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is he or is he not...?

Written by honey147 from the blog the ugly truth on 30 Dec 2009
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I'm very concerned lately my man is acting very funny.
I mean we've had our ups and downs and i finally decided to let him in completely,and to devote myself to him.And we hve been very happy,all lovey -dovey and i liked it .
But he recently went home for christmas to the Eastern Cape and was there for about a week,and came back on the 27th.Since he's been back ,he acts very strange and i just cant put a finger on what's wrong.He locked himself on the bathroom the other day for about 5 min,then he would go to the parking lot to teh car for about 5-10 min with his fone,and lately he does not want me to go through his fone ,not even to see pics or videos. he just seemed distant...And now this morning he didnt want to drop me off at work ,I had to dricve myself...

Now I just wonder if he met his long-lost love back home or maybe was with somene else all this time..And if he was does it mean that he will see her again..and what about us? I have come to love him so much and i do not want to share...
Guys I need help..did he cheat or Am i seei'ng things...?
What do you think....?

41 Comments

SistaBB
04 Jan 2010 05:23

I think you are seeing things...the writing is on the wall.
He's involved with some1 or trying to

kellogs
04 Jan 2010 08:03

there's definately another woman in the picture, askies my babes.

felfel
04 Jan 2010 08:17

Oh the blerrry cheater has got u sprung, he defs doin something gal, so sorry to break it to u in 20Tender, either lie low and bear it or ask him wats up qha, just tell him u notice a change and u wanna know wattaguan, obviaaaasss he'l deny *bleep!*, so sink or swim gurl.

lady gaga
04 Jan 2010 08:55

you know these cheating bastards irritate the hell out of me. mina ke i caught him cheating shame, and right now its over, i haven't talked to him about it directly, just insulted the hell out of him through sms and tried calling to insult him more and he is avoiding and hanging up on me. the thing is i love him too much man,nx. anyway its a new year hopefully something good will cum up!

Lex
04 Jan 2010 09:20

Lovey,like felfel said,you either sink or swim,it is all entirely up to you.I suggest you ask him and hear what he has to say,and then make a decision.Gud luck.

Usual Suspect
04 Jan 2010 09:24

Yes he is.....

Da Diva
04 Jan 2010 09:34

Of course darling he has seen some1 sorry sthandwa sami.

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 09:58

i think there definately is something going on hey...these bloody bastards nxn....thank gaawwd im finally single now so i wont have to worry about these things....
good morning beautiful people!

BigMama
04 Jan 2010 10:09

He is cheating gal, but l suggest you sit him down and chat about it, we might be wrong. The best way to find out is asking him, even if he is lying to you, his tone and answers will give him away.

@lady gaga....No, no, no ntanga, why insult him? To tell the truth l handled my man so well when he cheated. l suggest you find the reason to his cheating and then you can have a way forward. If you guys were meant to be, nothing will stop you, in a relationship you need patience, honest and respect. Talk to him nicely, thus the only way to find closure, so you can move on with your life.

Strolicious
04 Jan 2010 10:11

ohh poor thing ,,,,askies love i knw xcatly wht u going throu..jst be strong..uzoba grand

Strolicious
04 Jan 2010 10:16

BM respect for a cheater hell no.

lady gaga
04 Jan 2010 10:34

I hear u BigMama mzala, but at that time i was so angry i wanted to kill him. for some reason i know he does love me as we have been through a lot together but i think he keeps the wrong company and he likes impressing friends, thats his mistake. anyway im keeping quite for a while maybe when we do talk again we will do it in a mature way.

pameng2003
04 Jan 2010 10:52

tjo gal he is definitely cheating and wats worse ngum Xhosa sana..bastard with a capital B ndiyakuxelela...

mathata
04 Jan 2010 11:01

what about us......are you f** crazy,you dont own him,he do what is best for him.

you have a job,whats yr problem?life is all abt fun,if you want wrinkles go ahead n stress yr self.

life has more to offer,honey go to mall n feed yr eyes(men)galore just to watch them.

Good to be here.

BigMama
04 Jan 2010 11:06

Strolicious, Yes gal, you will never know maybe you are the cause for his cheating, we must learn to speak out and openly with our partners that way it will be easy for them to tell us/them when we are doing sh*t. Respect is the other key to a successful relationship.

Lady gaga...Don't wait to long otherwise you will end up brushing the problem away, he might sweet talk you, bring you all the flowers and chocolates. One Advise that l think works for me, l never drag a unsolved problem for more than three days. l wish you all the luck mzala, you a too beautiful to messed around with.

BigMama
04 Jan 2010 11:07

Good to see you are back mathata, how was the holiday?

baby e
04 Jan 2010 11:23

happpppieeeee to everyone.

Pooky - finally single?????

i also broke up with my man. he went on holiday for 2 weeks no calls no nothing and when he came back on saturday he called to let me know that he is around and we should go out for dinner. i was over being hurt and told him i was busy. last night he calls i am bury with my potential business partner and he starts commanding what you doing what you up to when can we meet. so i told him to *bleep!* off .

my advise will be to talk to him, tell him how you feel and that be frank about it or else he will take advantage

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 11:38

Yes Baby e...finally single, the bastard didnt wana let go and tried to make my life difficult maara ke he eventually gave up

monate thwa
04 Jan 2010 11:54

i feel sori for u, bit just know its his loss not yours u were there and he diceded to live u ajd take his fone to the car like big mama said sit him down and find out whats bugging him maybe u pushed him to cheat but dont think less of ur self if he is cheating.

BigMama
04 Jan 2010 12:06

Hayi Pooky, stop calling him a bustard, you will need him some day. You will miss being cuddled, kissed, davazed and all that good and bad that comes with a relationship. how long are you planning to be single?

baby e, the boy needed a break to think things through, he didn't want any disturbances, maybe he wants to ask you to marry him and you are shutting him out. Maybe he had issues to solve, just give him a chance to explain himself to why he did not call for 2weeks.

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 12:25

Hayi Pooky, stop calling him a bustard, you will need him some day. You will miss being cuddled, kissed, davazed and all that good and bad that comes with a relationship. how long are you planning to be single?

Hayi Hell NOOOO Big Mama...i wont need him at all, no no no.......shit NO ......im farr more happier without him, im so free sana AKUMNANDI...he can go cuddle his baby mama nxn...........i dont know how long i plan on being single though but right now andiyifuni indoda.....okay maybe except for one and he's the only one i want to cuddle with...but to the rest hai no im so not available and ngivele ngonyanye nje when a man approaches me, i dont know how many people iv phoxhad ngalo december.

BigMama
04 Jan 2010 12:54

Okay pooky....Just take your time gal, man aren't that bad you know, its matter choosing the right person. You can tell from a distance that this man is a player or not, so next time choose wisely my friend and l hope you did not break up because of the baby mama drama.

Toodecent
04 Jan 2010 13:00

Have lost count how many times I have told women to "Stop dating Cute boys" ...These boys are like pink drinks, real men dont do pink drinks and real women dont do cute boys.

lady gaga
04 Jan 2010 13:14

"Stop dating Cute boys" shoo TDC i support this 110%, im experiencing this the hard way shame.

KeleFabulous
04 Jan 2010 13:19

LOL TDC okae mara?

was seeing a pretty boy who never lived up to what he "felt"...he was so in love with me he could never make time for me. miserable as i was (after holding on and hoping things would change) i finally decided to "get over him" by hooking up with another guy. this rebound business was a first for me, the fact that he was a foreigner was also a first but who cared i had a broken heart to mend...
fell in love with mo afrika and he treated me like no man ever had in my entire life. he was the kind that you hear about but think they don't really exist. they do allright. then i found out he was moody and i found myself either asking what's wrong or apologising for the little things one shouldn't have to (like falling asleep while we were chatting via sms and not saying goodnite)...it's funny now that i think about it eish mara he treated me so good i wanted to hold onto that...decided i couldn't carry such baggage into the nu year.
then recently i found myself a brother from pick n pay...these simple okes are just that....simple...no bu**sh** or anything like that. he worships the ground i walk on. careerwise he's not even on a level close to all the men i've been with but who cares, he's good to me.
i've opened a 3rd door and i haven't even closed the other 2 as pretty boy is on my case now about how much he's still in love with me (what else is new) and a part of me still hopes mo afrika will come rescue me like they do in those silly novels i read each time i'm feeling lonely...haa such is life

bathong, does anyone know where bra bizza is? tdc? okae mothaka o?

Toodecent
04 Jan 2010 13:27

Ke sharp kele wena?... Bizza just came back from a Holiday trip ya ko Paris and Amsterdam le bo Harambe (Le Good Life) , I think he is in Cape Town now.

Zothile
04 Jan 2010 13:29

Thanks for that TDC....I need it!!!

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 13:29

man aren't that bad you know, its matter choosing the right person
Ya Big mama i agree not all are bad but most are and its quite sad and frustrating at the same time that you have to go through all those bad ones in order to get to the very, very, verrry few good ones ....hai na im tired and fed up...

TDC cute or ugly...pink drink or Windhoek, if he wants to cheat............he will

KeleFabulous
04 Jan 2010 13:39

the idiot called me and said he was up here and we should meet...i've been worried this whole time cos his phone has been off meantime he's been living it up. Mxim!

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 13:45

Shem askies Kelez......know the feeling

Toodecent
04 Jan 2010 13:49

Well I waited for someone to go through bad people till she decided to finally come home...

jinxed
04 Jan 2010 15:16

Stop dating Cute boys" ...These boys are like pink drinks, real men dont do pink drinks and real women dont do cute boys

i love this line.

carino
04 Jan 2010 15:34

Hawu! Maybe when the poor brother went home, he found some problems there that have depressed him. What he needs now is his woman to be patient nd supportive...but all shes doing is make his depression about herself. Kanti where is the love?

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 15:45

then where is the communication...makavule umlomo lo wakhe athethe qha ke if he needs support and stop sneeking around with his phone coz naturally one is gonna think uyajola...

baby e
04 Jan 2010 15:50

and guys i have a big problem.

there is this guy he is 14 years older than me very stable and successful. he has been on my neck for6 years since varsity. thing is everyone thought we were dating but we were not, he is not married have 1 kid and when i was frustrated that the 'cute gut with a sexy butt and the best dick ever was hurting me he invited me to join him do the shopping for his kid. he aked me to get myself anything i want guys i couldnt do it i got 5 pieces of cloth and he sent an sms after dropping me at home saying - he actually wanted to see if i was really the one for him and he beliefs that by just spending 10 hrs with me on that day he is conviecend i am the one. he is talking of engagements and we havent even davased.

problem :
Age
apperance - he is not that cute
toooooo successful
i think i am fallng for him.

Pooky
04 Jan 2010 15:57

problem :
Age : 14 years older
...that's sooo sexy

apperance - he is not that cute
....not everyone can be blessed in the looks department but so what, dont you know that opposites make the most beautiful kids

toooooo successful
....the chance to live la good life

i think i am fallng for him
....than go for him, end of story

Khafo
04 Jan 2010 16:08

It's 2010, bathong. Let's call a spade and help the sister: Listen doll.

He found another girl or boy *you know*. Honey147.............he's cheating esp. if he's not making eye contacts or communicating with you. Whether you sit down with him_he'll either say is nothing or brush you off/ we will talk babes not now, know that he developed strong feelings for someone.

oh! and if he's no longer intimate with you like before.

Solution: get yourself a BEE man and get laid nicely_forget him, period!!!!!!!

Khafo
04 Jan 2010 16:13

@ baby e...........................................GO FOR IT but please condomise coz he lived longer than you. Make AIDS test if you both decide to get engaged and have kids.

Now that's Good Life! buwaka

baby e
04 Jan 2010 16:21

he has one kid and i think he is desperate for kids. we are going for an hiv test on friday together - i asked him for one and then the 3 months will be the waiting period.

99 percent of me tells me he is the one
1 percent tells me i am Khanyi Mbau LOL

Thanks guys

Khafo
04 Jan 2010 16:43

baby e .....................you're making the right steps for 2010 girl. I want you to be happy and you're not Khanyi okay. Love yourself.

Remember: Love comes when you least expects it.

machinjiri
04 Jan 2010 18:00

@ khafo

am happy for u gal, wish some1 like that cld look my way u know, but hey its gud u talked about testing for hiv, and u wont be like khanyi if u dont tell every 1 about ur love life and everything like she used to do. U have started 20tender on a very gud note babes, wish u well and if he tests + ( God forbid) plis be supportive cos he will need u and vise versa

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