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Cruising in a Titanic

Written by Titanic from the blog Cruising in a Titanic on 16 Oct 2007
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This is my first blog ever so if u notice any lack of writting skills, please let me know so i can polish them for next time.

Fathers,ootata, oobaba, nthathe's(dont know the plural of nthate),dads,pa's....etc.

I'm one of those people who had never experienced fatherly love, i was raised by my mother in the rural EC.The person who is supposedly my father ran away when my ma was preggers, apparently the dog denied everything, he even denied knowing my mom in the first place.

Years passed by and my mother decided to trace him and he found him because things were tough for her, they both agreed on paying the maintanance. The dude was now working kwaMantyi where these things are dealt with.It was agreed that he is going to pay R40 per month.I dont know whether it was a going rate by that time or the person in charge was friends with this guy called my father. So from about 1984 to 2000 i was 'maintained' nge R40!! My friends used to laugh at me when i told them this.

The first time i saw him was in 1995, was 13 at the time,i cant even remember what happened on that day.I was minding my own business thinking about the boy i had a crush on at school. Years passed by, i passed matric and i went to his workplace to ask him help my mom out because i'm going to college:He told me his daughter (from wifey)also passed matric so he'll be taking HER to school. That was the last time I saw him.

So i have seen my father twice in my life! I have watched people with their fathers, a father being there for a child,it such a beautiful sight.I used to envy my friend back in high school,she had a mother and a father who were always there for her, when we passed matric he told me her father was taking her to Totalsport to buy NIke sneakers which were by the way R500! On that day i really felt the pain of not having a father.

Now grown up as i am, i looked at the situation on that time he ran away, and i told myself that he was young and confused and scared, i forgave him for that. What about now? He's a man now,infact he is old man. He doesnt wanna build a relationship with me, i tried and i'm still trying but he's still running away and i made it clear when i made the call that i dont want anything from him because i'm working, i just need a stupid relationship with him.Yhoo I even asked my mom where the hell did she get this crook.

If u can relate, please share with us. If not please tell us the joys of having a father around.

44 Comments

Titanic
16 Oct 2007 07:17

Guys sorry about what happenned earlier, one of those blonde moments.

Titanic
16 Oct 2007 07:25

Ok guys please reply on this Titanic.

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 07:26

mara GUYS why are yu cumin up wt all these sad stories today
babe its very nice havin both parents at tyms ma situation is nt better than yo's if yu askin me,ma dad was right there bt he neva did jack *bleep!* for me and ma sista's bt i love him bk0os hes ma dad
last tym he bought me smthing it was 1997 i was doin grade 9 and they wanted a new tunic bkos i was singin a solo at school so i had to be infront of the choir and
both ma sista's were in tertiary and ma mom was building a house

im sorry gal cnt go on wt this story bt either the man is there or not kuyafana!

spice
16 Oct 2007 07:28

TITANIC TITANIC TITANIC

Foxy gal
16 Oct 2007 07:36

Well my story is more like zandii's..... eish.... I mean he's there physically but it ends there.... the 1 thing he was good at was giving us busfare to school but not the school fees (just imagine)!!!!! LOL

I love him bkos I can never have another dad HE is my dad no matter what!!!

J-Girl
16 Oct 2007 07:37

Hayi I gave up on that trying to get him to love me, I have a stepdad right, and you know somtymes u wonder what your REALL dad is like, my stepdad did all he could(financially) even tho he has 6 of his own, he treats me like his own daughter; so I went ahead and tried to build this relationship with this B*STARD and he just told me in ma face "sisi umamakho unomyeni why dont u go and play family with him?" I was horrified - still am and all this happened like 8 yrs ago.
so u're not alone - I feel you...judgement day is around the corner uskawara Titanic

zandii!!
16 Oct 2007 07:47

guys half of the bloggers im sho they've gt the same problems whn it cums to fathers no hatin its all up to GOD to jugde!!

Tshd21
16 Oct 2007 10:03

Like you Titanic, my father o tshabile when my mother told him she was pregnant. I have never met him and I have no intentions of doing that. Will elaborate later...

Titanic dear, you are my favourite movie!!

Brown Shuga
16 Oct 2007 10:50

Wow guys, hearing these stories is so sad hey...it pains me .
I'm so sorry guys. J-Girl, I can only imagine how you felt when he said that...don't they have feelings??

DJ Why why
16 Oct 2007 11:30

My parents are married. My dad was always there ....a typical traditional man, also from rural EC. Very strict.... I am 28, a manager with my own flat and salary. Maar I still have to ask for permission to go to town, if i am at home...haaawu! Give us one week together and we get on each other's space. He has twice thrown me out of his house already.......Of course I am not crazee, i did nt go anywhere! If you think i am unruly ....get this .... I aint the only, my cousin, my sisters, brothers.. eish! ndibala ntonina!. If it were for him nje....he'd be by himself...and guess what he do nt do alcohol. He is a brillianto mathematics teacher who thinks everyone ought to get As and distinctions just like he did. If you dare appreciate sport or something, it disturbs your schoolwork ......with him it's his way or the high way. The same rules that apply to his kids apply to his siblings.... poor boo tatomncinci. HE AINT GOT NO FRIENDS Y'ALL. He is a control freak...JUST LIKE ME.......he he he! Maar he works on my nerves..you know. Five of his kids are over 21 maar he treats all 6 of us like we are 5years old. I go home once a year or in two years coz eish!......My sister visited one summer and she cried tears when daddy called to say she must go back!! Hi hihi hi! Daddio said, "we miss you" and she burst into tears !....I laughed my butt off! That is ......uMugabe, we call him the FOW..Father of War. Ok shame, he covers the financial side of things, all the family needs ...maar eish...he is emotionally unavailable!!!!

sponono
16 Oct 2007 11:40

I cant believe he even denied knowing your mother in the first place let alone gettin her preggaz..yo!! but these things happen emzansi

well as for mina growing up fatherless was not a big-deal becoz only less that te families in my neibourhood had male heads the rest were single mothers, so you dont worry about somethin you dont see often.in other families.but wena at least you got "maintained" and your mother looked foward to that 40rand just like how some women look foward to imali-yeqolo..which is not much BUT at least..as for trying to create a relaitonship I can understand that becasue maybe as a female subconciously you still have that gap for a father fugure and knowing that he's out there doesnt help you move on so you keep trying to have a relatiohship, but once you accept that its NOT YOUR responsibility to do that you'll let him go and once he feels strongly about that realtionshipship he'll come afta you..but your efforts right now are emotionaly strenuous to you when you didnt do anything wrong..and also forgiving him based on your reasons seems to make you feel guilty that ok he was young blahblahblah..therefore I should start the relationship anew...trust me the guy is old, has seen the world ,is tired and doent think he can offer you anything and he probably realises that you are older wiser and stronger and maybe you should let him do the chase this time....whatdayathink

sponono
16 Oct 2007 11:53

i meant "only less than ten "

sweetie my baby
16 Oct 2007 23:10

wow - Titanic, that's painful - thanks for sharing. you're clearly an amazing person, and it's your dad's loss if he can't see that.

well, since you asked, i grew up in a two parent situation, and i thank god that my dad was there - he was good to us, available emotionally, financially - the works. and in my teenage years,i just didn't get on with my mum, so it was great to have him there to balance things out. (my mum is very fiery like me, and my dad is more calm, peacemaker) i also think his presence was important to my development as a woman - it's affected how i look at my life, the type of men i choose to have relationships with, so much... i see it with my sisters also..

yeah, basically my dad always made us feel like it was all about us, as his family - and i think that's a blessed foundation. so that was my experience of fatherhood... he's not perfect, but he did his best in the way he knew.

aiger
16 Oct 2007 23:58

thanks guys for sharing. I come from a christian family and my dad was very strict(wayebetha ngesabhokwe) and we never chatted that much at home when he was around becoz wayevele athi siyangxola simenzela iinerves.but i know he loved us(7 kids), i remeber when every night we prayed he used to say "Thixo ukuba kwabantwana bam ukhona okonileyo and wena ufuna ukumpanisha,ndiyacela Thixo uyibethe apha kum loo mivumba".... thats love right there. yeerreee, i'm crying now....(pulling myself together).sadly he passed away when i was 13....

Sparrow
17 Oct 2007 00:14

Great aticle gal!
My dad left when i was born! Got married and start a whole new family.
My brother & I startd visitng when were about 9&10. Cant remember whether he helpd my mom or not nor did i ask! I remember our first visit, my stepmom who treatd us like were her last borns cookd dis delicious meal and just being welcumd by her & my other brother & sister was priceless coz i so scared then nervous!

The strange is that my brother and him dont get along @ al! Why? Well u can't tell someone not to drink & smoke when ur doing it!! Naf said!! Im 23 now and proud to say im fathers child!!

zazalicious
17 Oct 2007 00:23

Hi guys,my father was very nice we used to joke a lot he was very friendly even to my friends when they came to visit, but he was alcoholic he died in 2005 on my birthday I wont forget that.

Sis Dolly
17 Oct 2007 00:36

Titanic -we share the same experiances. My mom got preggerz by a married man while she was still in High School. He also didnt want to have anything to do with her as his family were disgraced by his behaviour. His father (My grand dad) even went to the courts to prove I was not my dads. Only when he was on his death bed he finally acknowledged me as part of the family. My dad also passed away when I was 10, he never played any part in my up bringing until his death. I have 2 half siblings and a step mom and only met them about 7 years ago because I needed my own closure. Some of the family members were willing to accept me to be part of the family BUT step mom and umamkhulu didnt approve (I kinda understand them coz it'd be uncomfortable for anyone to accept a love-age when your husband is not even there).

My mom never got married -I think she is still hang up on the guy (apparently he was her first love). I've learnt to accept my situation as my mom tried her best give me and my little sister the best life possible. I grew up with uncles who loved me so much, so I never really missed not having a dad around.

My life has never been this better -I dont really regret not having a father but I also know it would have been nice to have someone you'd call your dad.

The experiance though has made me think hard in choosing the "right" person to be the father of my child when I decide to have one. I wouldnt want to go through what my mother went through.

Sis Dolly
17 Oct 2007 00:38

Sorry I meant -Love child not love age

Toodecent
17 Oct 2007 00:45

Huh sad stories... Well atleast I knew who ma dad was even before he died. He was a soccer player and you know players mos..? I have about 5 sisters I think whom I havent even met only have met 1 which makes it 6 but what is good is that on my aunt I am his best child she doesnt have any of her own except me and the little one that I know. We never had a father son relationship infact it seems at times like am irritating him but when I succeed on something he would proudly say Mfana waka... Likewise he is dead and I hope wherever he is he will become a better father than he was on earth. Sometimes I wonder what IF one day I shagg and wanna marry someone who is actually my sister that I didnt know...?

edgards
17 Oct 2007 00:49

TDC,I feel you, my brother and i think i can relate

Andie
17 Oct 2007 00:57

Yha Titanic... that part of ur life is similar to mine. My so called dad ran away too. Funny enough he was so proud of me coz every1 who knew him would tell me how nice my old man talks about me. I have seen him once in my life for less than 5minutes and he gave me R2 note that was 1986. That was my first and last time.

When i was at varsity in 2002 he called my Aunt (coz i was staying with her) and wanted to speak with me. Lucky with me, that day i was with my mom. Aunty gave him my cell no. but he never called. Months later he was in hospital and his family ( they love me to bits) told me that he wants to see me. I was preparing for my final exams and could not go. Weeks later he died, his funeral was on tuesday and could not go( actually did not want to go but made excuses). but funny enough when i got the news that he is no more..... i cried but minutes later i asked my self what for.

to cut it short, the bastard left me some money, after i struggled when i needed it most, i refused to take it.
My friends and family had their opinions but bottom line , it was my decision, they do not know the pain he cause to me for life. Anyways its not about money, its about being there for ur child.

He he he, may be, just may be.. one of u is my sibling coz i do not know any of them..........

Toodecent
17 Oct 2007 01:05

And when he died I didnt go to his funeral not that I didnt want to but cause I only found out later in the night while it was happening the next day.But still it meant nothing to me!

Porche
17 Oct 2007 01:14

Hi guys I am new but have been a reader for a while. I am very touched by the topic even thou my father was around since I was born physically not emotionally I feel that atleast he was there unlike the father of my daughter whom I kept begging just to be there not even financially. The greatest pain I have felt in life is not to give my five year daughter a father that most kids have at her creche and there is nothing I can do about that because the BASTARD does not give a damn... Well like you say I cannot wait for judgement day.

monchooza
17 Oct 2007 01:25

yah neh..................well nami my parents divorced whilst i was 3yrs and he got married again and my mom never married again. so i lived my life with my mom and recently did i try to reach out to the guy, cause i needed that pathetic father son relationship but the bustard surely wants nothing to do with me, so mina i am still planning my revenge on the guy.....he has hurt me in more ways than one..........and the bustard even thinks that i want his money since he is a businessman. his day will come...........

Toodecent
17 Oct 2007 01:27

Welcome to blogging Porche one thing I have told myself in life is that my own blood will never grow up without me being there as a father... It is painful for a child to grow up without a loving father and thats the reason I will not make a child anytime soon untill I am certain that I want to be with this woman. Even the child thats not my own but should I be involved with the mom I will try the best I can to be a loving and respective father. I have a firend who has about 4 children at the age of 20 I wonder when he reaches 25 how many will he have and where will they be..
Another thing I dont wanna see a child growing up and then after its success thats when someone comes up to say thats my baby...GAAD!

Pozzy
17 Oct 2007 01:29

Wish I could say I had a great father… the only thing we share is DNA, nothing more

I grew up with both my parents, but I think it would have been better to not know the ba****d. He was an alcoholic and always had to start a fight when he wanted to go out le di cherri tsa gae… then the fights continues when he gets back. Ne re le di joke tsa kazi ya ka coz every weekend people had to watch us being chased out of the house, or if he doesn’t do that, he would wake everyone up so that we prepare him a meal coz he doesn’t want whatever we had for dinner…

My mother decided to take us to better schools when we went to high school, then the ba****d decided to quit his job, telling my mother gore ga ana tshelete ya go dlala. My mother had to support the whole family while his a** was without a job…

There came a point when my mother couldn’t take it anymore then she divorced him, coz he went too far by beating my sister up… ne anale blu eye that lasted for about three weeks, our doctor couldn’t believe that it was our biological father who did that..

I decided to make peace with him and went over to visit, only to find a woman who is old enough to be his daughter carrying a small child that happens to be my dad’s. The man is over 60 and he’s got a baby as young as my nephew!?!? I sometimes wish that I never knew my father …

sponono
17 Oct 2007 01:37

Andie
Haayike Andi angiyazi le yokungayithathi imali..mos...you neva got to know what he was gonna say in his death bed...mayeb he felt remorese or maybe he wanted to give his side of the story and by living you some money he rpobably hoped that you'd be happy or use it for somethin you need adn perhaps he wanted to ease his guilt...(if he felt guilty that means he really loved you unlike some fathers who have no conscience at all) so I say take the money throw a huge bash or give it to fahterless kids or buy his family something but refusing it means you're still angry when you say he actually was fond of you so much that he left something

come on child take the moolah....(of course you're still angry but ask them to keep it(the money) somewhere while you calm down...hi hi hi

(in my situation, when I found him after high school and he tried tellin me stories and explanations, I wasnt interested expect in him payin for my studies which he did and today I have a job and I'm no longer bitter about why he left us..although he was wrong...at least you know your father loved you

monchooza
17 Oct 2007 01:39

TDC mfana one thing these bustards taught us indirectly is that we must be better fathers than they have been to us....which is why nami i am not planning on having a kid anytime soon....until ngize ngishade, then i will have the father son relationship i never had but wanted from my father

Blossom
17 Oct 2007 01:39

Hectic guys, I sometimes envy those with single parents because in my situation I did grow up with both but the abuse I saw there is/was enough to cause irrepairable damage to me emotionally and has forever changed my views on marriage (won't be married anytime soon) and man in general.

They are both ok as parents to us but to each other the abuse we saw and still see, especially my dad its just heartbreaking even thou its just emotional (the cheating and disrespect).

So do not always envy those with both parents as you might not know what goes on behind closed doors.

zozozo
17 Oct 2007 01:44

I feel for you all guyz, I grew-up with both my parents around emotionally and financially(not much of it though)but i knew what they meant when they say they can't afford to by me sumthing i wanted. Most of my friends were raised-up by single moms, so I've seen how painful it can be to grow-up with ur dad.Now I'm a grown up gal, during my teens I vowed to myself not too ever get pregnant until I get married,So that my child can also experince and indulge from the luv of both parents like i did.

Weiss
17 Oct 2007 01:45

I've been reading your stories, guyz. Sho!! My dad died last year and it was very emotional for me cause I loved him a lot.

He has been the most wonderful guy ever, and the love he had for me and my siblings. He believed that we were individuals and he wanted us to succeed in life. He struggled to get me to college - but because this what I wanted, he finally got me there. He was proud of us all, spent a lot of time with my mother - those two were very close. When we were growing up, at the end of the year with his bonus money he would entertain us and throw a party for his kids. What ever we needed, he would try with everything in his power to get.

We still miss him, even if its a year later after his passing. The sad part for me is that he struggled to give me education, and i spent all my time looking for a job. But just when I was about to get what I was looking for - he passed away. I wanted to treat him and spoil him, because he did the same for my siblings and me. I didn't get a chance to that.

Toodecent
17 Oct 2007 02:02

U are right Monchooza....!

Titanic
17 Oct 2007 02:25

Yhoo peeps! i was reading all these stories and its amazing how our life experiences had shaped our lives, if your father was there for you, you want your kids to be raised in that same environment because it worked for you I LIKE THAT. If he was not there ,dont allow history to repeat itself. TDC and Moonch
proud of u guys.

belz
17 Oct 2007 02:50

Eish titanic, you are not alone sana, kodwa mina on my side its not my father its my mother, my parents seperated before i was even born, after that my mother immediately got married to some guy and started a family, my dad was there the whole time and only got married when i was grown up to understand he needed a wife, so you can imagine, i ddnt have the wonderful relationship some gals have with their mothers, when i got my first period, i was visiting my dad, and i couldnt tell my stepmother, and you know mos when you get these things, you want to tell your mom so she can tell you about things you already know, i envy people when its mothers day, i just neva know what to do, kodwa, i've tried to sort things out with her, i think kuzolunga but i've missed out already.

KeleFabulous
17 Oct 2007 02:53

wow guys your stories are trully touching! from what i'm reading, from my own personal experience with my father, from my experience with my baby daddy, from what some of my friends went/are going thru it seems 90% of fathers baya beda in some way or other nje.

my mom and dad only divorced a few months back. my father was there emotionally and physically and financially. at least for some time. it's funny how when you grow up and wisen up you see things as they trully are. my mom and dad always fought, for as long as i can remember. in the early 90's my dad was retrenched from work and neva bohtered to look for another job. ironically my mom fell preggies with my lil sister around this time. still le ndoda ibe ihleli nje. my mom had to go back to work 9 days after giving birth! u baba wam was a control freak and he was paranoid and everyone was wrong and doing him wrong kodwa yena he was always mr perfect and couldn't see his own wrongs. my dad doesn't drink. he isn't the type to get influenced by friends so i don't know what his problem was. when he found out my mom was finally divorcing him he blamed me for it. (before it was my sister until she moved out then it was my brother but he also later moved out) so ke i was the oldest and guess i was the one to blame.

the last few months of their divorce were the worst i have had with him! he would pick a fight everyday! went as far as going to the police athi mina i told him he must voetse* or he'll leave in a coffin. he banna...this hurt me cos he was so crazy he coulda done anything and suicide was what alot of people thot he was capable of so imagine if he had done somehting...i woulda been the first suspect. basically there's alot of things over the yrs i won't even go into cos it's too much and too emotionally drainig. but some time ago i told him i was really dissappointed in his behaviour and was hoping me and him cud start afresh after the divorce and i was willing to let go of all his wrongs. kodwa after his last actions i cudn't take it anymo. i even told him i don't want him near my son cos hell be telling him sh** which i'll later have to explain to my baby and how do u tell a child not to mind u mkhulu as he's crazy? kodwa he's not mentally ill, wa hlanya nje! the only time he gets near my baby is if i'm not there cos my mom doesn't see anything wrong...fathers...

half cent
17 Oct 2007 02:55

Shame your stories are sad & they make me realise how fortunate I am to have such supportive & caring father. I hope this experiences teach us how resilience can one be after such traumas, in my department I come across a lot prostitutes & most of them attribute that to dysfunctional families so I applaud anyone who was able to rise above those circumstances.

myname
17 Oct 2007 03:41

Hi guys & thanks Titanic. And im so sorry guys ur stories r so sad. We r 3, 2 older bothers & mi (the only daugther & the last born) and u wil think im a spoil bred bt NO. They were strict & lovable. Bt unfortunately my papa passed away in 1996 & i was 13. He was shot. He loved politics or let mi say he was a politician. I remember siting btwn amathanga akhe (his thigh) while im eating. I was a daddys gil. He neva punished mi even once. I used 2 hate my mother the time my dad was alive. Wayendibetha nge-strop senkomo. I thought i was not hers bt thanks 2 her, im here 2day. Even after my father died my mother was my father & mother 2 us. I thank God 4 having her. She is my hero & i stil wonder where does she get this power.

Lex
17 Oct 2007 04:26

Hi,guys,I'm back.Its sad to hear all the stories about absent fathers especially when I know just how warm a father's love is.My dad is my world,I'd be lost without him.He has always been my best friend,especially when mommy was going through menopause,and u know mos girls and their moms aren't friends in most cases.Just this morning he woke up to move my car to the gate coz I broke my arm and its on a sling and when he gave me my keys he sadi:'l love u baby,enjoy ur day at work an if the arm gets too sore,call me so l can take u to the doctor'. I tell u guys having both my parents around is the most wonderful feeling ever and dont think l cold ever be ready to loose them,and phela my dad turned 80 inMay this year.

Lex
17 Oct 2007 04:35

...I'm the lastborn of 7 kids,a 'laatlammetjie' as some ppl would say,meaning I was born when my parents were old and fooling around,thinking they had passed child-bearing stage.

Tshd21
17 Oct 2007 10:18

My father abandoned my mother when she was pregnant... Growing up, all I wanted was to get his support, love, etc I told mama about it and she supported my decision. Later on, I realised that if he wanted to be in my life, he would have done that, but he didn't, so my priorities changed from wanting a relationship with him to just maintenance. I kept longing for him, especially since times were hard. really hard...

Untill the day of my matric dance. I received 5 certificates of merit because I was top student sa class of 2002, and only my mother was there to congratulate me. Earlier on, I almost did not make it there because mama o ne a sena madi a go nthekela mosese le ditlhako. She hustled and managed to buy me a cheap dress kwa Fashion Express and I borrowed my aunt's heels...

I walked in with my date and guess what, I was not the only one wearing that dress. I went to the loo and cried my heart out. My friends consoled me about the dress but that wasn't it. I was crying because I thought maybe, just maybe if he was in my life, things would have turned out better. I hated that man on that day, I still do, and I scrapped all my intentions of ever finding him....

But as much as I hate him and don't ever want to see him, there are times when I want to know why he did that to my mother and to me...

DJ Why why
17 Oct 2007 10:53

Yho! people, i have respect for all the mothers who struggled alone to keep us at school, clothed and well fed! Monch-monch and TDC i also congratulate you guys for wanting better for your future kids. My ex had a similar (daddy - hit and run) situation and just like his dad ...he went around chasing skirts. He got a kid and told me (afta break up) that the baby was a "mistake" (coz he wanted to get back with me). I told him never to refer to the baby like that and said the only thing he can do for me, is love that child and be the father he never had. I know that got to him! He is finally there for his 3 year old which is great!

sponono
17 Oct 2007 11:01

Tshd21....u alomst made me cry with that dress story..its similar to mines

to make it worse I did not get along with my mother I used to think she hates all of us - or she was bitter over him that she took it out on me...so much that when I found him she didnt know, and didnt even ask who's paying for my studies so when I finished I felt obliged to ask her to come and HE didnt come yet at that graduation it was NOT the best day of my life.
She was still not talking to even my brother, and in all fairness I felt my father should be there coz he paid for my studies but I couldnt invite him and so you could cut the tension with knife.at the grad while everyone's family was all giglgish and excite we just stood there the thre of us lookin like extras in an old tragic movie..eventually I sent her back to her workplac in a cab and I didnt even ahve a grad party or anything.....so ultimately I felt let down by both..so much that as I'm studying now I feel its a beginning coz I'm using my onw money I dont feel like I owe anyone..eish hectic stuff (talk about oversharing)

while fathers have done more harm than mothers you'll be suprised at how much hurt some of us have experienced thru the very ame mothers who are supposed to be better at carin and loving ....bollocks..just consider yoself lucky if ONE parent loved you through it all

Brown Shuga
17 Oct 2007 12:40

Thanks for sharing guys, much respect to all of you!!!

sesikavincent
17 Oct 2007 15:04

Guys you made me realise how blessed i am to have known my father for the few years ive been with him.....he passed away in 1992 and i was 11.......he was a good father to us(myself, 2 brothers, 5 sisters and few nephew and nieces) and i remember in December we would go to Sales House 2 buy christmas clothes...in summer he would buy us umbila and fruits...... on saturdays after betting the horses he would come back with sishibo sa sunday and packet of zimba chips, and we eill form a quee with our cups and asisherele ama chips.........the memories i cherish
But the Heroin is my mother who had to carry on the good job and she did her best(may her soul rest in peace).........

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