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CONDOM BREAKAGE ACCIDENTAL COVER

Written by Venusseed from the blog CONDOM BREAKAGE ACCIDENTAL COVER on 20 Jun 2009
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You can now get insurance cover in case a condom breaks while you are having sex. The insurance pay out will be emergency contraceptives, exposure pills, counseling or nappies.

I would like to mention that the statement above is untrue and insensitive. I just wanted to grab your attention and I hope I did. It crossed my mind that we live in a hypocritical society when it comes to protection against HIV and AIDS. What I mean is it is apparent that most people stop using protection like condoms when they think they can trust each other in a relationship.

We have had cases in Mzanzi in which AIDS ambassadors who preach safe sex suddenly have kids out of marriage with more than one partner. Without name dropping or judging I just wanted to bring up the issue of; “When, what, how and why couples suddenly quit the rubber.”

Bongani and Lebo started having sex after dating for a two weeks. During the extreme heat of passion the condom breaks due to careless reasons (how you put on the condom, over-using it or storing it in high temperature places). They both freak out. Then they decide to continue without a condom. Reason/ excuse: “We have already exposed ourselves."
 

Micheal and Ntombi have been together for a year. They have been using protection ever since until they felt they know each other. They don’t go for any tests but just put their lives into each others’ hands like that.

These two couples are not unfamiliar in our society. I could give you more scenarios. You get two teenagers both 18 and younger (our kids are having sex younger) who both believe or lie to each other about being virgins. They are not bothered by the possibility of pregnancy let alone HIV/AIDS.

You find married men impregnating outside of marriage, married women falling pregnant with other men’s babies. Then some girl in your neighborhood keeps popping babies every time she sneezes (don’t mean to be rudely graphic).

I am not bothered by overpopulation. I am worried about our attitude towards HIV/AIDS prevention and management. I won’t even talk about showers. Some traditional guys believe in some concoctions that clean the system of the disease. Most people who believe in these concoctions and “begaminangedwa” (muti to make the other love you) also don’t use condoms because they believe the only way the muti can work is through sex fluids.
Apparently there is a group of girlfriends who sleep around with the same people. They interchange or exchange them and they are all sick. Apparently if you don’t suggest a condom they let you sleep with them without it.

The point of my long article is to find out if you currently having nama to nama; after how long did you stop using it? When you stopped did you discuss it and go for tests or did you just do it? How did the decision come about? I know your sex life is personal but just let us in or tell us a story you know. Therefore insurance for condom breakage accident could be highly required.





21 Comments

SistaBB
20 Jun 2009 23:06

I'll wait for other bloggers to comment,  then answer.

Lela
20 Jun 2009 23:27

We were about a year into the relationship when in the heat of the moment we went nyama to nyama(not nama to nama). We never discussed it but we continued to use a condom with defaults inbetween reason being we had already tasted it without. The sad thing is that I didn't know his status but I knew mine, my excuse was I'm gonna marry him anyway so if unayo we will both have it. Needless to say I got pregnant in one of the defaults days which were becoming regular, I went for the test when pregnant and it came back negetive,now its condom all the way(Jesus forgive me for this sin of fonication and give me enough strength to resit,Lord you know I do try to abstain but it aint easy)until we both go for another test,marriage counselling,wedding,marriage then nyana to nyama all the way. Huu I can't wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kakapana
20 Jun 2009 23:44

Are you ingage lela and when is the big day?

VusiK
21 Jun 2009 06:18

Wow Lela, The bullet dodged you ... Be blessed!!!

SistaBB
21 Jun 2009 09:04

Hmmm...I dont even want to think about when & how I decided to go skin on skin because it really scares the hell out me!!

Strolicious
22 Jun 2009 09:51

Then some girl in your neighborhood keeps popping babies every time she sneezes (don’t mean to be rudely graphic). ....lol..
 me and my ex we ddnt use protection simple coz we trusted each ada but we were scared of having a second baby,he wld come ndaphandle... thank Gaaad im still neg...

Mathaz
22 Jun 2009 09:58

he wld come ndaphandle......Does that not take the fun out of it???

I am married and therefore do not use condoms but i sometimes feel bad since nowadays HIV affects married couple more than any other group. 

GML
22 Jun 2009 10:07

WE stopped after 2 years into the relationship, when we moved in together, it just sort of happened as i was on the pill. we had regular tests done before hand, so we both new our statuses.

We stopped right after we discussed lobola and his family coming over. We're getting married now and are planning /preparing to have a baby after the wedding. We are now using condoms as I am allowing my system to clean itself in preparation for the baby.

maddie
22 Jun 2009 10:18

interesting article, even though there has been many blogs about HIV, I still think we should discuss it because the rate of infection in this country is very high, it's scary.

re a swa bathong, and even though di ARVs di le teng to prolong people's lives I personally think that pharmaceutical companies are minting because of our ignorance sometimes and soon or later the government funds are going to run out. 

Let's stop the spread of HIV bathong

Muru
22 Jun 2009 10:18

GoGetter
22 Jun 2009 10:19

scary thing is we all knw the risks involved when we get lost in the moment of passion.
I was so very lucky that i only got pregnant from a sexual encounter without a condom with a man i had only been dating for about 3mnths. furthermore, i am lucky we are still together.

bt now i hav made a decision for myself and my child, that should i break up with the father of my child, i will not rush into things that will leave me dumbstruck and regrettable. its my life therefore i am making a choice to live longer

maddie
22 Jun 2009 10:20

meant to say are minting money

Ms. Jay
22 Jun 2009 11:28

nice article venus as always....eish we were each others first and married so.......although he suggested it [our first night] coz I was not taking any form of birth control and they just didn work out....the smell and feel of it can put you off so I guess thats why pple don thata cover - am not making excuses its just what i have experienced in our short trial.......

popping babies like what....hahahahahahahahaha

Venusseed
22 Jun 2009 12:48

I suggested to my boyfriend that we both go for a test together because at the rate we were going with the bonking there would be amoment where we want to hit it skin to skin or have one of those oops moments.

We had just been seeng each other for two weeks (there I go, to F or not to F, when is the right time?) I actually appreciate him agreeing to go with me with no objection. It was so pleasing. We really struggled to get the officials at these HIV testing clinics which you sms your area code to get the nearest to you.

We had both tested negative before ( Itested in November 2008 and him in September 2008). Yes we did the window period thing but we decided we cannot just take each other's word. We wanted to do the immidiate one where they prick you and give you the result.

It was a struggle to find the people. Azange sizole so! We started in Midrand, phoned the clinics (no counsellors), went to Clicks in Midrand (must have appointment), Clicks in the South(the Sister on training) then clinic in Soweto (closed).

We did not give up. I went to my local clinic and he went to the Sister in Clicks. We were both negative. Yipee!! We got naughty and celebrated. It was awesome! But for the sake of unplanned babies we are continuing ka condom.

Eish nama e monate maar hey I think I will wait for marriage.
Sorry for my long story. 

Like Lela said:(Jesus forgive me for this sin of fonication and give me enough strength to resit,Lord you know I do try to abstain but it aint easy)

Matha
22 Jun 2009 12:53

Over 90 people have the Swine Flu and everybody wants to wear surgical masks. Over a million people have AIDS and people still don't want to wear a condom. Ironic hey....

Venusseed
22 Jun 2009 13:23

Yah neh?

Floh
22 Jun 2009 22:37

I was just thinking about that emini, when are we going to hit skin to skin, we've been dating for 3 yrs now and it's condom all the way.
He suggested that we go for testing, but I've been dragging my feet cause i know that we will start being careless and will end up popping babies while sneezing.

I guess I should wait for marriage, if I don't get it, I will never know his skin.

Floh
23 Jun 2009 01:41

Guys I am very saddened by the news I heard yesterday, I shouldn't be but I am.
My sister's ex is getting married, my heart is very sore, they broke up 4 years ago.

 We are just next-doors, you know those kinda relationships. They have a 12yrs old together and she was asking her mom(sister) that since the dad is going to mary what's gonna happen to her should my sister also get someone who will mary her?

She feels like she is gonna be floating in the middle.

obinna
23 Jun 2009 12:25

inyani lena sana people they just ignorant HIV/AIDS is there !!! is not about to know each other and how long our relationship started?.......Lets talk about it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HIV/AIDS is the serious issue facing umzansi and global>>>>>>>macomdrates asilweni nalesifo.>>>>>>1976 youth fight for freedom<<<<<<<youth for today must fight to be HIV Free.

Asikhulumeni ngayo

SistaBB
24 Jun 2009 00:11

@Floh, if she is the ex galfrend then I dont see any problem with the guy marrying.

I think it's high time that your sis finds herself a hunk to marry her, and its just a matter of time b4 she does (provided she is over the guy with whom the broke up 4yrs ago)

Venusseed
24 Jun 2009 12:56

@Floh Advise your niece that she must be fortunate she still has both mom and dad and if mommy gets a new man who will hopefully marry her, she will have two moms and two dads. All your family has to do is to pray that daddy still stays daddy to his daughter and new wife loves her like her own. May there be no babymama dramas and you know those silly politics. May your sister let it go and focus on the precious gift God gave her through this man. 
Tiyang thapelong. Only God's will happens. If she does not find a man there is nothing wrong. God has a better plan for her.  AMEN

VIVA Obinna That would be such a nice mission. I am already picturing the youth marching against "UNSAFE SEX" and HIV/AIDS. Phantsi nge HIV/AIDS! Phantsi!
One condom! One life! Kaulethe icondom yami.... (singing)


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