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TURN OF THE LIGHTS...

Written by Sexologist from the blog RED LIGHT SPECIAL on 27 May 2008
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Do you have problems talking about sex or relating with others sexually? Why do you think sex has been labeled dirty, evil, forbidden, taboo and not to be discussed? Why is it considered all of those things in the human race only and why are certain sexual acts considered to be animal acts?

You are probably reading this wondering where am I going with this. Different people react differently to any sexual connotations or images. Some people get excited, some interested  and you get those who either choose to turn a blind eye or those who will be interested with negative mind sets. Pre-teens are highly interested in anything that has to do with sex. If you want a teenager not to find anything of yours that is sexually secretive label it something else, eg. "gardening" or "catching snails". I had to come up with a tittle that will attract over 18's. 

My aim for this blog? Is to help you release sexual energy and frustrations, share sexy ideas and get sexual advice from each other. You have probably many times read advice columns where you actually felt that was such a stupid advice or a lie. I am also here to help where needed because I am the Sexologist.

You can ask or share  other people's problems or experiences without naming them. You can share any myths you have heard before. Remember the myths we heard as teenagers: "You won't fall pregnant if you have sex standing up." Wow, how many 20 year olds out there were conceived that way? "Your boobs will grow bigger if boys touch them" I wish that was true and I would have saved my money from paying for these fake twins.

This is just my introduction to TVSA and I hope my presence is welcomed and worthwhile. Ladies let the men know what women want and guys vice versa. I know women never want to admit to self-touching and self-pleasure. Men are known to be the ones who do that. Women are sexually secretive to the point that they never ask what and how they want it to be given. Men are given the work and expected to read women's minds and it ends up in job half done and faked orgasms. We are sexual beings and have been given the gift of sexual pleasure. Yet we short change ourselves. 

I apply the motto of "Do unto others as you want them to do unto you". If you gonna go in there to give yourself up make sure you take as well. Sex is not just physical. It's your whole being and spirituality hence it is meant to be sacred. Grow up and own up to being pleasured by giving pleasure. Ladies, "Sex cures headaches otherwise Headaches cause seperation". Men, "Sex releases tension and alcohol kills your sexabilility". Sex is not just for procreation it is also for recreation and pleasure. 

Let me conclude this here and allow you to release, learn and discover the most beautiful thing that was given to us. 

"The common thread that binds nearly all animal species seems to be that males are willing to abandon all sense and decorum, even to risk their lives, in the frantic quest for sex." ~ Randy Thornhill and Craig T. Palmer 




160 Comments

Toxic
28 May 2008 00:43

hmm, this is going to be interesting.

Weiss
28 May 2008 01:10

If you want a teenager not to find anything of yours that is sexually secretive label it something else, eg. "gardening" or "catching snails". Ha! Ha! Ha! This is funny! I can imagine someone trying to label a vibrator "spade". Interesting article though.

felfel
28 May 2008 01:22

I have absolutely no problem talking about sex, with anyone. I discuss everything with my partner. Even when he has a question about his own willy he calls and we talk about it.

Best-Achiever
28 May 2008 02:13

Why do you think sex has been labeled dirty, evil, forbidden, taboo and not to be discussed? 

I believe this started a long time ago ...our parents back then believed us to be innocent and that we dont know a think about sex, so they had fear that if the do talk to us about it they will be opening blind us an sending to ecploer and experience what we have just heard about ..but i dont think that is still happening today since children are exposed to all sort of thing and learn about this at an early age.

i remember back in high school when i told mama that i have started menstruating ..she asked me if i know what is real happening, i told her everythig and she was so worried i cud see it in her eyes ... but then i told her that we do learn about this at school and you cud see the worry in her eyes. She was at ease when i told her i wanna start going to the virginity testing thing ... You cud see the relief ...

Best-Achiever
28 May 2008 03:57

they will be opening blind us an sending to ecploer 
Meant
they will be opening our believed to be blind  eyes  and sending to explore

Best-Achiever
28 May 2008 03:58

they will be opening blind us an sending to ecploer 
Meant
they will be opening our believed to be blind  eyes  and sending to explore

Best-Achiever
28 May 2008 04:01

they will be opening blind us an sending to ecploer 
Meant
they will be opening our believed to be blind  eyes  and sending to explore

tha - bang
29 May 2008 01:24

i thnk it has t do with religion, cause sex in chritian religion and most other relgion is supposed to be confined to marriage.not for public discourse or public consumption.but the world believes in general copulation,so theres a tension between belief and practise hence the hoo ha over  the subject.thats my 2 cents worth

Nonny
29 May 2008 01:39

Welcome to TVSA SLNV18, BTW is that gonna be ur username as well or was it just in relation to the article???

KeleFabulous
29 May 2008 04:06

can a guy tell if it's a woman's first time?  and can they also tell if maybe a woman's had a baby?

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 04:14

@and can they also tell if maybe a woman's had a baby? hi-hi-hi! thank gaad i was knifed.

andi01
29 May 2008 04:28

I find this the older I become and the more sexual experimenting I undergo, that my sex life is bocoming  more pleaurable and fulfilling. I find this bigger dick doesnt mean pleasure and smaller pain, of course it musnt be too small.

tha - bang
29 May 2008 04:35

@keleFabulous i dont know about first time.im still to meet a virgin hehehehehehe.but as far as the baby thing.i cant.i dont know about other people though

Best-Achiever
29 May 2008 04:41

can a guy tell if it's a woman's first time?  .... i guessthey can tell Kele
and can they also tell if maybe a woman's had a baby?  ...dunno

Dimago
29 May 2008 05:17

@keleFabulous i dont know about first time.im still to meet a virgin hehehehehehe
LOL tha bang!

Dimago
29 May 2008 05:27

Can a guy tell if a woman is faking the big O?

How many of you bloggers fake ? LOL hi hi hi...hope this is not too personal....

andi01
29 May 2008 05:28

How many of you bloggers fake ? LOL hi hi hi...hope this is not too personal, i do sometyms, but not all the tyme

belz
29 May 2008 05:31

Can a guy tell if a woman is faking the big O> LOL Dimags, no they cant, they actually reach their O, coz they think they have taken you to another level. they cant tell!!

Kele:hahahahahahahahhahahah!!

carino
29 May 2008 05:33



Girls, have you ever done a virgin??

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 05:35

How many of you bloggers fake ? LOL hi hi hi...hope this is not too personal, that era for me is gone, I have no reason to fake hence i am holding on to this no-going nowhere slowly relationship for its good mdavazo.  Our future is very bleak but the sex is outta of this world, i am getting horny as i am  typing thinking about my boo.

felfel
29 May 2008 05:37

Dimago why would he wana know if she fakin or not, as long as he knows yena he ain't fakin its all good cos she fakin for her own reasons.

I don't have room to fake cos i sometimes tell ma man that "Baby, i'm not gonna cum tonite cos i'm not feeling like this at all but its okay go right ahead i'll catch up with u one day"...........lol

Dimago
29 May 2008 05:38

LOL Belz
Don't you just hate it when they say "come baby, come" and wena you are nowhere near there...its like they are rushing you and you feel the pressure and you "come" hi hi hi...

Nonny
29 May 2008 05:39

Girls, have you ever done a virgin?? 
@ Carino, I have and to make him feel better, I told him I was as well...........hehehehe

felfel
29 May 2008 05:42

Girls, have you ever done a virgin?? 

I almost did back at varsity but when i noticed he was too hungry for me in a 'turn me off' kinda way, i got up and said i gotta go. I'm too impatient in bed i don't like it when a man fumbles.....

tha - bang
29 May 2008 05:43

DIMAGO after some time u can tell but if its the first time ever,theres no way of telling.anyway thats in my case anyways.
have i faked it, only once, when she fond out she laughed

Nonny
29 May 2008 05:46

How many of you bloggers fake ? 
I don't do fake, coz if u do, u are depriving urself of pleasure and it's wrong for one party to be fulfilled while wena ulambile, so ladies don't afke it, akafende like they are practicing for the olympics if need be, but u must be satisfied. Amen nge satisfaction, Ameni (notice the "i" after amen.........LOL).......ehehehe

Dimago
29 May 2008 05:48

have i faked it, only once, when she fond out she laughed
tha-bang, i thought guys arrive all the time, so they fake as well?

ngwana
29 May 2008 05:49

Can a guy tell if a woman is faking the big O?>> i My ex could tell when i faked it - he read men's health a lot :)
they had a thing in there about how a womans breathing changes, or her thighs quiver, and  'those' muscles spasms.
If none of that ever happened who would ask why i faked it.

I fake it so he can finish.

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 05:52

I don't have room to fake cos i sometimes tell ma man that "Baby, i'm not gonna cum tonite cos i'm not feeling like this at all but its okay go right ahead i'll catch up with u one day"...........lol 

oh my Gawd felfel that's is how liberated i have become when it comes to sex, thanks to a Zulu man. Nami i just tell him baby ungachama coz angeke ndichame namhlanje coz he's gonna tripple satisfy me the next time feeling guilty about today's flop. Amen ngesatisfaction bafethu ayikh into emnandi njengesex.

carino
29 May 2008 06:02

"Baby, i'm not gonna cum tonite cos i'm not feeling like this at all but its okay go right ahead i'll catch up with u one day"...........

OMG, for real, felfel??? 

Faking??? welll... mna i only realised now, after i met my now-boyfriend that i was actually faking it with all those ex's. The first time I didnt know what was happenin.... then since then, i always look forward to that it.

Toxic
29 May 2008 06:03

tha-bang, i thought guys arrive all the time, so they fake as well?


Yes men fake it. They don't always come. i read somewhere that there's a difference btw climaxing and ejaculating for a man.

Nyway, why are we speculating and asking ourselves all these questions...kanti where's Mr/Ms SLVN18 to answer all these questions?

tha - bang
29 May 2008 06:05

DImago it was one of those rare sessions when it was taking too long and she had already come,so i didnt have the heart to tell her .i wasnt going to come.so a twitch there,  a loud noise there, it did the trick. hehehehe,yes men can fake it too.
nut its best to be honest,thats what i learned when we laughed about it afterwards,and that worked for everyone.so nomore faking for me hehehehe

Addictv
29 May 2008 06:08

LOL @Nonny ....akafende like they are practicing for the olympics if need be,.... dat doesnt  sound like fun bt hard work.

eish bloggers am guilty of faking i must say...hav done it more than once....jus wanted the ordeal to be ova...so i faked my way out of it.....

LOL

felfel
29 May 2008 06:10

The thing is Cnglemama le Carino sometimes its sooo good but u know ur body or rather ur coochie so well that u know it ain't arriving tonite, but the do is really really nice thats when ke mna i end up with a coochie cramp sometimes, cos i can feel its almost there but i also feel it won't get there.....Ma baby has serious stamina he'll ask my permission to cum worried that i'm not ready to let go......lol...lol

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 06:10

grand-grand what is a virgin? if you have been fingwad (fingarara) for sometime by different guys and have climaxed are you still a virgin? Have been licked as well but a dick has never penetrated you ar u still a virgin.

felfel
29 May 2008 06:13

There are other men who dont understand it if u don't cum, and i guess thats why some ladies fake cos brotha man will look at u strange if u don't cum cos as far as he's concerned he reaally did hit it...............lol

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 06:13

@Ma baby has serious stamina he'll ask my permission to cum worried that i'm not ready to let go......lol...lol you are definitley cheating with my man felfel. why so many similarities, does his name start with a Z? LOL!

ngwana
29 May 2008 06:17

@ Felfel - I think its also not to hurt a man's feeling. some guys feel like they have failed you if they dont make you cum

felfel
29 May 2008 06:18

the traditional way of losing on'es virginity is through intercourse, which means that stick must enter and the hymen gets torn.
U can tear ur hymen through rough sport but that in moral terms that don't make a non-virgin cos u hav'nt been entered.
Some women resume their virginity by having their hymen sewn back....
Cnglemama gather ur answer from wat i just wrote.

felfel
29 May 2008 06:22

hahahaha.....Cnglemama hes a Venda man not Zulu, yazi i've met horses in Venda men yhoooo, kuyahanjwa sana, akukho lovemaking, its straight up f*cking.....lol, even making glory is a marathon session, no wonder my butt is soo firm.....heheeehhheheeeeeeeeeeeeheehehe

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 06:27

i hear u Felz but manje umunwe lo ongenileyo wona uthini kumamorals nokukhothwa akunamthelela omubi kubuvirgin. Love making is yesterday old pap, sishaya ngamahashi who are all about f*king the womb out of its place.

carino
29 May 2008 06:32

Now I miss Harambe24. He'd summarise all this and answer all these questions in 3 simple paragraphs.

tha - bang
29 May 2008 06:39

lovemaking is a euphenism, i dont believe in euphenisms, im with cnglemother on this one.its all about sex these days finish and klaar.

Nonny
29 May 2008 06:39

@ Cnglemum & Felfel, we are so lucky that most Zulu men feel less of a man if u don't come for every single round. And should that happen, the next time they will make sure bakudla uze ukhase, just to redeem themselves, all I can say is keep it up boMageba bami nisiza thina........LOL

Miss K
29 May 2008 06:40

So glad to see so many of u bloggers (especially the gals) so sexually liberated. I love sex and i love talking about it but my friends just give me this weird look especially when they accidentally discover my porn collection. When i start a new relationship i worry that the guy will think i've been around alot coz im not the shy, 'lie on your back'. And maybe its from watching too much porn but i love a guy that talks dirty, sexy dirty not trashy dirty!

Miss K
29 May 2008 06:45

@Felfel...I feel u on the Vendas my sista i feel you!!!! Im talking about going to heaven twice while your man is no where near the gates!

belz
29 May 2008 06:51

Don't you just hate it when they say "come baby, come" and wena you are nowhere near there...its like they are rushing you and you feel the pressure and you "come" hi hi hi...> ROFL!!!! hahahahahah  Dimags eish i know what  you are talking about.

Yes men fake it. They don't always come. i read somewhere that there's a difference btw climaxing and ejaculating for a man. . Oh Gaad, for real Tox?

Nonny
29 May 2008 06:53

Im talking about going to heaven twice while your man is no where near the gates!
OMG Miss K, u know I want me a Venda man as in yesterday!!!! And not just for the sex, but they have got so much respect for their Tshinda culture, Miss K, awungizame phela, sengingabekezelela noma umubiza nje coz I know most aren't that gifted in the looks department!!!!!

felfel
29 May 2008 06:54

Iyhoo MissK u are my kind, wats wrong wit ur friends kanti????
Nami i got my own porn stash and my man was really suprised asking wat am i doing with it wat do i gain from it, i said to him i'll show u tonite wat i gain........and he's sonvinced.............hehehehehe.......
Mna ke Miss K i worry about a new guy's sexual apetite, i get bored easily and am impatient you see, if ur kissing is not even satisfactory I don't wana bother and if u dont know wat u doin in bed, i never ever wanna see u again.................lol

Hlehle
29 May 2008 06:57

Its true that ufunda ude uyofa i've learnt a lot  here, keep up guys.

felfel
29 May 2008 06:59

Eish Nonny toooo true bout the looks hey, batheni bazalwa ngabafazi ababi...lol....ndiyadlala, those are my fans phela. I'm on my fourth one now, and its smooth sailing oooh but my baby boy looks gud shame, the previous one had money and serious style but no face...heeehehehehehehehe and there's this other one who looks like an Rn'B singer but i let him go cos his tongue tastes sour.........eeeuw ....heheheheheeeeeee

awelani
29 May 2008 07:01

Nonny, namanje u still looking 4 a Venda man, damn gal, phela mini besengithi u already found urself one, or two or even three, lol.

awelani
29 May 2008 07:02

LOL @ felfel.

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:14

Nonny, namanje u still looking 4 a Venda man, damn gal, phela mini besengithi u already found urself one, or two or even three, lol.
Awelani, there are no Venda's here in Durban, I think it's the foreigner shedding thing, they are scared that Zulu's will mistake them for abantu bangale, and ask them what's an elbow in Zulu kanti shem we are not like that...........LOL

Miss K
29 May 2008 07:16

@Nonny and Felfel those Vendas treat u so good and the sex is out of this world and u forget about the ugliness. My frends used to tease me and laugh they asses off when they see my man but mna ndandizifele grand grand and i didn't give a hoot about his looks. All my life i dated Xhosa men until this guy and i must say its the happiest that i've been!! 

I always say he's got the engine of BMW but the body of an Uno! And whats more important the body or the engine???

Miss K
29 May 2008 07:21

Nonny u shud come to Jozi for a wknd and i'll hook u up with a Venda! 
My Venda guy uyangihlanyisa yazi, we had issues but now he's back saying he's sorted out and im seriously considering taking him back. Besides the mdavazo i'm just crazy about him hey. And ppl don't understand what i see in him coz bona they judge him on his looks! But thats another story for another day....

tha - bang
29 May 2008 07:24

does this apply to venda ladies, the engine theory that is

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 07:24

All my life i dated Xhosa men until this guy and i must say its the happiest that i've been!! Amen halleluya and my friends think i am mad about when i tell them to hlukana with Xhosa men. Miss K my Zulu man & I videorise ourselves when bonking (am shy to watch my own porn though). We just dedicate the whole day to doing rude things.  Its so liberating Gaad.

felfel
29 May 2008 07:25

hahahaha Nonny.......usezolamba gal...........hehehehee

I feel u Miss k engine fo sho...eish mara mna i'm too shallow for an ugly man kodwa, too damn conscious...hehehehehe.......
I am Xhosa and i'm sick of Xhosa men with their bodies and with an engine of a scooter...hehehehehe

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:25

All my life i dated Xhosa men until this guy and i must say its the happiest that i've been!!
I am so happy for u!!!!

And whats more important the body or the engine???
Both, but obviously the engine more than the body.

awelani
29 May 2008 07:28

The ENGINE is more important Miss K...........Do u love dis guy or u love the engine???

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 07:28

Miss K i normally down load porn but have not started collecting, are shop assistants black at the sexshops coz i am worried about the looks they are going to give me?

isex imnandi kodwa!

Toxic
29 May 2008 07:30

Nonny shem *shakin my head*.

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:30

Miss K my Zulu man & I videorise ourselves when bonking (am shy to watch my own porn though). We just dedicate the whole day to doing rude things. Its so liberating Gaad.
Mngani, I hope u will be as proud unlike my role model who decided to kill herself after her moves were on everyone's PC & cellphone. Yes I am talking about ingane yasOngoye aka University Of Zululand. She should of relocated I mean she was so good in bed, she didn't deserve to die bandla, whether she had an angelic reputation or not!!!!!!!!!!!

felfel
29 May 2008 07:32

oh my gaawdddddd cnglemama you such a skank, ur man included......heheheheheheheheheheeeeeee....viva mdavazo!!! oh my gooosh u guys.....yazi when i'm there i sometimes feel like a porn star...i close my eyes and picture myself as Emanuelle's stepmother who never taught her the reall mdavazo, not that soft porn she doin on E! haaaaaaaahahahahaha, ma baby is coming tommorrow and we haven't seen each other for two weeks........whoooo wheeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Izoqhawuka leya pipi yakhe..........hahahahahahaha ...andise kodwa.............ahhahahaha

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 07:33

Nonny the only problem kulendoda yam endidla ndide ndikhase, yinhlupheko joe but yena ucansi uluyele evarsity strue. Plus ngoku ndithenge nebhedi entsha etough kuzonyiwa straight.

felfel
29 May 2008 07:35

The ENGINE is more important Miss K...........Do u love dis guy or u love the engine??? 
Awelani
now why must you spoil it with the L word, go write another article about love somewhere else.............hehehehhaahahahhhhhehehe

ngwana
29 May 2008 07:37

@ Thabang, i hear a lot of stories about venda and shangaan ladies being HOT in bed, i also wonder how true that is.

faraimagic
29 May 2008 07:38

Interesing!!!very interesting..................!

TheLady
29 May 2008 07:39

I'm loving my vibrator right now...took sometimes for my ex to get used to him-I call him Sipho...goodness...if you don't own one you haven't lived.

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:40

Nonny shem *shakin my head*.
What have I done now Tox???

Best-Achiever
29 May 2008 07:40

Amen halleluya and my friends think i am mad about when i tell them to hlukana with Xhosa men. Miss K my Zulu man & I videorise ourselves when bonking (am shy to watch my own porn though). We just dedicate the whole day to doing rude things. Its so liberating Gaad

@Cnglemom ... justmake sure there are no copies made and those video ahlala kuwe not him .. otherwise you gonna be the talk of the town when rainy days come .... i know one lady who did that with her man back kotertiary and when they separated ...the guy post the  video kwi internet and kwi School network ...she was the talk of the whole niversity ..ended up deregistering, afraid to go face parents at home, depressed ..her whole life was made a disaster in the name of fun ... so be careful my luving .... you dont wanna hang yourself over that leaving the cutie bundle of joy alone

cha niyakhuluma zingane *sigh*

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 07:41

Izoqhawuka leya pipi yakhe..........hahahahahahaha ...andise kodwa.............ahhahahaha, felfel you finished me with line LOL! 

Nonny our porn idea is based on that Ongoye girl, he told me about the story and i got interested so we started our own thing. I still want to see the famous video coz apparently the girl was good ekufendeni JD.

felfel
29 May 2008 07:42

hamba cnglemama (andisayihleki LOL) ,inhlupheko mtshana??? kaloku u can't have it all, plus ke u can't eat love at the same time, i had me a monied Venda ebendispoila goed, agrosale ogqiba andidle ndingcagcazele imilenze ndingakwazi nokuma qha embi ke shame engaxoleleki nobabumnyama ke, ndaqonda hayi andisaqhubeki yhuuuuu...........lol hehehehehehe

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:44

Nonny the only problem kulendoda yam endidla ndide ndikhase, yinhlupheko joe but yena ucansi uluyele evarsity strue. Plus ngoku ndithenge nebhedi entsha etough kuzonyiwa straight.
@ Cnglemum - hehehehehe LMAO, good thing chomza, coz I know that ku shibline *cheap bed* mbhede, kufa umantrassi straight joe!!!!

ngwana
29 May 2008 07:44

@ Miss K - I'm so glad i'm not the only one who likes porn.

@ TheLady, I would like to get myself one but everytime i want to go into an adult shop,  I worry  someone might  recognize me.

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 07:46

Dont worry BA, i have the videos but i am jsut worried about if i get sick and some1 pages through my phone. 

cha niyakhuluma zingane *sigh* you will understand one day girl hi-hi-hi imnandi phela lento!

carino
29 May 2008 07:46

heeeiiii.... I wonder how Chief Azwindini is.... engine-wise....

Dimago
29 May 2008 07:47

WOW!! interesting stuff....

faraimagic
29 May 2008 07:48

LOL @THE LADY.........SIPHO hi hi hi he he he!

mstick
29 May 2008 07:50

okay mmmmmmmm........wow........interesting

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:51

I still want to see the famous video coz apparently the girl was good ekufendeni JD.
@ Cnglemom - Send me ur no. via PM and I will send the video to u NOWWWWWWWW, the gal was good shem, had lots of energy and creativity. It's sad that she killed herself tho, yazi I always imagine her father saying: "Please show me that video so I can see what was my baby doing, that made her beleive that she can't face the world after it has been seen".......mmmmmm *shaking my head*: "I'm sure ubaba wavele waba unconciuos for three days bandla!!!!

awelani
29 May 2008 07:51

Viva Limpopo man viva. Join me Miss K and ol dose who've had the "pleasures" of a good mdazavo with Limpopians.........

Tox & Rene, Tell me sungthin, that tree (mpesu) what daz it do, daz it give a longlasting erection or i khulisa i totolozi??

felfel
29 May 2008 07:52

Lady le Ngwana  don't u guys have credit cards???????? Just go to Dr. Eve's website or kalahari.net and order urself wat u want, going into shops is tooo backward, cos u gotta be asking the assistant there and clearly u girls are just toooo shy..... www.dreve.co.za and click on shop with Dr Eve......

mstick
29 May 2008 07:53

Ja Faraimagic i also laughed at the vibrator Sipho

awelani
29 May 2008 07:54

Sies Carino........tltltltltltltltl

tha - bang
29 May 2008 07:54

anyone whose been with a vedna woman or tsonga woman to proof ngwanas claim

Nonny
29 May 2008 07:54

@ TheLady, I would like to get myself one but everytime i want to go into an adult shop, I worry someone might recognize me.
Blog more and u will be more informed, one day Harambe24 gave a website where u can purchase porn online, I forgot the article that he gave the info @, does anyone remember, so we can help ngwana????

TheLady
29 May 2008 07:55

Ngwana-where you at girl? There's one in PTA where the entrance is at the back-looks like you parked in some flat or something...me and my girls looove that place-if it's a group of girls you'll feel better...

Am getting a pink one next...I've already named me Roger...

Best-Achiever
29 May 2008 07:56

Dont worry BA, i have the videos but i am jsut worried about if i get sick and some1 pages through my phone.

cha niyakhuluma zingane *sigh* you will understand one day girl hi-hi-hi imnandi phela lento!
*nci nci nci *shakig my head in total dismay* *

awelani
29 May 2008 07:56

Nonny, can I also PM u my number, PLEASE!!.

felfel
29 May 2008 07:58

Kuthiwa impesu is the african viagra......

LM
29 May 2008 07:59

I would like to get myself one but everytime i want to go into an adult shop, I worry someone might recognize me.Hau Ngwana...do you still worry about that...nna I just go in do my thing come out with a plastic bag full of goodies and my head held high, I don't care who is seeing me. I was there on Friday to increase my collection and I found an eldery couple inside the shop and they started looking uncomfortable and I just ignored them and proceeded to select what I wanted.

I must say ladies when it comes to Mdavazo talk you leave nothing to the imagination, so to speak..LMAO.

faraimagic
29 May 2008 07:59

Well they say uUsher is spliting from wife after 9months of married life from wife Tameka and a 5month baby,they also beliv someone between the two hasn't been able to bring it on to the bedroom,uuuuummmh i wonder who,but then again they say it may be a publicity stunt to launch his new album HERE I STAND......catch all the celeb gosip ....youngblackandfabulous.com!

awelani
29 May 2008 07:59

The Lady, or u can just name it Chief Azwinndini..........

TheLady
29 May 2008 08:00

Felfel when it comes to sex I ain't shy...not a bit...Am a lady in the street but a freak in the bed...I walk in there size it up if I like it I buy it...battery dies I get some from the remote...if boyfriend wants to join in great-otherwise he can just watch...me and Sipho are tight like that.

felfel
29 May 2008 08:01

I'm not sure about watching a dead gal shaking her thing kodwa......no thanks......

awelani
29 May 2008 08:01

Thanx Felfel on the mpesu issue.....

ngwana
29 May 2008 08:02

@ Cnglemom -  there is never a happy ending with these 'home videos', remember what happened to 'Lerato from Midrand'.

TheLady
29 May 2008 08:02

Awelani-the aim is NOT to get turned off...LOL

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 08:03

Hola LM! farai missed u babes, can i make porn with you?

mstick
29 May 2008 08:04

@felfel..........serious African Viagra.....where do i get this Impesu????

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 08:05

@ngwana stop scaring me ok!

Nonny
29 May 2008 08:05

Nonny, can I also PM u my number, PLEASE!!.
@ Awelani - With pleasure my love..........(Oh Nkosi yami rest in peace mtana bantu that we are still admiring uliqhawwe sisi *hero*.........LOL)

TheLady
29 May 2008 08:06

That child from Ongoye was good...girlfriend could go from being on top to doggy without it coming out...*sigh* I still need practise.

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:07

@ Cnglemother  ..Your room or mine?when and where?and dont you think we will need a cameraman?..only if i will get the copy........SSSSSEEEEIS!LMAO!!!!

felfel
29 May 2008 08:08

thing is LM sidikiwe kukuba ngongcwelele all the time when there's a problem sifree today.............. 

myname
29 May 2008 08:08

shooo umuntu angaze azichamele lapha for just reading from your replies LOL. Its so hurt when u dont have a partner in this cold winter . And really i miss it. Can some1 plz hook up the sista lol..............So guilty when it comes to faking the Oh & with that heavy breathing hihihihihi...I fake it so he can finish ke robale.............Mna guys the more i get older i dont want longer rounds & more than 3. Im so lazy no wonder im still single.

KeleFabulous
29 May 2008 08:11

@ Cnglemom what do you mean...were you stitched up? i was too mara that's different to a vaginal rejuvenation mos?

all this talk is really not good for me. i need to get me some now...

felfel
29 May 2008 08:14

mstick impesu is in Venda, ask someone to bring u some when they go there, its freely available...lol

Lady its do-able act as if u doing the helicopter style...oooh can't get graphic here.....lolhehehehehehehe

maud
29 May 2008 08:15

hi
and here iwas thinking ndim ndodwa endithanda i sex, besengicabanga ukuthi sisifo.

maud
29 May 2008 08:15

hi
and here i was thinking ndim ndodwa endithanda i sex, besengicabanga ukuthi sisifo.

PhlyLady
29 May 2008 08:15

Nonny can I also have the video.. Pretty please!! I also wanna see for myself. Ngiyakuncenga!!

mabhebheza
29 May 2008 08:16

*whistling*...shaking myhead*
Kwek e madoda!!!

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:17

@Cnglemum   and only if you are hotter than Kelly Khumalo maybe Claire Mawisa or Chomie .....hi hi hi then we will have a deal!why mara neh?

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 08:18

Kfab i had a C-section not a vaginal birth love. 

Farai we will talk- u better be good ok LOL!

carino
29 May 2008 08:21

Porsch
29 May 2008 08:22

@Nonny, can u also send me the video pleeeaaase!!!!!

carino
29 May 2008 08:22

carino
29 May 2008 08:22

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 08:23

Farai u want my cookie or my face now hey?

felfel
29 May 2008 08:24

Carino cat got ur tongue Missy ???????

carino
29 May 2008 08:24

carino
29 May 2008 08:24

carino
29 May 2008 08:24

Nonny
29 May 2008 08:25

That child from Ongoye was good...girlfriend could go from being on top to doggy without it coming out...*sigh* I still need practise.
@ The lady, that's when she impressed me the most, she did it so uniquely to change from the two posituions, while the thingaling was still in her - HATS OFF SISTAZ. I am sure nasemathuneni wonke amadoda amkngungile ngalobu busika.........LOL

Nonny can I also have the video.. Pretty please!! I also wanna see for myself. Ngiyakuncenga!!
PM me ur no. as well..............Oh and don't forget Vodacom aitime  no's as well, coz this Ongoye list is two long for my budget now.............LOL.......just kidding, I'll send u too Phylady

carino
29 May 2008 08:25

carino
29 May 2008 08:25

awelani
29 May 2008 08:25

Nonny to ur PM now, i;ve just PM'd my bellas...

Farai, did i u 1nce say that Bob Mugabe looks better than U? um just surprised that U'r giving u Cglemama conditions,,,,,,,LOL,,,,,,,,,,,I'll never understand men.

KeleFabulous
29 May 2008 08:25

@ Cnglemum oh .... ok. but nje i'd just like to know for interest's sake if they can tell. haven't read thru all the replies yet so ii don't know if anyone answered. mara i guess it really makes no diff cos i haven't heard of a woman who's given birth complaining. or of a guy complaining for that matter.

i like doing it in the dark. i feel more liberated then. when it's dark (not too dark) then i can feel i can let go of all my inhibitions and do just about anything. 

@ miss K...i've yet to understand your love of porn. LOL i must come see what you've got hehehe

myname
29 May 2008 08:26

hehehehehehe byebye 2morrow

awelani
29 May 2008 08:27

What's up Carino>????????????????

mstick
29 May 2008 08:27

@felfel....................heheheh trust that Impesu to do the trick okayyyyyyy al de wy 4rm Venda.......

carino
29 May 2008 08:28

Speechless!!!

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:29

@Cnglemum Wat do you mean i gota be good...ofcoz IM FROM AFRICA...LOL you know wat they say about African Man!!!!he he he he he do we also need a director?wat are we gona call the video? and wat are you gon call me since im not a Vibrater(SIPHO)he he he he he

awelani
29 May 2008 08:31

HAPPPPY MDAVAZO PPL,,,,,,,,,and to all the single ppl, enjoy it alone, those two hands can do wonders,,,,,,,,,,lol, but the real thing bits everything, even ur sipho dznt come close TheLady........

carino
29 May 2008 08:32

Cnglemum & Farai... backstage, please.....  LOL

Nonny
29 May 2008 08:33

@ Carino, sisi wami, don't tell me usuqhanyelwe njalo kalula kanje, kanti uweak kanje? Why vele so many blank replies????

@Nonny, can u also send me the video pleeeaaase!!!!!
Porsch - Kanti where do guys live, even a 5 year has seen this video? Neway PM nawe uzobanayo and BTW it's 11 minutes long!!!!

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:33

@Awelani does a vibrater has a face?isn't it just the shape you want inside you?he he he so why wori about my face?a vibrater is good so it deserves better!ha ha ha ha...

awelani
29 May 2008 08:34

mstick, how long daz tha erecxn last 4 (the mpesu1), coz i read  somewhere that some lady ran away from her hubby coz the thing was up for almost 3 days, even after doing it, it was still up..........Good luck to ol those who use it.

Cnglemother
29 May 2008 08:34

Kfab otherwise a lot of women would be without men LOL! I dont think it really makes a diff. Kfab darkness never, i like it from noon all the way through the afternoon so that we can get exhausted and just doze of to sleep in the evening. If its during the week sex, lights on baba.

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:36

Carino you sound like you wana join us?LOL maybe if you ask nicely i might re-write the script!!!!hi hi hi

Nonny
29 May 2008 08:36

My goodness, I've got 21 PM's, neway bye people, and to all those that PM'd mwa, u will get ur video today NOMAKANJANI. Just plz don't stalk mwa coz I've had my no. all my life and I don't plan to change it any time soon..........cheers!!!!

awelani
29 May 2008 08:37

farai, dunno what 2 say.......tltltltltltl

Nonny, um waiting and i have enaf space on my fone.

Hlehle
29 May 2008 08:39

byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee nemidavazo leyo.

faraimagic
29 May 2008 08:39

LMAO @Awelani JEEEEESUS CHRIST!you killed me 3 days he he he he he hah!

awelani
29 May 2008 08:39

Good bye ppl, 2mrw, I have to go home and take care of some biznesssssss, call it mdavazo biznisss.

mstick
29 May 2008 08:46

@awelani............i dont knw how long it last FelFel recommended the thing 2 me 3 days erection there is noway i'm giving dat thing.... Mpesu 2 my B-frnd afta de whole shagging al beta b operated.

Miss K
29 May 2008 08:58

bye ppl and happy mdavazo tonite. and to the single ones use those fingers ladies!!! Oh by the way i aslo buy my porn and toys via the net and just collect them at the post poffice!

Cande
29 May 2008 09:29

hlukana with Xhosa men. 

I wish you would have told me this before i went to CPT, now they seem to be following me to PTA as well...

this article?? You children get up to naughty stuff neh?

Cinglemom, careful of such videos..careful!!!

Toxic
30 May 2008 01:20

Nonny what is this video that u're sending to people???? Nami i want!!!! PLEASE hook me up!!!!!

Sexologist
31 May 2008 16:26

Welcome to TVSA SLNV18, BTW is that gonna be ur username as well or was it just in relation to the article??? Thanx Nonny. SLNV18 was in relation with article. My username is SEXOLOGIST.

My sexually liberated bloggers I am sorry I have been unable to reply. It is quiet a pleasure to see you had actually taken off your clothes *hick*  I me inhibitions and sharing your experiences. It is so educating. Team building on another level. Imagine if humans could just have such meetings or support groups, divorce rates would drop and sexual diseases would lessen.

can a guy tell if it's a woman's first time? and can they also tell if maybe a woman's had a baby?  @ Kelefabulous
If the hymen is still present the man will at first feel resistence at initial entry into the vagina. Not all virginal (first time) sex cause bleeding. The hymen can be broken by horse riding or certain sport activities.
The vagina is designed in such a way that it streches to accomodate a baby's head and contract back to it's original size.
Since it has muscles the best way to maintain the tightness of the vagina is to do vaginal KEGEL EXERCISES which will help in childbirth, enhancing sexual pleasure and controlling the bladder.

Can a guy tell if a woman is faking the big O? Well Dimago it takes a well experienced man to tell that. A man who focuses on pleasing his woman can differentiate between fake and real.


Sexologist
31 May 2008 17:01

KEGEL EXERCISES FOR WOMEN AND MEN
I just felt I should share this with you based on Kelefabulous question. I hope you find it useful.

Why should women do kegel exercises regularly?

* Kegel exercises increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms.
* Kegel exercises strengthen and tone the muscles of the vaginal canal, and so women who Kegel can, if vaginal stimulation is their choice, and if they do some additional work on themselves, improve their capacity to orgasm by means of vaginal play, in terms of both the intensity and the frequency of their orgasming. * Kegel exercises are essential to the treatment of sexual difficulties such as vaginismus and dyspareunia (pain on vaginal intercourse).
* Kegel exercises prevent incontinence, prolapses, and many other problems of the pelvic floor that are often associated with aging.
* Kegel exercises strengthen and tone the musculature of the pelvic area in a way that can make vaginal delivery during childbirth easier.
 
How do I find my PC muscles?

* Go to the bathroom and sit on the toilet (men, it is also a good idea to sit for this).
* In the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several times. The muscles you use to do this are your PC muscles. At first, you may find that you are also squeezing your anal muscles; as you become experienced with kegel exercises, try to separate out the muscle groups that you are able to exercise by squeezing. 

How do I do regular kegel exercises?

* Now that you have located your PC muscles, you can exercise them while your bladder is completely empty.
* First, try squeezing your PC muscles as hard as you can for a count of three seconds. Then let them relax. To begin with, see how many times you can do this before the muscles feel tired.
* Now figure out a suitable exercise routine just as you would if you were trying to tone and strengthen a different muscle group by going to the gym every other day. For example, suppose you start by being able to do only five strong squeezes; try doing three sets of five once or twice a day for a week, and then try increasing this to three sets of eight strong squeezes.
* If you work up to three sets of thirty or more strong squeezes, you are probably healthy enough for most purposes, and need only to maintain this level of fitness by doing these three sets four times a week (instead of once or twice a day).
* It is also recommend that you experiment by varying the type and timing of the PC squeezing you do as you train these muscles: slow clenches, many quick flutters, and so on. This will make you more familiar with these muscles – notice also when your abdominal muscles or your anal muscles feel like they also want to join in the exercise.
*Rremember, you should try to separate out kegel exercises from anal squeezing. If you are in doubt, go back a refind your PC muscle while urinating. 
* Once you are skilled at kegel exercises, you should be able to do them without anyone else knowing what you are doing... boring meetings at work, tedious lectures at conferences, and other daily events all become opportunities to work quietly on improving your sexual health! 

WHY SHOULD MEN DO KEGEL EXERCISES?

* Kegel exercises increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms.
* Kegel exercises strengthen and tone the muscles that are involved in       

suzzy82
31 May 2008 17:48

Thatha Sexologist i'll do the kegel exercise TY

Dimago
01 Jun 2008 02:09

Interesting..thanks SXLGST

Sexologist
01 Jun 2008 07:39

It's my pleasure suzzy82 and Dimago. 

Dear Bloggers, did you know there are different types of orgasms?


Tantric philosophy has two ideas about orgasm -- the physical orgasm and the heart orgasm. At first appearance they may seem dualistic and contrary, but on closer inspection one supports the other perfectly.

Modern Tantra recognizes that there are several forms of orgasm. The clitoral orgasm tends to be very localized to the genitals. The vaginal orgasm mostly involves the G spot and a few other locations in the vagina. The blended orgasm involves both the clitoris and the G spot, as the clitoris splits into two roots under the skin, wrapping around either side of the G spot and stimulating it directly. Finally, there is the energy orgasm, or heart orgasm.

Vaginal orgasms lend themselves to full-body orgasmic potential when the breath, the mind and the orgasm itself come together. When we enhance this full-blown experience with different breath patterns, sounds and “righthand path” techniques, we have the potential to move into multiple orgasms and out-of-body sex. Going even further into this practice, we are able to have full-body orgasms, or energy orgasms, simply by breathing them -- without any physical touch.

When the two paths are blended in this way, the possibilities for personal growth expand exponentially, and the dualism between the physical and the heart orgasm vanishes.

ocean1
02 Jun 2008 01:57

@ sexologist where have u been all this time?, thanx 4 the exc !!!1

Nosakhe
02 Jun 2008 02:04

Huh? now I'm lost.

Sdakamiswa
13 Jun 2008 05:41

 Happy Long Weekend erryyybooody

G-spot facts

1.All women have G-spots. About 50% find stimulation of it pleasurable. The G-spot is on the top wall of the vagina, about 2 to 3 inches inches from the vaginal opening. 

2.Some women can ejaculate from G-spot stimulation. 

3.You may not orgasm the first time you play with it. It can take a few weeks to find exactly what you like. 

4.Reach the G-spot by posing your hand in a come hither motion. 

5.If you have long fingernails, make sure to clip them before entry. 

6.Once inside, rest your fingertips on the slightly ridged area just behind the pubic bone and press upwards lightly. 

7.Move your fingers subtly until you start to feel a small bean-shaped swelling. 

8.Many women claim it is easier to have multiple G-spot orgasms than clitoral ones. Each one often makes the next feel even better. 

9.Use one hand to stimulate your G-spot and the other to massage your clitoris at the same time. 

10.Vary the pressure, speed, and pattern of movement. Try moving your fingers side to side or in small circles. 

11.Point your fingers more sharply upwards and rock them forward and back. 

12.G-spot vibrators can help you find the spot quickly and stimulate it pleasurably. 

Position for pleasure

1.Have your partner stimulate your G-spot with his or her hand while performing cunnilingus. 

2.Ask your partner to use his or her thumb to rub your clitoris, and the first two fingers to simultaneously stimulate the G-spot. 

3.During intercourse, the head of the penis can rub the G-spot as it withdraws from thrusting, or during partial thrusting at the vaginal opening. 

4.Intensify G-spot orgasms by strengthening your pubococcygeal muscle with Kegel exercises. 

5.Women on Top and Rear Entry are particularly good positions to stimulate the G-spot during intercourse. 

Adapted from www.libida.com

myname
20 Jun 2008 08:36

people can type nhe........................ i think i sould go back to grade 10 & re write my BIology (kaloku ndayikopa) i think im missing something here.


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