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Written by Best-Achiever from the blog Only the Best is Achieved Here on 30 Sep 2009
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This is what went down Weenen near Ladysmit, the past weekend

"I want her to be happy," he said of Vilakazi, who was given a gold wristwatch at Saturday's ceremony. "I think getting married to her for the second time would make her happy since I will be taking in three other wives, so this will relieve her in some way."



There were minor hiccups and delays, but when Milton Mbhele and his four brides stepped out of their limousine and held hands, there was a sense of triumph on the groom's face. 

Mbhele1

On Saturday, Mbhele exchanged vows with his four brides, sealing each "I do" with a kiss in a packed marquee at Weenen, near Ladysmit

"This is a dream come true for me. After all the planning and hard work, I am glad to see the day finally arriving," the exhausted-looking Mbhele said. 


Mbhele3

Explaining the decision to marry his four brides at once, Mbhele, the municipal manager of the Indaka local municipality, said economic considerations had been at play. "This tent costs R45 000. Separate weddings to the four ladies would therefore have set me back by close to R200 000 for the venue alone, so I chose this option and frankly I think it was a good move," he said. 

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While aware of the publicity his wedding has generated, Mbhele did not say that his move would encourage other men to follow suit.

"In the end, as a man you must do what puts you at ease and the best that you can do is to stay original," he said. 

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One guest at the wedding said he had arrived to see what he thought was a prank.

"This is a man among men. Even His Majesty King Goodwill (Zwelithini), with his many wives, has never married more than one bride at once," said the man, who would not be named.

The brides, clearly surprised at the huge turnout, presented a united front, each one saying she was unmoved by the prospect of being in a polygamous marriage.

"The important thing is that we get along and respect each other.

"We believe that this arrangement is going to work out without much difficulty," said Smangele Cele, 23, the youngest of the four brides.

She said she was looking forward to marrying Mbhele, although it means she will have to share him.

She said the wives planned to live separately, and take turns spending time with their husband.

The women, resplendent in their white gowns, each received a ring and a kiss from the groom at Saturday's Christian ceremony.

Yesterday, the families gathered for a second traditional Zulu wedding and said that they planned to exchange gifts today.

Mbhele has already been married to Thobile Vilakazi, one of the four brides, for 12 years and has 11 children.

He did not specify who their mothers were. 

The other wives were Zanele Langa and Happiness Mdlolo, both 24, and Cele. South African law recognises traditional polygamous marriages, but while polygamy remains common among several tribes, including the Zulus and Swazis, simultaneous weddings seldom occur.



154 Comments

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 12:47

Got this on an email ... i have been shaking my head since then....

Tash 1
30 Sep 2009 12:57

Tjo, wuld rather divorce ma hubby, am against polygamy.How many tymz is he gonna go 4 honeymoon,1nce or 4 tyms? Or they'll jus hev 1 rum n' 1 very big bed, i can imagine myslef watching TV or singing while waiting 4 him 2 finish wit wife No. 2 or so. No maan.  Ths is abuse.

J-Girl
30 Sep 2009 13:14

I am asking myself if God is okay with this?

Storrm
30 Sep 2009 13:15

OMGosh...so he though he'd marry her again just so she wouldnt feel left out on the big day lol...yoh id rather divorce also

Dasha
30 Sep 2009 13:15

I am asking myself if God is okay with this?

lol

nekzo
30 Sep 2009 13:19

I read this morning that the very same guy is suspended at work I dont know for what

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 13:20

All i want to know is ... How is the service delivery under his municipality? and Modimo, these children are under 25, what are their parents saying? nkm nkm nkm nkm.....

Storrm
30 Sep 2009 13:21

And i wonder if they are marrying Mr. Mbhele for love or because he's the local municipal manager...hhhmmm

TheLady
30 Sep 2009 13:23

Hehehe imanager yamaspala yonke le...anyway this was one of those weddings ezenze iEstcourt yaba live for a weekend, people were just looking forward to it. Kodwa ngeke amfice uSolomon

TheLady
30 Sep 2009 13:26

BA-Weenen is  like a poor village-roads are bad, no water. It's a farming town..kuyabheda nje. 

Apparently he paid half a million for this do.

cleve
30 Sep 2009 13:28

I respect people's choices mara mina angeke. Eish imali ye masipala can make you go mad

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 13:30

Tjo TheLady.... kuyadlalwa ngabantu kodwa eSouth Africa.... im sorry for thinking that, this is municipality money but i cant help it ....

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 13:40

what has become of this world we live in? I would never ever......hmm and to think Solomon had 700 women? sick

KeleFabulous
30 Sep 2009 13:49

makes me wonder gore jaaka ba fodile line mo sele senepe se sengwe, is this going to be the same thing when it comes to matters of the bedroom?

cleve
30 Sep 2009 13:54

what has become of this world we live in?

I prefer men who are like this man and it will be your choice whether you want to continue or not. Many men act like they are in monogomous marraiges kanti they are not.

sponono
30 Sep 2009 13:55

if the guy has been suspended from work and he can suddenly afford to spend half a mill on a wedding so soon..well y'all know about the municipality financial mismanagement..stories but I'm not sayin anythin....

anyhoo those brides dont look HAPPY at all, its a "functional" wedding..if I can call it that..i.e sumthin they HAD to go thru jUst so that bezongena emashezini...so TO THEM its like they are applying for i-tender...LOL...soon they'll be settled nicely in their homes getting that occassional shag from this bozzo...I dont think for ANY ONE of them this was their DREAM wedding..ITS WAS ALL ABOUT HIM...what a schmuck.!!!..(but I'm sure they'd defend him vigourously) 
.I'm not against polygamy but dang!! give a woman her shine  until the next one comes along...LOL

cleve
30 Sep 2009 14:01

.I'm not against polygamy but dang!! give a woman her shine until the next one comes along...LOL

kwa kwa kwa, at least the guy gave them a choice to accept or not

Cody
30 Sep 2009 14:03

give a woman her shine until the next one comes along...LOL

LMAO!!!

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 14:04

nyhoo those brides dont look HAPPY at all, its a "functional" wedding..if I can call it that..i.e sumthin they HAD to go thru jUst so that bezongena emashezini...so TO THEM its like they are applying for i-tender...LOL...soon they'll be settled nicely in their homes getting that occassional shag from this bozzo...I dont think for ANY ONE of them this was their DREAM wedding..ITS WAS ALL ABOUT HIM...what a schmuck.!!!..(but I'm sure they'd defend him vigourously) ditto

J-Girl
30 Sep 2009 14:06

zimbi nezi brides... mxim!!

cleve
30 Sep 2009 14:06

That wedding is too simple it's like they just woke up and said lets go get married

Ja it doesn't look like they even tried.

sponono
30 Sep 2009 14:11

CLEVE...I'm sure it was more of an ULTIMATUm than a choice...either I marry all of you or you're out...he looks like indlovu ka'yiphendulwa...the traditionalist zulu who dont take another word from a woman...

Mr Maspala  "lalelani ke bafazi ngesonte'l'zayo ngin'shada nonke niyezwa!!!
..
the girls in unison.."Yebo baba"

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 14:15

maybe its wat they wanted....simplicity...sounds cool to me

Cody
30 Sep 2009 14:16

lol J-Girl! 

i got this other email of a 25year old marrying a 60year old but it was such a beautiful wedding people! and the man doesnt look thaaat old, maybe lenna nka......LOL!

Loreal
30 Sep 2009 14:17

Umhlola-ke lo

One and Only
30 Sep 2009 14:19

Honestly I do not see anything wrong with this guy, having many wives/girlfriends is in our make-up, it's just that some men are not honest when it comes to this.

I have never had less than 3 girlfriends in my life and will continue having girlfriends after getting married but if I can have more money I will definately take another wives.

It's just that the society that we live in nowadays encourage and accept it when a stupid old man marries a not so good looking skinny young woman, buy 2 lamborghinis, rent a townhouse somewhere and become broke within 5 years.

If I Mandla Mthembu I would have taken 5 women buy them all Citi Golfs and affordable houses worth R200K each and live happily ever after.

Show me one sane man with only one girlfriend!

cleve
30 Sep 2009 14:21

CLEVE...I'm sure it was more of an ULTIMATUm than a choice...either I marry all of you or you're out...he looks like indlovu ka'yiphendulwa...the traditionalist zulu who dont take another word from a woman... 

yes so I'd rather be out finish and klaar. You don't know the lengths that women would go for money. So I say it's their choice ngoba bathanda izinto

Minzo
30 Sep 2009 14:22

At 23, three competitors & eleven step-children!!! Gaad forbid!!!

cleve
30 Sep 2009 14:26

Show me one sane man with only one girlfriend!

PLENTY!!!!!!!!

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 14:30

t's just that the society that we live in nowadays encourage and accept it when a stupid old man marries a not so good looking skinny young woman, buy 2 lamborghinis, rent a townhouse somewhere and become broke within 5 years.


LMAo now why does that sound familiar?

Different strokes for different folks - but one must take into account certain incurable dieseases when considering having many wives...where have they all been and wat r u all sharing apart from his totolozi? if HIV/STI visits one then the whole bunch r infected....

too cut a long story short - if you wanna get sick or die of heart attack and stroke fast marry more than one person...

one can drive you around the bend and raise your blood pressure wat more 4 or 5?>< + all those extra children?

as Minzo put it - 3 competitors and 11 step children - no ways....

dajazzy
30 Sep 2009 14:33

BTW I also have pictures of Unathi and Thomas' wedding. What a very simple wedding yhuu!! Unathi's dress haikhona very simple. It was like she's going to a no so important event. Her dress doesn't look like a wedding dress it an open back plain white dress. Her hairstyle is so simple I think she did it herself and the make too.And to my surprise the dress is done by David Tlale. That is not one of his best job tu. Thomas wore a white suite with black pants like he is going out nje...Hayi they went too simple for my liking and their decorations also bad.
Melanie and Zwai looked so funny dancing together with Melanie being too tall for Zwai, that is the funniest picture I saw there. Apperantly the wedding took place in Grahamams Town were no medai could attend. Lee Kasumbe was one of the bride's maid. She also looked like she wore one of her dresses from her wardrobe.That wedding is too simple it's like they just woke up and said lets go get married.

I dont think its David Tlale's fault, that dress looks like it was done by one of his(DT) interns, and i guess it was because Unathi and Bad Boy could only afford to pay R1000, so they scrapped around for left over materials to put together that joke of a wedding dress

Tash 1
30 Sep 2009 14:39

Can sum1 post Unathi n' Bad Boys' wedding pics plz, ndiyacela.

J-Girl
30 Sep 2009 14:42

@ dajazzy that was harsh yhooo... it was HER wedding day so I'm sure SHE chose what SHE wanted to wear!
Easy dj easy yhooo

Phikza
30 Sep 2009 14:46

Apparently Mr. Maspala did not pay ilobola for all four of them at the same time...he first paid 10cows for Vilakazi, then 7cows for Langa and 8cows each for both Mdlolo and Cele......and kuthwa uMr Maspala owns about 100cows and 250goats...LOL(inoba bayasiqhatha kodwa somehow)

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 14:52

OMG... i would be so offended if  i was Langa..why didnt he pay 8 cows for her also.... LOL better yet noba ngabe ugwalisele ngazo ezo goat ezo ..lol

and if he already have 100cows, 44 cows wouldnt have been a problem mos to pay full 11 cows for each ..... 250 goats, have never seen so many goats at once ...

Guys .. ppl differon what they want for their wedding and we mustnt forget that money also plays a big factor in your final plans... because Lira decided to get married in maritius (beautiful wedding i must say), doesnt mean gore the Msenganes has to match that standard ... By the way is Thomas working now?

Sips
30 Sep 2009 14:52

@cheesa can you please send them pictures to me at sips.herbest@gmail.com. I'm not against polygamy but dang!! give a woman her shine until the next one comes along...LOL...sponono yep...and am with you there - they don't look happy..he's 45 yrs old and utshata with woman that are under 30 yrs...can he keep up with the 24 year old energy in bed...don't think so - umkhaba uzomvimba lol...

J-Girl
30 Sep 2009 14:53

haibo Phikza why do you think siyaqhathwa though?

Cande
30 Sep 2009 15:04

Haiye No.. A municipal manager doesnt mean a lot of money and 100 cows = max 700K which is not enough money to maintain 4 wives and 2 soccer teams of children

One and Only
30 Sep 2009 15:13

Cleve I bet your man is one of them, keep convincing yourself. There's no minimum/maximum number of women you must sleep with before contracting HIV, you can also get it even if you have 1 partner.

This is the same reason why some guys shoot their kids and commit suicide when being divorced because starting over again is difficult and most have already forgotten how to present themselves to a woman.

I was born in a clan of casanovas, I have the most sexy beautiful girlfriend in the world and am satisfied with everything but I still have some girlfriends on the side and they are aware that I have a girlfriend but they choose to stick with me.

Phikza
30 Sep 2009 15:20

J-Girl...the cows sounds too much for me and andazi noba inkomo ey1 yimalini....so inagthi siyaqhathwa xa kuthethwa ngo-100

uuuuuuuuuh, 1&O ibengathi umtu ukulibele wena kanene

Cande
30 Sep 2009 15:21

I was born in a clan of casanovas, I have the most sexy beautiful girlfriend in the world and am satisfied with everything but I still have some girlfriends on the side and they are aware that I have a girlfriend but they choose to stick with me.

Isnt your girlfriend on TVSA??? which means she also knows about your concubbines??

Cody
30 Sep 2009 15:21

BA please send me Lira's pics.somblief tog.!

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 15:22

LOL Cande......

There's no minimum/maximum number of women you must sleep with before contracting HIV, you can also get it even if you have 1 partner.

y increase your chances

Cheesa PM now.....

cleve
30 Sep 2009 15:23

Cleve I bet your man is one of them, keep convincing yourself. There's no minimum/maximum number of women you must sleep with before contracting HIV, you can also get it even if you have 1 partner.

Please respect keep my man out THIS!!!!! respect my opinion and i will respect yours. If you do that to your women carry on and leave other people out of it./...

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 15:26

concubbines??  .... This word reminds me of Helen Zille and Julius Malema.... i miss election times...LOL

Cody
30 Sep 2009 15:27

sho 1 and only yena he! leshano la hae?  *whistling* LOL! casonova!

cuz-cuz
30 Sep 2009 15:29

he he he izinsuku zokugcina yoh

Ms. Jay
30 Sep 2009 15:31

LOL BA

cleve
30 Sep 2009 15:32

eish I also want Lira's photo's tu

Best-Achiever
30 Sep 2009 15:34

Cody .. i dont have pics my angel only saw one on Sowetan Website ... talk about PRIVACY ...mnxm

Phikza
30 Sep 2009 15:36

sho 1 and only yena he! leshano la hae?

tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl tl

Mathaz
30 Sep 2009 15:39

"You lead by example"  The president has set a standard (lack of a better word)

One and Only
30 Sep 2009 15:58

If your man was able to attract you, do you think he stopped with you? The fact that you have not catch him doesn't make him a saint. I'm just being honest and telling it like it is unlike some other guys.

Cande, she doesn't know what I do on the side. I love and respect that woman which is why I always tell other the girls on the side that I do have a girlfriend. Cheating is fine provided that you don't get caught.

Come on guys live a little, I no longer wonder how it's like to have sex with a fat, middle, skinny, short and tall woman because I have done it all and have determined which one I'm comfortable with.

Sips
30 Sep 2009 16:03

@cheese - i promise i won't..

concubbines?? .... This word reminds me of Helen Zille and Julius Malema.... i miss election times...LOL tl tl tl tl tl tl t...BA

Please respect keep my man out THIS!!!!! respect my opinion and i will respect yours. If you do that to your women carry on and leave other people out of it./...
OUCH!! ... TRUE THOUGH....

One and Only
30 Sep 2009 16:16

Cleve I'm not fighting with you, control your diabetes my sister otherwise it's gonna kill you.

My girlfriend is also saying the same thing about me, don't worry sweety it's a guy thing and the sooner you expect that all men cheat the better.

Cody
30 Sep 2009 16:22

LOL 1and only o sebete sa ho tlotsa tau ka lip ice

ha o telle tje o phesha ka dibono fatshe.

Dasha
30 Sep 2009 16:32

LOL 1and only o sebete sa ho tlotsa tau ka lip ice

ha o telle tje o phesha ka dibono fatshe.

Ke rata Sesotho sa hao sa tau tsa ho tlotsa di lop ice thle mmanyeu...

TheLady
30 Sep 2009 16:40

Thanx Cheesa-it's not bad..I like Unathi's mermaid dress..ok I wouldn't wear it, but it's beautiful...the whole thing isn't sad looking engathi umshado kaNgamla (what's his real name kanene?)

LOL @Malanie's bum...it looks wrong nje

J-Girl
30 Sep 2009 16:47

@ TheLady - Ngamla's wedding was a sad case though

cleve
30 Sep 2009 16:47

Cleve I'm not fighting with you, control your diabetes my sister otherwise it's gonna kill you. 
No God blessed me with a perfectly healthy body you don't have to worry about it.

If your man was able to attract you, do you think he stopped with you? The fact that you have not catch him doesn't make him a saint. I'm just being honest and telling it like it is unlike some other guys.

you are not being honest love, you don't need to be honest to me. Try that with your girl maybe she would appreciate.... it okay

If your man was able to attract you, do you think he stopped with you?
DUH!!!!!!!!!! HELL NO!!!! But it's a choice that we all make if we weigh our options and priorities. That is the difference...............


DONE!!!!!!!!!!!

mathata
30 Sep 2009 19:24

atchee CODY ,ontlhotse legaale,watla wantsha noa ka mkoting ngwanana.

dali
01 Oct 2009 08:14

tjo! beta dis women than me! i wud murder someone. i luv sharing bt dis!? hell noooooo!

Mathaz
01 Oct 2009 08:31

OMW how is he going to support his wives if found guilty and he loses his job?

sponono
01 Oct 2009 08:53

One and Only> said>don't worry sweety it's a guy thing and the sooner you expect that all men cheat the better.
I cant belive you've just said that...its the most generalistic chauvanistic opinion about ALL men....and not to mention that there is a woman in your life who accepts it ..

yes (some) men cheat..and so do (some)women..but not because its a guy/woman thing..people have different reasons for cheating and different reasons for NOT CHEATING....the notion that its a normal guy thing is an individual opinion (which yu are entitled to BTW)..but to try shove it down every womans throat (pun intended)....because YOU think it a guy thing is questionable...

Onna
01 Oct 2009 08:57

Oneand only i hope you also expect the same treatment from your women. If you were attracted to her why shouldnt other men be. And if they like they can also have may boyfriends so that they do not go shoot themselves when you dump them.

sponono
01 Oct 2009 08:57

so this is a sequel to  4 weddings and a funeral with a twist

Ha!!...so he did use the minucipality moolah....R600.000 for a funeral...my foot...people get funeral covers everyday cant tell me a MAyor didnt have one...so this bloke must have planned his thing from the time they met to discuss the funeral plans, (and of course the guy defending him surely benefited for the R600.000..supposedly spent on the funeral..he probaly got a vip sit during the wedding.....

when i grow up i wanna work for the municipality council

Ms. Jay
01 Oct 2009 09:07

triple lol sponono..when i grow up i wanna work for the municipality council..i am falling off my stool.......Onna good observation

cleve
01 Oct 2009 09:15

Sponono I love you......................

TheLady
01 Oct 2009 09:15

OMW R600K for a funeral!!! I'm failing to understand what could cost that much
1. Coffin say R60K
2. Catering R50K
3. Cows (to be slaughtered) R20K
4. Funeral Parlour R20K
5.Transport (for people on the grass root level LOL) R50K

This is me being over the top..maybe I can't spend money...but we are no where near R600K

nonzuzo
01 Oct 2009 09:16

This all boils down to parenting, bakwethu, can we just raise our boys and girls correctly, teach our girls never to accept being second best and our boys to treat every human being the way they would like to be treated.

My son should know nje from the start that umama will not accept him taking more than one wife and my duaghter should know that i would never give my blessings to her marrying a man with 11 children and 3 other wife when she is just 23.

One and Only
01 Oct 2009 09:33

Sponono I have 1 woman that I'm serious about in life and she doesn't know that I have other women on the side but with those women I came clean and told them that I have a girlfirend before we started a relationship and are fine with that.

Onna I agree with your statement 100%, if they wanna have another boyfriends beside me it's really no skin of my nose. They should do whatever they feel is right for them.

Some guys are not cheating because izishimane and I'm not. If most guys can be honest they will admit that they wish to have sex with as many women as they can.

TheLady
01 Oct 2009 09:38

I hear nonzuzo, but would you not marry the man you want to marry because your mom is not giving you the blessing to go ahead? Ubani kanti ozohlala nalendoda yimina noma uyena? 

monchooza
01 Oct 2009 09:40

<<<My girlfriend is also saying the same thing about me, don't worry sweety it's a guy thing and the sooner you expect that all men cheat the better.>>>

1&only umbhedo lo owushoyo

TheLady
01 Oct 2009 09:48

"women I came clean and told them that I have a girlfirend before we started a relationship and are fine with that" Ok maybe nonzuzo uright...we need to teach our daughter to never accept 2nd best

Iyhoo kusekhona izishimane namasoka?!?

cleve
01 Oct 2009 09:49

1&only umbhedo lo owushoyo

I am glad that this is coming form our brothers who were raised and taught to respect women and most especialy the owmen they love.

Sponono I have 1 woman that I'm serious about in life and she doesn't know that I have other women on the side but with those women I came clean and told them that I have a girlfirend before we started a relationship and are fine with that.

Your woman knows, trust me she is just turning a blind eye because people like you have fed her lies telling her that every man cheats. She knows trust me

sponono
01 Oct 2009 09:54

One & Only   ok when you say SOME  I can agree with you

Some guys are not cheating because izishimane and I'm not.   YES SOME

 If most guys can be honest they will admit that they wish to have sex with as many women as they can.  (THIS IS TRU...i can admit that myself...but it highlights my point that there are a number of reasons WHY they DO NOT .CHEAT.and yes one of those reasons is ukungakwazi ukweshela or simply because THEY HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO CHEAT..FOR OTEHR REASONS LIKE BEING HAPPY WITH THEIR ONE WOMAN.)

all I'm saying promoting an individual decision to be a cheater based on your opinion that its a man thing is just not rite..and at this day and age of diseases (yeah you condomise ALL the TIME...)...its just not sumthing we shud encourage as a natural phenomenon, it should just be your choice and your decision--and the women in your life have also chosen to accept such situation...  and you know what at the end of the day EACH to HIS/HER OWN..so long as you're happy....

One&Only..do you remember that Joe song (Dont wanna be a player no more...)  I guess he had enough...LOL

cleve
01 Oct 2009 09:56

One&Only..do you remember that Joe song (Dont wanna be a player no more...) I guess he had enough...LOL

KWA KWA KWA KWA

nonzuzo
01 Oct 2009 10:00

@thelady vele i won't stop her but if i have raised my daughter to respect herself and expect her man to be her man only, do you think she's going to marry another woman''s man and settle for second best, kuthiwa only 17% of a child's intellect is inherited from the parents genes and 83% is from what you teach them from age 0. 

The reason why these women are marrying this man is because it is not such a taboo in their homes for a woman to marry into isithembu (because of how they were raised) so they see nothing wrong with  it.

XGZGP
01 Oct 2009 10:15

Hayi noh, I hope he's using protection 'Ijazi'

Cody
01 Oct 2009 10:17

Some guys are not cheating because izishimane and I'm not

LOL!

Cande
01 Oct 2009 10:18

LOL, yah Nhe funerals are expensive these days...

Cande
01 Oct 2009 10:23

To all the ladies & gents who believe that there isnt cheating i will like to say to you please have a room for disappointment because it will happen eventually. Maybe not now, maybe not next year but eventually it will happen. Who knows maybe its happening and you dont know of it. That is my story and i am sticking to it, so dont crucify me for saying this.

Tholi
01 Oct 2009 10:25

@XGZGP, I don't think so!! phela abafazi bakhe kumele bazale abantwana to add kule 11 anayo. what a PIG!!

XGZGP
01 Oct 2009 10:28

LOLest Cande... u're  rite hey. 'Undercover lover can BRING you  HIV from another'...LoveLife

Ms. Jay
01 Oct 2009 10:32

lol tholi - name calling...kikikikikikikikikik

XGZGP
01 Oct 2009 10:35

@ Tholi, Angeke dear!!!! what's wrong with these women????

Sips
01 Oct 2009 10:37

@cheese saw them pictures, thanks...Unathi's dress is nice but i wouldn't wear it at my wedding...Mrs. Bala?? Your behind?? kanti uthekhwetshe kanje - yho ingathi yinja egwencele ecangweni...lol (a dog climbing on the door) Mara why did you have to wear that dress - ibingekho enye onokuyinxiba...

Onna I agree with your statement 100%, if they wanna have another boyfriends beside me it's really no skin of my nose. They should do whatever they feel is right for them 1 & Only - who are u okay with having another man -  the other girls on the side or the one you say you're serous with?? 

yes (some) men cheat..and so do (some)women..but not because its a guy/woman thing..people have different reasons for cheating and different reasons for NOT CHEATING....the notion that its a normal guy thing is an individual opinion (which yu are entitled to BTW)..but to try shove it down every womans throat (pun intended)....because YOU think it a guy thing is questionable... WELL SAID sponono

sponono
01 Oct 2009 10:49

CAnde..girl who did this to you....shame on His scrawny ass for turning you into a pessimist..(maybe not now maybe next year but surely the spare room for dissapointment will be filled...LOL)......

I understand your feeling this way, but as I said each to his/her own...but IMO  I think its more fun in life if we give ourselves completely and have fun, (what you dont know wont hurt you..once you find out...well you'll dust yourself up an try again..and just remember the good times you were having without fear or thoughts that you'll be disapointed... that way you would have lived...coz I dont belive life is lived to its fullest when you're are constanlty expecting the worse
BTW..some people think that when you are showing that you're not sure of their fidelity, you actually PUSh them to doing it...donno how tru that is...just a variety of opinions

poshspice
01 Oct 2009 10:49

To all the ladies & gents who believe that there isnt cheating i will like to say to you please have a room for disappointment because it will happen eventually. Maybe not now, maybe not next year but eventually it will happen. Who knows maybe its happening and you dont know of it. That is my story and i am sticking to it, so dont crucify me for saying this.

my rule is what I do not know won't hurt me...if I suspect something is up, I'll make a decision whether to stay or not ..it's true women can sense these things but stay in a relationship for different, and sometimes selfish reasons,such as financial, or the benefits they get from it. because of othese relationships one end up being self centred....we screw each other in the name of love...

 

dali
01 Oct 2009 11:13

cheesi i also want those unathi pics pretty pls!

One and Only
01 Oct 2009 11:45

The problem is with the society that we live in nowadays, we tend to turn a blind eye to most of the things that are happening around us and affecting us daily hoping that they will eventually go away instead of tackling them and come up with solutions.

Well known Celebrities, Presidents, Pastors etc have in one stage cheated in their lives and some are still doing it. We have a culture that allows men to take multiple wives and instead of looking deeper into it and try to understand why it's there we call it barbaric.

I see a growing trend of black guys that when appointed to higher position turn to being sex pest and sells jobs for sex. My question would be why? I'm not gonna lie some of the guys here in order to get in to someone's pants I mean good books.

A month a so I attended Jazz Festival at Moretela Park and 3 of the guys who begged to come along were the so-called one woman man happily married guys, who then booked a hotel with some ladies.

Monchooza uthi ngumbhedo ngoba wena unentombi eyodwa njengohlanya.

Phikza
01 Oct 2009 11:50

all I'm saying promoting an individual decision to be a cheater based on your opinion that its a man thing is just not rite..and at this day and age of diseases (yeah you condomise ALL the TIME...)...its just not sumthing we shud encourage as a natural phenomenon, it should just be your choice and your decision--and the women in your life have also chosen to accept such situation...
..........................Thank you spopo...very well said

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 11:51

Umsangano lo! mina angeke shame, kungafa umuntu.....

dali
01 Oct 2009 11:54

exactly ladyg i wud KILL sumone too

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 11:55

spopi o skhokho!

as for one and only yena,mfim!!

Best-Achiever
01 Oct 2009 11:56

Sponono and Monchooza ...ditto bo brothers!

Tholi
01 Oct 2009 12:07

@Cheesa please send them to me too - tholinhlanhla@yahoo.com

miss dikobe
01 Oct 2009 12:09

@@cheesa, can i also have em........bjorn.droeman@hotmail.com

Best-Achiever
01 Oct 2009 12:11

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 12:11

@Cheesa - me too,me too. 

m.allicia@yahoo.com............... please sweetheart

KeleFabulous
01 Oct 2009 12:16

One and Only your lies are catching up with you.
first you were a suicidal woman and believed your boyfriend deserved better
now you have a woman and are claiming to be a man?
can't wait to hear what's next

Cande
01 Oct 2009 12:17

Sponono believe you me no woman/man promotes cheating but the reality of the matter is it happens, and most of the time you will not know when it happens and do not want to know when it happens but its beyond our control. No one will ever give their partner the right to cheat but they still do. My point is to save yourself from hurting that much when it does just leave a little room for disappointment. 
There is a saying is Setswana that goes like "motho ga a  itsiwe ese naga". which means no matter how much time you have spent with this person you will never completely know them.

That is why when people have been disappointed by their loved ones always go like "I thought i knew you". You will be suprised at how many woman in particular have forgiven a cheating partner or are with a cheating partnet. You will be supprised. Look around you there is plenty!!! Cheating is real and it happens, so like 1&O said lets not turn a blind eye to most of the things happening & affecting us daily hoping they will eventually go away because they wont.

Why o you think HIV has spread soo much amongs the years??? Do you think it only got to prostitutes?? NO even a wife/husband loyal to their partners of 30 years have gotten it.   No one is cheating-resistant. Even the highest POPE in church!! No one!!!

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 12:33

thanx Cheesa.....and yaa u can stop now <<zip closedd>>

Ava
01 Oct 2009 12:34

Ava
01 Oct 2009 12:49

eish sorry bout that.........

what i wanted to say is i think cheating is a weakness that every1 one has in them.it is only a question of do you succumb to it or do you not.some have the strength to ressist the weakness some do not and hence they give in.there are various reasons why some don't give in it might be becoz they are afraid of the diseases,it might be because there do not want to hurt their patners or it might be they really consider the repercussions.But to those that do cheat ,don't go around saying it is "a guy thing".Cheating is a weakness ,mind you this does not make it excusable.It only means you are a weak person.

dali
01 Oct 2009 12:50

lol <<zip closedd>> indeed!

sponono
01 Oct 2009 12:55

Cande...I can only agree with you on the point that YES it DOES HAPPEN. and yes there's plenty of it around me but am I gonna accept it as a normal behaviour ..with the very same HIV you talk about NO!!!  in fact I also know a lot of  people who have never cheated or when they even tried they got caught or they were doing it to spite their partners (I've never cheated- and yes I was cheated on but found out later after a blissfull fun relationship)...I also know of people who got cheated on and they never knew it until the relationship is over and they were having the time of their lives DURING the relationship...so my point is why not have a little hope that people are not born to hurt each other they just are pushed by either societies beliefs (that cheating is normal) or negetive past experiences..but its STILL should NOT be accepted as a norm...

I also agree  that when it happens some people can see it but choose to ignore it  adn that builds a festering woun that might erupt badly...so my point is WHAT U DONT KNOW WONT HURT YOU so JUST HAVE FUN   dont keep it in your head that "mmh my God she/he mite be cheating"..coz that is to try and normalize whats WRONG...so that when you find out you (think) that you wont be hurt..but the truth is you will STILL get hurt whether you left that room for dissapointment  or NOT.....but thats just me  the optimist fool...LOL

Pooky
01 Oct 2009 12:56

One and Only your lies are catching up with you.
first you were a suicidal woman and believed your boyfriend deserved better
now you have a woman and are claiming to be a man?
can't wait to hear what's next 

OMG...tl tl tl tl tl

sponono
01 Oct 2009 13:03

tru AVA...it is a weakness....and those who succumb to it somtimes its to feed their insecurities and to boost some waning confidence bout their manhood....(or for women just to prove that she's still hot/wanted- or being in lust).....sometimes its lack of courage to face whatever is not wright in the current relationship, whether its sex/personality clashes/financail issues/lack of interest....

all the possible reasons have to do with failing to use you will power to say NO I'm gonna deal with where  I'm at before tryin sumthing else...or I'll accept my currect situation...and that is being weak

I CAN ONLY UNDERSTAND A GUY/GIRL THAT HASNT COMMITED TO ONE PERSON SO THEY JUST HAVE MULTIPLE PARTNERS FOR FUN.....

One and Only
01 Oct 2009 13:32

Kelefabulous here is next you don't have to wait no more, "You got your wires crossed I was never/never claimed to be a woman in my life before"

Maybe I'm intersexed and have penis on the outside and vagina inside but let me make an appointment with doctor to confirm.

I have played the card that Sponono and Monchooza are playing right now, pretending to be a good guy whereas i know I have a hidden agenda and mostly it ends up hurting people more.

Now if I meet a woman I always tell her first that I have a girlfriend and would like to have a relationship with her as well and state the terms and conditions and my availability etc. Then the decision is hers, if she doesn't want me it's fine life goes on.

I would never lie and say I don't have a girlfriend the next thing you visit my place you find woman's underwear, shoes etc.

Cande
01 Oct 2009 13:38

but its STILL should NOT be accepted as a norm...  

I agree with you, but whether you accept it or not it will happen anyway so at the back of your mind know that one day it will happen.

Sslave
01 Oct 2009 13:53

Mr Mbhele really made headlines!

Best-Achiever
01 Oct 2009 13:58

Apparantly they were even Jurnos from overseas and other African Countries  and they also publish it on their papers on Sunday(forgot the name of that overseas paper)

sponono
01 Oct 2009 13:59

One & only ...well I guess you've made up you mind...and just so you know I'm not trying to act like a saint, I know in a moment of weakness its posiblie that I might find myself entertaining the idea that eish awuthi ng'shele  nje ..but I think I'm just BAD at playing that game I thinks its too much work...coz women are not all the same sumtimes they mite act like they are OK with a certain arrangemnt the next thing you've got more drama than generations  so besides my belief that its not rite...I just thinks its a lot of work and time and emotional rollercoaster for the one I am comited to...(in fact it takes a lot of practice from your teens ukuba yisoka nje!!)....and One&only pliz dont equate having ONe girl as ukushima OK!!!LOL LOL

but outside commtiment being a player is ok  coz you dont belong to anyone

but tell me one thing...if and when you get married  are you gonna still be a player with the wife understanding  that its a guy thing for you to have some on the side...(i hope you dont think your MAIN squeeze is completely UNWARE of omakwapheni..which is why I wonder if she'll accpet them if and when she is married to you)

Green.arrow
01 Oct 2009 14:01

interesting story BA....i feel tht its just one in may unorthodox (by the stds of the values I know) things tht occur this days.....so im not shocked....atleast they are upfront about it...

I wonder what the 120 responses are saying????.....

Phikza
01 Oct 2009 14:02

it is only a question of do you succumb to it or do you not.some have the strength to ressist the weakness some do not and hence they give in.there are various reasons why some don't give in it might be becoz they are afraid of the diseases,it might be because there do not want to hurt their patners or it might be they really consider the repercussions.But to those that do cheat ,don't go around saying it is "a guy thing".
………….i agree with you Ava

We tend to give in to cheating and call it a norm because some of us believe that its something that is done by ANYONE who is EVERYBODY and that it will happen anyway just because it happened to who and who.

I think its all bout believing that you are no competition/your partner has no competition and that you don’t need any “newer” model to satisfy your needs or make you happier when you have this person that you going out with at that present moment

One and Only
01 Oct 2009 14:22

Sponono also understand that I'm emotionally attached to one woman and the rest we are just having fun that's all, should my true girlfriend decide to leave me then there's a possibility one of these women would be promoted to the higher sit.

Some of omakhwapheni are single ex girlfriends and some are married ex girlfriends like the wife of some pastor who won her from me by marrying her not knowing that I won't give up just like that.

Yes I equate a guy with 1 girlfriend as isishimane otherwise why would a normal attractive guy have 1 girlfriend? Just imagine being dumped/divorced at 45 and having to go back to the field again. Guys proposing is a skill that you acquire over time and if a woman doesn't like you she won't beat you up, she will just say so.

Tshd21
01 Oct 2009 14:33

Cheating does happen, yes, but not all people do it!!

Best-Achiever
01 Oct 2009 14:36

Yes I equate a guy with 1 girlfriend as isishimane otherwise why would a normal attractive guy have 1 girlfriend? 

One and Only .. i think it has been mentioned one too many times in this article ... Everyone is entitled to live their life the way they feel fit for themselves, you dont have to call names other people who choose to live their lives in a different way than you do ... and BTW isishimane is someone older who has never been with anyone, so someone who choose to be with one partner can never be isishimane

Phikza
01 Oct 2009 14:40

Now if I meet a woman I always tell her first that I have a girlfriend and would like to have a relationship with her as well and state the terms and conditions and my availability etc.
....................................nonzuzo was right, we need to teach our kids not to settle for second best bathong...imagine being told,
***"Babes, I do love you and i want to be in a relationship with you but please dont call me from Wednesdays - Sundays cos my GIRLFRIEND will be around".....tjo, not even WIFE??? haikhona...!

cleve
01 Oct 2009 14:46

Dankie BA....................

I am proud of isishimane because he is not selfish. I'd rather be with that than the likes of a SO called MAN.

Best-Achiever
01 Oct 2009 14:53

***"Babes, I do love you and i want to be in a relationship with you but please dont call me from Wednesdays - Sundays cos my GIRLFRIEND will be around".....tjo, not even WIFE??? haikhona...!

kwa kwa kwa kwa My friend ... i can jusy imagine that poor soul nodding her head ... hhuuuu hheeee eeee .... nna whether he say g/friend or wife i'll never agree to that Never ... hhayi nje i cant picture myself at peace knowwing that our relationship is like my work, i have to be in and out at a certain time No ... knowing that sometimes i'll just call and there will be no one ko reception ... nc nc nc nc nc  Life!

mathata
01 Oct 2009 15:05

ek mathata i cheat,is for the first time in my life,is not something that i like is a need,

aslong i respect my husband im cool,but this is my F** life,i know what i want in life,sometimes is not about sex or money.

is all about FREE spirit.husband n boyfriend are two different things.

Guys motho ga aitsewe ese naga,you cant finish the person......but my life n needs comes first.

condomise n talk to GOD he will take you to places that you never been.

life is full of F* *bleep!*,aslong you have room of  disappointment you will know what im talking about.

PS: ppl who stole food at grocery store they pushed by poverty,no body what to be bad person,but life.... you will never know.

love is like toilet roll,it doest mean when you go to bathroom you are going to get it,if you dont find it, you must try something.it doesnt mean you must stop using  that bathroom ,you must have n option ......but use it

iam not proud of my behavior,my heart just destroys me.

Green.arrow
01 Oct 2009 15:09

hm!...
go sepela ke go bona ka nnete....

sponono
01 Oct 2009 15:12

Only & Only....
while I disagre with your definition of isishimane..YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT PROPOSING...ITS such a tedious task when you're OLDER. and single...sjo!!  going back to the game is just very draining....vele ukweshela goes with skill gained from experience..where you get used to being let down/phoxwad ...LOL....mhhh  I must flex my muscles and go back to  the sea..to see if I still have it...

cleve
01 Oct 2009 15:21


iam not proud of my behavior,my heart just destroys me

Mathatha
, as long as you can deal with the consequences of your actions. You are not a bad person but you have chosen a different lifestyle and that does not make you less of a good person. I don't know your reasons and whatever they are it's got nothing to with anyone but yourself.  I love Mathatha............

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 15:26

wena Mathata dnt put God and Cheating in one paragraph or ur silly ways, rather put satan its ok,ne!

sponono
01 Oct 2009 15:26

mathata I'm not trying to judge you BUT your statements are contradictory  
first you say 
i know what i want in life, its about FREE spirit

but then you say

iam not proud of my behavior,my heart just destroys me.

if you say you pray to GOD to take you places, just pray for him to give you courage to do cheat without feeling guilty (because I dont really know your reasons MAYBE they are valid, and maybe this will do sumtinth positive to your marriage, it doesnt always end up bring pain..sometime people who go thru this find themselves discovering things bout their partners or themselves taht they were not aware of...thats why I accept that people cheat for different reasons)...BUT  try to find balance so that you dont hurt yourself coz there are chances that your husby will find out and he will be hurt..so you have to be convinved about your reasons why you are doing it..so that if and when you get caught you can at least explain yourself and wont feel guilty and you mite even still have a stronger marriage  aftewards

TheLady
01 Oct 2009 15:29

"love is like toilet roll,it doest mean when you go to bathroom you are going to get it,if you dont find it, you must try something.it doesnt mean you must stop using that bathroom ,you must have n option ......but use it" Oh my word, It's my first time hearing someone liken love to a toilet paper...daaaaamn interesting.

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 15:34

lol @ TheLady

One and Only
01 Oct 2009 15:36

Has anyone noticed how difficult it is to get a woman when you don't have one? It's as if they can sense that you are girl-less. I always keep abreast with the new methods and technology zokushela, I just cannot let a beautiful woman pass by without uttering a word.

It's funny how women here are so defensive when it comes to this subject, you will swear that none of them are abomakhwapheni or being cheated on. This thing happens to everyone.

Some of you are with current partners because they/you have cheated on your previous partners. No man/woman falls from a tree, they are always involved with someone.

Dr Nkosazana Dlamini Zuma married Zuma knowing he has other wives do you think she is less intelligent?, Bill Clinton has done it, the list is endless.

Sslave
01 Oct 2009 15:37

condomise n talk to GOD he will take you to places that you never been.

kwa kwa kwa kwa i don't understand this statement but its cracking me up. You know we love you Mathatha a rona..

Sslave
01 Oct 2009 15:41

Oh bethuna One and Only.. Sik'vile 'eva?

mathata
01 Oct 2009 15:45

im independent+ i dont want to die poor,it doest mean when you f* me you must rock my world,im human.

when you are vegetarian you must eat fish sometimes.

i wont pretend like things are good,sometimes they are bad,im not around my hubby 24/7,what his doing ..i dont know,i dont own  anybody,thats his f** life

when you are married to someone it doest mean you own them,if love is not over why cant you push until is over,it wont be over bcs you respect that person.

@cleve,the consequences.....is to work hard.n have money in the bank

Nobody has the right to own somebody,if you are willing to be slave

le mandela o paletswe

nonzuzo
01 Oct 2009 15:48

Yuuu.......this guy....thixo.......awkhathali na kuthetha??

Sslave
01 Oct 2009 15:48

le mandela o paletswe. Bathong...

mathata
01 Oct 2009 15:51

@one and only,MMazuma left Zuma bcs shis strong,that the consequences of working hard in life,having money in the bank is bonus.

you dont have to let anybody to run your life.

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 15:54

mathata u gonna make what u are doing wright and acceptable in any way bcs u are doing it, but mosadi nnete o a etseba.

mnyamana
01 Oct 2009 15:58

i dont want to die poor, @mathata. shame mathata always mentions that she does not want to die poor. i wonder...........

monchooza
01 Oct 2009 16:01

i wonder what lessons you'll be teaching your kids one day wena yena yedwa

J-Girl
01 Oct 2009 16:02

mathata please dont put God where He doesnt belong... condomise n talk to God

mathata
01 Oct 2009 16:03

is not right at all,but is part of life,that one we cant run away from it,is f* wrong,is not gooooood at all.
 
lady gaga,watseba gore bare ga gona ntlu esaneleng,you cant love someone 100%,God can bless you with a good husband you find out his not a good listener,the person you love he cant have 100% what you want.

cleve
01 Oct 2009 16:04

Guys what are you on about now??? Gosh, we have accepted your way of life and choices so please stop trying to turn people to believe what you believe.

Tholi
01 Oct 2009 16:08

(((when you are vegetarian you must eat fish sometimes. )))
yooooooo! I rest my case

lady gaga
01 Oct 2009 16:11

i hear u mathata, but u cnt have everything sesi, embrace what u got and love it the way it is gal, ke eng ka wena

Madamzee
01 Oct 2009 16:11

Oh bethuna One and Only.. Sik'vile 'eva?

LMAO! this one and only character is really something else!lol

Madamzee
01 Oct 2009 16:12

condomise n talk to God

what???lol

mathata
01 Oct 2009 16:15

@myamana,basetsana khumalo shis indepedent,dont you think for her to marry Romeo khumalo is a bonus?

yes i dont want to die poor,if i used to play with UNO why cant i let my child play with MURANO?

J-Girl
01 Oct 2009 16:17

that makes 2 of us Tholi

mathata
01 Oct 2009 16:23

ladygaga,my point is GOD cant  bless you with  everything.

if you are married to a blind person,dont you think sometimes you will want someone who can appreciate  yr cake?or your watch?

honey is part of life

Sslave
01 Oct 2009 16:27

@ mathata UNO le MURANO ke dikoloi neh?

mathata
01 Oct 2009 16:32

yes,lmao

sslave i just picture you asking me that,with gay face.......no disrespecting

Floh
18 Oct 2009 09:09

"Source Sunday World"...........

Meanwhile, a close source says playwright Mbongeni Ngema paid ilobola for bride-to-be number four, Ukhozi FM presenter Nonhlanhla “Mroza” Buthelezi, yesterday. The delegation was welcomed by Ngema’s future-in-laws at Edokodweni, in KwaDukuza, north of Durban.




I hope this is wrong, this is not happening, it must be a lie. I am so ashamed at Mroza, how can she do this to herself, how can she be nummer 4 to Mbongeni. I love you gal and I believe if this is not true, you can still call it off!

Did he told you "uystofu sakhe samalahle, ithambo lakhe le KFC, wavele wasangana.


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