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Your friends warned you about him

Written by PruLuv from the blog Luv To Chat on 15 Feb 2011
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Your friends warn you about a guy they know is a PLAYA, what do you do? Take your girlfriends' word or taste the waters yourself? 



Last night's star-studded episode covered this very topic:

Well-known rapper, Zuluboy played the role of the playa, Vukani aka Vukuvuku. Vukani is a poet and recording artist. He meets Sylvia during a poetry session at Speakers.

Sylvia, Ntando's girlfriend from the previous episode, has found work away from home, leaving her child with her mother. She now lives with friends Thandeka, played by model and songstress Phumeza and Mbali, the 15 year old from Zone 14.

Sylvia ignores her friends' warnings and ends up in bed with Vukani. The scene was rather interesting, as she insisted on using a condom but he was reluctant and asked her why she wasn't on contraceptives.

A while later, Vukani avoids Sylvia and uses the poetry he stole from her in his song. She forgives him and they sleep together again. In the meantime Vukani is busy entertaining another girl. Sylvia sees them in studio and Vukani's defense is that he doesn't do relationships.

Poor Sylvia is devastated. She knew her friends would eventually say: "I TOLD YOU SO!!!"

So many songs came to mind when I watched this episode:

Eve - Love is blind
Lauryn Hill - Doo Wop (That thing)
Heather Headly - I wish I wasn't

Most of us ladies have gone through a similar experience or know someone who has. The fellows can also relate because if you weren't a playa, probably your buddies were(are). What are your views on this episode?

Do you think Intersexions has been on our screens for too long and you get the message?

Actors in this post: Zuluboy

Shows in this post: Intersexions

Channels in this post: SABC1



106 Comments

Cnglemother
15 Feb 2011 22:50

i still have not watched it yazi oko yaqala.

Cande
15 Feb 2011 23:42

Hey Cngle *waves* entlik nna intersexions ya mbora yanong! I just want it to end because rite now I don't see where it is going... Maara gape re tla reng, ke job creation.. So yha more actors/actresses are getting exposure and getting paid... Entlik this Sylvia girl, is she hiv positive or yang?

Cande
15 Feb 2011 23:44

I like zuluboy shwem! As an actor and rapper(although I never understand his songs)..once again tonight he didn't disappoint

Cnglemother
16 Feb 2011 00:02

hey Candz *waving* im cyber hopping with the hopes of coming across the big anouncement regarding my *alleged* hot new couple.sori Pru.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 01:17

@Cnglemother - why haven't you watched it as yet? Where you not convinced by the trailers?

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 01:22

@cande - ke job creation. Hehehe... She might be positive considering Mr Molete ended up with full blown AIDSM

ThatDude
16 Feb 2011 06:56

Why is Sylvia sleeping around with men without telling them her situation,aint she hiv positive nah?!P.S Phumeza did a great job in her role,there could be a good actress there,mayb she can forget music and explore that more

MAGNET2DISASTER
16 Feb 2011 07:25

@pru...AIDSM,,,eish!virus e le yona gae fetse metlholo,m ke eng jwale?tltltltltltltlt

maddie
16 Feb 2011 08:05

this Sylvia gal hai man oyashesha ukulala namadoda.

the way she went straight toZuluboy as if she was goin 2 look outside the window kanti o batla go davaliziwa fela

Thandisto
16 Feb 2011 08:16

I also have only watched one episode....the production was good, but nje it wasnt interesting to me.

MAGNET2DISASTER
16 Feb 2011 08:17

@maddie,mara i think she is brave.do you know that most girls go home with their thingies dripping wet coz they are too afraid to comfront their men?mara thats self abuse,gao batla oa batla.kante condom e diretsweng if not for enjoying a protected sexual encounter?gape ngwana wa batho ne a nyorilwe bathong ao!when will girls stop pretending that they hate sex?tjo!mina i always initiate the first move and believe me you my bag is like a condom factory,am no sex addict mara i dont cheat my body and emotions as long as am in a stable relationship

babye
16 Feb 2011 08:23

@ maddie hey they way she went stright to Zulu was clear that mma wa sejusa blind tl tl

maddie
16 Feb 2011 08:30

yah ne mina I always act shy when it's my first with a new guy, as to y I do that nami angazi

peachez
16 Feb 2011 08:33

Intersexions, just portraying reality as it is, the playa and the naive girl from eloxion falling for all the sweet breads baked by the playa, i find myselt to relate so much with that, now not that it has ever happened to me but around me, anywho loved the poetry it is so open to interpretation....Sylvia however must be suffering from migraines cause she keeps bumbing her head into the same wall.

makisto
16 Feb 2011 08:55

Eish, I could watch last night, I will read

Cheesa
16 Feb 2011 09:17

I watched last night's episode I thought Slyvia knows her stutus kanti she doesn't know? I thought when she asked Mavu-vuku for condom she was mostly trying to protect him form not infecting him with HIV. 

Tjo the way Mavuku-vuku told her straight in her face that he doesn't do relationships! She couldn't believe it as her friends had warned her but ke sometimes when you like someone your friends' warnings might not mean anything to you until you experience what they are talking about. Thats what happened with Slyvia. I think its made by that thing of thinking he might be a playa but he might not do it to me, not knowing that you also going to be his victim.

Cheesa
16 Feb 2011 09:19

lol at stutus = status

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 09:24

OH i love you pruluv....xoxoxoxo

Coming back...

I enjoyed episode ye ya bo mavukuvuku jwang!

nice
16 Feb 2011 09:35

Take your girlfriends' word or taste the waters yourself?

Let me read the rest of the article then. I enjoyed yesterday's episode. When they mentioned a condom I thought of Carino and Makisto, Strue

myname
16 Feb 2011 09:36

I feel u peachez and Thatdude i agree with you regarding Pumeza. Anyway her music sucks but i saw somethig last night.

Thanks Pru oka Kruluv.
Eish I got disturbed by a call so some of the actions I didn’t see. 

Zuluboy is good and i always admire his work so big up to him. 

Pru what happened yesterday is something that is happening as we speak. We see naive and inexperienced girls falling for these parasites. Most girls love bad boys but with Sylvia she thought she has found her piece. 

OoMavukuvuku bakhona everywhere and they are always hunting for their preys. I hope most young girls watched yesterday. OoMavukuvuku are smooth talkers and well behaved but once they cut your cookie they disappear in a thin air. 

Eli gama liyamfanela uZuluboy uMavukuvuku

Mbalzzz
16 Feb 2011 09:52

kanti dont u get tested wen u preg?? shame uSYLVIA and shezz so pretty, eish ilyf neh

nice
16 Feb 2011 10:23

I found that question from Vukani about contraceptives so on point yazi Pru. Most people only use condoms to prevent falling pregnant, once contraceptives come into the picture the couples dont find it necessary to use condoms. The condoms disappear from their sexual acts.

Spineli
16 Feb 2011 10:32

I watched yesterday's episode & I lolled at the hand thing.

The thing is if u fall for a certain guy & frnds warn u about him, u think that ba go jela mona.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 10:38

@MAGNET2DISASTER - AIDSM
OMW, hehehehe.... Clearly blogging in the ams when I'm half asleep is no good. Hahahaa... jammer!!!

@ThatDude - I also think Phumeza did a good job. Was that her first acting gig?

@Green.arrow and myname - Sho thing my luvies.

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 10:38

Do you think Intersexions has been on our screens for too long and you get the message? Mna i love the stories they tell, not trivialising the aids message at all....but i dont hear that message anymore. Just the message about life really...

Last nights' episode hit me hard. Also not because i have fallen for the playas, but because i have been charmed more often than not by these creatures actually. Bo teamskobo ba ba mo lokshining who remind me of my dad, i tend to give them an ear when i should be running for the hills. Im just glad that ive never actually fallen for one. Its something im aware of about myself so i make a concious effort to walk away as soon as i recognise that im charmed by a mavukuvuku, i even have accountability patners (my 3 galz) about this issue.
But it scares me how that many times ive smiled to myslef like Sylvia when i racll di sweetnothings tsa whomever mavukuvuku cornered me at some thungsmansion (khoneng) on the way home. 

OoMavukuvuku are smooth talkers and well behaved but once they cut your cookie they disappear in a thin air. You are ryt myname. I feel sad for the lil galz who actually believe them. My dad having been mavukuvuku naye, i can see one from afar, nommater how much they can sweet talk and inspite of my weakness, im able to walk away.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 10:39

I also think Sylvia moves fast. The scene when she got up from her bed and went straight to Vukani, was classic. Talk about a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it.

Holiday
16 Feb 2011 10:42

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carino
16 Feb 2011 10:44

Uyabona istory sikaMavukuvuku I get it nhe. yes he's a player... but nathi girls sometimes we are a bit too much. 

A lady is supposed to guard her heart - especially someone like Sylvia who has been through so much already. She should have known better than offloading on Mavukuvuku just after the first round. 

At least get to know the person before you put your bags down. There she was laying on his chest for the first time and already going on about how life has treated her bad and how torn apart she is. 

First time she spent some time with him she was reading that poem of hers that says she is shattered. Nobody deserves to have your open heart nje at first encounter. Ijo!

babye
16 Feb 2011 10:45

Slyvia is an excellent actress. luvd her last piece yesterday as for Zuluboy mfana ya itse he is really good and very comfortable acting WOW. excellent work for him too. 

Vukani amaVukuvuku excellent episode well balanced bravo i enjoyed it too

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 10:46

pruluving.....*whispering*...its Laurin hill =  Doo wop (that thing). You must sleep mann, you cant kill yourself like this for tvsa addicts like us...

I found that question from Vukani about contraceptives so on point yazi Pru. Most people only use condoms to prevent falling pregnant, once contraceptives come into the picture the couples dont find it necessary to use condoms. The condoms disappear from their sexual acts This lesson screamed out for me, and its one we easily forget. Im gonna add it to one of my video diaries so that im reminded when the time comes. Its really scary who we easily foreget this watseba. I think even within marriage, regualr testing must happen. Part of the initial negotiations that man and woman must agree upon WITH LOVE, is that they should test atleast every 3 months. Not to say you are accusing each other , but to say we are holding each other accountable and the test will be the account. I know its easire said than done, but most things are and we need to get into habbit of working againts this notion. Its easier said than done, but doing it often for noble reasons makes it easy, becomes a part of life.




PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 10:48

@myname. I know what you talking about. There are so many Vukuvukus out there and they are masterminds in finding their prey. They always go for the girls who are not as clued up and girls fall for them. These guys are not even interested in protection. Mxm

carino
16 Feb 2011 10:52

I watched yesterday's episode & I lolled at the hand thing.

LOL I did too. 

...but because i have been charmed more often than not by these creatures actually. Bo teamskobo ba ba mo lokshining who remind me of my dad, i tend to give them an ear when i should be running for the hills.

LOL @ teamskobo. Soo true coz Mavukuvuku is teamskobo vele....And they are smoothtalkers.. I think they do that to compliment their looks. I mean, if you cant charm them with your scar like Sizwe Dhlomo or your dimples like Trevor... or even your bone like Lulo...   you gotta be creative...right?  

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 10:53

Well said @nice. It was good though that Sylvia stood her ground. Some girls would have given in to a guys demand.

If you read these agony aunt columns, you'll see a lot of this. It's a shame. SMH!

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 10:55

A lady is supposed to guard her heart - especially someone like Sylvia who has been through so much already. She should have known better than offloading on Mavukuvuku just after the first round. That is absolutely true carino, sadly, some girls (across the age) dont know better. And so they will be naive to this mavukuvuku type creatures.

At least get to know the person before you put your bags down. There she was laying on his chest for the first time and already going on about how life has treated her bad and how torn apart she is.
First time she spent some time with him she was reading that poem of hers that says she is shattered. Nobody deserves to have your open heart nje at first encounter. Ijo!
Tru true, again ,sadly, some people easily open themselves up even to people that are not bomavukuvuku. I think this should go for every one, mavukuvuku or not. Because its not just them who are capable of doing what mavukuvuku did. 

I think it boils down to how differnet we people are. How we can have tow girls who have been thru what Sylvia went thru. But because of all encounters that they both have, girl X had one extra positive encounter than girl Y, when mavukuvuku comes, they respond differently. Thats why i personally feel sorry and i empathise with some of this girls that fall for such. Being a victim of circumstances that make you as a person is a reality. Some people only need one thing to find themselves in the better end of life and some people needed minus some one thing to NOT find themeselves in the cruel end of life. Its a matter of fortune and misfortune...bla bla , i easily empathise....

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 10:57

 @Green.arrow - You are the best. Thanx for looking out. hahaha...

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 10:58

LOL @ teamskobo. Soo true coz Mavukuvuku is teamskobo vele....And they are smoothtalkers.. I think they do that to compliment their looks. I mean, if you cant charm them with your scar like Sizwe Dhlomo or your dimples like Trevor... or even your bone like Lulo... you gotta be creative...right? LOL, you said it right!...even in that blessed article that will go in my best for the year. Its a bittersweet reality ya bo teamskobo...in all forms of looking at it, lol.

One and Only
16 Feb 2011 10:58

I have come across this Zuluboy/ Mavukuvuku character for far too many times on my screen now and honestly that man cannot act period! On last night episode he was a let down just like in Soul City.

There's something about him, his looks and his voice that is not right, his command for the Zulu language also leaves a lot to be desired.

I have in more than 1 occasion listen to him rap as well but still he's not cracking it, maybe he should go to Zola for some tips. 

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 11:02

Tjo...! Nice read, shame. Anyway for me there was a time when I wasnt into dating at all. I remember I once saw this gal at North West, and took her to my townhouse in Joburg & spend the whole easter weekend with her. After I took her home, she then called & kept calling (stalking me), coming to my house... Poor thing got it in her head that we are now a couple. Not like that hasnt happened b4, cause as time goes on a gal kinda know that u were after a nukie & its not abt her brain or personality or love. It was just her drama that got to me. When I ended up in a police cell because of some false accusations thats when I knew that this 1 is just a looney. Ahh! How I miss that life though. It has been 13mnths in this weird country but I miss sum drama in my life right now. Here, its just work, meetings, descreet dating... Oh my goodness, Im resenting Abu Dhabi. (This chicken need spice. LOL!)

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 11:08

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 11:09

You ladies are right BUT... How many ladies still do what Sylvia did? Many. What's sad is that even women in their forties fall for those old maVukuvukus. 

We are emotional beings and when it comes to matters of the heart like this one, we easily become victims.

Savanah Dry
16 Feb 2011 11:25

I thought of my sister when Sylvia was busy pouring her life story ..Gosh no wonder some men dnt wanna cuddle after sex ...that ws too soon to tell someone yr life story... and the Dude kept Rolling his eyes...

One and Only
16 Feb 2011 11:35

sabaH al-khair Weiss

Ana mesh fahem why is it men who are always being stalked and not women! In most cases it is us men who make promises ang give impression that we want a committed relationship so we can get a shag.

Good luck with dating on that side, women there are not the same and easy as South African ones and remember zinah is a sin and if you get caught.........

carino
16 Feb 2011 11:38

Gosh no wonder some men dnt wanna cuddle after sex ...that ws too soon to tell someone yr life story... and the Dude kept Rolling his eyes...

hayi.. that was too much jo! nami I would roll my eyes if some random guy had to do that. This whole "we are emotional being" story I dont know why we dont leave it coz clearly it's not working for us. You have a point there Pruluv, but I seriously think we need to toughen up a bit. uSylvia kaloku was all tough on Molete's son last week.. and she was all forward initiating and even khombaring at the condom in the bathroom.. the toughness just somaar disappeared with the orgy.. ijo!

I mean, it takes a strong woman to say to Mavukuvuku ukuthi lets use a condom. So why cant the strongness tell her there's nothing wrong with just lying silent next to a man after sex. Ijo!

sadly, some people easily open themselves up even to people that are not bomavukuvuku. I think this should go for every one, mavukuvuku or not. Because its not just them who are capable of doing what mavukuvuku did.

Hayi it needs a double-dose of empathy this one, GA. Coz it surely cant be normal. I thought especially a person like Sylvia who has the experience of sleeping with Father and son...would at least be a bit vukile.. I have to say I was seriously disappinted, shem 

But I like the role that the friends played. they were true abo-my-girls... All supportive, honest  and caring - like true girlfrieds should be. Not judging her and not sleeping with Mavukuvuku behind her back, for a change.

carino
16 Feb 2011 11:53

In most cases it is us men who make promises ang give impression that we want a committed relationship so we can get a shag.

This is also true. mara nathi girls we need to take a standpoint at some point. Be clear about what we want, and hold our own. I dont thik a guy would have balls to play a strongheaded lady. Just see how Mavukuvuku was shaken in the end when he realised that Sylvia can be strong? I dont know why it should always take a let-down by a man to toughen a woman up.

babye
16 Feb 2011 11:57

after watching last night's episode i thought about the late DJ Khabesela whow in his book wrote that girls lined up to. 

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 11:59

I mean, it takes a strong woman to say to Mavukuvuku ukuthi lets use a condom. ...kwaaa kwaaa...*dead*, so if  one has a soft spot for bo mavukuvuku/teamskobo naturally, add to that the fact that their circumatnce makes them the most cunning hunters out there, really indeed it does take a strong person to say lest use a condom. LMLO. Heish!....*putting the soft spot into some serious perspective...its not all roses indeed*...lolest.

I also like the galfriends she had shame. In real life, wow. They are rare in real life even, but bagona bona. The one with the dreads, i thought was gonna be the backstabber but she pleasantly suprised me...

carino
16 Feb 2011 12:09

Nami the one with dreadlocks I really thought she was gon be the one that also has a piece of mavukuvuku. 

But i guess the writers figured they had already played done the backstabbing friend story.
 

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 12:12

Hey! One&Only... Zinah is a sin, I know. Like I said, Im descreet. Its like in S A, when ppl know abt theft, shoplifting etc... I check 2 see if the 1 Im arranging with doesnt expect 2 much of me. Enuf said, what do u mean by women dont get stalked like that? Uve been around the block. Im sure 50% of ladies here, r playas too... We cant all b squicky clean, most of u hve ur own little Isthembu out there. So u cant feel love 4 a coupla men at the same time. If a guy is into u & u r but not ready 2 leave ur bf/hubby 4 him what do u do? Keep playing as long as u benefit.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 12:13

@carino. 

Some guy on TV(can't remember what I was watching) once said women act then they think. We don't think then act.

Although I didn't agree with him, but there is some truth to his statement. 

Eve said it well: Love is blind and it will take over your mind...

When you fall in love, your thinking cap also falls. When things have gone wrong, you start thinking clearly.

That's our weakness and guys capitalise on that.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 12:18

@babye - Khabzela has a book? I didn't know about it. Info please. I'd like to read it. He was my favourite dj and I admired how he came out and told the public that he was HIV +.

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 12:25

carino
16 Feb 2011 12:27

Some guy on TV(can't remember what I was watching) once said women act then they think. We don't think then act. 

lol @ some guy on TV

Another guy on TV (I remember it was Vusi Thembekwayo and I was watching Mtswako.lol) said that women carry handbags. He said we go around carrying our emotions on our sleeves and when we get hurt by one guy, we move on to the other with the handbag... we get there and we load and offload...Every guy is a loading zone. 

You get there and you start treating this guy in reaction to how the previous guy treated you... you start judging according to the way the other one acted. You start making him Dr Eve and talking to him about how the previous one was... Then he starts acting up and you pick up some more dirt and off you go. At your next stop you do the same thing.. get rid of dirt- pick more dirt - and it becomes the story of your life.  

I think as girls, we need to just wise up a bit. Not necessarily be itye like Morongwe on Scandal, but just be careful with our hearts - We have known long ago already that we are emotional beings - so I think it's high time we worked on ways around that emotionalness. I mean guys know how to protect their egos, we should also learn to protect our small hearts, shem.

monchooza
16 Feb 2011 12:34

Mina nje i am getting tired of intersexions manje..okay okay okay..i know i cant miss an episode. mara nje i think they must really play the last episode for an hour so that we can connect the dots..

so many people have slept with so many people. so i am guessing nje the stori esobufebe grand sharp

carino
16 Feb 2011 12:36

Lollest @ comnnecting the dots.

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 12:36

We have known long ago already that we are emotional beings - so I think it's high time we worked on ways around that emotionalness. I mean guys know how to protect their egos, we should also learn to protect our small hearts, shem. eya...some guy on TV  :) (Dr Phil i think) aleays speaks of the power that is in recognising, then acknoldeging and then being able to do something about whatever you have recpgnised and acknowledged. As we toughen up and guard our hearts galz!!!..indeed not like that itye that is Morongwe..yessus, that woman.
But that ryt there tells you there is a thin line. And i believe that whenever there is a thin line, WISDON will help you tread carefully arround it, that you dont jump it, and for me Wisdom is God, that simple.

myname
16 Feb 2011 12:43

Pruluv, Carino & GA......WOW, i like what im reading. Just proceed nhe

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 12:49

carino- u can say that again. Women carry handbags. Sometimes a guy can go on a date just 4 a good time. What happens when u get there? Get grilled like u on Idols... Its just so exhausting.

carino
16 Feb 2011 12:51

You are right, GA.. WISDOM all the way... It's the only way. 

Reminds me of what another man said (okay, it was at church and it's my Pastor) He says God is the only true value in life.. everything else carries 0 value. So, the place where you place God determines the value of your life. 

He says if God is first, then your formula is like this: 10000 (that's God +everything else that clutters your life)
But if God comes last then its something that looks like this 00001 ( that's everything else + God ). 

So he was just saying look how different those numbers are and all becuse of a simple decision of where to put the figure '1"

Yha, I thought that was some revelation.   

myname
16 Feb 2011 12:54

You are all on fire vandag. Nifana nale Ikwekwezi fm 

It's lunch guys........later

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 12:54

He says God is the only true value in life.. everything else carries 0 value. So, the place where you place God determines the value of your life......all becuse of a simple decision of where to put the figure '1" ... a revelation for me too..wow. Writting this one down.

One and Only
16 Feb 2011 12:54

Another guy on TV (I remember it was Vusi Thembekwayo and I was watching Mtswako.lol) said that women carry handbags.

That's the problem there with women, you take any advice from any low life that appears on tv or gets invited on a radio show such that by the time you get involve with someone you are poisonous already.

Believe you me there's nothing wrong with pouring your heart out on the first night, if he's gonna leave you, he will do so whether you have offloaded or not. Decent human being do talk after sex unless niyizinkukhu ezivele zibhebhane nje ziqede zizidlele umbila.

Women, get over yourselves! This victim mentality of yours has to stop, we're all in the same boat here we get used and heartbroken as much as you do.

makisto
16 Feb 2011 12:57

Thanks ProLuv, this pretty much sums everything that happened last night. I didn't watch but you are giving a very clear picture of it all. Thanks. Lemme read the comments.

makisto
16 Feb 2011 13:01

When they mentioned a condom I thought of Carino and Makisto, Strue
lol @Nice, it had to be done yo know

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 13:03

Trust One and Only !!!......trust OnO...... i expected something like this from you. But you are missing the point as you superspeed with your shattering people's opinions shuttle.....
If you were not such an extremesit with your opinions id respond because from what you are saying there is potential for your opinion and ours to converge, but knowing you, this will go on forever, re be re rogiwe gona moo....haai,lenna im following myname, getting my 5 rands lunch, im tooo hungry!!

carino
16 Feb 2011 13:06

That's the problem there with women, you take any advice from any low life that appears on tv or gets invited on a radio show such that by the time you get involve with someone you are poisonous already.

Before I finish reading the rest of the reply....can I just say.. Vusi Thembekwayo is not a low life.. Thank you very much.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 14:00

You guys are so crazy. death by "some guy on TV" Pwaaaaaaakakaka... 

He says if God is first, then your formula is like this: 10000 (that's God +everything else that clutters your life)
But if God comes last then its something that looks like this 00001 ( that's everything else + God ).

Amen. I agree 10000000000%. God first in everything. Maybe the man will be the last zero... I'm kidding!

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 14:02

Pwaaaaakakaka... @One & Only, I was wondering where you were to drop the bomb. lol

Sho @makitso

Talala
16 Feb 2011 14:09

Hi guys I hate this intersexions, I hate it, i hope whoever is incharge in ASBC can take it off our screens uvakele umyalezo. Lento xa uyibukele nabantu wofika umayamayaza ungazi nokuba mawuthini if you know what i mean. No maan its enough now sxakwe ngabantwana bazi izinto ezinkulu bcoz intersexion shows them. Pls take it off our screens or change the time slot to 22h00  

maddie
16 Feb 2011 14:16

yhoo one and only - wat r u doin 2 me? neva laughed like this in a long tym

valid points though , yhooo bathong can't stop laughing

One and Only
16 Feb 2011 14:19

Before I finish reading the rest of the reply....can I just say.. Vusi Thembekwayo is not a low life.. Thank you very much.

Carino hold yourself ausi, I never said this guy was a low life! I don't even know who he is. Yini ngathi unomtshikizane nje?

but knowing you, this will go on forever, re be re rogiwe gona moo....haai.

Green.arrow, that's your problem, you think you know me. Phola mdoko uyashisa- wakhuluma ngathi ungenwe itsheketshe kwidilozi nje nawe.

babye
16 Feb 2011 14:24

@ Talala how old are you? and why should it be moved to that late spot

maddie
16 Feb 2011 14:26

1& O

what is mtshikizane (in my Tatiana voice)

and itsheketshe kwidilozi -   yhoo mme am laughin even though I do not understand lento

BigMama
16 Feb 2011 14:40

LOL...One and Only yini umtshikizane?

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 14:41

Carino hold yourself ausi....Green.arrow...Phola mdoko uyashisa...this is rich coming from you. Your comments are always abrasive, its like you are permanently waiting to argue with people..if anybody, You need to learn to hold yourself..OnO. i imagine you bursting your veins everytime i read what you wrote. But note im speaking to OnO, not the person he is covering up bcos i believe that you do this with ease for your entertainment...and equally dont assume that I give that much of a care where Green.arrow comes from.....at the very least, o nngena fela....

vinc
16 Feb 2011 14:46

Ok now no fighting, we are all entitled to our opinions, take it or leave it....

In reality Sylvia is dying for attention but seeking it from the wrong person. She needs to speak to someone but nowadays guys are not interested in your heart break stories, believe me once you start telling them about your so unpleasant childhood or past, they run for dear life but after eating the cake.  One has to be prepared for the worst when you meet someone. 

Based on someone i know and who is very close to me, she met this guy and started telling him about her life, you know horrible and he was like ahhh, your man is very stupid treating an pretty face like that, if you were mine (wife), i would never do that i would to you..etc. He took her to a hotel and ate it after that he has disappeared and when she phones he is either out of office or on another call. She is busy swearing the guy and who knows he is probably moved to the next victim. Pple are scared of burden, good time, yes they want

Ladies need to be careful about wearing your heart on your sleeve.

makisto
16 Feb 2011 14:55

Vinc said it all and it all should serve as pointers to lady and I see Carino has same points

realist
16 Feb 2011 15:01

What if she asked too many things after the guy has eaten the cake and the guy realized that this is what he did not bargain for. I don’t think she told you the whole story. I’ll do the same if she goes the same route. 

Also if she keeps harping on about the past relationship I’ll also jump ship after eating the cake. Now would you blame me for doing so?

vinc
16 Feb 2011 15:02

Inteseions can go now, we get it, they have made their point. ITs time to wrap up the story lines and cut

charmagal
16 Feb 2011 15:02

guys these thngz do happen

it happened to me and i was so sure of my man

in my case i was warned by ma lil brother (14yrs)hehehe lt me share my experiance
well usually my lil brother he is one of those tht look at you and say i dnt like this person or hai eres somthng wiered ngaye.

well he told me wen i started dating this other guy and i was like oh please what do you know bout playaz any where we nt dating jus frnds, we dated for like six mnths thn cme a gal (whom he told me she is his ex) (shes styin in freestate n we r here in jnb)informing  him tht shes pregnant , weni asked him hw is tht possible , they broke up 8mnths bck and all of a sudden you impregnanted her?guess wat he says ?no i was hme lonely n she was oalso lonely n we hooked up n ended up in bed.
hehehe i was saw heartbroken tht on tht vry sme moment i lft wrk n went straight hme,
my czn called n found me in tht state n she ddnt take a no for an answer she wanted the deatils well i tld her everythng tht happend via sms, here she she kept the sms ephonin, cme weekend she came to visit me (i ddnt tell my brother aynthng bout thi)
ma brother borrows the fone reads all msgs n cmz bck tome " I TOLD YOU NGALEMBUZI U SEE NOW AWUMAMMELI IF I EVER SEE YOU NAYE NGIZOMFUNELA ABANTU BAMSHAYE"


tjo tht was it , bt we nw gd frnds me n the guy

mysista
16 Feb 2011 15:07

One and only, i agree with you completely, all these rules people have about what to do to find and keep love are for the most part nonsense !

 Lots of us women are always listening to abo Dr phil, (with the creepy lifeless wife without a life of her own )

nabo Steven Harvey ( Think like a men nonsense) and we think from these people we are going to find a way to conduct our love lives and mostly this is all nonsense...
When you find the " one" he is going to stick around wether you tell him your whole life story on the first date or not, or sleep with him or the first date or not. 

men as clueless as they are sometimes also recognise love when they find it, they then fight to keep love. inkinga ukuthi love is sometimes a numbers 's game sometimes you have to kiss more than you fair share of frogs before you locate your prince charming...This is not strategy or technique but just dumb luck!

Think about it , there are six billion of us in the planet, so finding the person who makes your heart beat faster is obviously a bit of a statistical nightmare , but it happens rergulaly and when it does happen it is wonderful !

I have found two people one from each gender who love me, and i am truly blessed!

monchooza
16 Feb 2011 15:08

okay mara ke why did they have to name Zuluboy mavukuvuku..know ukuthi some people really refer to him as that...hayi noh

realist
16 Feb 2011 15:11

men as clueless as they are sometimes also recognise love when they find it, they then fight to keep love.
You are on point but on the clueless part I don't think so.

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 15:21

Also if she keeps harping on about the past relationship I’ll also jump ship after eating the cake. Now would you blame me for doing so?
I appreciate that most of the brothers are honest about the fact that ladies shouldnt wear their hearts on their sleeves just like that for any potential guy to see. BUT, to answer your question Realist, lol, honestly the female in me would still blame you for leaving her when you get tired of her harping on about the past. I can imagine the converstion with the gals over icecream. Why, because some people are just not enlightened enough to guard their hearts, so i would empathise with the one in pain and hope they learned their lesson and come after you with a steak knife...i kid, but id empathise with the sista. 
Its a tricky world we find ourselves in today. Yes, because of how things are, some of us have resorted to guarding our hearts like the treasure they are instead, lest we be hurt,simply put. But it shouldnt have to be this way, bo mavukuvuku (the male AND female versions OnO) should learn that people'e hearts are precious and so they shouldnt string them along for their own gain and dump them. It would be a human courtesy which everybody needs to exercize for the other person. So i would still blame you realist for that inhumane act..

I have found two people one from each gender who love me, and i am truly blessed!....i actually pictured you say this the way madea usually says "im blessed*, hillarious. But i recall reading your story mysista with the other married lady etc etc...

lejazz
16 Feb 2011 15:25

Sylvia is way too tjatjarag..her friends warned her but no she was too stubborn to listen to them.This is what normally happens when people are advised by their friends and to their minds they think their friends are just jealous of them.

That boy deserves contracting HIV cos yena he told himself that he is not boyfriend material......

mysista
16 Feb 2011 15:25

Askies realist ke... but i did say "sometimes" Ungakwati yezwa ! Ang'funi ukuxabana namuntu kulonyaka... I have declared this my year of peace. "A thousand apologies" In my best Mind your language accent !

carino
16 Feb 2011 15:25

But i recall reading your story mysista with the other married lady etc etc...

Yazi I remembered that and I didnt want to be all forward with digging the past - I was just about to do a private search for old articles and make sure it was indeed mysista that said that story. So meaning both luthandos are still going strong... hehehe.. kodwa you can never confirm a human being. ///shakinmyhead////

realist
16 Feb 2011 15:35

Askies realist ke... but i did say "sometimes" Ungakwati yezwa ! Ang'funi ukuxabana namuntu kulonyaka... I have declared this my year of peace. "A thousand apologies" In my best Mind your language accent !
Apologies accepted.

Not to worry, I was not offended.

realist
16 Feb 2011 15:37

Ladies, don’t your mothers tell you about these things. My mother used to impress upon me about these things and I’m still impressed.

realist
16 Feb 2011 15:43

BUT, to answer your question Realist, lol, honestly the female in me would still blame you for leaving her when you get tired of her harping on about the past.
But, why?

 
All she does is talk talk about her past and I try introducing new topic she will harp on and on about the past as if I care. I won’t change the past and she must try and understand that. 

I’ll tell you what, wouldn’t it better if she was saying nice things about her past so that I can raise the bar surpass those nice things?

Ngwanab
16 Feb 2011 15:49

Eish guys yesterday I was listening to YFM and 19 year old girl still at the college called to confess on air gore she is pregnant. And her mother founded out and demanded to know the father of her unborn baby. And guess what she is been sleeping with 3 guys at the same time doesn’t have a clue gore the baby‘s father ke many. What do u call this?? meaning she is been bitching around with 3 guys without using condom. 

Apparently she slept with one on Monday the other one on Wed and the last I think on Thursday. This was a shock for me eyooooooooooo!!!!!!!

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 15:49

@mysista
inkinga ukuthi love is sometimes a numbers 's game sometimes you have to kiss more than you fair share of frogs before you locate your prince charming

Eh... then what happens when you've kissed all these frogs & still no prince charming???

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 15:57

@charmagal - I hope you are just friends & won't go back to him.

@Ngwanab - Aaaaaah aah aah... We always think that as young people we are more clued up. With all this AIDS education we receive & people getting tired of hearing it, things like this would be eliminated. That girl is beyond a Jezabel, she needs prayer.

myname
16 Feb 2011 16:00

Oh sharks Ngwanab! Yerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

Ladies, don’t your mothers tell you about these things. My mother used to impress upon me about these things and I’m still impressed.

Realist its hard to tell whether the man is good or not. And when you are deep inlove u become naive and dumb. As i said ooMavukuvuku are calm and they leave you speechless and picturing all sort of good things. Kanti bazingcuka.

It was better if they were written in their foreheads but what its so hard to find your missing piece. Why do you have to kiss all these frogs mara???? I wish it was easy like a formula.

One and Only
16 Feb 2011 16:02

Eh... then what happens when you've kissed all these frogs & still no prince charming???

Eh ......... then what happens when you've kissed all these cows & still no princess???

myname
16 Feb 2011 16:13

Hai sorini ladies but 1& only is killing me.....LMBBAOL, i wonder wathathwaphi???????? 

Gudnyt ladies and gentleman. 

Thanks again Pru, i enjoy your article eyevha!

myname
16 Feb 2011 16:13

Hai sorini ladies but 1& only is killing me.....LMBBAOL, i wonder wathathwaphi???????? 

Gudnyt ladies and gentleman. 

Thanks again Pru, i enjoy your article eyevha!

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 16:21

All she does is talk talk about her past and I try introducing new topic she will harp on and on about the past as if I care. I won’t change the past and she must try and understand that. I agree fully, that in this very un-empathetic world we live in, its best not do that, even if someone were empathetic its not okay to abuse that and just harp on forever. If that happens, if i were boooy *singing*, id tell the girl lovingly to slow down, not saying i dont wanna hear that,but to point out how unhealthy it is even for her because realy, it is....very unhealthy.

I’ll tell you what, wouldn’t it better if she was saying nice things about her past so that I can raise the bar surpass those nice things? being human means you experinece everything. I'd have a huge problem with a dude who just wants me to tell of positive and happy accounts and not share my hurts, because they exist and they inform who i am le tsona. And actually if he knows it would make it easy for him to understand why i react certain way when i do in the relationship and respond accordingly.  There should be a balance.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 16:25

@One andOnly. Cows??? Tjo! As a guy, you admitted that all guys cheat. As a female, I'm telling you that not all women cheat. So, the answer to your question is simple. You will find a princess.

PruLuv
16 Feb 2011 16:28

@myname - you sleep so early? Ok, goodnight to you to. lol
 It's a pleasure my luv.

Green.arrow
16 Feb 2011 16:31

Pruluving...can i *Wonder out loud* preeez?.......thanx honey!:)

did anybody watch "One day leader" maabane???. What a great show!!!!!....i could kiss the producers and Masechaba is such a great host (love her!). Looking forward to seeing how things unfold. Its encouraging to see intelligent yopung people doing their thang. Im old enough and exposed enough to know that SA has many such bright yound ones, but for the kids still growing who only know whats going on in their neighbopurhoods, it will be good to see by example that the SA has bigger issues that they CAN fiodn themselves tackling if they work hard towards it #Education. Its shows like this one that necouraged me growing up in a neighbourhood that had very little to show me about SA, let lone the world.

mbulela
16 Feb 2011 18:24

Green. Arrow, your comment made at 10.46am are the most insightful comment i have seen in this sort of topic under discussion. A 3 monthly agreement made when feeling all the effects of 'being in love' will be one of the most loving gifts couples could give themselves. Thank you for that comment.

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 18:40

I just love the comment abt Dr. Phil & Steve Harvey. LOL! I mean really these have their own opinions - not really enuf 4 u 2 let them become UR BRAIN or sumthing. The rest u can think up 4 urself. I still personally think that a man is capable of doing, a woman is als capable of doing the same thing, we arent that different. Most women have just let it in their heads that they r so called EMOTIONAL BEINGS when what goes on inside of ur head or body can be controled by only u. Like 4 instance the gal I took home frm NW, she was staying with her family & needed 2 let them know where she is. So she probably cooked sum story & thought I can make out what she was saying because I only speak English (told me she is Xhosa) so what does Weiss know? She was so going on saying Eish sisi, mara uPastor so & so - she also kept going on abt ubrother/usister so & so - saying she is khatele. Yho...! I was shocked 2 hear all that, but who cares? She mos has her own plan... My point is if she can lie like that, then she also capable of lying to other men. She can avoid men too damn all she has to do is let him talk to her voicemail & not her owm voice.

Weiss
16 Feb 2011 20:06

@Pru, my love not all men cheat just as much as not all women cheat. We all make our own decision abt how to conduct our lives.

Olwethuthando
17 Feb 2011 10:32

Eh... then what happens when you've kissed all these frogs & still no prince charming???

Eh ......... then what happens when you've kissed all these cows & still no princess???
Yho One and Only......ha ha ha ha 

Green.arrow
17 Feb 2011 12:09

I just love the comment abt Dr. Phil & Steve Harvey. LOL! I mean really these have their own opinions - not really enuf 4 u 2 let them become UR BRAIN or sumthing.... brothers, quoting someone and appreciating a phrase they said which you found to be profound doesnt mean that you make them your brain, nor that you concider what they say all the time to be gospel. Most often than not for all of us, our unique opinions are not unique because we thought them out ourself 100%. They are unique yes, but they are informed by the many things that we see and hear and we put it together to form our unique perspectives. Living in a relational society makes it impossible for people not to affect you with what they say or do.. even the best minds that we quote, those philosophical sayings came from them observing life. As many people from  from Jesus, to Mandela, to Dr Phil, to my little brother (personally), bloggers, little children everywhere....etc etc, will say/do something one day that you will say, this is good...and if you are a humble person, you will acknowledge that what they said is good, it encouraged you, it cleared your view, it made you see something that you werent seeing well etc etc, after all no one is perfect and has it ALL figured out....

PruLuv
17 Feb 2011 13:28

@Weiss - I was referring to the comment made by One and Only in the previous episodes when he stated that "ALL MEN CHEAT."


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