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What Men/Woman want....

Written by Amza from the blog It can be confusing... on 09 Jun 2009
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WOMEN (SINGLE AND MARRIED)

Do you really understand how men think when it comes to a relationship?

There are women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. Yet when it comes to relationships, they can't figure out what makes men tick. This sounds like me

WHY? ...According to Steve Harvey, it’s because they are asking other women for advice when no one but another man can tell them how to find and keep a man.

MEN (SINGLE AND MARRIED)

You always give advice to your sisters, female cousins and girlfriends about the male way of thinking BUT they still don’t seem to understand how men think when it comes to relationships! ...WHY?

PLEASE SHARE YOUR VIEWS

1. What is your definition of a good man?
2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.
7. What does HE want from a woman?
8. What does SHE want from a man?
9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?

I figure that if Steve Harvey can write a book about it so can we. I m interested in knowing what my fellow bogglers views are because I can relate better to you guys than to Steve.

72 Comments

Amza
09 Jun 2009 12:49

Yeah Im first now let me read....

dali
09 Jun 2009 12:54

im on tvsa fo sure

LM
09 Jun 2009 12:55

LOL Amza, afterall this is TVSA neh!!!!!

No comment!!!!

Amza
09 Jun 2009 12:58

Kkwakwakwakwa....oops how can I do that after all that has been said..

@dali & LM..I feel like tvsa groupie

maud
09 Jun 2009 13:00

what does he want from a woman- i have been asking this question for years- till to day still can get the answer

to a woman, it doen,t matter what he wants whats important is what do you want from him, you will never certify a man

Mummy,s Boy - i am getting married to one, how can you Spot him, always my mom this my mom that, and you will always have to clean after him just like mommy use to do.

A good man is man who respect you and give you love , kiss your tears when you cry, always careful about hurting your feelings.

cleve
09 Jun 2009 13:02

All these things are just too compilcated for me.................
Maybe that's why I got married quick and fast.......LOL!!!!!!!

myname
09 Jun 2009 13:05

All these things are just too complicated for me.................

That is why i am still single at this age. Mfiiiimmmm

MsDee
09 Jun 2009 13:07

For me the topic just like Finding One’s Purpose are multi-dollars best sellers simply because there’s no formula. With each new idea people get all excited!! I say the best thing is to know & understand the only person you can “YOURSELF”! Do what’s right by you! Know your negotiables and non-negotiables. Another mother’s child will always be a mystery. Some take their steak raw or medium raw even well done… some don’t eat steak at all! And you’ll never know till you dine with them…get my drift!!!

Amza
09 Jun 2009 13:09

That is why i am still single at this age. Mfiiiimmmm

@my name.... Lol I feel you..

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 13:19

1. What is your definition of a good man?
is there such a thing
2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
Are you serious about me or are we just having fun?
3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
If he still likes it then no he shouldnt put a ring on it, he can put a ring on it only if he's inlove with it
4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
why is there even such a silly rule, its not like he wont cheat , abuse or vanish after he's had your cookie
6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.
better competing with another haffer then with his mamma, at least you can slap the bitch and he'l still come running after you
7. What does HE want from a woman?
Good sex, good food....and the rest, he doesnt know
8. What does SHE want from a man?
Money, great sex, love and more money
9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
I share him with my fellow sisters

Vesa
09 Jun 2009 13:20

True that Ms Dee

Amza
09 Jun 2009 13:21

@Pooky...haikhona number nine sounds to nice...

Vesa
09 Jun 2009 13:24

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
I share him with my fellow sisters......lol

maud
09 Jun 2009 13:24

@Pooky how generous you are, god bless you.

Katlegom
09 Jun 2009 13:26

1. What is your definition of a good man?
every man is good in his own right, no man is good in everything

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
Ladies, dont scare away a man with your 'serious' questions

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
yes he will, but dont rush him, dont ask him when he is going to do it

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
dont rush in to bringing every man you meet to your house and introducing him to your kids, dont know how serious he is, how many men will the kids meet, how will the kids look at you when they are older?

7. What does HE want from a woman?
cut down on your night life

8. What does SHE want from a man?
its a fact yes he has to be a good man but again he should live a good life, afford luxuries

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
dont try to be my mom, come on now!
my past life will not just disappear like that, give it time.

maud
09 Jun 2009 13:27

Good Sex Good food- i am not sure about the Good Part, Sex and Food maybe.

belz
09 Jun 2009 13:28

LOL Pooky!!
What is your definition of a good man?>>> a good man is the man i have now.

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 13:36

a good man is the man i have now.
hihihi.... aaah belzo i see you still in the honymoon phase LOL(jst kidding gal)

belz
09 Jun 2009 13:37

kwakwakwakwa Pooky!!! hlukana nami wena sathane.

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 13:37

7. What does HE want from a woman?
cut down on your night life

More like...dont have a night life at all

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 13:40

LOL...i love you too belz

belz
09 Jun 2009 13:41

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?>>>> dont even try and figure out how, uzosangana, kugrand ma esasekhona. finish.

TKSM
09 Jun 2009 13:41

1. What is your definition of a good man?
A man that loves the Lord. A man that regards me as priority in his life. He puts me first no matter what.

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine
how serious he is about their relationship?
I can't think of a specific question....but chances are...when he is ready and is serious about the relationship...you will feel it......i think.

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?

Of course yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Tjo!!!!!!Or would you rather someone does it before he does???????

4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
Nah!!!!!!!!! go with the flow....in other words just be yourself..........No rules PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.

6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.

Can be good and Bad........he mustn't be over phela how...just a little teaser like you know...then you know he will treat you like a queen......It's very easy to spot one......my moms food is so nice....my mom used to do this and that for me when i was growing up, my mom, my mom tjo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!my mom my mom my mom etc...Feel me?Yeah!!!!

7. What does HE want from a woman?

All that you can offer.

8. What does SHE want from a man?

Everything and more!!!!!

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?

Be the same person you were when you met...don't change!!!!!!Trust me.....that what you need to do. Be freaky in the bedroom.....try new things to spice the relationship...cook for him and spoil him sometimes. RESPECT HIS MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!

monchooza
09 Jun 2009 13:54

as long as there is still questions like what do men/women want?...there will never be answers as i believe every individual is different..

so the question should be "what does my man/woman want? and that question to be directed at him/ to answer personally

and as for " according to steve harvey" dammnit who said steve harvey knows men/woman better than any one else...phela these days its all about that book

goldii
09 Jun 2009 13:57

Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.

Bad thing, especially if he sleeps in the back room at his parents house and drives a Golf 1. Run as fast as you can.

You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?

If you were a size O skimpy wearing hot chick when you met him, stay that way.
Whatever you do , do not gain excessive weight, wear sloppy clothes, wear your pyjamas to the service station just because you won't get out of the car, wear unflattering /old pyjamas to bed, mantain that sexy look. Do not shave your underarms or legs infront of him, but you can let him shave your fanny.

TKSM
09 Jun 2009 13:59

7. What does HE want from a woman?
Good sex, good food....and the rest, he doesnt know

kwakwakwakwa @ Pooky----Good one!!!!

maud
09 Jun 2009 13:59

Respect his mother, it depends on wether the mother respects you.
Cook for him , he is welcome to hire the chef.

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 14:05

7. What does HE want from a woman?
Good and bad times...Care for me and Remind me of who I am and where we going..

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 14:09

" according to steve harvey">>>> U dont wanna google how many women he has banged and how he has treated his ex wife or is it the wife.

maud
09 Jun 2009 14:10

@TDC- Its about time, what kept you so long.

odie
09 Jun 2009 14:11

@ Goldii classic mchana classic - mummy's boy still sleeps at his parents back room and drives a Golf 1.
and he is very cute and the parents are taking care of 2 of his many kids from previous relationships.

Molilo
09 Jun 2009 14:11

Ok before I read responses let me do this first, I am in a new relationship I guess, so I will be answering the questions based on that relationship.
I have learnt to stress about majr things and see where it will take me,

1. What is your definition of a good man?

A good man is the one who respects my views and listern when i speak, not raise his hands for me and proud to walk with me in malls. And respect the language he uses in my presence, even if he speak vulgar with friends in my presence he must not

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?

Not ask I beleive in actions, one will say things you want to hear and act differently

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?

With my newbie I would not mind, but after he was warned of gold diggers let's wait for 3 months then I will say yes.

4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?

Nope

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.

I am meeting the kid on Friday attending a school concert together. We only officially dated this weekend, LOL

6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.

As long as she is not in the same town as me, no problem

7. What does HE want from a woman?

Love and respect

8. What does SHE want from a man?

Money, stability and security

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?

Go to taverns even though I know I hate going there, love what ur man loves. It really does not harm an ant if I show up in a tavern with him telling all his friends I am the love of his life, and them telling him he must be careful of golddiggers

Msoco
09 Jun 2009 14:12

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 14:16

@TDC- Its about time, what kept you so long.>>> ??? I dont follow?

JadaPinkett
09 Jun 2009 14:17

1. What is your definition of a good man?
A man is someone who neva give up on his marriag, someone who can't promise marriage thereafter having doubts en decide to date maddie
2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
are u going o marry
3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
umshado
7. What does HE want from a woman?
sex
8. What does SHE want from a man?
love en trust
9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
always tell the truth (qouted on white wedding)

Molilo
09 Jun 2009 14:19

What is your definition of a good man?
A man is someone who neva give up on his marriag, someone who can't promise marriage thereafter having doubts en decide to date maddie

LOL JP he really broke ur heart, harde mama

Lela
09 Jun 2009 14:20

Guys I can't access the blogshome,I can only respond to the articles under the latest 50 replies kanti kutheni?

BTW a good man is the one I have(in Belz' words), but ke mna this is 3 and a half years later.

maud
09 Jun 2009 14:21

@TDC - i knew you will say one or two words in this article.

ms.tebby
09 Jun 2009 14:22

I must admit, monchooza has now joined the list (my list), when I see his name I have to rush & see what he has written

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 14:22

Oh I c... Lol at the other special comment hi hi hi hi...

Lela
09 Jun 2009 14:24

Hayibo ndiyaxoka it's 2 n a half!

maud
09 Jun 2009 14:26

@JadaPinkett- i feel for you my sister, hang in there he will come back.

Lela
09 Jun 2009 14:27

I must admit, monchooza has now joined the list (my list), when I see his name I have to rush & see what he has written .....mna I have a crush on him plz ningamxeleli torho!!!!!!!!

JadaPinkett
09 Jun 2009 14:27

plz note that m not talkin to anyone about my comment but i'm giving replies sori about mentioning maddie's name ........................en Molilo no one's broke ma heart

JadaPinkett
09 Jun 2009 14:29

LOL @maud.......................thnx but no thnx for giving me a warm shoulder

ms.tebby
09 Jun 2009 14:33

BTW lemme clarify...my list is NOT about crushes, weddings & all those related stuff...NO! ..i just like his utterances here on tvsa, ok boys & girls?

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 14:38

dont worry Lela we wont tell Monchooza you have crush on him...hehehe bloggers & crushers lol...kuyathandanwa e-tvsa

MsDee
09 Jun 2009 14:39

I can only respond to the articles under the latest 50 replies
@Lela- you and I both!!!

Tshd21
09 Jun 2009 14:40

Eish me too Lela, for the 2 or 3 days now! It's irritating the isht outta me, anyway

1. What is your definition of a good man?
Someone who is not afraid to show his feelings, especially in front of others. Someone who respects himself and others, someone who loves whole-hertedly, someone who knows how to apologise when wrong, someone who is not afraid to hold hands, someone who will give reassurance when needed, someone who knows hows to take care of himself, and has a job...

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
I don't know...

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
    No, if he wants to...


4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
    No rules, just feelings...

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
You introduce kids when you are pregnant...

6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.
Don't know...

7. What does HE want from a woman?
    He needs to tell me...

8. What does SHE want from a man?
    Love, respect, assurance,  friendship and compassion...

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
    Good question...

maud
09 Jun 2009 14:44

JP sorry ,its just that your comment sounded very personal and you said it like you have a beaf against someone, buy yes i was wrong no man can dump a beatiful woman like you angabe uyahlanya.

maud
09 Jun 2009 14:49

@Tshd21 - You've got the Man. Now how do you keep him? it will never happen.
dont even try , you will be waisting your time.

Molilo
09 Jun 2009 15:32

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 15:35

keeping the article alive Fire?

JadaPinkett
09 Jun 2009 15:35

Ey maud bt it's fine coz u ma frnd

Molilo
09 Jun 2009 15:37

Yes Toody I am bored and sleepy

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 15:40

You shooting blanks mos...thought only some guys do but hey not in this season :-) so beware...

dali
09 Jun 2009 15:41

eish i dont know what to say about this topic......... *thinking deeply*

TerryN
09 Jun 2009 15:45

@Tshd21 - You've got the Man. Now how do you keep him? it will never happen.
dont even try , you will be waisting your time.

...wasting your energy too
Y all the good guys are taken...Life isnt fair...hey?

ms.tebby
09 Jun 2009 15:52

eish i dont know what to say about this topic......... *thinking deeply* >>>>>LOL LOL dali, that makes the 2 of us

Mfufuzo
09 Jun 2009 15:52

i'll save my answers fr tomorrow so continue ppl d gud work .......hahahaha i thnk incwadi iyaphuma ngoku

story
09 Jun 2009 15:52

wasting your energy too
Y all the good guys are taken...Life isnt fair...hey?I Could'nt agree more. Too bad for some of us who are looking

Pooky
09 Jun 2009 15:55

Y all the good guys are taken...Life isnt fair...hey?

LOL shem did you have your eye on someone there Tazzy but found out he was scooped already??lol
Dont worry there are still a few left...you still have a chance girl, dont give up, he'll find you.........................................................i hope hihihi

Heartsbreaker
09 Jun 2009 16:04

1.What is your definition of a good man?
Soul provider...( Ref: Michael Bolton lyrics)

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
Questions at all.....just Hints

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
ofcourse.....

4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
No rules, just feelings... (agree with tshd21)

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
The only kid i'll introduce to him is our first born

6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.
It's a Bad thing, one thing i can do about it is to call it quits(or make him choose)........"they don't call me heartsbreaker for nothing"

7. What does HE want from a woman?
He'll tell me......

8. What does SHE want from a man?
See Question1

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
the question is how does he keep me?

Mfufuzo
09 Jun 2009 16:07

1. What is your definition of a good man?
yiNdoda hahaha .............a man is a guy who is matured enough t make a woman happy, a guy who never dissapoint hs woman...blablabla

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
What r his goals in lyf ?
what does he want t acheve out of this relationship/
k this is nt a question but hey he should make a wish and then if d wish include my name dats it...rerere

3. If he likes it, should he put a ring on it?
Nope!!! it doesn't go that way so i''ll come again with d answer

4. The rules of courtship – should there be a rule for the first 90 days?
yhaa there is a rule of 90days if u r doing uVat n Set but fr isijolo yha i thnk dat will help us a lot konokuzidlalisa ngababafana ...lol

5. When to introduce the kids, and what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
when want t get married jst try n learn how do they feel in each others company

6. Mummy's boy: Good or Bad thing? How do you spot one, and what if anything you can do about it.
Yha i can spot a mummys boy coz he is alwys Blabling about her all d tym and Nope it's not a gud thing as ur relationship will b control by d mama. I'll jst dump the dude dats all.

7. What does HE want from a woman?
hai ke i'm nt a man i wldn't knw ths one

8. What does SHE want from a man?
Love,care - that is ashoulder to lean on all d tym,happiness,a future husband, frand hai zinintsi i can stop here

9. You’ve got the Man. NOW how do you keep him?
By respecting each others views, by loving him ang giving him d best support n love he never had, By understanding him but not controling bt at the same tym by not allowing things dat will hurt me at the end

wow to much questions nakulencwadi

Heartsbreaker
09 Jun 2009 16:09

2. What are the questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is about their relationship?
Questions at all.....just Hints >>>> Meant No Questions at all...........just Hints

HARAMBE24
09 Jun 2009 16:15

LOL....i for one thinks that all this books and shows about catching the one are so-overrated...My dad aint a good one, but hell my mama stayed with him for 30yrs and they are still at it...lol

My point is, just know ure story and disregard all this books....But for me, a good man is one that has a well crafted penis that is full of strength and cut...

Molilo
09 Jun 2009 16:23

LOL Hariri by now we all know

mathata
09 Jun 2009 16:28

men want warm-hearted women.

women,im taliking about me,aslong you have respect n you know how to f* ,life goes on.

aslong we know how to compromise.

Toodecent
09 Jun 2009 16:30

men want warm-hearted women.
>>> AMEN.... You said it all.

dali
10 Jun 2009 12:18

lmao hayi hariri u ni hetile shem.....

Foxxy
10 Jun 2009 20:20

Watched Oprah when Steve Harvey was on takling about his book. All i can say is: Totally useless.
There's no correct answer you just have to be either lucky or very persistant to find a life long partner.

belz
10 Jun 2009 21:12

kwakwakwakwakwa @ crafted thing. shem , if i have a boy for a child, i will shape and carve it myself, i wont stand my boy being told that his is not crafted, ngeke ngonyana wam.

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