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Written by belz from the blog Belz's Lounge on 22 Oct 2007
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This is just some questions I felt like asking, your answers and experiences might help someone today, so guys please lets talk.

1. What do you do if your partner promises you something and they don’t do it, to be exact, they promise you that they’ll see you later, and then later when you try to col them, there’s no answer, doesn’t return your col??? Mind you this is not one of those one night stands thing, it’s a normal relationship. I am not a very paranoid person but if someone does this, I really think they are with someone else.

2. You are with your partner, your phone rings and the volume is high, so obviously he/she overhears what the other person is saying, and accidentally this person is someone you met and he’s just flirting nje, nothing to it, just flirting, you partner asks you about the conversation? Do you tell them to f! off and stop listening to your conversations or you just listen to him shout at you???

3. Ladies, your man insists on going with you when you go shopping, but when you there he starts moaning, and complaining on how indesicive you are, do you leave the shopping and go back, or do you tell him to leave you there, you’ll meet with him later, mina I just don’t go with him period!!

This is only but a few questions, feel free to ask your own, if you’ve got nothing to say, you are welcome to exit my lounge using the X at the top of your screen

Lets talk......

81 Comments

sponono
22 Oct 2007 07:13

you met someone and this someone is just flirting, yet you gave him your number,,,why give him yo number if you dont want to take it further than flirting....let him flirt but no number exchange.....I mean you also get pissed off if yo man is talkin to some girl who sounds like she's got hots for him and HE gave her his number...No Belz udlala nge-ou....

as for shopping...esih you girls are really frustrating ..so i guees y're right...go alone for shoopin or leave me at the bar somewhere til y're done

MADENZA
22 Oct 2007 07:14

me i prefer a partner who does not go through my stuff( my cell phone) when i am not around bacause it shows that she does not trust me.. I only read my partners SMS's when she is around.

belz
22 Oct 2007 07:22

No Belz udlala nge-ou hihi,spopo its not me, someone i know, but she's overhead her ou talking to some chick and she didnt say anything, what gives him a right to say something?

only read my partners SMS's when she is around.> Denzy - why do you do that?

J-Girl
22 Oct 2007 07:23

....mh....i will be beack jes now i wanna comment....interesting belz interesting

MADENZA
22 Oct 2007 07:29

We are partners so i have to know what she is up to, as long as i am not doing it behind her back.

Toxic
22 Oct 2007 07:31

1ST OF ALL...where is this RED X people talk about???

Yho, nami Belz, I'd like to know about this ignoring phone calls thing cause I also think he's with someone if he can't pick up my call or at least call me back that same period.......

My question is:

Why do men cheat?

Dimago
22 Oct 2007 07:32

# 1: If they dont return your call, start calling ka private number...if they answer you know they are avoiding you...

#3 , i am with you Belz...i cant shop with anyone, let alone a man...cause i'm, one of those people who goes from shop to shop and some people just dont understand that.

tshepiso
22 Oct 2007 07:33

when my partner promise me sumting and don't do it, I don't bother by asking him y. and i will not even touch the topic. and the next day I will come with that thing if possible.

secondly my phone is my privacy, if he overheads sumting he must just stomach it.

nna if u make a habit to follow me to shopping u will regret it because i will fill up that trolly with unnecesary stuff. and if u don't pay, ke tla go tsenya matlho, i will scream at u like hell.

guys what do you do, if u waiting for ur wo/man at a classy resturant, very romatic with cadle light and sum nice smelling flowers aside and s/he don't peach up?

Dimago
22 Oct 2007 07:34

1ST OF ALL...where is this RED X people talk about???
Top right of your browser...

belz
22 Oct 2007 07:39

LOL tshepiso, yho hayi, fill up the trolley?

secondly my phone is my privacy, if he overheads sumting he must just stomach it, i totally agree, if i can stomach it, why cant he

Tox: i don think we'll ever get an answer to that question, i really dont know. i really dont know why people cheat.

Gugs
22 Oct 2007 07:42

1st Q : If this heppens he is just no that into you.

2nd Q : Respect your partner inuf not to flirt and give people your number if you don't inted to be in a realtionship with them.

3rd Q : Do your shoping alone or with gals we as ladies dnt wana be rushed if we do our shoping.

Annonymous
22 Oct 2007 07:45

Interesting Belz, I am a master of no.2. When my cell phone rings when I'm with my man, I would look at who is calling me first, then my boo starts staring at me in the eye with anxiety. Then instead of answering the phone, I press the ignore button & then I say:"Ngisahleli nesithandwa sami, please call me later!" Then my poor man looks at me with pride thinking that I value our quality time so much that I even tell people off when they call. So that's just me, I do that to avoid him overeacting about something that is just mere fun & that's not even intended to go very far.

As for no.1. My man used to have the same problem of saying he is coming at 2 midday & instead will only pitch at 8 in the evening. What I would do in those circumstances after realising that ranting & raving like a b*&$h was no GOOD, If I caleled I would be the sweetest girlfriend ever or if I didn't call; when he finally comes to see me, he would be panicing thinking that I am about to perform and instead I play a bit of a reverse psychology on him and even though I am fuming inside I would just compose myself and be so loving and act as if everything is okay. Then he will be like, baby u know earlier on..........then I would just say:"It's okay and don't forget that I love you" After all of that drama slowly but surely the ways changed, coz I didn't make him change, I made him see why it was important for him to change.

YYoh Belz, I really didn't mean to rewrite ur wonderful article, I was just answering in the most honest way possible!!!

MADENZA
22 Oct 2007 07:47

Cheating is something we will never understand in this lifetime and why e will never know it is like:
- why a grown-up can rape a two-year old? you will never know
-The Dina Rodrigues story, who can explain that.

We just have to live with it because no matter what we can say or do we just cannot stop it.

Annonymous
22 Oct 2007 07:52

Well, the shopping I do with friends, coz I go from shop to shop, and sometimes mall to mall, then at the end of it all I will realise that the first shop I went to, I wanna go back there again & buy what I liked but didn't buy then..............now really some of ma girlfriends can't stand that, let alone a MAN!!!!!

belz
22 Oct 2007 07:54

press the ignore button & then I say:"Ngisahleli nesithandwa sami, please call me later!" LMAO!!! Nonny, thx for the tip, but doesn't that make him curious?

zozozo
22 Oct 2007 07:58

1st Q : If He don't answer my call I won't answer his when he call for the nextday just to piss da hell outta him

2nd Q: Well very touchy one Belz with the cell-phone a cell phone is cordless and private if u wanted other ppl 2 know what u saying to whom u would have put the speaker to loud, secondly my rule with my cell-phone is "u page u don't ask me any questions period" Simply coz when paging ur partner's fone u'll see sumthing u won't like and start a fight that could have been avoided.

3rd Q : I don't take my man when shopping for clothes coz most of the time men don't understand women's sense fo style with clothes and will comment on why u need differnt colours 4 one type of shoes......

Renegade
22 Oct 2007 07:58

Mina I think men cheat just coz they are weak, sexually that is. I honestly believe that to be true. You see, a girl can be with a man who loves her, and she loves him, but when the man is offered is sconebans, and he knows there's little chance of the love of his life finding out, he's gonna take it.
Basically, when a man cheats, usually, its not cause he doesnt love you, but its because a man cannot say no to the impulses of his "mshini wam".
However, I am not trying to excuse cheating, and mina I sincerely think that 90% of men cheat, all a girl can do is hope she doesnt catch her man out, coz what u dont know cant hurt you.

Now, back to belz's questions:

1. I think if a person doesnt do something and doesnt care to inform you,it shows he doenst respect u and couldnt be bothered if you are upset with him or not. I'd say you must just leave him(if its a serious relationship)

2. I think its disrespectful to expect your partner to say nothing to someone flirting with you. Personally, I'd be offended if he said nothing, its like he couldn't be bothered if i was cheating on him. And either way, i know i'd throw a fit if some chickling was flirting with my man!

3. My rule: When going shopping, leave man at home! Plain and simple. Unless we shopping for groceries! Men just dont understand shopping. I once went shopping with my man, we were inside truworths for less than 10 minutes when he was already nagging me. I told him to go and i'll call him to come fetch me when i'm done! (and of course he ddnt go coz he felt bad)

Toxic
22 Oct 2007 07:59

1ST OF ALL...where is this RED X people talk about???
Top right of your browser...
My browser doesn't have a red X!

Annonymous
22 Oct 2007 08:01

"ress the ignore button & then I say:"Ngisahleli nesithandwa sami, please call me later!" LMAO!!! Nonny, thx for the tip, but doesn't that make him curious?"
Phela nami I don't say it like Busi Dlomo on cue, I make it seem as genuiwine as possible.

Dimago
22 Oct 2007 08:07

My browser doesn't have a red X!
what colur is you X?

Toxic
22 Oct 2007 08:18

It's black

Foxy gal
22 Oct 2007 08:18

Q1: Yes he mite b with some 1 else but I like giving my man a benefit of a doubt cos he mite have forgotten the phone @ home or the battrey could be low & trying to answer it it could just go off (It helps to think of something that happened/ mite happen to u too that could cause you to not answer yo fone)

Q2: Well we don't have any fone problems bcos I answer his phone he answers mine, I can leave my phone with him the whole day & not worry (vice versa).

Q3: I prefer doing my shopping alone or with my friend (Sparrow) not just anyone else ( I think she understands me!!!hi hi hi )

belz
22 Oct 2007 08:21

LOL Tox, with your X problem, its on the right handside of your computer, but why are you looking for it, ufuna ukuphuma kuleblog? hayi Tox.

Toxic
22 Oct 2007 08:24

no, angifuni ukuphuma i'm just asking in case there are people that want to leave but can't find the exit he he he!

Another question:

Do men like women that make the 1st move or opnely declare that they have a crush on them (men)?

belz
22 Oct 2007 08:25

Yoh Fox, you've got such a straight forward life. your answer to number one makes a lot of sense except when you ask him the following day why he wasn't returning your calls, he says "I wanted you to miss me" Bulls***!!!!!!

Pooky
22 Oct 2007 08:43

1. Get real pissed, light my ciggi and puff away the anger(not a regular smoker but have my Benson & Hedges on standby for cases like this...guys just wanna make you smoke a cigarette sometimes, really). and then call my girls and go out.

2. i would kindly explain to mr. that i'm with utata we khaya... thats why i dont like giving my number to guys... Baya thanda ukugeza... call you at 2 in the morning knowing ukuthi you're with your man... i always try to avoid izinto ezi unecessary.

3. I dont like going shopping with my man, he's the idesicive one. He'll pop into each and every store, sometimes enquiering about the item making these poor people call other branches if their out of stock, just wasting my time and their time and then end up not even buying the damn thing. i always end up being the nagging one. food, clothes, electronics whateva he can never make up his mind, (ag kodwa thats why i love my honey booooo).

Annonymous
22 Oct 2007 08:48

Pooky, I'm so lovin' ur no. 1 I see me & my Dunhill, instead of Benson & Hedges though!!!

Pooky
22 Oct 2007 09:01

Annonymous: B&H istrongo kamnandi for situations like this. Hi le yamaxhego(old timers) kanye. it knocks me ndilibale about him, otherwise i also go for i Dunhill on lighter situations(when i have my Sauvignone Blanc or my Chardonnay on hand hi hi hi...

faraimagic
22 Oct 2007 09:01

oooohweeee (!) dump his ass!
(2) first of all why did u give a stranger yo digits?YOU CANT BE TRUSTED and the other person on the line doesn't he have other people to call?where is his wife? damn girl i know this type i've heard of it...He is a PLAYER 4 SURE!
(3) im not a woman no comment!
CELL PHONES AND GOLIWOOD LIFE!

Foxy gal
23 Oct 2007 00:14

@ belz <<when you ask him the following day why he wasn't returning your calls, he says "I wanted you to miss me" Bulls***!!!!!!>> that is absolute BULL!!!!!!!!!!

sponono
23 Oct 2007 00:35

how about this...if I dont want you to go out or I'm jelous of what you get up to on Friday nights with girls, I'll say...eish baby I want to see you this evening before you go out or baby i'll see around seven or eight...then you tell your friends your b-friend is coming so you'll call them when he's left maybe afta ten..or you say you cant come at all...
the next thing, I keep calling you "baby I'm on my way I'm stuck in the traffic" "oh baby I'll be there in 30min" oh baby give me 20 min" meanwhile yo friends are callin you or you are pacing up and down, wishing you had gone for yo partying but you didnt want to dissapoint me and its already afta ten and I know by then youcant go anywhere and I show up ngabo-eleven ngi-tipsy so even if you get mad I wont pay attention coz I'll be tipsy and maybe I'll just charm you and leave you and go back to my friends...at that time you're probably wearing yo pj's coz your friday is already spoilt.....I KNOW Y'ALL GO THIS because typically women are sweet and they dont want to dissapoint their men so you'd neva say "oh baby if you need me I'll be at wandies with girls or you'll have to search the clubs around town or call me" but you actually wait at home

sponono
23 Oct 2007 00:41

I meant most of Y'all go through this

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 00:52

Sponono u hit it on the nail. Somehow we women always fall for the I'm coming, yet u u are nowhere to be seen trap. Tis sad!!!

edgards
23 Oct 2007 01:04

Q1 Unless he has a good explanation, You do no form part and parcel of his plans maybe that night or even no more, just get the picture finish & klaar.they promise you that they’ll see you later, and then later when you try to col them, there’s no answer, doesn’t return your col???

Q2 IFmy girl does that to me i wont show her that i'm mad but will act as if i dont care and see what she will do,i bet she will be mad that i'm not mad at her.Still on that question there is this friend of mine if you are a woman,you give him your numbers,you are already his girlfriend,Every woman that gives him their numbers,he bed them.person is someone you met and he’s just flirting nje, nothing to it, just flirting,

Q3 What kind of men want to go shopping with woman ,unless he is insecure

sponono
23 Oct 2007 01:14

but maybe I'know what you get up to in patries so I'm tryin to protect you and myself without actually sounding like a control freak

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 01:20

Yeah right Sponono, that is still being a control freak in disguise!!!

Sdakamiswa
23 Oct 2007 01:29

am with u spo there...

Q1
When I dont answer the fone it usually is cause I know I'd promised SAY I’d c u strait from emsebenzini mara made a detour with colleagues and we’d been sittin at the pub close to the office since 3 and then realising I’d be late, im avoiding ukushawutwa efowunini knowing I’d explain when I c u (after having explained the situation to u that id be late 1nce).

Q3
1/5 times id do it nje just for doin something u like & not complain, however many shops u want to visit, I’d be there lookin stupid following u around carryin all the clothes & the handbag, sometyms helping u choose the outfits bt hatin it if u ask me 5 tyms wot I think, 4/5 tyms id prefer u do it with ur girls.

belz
23 Oct 2007 01:43

<im avoiding ukushawutwa efowunini > But Sda, i wont have to shout if you actually col me and tell me you'll be late rather than ignoring me, thats when you'll get the shouting. Sponono, if you do that trick on me on a Friday, i would hit you till you get sobber.

buttabee
23 Oct 2007 01:46

@ anonymous ugelegele.. (ur smart)> "Ngisahleli nesithandwa sami, please call me later

@ sponono this is really dissapointing hey, worst is wen ur boyfriend insists on pickin u up from a dinner party. Then he has the audacity to be more than 30 minutes late, its cold, he aint pickin up his phone & u'v just turned suzi's lift. Leaving u stranded. Tel u what my cousin done b4, She called her boyfriend and said hey dont worry, just meet me at home yea ( wit a sweet neutral tone).. called an "unfavourable friend" and asked them to come get her. She also made sure the friend ws stil there wen her boyfriend turned up, she and acted normal (extra friendly). NiKKa always showed up on time from then on. SHE DOESN'T TOLERATE BEING KEPT WAITING.

sponono
23 Oct 2007 01:59

Belz>but if someone does this, I really think they are with someone else.>>
the worse thing is for your man to actually answer your call while they are with someone else..because most women are very" Understanding" if they want the man they wont mind that he's got a "straight g-friend" in fact you let him get away with it for a while hoping you'll win him

so just becoz he always answers yo calls doenst mean that he's NOT with someone...you just have to find it in yo self to trust yo partner and wait for their explanation

I went out with someone and she always said.."If I were to cheat on you you'd find out coz you always get me wheneva you "call" at home or on my cell phone & I always answa my phone" but I told her that doenst mean anything coz if you reaaly want to cheat on someone y'd even do it and only spend five stolen minutes with the other partner and this gives you enough time to answa calls and what not .---(I know someone who cheated her b-friend and she'd say she's going to the ladies and she'll be gone fore ten minutes but she's actually getting one hot *bleep!* in some guys car and she'll come back to b-friendand act normal -and she ALWAYS answered her CALLS hi hi hi

belz
23 Oct 2007 02:17

hmmmm, spopo that is a very good point you raise there, trust is everything, but these days its just difficult to trust.

I know someone who cheated her b-friend and she'd say she's going to the ladies and she'll be gone fore ten minutes but she's actually getting one hot *bleep!* in some guys car and she'll come back to b-friendand act normal -and she ALWAYS answered her CALLS hi hi hi , unamanga spopo, yho ngumntu onjani lowo??

sponono
23 Oct 2007 02:42

bez I'm telling you..the things you see..in fact guys are known to do this (we once had a house party and my roomza had invited his girlfriend but his "other" g-friend showed up and he had not shagged her b4 so while the party was on he just said to Miss Straight I'm goin to the gents be right back and went upstairs to my bedroom and dragged his "other" and gave her one hot-five minute fck and came down and no one was the wiser except him and other madam-and she new about mis straight...and meanwhile Mis straight is busy being an improtant Mrs House party....

if guys can do it girls can do it too...and funny enough this happens to the most jelous guys you know of...the ones who like to throw tantrums and are prone to giving a mpama or two now and then..they get played a lot those..

myname
23 Oct 2007 02:59

1.It happened 2 mi on Saturday He called mi in the morning that he doesnt have plans 4 2day so he wil c mi later. So since i was sick ndishaya i-guitar (chicken pox) So i wait until 22:00 ebusuku. Stil no call & nam i told maself that i wont call. The following day he called not apologizing acting normal & i was angry like hell. My BF "Hey mntana awina amabhokobhoko" and i was like yeah so what? My BF "Okey sendiyabona u dont want 2 talk 2 mi okey let mi go & do my grocery" & i said jah just go & do ur damn grocery & i just drop my fone. After some minutes i heared a knock & guess what IT WAS THIS BASTARD. Okey ke baby i confess i know im wrong i shuld have called u bt i was drunk. I didnt open my door uthethe engaphandle & after that i close my door & watch my movie. Now i have sms coming IM SORRY BABY X50.

Gucci
23 Oct 2007 03:07

Hey ya'll.

I miss u guys but I'm going through some sh!t here at work, long story,lets just say if I didnt do My work 100%, I'd be given a warning, but yeah, I always made sure I'm ahead with everything. So, My boss just warned me that people are talking but he defended me through thick and thin....he's a true Mentor and Life coach...but yeah...I gotta behave.

Ngisahleli nesithandwa sami, please call me later >>> I once did that Nonny and guess what he said? Answer it! Had no choice but to do so.

Here's My take
1. If u do that, I'll wait and make sure that the next day, I dress up and go have some fun with My girls.
2. It's not fair to say he must stomach everything in ur conversation, after all this is your Man, I make sure I include him even if I knw the person was hitting on me
e.g. Caller: "Hi there,howzet"?
        Me: Fine thanks and who's calling?
        Caller: So and so..
        Me: Who? So, where did u get ma number?
        Caller: Haaibo u gave it to me when u wanted this, that, blah blah blah
        Me: Are u sure?
        Caller: Comeon nw.. (I drop the fone off)
        Me: (Shouting)..how many times did I tell so and so not to give out Ma
                numbers wara wara wara.   (Start calling so and so....)
This does not mean that I have something to hide but just protecting arguments coz when u say its ur New friend, u're in trouble but ke u have to have contacts Maan qha!

3. Is there a Man who can stand long hour shopping? Even My friends say I'm too much...so I prefer going alone...but shame he will say I'll come with meanwhile he'll be going for a beer or two and when u get back he's tipsy.

Sorry for the long one Belz, gotta make sure I write when I get the time.

belz
23 Oct 2007 03:16

Its ok Gucci, really nami lezi arguments andizifuni but we gotta have contacts maan, he cant be the only contact on my phone, he bathong!! and i'm allowed to let spopo and mochooza phone me, so dont tell me ukuthi kutheni ndinefriends zamadoda qha? maybe ndi understand amadoda qha.

myname
23 Oct 2007 03:21

And then number 2 if u r those guys they awlays nagging i always give them my Boyfreind's cell number 2 avoid ukupitseka

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 03:31

Oh Belz, u just reminded of another line that I use when my man starts picking on the why do u have so many male friends question? All I say is:"Baby, I took the decision of having more male friends, and less women becoz women tend to gossip alot and men are not into talking about other people." Women, we have been played for far too long, it's time to play or be played, so make ur choice!!!!

mabhebheza
23 Oct 2007 03:39

4ne issue i dnt even worry becoz its either my 4ne stays on silent or if it rings i slide it 2answer, then quickly press the hang up button without minister noticing, because its still slide up and act as if im talking 2the gals ..ngihleli no Love niyabora ngoba amadodenu abani niki i quality time
meanwhile my other finger moves to the # button (samsung quick silent button) press it hard the 4ne goes 2silent stil slide up just in case the caller decides 2call after some time hang up

Minister is all up in smiles kanti akazi ukuthi u mabhebheza uyazi 4nela

Vanesa
23 Oct 2007 03:44

@ myname

U go girl!!! that's nasty though!!!!!! It will bounce back to u when ur man ask who that is!!!!

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 03:44

Nazoke mabhebheza, I've always known ukuthi uhlakaniphile..........LOL

myname
23 Oct 2007 03:44

Number 3 i once did it during winter this year and it was the first time. I was luking 4 a morning shoe. So i luv those puppy/cat shoes. Listen what he said "Zimbi ezi zinto ingathi yinja" and i said im not luking for a beautiful shoe, i want warm shoes. Hee yaqala ke inkathazo madoda we went home in separate cars bcoz of morning shoes. So from that day he knows where is the pub is when its time 4 my shopping

Jordan
23 Oct 2007 03:46

Hey, I haven’t read the responses yet, so if anyone has given you similar advices, please take it a sign to do something about it!!!

1. What do you do if your partner promises you something and they don’t do it, to be exact, they promise you that they’ll see you later, and then later when you try to col them, there’s no answer, doesn’t return your col??? Mind you this is not one of those one night stands thing, it’s a normal relationship. I am not a very paranoid person but if someone does this, I really think they are with someone else.

Well, they probably are with someone else! And you will never really know. Guys are very good with reverse psychology, you will end up begging for forgiveness for checking where he was or asking him why he didn’t rock up. So my advice is NEVER wait around for a guy, get a hobby! Leave the house and switch your phone off for a few days and avoid him then the next time you talk to him, just say “sorry, I thought you weren’t gonna come and I made other plans”. If he doesn’t get annoyed, dump him!

2. You are with your partner, your phone rings and the volume is high, so obviously he/she overhears what the other person is saying, and accidentally this person is someone you met and he’s just flirting nje, nothing to it, just flirting, you partner asks you about the conversation? Do you tell them to f! off and stop listening to your conversations or you just listen to him shout at you???

Ask him if he jealous. That should shut him up. If he says yes, dump him! He might be a jealous, possessive psychopath

3. Ladies, your man insists on going with you when you go shopping, but when you there he starts moaning, and complaining on how indesicive you are, do you leave the shopping and go back, or do you tell him to leave you there, you’ll meet with him later, mina I just don’t go with him period!!

Shopping is terribly annoying. Send him to do the shopping while you chill at home having your “you” time. If he says no, dump him – he is useless!

belz
23 Oct 2007 03:46

hahahahah mabhebheza, hihihi, i put my phone on silent the other day and the lights were off, it was only the tv that was on, angazi ukuthi uminister ubejongeni kwidirection yephone, and the light was on, you know mos, instead of ringing, it lights, my gaad i really ddnt think of a quick answer, ngavele ngathi, uyazi baby i forgot to put it back since ngingene ebank, geez very lame answer indeed but i couldnt think of anything.

Toxic
23 Oct 2007 03:53

LOL Jordan!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Belz, nami the silent thing doesn't work.....gosh I live with my partner and he has a way of checking if my phone is on silent-HE CALLS ME WHILE EVEN THOUGH I'M SITTING RIGHT THERE NEXT TO HIM!

Toodecent
23 Oct 2007 04:00

Hmm interesting things.. yazi mina I hope ou gals are just kidding or making jokes out of this whole sittuation. I hope so... cause really there is something fragile that needs a whole lotta respect.

belz
23 Oct 2007 04:01

LOL Jordy, you'll neva have a relationship!!! hahahahahah Tox, hayi your partner is too cleva for you, hihihhihi.

mabhebheza
23 Oct 2007 04:18

Belz make sure u face it downwards so even if it lights it doenst show ..

Toxic ur mn needs my remedy dnt put it on silent answer but hang up without hm noticing (as xplained above) trust me doll its works or have a different profile on ur 4ne when set up a caller ring tone 4him but then the rest i silent so when he checks ur phone or calls it it will ring with his caller ringtone but omunye umntu it doesnt ring

hey not trying 2make u cheat just commenting

Toxic
23 Oct 2007 04:23

is that possible mabhebheza? if a phone's on silent are there certain calls that bypass the silent mode?

I'd rather do that cause talking to myself isn't a skill i've mastered.....something in my face just shows i'm lying!

sponono
23 Oct 2007 04:24

Jordy you sounding like a fabulous biaaatch LOL

and TDC what is it thats fragile...tell dem girls

faraimagic
23 Oct 2007 04:35

@GUCCI man are not stupid we know if someone is lying or having a fake conversation>>>>>>i will go mad!

belz
23 Oct 2007 04:38

tdc lovie, m glad you back, kodwa ke relationships are not that fragile anymore, they used to be, in the old days, not now really.

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 04:39

"and TDC what is it thats fragile...tell dem girls" @ TDC, we don't wanna go that lane, so plz ignore Spopo otherwise this blog will take another turn!!!

Mabhebheza - all I have to say is wathathwaphi??? It's like u went to initiation to learn how to master the art of this type of ubuqili!!!!

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 04:45

"if guys can do it girls can do it too...and funny enough this happens to the most jelous guys you know of...the ones who like to throw tantrums and are prone to giving a mpama or two now and then..they get played a lot those.."
Sponono, this is so true, the way that my boo throws ama tantrums and he is supa jealous and supa strict, he believed that I wouldn't dare dream of playing him coz I valued my life but ke, that didn't stop me, instead that was my inspiration..............in a weird but exciting way!!!!

Toodecent
23 Oct 2007 04:45

Gud @Annony but dont forget I dont have a password to lock Spopo from speaking...as for Belzoh u lost about fragile.

belz
23 Oct 2007 04:49

tdc: what did you mean ke? tell please.

sponono
23 Oct 2007 04:49

kahle kahle Toxic..why do you keep yo fone on silent are you up-to-sungthin vele ...I mean if you aint got nothin to hide then let it ring...I understand why he's suspicious

mabhebheza
23 Oct 2007 04:56

Toxic gal u must play with ur phone u will b suprised @the wonders it has ( anyhow i love gadgets ) Annony..when u in the game u must know ur cards n b xtremely careful i get facinated when i date a guy who thinks they control me he i sthe master of the playerhood kanti 2can play the game

i use 2say 2my Minister of what what kubuhlungu ukungazi babes...n he wud agree not realising im hinting something..!

Toodecent
23 Oct 2007 05:02

ok... while on silent of phones and talking to yourself...make sure gore kuku ga e jewe.

belz
23 Oct 2007 05:08

hahahahahahahah tdc, of course kuku ga e jewe, its jsut tht guys get all worked up for nothing nje, thts why people end up doing these things.

Toxic
23 Oct 2007 05:09

guys the thing is until u're in my shoes, u won't understand. This person is paranoid full stop...even sms' from friends ignite him and it's gotten so that i feel guilty just playing solitaire on my phone..when he walks into a room and i'm on the phone (regardless of what i'm doing!), i instinctively put the phone down even when i wasn't doing anything i shouldn't be doing! He's making me feel guilty about even chatting to female friends yho!

Toodecent
23 Oct 2007 05:12

Looks like that guy knows hows to play his guitar Toxic? His music is in your blood hi hi hi.

belz
23 Oct 2007 05:16

hihihi Tox, solitaire?? hayi sana, you need a cup of seattle coffee, hahahha, hayi that man of yours uyangihlekisa neh.

myname
23 Oct 2007 05:20

mabhebheza u r so naughty hee. If ndiyabona ukuba i cant talk i wil b 2 nice & loudy HI SANA & HEE SANA UNJANI or HEE COMRADE WHATS UP MAN? it works 4 mi

Annonymous
23 Oct 2007 05:21

Tox, as Dr Phil says: "You teach people how to treat u!"

lolisto
23 Oct 2007 05:44

Yho ndikulo crisis! Sum 1 plz, tel me how do u tel ur man to stop acting like he owns u, & luking thru ur fone? my ou is alwayz snooping around, reading my sms'es & even check my cal log! He even callz all da guyz who sms me sweet mesages, its realy geting to me & now im jst loosing interest in him. PLZ HELP!!!

lejazz
23 Oct 2007 06:53

If she doesn't come it shows there is something going on.So I think it is better to knock off early when the sun is still shining coz immediately it becomes dark you won't see your way forward.I do allow her to read my stuff but not when I'm not around.

Beyonce
23 Oct 2007 11:25

LoL at Jordy.... I guess we'll all be manless if we listened to you

Flo-Jo
23 Oct 2007 13:00

how about this...if I dont want you to go out or I'm jelous of what you get up to on Friday nights with girls, I'll say...eish baby I want to see you this evening before you go out or baby i'll see around seven or eight...then you tell your friends your b-friend is coming so you'll call them when he's left maybe afta ten..or you say you cant come at all...
the next thing, I keep calling you "baby I'm on my way I'm stuck in the traffic" "oh baby I'll be there in 30min" oh baby give me 20 min" ....I dare u on that one Spopo. With me, the next time u call I'll just tell u about the change of plans, I thought u were neva gonna make it since u've been stuck in traffic the whole time and have decided to hook up with ma-gals (I got my own wheels).So u have the evening/ nite to yoself...nice neh??

DJ Why why
23 Oct 2007 13:15

1. What do you do if your partner promises you something and they don’t do it....
I am a well known drama queen (leo), i would let him know that i do not appreciate being stood up!

2. You are with your partner, your phone rings and the volume is high, so obviously he/she overhears what the other person is saying......
After the call, I'd be silent and pretend nothing happened and if he asks i'd be like. "who??? him...noh! he is just an old crazy friend....does that the all the time...i mean he do nt even look good!".

3. Ladies, your man insists on going with you when you go shopping, but when you there he starts moaning,.......
Definitely tell him to go home and leave me to shop...have done it before! Even with my girlfriend.....she dont go nowhere with me if she aint got money coz ...she can leave me behind you know...i know my way back home!

KeleFabulous
24 Oct 2007 00:49

1 > wait for him/go to bed/call your firends and go out!
2. > tell him angazo zenza as if naye he doesn't do the same thing! come now we're all adults...let him u know when he's out with his buddies he chats up ladies and even exchanges no's. tell him u don't see this as cheating and neither should he!
3. no one can stand my 8 hrs of shopping for 1 single panty so i always go alone!

Qui2iek
13 Feb 2009 11:30

"what ever you can't do in front of your patner or you don't want your patner for not knowing what you do, that's cheating!" Dr Phil said.

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