I have been having an internal dilema for a very long time and finally figured there could be some people here who could help... and no this is not meant to be a Sis Dolly sort of thing.. but here it goes...
Ok to give some meat to the story.... I am currently in a relationship and have been with my man for almost two years.. ( i know it sounds very Sis Dolly already but hey...) The thing is ever since i was a little girl, mostly ever since my parents divorced almost 15 years ago, I told everyone that cared to listen that i was never going to entertain the whole thing of dating/marrying a black men. Especially after seeing the "traditional" rituals we had to go through during the divorce process to "protect us" from whatever my father could have decided to do to us. I figured white people did not believe in such and i didnt really believe in it myself so to reduce the likelyhood that i ever had to do them in my family i decided white was the way to go.
I then went abroad to study and trust me the search for the perfect white man started but never really went anywhere... i mean the ones i met and liked were already taken and the rest had habits i could not deal with. I finally decided to give this whole dating thing a go anyway..(i was 22 and thought it was about time otherwise i would have had to be a nun or something... ) and the first person i dated was a black man... my mother was not impressed to say the least... she went the whole "i thought you were going to marry a white man, surely after what your father has put us through, you would know better..." anyway the relationship ended after a year, much to my mothers joy but a year later i started dating my current man who also happens to be a black man.
now the thing is i am back home and have been going to these "African" churches where they "claim" to be able to tell your future some what. The numerous visits i have accompanied my mother to the different numerous churches, i have been told that i am destined to marry a white man and that my current relationship is just a waste of time as it will ultimately end up in divorce. (I must admit i was shocked this thing has come up 5 times already with different visits to different places not linked in any way. i have also been told there are somethings that are wrong with my man and that he will never be able to take care of whatever family we have, if ever financially etc. my mother is adamant that we should break it off within the year and start prayin for my white man to "make his appearance and rescue me..".
I am now caught and confused about a lot of things...
Should i believe all these things they are telling me? (I personally dont believe anyone on earth can predict your future but if 5 different people who would have never met tell you the same story i am baffled...)
Should i tell my man about all these things?
Should i remain with him although i know our future is doomed? I just cant break up with him and wait for some guy that myt never turn up...
I guess the saddest thing is that he is the best man anyone could ever ask for and i am totally happy being with him. he is already speaking of marriage and getting our family started and all those things i think i am ready for but... heish the dilema is killing me..
so bloggers have you ever had a life prediction that leaves you in a predicament and how did you ever deal with it?
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