No-one ever mentions the times when girls used to be sent up the mountain to the initiation schools called BOJALE to apparently allegedly be taught the ways of a woman; the correct behavior and mannerisms, the sexual and all the cultural expectations. Nowadays in urban societies, it is expected the family will do the best they can to ensure that a young woman represents the family well when she ventures out the home.
But how much of the customs and lessons the young woman would have received from the initiation school is never imparted on her? Where is she now expected to get these lessons? This leaves her to learn from observing her family on the cultural matters and the sexual experience and lessons from friends. Is this an ideal situation? Will all the lessons she needs be taught?
Most tribes still practice the initiation schools regularly but the decision to be a part of these schools lies solely on the family’s belief and their eagerness to ensure their child is taught about their tribal customs and traditions. Whilst a majority of the families, in urban societies, don’t allow their children to be a part of these schools, it doesn’t stop the minority figures that do from ensuring their children are part of it.
Most times the schools get bad publicity due to infections, genital mutilations and deaths that happen that not much of what happens that may be good or reinforce the need for the school is discussed. The schools shroud their teachings in so much secrecy that the initiates never ever utter what happens there and promote the experience. I do not expect them to give a blow by blow account of the happenings but a general overview will help those who have heard too much negativity about the schools.
What intrigues me is the sex education – if any – that is taught at the schools. For generations, those people that attended the schools rumours would always be heard of how fabulous they are in the sack. Those that had the guts to tell what transpires on those “hot, sweaty and glorious experiences” with a wo/man from the initiation school would swear those skills are only taught there.
However, there has been a recent surge in the townships for sex education by people that either advise on matters of sex or sell sex toys. The people in the industry are saying that business is booming in kasi’ across the country as they get invited to share or sell at NAUGHTY parties. Is this the urban bojale?
How will this trend affect the sexual attitudes of the people that believe and practice traditional custom sex education from the initiation schools? Will they be open to learn about tea-bagging, oral sex and nifty toys – if it is not taught in the initiation schools already?
How will or does this enhanced sexual experience with aids of toys affect the sex lives of those that use them? Does the sexual experience become boring if the toys are not used? Does the sex become too much of a chore with the added toys?
Have you been to a kasi NAUGHTY party? How was the experience? Would you recommend it to those who haven’t? What did you learn that you did not already know? Was it value for or waste of money?