x close

SOUTH AFRICA'S TV WEBSITE

SOUTH AFRICA'S TV WEBSITE

ACTORS | ARTICLES | CASTINGS | SHOWS | TEASERS

Reality, Questions for WOMEN

Written by LeeCobaskey from the blog Reality,the truth that will neva change on 19 Aug 2009
Favourite this post

Let me start by greeting everybody on Tvsa , especially the ancestors of this wonderful social networking platform.Let me risk by naming maybe faming few that I ‘ve been reading their articles,Toody,Monchoosa,Brown Sugar, Best Achiever and those who always comment on other people ‘s articles but never writes anything like Lady D cande, awe,toxic.The newcomers(Lady Gaga, are also recognised but hey this article or blog is about reality –the truth that neva change.The aim of this blog is touch those issues that normal people and human being who have feelings are afraid to touch, maybe because they know how the next person would feel, put straight this blog is not for the faint hearted but for those who hold bull by its horns. If in the process you get hurt, or this blog hurt your feelings or we poke where it hurts most please forgive us in advance for in the future we will never apologise. Be warned dirty laundry, secrets , intriguing topics and sometimes not so serious issues are to be discussed .

Enough said now let us get down to business, This week on Reality the truth that will neva change we also celebrate woman ‘s month ,we do that in style by asking women questions that would might make the angry but anyway that is none of our business since the truth is something we care about .

First Question, How many times have you seen fokes who do not know their fathers , let say on Khumbule khaya for instance, why do women lie about the father of their child, Lying we mean not telling your child about their biological Fathers.If you are doing it please enlighten us as to why you do it, or if you were to do it on which conditions will you do it?.If they did it to you how did you find out and will you do it to your child? Celebrities who did not know their biological fathers until they were old e.g Desmond Dube,Jabu Pule and many more

Second Question,Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?
Thirdly , have you ever dated someone for money and will you do it again? Or have you left someone because they were broke ..Please tell it like it is. If you will never date a broke guy..

Fourthly , Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other?

Fifth, Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you shellerd a guy, would you try it if you haven’t or there are other ways you use to get him to sheller you?

what is the one thing you wish men new?

Last one,Does SIZE matter please tell us the truth and ladies please don’t beat around the bush if you know you like it big, Say it ?
Oh OK let’s hear how real you can be....

46 Comments

LeeCobaskey
19 Aug 2009 12:30

oh ok i dont know what happened to thje pics but hey let us hear from you

mabhebheza
19 Aug 2009 12:34

looking forward 2answers of this article

Pity its hard 4me read amaparagraph reminds me of composition days in high school!

Toodecent
19 Aug 2009 12:39

I saw my name in this and just had to comment but am not an ancestor tu ehehehe am still alive and will be on TVSA visible and behind the scenes till my last breath LMAO..
I see this is going to be an interesting article to catch up with later and I just hope (anyway who am i kidding?) it wont be sexified.. enjoyed reading this though...or its this R kelly song am lsiterning to? Lol..Number 1 sex am loving it..

Sammis
19 Aug 2009 12:41

Okay, your first questions just touched me! I'm a victim of that. A child who's got no freakin idea if real dad is pedi, zulu, xhosa, venda, tswana, hell who cares, just wanna know him man!

Tash 1
19 Aug 2009 12:43

1st Ques: no answer for now.

2nd: Yes, age is nothing as long as there is love.

4th: We tend 2 b jelousy of each others success, beauty etc. Some of us are wolves in a goat skin.

5th: have neva experienced such.

Last 1: Tjo, 4 me size matters, i want it big.

Lee what happened to the 3rd Ques?????

ms.tebby
19 Aug 2009 12:49

nna I dont have a father, although i see him every now & then on highways- truth is he has never really played that role of a father in my life, no matter how hard I tried to show him(with my mother's consent ofcoz) that whatever happened between him & my mother is none of my business...so i have given up on having to call anyone my father.

I can date someone younger-age aint no border for love...but focoz I there is a limit, I cant date sum1 15 yrs younger than I

me hitting a guy?? nah I'll pass

Size?? what kinda size?? - I dont like short men, shorter than me that is

maud
19 Aug 2009 12:54

Last question ,size does matter, depending how fast can the car run and how strong is the engine.

cleve
19 Aug 2009 12:54

okay let me read

Strolicious
19 Aug 2009 13:00

i know my dad and we gt along pretty well bt he only calls me if he wants money,bt he never played dat role of being a father im 24 now,but if nginga calculator money he spent on me since i was born..its less dan R5000.

i dnt like dating some1 younger than me...i prefer older man which is 5 to 10 years older,young1 thy will leave u heartbroken ,talking frm expirience

Best-Achiever
19 Aug 2009 13:05

I have more than handful friends who grew up without their fathers, they know who they are, some even know where they stay but those man are not acting like fathers, they have their own other children to whom they play father role, so what are they supposed to do. Im also raising or mothering a 4 year-old boy (my late cousin sister's child), he doesnt know the father, i also dont know the father, they broke up with my sis when she was pregnant, he knows my sister's home, heard that she passed on but instead of him coming "at least lie to us about what happened", he sent his mother and his friends mother they came with 500g NIknaks and lemons creams for the chids that he never knew, saw or bought a towel nappy. Mnxm so some male dont deserve tobe called fathers, we wont denie the child a chance to see him that if he bothers to find him, and if by any chance he can go to khumbule khaya for that... God knows i would strangle him alive but if the boy when he is older decide to find his family we wont denie him that.

Smilo
19 Aug 2009 13:07

1st Q - As much as we try to make sure that our kids knows their fathers, it is also up to the fathers to take responsibility and avail themselves to their kids...
2nd Q - I don't think i would...
3rd Q - Yes I did... and I will not date a broke guy.
4rd Q - Just to get what we want...
5th Q - no experience of such.
what is the one thing you wish men new? - Love is not all about sex.
I don't do skinny and short men... i want them /Medium/Big and know how to use it....

maud
19 Aug 2009 13:07

@Sammis dont worry i am also the victim but you know what i dont care.he did othing then so why should i worry now

Sammis
19 Aug 2009 13:07

Q1 : I don't have a clue why women do that. It's just selfish! And I wouldn't do that to my own child whether his daddy is a prisoner or Bill Gates.

Q2: Lenna ke re age ain't nothing nut a number, as long as neither of the parties involved isn't a minor. The rest is their business, whether it's for money or love. They old enough to sort themselves out.

(no Q3 dear)

Q4: I agree with Tash 1, women are very jealous people though they don't wanna admit it.

Q5: I don't think I'll ever have the guts to shella a guy no matter how much I like him.

Q6: OKAY truth ke gore gals like it big. They say size doesn't matter when they see gore the partner is small and they can't just dump them for size. lol And unfortunately we won't check every guy who shella before you say yes.

Sammis
19 Aug 2009 13:11

@ maud. Thanks for that gal it does make me feel better. But you know what I hate even more than not knowing him? The fact that Mummy doesn't even bother to say anything, nada about it. When I was a small kid, I used to believe it's possible for a child to exist without a father. You gotta believe that one dear. I mean most of my family members don't have dads.

Best-Achiever
19 Aug 2009 13:12

i will never ever date anyone younger or shorter than me, it is either we are of the same age or older than me, not younger and either same height as me not shorter

Some woman are very very competitive, that you must know, they subconciously compete just about anything, some not intentional and jelous is natural ke.... it is either you control it or it controls you. Some woman are very controlling, they want to control everything and everyone so if things dont go their way, they hate.

Katlegom
19 Aug 2009 13:14

hey Toody this article is for women, i guess we just have to read, dont respond

tvsa is getting sexist by the day. abocherry bas'valela ngaphandle!

maud
19 Aug 2009 13:14

try mine she went to the grave with that secrete but hey here iam alive and kicking
and its bad when you knowthat you dont look like her so you must be looking like your father. but i cant complaine i had a wonderful uncle who still treat me like his own child.

Best-Achiever
19 Aug 2009 13:19

i wish men knew that sometimes we dont know what we real want .. that's why most of the times we complain about them not doing enough or over doing it ....LOL

lady gaga
19 Aug 2009 13:41

OK let me see

Q1 - I do know mine but u cud say i dnt bcs he never did anything for me, i mean anything and to tell the truth i get bored when i see him and he likes to tell his friends or people that know him that im his daughter,agggh the cheek. he lives in the same street as my moms home.

Q2 - Not sure about this one but if he's got it all why not

Q3 - Yes i have and it ended in a bad way, when he found out what was happening he threatened to beat the *bleep!* out of me...lol but i still try and do it,again why not

Q4 - This one i guess we wont know the answer, its just the way it is or maybe its jelousy or competing, i dnt know but im doing it...lol

Q 5 - It does if the person dsn't know how to use it to their advantage, and it dsn't if they can use it to the other persons satisfaction. i know of one person who uses it and damn he's good, i always want more.

GML
19 Aug 2009 13:47

First Question, How many times have you seen fokes who do not know their fathers , let say on Khumbule khaya for instance, why do women lie about the father of their child, Lying we mean not telling your child about their biological Fathers.If you are doing it please enlighten us as to why you do it, or if you were to do it on which conditions will you do it?.If they did it to you how did you find out and will you do it to your child? Celebrities who did not know their biological fathers until they were old e.g Desmond Dube,Jabu Pule and many more

I know my father, I would never deprive my child of a chance to know their father- never.

Second Question,Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..? No, I just dont see myself doing it. I never liked younger guys or same age guys
Thirdly , have you ever dated someone for money and will you do it again? Or have you left someone because they were broke ..Please tell it like it is. If you will never date a broke guy.. No, My boyfriends never spent cash on me, And I was well off compared to them. But hubby was the 1st man who was better than me in terms of finances

Fourthly , Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other? Because we would rather keep the peace. I cant see myself stressing myself about some1 that adds no value to my life. why should I, so I just smile or avoid that person

Fifth, Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you shellerd a guy, would you try it if you haven’t or there are other ways you use to get him to sheller you? no- I have always believed that women are hunted and not the hunters. God made Eve from Adams rib and when he was done he took Eve to Adam and woke Adam up to see his wife. hence women should wait for God to take them there (to their men) and not take themselves there. hence the disappointments we get in relationships

what is the one thing you wish men new? That once you respect a woman and treat like she matters she will go all out for you. she will do things she has never done for you as a way of showing you how she appreciates the way yo respect

Last one,Does SIZE matter please tell us the truth and ladies please don’t beat around the bush if you know you like it big, Say it ? It probably does. I really wouldnt know because i have never had to experience it. Except the BF i had that I ran away from after seeing it. But whether they perform differently I dont think I could comment

ms.tebby
19 Aug 2009 14:00

I would NEVER date any man for money...If i dont love you, thats just that!

Serenity
19 Aug 2009 14:06

How many times have you seen fokes who do not know their fathers
Mina i dont know my father...whether he's still alive or not...I dont know.

Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?
I was tempted to try. I met this guy, he was too cute to ignore but my heart wouldnt allow me cos he was 5 years younger than me so i ended up saying NO...:-((

have you ever dated someone for money and will you do it again?
Never!!

Or have you left someone because they were broke..
Well my policy stands: i dont go for someone who earns less than me.

Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other?
The only women i really hates are those who tried to still my man

Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you shellerd a guy, would you try it if you haven’t or there are other ways you use to get him to sheller you?
OMW, LMAO. Can u do that??? Eish mina i dont have the guts...

what is the one thing you wish men new?
That cheating destroyed trust (for good)

BigMama
19 Aug 2009 14:06

l would never date any man for money, and a broke nigga it will depend if he can take care of himself first, if he can't sorry l won't date him.

Best-Achiever
19 Aug 2009 14:07

I would NEVER date any man for money...If i dont love you, thats just that!

Mee Too ms Tebby ....

dali
19 Aug 2009 14:09

i was raised single handedly by ma dad and im thankful really now, i luv dat old man so so much!

BigMama
19 Aug 2009 14:20

How many times have you seen fokes who do not know their fathers
Mina i didn't know my father...he is very much alive and l recently meet him.

Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?
Hahhahaha, like Madonna who is dating a 22year old, Never.

have you ever dated someone for money and will you do it again?
Never!!

Or have you left someone because they were broke..
l go for anyone who cannot be a burden to me, he must be able to look after himself.

Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other?
l only hate those women who treat you bad because they a sitting in the top office, so they undermine you.

Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you shellerd a guy, would you try it if you haven’t or there are other ways you use to get him to sheller you?
l simply told him how much l adore him and we are still together even today. There is nothing wrong with that, why must l stress myself when l can just spit out the truth.

what is the one thing you wish men new?
Not all woman love you for what you have, true love is still out there.
Does SIZE matter please tell us the truth and ladies please don’t beat around the bush if you know you like it big, Say it ? Obvious, will you be satisfied with something as small as a 10year old???

BigMama
19 Aug 2009 14:23

Message from: Changu Chilume 8/19/2009 2:17:35 PM

Hie. My mum last saw her mother when she was about 7 years old. Her father was a motswana and had 2 wives one in Botswana and the other in SA. It happened that she went to Bots with her dad who later passed away there. He was burried in SA but mum never had the chance to go back to SA to her mother. Her mother's name is Basontile, nickname Grace. Mum is Sibongile Jonah. They were staying in meadowlands in the 60s.

l think she is new on TVSA, please assist if you can.

KK 2008
19 Aug 2009 14:28

Firstly let me commend Best-Achiever for taking the responsibility of raising her cousin sis baby...my hat off for u...that makes u such a big hearted and special person. It is not an easy decision to do that, raise someone else's child in these times.However, play open cards with the child someday when he asks for his origins and try and avoid him running to Khumulekhaya. Tell him everything, even the niknaks story...lol
Q1 - I used to feel sorry for myself growing up without a father but the funny thing is after giving birth to my son (10 months back), I made peace with it. Mind u the guy stays 15km's away from me and he, nor any of his family members has ever set an eye on me 27 years down the line. *SIGH* - their loss.
Q2 - I find younger guys a bit turn off - to tell u the truth I am the kind of woman who gets turned on by power, presence, influence, wealth and mystery. Most young men do not possess these...which brings me to your other question...yes I have dated someone for money...but I equally have money of my own...now that I think about it, it was more about the power. I was attracted to him and the opportunities I could have being in alliance with him. But then again, it was not enough to sustain the relationship. Had to move on to someone more "powerful".
Q5 - I tried the note thing in his school bad in high school. Needless to say he knew but still did not make a move to shella me, even enclosed a movie ticket with the note. What can I say, in high school I was known as a "man-eater" but I wouldn't have called myself that...just a girl who always went for what she wants
Q4 - It is always wiser to keep your enemies close. I learned this behaviour from my zulu colleaques, apparently it is engraved in them at a young age...ask uZuma (Gedleyihlekisa - the one who causes great harm whilst pretending to be a friend)
LAst Q - Me, I like it BIG...case closed!

ms.tebby
19 Aug 2009 14:34

LMAO @ you BigM, tl tlt ltlt...pls write to Khumbulehaya on her behalf :-)

Mafresh
19 Aug 2009 14:40

That once you respect a woman and treat like she matters she will go all out for you. she will do things she has never done for you as a way of showing you how she appreciates the way yo respect.....AMEN TO DAT, Sister GML

Tshilo
19 Aug 2009 14:41

@Serenity,what if the person that u meet and like earns less dan u do. b'cos most guys who earn fat cash are players they think they can get any man they want.

blueroze
19 Aug 2009 14:56

they subconciously compete just about anything, some not intentional and jelous is natural ke.... it is either you control it or it controls you. very true. to kill the spirit of jealousy...compliment....just compliment, meaning it and move on! you will see the jealousy will eventually trek off.

Second Question,Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?for me the min age was 5yrs senior and then i almost dated someone 2yrs older than me. tjeer he was talking about his car this his oney that his house this.....i left without saying hello!

GML
19 Aug 2009 15:00

@Mafresh: I impressed myself there. I didnt know i could say such a good thing

myname
19 Aug 2009 15:09

1. Firstly Rest in peace paps. He was one of those people i thought i will grow old with them. I luv u dog!

2. I know what u mean Serenety. I almost did it but my pride never admitted but we were so close to hit it off. But now i thing when im 35yrs & single, i wil date some1 who is 3yrs younger. Bathi the s** is 2 good so i wanna taste that if i dont get married ndifuna i experience qha not a serious relationship.

3. I did try dating some mogul from home (not in the same area though) but it didnt work coz he had the biggest belly in the world & his thing was so small. Wayendishiya nge 12yrs ke lo. But now i no longer doing all those things coz i have mine but that time i needed some more moola. Eish u know xa usesgela & u cant afford ezinye izinto. You become corrupt becoz u want everything.

4. Hai ke i cant date esinye isilambi esifana nam. I like LE Good Life baba. But im 2 scared 2 ask for a money. I wait until umntu andiphe.

5. Some ladies can umdermine u until ucikeke. Some r just jealous of ur success, beauty etc. Kanti we r not the same. Some will stay poor kanti some will die rich.

6. Me shelling a guy? I like to b huntered dear.

7. Pespect & acknowledgment. Amadoda aqotho (In Khethiwe's grandmas' voice)

8. Size does matter sweetheart. The bigger the better.

myname
19 Aug 2009 15:16

Oh i almost 4got. Even though we no longer an item, my son has a good relationship with his father (i wish some1 can give me the definition of this word "father") coz abanye they dont fall under this word. We can just call them ama sperm donor.

monchooza
19 Aug 2009 15:24

All i know is that i am going to be the best father ever.....which is why i dont want any of these unplanned/accidental babies....

Bojuju
19 Aug 2009 15:27

The one thing i wish men knew..." stop asking "ke monate baby".....trust yourself....geezzz

Bojuju
19 Aug 2009 15:30

@ Serenity...that cheating destroyed trust for good.....that's classic...

BigMama
19 Aug 2009 15:30

Reply from: myname 8/19/2009 9:16:45 PM

Oh i almost 4got. Even though we no longer an item, my son has a good relationship with his father (i wish some1 can give me the definition of this word "father") coz abanye they dont fall under this word. We can just call them ama sperm donor.

Someone once said any guy can make a child but it takes a REALLY MAN to be a Father, l guess your man or ex is a REALLY MAN.

Vesa
19 Aug 2009 15:32

Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?
Do you meet a guy and start asking about his age??

Or have you left someone because they were broke..
Yes, initially he was working and everything going well. Then he decided to go solo and open a business. The first two years were hectic financially and that's when I left him because I was slowly getting burdened. It wasn't the only reason though

Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other?
I always give everyone the benefit of doubt until I'm proven otherwise.

Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you Not in so many words....he was interested and his friend hinted that he was having a hard time approaching me.I invited him as a friend on facebook

What is the one thing you wish men new?
It is very simple to keep a woman happy

Does SIZE matter please tell us the truth and ladies please don’t beat around the bush if you know you like it big, Say it
Yes it does....but on the flip side it's useless if he doen't know how to use it.

Bojuju
19 Aug 2009 15:44

Another 1.....hey...size does matter.......

ms.tebby
19 Aug 2009 15:45

monchoo can u be my father pls ? :-)

Mafresh
19 Aug 2009 16:00

Would you date someone younger than you and age difference please..?
Maybe, they must be over 35

Or have you left someone because they were broke..
I have never dated 4 money, but will if i get another dating chance

Why do women hate each other ‘s guts but still pretend to each other?
Mona or trying to protect ones territory

Have you ever heat on a guy and got rejected or how many times have you Not in so many words....
Never-ever, my pride doesnt allow that

What is the one thing you wish men new?
It's the thought that counts and not the money

Does SIZE matter please tell us the truth and ladies please don’t beat around the bush if you know you like it big, Say it
Yes it does....and he MUST know how to use it.

Mafresh
19 Aug 2009 16:02

Hola at ms.t **wink wink**

Jellytots
19 Aug 2009 16:05

Ive met my dad when i was 16 yrs and he never contacted me ever since. I was close to my granny(his mother), aunts and cousins and he never even attempted to make contact with me..so i dont even give a damn about him.
Recently I went to a cousin's wedding and there were rumours that he was also coming..lucky for him he did not pitch up

LeeCobaskey
21 Aug 2009 10:19

I must say I am imppressed with the way you guys answers questions, therefore Reality WILL CONTINUE, Watchout for Kasi Gangsters /Ghetto Kings

Only TVSA members can reply to this thread. Click here to login or register.