike ucele amaxolo. LOL.......TVSA will be going Live Soon in 2008 on some people here.

carino
16 May 2008 07:58

"@carino- jy is baie slim, i have been trying to explain myself, but u said it in one sentence, well done "come all lets give carion around of appluase)"

Thanks andi01... Im tight like that... But when writing my name, the "n" comes before the "o"... nhe? ek wil net so maar se... just so you dont do it again...

Nonny! Nonny! Nonny! you never rest nhe, mngani...I thought of referencing that statement but then i was like.. neeee.. it doesnt matter... Tyler Perry said it then... now, its my turn to shine. LOL.

Blogmania
16 May 2008 08:06

guys off topic............is there a rule ethi new bloggers aba bloge kwi generation only just wanna knw coz nami ngisanuka ubisi..

Hi i have been a silent blogger and i thought i should say something about this even though i understood only part of it.
In the generation teasers i can go there pass my comment and leave , i enjoy all the topics you guys talk about but because i do not understand most of the languages used, sometimes i get lost on what you will be saying and i cant cvomment on the fear that what i want to say could have been said by somebody else in venac, i have seen several bloggers pleading for language we all understand .
For instance in the blog How would you feel most f you used venac too much, so itys not that we dont want to contribute but other bloggers limit us

Nonny
16 May 2008 08:14

"He!!!!!! Nonny........uzakujike ucele amaxolo. LOL.......TVSA will be going Live Soon in 2008 on some people here."
hahahah Simmone, how can refer to such painful memories sana, yazi kumanje I can't access my PM's and tryna figure out if seziyangiphinda yini ezika load shedding *kucima izibane*..........LOL

"Nonny! Nonny! Nonny! you never rest nhe, mngani...I thought of referencing that statement but then i was like.. neeee.. it doesnt matter... Tyler Perry said it then... now, its my turn to shine. LOL."
heheheh @ Carino I didn't mean to expose u mngani, I know u are a firm believer of doing things by the book..........LOL, it's just that, TVSA made me alert coz u know our history with copy and paste, a best selling novel can be written on that chapter alone.........LOL

andi01
16 May 2008 08:18

Dear Nonny

please see below, from carino

Thanks andi01... Im tight like that... But when writing my name, the "n" comes before the "o"... nhe? ek wil net so maar se... just so you dont do it again...

once again in nneko's voice this time (spell check one, two;one two)

Osenyongweni
Andio1

myname
16 May 2008 08:20

oh shame blogmania the thing is my love people like me are not fluent in English & since we have "hired special checker". Some we are afraid of our broken English so we rather express in our home language where you can say whatever without grammar or spell check so im really sorry & i promise we will try & accommodate people like you ......Guys Its time for me to go home so have a fabulous weekend & take care.......Bye

Simmone
16 May 2008 08:23

tryna figure out if seziyangiphinda yini ezika load shedding *kucima izibane*..........LOL

*Conspiracy theory* Nonny investigate

Today has been fun, knock off time. Enjoy the weekend people,Drive safely, drink responsibly and do not become a statistic.

Hlehle, confusion certainly took over your article........much luv

Cnglemother
16 May 2008 08:25

@Simmone, i feel like inja edle amaqanda after ukudelela kwam, ikhava endiphantsi kwayo inzima kabi. I will see you all on monday kulainterview yasemsakazweni, promise to behave 4sure.

in Andi01's words arios amigos.

Nonny
16 May 2008 08:40

"Thanks andi01... Im tight like that... But when writing my name, the "n" comes before the "o"... nhe? ek wil net so maar se... just so you dont do it again..."
@ Andi01, I was LMAO when I read this, please bare with Carino, she can't help it naye, she's a perfectionist so she is more than happy to be our officially appointed TVSA online spell checker.............LOL

"*Conspiracy theory* Nonny investigate"
@ Simmone - Actually today marks a week without my PM's, yeses manje ke akukhu ukuhleba behind the scenes coz izingqa sihlezi obala............LOL

Thanks Hlehle for ur artcile and the fun it brought about via the crazy responses of the bloggers, Cnglemom is right, u really made our week interesting keep it up mtwana!!!!

Blogmania, welcome to TVSA I hear u about the vernac, but honestly I don't wanna lie to u and say I'm gonna lay low coz the thing is I do it for a while, then I go back to my old ways coz jokes aside English is not my strong point and I am not used to communicating on a casual environment like TVSA via English waya waya, but I will try my best!!!!

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