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Written by honey147 from the blog the ugly truth on 17 Sep 2009
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How many times have you asked person a question and they tell you exactly what you wanted to hear..?e.g you are so sexy when you do that,..I love you....you are the only person that I'm seeing...blah blah blah...And after they tell you, you realise that you actually wanted to know the truth.But how many times do you get to hear that?How many times to you get to tell it?

Like you would actually like to know if you do look sexy as you think ,when you are posing for him in your sexy lingerie..or should you really give up and loose a bit of weight before you do that...And you like to know really if you are good in bed,or is he just saying that to get it on...And yes you would really like a friend to tell you ,when your outfit or that short that you like really suits you...

I don't know about you,but I for one like the truth,not all the time ,but sometimes it's neccessary and deadly important.However telling it ,is somethinmg else on the other hand.Why is it that it's so difficult to tell the truth and so easy to just lie?live the lie and torture yourself.Why is it that we are more afraid of what could become of the truth,than that torture?Take me for example I'm not inlove with my man anymore...and here I am ...going home to him every night ...and trust me sex with him is somewhat torture....Why is it that I just cant tell him?

Do we really as humans want to live the clean honest life ,or do we just live a lie as an excuse?Or is that we prefer pretences therefore mystery?Like we all know there's no Santa,but we still put dolls of him under our trees on christmast and tell kids about him....?I mean really....What do you think?Tell me about it?

22 Comments

GML
18 Sep 2009 08:01

The truth hurts and hurting people is not nice. So I suppose it is easier to lie than to be truthful and hurt that person

Blac African
18 Sep 2009 08:32

Blac African
18 Sep 2009 08:34

just to @ least make it 3 replies, its been posted since yesterday and well the truth hurts: noone is taken by this article...overdone,

poshspice
18 Sep 2009 08:46

sometimes what is the truth to you might not be for me, we view things subjectively, based on our standards.....we have different tastes etc. when it comes to complements, I go for what feels good to me....it's good to be complemented on especially by your loved ones but it starts with you..

The truth hurts, sometimes 'no comment' is better or lie...because if the person feels good about themselves at that particular moment, why spoil it..

what I don't like is when you get mixed reaction. you change a hairstyle, your boyfiend thinks it's horrible, your friends think it's fabulous your co-workers are split, some think the scurl you did last year looked much better....confusion!!!! so, I do what is best for mwa, I'm learning to trust my instict and learn from my mistakes, if he complements me, it is a bonus but I still carry myself with lots of swag...even if he doesn't

maud
18 Sep 2009 08:52

HI
I dont listen to anyone,s comment, eg- as poshspice had mentioned, when i change my hair style, i always hear , i liked the one you did the last time, and to think back he never said anything that time. ilike your body when you have gained a little bit, you look stunning,it looks like you have lost some kilos, what a hell ufunani kanti lomuntu, so what i feel comfortable with i keep it, if not do another one,

GML
18 Sep 2009 09:14

@Blac African

I know you received not so nice comments on your last article but please dont think that being negative on other people's blog's will make people all negative. Or it will make you feel better about the negative comments you received or that thing you called an article.

We didnt see this article yesterday hence my commenting on it today. It has nothing to do with the article being overdone as you say it.

maud
18 Sep 2009 09:17

@GML- as i always say , somethings are not worth answered,lets enjoy the article and have fun.

GML
18 Sep 2009 09:18

@Maud

I know what you mean. People fail to complement you sometimes and when you do something different then they all of sudden like the previous thing.

I also dont listen to people I do what I like and if you're not happy with it tough. Unless you're going to give me money to change this hairstyle you don't like then shut it.

@Poshspice- I agree

Sometimes a no comment is better, but sometimes for growth purposes peple need to hear the truth. It's called constructive criticism

Ms. Jay
18 Sep 2009 09:22

@ GML....I think Blac African was just tryin to be funny, no need to lash out @ her. Let her be, she is different from the rest of us so let her be.

but i think that like poshspice said; we all see things differently, like wat I may like my hubby may hate; etc.... I don think it wisdom to ask someone to be your mirror in life; always confirming with another person; it can lower your self esteem...

Ms. Jay
18 Sep 2009 09:24

GML - if you call it constructive criticism then the hearer must be mature enuf to accept and decline certain comments; otherwise you end up with a person who has esteem issues

maud
18 Sep 2009 09:26

its funny because iam one of those people who calls a spade a spade, i dont care how you will fill i always try to tell you as it is, and i have learn that people turn to be violent when they hear the truth, ohh yes it hurts but you have to know the truth, you can be bitter as much as you can, i dont hold grudges , but i will tell you exectly as it is, and is up to you how you take it, being a friend or boyfriend, husband or relative,

JadaPinkett
18 Sep 2009 09:27

@maud..........exactly dear ....let enjoy the article en stop taking the anger from other article to this article.

GML
18 Sep 2009 09:33

Ms Jay

I hear you. However, there are subtle ways of constructively criticising a person. I am merely saying that based on the situation at hand or severity of the problem one can gage as to how to go about it.

If you know a friend puts on way too much make up on they take you telling them as you're jealous. But if you say My friend you are beautiful and the make up covers the beauty too much, if you toned it down a bit it will enhance your beauty instead of hide it completely.

Now whether or not your friend is beautiful is subjective. lol. But there are ways of being truthful and subtle as well

Ms. Jay
18 Sep 2009 09:33

JP welcome back....

Blac African
18 Sep 2009 09:38

Reply from: GML 9/18/2009 3:14:38 PM

@Blac African

I know you received not so nice comments on your last article but please dont think that being negative on other people's blog's will make people all negative. Or it will make you feel better about the negative comments you received or that thing you called an article.

sigh....I don hold grudges, if I recall you were one of those with negative things to say to me, for wateva reason I don mind, I understand that we all have different view points...if you cant handle the fact that I don see things the way you do or joke in the same manner in which you do then thats not my problem but yours; and that thing you are referring to ; was an article i have seen worse

maud
18 Sep 2009 09:39

no say it jokingly, my friend where you painting the face or putting a make up, is too much man, ngathi uyipoko manje , tone it down then laugh, trust she will,

JadaPinkett
18 Sep 2009 09:40

Well mina i think telling the all the tym may hurt but sometiys u need to tell the r\truth if u can take a look back to "White Wedding" movies" en see wat happened to Ayanda en Elvis that was a mess.

But there's tym where u need to tell the truth even better or worst ...but min a i prefer to hear the truth even the it hurt but i know my self that i'll go thru en pass to that atleast it was the truth.

JadaPinkett
18 Sep 2009 09:46

En i lyk it when my frnd will tell me that " JP u don't look nycon dat jean try the other one well unlike when she'll keep on laughing at me

Ms. Jay
18 Sep 2009 09:48

I hear you. However, there are subtle ways of constructively criticising a person. I am merely saying that based on the situation at hand or severity of the problem one can gage as to how to go about it. use that approach with Blac African; you guys seem to have a problem with each other

no say it jokingly, my friend where you painting the face or putting a make up, is too much man, ngathi uyipoko manje , tone it down then laugh, trust she will, LOL maud, but she will think you just joking and never change; I have a friend like that - eish I normally ask if she is feeling too hot under that mask of makeup; I will be serious and she thinks I will be joking upto now she still has that extra face;

JP - sometimes it can affect your esteem - its not always nice hearing stuff esp about your appearence esp if you cant permanently change it like your looks,

maud
18 Sep 2009 09:55

Ms.Jay- make up can be changed, i mean obviously you cant expect someone to change her looks, but you can tell her to change het attitute if it stings, Hair style is changeable , ezinye zikukhipha isi phongo , some makes your nose to be more flat. things like that can be changed

i dont mind i have afriend who always say to me ,i dont like this trouser ,i kwenza ngathi uyisishwapha, off cause i did say where do you fit in, but trust me i never wore that trouser again.

Ms. Jay
18 Sep 2009 10:05

sometimes I wish I could just wipe it off for her, eish i feel the heat the her and she will shining with that glossy foundation, I personally prefer powder foundation coz i don sweat under it - or maybe coz i dunno how to apply liquid foundation?

anyway - I know alot of pple who hate the way i dress but i don care, i have a bump and if i look untidy to you i cant squeeze in my belly to suit you....so yes there are some things that can be changed and others that cant as GML put it its up to finding the right way of teling it like it is

honey147
18 Sep 2009 14:01

I hear you guys talking about make-up,and clothes..but what about relationship?do you tell or live a lie...I mean do you tell him that one of his friends is giving you teh eye..or that you jsut want to explore a three some..?
Guys do you tell your woman your biggest fantacies?

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