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Competition or Copying, Healthy or Greeedy?

Written by Best-Achiever from the blog Only the Best is Achieved Here on 18 Nov 2009
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Is it competition or copying? Healthy or Greeedy?

I have heard so many times and also agree that little competition can be healthy but im not sure about it making you to stay alert and updated, and I have also heard that copying can also be good and often referred to as healthy jealous…LOL well I never heard of any jealousy being healthy nor do I believe that. Ok, lemme give examples of what im talking about

We know that Blackberry is currently the 'in' phone, you check your wallet, your monthly commitments and you realize that as fancy and useful as blackberry is, you are not there yet, you can’t afford it (so to say), all you need is just a phone with whatever features that are more important to you, that you use almost on day to day basis … so you argue with your heart and your mind and your wallet and finally you decide that for now you just gonna buy whatever phone with features that you want … lets say you get yourself a J700 Samsung phone … the next thing your friend or relative sees your phone and ask you why did you buy J700 and not Blackberry, you tell them your story whatever it is, well they criticize it and start telling you about how wonderful and classy Blackberry is …you just let it all slide, next time you see them they have exactly the same J700 samsung phone that you have and not even a J700i phone… then start telling you how beautiful or useful ‘their’ phone is….

And there there is this aunt who is competing with you, comparing you to her children…lol, you come with your from point A to Point B car, she tells you that her daughter/son when they buy a car they will buy BMW 1 series or whatever car because it is classy and match their standard. Whatever you do, they can never just congratulate you without a But….

Do you have those, how do you respond to them…. For the fun of it , let’s do it bloggers

These were just examples, no pun intended…

63 Comments

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 12:38

Let's do this

Smilo
18 Nov 2009 12:45

mmmm yah... My family (from my dad's side especially the ladies)there is alot of competition, from clothes, cellphones, cars ngisho namadoda... akekho obuza omunye futhi kuyahletshwana nje... It is so unhealthy.

Cody
18 Nov 2009 13:16

our neighbours nkosi yam where do i begin....haah talk about lack of originality and designs gone wrong.

the year before last we painted the roof in Green, they painted their roof in green,

we painted the paving red and black, and because our house number is 10, at the gate there are bricks layed out to a number 10, now here they made a bubu, they painted the paving red and black with paint that was not for paving now the paint is dull and peeling, at their house number is 3, they wrote a very skew number 3 at the gate..nc nc nc

last year, we put in new wall units, ceilings, wall tiles up to the roof , i dont know who they asked to renovate for them, but then gosh the units were falling and the tiles, I think they were not enough so they went back to ctm and the tiles were finished or something so they bought other designs that did not match, their ceiling was done by an amature gosh it looks horrible, i think they went for cheap stuff and labour. shame maan ke sono

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:24

ke sono ka nnete Cody

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 13:29

kwa kwa kwa kwa Cody

you remind me of this mamncane ... she is married to my uncle ..they were also copying everything that we heard at home ... lol some of the things that we had we had them because back then my dad was the only person working so he couldnt do everything including our school fees with his salary, so they did things that we were doing ... their house was exactly the same as ours, furniture inside, alles ..when you are there you felt like you were home except for the odore(sp), i wouldnt even bother to ask where is what because 'as it is at home, so was it there' ...LOL

so she missed one thing ...CURTAINS ... she hanged them wrong ... she was hanging them as if the inside part will be seen from the out side, lace curtain first, then the real curtain after ..so if you are walking by you'll see the inside of the main curtain and when you are in the house you'll see the lace curtain ...LOL God forbid... we didnt bother to tell her that curtains were hanged wrong.

but after 3 of us started working i became impossible for her to keep up especial because her 2 daughters got pregnant and havent even finished matric ... eish

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:34

but after 3 of us started working i became impossible for her to keep up especial because her 2 daughters got pregnant and havent even finished matric ... eish....Kwakwakwakwakwa @ BA naze namenza kabi bakithi your mamncane,and now sekuzoqala umona not competing like before

zozoe
18 Nov 2009 13:37

i remember in 2007 we went home for my dad's funeral this aunt said yhoo this girl wear very expensive clothes that i also dont wear and i asked her are you in competition with me and i told her hore you are a mother and i am a girl so i dont have responsibility to think about what will my child eat or wear and fortunately i had a father who bought me everything i need, so now he is gone will see how i will take care of my self

The very same lady published hore nna my father bought me a very expensive cellphone so she told the whole village about it i was pissed coz everytime i met with people they will ask me where is your expensive phone ? I went to her and told her stop comparing yourself with coz o ka se nkgone

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:37

with me it's my mom,she will come to my house or my sisters houses,then she will see something that she likes,then she will start asking you questions like imalini,uyithengephi,ungangisa la uyithenge khona,shame bantu old age....LOL

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 13:41

kwa kwa kwa nekzo..your mother ... lucky enough my mum is not working ...LOL so even if she might like something she will never just buy it ..she'll have to ask me to get it for her ..then i can get her different colour or make...LOL

GML
18 Nov 2009 13:43

My cousin who is not even 21 yet heard hubby and I bought a house she told her mother she is moving out. We made nothing of this.

when she heard I was getting married and started telling people that her BF wanted to pay lobolo for her.

when she came to visit me at my house and she saw my LCD TV and sofas she told me that she went to shop for a TV like mine mara hers was LG and her man wanted to buy it right there and then but she refused.

When she heard my parents are buying me a bed when I go to my in laws she said her mother promised her a bedroom suit instead of just a bed.

It's worse coz her mom does not work neither does she. My sisters and I both have jobs. I kept wondering how she will cope when she sees my wedding

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 13:48

jaa ne, i used to have friends who were like that, fortunately now we are not on speaking terms, they are my neighbours. we faught a while back and they accused me of being arrogant and always wanting to be the best. they cudn't afford much on those days, so i was the one with the latest trends most of the time and they used to tell me that nginestyle(in a way they looked up to me*clearing my throat*) kanti umona.

ngoba now they make it a point that if they see me wearing something or having something, they also buy it,i think just to spite me. phela angithi manje sebaya sebenza they can afford them. or they'll buy something and make sure that i see them in it.

what's funny about this is i laught it ou bcs i wore or had those thing kudala, so why bengiqhomela vele. talk about ukuqabuka!!!!

GML
18 Nov 2009 13:48

My favourite was this colleague of mine.

My birthday was in Jan and hubby had beautiful bouquet of roses delivered here at work with a beautiful message on the card. And I told her hubby is taking me to Hartebees for my birthday

My colleague used to tell her BF everything I did. So she told her BF that I got flowers for my Bday.

Her birthday was in Feb, guess who got flowers delivered to work? Her flowers were horrible and smelled bad. The following week she called me whilst at home to ask me for directions to Hartebees....

Tjo. hubby said we should invite her to the wedding, she will have a heart attack then

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:49

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 13:51

Hey wena BA she is not working she buys with imali ye pension...LOL

LOL... kanti how much is ima ye pension bathong ....LOL anyway my mum doesnt even get that

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:57

I kept wondering how she will cope when she sees my wedding
Tjo. hubby said we should invite her to the wedding, she will have a heart attack then

Thatha GML can I be on the quest list on your wedding phela I want to see,dont worry my dear I married a long time ago I wont copy anything.....LOL

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 13:59

LOL GML... she is in for heart attack .. make sure they carry iced water for her, just in case ...LOL

nekzo
18 Nov 2009 13:59

@ BA imali ye pension I think it's R1040,kodwa we always discourage her to buy izinto ezifana nezethu,hawu phela ngeke silunge sho

Cody
18 Nov 2009 14:04

LOL guys!!!!!! BA (curtains) and Zozoe (cell) and Nekzo's mom.!! yhoo!! why are people like that mara? i think with mothers they want to have modern things as well....if you buy my gran something she will want to show the whole world that you bought her something......everybody that visits, "tlo bone Cody o nreketse eng" gosh!! and sometimes its not even something that is wow..shame old age indeed.

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 14:05

@ BA imali ye pension I think it's R1040lol@ nekzo, hau nekzo ne R40 ngaphezulu...........................kwakwakwa

@GML, mina i'd like to see u hubby yazi, sounds like a nice guy.maybe i will copy and search for someone who looks like him. he might even do what he does basically be him...................lol

GML
18 Nov 2009 14:11

Lady G: Ask BigM, she will tell you what my hubby looks like... lol.

Tholi
18 Nov 2009 14:12

@GML, no day pass without u talking about HUBBY, he's a really lucky fish.
I wish u guys all the best!!

Sslave
18 Nov 2009 14:16

I always take all these things positively.

I have friends that like copying me. This other 1 bought the same phone as mine and she dresses almost the same way like me. When people copy what I'm doing I don't take it as a competition, I take it like they look up to me.

I have a close friend who has the same hair style as me and she bought the same bed as mine. It tears my heart when some1 tries too much and end up in financial mess because of trying to keep up with me. 1st thing is that we are from different backgrounds and our pockets are not at the same level.

The very same friend of mine now wants a 1 series and I'm not sure if it's because i bought a second car as i always had a car and she never wanted 1 like now. What i did is i helped her through getting a second hand 1 series which is still in a good condition. Anyway I was sort of tired of picking and dropping her off. Now she will drive us whenever ke knockile since she doesn't drink wa bona.

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 14:34

will do GML, BigMama usuzwile, come here and tell me.kuyaphuthuma dade!!!..lol

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 14:38

Anyway I was sort of tired of picking and dropping her off. Now she will drive us whenever ke knockile since she doesn't drink wa bona. Sslave, Sslave, Sslave o ngwana mang mara ye???...........lol

zaa
18 Nov 2009 14:39

Nna BA i don't believe gore copying is healthy jelousy, ke mona feela....period. I have this cousin of mine, sort of (im cousins with her mom not yena) That biatch never gives up, it makes my blood boil. She can never say something is nice without a but

eg. Zintle izhlangu zakho qha nge uthende ezi brown, intle ilokhwe qha uba ubindana..WTF? then she goes and buys the exact same thing. Or if she sees me in something new...she'll be like. Uyithenge phi? mna ndiyibone kwa ban ban ikwi special. She has a kid, I don't. She's a size 38 i'm 32 but she just can't give up.

The last time she did that I told her where to get off. I told her that my net salary is twice her basic so she must stop with her nonsense caz she can never be where I am (financially)

What happened was, my kettle blew and needed a new one urgently. I bought the white Russell Hobbs kettle. Then when she saw it, she was like....U know this white Russell Hobbs are cheap, i used to think they are expensive hence the brand. Was lyk oh ok, they are cheaper i bot it at Clicks for R? and she said, haibo, njani. I saw them half that price e Pick n Pay...really now

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 14:47

I have this cousin of mine, sort of (im cousins with her mom not yena) That biatch never gives up, it makes my blood boil. She can never say something is nice without a but tjo tjo tjo zaa...lmaol

zaa
18 Nov 2009 14:54

honestly LG, she drives me berserk. Last week i did spirals on my dreadz and she was lyk .....yhu ingathi ulinxila....nagana? *shaking my head*

Lbg
18 Nov 2009 14:55

U know this white Russell Hobbs are cheap, i used to think they are expensive hence the brand. Was lyk oh ok, they are cheaper i bot it at Clicks for R? and she said, haibo, njani. I saw them half that price e Pick n Pay...really now

Same here I bought my grandma plasma now this old man that lyks dropping by will be on some you know these tvs are so cheap now you can get them for R1000 ...am thinking well then why don't you go buy it as well

people people people hai

cleve
18 Nov 2009 14:56

Eish let me think. Why doesn't anyone want to be like me............. LOL ngiyadlala.

With me it's my some of my friends and my cousin (our mothers are sisters)

She is two years older than me.......... I finished school, got a job and got married all before she could. So it's understandable for her to feel that way. STill love her though. But when it hurt most was when I had just bought my car. I went to her house to show her and her family. My aunt was very happy mara still with a broken heart. My cousin didn't say 1 word. She couldn't hide her disapointment. She got herself into the car didn't even ask who's car she's in........Till today she has never utterd a word.................

zozoe
18 Nov 2009 14:58

LOL @ Zaa

Pooky
18 Nov 2009 15:03

honestly LG, she drives me berserk. Last week i did spirals on my dreadz and she was lyk .....yhu ingathi ulinxila....nagana? *shaking my head

tl tl tl tl tl

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:03

o mo klape next time wena zaa.......lol

Calendar
18 Nov 2009 15:15

@ All of you bloggers - The question is do we really need these people in our lives?

With me, it's my grandmother - from my dad's side. Yesses that old woman! If she dies and goes to heaven, i will know that she had a platinum card that she used it to bribe all her way through to the PEARLY GATES.

She is jealous of everybody in the family includiing her own son. MY GOODNESS. It's a very long story, but basically she is just a bitter old woman who manages to ruin every family gathering.........

The other one is this Ex colleague of mine. That girl competes with me in all aspects. The unfortunate part is that we have a mutual friend who finds herself in the middle of this mud-slinging match. I got so fed up some times and I said " "Listen here b***h, you and I are not in the same league. There are so many degrees of differences between you and me. From educational background to life experiences" Poor thing does not even have matric. As fate would have it, I am now her manager, and she does not like it one bit. Gave me sloppy work in her plight to spite me. I slapped with a written warning so fast, that she requested a transfer. I told her, that even if she transfer to another department, she needs to keep it mind that in terms of Seniority, I am still her Manager. Transfer denied because I had to motivate why she needed a transfer.

See what I mean? Now I am all worked up.

GML
18 Nov 2009 15:16

Everytime someone comes up with a good idea my aunt will say.

"But that's the idea I gave you to you last week, man. Dont you remember?"
We have stopped arguing with her because of that

Sslave
18 Nov 2009 15:16

@ lady gaga can i pls be u on the 05th? lol

I think we should take it like we are celebritiesnyana for these people. They really do look up to us. La ekhaya we critisize and sumtimes give compliments to "our" celebrities. We even feel jealous sometimes and wish it were us in that lamboguini. Is this not the same thing these people are doing? Me thinks it is..

blaqueboi
18 Nov 2009 15:17

lol, I love my Dolce & Gabbana and wont apologise for it. If some one aint spending your money why do you what they spend their money on? If I choose not to have milk in my fridge but but a D&G shirts, that's my problem. If i dont come knocking at your door to borrow money for rent or bills then you really should mind your own business

The problem is not people living beyond their means, it's people living to please others. If i deny myself the pleasure of having a D&G because Im worried about what you will think of my spending arent I depriving myself of living my life. I hate it when people imposes their own ideologies on others. What Mary does in her life has nothing to do with you if you not part of it.

Live and let live!!

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:22

njani manje Sslave...................................lol!!!!

blaqueboi
18 Nov 2009 15:23

Excuse the grammar mistakes, I type fast and forget to read before posting. Not that you would care anyway... lmao :)

Sslave
18 Nov 2009 15:28

@ lady gaga be you as u wont be there...

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:35

ok Sslave bt promise me u will do the dirty ne... phela nna ha ke innocentia!!!....

zozoe
18 Nov 2009 15:35

lol @ blaqueboi you are an angry woman straight

BigMama
18 Nov 2009 15:36

@lady gaga...would like me to send his pic

@Sslave...thats true, its not jealousy, they just look up to you, you motivate them in some way.

l have learnt to just ignore anything negative and move on with my life.

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:36

blaqueboi, whose side are u on mara ye???

Best-Achiever
18 Nov 2009 15:38

Tjo Zaa... that is something else

you know Cleve..what your cousin did to your is the same thing that my friend who was then friend and flatemate did ... when i told her i was gonna go fetch my car on Sat back in 2007 Oct ... i asked to go with her and my lil sisi, she said yes but as days got close she started distancing herself from me, needless to say on the friday that my lil sis came, she wasnt talking to us for no reason, then Sat morning she told us she wont come with us she need to visit granny so n so ... but she ended up in another friends place ... came back Sunday late .. unfortunately we didnt even get the car that day because of some misunderstanding at the garage.

Then we had to get it on the following week ... can you belive that she didnt knowtha we didnt get a car until the following friday when my sis came back ... then we got it that friday afternoon and drove home on at night ... she only saw the car after two weeks because her boyfriend wanted to see it, so she had no other option buy to walk with us to the parking .....i even wondered how did she manage to tell her bf about it ...

nc nc nc nc some friends

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:38

BigMama pls do darling nd dnt tell u GML.....................LOL!

blaqueboi
18 Nov 2009 15:41

hey hey hey, I aint no woman wena Zozoe lol

Errr... Lady G, Im on the side of "minding yr damn business". Blacks ba tena. U poor they complain, u rich they complain... wat must one do, not live? :)

GML
18 Nov 2009 15:43

Lady G: Google him................lmfbao

lady gaga
18 Nov 2009 15:46

kodwa GML, dnt play like that maan.............lol

Sslave
18 Nov 2009 15:52

Lady Gaga I'll try and be a bad bad girl!!!

@ blaqueboi you go guy!!! Just live your life. You will never satisfy motho either black, blue or white. I mean I think God knows that too. It's cold they complain, it's hot they also complain, it's not raining they complain, it's raining they do.. *sigh* I live my life to make me happy first and the rest will follow.

nice
18 Nov 2009 15:54

It is called taking the best features from other people and incorporating them in your style, and yes it is healthy and bantu as long as you can afford it, it is fine.

I dont mind when my friends do it, and afterwards we all dress it up/down in different ways or if it is furniture something else will be different, and friends do tend to have similar taste half the time , else you wouldnt be friends if you had nothing in common.

What irks me though, are people that critisize everything and add a but after a compliment, if you are going to be like that then you will be so out of my life as in yesterday.

Where family is concerned though, there aint nothing you can do, just let them be and continue buying and telling them where you buy that should make their greedy self sink as you will be better off

And get this, there will always be someone richer, skinnier, prettier, have a better husband and on the flip side poorer, fatter, uglier with an ugly husband. that is called life

mathata
18 Nov 2009 16:04

im sorry to say this...,i think my husband his jealous of me,if i start a new business he will tell me blah blah it wont work,criminals will be after us,he try by all means to put me down indirect.

guess what?izolo he told me i cant take my car to SA i must sell it n buy R200 000 car in SA,i said what his saying make me crazy(giving him a sign)what kind of embarrassment is that?from V6 to R200 000.

i called my mom 30 min back,she said its OK,but to me is not Ok at all,he controls every thing,he is just a mother F**,but i will fight this with hard working,at this moment we dont talk to each other.

im waiting for a plane to land n say welcome to SA,he will see the real me,im going to work harder
.his jealous of me,i dont know why?

poshspice
18 Nov 2009 16:07

My friend and I had something like this: guys she dated liked me,attracted to me so as guys that I dated used to be attracted to her...we managed it quietly for a long time...by not talking abt it and ignoring it but now and again it will come up .because my guys would always ask abt her, so as his guys..the irony is that we were too different, opposites.....one short and dark ...the other tall and light in complexion...

we broke up -our friendship after one of my ex BF went after her for real and she wanted him too...we realised this was gonna create problems for both of us in future....we ended our friendship....

we had similar taste in things, bought same cars...it did not bother us until a man issue... trust was broken

zaa
18 Nov 2009 16:13

"@Sslave...thats true, its not jealousy, they just look up to you, you motivate them in some way."..... I still find it hard to bliv that Big Mama. If someone said to u, wow ur dress looks nice but would be more nicer if it was pink. I love your hairstyle but with it was going to be more nicer with highlights...

so BM, would u consider that as sum1 looking up to u?

ms.tebby
18 Nov 2009 16:13

TKG!!!! / HKK!!!
Hi Tholi, ha o sa ncheka malatsi a!

mathata
18 Nov 2009 16:15

@posh,is not your childfather?hm

Tholi
18 Nov 2009 16:17

Hi ms.tebby!! *waving*

blaqueboi
18 Nov 2009 16:25

@posh There is no such thing as a healthy competition. Its inevitable tht u would always wish yr opponent some harm. My frnds and I all studied drama. We all started out going to auditions together nd we even made a pact that whomever makes it first will help the other

One frnd got his break and is now a known actor, though he's still living like a student, and he totally changed. He would always talk abt his co-stars, his invitation to parties etc. It got to a point where we all got sick of it and he thought we were jealous of him. Even though we had made a pact, none of us asked him fr any favour because he has gotten so pompous.

Unfortunately his fame has done nothing for him financial. He hasnt gotten a gig in 8mths and has now had to move in with my other frnd. We cool with him but our friendship has never recovered.

My point is: Competition among friends is toxic. Nomater how hard you try to not let it affect the friendship it always does. Its like money. I miss the days when we were still in tertiary and we were all just dreamers because we genuinely cared for each other then.

blaqueboi
18 Nov 2009 16:31

and by the way the one friend we all least expected to make it, is now in Hong Kong doing Lion King and has had a some prior successes to that. The bedhopping drunkard who could care less abt his career is now a bonafide financially stable performer....... Aint Karma a bitch...... lol

Mafresh
18 Nov 2009 16:47

GML mkhaya, o nna ko kae, I'd like to come fetch my wedding invitation, be se ke checka yo TV. Who knows I might as well get a better 1 at a less price...kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa

SistaBB
18 Nov 2009 17:18

GML & hubby, U seem so inlove. I'm definately soooooo jealous of u. So I'm a living example of jealousy.

Ok, I have this friend whom I call my best friend since high school, i'm not sure if she's bitter of jealous.

Well, I've always got good grades than her and managed to go to varsity while she went to college, but later on went to varsity...i was happy for her and she completed her degree but I was already pursuing my post grad abroad & she says she want to de her masters too, mind u she struggled to get her Bachelors that she repeated twice.

She's working now, the problem with her is that she never visits me at my house, i'm always the 1 who goes to her place untill recently when i decided that we'll only meet in town, whenever i say we should meet for lunch or coffee she comes up with 1000 excuses including 1 of visiting a sick relative nun on sundays after church.

Then the boyfriend part, last yr i my broke up an engagement to some guy & I'm single now and so is my friend, while i was home recently, there were a number of guys asking me out and she knew about them, she started calling me "Mmasechaba" meaning i have a crowd of men asking me out. I took it with a pinch of salt, but she really pisses me off that sometimes when i dont pick up the phone she asks if i've found some1 new and i'm so busy with him that i cant even pick up her calls.
Lord have mercy!! I dont know what to do now coz its not my fault that no dude has shown interest in her in 2 yrs.

Lela
18 Nov 2009 20:14

Cody r u not my sista cz dats xctly hw my neighbours at home r yho its 2 much n dy nt evn ashamed.

zozoe
19 Nov 2009 09:43

are there people who compete/ copy or are jealous please share guyz we want to know your side of story so we can understand and stop being frustrated

zipho02
20 Nov 2009 14:44

Competition is healthy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,copying is definitely greed. But both situations u should just smile and do ur thang

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