Calling All Women

Written by dubed out from the blog Revelations on 24 Nov 2008
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Well I originally thought about righting two separate articles because there are two points I want to get across but I soon realized that both of them are patterning to woman then I just decided to write this in the hope of getting some form of understanding from other woman.

It’s like this: Woman tend to ask us of a lot of things but for now let’s look at honesty and trust.

HONESTY
When your gf asks that you be honest with her does she mean you tell her everything that happens in your life or maybe that you just don’t lie to her?
The reason why I ask is because I was confused as to which one I should do so I just did both, I have told her mostly everything that happens in my life I tell her where im going, when im going and I even sit with her to tell her the littlest of things. HELL sometimes I even plan what I should do with her im assuming that at this point she knows me better than I know myself. I have also been as honest as I can, when she asks me something I answer it as honestly as I can.
So hey I did both but when you do that don’t you think you would also deserve the same in return. Is it too much to ask that what you give of yourself you also get the same in return. What’s the point of giving and giving when you don’t get the same back?

TRUST
When you ask that I trust you please understand that it wont be easy and Rome wasn’t built in a day so patience would be greatly appreciated, but soon enough I will eventually trust you, and you do something to harm that trust, tell me what do you expect me to do ? Well you would ask that I forgive you right so hey I do forgive you after some time though and were great and okay again but wait I find out that you have betrayed my trust again and to make matters worse you then hide it from me thinking I wouldn’t find out proving apart from a lot of things that you didn’t trust me enough to tell me. So tell me something why do you ask of me what you can’t do? Why would you ask me to trust you when you don’t trust me? Now I even start to wonder if you trusted me in the first place.

25 Comments

Firstdvd
25 Nov 2008 07:27

WARNING *piii piii pii pii* she knows each n every step you take...It's a good thing though but you have to know that some ppl will take advantage of you boy

Madam Dee
25 Nov 2008 08:31

eish hectic stuff, honesty n trust neh...........will be back.

carino
25 Nov 2008 08:34

Calling All Woman

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural

sexyd
25 Nov 2008 08:44

Calling All Woman

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural...

Mara u do get the picture moes! so there's no need.

Best-Achiever
25 Nov 2008 08:50

I believe that both Honesty and trust are major foundation for any kind of relationship and can never be separated from each other .... i dont see it possible to trust someone who isnt honest to you or to be honest to someone you dont trust ...so honesty and trust go hand-in-hand and they are the pillar of any relationship. All parties involved in that relationship need to work on these two.

Ms. Jay
25 Nov 2008 08:50

Hectic!

Vesa
25 Nov 2008 08:51

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural.....Really now!!

nice
25 Nov 2008 08:55

In life dear you choose who to trust and give out all your secrets and plans to. If they decide not to tell you anything in return about what their plans are it does not mean that you should be offended, ait coulbe be that they are the kind of people that likes to keep to themselves or they share their plans with somebody else. They do not necessarily need to open up to you, just because you have!

Secondly, once you told them whatever you wanted to share with them, they have to keep it to themselves and then you learn to trust them even more. if they betray your trust after you have been vulnerable with them, then you have to be very careful what you say to them.

thsere
25 Nov 2008 09:12

@Carino Calling All Woman

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural. Uzophinde uthi uyasukelwa ,that was not necessary .

Nonny
25 Nov 2008 09:15

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural. Uzophinde uthi uyasukelwa ,that was not necessary .
kwa kwa kwa kwa, I knew that bloggers will not let yesterday's article to rest.

andi01
25 Nov 2008 09:28

@Nonny- , I knew that bloggers will not let yesterday's article- please fill me in girl

GML
25 Nov 2008 09:52

Carino: there you go again........

DubbedOut: Women in general want a man that will talk to them about anything and they also want their men to know that they are available if they need to talk. Being honest depends on what you want to share with your partner. You dont have to tell her everything like family problems or what happens with your immediate family. It just means being able to tell her certain things in that affect her or the relationship. If it doesnt not affect her in any way you dont have to tell her and she must respect that is non of her business

Example: if your mom was ill or something and you could not see her (GF) then it's okay to tell her why.
But if something happens that has no baring on the relationship then you dont have to tell her unless you're married.

Trust comes with time and it takes time. In the beginning of a relationship it should be there and rules and boundaries should be put in place in order for the trust to accumulate. If you create room for disappointment you will find reasons to fill that room. So trust and let the person know that you trust them. If that person breaks the trust then anything you choose to do thereafter is justifiable based on past experience.

maddie
25 Nov 2008 09:57

Calling All Woman

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural

Hai Carino wa tena yo, what's wrong with you kanti, hai man

Toxic
25 Nov 2008 10:00

tl tl tl @ Carino!

Nonny
25 Nov 2008 09:15

andi01
25 Nov 2008 09:28

@Nonny- , I knew that bloggers will not let yesterday's article- please fill me in girl

GML
25 Nov 2008 09:52

maddie
25 Nov 2008 09:57

Calling All Woman

Dubed Out.. there's a mistake on your title.. It should be.. Calling All Women, in plural

Hai Carino wa tena yo, what's wrong with you kanti, hai man

Toxic
25 Nov 2008 10:00

tl tl tl @ Carino!

Ziphezinhle
27 Nov 2008 19:03

men and women are not the same,and people in general are not the same. you get people who dont like sharing their problems with other people,and you get the kind of people who are open and dont mind talking about their problems. I think that you should know what kind of oerson your partner is,and try to undrestand her and try to work with her.

well as for the trust and honesty issue,I think you need to sit fown nad have to serious talk with your girl,seriously dude,you cant be in a relationship with somenoe you have trust issues with.if you want your relationship to work,or if you think that your thing is the real deal,take my advice and talk to her.

Ziphezinhle
27 Nov 2008 19:03

dubed out
28 Nov 2008 15:31

Firstdvd : thanks for the advice from now on I’ll watch pple much closer.

Best-Achiever : Well that’s the same way I look at things, so have any advice on how to make your partner more trusting and honest?
nice : my question is: if you don’t share your problems with your partner who will you share them with?

Ziphezinhle : I understand that men and woman are not the same but yet we all want to be trusted. Now one of the reasons I wrote this article is that my partner doesn’t wanna talk to me and I cant help her in her time of need if she doesn’t want my help so how do you think that makes me feel as a male, to know that something is wrong but im helpless and there’s nothing I can do about it. Doesn’t that mean that there is a limit to how much she actually trusts me with her problems?

THANKS FOR EVERYONE WHO SHOWED ME MY SPELLING EROR AND PLEASE DONT STOP PUTTING IN YOUR INPUT, IT IS APPRECIATED. GUYS GET YOUR FRIENDS TO HELP ME OUT AS WELL CAUSE I REALLY NEED IT.

dubed out
28 Nov 2008 15:31

Ziphezinhle
28 Nov 2008 16:23

Your girl probably has trust issues or something,maybe she put her trust in someone before and they betrayed it,so I think you gotta give her more time,hopefully she will come around,eventually.

I can only imagine how you are feeling about your girlfriend not trusting you,but did you try talking to her like I adviced you to? Right now that"s the onky thing I can advice you with,maybe it's not that she haas a problem that she isn't telling you,maybe it's just that you are doing something that makes her not feel good,or maybe she feels neglected or something, I think you should just spend sometime with her dude.

Ziphezinhle
28 Nov 2008 16:23