Just got this via email and thought some of you might find it useful...I know I did!
Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love
by Elena Solomon
Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.
Women blame men that they don’t know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don’t want to make it.
Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your
life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about
the opposite gender.
The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which
is predominantly male hormone. A normal male’s body produces 20 times
more of this hormone than a female’s.
In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as
a female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20
days feels the same way as a female after more than a year without
sex.
Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of
the opposite gender. It’s NOT their fault: they are made this way!
It’s in our genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are
women.
Men and women are DIFFERENT.
Not better or worse, just different.
A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only
mother a child every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be
picky about who she allows to have sex with her.
For generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong
choice. Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker
offspring and their children struggled to survive. Women that have
chosen men with good genes had a stronger offspring and their children
survived disproportionably. Those children were carrying their picky
mother’s genes and this is why those female genes were passed to us.
On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a
wrong choice. The more children they produced, the higher was their
chance to pass their genes to future generations, as some of them
would certainly survive. While men were determined to seek better
genes too, they had to grab all chances to procreate coming their way
to ensure their genes would be passed forward. The men that ONLY stuck
with one woman (even a high quality woman) were losing genetically to
the men that used all of their opportunities and had many more
children that survived. Those children were carrying their father’s
promiscuous genes, and this is why those male genes were passed to us.
By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they
can spread their seed wider.
By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so
they can make a better choice and get the best seed.
Men seek quantity - women seek quality.
This is why men seek sex and women seek love.
Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the
man will stick around and help her with the upbringing of the
offspring. For a woman, sex is the culmination of her emotional
commitment to a man.
For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure
he experiences constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man
feel love towards a woman. This is why it often happens that men
disappear after they got what they wanted: it wasn’t love; it was the
testosterone pressure. Sex for men is the reality check of their
passion.
This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for
women: the man has not had the time to develop any romantic feelings
for her. He needs time to develop those feelings, and the only way to
do it is through keeping the sexual tension going for as long as
practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly possible - but not quite.
When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is mind-blowing -
and once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a future
relationship - and love.
Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.
All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize
what’s going on.
But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each and
every of your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their instincts
and managed to attract at least one sexual partner and produce an
offspring.
So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women
wanting love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called
Survival Of The Species.
And you’ll be better off understanding what the other gender is going
through and giving them exactly what they want: a mind-blowing sex or
exhilarating love.
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