Of lately it has become a mission to meet someone the conventianal way and exchange numbers. I have resorted to online dating simply because there you get to meet a lot of different people, with the same purpose - finding love. A day, you get close to 10 people interested in your profile. However, conventionally, it is difficult to meet even 1 person, showing an interest. Also, with online dating, you get to filter through their profiles and keeps those who meet your criteria.
Background
Last night I went to bed wondering about a whole lot of things. In fact – I am lying, it was just one thing. Finding love online. I have been doing this for some time now and the guys I meet are just nje. Probably you are asking yourself what is just nje. I will break it down for you. I know I’m not the most beautiful woman on earth but still, I am no Shrek. I still look like a woman. In terms of my body weight, I believe that I am over average to put it mildly. One can turn around and say that weight is something that can be worked on and I fully agree. The challenge is that, how do you work on a 98kg weight. This is what I am good at online – picking up guys who are 98kg and above. These guys, you can see ukuthi baphethwe isifo so shukela.
Secondly, they say ubuhle bendoda zikomo zakhe. True that, however, I seem to be meeting guys who are 98kg, and not looking after themselves. There is no ugly person on earth. You choose to be ugly. There is a lot available in the market to assist in that department. Yes, I don’t expect guys to be putting on makeup and all, but at least make up for your shortcomings. Look after yourself, be clean, manicured and be in touch with the latest trends. Don’t overdo it like Bheki Cele. So what is the point of having a healthy wallet and still look like indlala yodwa? I don’t want anyone’s money, I want us to work for OUR money and spend OUR money.
Case 1. One guy sent me a picture wearing a leather coat in summer. I asked him, where was this now – guess what? He was attending a wedding. I mean really. Black leather coat at a wedding – isinyama sodwa.
Case 2. I have met a 45 year old good looking man, well built and he said all the right things. I said to myself “Thank God, my prayers have been answered”. Only to find that they were partly answered. He invited me for lunch one day. He actually gave me his address to meet him at his place and we could drive together. To me, that was not a good move, but after debating with my mind, I eventually found myself outside his house flat. I know we achieve things in different stages of our lives, others take some time to get there. Mara, haai man, a 45 year old man living in a flat on top of a bottle store, in the most dingiest places next to a train station, is a NO for me. It does not end there. I called him to let him know that I’m outside. I was no longer comfortable living my car there and I asked him to follow me or vice versa to our lunch place. He does not have a car – no, he can’t drive. So we ended driving there together in my car. To cut the long story short, I ended up footing our lunch bill as well (by the way, it was less than R200.00). Oh, I found out later that he lied about being an accountant. He is a debtors clerk.
Probably you are saying this woman is full of kak. No, I’m not. I have met a man who I thought was better than the 2 above until he said something.
Case 3. He looked good, dressed well, doctor by profession and knew how to treat a lady, well I thought. For our first meeting, he organised a picnic lunch for us at Irene Country lodge in PTA. This was our first meeting after chatting online and exchanging contact numbers. 2 hours later at our picnic spot, he threw a hand grenade at me. “I have an erection”!!! Wow – that took me by surprise and I thought to myself, this is not what I’m looking for. And for that matter, why use medical terms? mfm
I don’t want s*x, but a relationship. S*x will come later.
Now having read about my not so nice experiences you must be wondering what does all this have to do with you. Well, this is where you come in. I need your honest answer in terms of what you are looking for. Please break it down. Don’t leave any stone unturned. Don’t hold anything back. Critique me. I need to know so at least I know what guys look at. By the way, the truth won’t break me but will only make me stronger and a better person.
Am I nuts? Does this online dating thing work? What type of people use these services?.
Have you met strange / normal people online? What do you look at?