*Sometimes life becomes so tough that we end up wondering if it is worth
striving for. You can be so down and out that you don't feel or see any
reason to keep trying. In all that, keep looking forward and remember that
you actually have nothing to loose but potential to gain, and when you have
potential there is hope for a better tomorrow, a better situation, a better
relationship etc.*
*I have recently been enlightened by the story of Ma MaKhumalo (our first
lady), what she had to endure and go through in her life to be where she is
today. She got married to our President Zuma in 1973, was around when her
husband decided to marry the 2nd and the 3rd wife, Kate Mantsho (who
committed suicide in 2000) and Nkosazana Dlamini (they divorced in 1998).
She has stood by her husband when he again decided to marry Nompumelelo
Ntuli and Thobeka Mabhija recently. She was there and is still here. She has
been through a lot, and if you think about it most of us women of today
would have not tolerated at all but she kept her position and responsibility
of being a wife to her husband. When Zuma was away out of the country in
exile for 15 years, Ma MaKhumalo stayed with her husband despite those long
absences. We heard from the media these past few months that the new wives
were already talking about the possibilities of them being chosen for the
"Fist Lady" position, and one would have thought the same because they are
educated and modernised for the position. Little did we know that God
doesn't choose the Qualified but Qualifies the chosen!! To top all her
sorrows, she never had a child with Jacob Zuma. Yep! You had me right, NO
CHILD! And you think you have problems? Well think again. *
*This really should be talking to all you ladies who are married and
thinking you married the wrong guy and your life is such a mess. Let me tell
you something, when you make those vows you are saying to God, I accept the
role of being a wife to this man and if you stick to your promise to God
(not
to man) then God will come through for you. It might be a month, a year, 5
years or more but God will prevail at the end. When all has happened with
your husband cheating on you, having children all over the world and all the
other troubles that you are going through, you at the end will end up being
THE FIRST LADY! *
*James 1 vs 12 in the Bible states that: Blessed is the man who perseveres
under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown
of life that God has promised to those who love him.*
*What we learn from Ma MaKhumalo's journey is that marriages fail these days
because we (women) have lost the meaning of being a wife, we want the status
but don't want the reality of it. That is why our mothers could make it and
we can't, it is because they were told at home as they left that they are
going to build a home to their new surname and not to visit someone else's
home. We all know what it cost to build anything. It cost money sacrifice,
bruises, heavy duty, long hours, energy, and lots and lots of PATIENCE. So
when you are going to build a home then you should be prepared to go through
all this because if you are not you will give up with the roof of the house
not fitted and that means you will end up with no house to call a home.*
*These days we are not prepared by our mothers about these things and that
only works against us in the long run. Our marriages are based on us making
promises (our vows) to man and not to God. We have forgotten that God made
women to be the back bone of the family. Men as much as they want us to
think they are capable of living their lives without us, deep down they are
born vulnerable to certain things in life and most of what they need is a
woman beside them to complete their home. This is a role they can never play
and you are the only one given that privilege to act this role. Keep
believing in God's mercy for your troubles and never stop trying to make
things better and striving for the good. *
*If you can't fly, run. If you can't walk, crawl. But whatever you do, keep
moving...(by: Martin Luther King Jnr. - slain US human rights activist.)*
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