I cannot believe it's almost here! Spingtime is just aroung the corner people! I know this must mean some good news for all those party animals! But then again i know there are those for whom summer or winter makes no difference to them shaking their booties all night!
On the 31st Dec 2005 I promised myself I would be a good girl and not go out to parties/clubs in fact, not to go out at all at night and to also limit my daylight outings. Y u may ask. Well this is the type of person I was: i'd leave home to go to work on a thursday morning and that would be the last my family would see of me...until sunday afternoon, if they were lucky, and if not then they'd only see my face on monday after work. My weekend would literally start on a thursday night and end on sunday. We'd go club hopping and to parties the whole night...and weekend. I'd go out to movies and visit friends and have braais and all those things people my age do. I was also a shopaholic, whether it be cd's, clothes, shoes, underwear, books...if i liked it i took it and didn't really care much about the price tag. Then i fell preggies.
And it was time for some major changes in my life. I made the choices and have stuck to them to the latter. Basically to focus all my energies on raising my little one and be money conscious and all of that stuff. I told myself i wud not go out at night at all until my baby was one full year! And now that that time is (almost) up I feel I'm a bit outdated on alot of things. I don't know what's hot, hip and happening anymore. Back in my day places like Moloko and Divine Lounge and Hartees and Mafikeng and Sankayi and Durban were the places to go to to have fun. Back in my day i'd be glued to the pages put together by Danielle Steele (my favourite author)...i was reading anything from romance to fiction to abo Da Vinci Code. Back then I could wear those low cut tight fitting jeans and body hugging tops. Stilleto heels were like flat shoes to me. I'd go and see all the must see movies and eat out at resturants whose prices would make most of my friends blush in horror (this i can neva get, girls y r u so stingy when it comes to things that are soooo worth it?!). I'd actually spend money on hair and makeup. Haven't bought makeup in a looong time...i paid the lady who does my hair a large sum in advance as i knew i'd have a problem forking it out later on. I went to all the concerts I wanted to (and neva paid for a single one!) and would do braais kobo Hartees and such. He bathong ne ke bo phela bophelo thleng!
U c I knew one day a time would come for responsibilities like being a mother and a wife and making sound financial decisions like buying a house and a car so i wanted to do all of that so i wouldn't feel cheated when the time for all of this came. So the first major responsibility came, that of being a mother, and i took it very seriously. No partying and all of that nonsense until babatjie is one full year old. And even then when i do it wouldn't be as hectic. I'm glad i made that decision and stuck to it because now i'm more maturer and focused and grounded. My baby will be one year on friday and on that day i will sit him down and explain go him gore mommy has been only a mommy for more than a year and a half (since i was preggies) and now mommy wants to tap into her womanhood now. Mommy needs to satisfy some of her own needs that are separate and exclusive of Punku. Needs that won't be met by neglecting him. Grownup stuff. I'll explain to him gore i've been so committed and will continue to be and still love him so even thou he refuses to say mama and says stupid things like dada (!).
But all of this came at a price...i realise now i need to be upgraded. People pls help me figure out what has changed and what's new!
1. What are the hottest places to go boogy at?
last i checked Durban was rockas (ma u funa uku jive woza e durban...)...is moloko still the same?do they still have the eye candy bathong! heeeeyyyy banna ba mole are fine! all tall and big and muscled (just how i like them)...the women are fine too, babalwa type fine...the music is different. i neva thot i'd find myself dancing to snoop dogg and abo eve's music until i went there. what about divine lounge? khanyi met her millionaire husband there, maybe i can meet my billionaire future husband there too...has the music changed? do u still go there and not leave without first hearing that song by that lady...don't know the words to it, only know the part get down what about sankayi? does it still have those "bebe what's wrong? bebe what do u need? i'll give u everything u need bebe. bebe, why we fighting...bebe bebe bebe bebe...?" the only thing that kept me going there was teh music ...kwaito and afro pop type...bo bongo maffin and such...that was a nice place. last time i was there entrance was like a R100..how much more expensive (eish!) is it now, that is if it's still worth going to? what other new places have emerged?
2. What movies are worth watching at the moment?
Last one i saw was dream girls and all i could think was when does it end so i can go home.
3. What are the must read books?
Last one i read was by that hip hop hoochie Korine Steffan or something....i think i like books like that right now...the tell all's...so long as they're juicy and are really tell all. the one part that sticks to my mind about this confessions one is the part where hoochie mama aka supahead had to give head to JayZ to say thank u for including me in ur music video! hmmm...i thot about this one for a moment after reading that part.....i thot, if it was me in that limo with him and he suddenly pulled it out and put on a condom and grabbed the back of my neck pulling my head down...what would i have done? and then i thot, yes i woulda gone down on him. ja. y not? i would go right down and bite it that bloody thing off! damned m***fu***! who the hell do these people think they are?!
4. Where to shop for the right clothes?
Ok so i see those oh so low cut jeans and pants and skirts are not going anywhere. in fact they're getting lower and lower. the hight cut tops are also doing the same, except going higher and higher up. But ke where does a girl shop to get the right cut bathong! Where does one go to get diaparo tsa ma lady nowadays? And where the hell does one find a size 38D bra without them damned sponges! they call them padding but a sponge is a sponge thleng! And what are the in styles? What to wear...what not to wear...help me out please!
5. What cd's are worth buying these days?
I'm still clueless on this one. Whether it be local or international. Even thou i blog with u guys everyday i still don't know some of these people. musta been about 2 months ago i found out what songs rihanna sings. before that i knew the song and the artist but didn't make the connection...and locally, aside from bo Tuks and HHP and Jozi who else is new?
6. What resturants to go to to eat?
7. What has changed with regards to the male - female dynamics on a first encounter?
I know i know they say be yourself and i will be but what's new on this one? How does the first encounter go like nowadays? Do they still whisper sweet nothings in your ear? Are there still those who grab at whatever part of you that's grabbable as if you've been married for ten years when it's only the first time u met? first time i met my baby daddy he told me i was beautiful and that was the first time i actually appreciated someone saying that to me. all the other times it made me feel uncomfortable. damn, i still have a soft spot for the bas****!
8. How much, or little must i drink if i'll be driving?
before i neva used to care as i wasn't the one behind the wheel. the advantage now ofcourse is i don't have to fork out hundreds of rands on a bloody taxi and i don't have to depend on anyone else to take me home.
Bloggers won't u upgrade me
Switch my neck tie to purple labels
Have me rocking purple labels!
Upgrade me
U can Up
Can u Up
I'll let u Upgrade me
Bloggers won't u pgrade me
Bloggers won't u upgrade me
Flip a new page
Introduce me to some new things and
Upgrade me
U can Up
I'll let u Upgrade me....
so i can...
Gettin’ bodied (Gettin’ bodied)
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Gettin’ bodied (I’m the only one tonight)
Gettin’ bodied (Gettin’ bodied) .....
I know u guys won't dissasppoint!
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