On the 7th of January 2009 my 29 year old cousin tragically passed away with his just 21 year old girlfriend. The reasons we may never know. The history of their relationship leaves a chill down anyone’s back. Why? Why? Why? Was it absolutely necessary? Could it have been avoided? What happened?
They had a relationship I can only call volatile and dangerous. Often the police would have to be called in as they had just moered each other. My cousin had a huge file of incidents reported to the police of assault and damage to property. Exactly 2 months before the tragedy, the police had had to be called in to finally end the relationship. What was recorded on the file for this incident is scratches and a broken windscreen on my cousins car and a open wound on his head after being beaten with a broken bottle. The record states the gal had been told to stay away from my cousin or she would be arrested.
The stories being told by friends and family that lived around his house shock and leave you wondering what troubled souls they were. What makes a 21 year old woman so hungry for war? What was my cousin doing to make her get that violent? What would spark these violent outbursts? Wasn’t there more to life than just being constantly fighting? I realize that the children we raise are not really ours but we shape their world each day. What background did she grow up in?
What happened to a young man that was so protective of his female cousins that all of them are cowards because he was always there to defend them? What happened to the young man that made me appreciate another woman’s beauty without feeling intimidated? What happened to the young man who insisted I know how to play soccer as he was certain it was the way to any man’s heart? What happened to my cousin?
What happened to the young man that had successfully run a graphic design studio and business for 5 years? What happened to the young man who had contracts for the soccer world cup in 2010 with the Bafokeng? What happened to the young man who loved life and wanted everyone to live it freely and not mis-treat each other? Why couldn’t he let it go if the relationship was so unhealthy? Why couldn’t they accept that life would not be healthy if they stayed together? What could have been done to help them let it go?
Their final moments will forever and ever be a mystery as they were found at the girls home – He had one bullet wound on the head and his entire body was bruised. She was holding a steel rod in her hand and 3 gun wounds.. The details are sketchy but whatever happened left two dead bodies. What would push such young people to die so tragically?
They leave behind unanswerable questions and a 7 month old daughter.
Robala ka kagiso Mokwena wa Mmanape a Tshukudu…
Life goes on- Floetry
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